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Macaulay F

29 June 2011

Story written 2006

Macaulay was born on the 20th of March 1995. He had pneumonia and was in special care for 15 days. He was then allowed home for 2 weeks and wasn’t feeding properly or gaining weight. He was then transferred back to hospital where they detected a heart murmur so he had an operation to repair that at 5 weeks old at the Royal Brompton in London. He was then transferred to our local hospital to recover.

Then they found he had more problems as he kept projectile vomiting, so they did a Nissans operation to stop him from being sick. From there on his health went down hill, I battled for 7 years to say there was still something wrong with him as his stomach blew up like a balloon. They eventually transferred him to Great Ormond Street Hospital where it took them 1 year of extensive testing to come up with the diagnosis of his problem – Neuropathic Pseudo Obstruction.

The only treatment for this is several different medicines; they have formed an ileostomy and gastrostomy. He is on Peptamin fed via his gastrostomy 3 bolus and 1 pump feed.

Update 29th March 2013

Macaulay is moving on from Post Pals as he is doing relatively well. Post Pals has been a great support to him and my family over the years and I would like to thank you all for all the hard work that you do. You will always be thought of in my heart and I hope Post Pals keeps growing and more support is given to you.

Thank you all again, Andy, Macaulay and family xxx

Update 1st March 2013

Hi everyone, we hope you are all doing ok. Macaulay has had an ok month. He had his last visit to GOSH as he will be reaching 18 on 20th March and he has now been transfered to UCLH. It was sad to say goodbye to his doctor as he has been going there for about 9 years. They have been great over the years and we have got to know them very well. We will miss them very much. It was also his last month at his respite place as he will now be moving over to the adult side of social services. I can’t believe he will be 18 soon, the time has come round very quickly, it is so scary. He has 1 more year left at school then he will go off to collage for a bit then we will have to help him find a job.

Thank you for the post that has been sent to Macaulay and his siblings.

Update 14th January 2013

Hi everyone, I’m sorry I’ve not updated for a while things but I’ve not been too good with my own health.

Macaulay is not too bad at the moment and he has been busy at school and college. I have been chasing GOSH for a while now as they have not seen him for a long time and they are supposed to be sorting out a transition meeting as he will be 18 in March. He has had a few obstructions since they rejoined his bowel but not as many he was having, so fingers crossed things have calmed down now he is older.

Thank you for the post sent to Macaulay and his siblings, they do love receiving it.

Update 17th October 2012

Hi all, I’m sorry for not updating for a while but I have not been too well of late and had to go in to hospital 2 weeks ago to have my spinal stim sorted out.

Macaulay is doing well at the moment, there has been a few bad days for him, but he seems to be doing good now. He is enjoying school and collage – he is making a bird table at the moment so it will be good to see the finishing table.

Thank you so much for sending the cards and gifts that Macaulay and his siblings have received, they are very grateful.

Update 12th March 2012

Macaulay has had an okay month. GOSH put him on a new feed but it was too rich for his tummy and it was making him feel really uncomfortable, so he had to be put back on his old feed.

He is enjoying going to college one day a week. He is learning life skills and made some cakes which he was very proud of.

I am going in to hospital myself soon to have my spinal-cord stim sorted out as it has been causing me some problems.

Thank you to everybody that sends mail, it puts a big smile on their faces when they get post. I would also like to thank you all for the very hard work that you put in to making Macaulay and his siblings smile. I hope you are all managing to stay as well as possible and not getting these horrible bugs that are going around at the moment.

Update 12th February 2012

January was quite a busy month for Macaulay with lots of different appointments. There has been lots of changes made, he has been put on some new feed and new meds to help make things a bit better for him, so let’s hope it does. He has not been feeling too bad but he has his moments where his tummy flares up. I’m still not sure it was the right move for his bowel being rejoined.

Macaulay is starting collage after half term, so a fresh challenge for him. We hope everyone is as well as can be and thank you for the post that has been sent to Macaulay and his siblings.

Update 11th January 2012

Hi everyone, first of all a happy New Year to you all!

I’d like to say a great big thank you to Sandwell Academy for all the lovely gifts they sent Macaulay and his siblings, your very kind thoughts blew us away. A huge thank you to Macaulay’s elf too and for the lovely cards he received.

Macaulay isn’t doing too bad at the moment. There is being some changes made with his feed though as he is losing lots of weight which isn’t good. When we was last at GOSH his consultant wasn’t too happy with the way his tummy looked so we are hoping things will settle.

We all had a lovely Christmas and Macaulay was very excited. Macaulay is glad to be back at school and into a routine though.

You all work so very hard to help put a smile on our children’s faces and I would like to say a big thank you to you all.

Hope you are all well and take care, love Andy and Macaulay.

Update 6th October 2011

Macaulay has had some up and down days of late but he just plods on through it all. He is enjoying school and going to college. He is doing cooking two days a week so looks like I need him to start cooking me my dinner now!

We had a party on Saturday for his brother, Grant, who is now 18 and we all had a great time.

Macaulay is loving playing with his new little sister who is growing very quickly.

He has some hospital appointments coming up so lets see what’s next for them to do.

I hope everyone is well and thank you for the post that has been sent to us.

Update 29th August 2011

Macaulay has had some up and down days the last couple of weeks but is doing ok at the moment. He has got to go in GOSH on the 3rd September for more surgery.

We have managed to go out on some days out the last couple of weeks, but it has been difficult for me as I had an operation on my back on the 9th.

Macaulay is looking forward to going back to school as he will be going to college 1 day a week which will be good for him.

Thank you to everyone that has sent post to Macaulay and his siblings.

Hope everyone has had a good summer and take care.

Update 11th August 2011

Just a quick update as I’m not feeling too good after my surgery.

Macaulay is doing ok at the moment and has been busy going to all his clubs. He has got to go to GOSH soon to have more surgery though.

I hope you are all well. Take care, Andy.

Update 29th June 2011

Macaulay is not so good at the moment, he had his operation on the 3rd to rejoin his bowel, but since then he has not been so good. He gets lots of trapped wind which makes his tummy blow up like a balloon. We have been up to GOSH every week since, as the doctors are keeping an eye on him and if things don’t settle down he may have to have the stoma back, but it will be for good this time.

It was great to meet some of you at the party. We enjoyed it and Macaulay loved having his picture drawn.

I hope you are all well and can enjoy some of the sun we are getting at the moment. Thank you for the post that has been sent to the children too. Take care, Andy and Macaulay.

Update 5th May 2011

Macaulay is not having a good time at the moment. His stoma is prolapsing 3 to 4 times a day. We are still waiting for the surgery date so it all can be sorted out. The new baby is due this month as well so we hope it is sorted before then. It’s making things really hard for him as he is not allowed to do any sports or swimming, which are things he enjoys very much.

It has also been a very sad month for him as his uncle passed away very suddenly. He will be greatly missed.

We hope you are all well and enjoying the lovely sun we are getting at the moment. Thanks again for all the lovely post.

Update 5th March 2011

It has been a busy month for Macaulay. He has been going up to the hospital once a week since his bowel prolapsed to have blood tests, as his sodium levels are low so they’re keeping a close eye on him.

We are still waiting for the date for him to go back into GOSH to have the bowel rejoined.

He is still not back to his full activities at school, like his football and basketball, which is frustrating for him.

Thank you to all that have sent cards and gifts to Macaulay and his siblings. It puts a big smile on their faces. We hope you are all well and have a good March.

Update 7th February 2011

It has been a crazy last couple of months with lots going on and to top it all off I had to rush Macaulay to London to GOSH on the 25th as his bowel prolapsed quite severely. He had emergency surgery that night and they managed to save bowel and put it back into his tummy. The surgeon has now decided enough is enough and is working with his gastro consultant to re-join his bowel in March, which means a long stay in hospital.

Macaulay is still weak from what happened and it is as though he has given up. He has said he has had enough so now so I’m trying to encourage him to keep going.

Macaulay is hoping to go back to school soon but his return has to be staggered.

Hope you have all had a good start to the year and are well. Take care all, love Andy and Macaulay xx

Update 7th January 2011

Hi and happy New Year to you all. It has been a hard few months during the build up to Christmas and Macaulay is having his ups and downs but he soldiers on.

We went to our local hospital today to see his gastro consultant. Things have stayed the same for quite some time now and Macaulay is on this long road with his illness that doesn’t seem to be going anywhere. He sees two gastro consultants that have different opinions (one at our local and one at GOSH). The surgeon at GOSH has said that it would be better for Macaulay to have his bowel reconnected and for them to do something different, but at the moment his doctor at GOSH is very reluctant to do it. However the one we saw today said they won’t know what would happen unless they did it, but I’m not so sure if I want to put Macaulay through it for him to go back to square one. So we have difficult decisions ahead.

Sadly, on the 14th of December I lost my Mum, which was not expected. Our Christmas was ok but hard as my Mum’s funeral was on the 21st.

On a happy note, my new baby who is due in May will be a baby girl which I’m very happy about.

Hope everyone had a good Christmas and New Year. Thank you to everyone who sent the children post, they were very excited with the gifts they got. Take care everybody and have a very happy and healthy 2011. Love Andy & Macaulay.

Update 14th December 2010

Hi everyone sorry for the late update but it has been a bad month all round. Macaulay is doing ok at the moment, he still has his ups and downs but he is plodding on. Bless him; he is getting very excited for Christmas. He is doing his Christmas play at school this week which he has a leading part in, so I can’t wait to see that.

I’m trying to stay strong at the moment as my mum is seriously ill in hospital and it is not looking too good for her. I will be glad when this month is over as it has been a hard old month.

I hope you are all well and you all have a very merry Christmas. Thank you for all the post that has been sent. Love Andy and Macaulay xx

Update 3rd November 2010

It has been a hard old month. We’ve had lots to do and Macaulay has had a couple of appointments. He is going to GOSH this month to see his consultant and surgeon to talk about his stoma after they redid it. He has had some obstructions this month so not sure if what they did has made it any easier for him.

I’m still having lots of problems after my surgery; the stimulator is not working so well so I’ve had lots of pain. My wife is also not so good at the moment. The good news is she is having a baby, but the down side is she gets very sick and has to keep going in to hospital to be rehydrated. She is on her fifth stay and she is only 12 weeks along, so I’m hoping things settle down soon.

Thank you for the post that has been sent this month. I hope you are all well and looking forward to Christmas. Take care everyone.

Update 5th October 2010

It has been a crazy month. Macaulay is doing ok at the moment though has had lots of appointments at different hospitals. I’m still recovering from my operation, it has been very sore and I need to go back to have my stimulator sorted out as it is giving me some problems. My wife has not been too well either so its been a crazy time, but all good fun I guess?!

Hope you are all ok and thank you for the post that has been sent.

Update 17th September 2010

Sorry I’m a bit late with this update but it’s been a bad month. Macaulay has been up and down with illness, he had his stoma re done but it has prolapsed a couple of times. We’ve been back to GOSH to see the surgeon; he has put Macaulay back on the operation list to have it sorted out.

He is settled back in to school now after a long summer holidays – his started early because he had his operation before the start of holidays.

I have had my operation now too; I had it on the 7th of September to have my spinal cord stimulator implanted. I’m not allowed to do anything for 8 weeks which is driving me mad.

I would just like to say thank you for the hard work that is put in to making Macaulay happy, as well as the other Pals. A very big thank you to Ria for the lovely pillowcases and to everyone who has sent post.

Update 3rd August 2010

Hi everyone, I hope you’re all well and having a great summer.

Well, where do I start?! It has been a busy time. Macaulay had his operation in June which went ok but he was not allowed back to school for two weeks after the operation. After that, he was all set to go to school but then he got an infection in the operation site, so he was not allowed back again and his summer holidays started early.

Then, about two weeks ago, he was in the garden with his brother and sister playing when he had to go and empty his stoma bag. After doing that he came up to me and said ‘Dad feel this’ so I did and his bowel had prolapsed about 5 inches. I had to ring the ambulance to take us to the local hospital and when we got there the doctors had to ring GOSH as it could not be dealt with at my local. We had to be rushed up to GOSH as if the bowel was left much longer it would die. When we were about 5 minutes away we saw it had worked its way back in, so they kept him in over night just to make sure it did not do it again. The surgeon had done an operation to stop this from happening, but the stitch has broken away and it prolapsed again last weekend too. So, now we are just waiting for the surgeon to come back from his holidays so he can deal with it.

I had my operation when Macaulay was in GOSH – he had his on a Friday and I went over to GUYS on Saturday and had mine, then went back to GOSH. It went well and has helped with my pains so now I’m waiting to have it implanted in my body.

Thank you for all the post that has been sent and for the swimming pool, the little ones love it.

Have a good summer, love Andy and Macaulay.

Update 31st May 2010

Hi everyone, sorry I didn’t update last month but as you know I had an operation on my back to help with my pain. The good news is it worked for the pain in my leg but not my back, so I’m going back in to have this new thing they are trying at the moment – fingers crossed it works.

Macaulay was due to go in GOSH at the end of May but it has been moved back to the 24th June, so will be in there with him for a couple of weeks.

Macaulay received his love quilt this month which is lovely and a lot of hard work has been put in to making it. We would like to say thank you so very much to all that made it. Thank you also to everyone that has sent cards, letters or a gift this month.

He is doing ok at the moment. He has had a few ups and downs but he keeps on going. Hope everyone is well and I hope you are all managing to enjoy the sun we are having. Take care, love Andy & Macaulay.

Update 3rd April 2010

Macaulay has had an up and down month with his illness and has been getting lots of obstructions. We went to see his surgeon at GOSH last week as his consultant wanted him to see him because he thinks it is Macaulay’s stoma that is causing the problem. The surgeon is going to redo Macaulay’s stoma as it is protruding into his stomach, so he said it will be a 3 hour operation to sort it out and a 2 week stay in hospital, which will be at the end of May.

He had a great birthday and got lots of cards and money which he bought himself an Xbox with. It is something he has wanted to get for a while. We took him bowling and for something to eat afterwards. Thank you so much for all the lovely cards that you all sent.

It is going to be a busy couple of months with hospitals as I’m going in soon for an operation on my back too, but not until I’ve got Macaulay sorted first.

Hope you all have a happy Easter and don’t eat too much chocolate! Take care everyone, love Andy Macaulay.

Update 10th March 2010

Sorry I’m a bit late with the update but I have been in hospital myself for two weeks.

Macaulay has had an up and down month. We are waiting for him to go in to GOSH to have his stoma refastened as his doctor thinks it will help it work better and they are giving him a break from some of his meds to see what happens.

Next week he has a pantheon challenge 5 aside football competition with school which will be good and he got a gold medal last year.

Hope all are well and this weather starts to change. Thanks for Macaulay and his siblings post.

Update 6th February 2010

Macaulay has had an up and down month. We went to GOSH to talk about a bowel transplant, but at the moment they don’t feel it’s for him. They are looking at some other options, his medication is going to be changing, and he will need to go into hospital to have his stoma re-done to see if that will help with the soreness and the blockages he’s getting.

Macaulay has been working hard at school and he has some football tournaments coming up which he will have fun taking part in.

I (Macaulay’s dad) am going into hospital from 22nd February for 2 weeks to have treatment on my back and an operation at the end of it.

We hope you are all well and had a good January. Take care everyone and thank you to everybody who has sent post.

Update 6th January 2010

Macaulay had a great Christmas. He was very excited we went to stay with family and everyone had a nice time.

Thank you to all the lovely elves who took the time to send Macaulay and his brothers presents. They really loved them. Hope you all had lots of fun at Christmas too.

We have lots of snow at the moment, like most of the country, and the kids are loving it because they have no school.

Macaulay is going to GOSH later this month to talk about the next step on what they going to do.

Hope you all have a very happy year, love Macaulay and Andy.

Update 3rd December 2009

Macaulay has had a ok month. We went to chase to meet Simon Cowell which was good and Macaulay got very excited. He has been working hard at school for his Christmas play, plus he has had lots of outings with school. He has gone Christmas shopping today with school, so I hope they don’t get to wet with this bad weather we are having at the moment.

On Tuesday night he went to a party at Crystal Palace Football Club, they have a Christmas party for disabled children every year and he had lots of fun and met lots of the first team players.

On Friday we are all going to the chase for the weekend and it will be our last stay as Macaulay will not be going there any more. We are going to miss it as they have been a great support over the years.
We are still waiting for an appointment to go to GOSH to talk about the bowel transplant.

We wish everyone a very happy Christmas and a great New Year. Hope you all have fun and have lots to eat.

Update 1st November 2009

Macaulay has had an ok month with his illness. We went up to GOSH to get some results and they where ok.

We have to go back to GOSH soon to have a meeting with his doctors to discuss a bowl transplant though.

He has been working hard at school and we went to the chase on Thursday to meet Simon Cowell. He gave Macaulay a signed picture which Macaulay likes and he was also in Friday’s Star newspaper. Simon Cowell was very nice to all the kids – he is not like people think he is!

We hope you are all well as can be and thank you for the post that has been sent.

Update 6th September 2009

Macaulay has had a good fun filled 6 weeks holiday. He has been places with his carer, stayed at his respite centre, and went to the 02 with them to see Walking With Dinosaurs. Then we have stayed with my in-laws and we went to the Littlehampton beach which was good. We also saw one of the other Pals and it was good to catch up.

Macaulay’s health is still up and down and we are going back to GOSH in October for results.

I’ve been put on new drugs for my back but they are not working, so when I go back this month I will be telling them and hopefully they will suggest something that will help.

Hope everyone had a good summer and is well.

Update 4th August 2009

Macaulay is doing ok at the moment. We went to the Isle of Wight for 4 nights which we all enjoyed very much and we didn’t want to come home!

At the moment Macaulay is at the Chase for a week and then he is going into GOSH for some tests for 2 days. After that he’s going to Mencap for the day and we have a family day trip to the beach planned, so a busy summer for Macaulay.

Update 2nd July 2009

Macaulay has had a up and down month but is ok at the moment. We went to the hospital today for him to be fitted with his hearing aids so hopefully it will help him hear much better now. He was meant to go in to GOSH at the end of month but it has now been changed to August.

He is getting excited about going on hoilday soon. We are all looking forward to it so let’s hope the weather stays nice.

We hope you are all well and thanks for the post we’ve received.

Update 2nd June 2009

Macaulay went to the hospital about his ears and they wanted to do another grommet operation. I said no to this though, as they clearly aren’t working after already having it done 4 times, so he will probably have to have hearing aids again. We’re still waiting to go in to Great Ormond Street Hospital for his test.

He had a nice half term holiday as we all went to stay with my wife’s mum and we went to the beach for the day which was lovely. Macaulay has been getting angry a lot lately and hurting his younger siblings though.

Update 30th April 2009

Macaulay has been ok this month. He has been to his after school clubs and had a meal out to teach them independence etc. He’s also been to his respite centre and he went to a sports centre where they do different fun activities.

This Sunday (4th) he’s going to Crystal Palace football ground to watch the last game of the season by special invitation with 6 other boys from his school, because they were in a competition against other schools and they came third! At half time, the children from his school are going onto the pitch for a special presentation.

On the 11th of May Macaulay is going into hospital to have his grommets put in again. We are also waiting for an appointment for an endoscopy to see what is going on with his tummy.

Thank you for the post sent this month, Macaulay particularly liked his growing eggs.

Update 4th April 2009

Macaulay has had a ok month. We went to GOSH last week to discus his illness. His doctor is not too keen on doing the gastric pacemaker as he doesn’t feel it would work for Macaulay. They want to take him in to do an endoscopy to see what is going on so we’re just waiting now to get the date on when he is going in.

He had a great birthday and got a DS which he hasn’t stopped playing.

Last week he did a Panathlon Challenge with his school against other boroughs. They played different games like table cricket which they won and they came third out of six in the whole competition so they all did well.

This weekend he is at his respite place which he will love even more this time as his best mate is there too.

Hope you all have a great Easter and thank you for the post.

Update 6th March 2009

Macaulay has had an up and down month. He went for his test to see what’s happening with his tummy and it does not look good. The doctors are looking at more surgery to put a gastric pacemaker in his tummy to help it work better but they said it will take a lot of thinking and careful planning, so we’re not sure when it will all happen.

On a good note, Macaulay had a football match the other day with his school and he scored two goals.

He is also going to GOSH on the 18th for the day. We hope you are all well. Take care and thank you for the post this month.

Update 2nd February 2009

Macaulay has not had a good month with his illness and we are waiting for him to go in to hospital for some tests which should be this month.

There’s been lots going on as I had an operation on my back in March last year but I’m still having lots of problems and it is hard to walk some days with the pain I’m in.

On a sad note, Macaulay’s nanny passed away last week and she will be greatly missed.

Macaulay is excited today though as he has no school because we are snowed in – the snow is about 6-10 cm high.

Thank you to everyone who sent post during January.

Update 4th January 2009

Macaulay has had a great Christmas and he got lots of pressies. Thank you all so much for all his lovely cards and gifts.

We had a lovely time at the chase, they made it so special, and on Boxing Day we went to a panto which was very funny.

He has had a few bad days with his illness and as usual he has lots of hospital appointments coming up this year. At some point he has to have an 8 hour test to see how things are with his bowl.

I hope you all had a great Christmas and are well. HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU ALL!

Update 6th December 2008

Macaulay has not been to well this month. He has had a really bad ear infection and has had some obstructions. He had to have an operation on his ear on Monday to remove his gromit as the ear drum had grown over it and it is very sore.

Today, Saturday, he has gone to a Christmas party with the Chase which he was looking forward to. Jessica has gone on a sleep over with her rainbows group which she was also excited about.

Macaulay’s younger brother, Joshua, has now been diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy, which i thought he had all along. It has been a really busy month with taking Macaulay and Joshua to the hospital and my mum has just had to go in a home as her health has got bad, so i have had to look at some homes for her. She has gone to a nice one now and has settled in well. My feet have not touched the floor this month!

On the 23rd we are all going away to the Chase for Christmas which will be great and we are all looking forward to it.

Happy Christmas to you all and have a great time.

Update 1st November 2008

Macaulay has not been too bad this month. He’s had a bad ear infection but it is getting better and he’s been busy working hard at school.

He has started some counselling now to help him try cope with having a stoma which he has found very hard to cope with and to help with some anger problems.

He has gone with the Chase to the Top Gear Motor Show today and then after they are going to watch them film Top Gear.

We hope you are all well and keeping warm on these very cold days we are having.

Update 29th September 2008

Macaulay has had an ok month and has been busy back at school. He has had some bad days with his illness but is ok now. We went to GOSH on the 24th and all is ok there, but they are not making any changes at the moment. He will need to have an 8 hour test again next year to see how things are going and to see if they can rejoin his bowel. We are back at GOSH on the 7th and 28th of October, so it’s busy.

Grant, Macaulay’s brother, has just come back from being away with the chase on a 72ft yacht. They went to Yarmouth, Poole and Isle of Wight which he enjoyed.

Update 1st September 2008

Macaulay has had a busy summer going to his respite centre and out with his carer. We all went to the beach and had great fun and on the 27th Macaulay went to Southampton with Chase. They went on this really posh boat and had lunch in Portsmouth, and then they went to the lsle of Wight and got to drive the boat which Macaulay loved. He come home full of excitement.

It’s back to school next week; the holidays have gone so quickly. Macaulay has also got lots of hospital appointments coming up so it’s a busy September for him.

Thank you to all that sent to Macaulay this month and thanks to Post Pals for sending the out door bowling game, they love it.

Update 4th August 2008

Macaulay has had a few obstructions this month but other than that he’s been generally ok and well.

Macaulay has stayed in his respite centre and went to the beach with them. We have been to the park to play football and play on the slides and climbing frames. Today, Macaulay is going to his respite centre in Guildford and will enjoy that as he loves it and they have lots of fun things to do like arts and crafts, computers, play stations, out door fun area, and much more.

Next week we’re hoping to go to the beach then the following week we are going to the in-laws for a few days and hoping to go on days out with them too.

Thank you for the post and hope you are all well. Happy holidays to you, what ever you may be doing.

Update 7th July 2008

Macaulay has had an ok month with some ups and downs with his health but he is soldiering on as he usually does, bless him.

Macaulay has had lots of hospital appointments and dentist appointments to help see if his teeth can be straightened.

Macaulay has been to the cinema with his carer. He saw the new Hulk film, Kun Fu Panda and the new Hancock film staring Will Smith, which he enjoyed very much.

He has his sports day on Tuesday if the weather is ok and Macaulay is looking forward to the summer holidays. In August he’s spending a week in the CHASE which he enjoys too.

Thank you so much to those who sent Macaulay and his brothers and sister cards, they enjoy receiving them.

Update 6th June 2008

Macaulay has not been to well this month but is feeling much better now. He will be on Channel 5 news next Monday (10th) with his brother Grant as it is carers week. They are doing a report on young carers and he has been busy at school working hard.

Thank you for all the children’s post.

Update 14th May 2008

Macaulay is ok. He is having a few up and down days with his health, but seems to be coping. We received the results from his long test he had at GOSH and they weren’t good, they can’t re-connect his bowel at the moment as his bowel still isn’t well enough. Plus, they said if they did it now it would disturb his puberty etc so best to leave it until the bowel is 80-100% better. So, that was a bit disheartening but we are just plodding along as usual.

I hope everyone else is ok and thank you to all that have kindly sent Mac things.

Update 6th April 2008

Macaulay had a good birthday and he had lots of cards and presents. He’s happy now I’m at home after my stay in hospital. He has to stay in hospital on the 15th until the 17th for a test we have been waiting for, so fingers crossed it all goes well.

Thank you to all those who sent Mac birthday cards and letters and thank you to Julie for the present.

Update 29th February 2008

Macaulay has had an up and down month but is doing ok. He is happy as he has just been given respite in a place where he wants to go. He is still waiting to go for his test in GOSH which is getting very frustrating. He had a good half term though and enjoyed the rest.

Thank you for all his post this month.

Update 30th January 2008

Macaulay has not been feeling too well this month but is doing ok. He has to go to GOSH on Friday to have an operation on his stoma and he is hoping to go swimming as soon as he can go back in the water. He is still waiting to have his test to see what they are going to do with his bowel which is making him very frustrated.

Update 2nd January 2008

Macaulay has had a lovely Christmas. He got lots of presents from Father Christmas; he got a new playstation 2 and lots of games to play on it.

Health wise Macaulay has been well. Tomorrow he’s due to have a blood test and on Monday he’ having a small operation to correct the position of his Grommet as they have got lodged in his ear canal. They are hoping his hearing will improve after the operation but if not he may have to have his hearing aids back, as at his last hearing test he did quite badly bless him.

A big thank you to everyone who sent post and a special thank you to Julie for sending Macaulay the lovely gift.

Update 4th December 2007

Macaulay has had an up and down month and has had this horrible cold with a nasty cough. He’s still waiting for the test at Great Ormond Street and this is becoming frustrating as we don’t know what’s happening. He has been to have his hearing checked which is very bad and he’s got to have a small op done to correct his grommets and possibly have his hearing aids back.

On Monday the 10th Macaulay is going to the Crystal Palace annual Christmas Party which he is extremely excited about.

Thank you to everyone that has sent post this month.

Update 30th October 2007

Macaulay has had a up and down month. He went in to Great Ormond Street Hospital to have the test he has been waiting for, but unfortunately it didn’t go to plan as they had to insert a catheter from his nose down to his tummy and they couldn’t get the tube where they wanted it. They had to abandon the test so we are now waiting for them to redo it a different way, which we hope is soon. Macaulay is still finding it very difficult to cope with his stoma and having to be fed four hourly.

Thank you to everyone who has sent Macaulay something this month.

Update 30th September 2007

Well it’s been a busy time for us all, as we have just moved into a nice house at last!! Macaulay is very happy to be in a house now and he loves the garden as we never had before.

He has had his ups and downs with his illness and he will be going into GOSH on Friday to have a test so they can decide what they are going to do with him long term.

Macaulay has settled back into school ok and is working hard again. Macaulay is enjoying football again on Friday’s plus swimming.

Update 30th August 2007

Macaulay has had a good summer holiday with lots going on. He stayed in his respite center for 5 days and had fun there. He has had his ups and downs with his illness, but is getting through it. We are moving very soon to our new house which we are all looking forward to.

Update 4th August 2007

Macaulay has been in hospital this month to have his feeding tube put back in as when i went to change it i couldn’t put the new one in. He has had an up and down month with his illness but is staying strong. He is going to his respite centre for 5 days which he is looking forward to. He is still waiting to go to GOSH for his test but at the moment the machine has broken.

We are moving soon as the flat we are in has been leaking so we have now got a house which is being all done up for us. We should be in there in a month and it will be great for us all.

Thanks to everyone who sends me cards and letters.

Update 1st July 2007

Macaulay has had his up and down days this month. He has been to his respite centre this weekend which he loves. He has his sports day coming up which should be great if the weather is good. He has got a carer now who has him once a week for 3 hrs who does lots of fun things with him.

Thank to everyone who sent me post and thanks to Julie for my WWE kit.

Update 4th June 2007

Macaulay has had an up and down month again. He has been very busy too – he went to see the new spiderman film which he loved. He is still waiting to go into hospital to have his test. This weekend he has been at my mother in laws and he has great fun there. He played in the garden and went out for a meal – he really loved it and had lots of fun.

Thank you to everyone for my cards and letters as I enjoy receiving them.

Update 1st May 2007

Macaulay has had an up and down month with his illness. We are still waiting to go in for his test. His baby brother was in hospital with pneumonia but is better now. He went to his respite centre for the weekend and had fun. Thank you all for sending Macaulay cards/letters, he enjoys receiving them.

Update 31st March 2007

Macaulay has had an up and down month with his health. He has had a few obstructions which give him an awful lot of pain and discomfort but he seems to be well again now. Macaulay is still waiting for a test to be done at Great Ormond Street. They did have a date but there was no bed so we are still waiting.

He had his 12th birthday this month and got lots of lovely cards and presents. He was also in a competition with his school this month and they came 4th which was great!

Thank you to everyone for all my lovely cards and gifts. Thank you also to Julie for the notes and messages, as they make him smile.

Update 2nd March 2007

Macaulay has had an up and down month and we are still waiting to have his test to see what they are going to do with him.

He has been getting very angry lately as on a sad note, his great granddad past away on Monday, which is a great loss to the family as he was a much loved member.

Macaulay is still not copping very well with his stoma bag, it has come off every day this week and made his skin very sore. Thank you to all that send cards to Macaulay, it makes him happy receiving them.

Update 8th February 2007

Macaulay has had some ups and downs with his health and he has started counseling at GOSH to help him cope with his illness which is great.

He is still waiting to go in GOSH to have a test so they can make up their minds in what they are going to do with him and we are also trying to get a shower fitted to make it easier for him.

Thank you for all his post.

Update 30th December 2006

Macaulay has not been feeling too well lately but is feeling a bit better now. He has a busy new year with hospital appointments and its crunch time to see if his bowel is better so they can rejoin it, but his doctor does not hold out hope that they can.

Thank you to everyone who sent me a card and to Sue for the lovely Christmas presents.

Update 30th November 2006

Macaulay has not been feeling very well lately because of his pseudo. He has a busy december with appointments and on the 7th he has to go in to hospital to have his feeding tube changed because he has not been getting on with it. On the 19th he has two appointments at GOSH.

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Eleanor G

29 June 2011

Story written 2010

Eleanor was born with several life threatening conditions – Muscular Dystrophy, Cardiomyopathy, Severe Dystonia, Peripheral Neuropathy, Arthrogryposis and Multicystic Kidney Disease.

Eleanor, (I Elle as her friends call her), has constant therapy and trips to the hospital several times a month but still tries to do everything she possibly can.

Eleanor uses an electric wheelchair as she can only walk a few steps and is due to have foot surgery soon. Due to her deterioration, Eleanor will be having brain surgery in the next few weeks in the hope of easing some of her symptoms and delaying the de-generation of her condition.

Although she gets breathless and very tired, Eleanor tries to join in with her friends and has extra feeds through a gastrostomy tube to help her get more energy (she does love eating normally though).

Eleanor struggles with most daily activities as she has muscle weakness and erratic body movements but she does everything with a smile.

Eleanor now has a CaringBridge website at: http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/eleanorgabriel

Update 8th November 2024

Elle loves all things Disney but her favourite is Cinderella. Music is her life line, she likes Heartstopper, Louis Tomlinson & Taylor Swift. She also has a new interest of watching Criminal Minds, hospital dramas and other crime type programs and just started watching Buffy.  Art is her other pain distraction and she no longer has access to a bath but uses massage oils/creams to help ease the pain.  She’s definitely very girlie, loves anything with a bit of bling!

Update 31st October 2023

Elle has had a bad year with her heart deterioring and severe pain. She had to leave college due to the pain. Elle still loves to create art whenever she can and her love for One Direction, especially Louis is as strong as ever! Elle has always loved Disney and Cinderella remains her favourite. It’s hard for Elle to go out due to the pain. 

Update 21st January 2016

We have decided that Elle should move on from Post Pals as she is doing so well.

Update 8th August 2015

Eleanor always finds the summer holiday difficult, as she wants to do the things she see’s other children enjoying, but her pain is preventing her from doing much. She is listening to lots of music instead to make her smile.

Eleanor would like to say a big thank you to Kym who sent her a box of Sunshine which had a lot of gorgeous personalised items in that clearly were made with a lot of love and care.

Daniel would like to say thank you to Em from Isle of Man. He said you make him so happy when he gets your letters and parcels.

Both Eleanor and Daniel say thank you to Post Pals for their lovely goody bags.

Update 23rd July 2015

Eleanor is doing OK at the moment. She is getting tired quickly but luckily being a teenager means she can just chill out on her iPad and listen to music. We are awaiting results from her sleep study to see if her oxygen has reduced any more during the night, but her heart is doing well on her current medication.

Thank you so much for our amazing paper cuts, they are taking pride of place in Daniel’s room and our living room. We will take a picture of them!

Also a massive, huge thank you to Connor for Daniel’s birthday card. It makes his day when he can see it’s from you Connor. You are an amazing and caring young man.

Update 31st May 2015

Eleanor is still having lots of tests and investigations at the moment. Her pain levels seem to have improved with new medication, so hopefully she will be comfortable for the forseeable future.

This month is going to be a busy one with lots of travelling and hospital visits.

Update 6th May 2015

We would like to say a huge thank you to Em from Isle of Man who regularly writes to both Elle and Dan and makes them smile so much.

Elle’s health is yo-yoing at the moment. She is generally doing ok but is finding things harder and more tiring because her speech and concentration is affected. She cannot go horse riding anymore so is now more into her cats and dog. She loves watching Glee and Pretty Little Liars on Netflix and has got in to watching teen films with her sister Georgina.

Update 21st March 2015

Eleanor is going into hospital at Kings on Monday for more surgery, this time on her chest as her dbs box is not working. We are hoping to be transferred from Kings to Demelza house children’s hospice on Wednesday for recovery and home Sunday.

Elle is still in love with One direction and is very music orientated now that she is no longer mobile at all.

Dan is now becoming very grown up (or thinks he is!) and he is still in love with Pokemon/Digimon and things like adventure time/regular show from Cartoon Network, but is now also very interested in reading and is enjoying things like physics at school.

Update 2nd August 2014

Elle has had yet more tests over the last couple of months and her oxygen seems to be dipping at night, so more investigations into that are underway. We also saw Elle’s orthopedic surgeon as Elle has been in lots of pain and unable to even transfer out of her chair. Unfortunately he has discovered that both hips are out of their socket and one hip has worn considerably. This means we are now due to go on another London hospital trip in the next week or two for Elle to have more tests under anaesthetic to see what kind of operation they will need to perform to help her. We were also contacted by Elle’s geneticist a few days ago who said they want to test for another rare gene. So all in all, a busy few weeks in our house.

Elle is getting through the pain by doing her usual thing of listening to music while bossing everyone about!

Georgina (Elle’s sister) and her friend Hannah have organised a charity event for Post Pals which is on the 9th August and even printed flyers, bless them. Hopefully they will raise a lot.

Update 4th April 2014

We have a few London hospital trips coming up for Elle to look into her further movement/mobility deterioration over the last year, but she is otherwise doing well.

Elle is very much enjoying her music, as now that her mobility is greatly reduced and she is wheelchair bound, she is spending her time listening to all the popular chart music. She is now also into watching Glee as loves musicals and wants to visit a stage show sometime in the future.

Update 2nd December 2013

Eleanor is coping very well with her loss of mobility, we are having to reduce a lot of things she used to do and get her to rest more but she is as smiley as always.

Eleanor had a lovely package sent to her from 1st Clifton Brownies. The parcel contained 24 numbered envelopes to be opened each day in December. Elle has opened two so far containing a lovely homemade hama bead star and a flag with her initials on. What a fabulous thing for a Brownie group to do. Eleanor will be enjoying her handmade advent calendar and we will be taking pictures to make into a collage for the Post Pals website. Thank you so much 1st Clifton Brownies for a whole advent of smiles!

Also a big huge thank you to Connor for Daniel’s parcel, he loved it, you got it exactly right! And thank you for Zara and Georgina’s yummy chocs!

Update 28th September 2013

It has been a difficult few months for our family as Eleanor is deteriorating, luckily at a slow rate, but still enough to be upsetting. Elle now cannot walk at all and a recent scan showed damage to her left hip.

After several assessments in London, Eleanor’s consultant has come to the conclusion that her tiredness and general weakness is due to the degenerative nature of her condition and was unfortunately expected when she reached pre-teens. We have now been advised to be prepared for the future and currently looking into more support and equipment for the home.

Alongside this, Eleanor’s mum has been poorly and is about to have several surgeries. Georgina, Eleanor’s older sister, is being a completely fabulous young carer and helping to care for her autistic brother while mum and Eleanor have their various hospital trips.

Thank you to Connor and Karen. Daniel loved receiving post from ‘his mate Connor!’ And thank you Laura J as Eleanor was so impressed with her 1D Chocolate, she was giggling for ages.

The support that Post Pals gives to the whole family, not just the named child, warms my heart. Our family will always be grateful and appreciate every single piece of post sent, no matter how small.

Update 18th September 2013

Had bit of bad news today. Elle’s orthopaedic surgeon told us that her hips are damaged, the bone has grown deformed, and so she has now got to reduce her crawling and will be wheelchair bound pretty soon and need an intensive operation. We’re so sad, she loves her independence.

Update 3rd April 2013

Georgina (Eleanor’s older sister) would like to say thank you so much to everyone for all the post she has received since Eleanor has been a Pal, but feels that now she is older she would like to stop receiving post so that other children have a chance at smiling as much as she has from it!

Update 1st March 2013

Eleanor is settling into her specialist school very well and it has done her confidence the world of good. She seems to be a little less tired as she is not trying to keep up with all the able children like she was before.

Eleanor’s condition continues to deteriorate, although thank goodness it is very slowly. She is no longer walking at all and becoming increasingly dependent on equipment but is trying as always to be as independent as she possibly can.

Eleanor is absolutely obsessed with One Direction now, especially Harry Styles, and is more into listening to music and playing on a laptop now. She’s becoming more teenage-like daily! She also loves to watch Pop girl, Sabrina the teenage witch, Mortified and Disney programmes, Victorius and i Carly.

Post Pals has picked us up and made us smile when we felt that life had got too much, please never underestimate the joy you can bring by supporting Post Pals.

Update 9th October 2012

Eleanor started to deteriorate a few months ago and now has unfortunately lost her ability to walk and stand unaided. She is taking things slower as she is becoming tired very quickly so now spends most of her time listening to music or on her computer. She was due in hospital for a few days of extensive tests to find out why she is deteriorating at such a rate but unfortunately the appointment has had to be cancelled and is re-scheduled for the end of November.

Eleanor now attends a specialist school as she was unable to keep up in mainstream, but she is very happy and has made lots of new friends.

Elle’s main interest at the moment is X Factor, she is a huge fan and loves everything about it. She is getting more and more into music now and dreams of meeting Cher Lloyd but also loves Katy Perry, Little Mix, One Direction, and Jessie J. She is also a big fan of Disney channel and Pop Girl shows like Good luck Charlie. She is even trying to make her own videos using her phone camera!

Update 12th March 2012

Eleanor is having some tests to find out why her condition seems to be deteriorating. She is very lethargic and struggling a lot but is still being a cheeky little madam!

Thank you for all our post and a special thank you to Em from Isle of Man for sending all 3 children post regularly – lots of smiles created by one person.

Update 15th October 2011

Eleanor has had a really difficult and busy few months; she had her operations on both feet and spent the whole of the summer holidays in plaster casts… which she charged people to sign for Post Pals!

In the last few weeks Eleanor has had constant trips to hospital in London and is struggling a bit with tiredness and breathlessness, but is still carrying on doing all the things she loves with a smile!

Due to Mum being quite poorly and in out of hospital too, it has been quite hectic for the family, so apologies for late replies.

Thank you so much to Denise Cannadine for the Worst Witch books. Eleanor is still X Factor obsessed, but is also now enjoying her sister reading her Harry Potter and the Worst Witch. She is really getting into music too and is a huge Katy Perry fan!

Update 5th June 2011

Eleanor has had some deterioration over the last few weeks and has been struggling quite a bit, so we are back and forth to Evelina children’s hospital for heart tests, neurology etc.

Elle is going to have more surgery on 26th July. Her feet have become severely deformed and we cannot get shoes to fit her anymore so they are operating on her feet to make her more comfortable. We are unsure if she will be able to walk after the operation, but she has proved us wrong before so fingers crossed!

Elle also has a new obsession! Talent shows… Xfactor, Britain’s Got Talent etc, so if anyone wants to write to her and talk about these types of shows she would love it.

Daniel is doing well at his new specialist school and has a real thing for Dr Seuss and Harry Potter and Lego at the moment. Georgina is being a real star and coping with all the stress really well. We had a few tears the other day when we were staying at Demelza House because I think she has just begun to realise what a hospice is, but she is getting support from the Demelza House team. She is really into story writing and reading and has written her own novel!

We will be coming to the Post Pals party on the 25th June and can’t wait to meet you all!

Update 7th April 2011

I would like to say a huge thank you to all at Post Pals for the immense support they have shown us during these hard couple of months.

Update 28th January 2011

Daniel received a card and a pen with an alien/monster topper today. He is so pleased with it, he has been carrying it around all day and telling everyone it’s called a monster boggle pen! Just goes to show how much just one thought from someone showing they care makes a child smile! The card also had pictures of cows on it and a lovely description inside of the ladies (Lynn) children and their dog. It was such a lovely thing to brighten Daniels day. Thank you Lynn, Holly and Jack xxx

Update 9th January 2011

Eleanor is doing well. She unfortunately missed her last review at hospital but will catch up soon I’m sure.

Update 8th December 2010

Eleanor had a bit of a blip after her operation and kept collapsing. After being put on some new medication she seems to have perked up and we are going to see her doctor on 14th December to see how things are.

We have had a few low moments this month but we’re getting into the Christmas spirit now and would like to thank everyone who has sent post! You can be having the worst day imaginable, then get home to some post from Post Pals and realize you can still smile as people do care!

Update 19th October 2010

Just to let you know Eleanor has had her brain surgery and is back home again. We thought she would be in hospital for quite a while but it was decided that she would be better off recovering at home away from bugs etc. We just got home today and she is doing well. Her Post Pals pillow case has been a great comfort to her.

Update 11th October 2010 (10pm)

Elle has had her surgery and is doing well. She is in and out of consciousness but being very brave.

Update 11th October 2010 (2pm)

Eleanor G went down to surgery at 8.30am. We are now twiddling our thumbs waiting and hoping she will make it through.

Thank you so much to everyone who has sent her post. YOU GUYS ARE ALL AMAZING!

Update 7th October 2010

Elle is going into hospital on the 11th October to have brain surgery. She will be in Kings College hospital for 1-2 nights and then will be transferred to Evelina children’s hospital where she will be recuperating for a couple of weeks. She will have quite a bit of recovery to do at home as well before she can go back to school or join in with her friends but we are hoping the operation will slow down the degeneration of her condition and give her some better quality of life.

Elle is very nervous but had a great time on Sunday when several people got together for a sponsored head shave to support her when she has her hair shaved off. Eleanor loves her amazing smiles that come from miles!

Daniel and Georgina have received some beautiful home-made cards, thank you so much to everyone for thinking of the siblings too, they are going through such a tough time at the moment and it is lovely that they are thought about as well. Elle would like to say a huge thank you to everyone who has been sending her letters, she loves reading about your day and seeing pictures of pets etc, it really has made this time in the run-up to her operation much happier. A huge thank you for the rainbow bandanas!!! As Elle will be having her hair shaved on Monday this will be her prized possession for a few weeks!
Also, a while ago Eleanor was sent a cuddly horse with a voucher to name a star; it was such a lovely thoughtful gift that really made her smile!

I would encourage anyone who wants to fundraise for a charity to pick Post Pals as they do so much for many many families!!!

Update 30th August 2010

We are seeing Eleanor’s brain surgeon at Evelina on Friday and Eleanor will be shown the implants that will be going into her brain and assessments will be made ready for surgery.

Eleanor is taking her Build-A-Bear everywhere with her, thank you so much Dan and Jen, she is even looking forward to taking it to hospital. She has named her bear Cinderella!

Eleanor is going to put a map up in her room so she can mark off where she gets post from, she is very excited that she has received post from different places and can’t wait to show her friends.

Update 22nd August 2010

Eleanor will be having her brain surgery on the 12th October. She will be at Kings College Hospital on the 11th for admission, have the surgery on the 12th, and then will be transferred from Kings College to Evelina Children’s Hospital on the 13th for a 2 week stay and then further recovery at home. She will be having her head shaved on the 11th too, which is quite scary for her.

Thank you – you guys are amazing.

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Lewis J

29 June 2011

Please note Lewis is now suffering severe anxiety about most things including things he would have enjoyed before (like halloween post or even pictures of things outside of his interests). More details in his October 2022 update.

Story Update October 2019

Since Lewis’ diagnosis in July 2014, I have been trying very hard to make as many memories as I can with my brave boy. This has been very difficult at times, as Lewis is at risk of the simple illnesses like a cold turning into something far more serious. This means we only tend to visit busy places in the summer months when less nasty winter bugs are around. We also tend to avoid indoor places. Also, with Lewis having so much equipment, and growing so quickly now (he is half way through being 15!) he takes up a lot of space and I can’t look after him alone so with his 24 hour nurses and carers along for the ride, we avoid busy places too! In December 2017 Lewis caught a really nasty winter bug and ended up with more lung damage. This meant that I could not leave the house with Lewis as he had to be attached to his high pressure, humidified ventilator all the time. As the weather improved, I was able to take Lewis out in the garden for a little time each day, but it meant transferring all his equipment outside on a trolley, with an extension lead running into the house to keep him plugged in to his equipment at all times.
Thankfully, in August 2018 we were introduced to a magic piece of equipment which meant that Lewis could tolerate time on his un-humidified ventilator for short periods of time. We started by walking down the road and back, and gradually increased our time out to encompass walking our dog Phoebe in the local woods.
We soon realised we had a lot more freedom available to us, but Lewis had outgrown our car so we had to buy a great big wheelchair adapted van! We now get to take Lewis all over the place, including the Post Pals Party this summer (2019).
Lewis continues to beat the numbers with Neuronal Ceroid Lipofuscinosis (Batten Disease CLN14) as we were always told he would live to around 10-12 years of age. Every day is borrowed time and we are making the absolute most of it! Lewis is now too large and heavy to lift safely so he has to be hoisted which means having a cuddle is very difficult but sometimes I get the nurse or carer to hoist Lewis on to my lap, although he doesn’t fit any more!
Lewis’ scoliosis continues to worsen and our battle is to keep his bottom ribs from reaching his hip bones. We do this with positioning and cushions but as Lewis gets older and his bones begin to fuse this will be more difficult and he will have a new set of problems to face – his internal organs are running out of space as they grow, and his lungs are already damaged from infections over the years.
I hope and pray every day that Lewis will keep fighting and keep proving the doctors wrong with his strength and resilience. He is truly my hero.

Story updated in July 2014

Lewis was born on the 28th February 2004 and everything went really well. Lewis grew and developed normally, although he started sitting up a little late at around 7 months and started walking a little late at around 17 months. At around 6 months Lewis started having Reflex Anoxic Seizures – holding his breath until he turned blue and passed out. He grew out of these by the age of 4. By the time he was 2 he was walking absolutely fine, just like your average 2 year old.

Not long after his 2nd birthday he started to limp on his right leg. This was diagnosed as irritable hip. After around 8 weeks he was able to walk again normally. Mid April 2006 he stopped walking completely and would only crawl. In May 2006 we saw a specialist and Lewis started on physiotherapy and a whole bunch of tests. In July 2006 Lewis had his first epileptic seizure. In August 2006 he had an MRI. In September he had a second epileptic seizure. Whilst we were in hospital for this second time, Lewis had ECG and EEG and several blood tests. His EEG came back abnormal. In October Lewis started to have regular epileptic seizures and was put on a treatment program.

From around September 2006 Lewis’ condition worsened considerably and he became unable to sit up unaided. By November 2006 he could not sit or even support his own head and physically all he can now do is lie on the floor. He now cannot use his hands at all and has to have a special chair to support his entire body and to try and keep his spine and hips in good position to prevent scoliosis and hip displacement. Unfortunately we were a little late finding out that this was so very important so Lewis now has quite severe scoliosis, rib and spine rotation, and hip displaysia. In November 2006 Lewis went into hospital for a lumbar puncture and tissue and muscle biopsies as the doctors have still not been able to diagnose the condition Lewis has that has caused his physical condition to deteriorate. He has since then had many more tests including a very detailed 3-teslar MRI which came back with the same results as usual. Normal.

In 2011, Lewis remained undiagnosed. An MRI scan did show some deterioration in his brain (cerrebular atrophy) which the doctors believed was post-infectious but they didn’t know what infection caused it, or when! They said it looked like what someone would have if they had had chicken pox! More frustration!

Lewis re-started a course of therapeutic antibiotics again in May 2010 as he was on these for 6 months in 2009 and we did see improvements in his head control, he tried to speak, and he tried to reach out for things effectively. Unfortunately, in December 2009, we had to stop the treatment as Lewis was fitting every 10-12 minutes and we couldn’t work out why. He spent a lot of time in hospital leading up to Christmas and finally came home on Christmas Eve but didn’t really recover fully for several weeks. We finally discovered that changing his antibiotic was the problem. One of the antibiotics Lewis was taking had raised the levels of anti-epileptic medication in his liver, so when we took him off that antibiotic to start him on another, his levels dropped dramatically!

In 2013 Lewis was admitted to hospital with a severe stomach bug. This resulted in intubation and transfer to ICU. It was discovered his bowel and stomach and abdomen had grown together due to an error in the replacement of his stomach tube in 2010. The tummy bug he had caught allowed the contents of his bowel to be forced through the ‘tunnel’ into his stomach. This required surgery but in Lewis’ weakened state and with a mix up over medications, Lewis ended up remaining in ICU/HDU for six months with collapsed lungs, several episodes of status epilepticus and various infections. His lungs could not cope with all this and in October 2013, Lewis had a tracheostomy tube fitted to allow him to breathe. He also requires a ventilator to assist his breathing. He has 100 degree plus scoliosis and dislocated hips (exacerbated by restricted positioning and not being able to have regular stretches or physio whilst in hospital).

Lewis also suffered a shoulder fracture whilst in ICU due to particularly violent seizures. This has never healed and the bone has dissolved so Lewis is also in constant pain from this.

Finally, on 8 July 2014, Lewis was diagnosed after over 7 years of being undiagnosed. Lewis has Neuronal Ceroid Lypofuscinosis on the KTC07 gene. NCL is also known as Batten Disease. There is no treatment or cure.

Our boy is SO brave. Every single day he deals with unimaginable pain and discomfort and yet still he smiles. Lewis is an incredibly happy chap, despite all his problems, and he loves to spend time with the other children and interact with them as much as possible.

Update 11th November 2024

Update 11th November 2024

Lewis is now 20 years old in years but is still a young child in his mind and in his heart. Lewis continues to adore giraffes and cbeebies, especially Sarah & Duck and The Clangers. He loves the baby soup dragon and the iron chicken the best. 
 
Lewis medical condition continues to deteriorate. His chest continues to be fragile and so like a lot of clinically extremely vulnerable people, we are still shielding him to protect him from potentially deadly ‘common’ viruses.  
 
In recent months Lewis has struggled with travel and so we are now restricted to very short trips in the van and tend to mostly walk to the local woods and stay in the local area. Lewis loves to watch the squirrels and we enjoy feeding the ducks.  
 
Very recently Lewis has a chest infection which needed antibiotics. This upset his fragile stomach which caused him to have increases seizures resulting in strong ‘rescue’ medication to stop them. Thankfully, so far, they have calmed down so we hope Lewis can stay well leading up to and during the Christmas period. We are looking forward to when people start to decorate so we can go out and count ‘Christmas houses’. 
 
Lewis is receiving palliative care and so we are restricted in what treatments he can have when he is poorly. This also means no ambulances and no hospital.  We are doing all we can to keep Lewis safe and hope we can enjoy much more time with him. 
 
We love to receive letters and postcards and especially drawings (of giraffes mostly!) which are put on display in Lewis bedroom.  Post Pals truly is a lifeline to us as it can be very lonely keeping so isolated all the time. 
 
Thank you to everyone for continuing to love and support Lewis through his journey with Batten Disease.
 
Lewis loves giraffes!  He also likes window stickers and things which can be hung as he can watch these from his bed.  He loves books and having stories read, pre-school books, especially those that rhyme – he enjoys big eyes, funny faces & bright colours, Tom & Jerry, Sunny Bunnies.  His favourite colours are bright colours, especially purple & orange

Update 17th July 2024

Lewis continues to have periods of being extremely unwell.  These can be due to seizure clusters or partial gut failure. Both are immensely distressing for Lewis and for myself, Mum.  We manage these periods at home and thankfully, in between periods, we have settled times where we can relax a little and enjoy being together and making memories. We now can not travel far with Lewis  –  maximum 20 minutes away from home – as Lewis can not cope with unfamiliar places or people, and he can not manage extended periods of time in his wheelchair.  We can manage a 3-hour round trip to the local wildlife park, or the woods, or the lakeside area to feed the swans and ducks.  We have to be close to home as his tolerance and condition can change within moments. Sometimes we just manage to walk up and down outside just to ensure Lewis is getting his fresh air for the day. 
 
On 28th June we were so lucky to be visited by Lewis long time Post Pal Anna from Canterbury. What a treat! It was lovely to receive the actual Post Pal in place of post (but not in the post of course!) and we had to let her go home at the end of her visit ! It really was such a great experience to be able to spend time with Anna after all these years and Lewis was very comfortable around her which was lovely. 
 
As I continue to try and make happy memories with Lewis it always helps us to keep going knowing we are loved and cared for as Lewis continues to receive such beautiful cards, letters, postcards and gifts so thank you all for helping us to make every day special.
 
Lewis now loves Mr Bean on TV and he loves having stories read to him, especially with silly voices and seeing faces close up especially silly faces and funny noises. He still loves giraffes

Update 28th February 2024

Lewis’ health is deteriorating as he approaches his 20th birthday. I remember so clearly his 3rd birthday when we thought it would be his last. Every birthday since we have had the same feeling and every year so far Lewis has shown us different.

Lewis’ seizures have increased and are becoming less manageable. Lewis’ chest is showing more signs of struggling even with the ventilator. Lewis’ tummy and digestive system is slowing down and more and more often he isn’t managing at all. I can tell Lewis is tired, his smiles are still there but they are less often. Lewis continues to love his Cbeebies and the giraffes at our local wildlife park. We still take Lewis out every day no matter what the weather because being out in his chair in the fresh air is so important for Lewis’ chest and tummy health. Even one day of no ‘bumps’ in the woods results in big problems for Lewis including chest infections and partial gut failure.

Lewis still loves his stories and he loves puppet shows. 

Update October 2022

Lewis’ anxiety has become a lot worse. He has anxiety about most things now but still loves giraffes (especially drawings and postcards for his giraffe window) Tom & Jerry, Clangers especially iron chicken, baby soup dragon and baby skymoo, Elmo and Gonger from Furchester Hotel, and he loves Big & Small, also Waybuloo, especially Yojojo

Anything dark or even remotely scary (anything to do with monsters or anger) really upsets and scares him so we have to monitor what he watches closely and do a lot of fast forwarding! He still loves having stories read to him.

He loves to hear about pets and animals, especially if he can see drawings or pictures to go with them

Update 26th July 2022

Unfortunately, we were not able to attend the Post Pals Glamping event at Chessington as Lewis’ health was just too unstable.  We have had a terrible few months, logistically speaking.  The local children’s hospice which we only very recently began to rely on, has now closed indefinitely.  We did not access the hospice previously as they were unable to provide care for someone as clinically complex as Lewis, and as Lewis experiences anxiety away from home, it would not have been kind to take him, even with his own home carers and nurses.  In January and February 2021 when Lewis was in hospital and everything changed significantly again for the worse, we met with the lovely hospice palliative consultant and agreed that Lewis would access their at home palliative and end of life care.  This was a very difficult time, involving discussions that no parent ever wants to think about for their child. Even though Lewis is now 18, he still is (and will always be) my baby boy, and mentally and cognitively, he is a very young child.  So, we were very grateful for the hospice support at home, in person and by telephone when needed.  Sadly, the hospice had to close indefinitely in May this year which meant all clinical services were immediately withdrawn.  This resulted in a mass of meetings with different agencies, to ascertain who would take care of Lewis’ palliative and end of life needs.  Within Doncaster Lewis is considered the closest to needing this and so it was all a big panic for everybody, especially Lewis’ Dad and I as we had all plans in place for the time when Lewis decides to leave us, and this was all ripped away from us and we were faced with the unknown.  We have promised Lewis he will not go back into hospital for any reason, and this was being taken away from us because if we did not have the hospice support at home at that time, then it would mean Lewis would have to have ambulance and hospital involvement.  It was terrifying and the guilt I felt as a parent was unbearable. I had made Lewis a promise and now I was having to think about breaking that promise.  Thankfully, the agencies involved pulled together and worked really hard to sort this all out quickly and Lewis is now covered by adult palliative services.  We have had lots of meetings with representatives from adult services and they have been so kind and helpful.  Lewis will now receive regular visits from our long-term GP and will also receive less regular visits from the local hospital adult palliative consultant.  We hope that in practice, when that time comes, Lewis will be able to remain at home and we will be supported as parents through the most difficult time of our lives.

Lewis, health-wise, has (everything crossed) remained quite stable in recent months and so we have been able to visit the local wildlife park often as well as going for our daily walks in the woods.  We had a lovely day at the seaside and finally got to use Lewis’ all-terrain wheels to go on the sand which was magical!  We had lunch in a fish and chip restaurant (very brave – our first time not wearing a mask indoors and being around people) which went ok.  

Lewis has continued to receive such wonderful cards, letters, drawings and gifts from Post Pals friends – we are amazed by the talents of so many of you and we are in the process of creating a collage of giraffe drawings Lewis has received – even the ones on the envelopes which we always keep.  We always try to re-use stickers and gift wrap as well and we do love to reply to cards and letters if a return address is included.

We do not have any plans for longer distance trips this summer but we do hope to attend the batten disease family conference in September if all goes well.

Our two new kittens, Portocaliu and Murasaki are growing fast and at only 7 months old are much bigger than our other 4 cats already.  In fact, they are almost as big as Phoebe, our 7 year old dog.   We take Murasaki out for walks with us when we take Lewis into the woods – Mura has his own little cat buggy and comes out with his harness and lead on for strolls on and off!  Porto is too scared to go out in the chair though.  

We are trying to be more relaxed about Covid during the summer months when we spend so much time out of doors, but indoors we still have to be ultra careful as neither Lewis nor I have had Covid, and the infection rates are so high.  

Thank you to everybody at Post Pals for continuing to support Lewis and I. It truly means so much to receive postcards and letters and cards from our lovely Post Pal friends (old and new) and the gifts are always a bonus but never expected.  Just knowing someone is thinking of us enough to put pen to paper really does lift our spirits.

 Update 24th March 2022

Lewis had the most incredible amount of cards for his 18th Birthday on 28th February, we even received a couple just this week! Lewis received over 100 birthday cards from Post Pals all over the world. We were so excited to open them all. There were lots with his name on, lots with 18 on, lots with giraffes on and some with all three! Some incredibly talented people had made Lewis wonderful cards and some people had designed personalised cards with photos on. Every single card was amazing and so very much appreciated as we truly never dreamed we would be celebrating with Lewis for his 18th birthday. Lewis received some wonderful gifts too. Unfortunately, Lewis was ill on his birthday so he had to miss his party, but we were very lucky to see some visitors from as far away as Devon and Edinburgh (both lovely friends made through Post Pals). Lewis also received some enormous boxes filled with magical balloons which are still in his room almost a month later. We felt totally loved and supported on Lewis birthday by the wonderful people who got in touch with us via Post Pals. Truly, over the years since Lewis was 3 years old and we received 65 birthday cards for him from Post Pals friends on what we were afraid would be his last birthday, we have received so much kindness and support and we hope that Lewis will carry on having this for a long time to come.  We are so looking forward to Lewis’ first time in a tent, glamping with Post Pals in May this year.

 

Update 21st June 2021

It has been difficult to update on Lewis as everything is so precarious. He is generally stable, but very much different from before he went into hospital 6 months ago. He had short periods where he is very unwell and the worry is that each episode will be the one that takes him away. The episodes are getting more frequent but we continue to make the most of every day and keep hope. We love to receive the cards and letters from Post Pals. I only wish I had more time to send thank yous. It is so hard most of the time to do things out of routine as each moment is an emotional strain and any deviation from basic routine can cause extreme anxiety for Lewis and myself. That sounds very miserable but it isn’t – I am doing all I can to bring some joy to every day as we do not have the luxury of a future. 

Update 26th May 2021

Since we came out of hospital mid February a lot has changed here, but we have slowly started getting used to the new way of doing things.  The main change is of course that we now have very limited treatment options for when Lewis gets an infection or becomes ill.  A few weeks ago, we had to start Lewis on antibiotic nebulisers for 28 days because of an incident where water was mistakenly introduced into his lungs via his tracheostomy tube by a poorly trained nurse.  Lewis is now on strong oral antibiotics as he did go on to get a nasty infection in his lungs which if not treated properly can lead to pneumonia or sepsis.  It is very frustrating to know that Lewis could suffer with something caused by someone’s incompetence and because of the limitation of treatments available, may not survive.  I understand and accept that Lewis has a terminal disease, and is expected to die from the progression of this disease, but to lose him because someone was stupid is really difficult to think about.  The already very stretched package of care is now even more precarious as I will no longer allow unfamiliar staff to come into our home, Lewis is the most important part of all this and his comfort and safety is absolutely paramount.  Hence, I am incredibly tired, but at least I know my boy is as safe as he can be with me and his very small team of exceptional carers and nurses.  Lewis’ hayfever has been particularly bad in recent weeks and so we can not go to the local woods at the moment which is such a shame.  We also have not yet visited the wildlife park as they have had a massive refurbishment and rebuild with a whole new entrance and car park and to be honest I’m nervous and anxious about parking.  Our other favourite place to visit, The Deep at Hull, is now open so we hope to visit there very soon, once Lewis has cleared up this horrid infection.  We also plan a trip to Cleethorpes (the local-ish beach) once it stops raining! Lewis and I have received some lovely post from our lovely post pals friends, which really has helped our days to be much brighter.

Update 4th March 2021

Since December, Lewis has spent a lot of time in hospital which has been quite a shock as we have spent the last 7 years keeping him out of hospital.  It has been an ongoing battle for treatment as the professionals want to put any illness down to ‘deterioration of neurological condition, ie. batten disease’ and this can make them blind to treatable conditions, so it has been a very stressful few months.  Christmas did not happen here, but we did manage to open Lewis’ wonderful cards and gifts from amazing Post Pals so if you did send Lewis something I will get around to thank yous at some point!  The same for his birthday which was on Sunday (28th February) – Lewis got such thoughtful and incredible cards and gifts and I will get around to doing proper thank yous soon, all being well.  So in January and February Lewis spent an extended period of time in critical care and we managed to get him home with a treatment plan going forward.  There were a lot of very upsetting meetings about end of life plans which are so difficult to even allow into the light of day when Lewis is smiling and happy and laughing.  However, reality wins and Lewis is no longer fit for any form of invasive treatment so we have today agreed to a DNAR and limitation of treatment in order to keep Lewis at home.  We will not be taking him back into hospital.  Lewis is still happy and smiley, but he now has new and more frequent seizures and is on a very restricted diet which means he is gradually losing weight – his digestive system is no longer working properly.  There is nothing that can be done about this, just a strict management plan and hope that Lewis can be strong for a while to come.  Future illness will be managed at home, and if treatment is ineffective or not possible then we will make sure Lewis is made as comfortable as possible. Whatever Lewis decides, we will be with him and supporting him through it all.  Lewis is my absolute hero and I do believe an inspiration to many.  

Update 23rd August 2020

As Lewis is classed as clinically extremely vulnerable, we have been shielding as a family since mid March.  This has meant Lewis has been unable to see his Dad or grandparents or anybody outside of Mummy, big brother Samuel and the nurses and carers who come in each day to support caring for our young man.  We have had to become accustomed to a new world of PPE – masks, gowns, visors, aprons – which is difficult to experience in our home but as time has gone by, it has become more normal.  We have missed very much being able to visit the local woods and wildlife park, and for most of the lockdown, we could not leave the garden and so almost created a track around the garden where we would walk Lewis in his wheelchair for hours each day.  We have recently been able to walk up and down the drive outside and a very kind neighbour has let us use her drive as well so we had a change of scenery.  In the past couple of weeks we have also been able to have very careful visits to the local woods but avoiding people at all times.  With the government easing the lockdown, our job of keeping Lewis safe has become much harder, and despite the pausing of shielding on 1st August, we continue to protect Lewis as much as possible and are continuing to shield.  During the lockdown period, we have taken up stone painting and have been able to leave over 100 hand-painted stones in the local wood which we have been marking with #TeamLewis and also #PostPals to hopefully raise some awareness as well as making people smile at finding random pretty stones on their wood walks.  Lewis has grown a lot in the past 12-18 months and so caring for him is very different, involving slings and hoists and larger equipment.  We are struggling to find a chair he can upgrade to as the one he has is ‘adult’ size but due to his severe scoliosis and hip dislocation, he needs to be in an unusual position which makes regular chair shapes very difficult for him.  Our priority for Lewis is comfort as his physical condition can not be fixed with a seating system to try and correct his problems.  As he is too vulnerable and high risk for any kind of surgery, it is very difficult to be able to delay the continuing deterioration of his physical condition as he grows and his bones fuse.  This is causing him a lot of pain and he often cries now which in the past was a very rare occurrence.  Additionally, his seizures are increasing in frequency and also in strength and this can cause him a lot of pain and distress too.  This means he is often sleepy just from managing his pain every day and we are reluctant to introduce any stronger pain relief medications as this would have an impact on his ability to enjoy life as he would be approaching a state of sedation.  This is the kind of thing we will have to face as Lewis’ illness causes him to deteriorate further and we are finally forced to accept ‘end of life’ care, but for now I am fighting this battle alongside my very brave boy.  Lewis does not generally attend hospital appointments as all his care is done at home and he has his ‘hospital’ at home which is similar to what you would find in an Intensive Care Unit.  He has to have someone trained and awake with him at all times, including all through the night, to ensure he is safe and that his airway is clear and his ventilator is doing its job.  Lewis amazes me every day with how he can be happy and smile and laugh, with all the pain he is in all the time and how he relies completely on others to care for his every need.  He loves to receive his post from Post Pals, as do I.  It truly is a lifeline to know people care about and are thinking of us as they go about their everyday life.   When Lewis is in bed, which is where he spends a lot of his time, he is surrounded by cards and gifts he has received from his friends at Post Pals.  You truly brighten our whole lives, thank you.

Update 29th November 2019

Thank you for the incredible post Lewis has received recently.  Such lovely cards and drawings and letters. We have been very much enjoying The Chronicles of Mr G who is a giraffe and giraffes are Lewis’ favourite!  Unfortunately, Lewis did succumb this month to an infection (a form of pneumonia) which he is receiving treatment for.  We hope this will be the only nasty bug Lewis catches this year and that he can reach 2020 without any more nasty infections.  Even pneumonia has not stopped Lewis getting out and about (with plenty of oxygen on board) as being sat up in his chair and moving about (especially over tree roots and bumps in the woods) does wonders for his chest.  We are very much looking forward to Christmas, especially Boxing Day as Lewis’ daddy and step-mum and step-sister have a family feast planned – yummy for Lewis’ mummy and lots of family and friends for Lewis to spend time with on this special day.

Update 8th October 2019

Hello, and thank you for all the amazing post Lewis has received the past couple of months.  I am afraid I have been a bit slow in thanking people as I’ve had a lot to do at home, caring for Lewis and trying to juggle all the every day jobs as well.  I have nurses or carers to help look after Lewis 24/7 but with staff leaving and others having holiday, it has been more stressful than normal, but I hope it will settle down soon.  Lewis has been up and down.  He went through a phase of having a lot of seizures, and his digestion failing most days.  It was very worrying as each of these episodes could be the one where he does not recover.  However, as of this week he has been doing so well, I have just been enjoying this precious time with him where I have been able to put aside my every day worries for a little while and just enjoy being with my boy.  We have been getting out into the woods every single day to walk Phoebe and to our local wildlife park (where we have an annual pass) most days during the week.  We had the most amazing time at the Post Pals Party in June and then the Strongbones Party in August but now we are staying closer to home.  Lewis has received such lovely gifts, letters and cards, and as always we keep them all and I do try to reply when I can, it just sometimes takes me a while.  We love to put Lewis cards and postcards on display in his room and we swap them over when new ones arrive, but the old ones are put up in the summer house – we have several years of post cards up on the walls!  

Update 9th August 2019

It has been a while since we last updated, which I do apologise for.  It has been a very busy and stressful few months trying to sort out equipment and training new carers to help to look after Lewis at home.  Lewis has continued with his growth spurt and is now wearing adult sized clothes.  We have had to review his medications and his wheelchair, he has a much larger bath, and we have had to accept that we can no longer lift or carry Lewis – he has to be hoisted at all times.  This has been difficult in itself as lifting and carrying Lew was always a great way to sneak a cuddle but it is now unsafe and dangerous for Lewis to try and lift him, so hoisting it is.  We were able to purchase a secondhand wheelchair-adapted vehicle which is enormous – basically it’s a minibus with a ramp so that we can wheel Lewis up into it in his wheelchair.  This has given us so much freedom to get out and about further afield. However, with this new freedom we discovered once we arrived at places, that we couldn’t move Lewis out of his chair to change him or give him a much needed break from sitting, and so we applied to a charity for a portable hoist which means we are now able to take Lewis to places where there is not a proper Changing Place. 

This meant most particularly that we were able to attend THE POST PALS SUMMER PARTY in June which was absolutely amazing!  We stayed away from home for two nights and although it turned out to be the hottest weather on record for this country, the shade of the trees at the party meant Lewis was able to have a really amazing time, catching up with Post Pals friends and enjoying the magical atmosphere and activities.  We were even able to hoist Lewis on to the pirate ship bouncy castle where he laid and had some time with the lovely Post Pals Vikki and we were able to chat about Post Pals events coming up in the future which Lewis will be able to access, his health allowing, now we are able to get out and about much more easily. 

Now Lewis is 15, his consultants have begun mentioning ‘transition’, which is quite simply a very scary time for us to think about Lewis transferring to adult services.  It has not been something I have considered until now as we did not believe Lewis would reach that stage.  I remember his 3rd birthday party where we did not think he would have a 4th birthday and now here we are fast approaching birthday number 16 (February 2020).  As part of this transition process, it was decided Lewis should trial the kind of tracheostomy tube most commonly used in adult hospitals.  This did not go well, and as a result, Lewis was put through a quite traumatic procedure to swap tubes.  The new tube did not suit Lewis at all and within 24 hours he was back with his usual tracheostomy tube, but in that short time he did contract a nasty bug and was treated for pneumonia.  Thankfully he’s been fine since he finished his course of strong antibiotics and we have put that experience behind us. 

More recently, one of our cats, Arthur, had to be put to sleep as he was very old and had become very ill very quickly.  It was a very sad time for us and brought the whole subject of death to the front of our minds for a time.  Knowing Lewis has a terminal illness is always in the back of my mind, but I do strive every day to keep it tucked away so we can try and enjoy every moment we have with Lew while he is with us now today.  With this in mind, we were able to attend the Strongbones Charity party this month which again was a magical day, but just a day trip, no hotels needed this time. Just this week I was brave enough to have a go at driving Lew’s great big blue wheelchair van – I have been putting it off as I was quite scared, but one small step in the right direction and hopefully many more trips out can be planned now I do not have to arrange them around who is available to drive us.

We have been able to spend a lot of time out in the garden with Lewis with the lovely weather, although we do have to be very careful of him in the sun as his medications for epilepsy do make his skin incredibly sensitive to the sun and it can be damaged very easily, even in the shade.  Lewis has loved receiving more bright and colourful post and we have discovered that with the help of velcro, we can stick postcards and dangly toys from the roof of his wheelchair van so he can enjoy looking at them when we are travelling. I do have a small pile of Lewis’ lovely Post Pals post which I plan to reply to when I have a little bit of time as we do love to send return mail if we can – sometimes it can take a little while though!  Thank you for bringing us smiles every day.  It is always such an encouragement to keep going,  knowing there are so many people who care about and think of Lewis.

Update 11th February 2019

So a lot has happened since our last update in November.  Of course we had Christmas, which seems like a very long time ago now that the sunshine and longer days have started already.  We have been enjoying the annual pass we were able to get for the Yorkshire Wildlife Park, which we have also discovered we can walk to!  So we try to go at least once a week and more often if we can.  We have to take a trolley with spare equipment on it as although it is only 4.5 km from home, it is a long walk (about 35 minutes) so each visit is a well organised and planned outing with Lewis, Mummy, a nurse and a carer.  Lewis’ favourite at the park is the giraffes because we can get so close to them, and they are so easy for him to look at from his wheelchair – upwards!

 

We still manage to go into the woods to feed the ducks several times a week too, with Phoebe. The bluebells are already starting to push out of the ground so it will be full of colour soon.  A really kind man who walks his dog Ruby in the wood also likes to make furniture from fallen trees, and he has made a couple of benches to place in the woods.  Well, when we were there feeding the ducks one day, we were chatting to him and he said he would like us to help him decide where to put his next bench.  We chose a spot, and the man said he would name it Lewis’ bench and he is going to also carve Lewis’ name into it which was really lovely!

 

Lewis has loved receiving his bright and colourful post, and we really do appreciate being able to write back if a return address is included.  We have recently swapped some of the colour post that Lewis has around his bed, hanging from the ceiling, so put some of his more recent post up there, but we still keep the older post as it is very precious to us.

 

Lewis’ seizures had increased again in December and January, so we saw his neurologist who advised increasing one of his medications.  This has so far proved successful and so we hope we can have some seizure free time for at least a little while before we have to think about increasing his medications again. 

 

It is so hard to believe Lewis will be 15 this month (February 2019!).  I remember when we had his 3rd birthday and we did not expect him to have another one, and yet here we are 12 years later.  Truly a miracle.  Sometimes I forget just how brave and strong Lewis is as he goes through so much, and yet he still smiles and laughs.  He is my hero. 

 

Thank you again to our Post Pals family for the lovely cards and letters and gifts.  Every item of post makes such a difference to our days.

Update 11th November 2018

Hello.  So since our last update Lewis has had a growth spurt and is now to big to be transported safely in the VW camper!  Thankfully, most of the cost was involved in purchasing the equipment needed to run Lewis’ ventilator while out and about and this will be easily transferred to the WAV (wheelchair adapated vehicle) we have now got to get.  We had to test out a couple of options – one was enormous and scary and I do not think it would have ever left the drive!  The second option is much smaller but more manageable and so we have gone for this one and it should be ready early next year.  As we have got a thirst for freedom now, we have managed to purchase very cheaply a second hand WAV which is 18 years old, but has a lift and fixings so we can take Lewis in it in his wheelchair.  It is ginormous but already we have been able to go out to the local outdoor shopping centre for a wander round and we even got to look at the Christmas lights today.  We will use this second hand WAV until the new one arrives and then we will be able to sell it on to someone else in need of a timely bargain!

An unfortunate side effect of being able to get out is that Lewis is coming into contact with more germs.  He has caught another cold and we think it may have gone to his chest again so we are waiting to see if he can recover on his own or if we will need to have antibiotics again.  The last bug he caught was so nasty that we were told the best thing was to take him into critical care for a course of IV antibiotics but we discussed any other options and we opted to try the nebulised antibiotics first which on this occasion were successful.  The nebulised antibiotics are distributed directly into his lungs via his ventilator.  We have some more of these antibiotics ready on standby in case he has grown the same nasty bug in his lungs this time but we are hoping he will recover on his own.  On top of this, with his growth spurt, his seizures have increased greatly not only in quantity but also in their severity.  This has meant he has required his rescue medication three times in less than 3 weeks (usually he might only need rescue medication 2-3 times a year!).  We have put this increase in seizures down to his growth spurt so are in the process of increasing his anti-epileptic medications to hopefully control his seizures again for a while.

We have recently also re-started baking with Lew and our favourite recipe is mayonnaise chocolate cake!  It was very strange to put mayonnaise in our cake mix but once we had tasted it we were converted!  We are now trying to find ways to make it healthier.

Lewis has received some lovely post from Post Pals, lots of postcards and letters.  He is also quickly filling up his lanyards with badges which is great.  These hang on his bed so he can see the bright colours and designs.

We have found that getting Lewis out in the fresh air most days has really helped him in lots of ways so we are trying to walk Phoebe and feed the ducks in the local woods most days, even when it is getting dark and chilly!  We are getting quite expert in this leaving the house thing!

Lewis continues to enjoy his stories and of course his favourite ever which is watching cartoons on TV!

We were able to get out in the garden briefly with some sparklers on 5th November but Phoebe had to stay inside as she is very scared of the noise!  Our next plan is what to do for Christmas.  Last year we went Hawaiian but this year I think we are going back to traditional and hope to start decorating on December 1st.

Lots of love from Lewis and I to all Post Pals and friends and family.  Thank you for giving us your support and comfort every day.

Update 15th September 2018

Hello.  So this month we had the first trip out in the renovated VW camper van with Lewis and we decided to go to Cleethorpes (the closest seaside to us).  It was a miserable rainy day and chilly too but it was still so amazing to get out with Lewis somewhere in the VW and to enjoy what was as close to a family day out as we can manage.  We got to catch up with some lovely friends, including an almost birthday buddy of Lewis’ who was born the day before him!  It was hard to see how Lewis should be (if he didn’t have batten disease), as his buddy is at school and working hard and is all grown up and of course Lewis loves Cbeebies and cannot move.  Even so, it was amazing to catch up and to have a hug from our lovely friends.  Lewis was very tired out after our trip and it did cause him to have some seizures, and sadly since then he has caught a cold which has developed into a chest infection, so he’s on antibiotics for that and we can’t leave the house at all for a little while until he’s fully recovered.

Lewis has discovered his new favourite programme called CloudBabies, but he still loves his other favourite DinoPaws and of course Tom & Jerry and Donald Duck are still firm favourites!  It is so special and wonderful to see Lewis’ shoulders shaking with laughter and his laughter makes us laugh – it is so infectious!

Thank you to lovely Bev, Faye and Natashja for the Post Pals post Lewis has received this past month or two. We really love getting cards, postcards and letters, but especially the postcards as we can put them up in Lewis’ room above his bed where he can see them.  It is especially heart warming to receive Post Pals post as we rarely leave the home now as Lewis’ carers and nurses are not allowed to be alone with him, so I (mum) have to stay indoors with them all the time so we are getting a bit stir crazy!

Thank you to everyone for all your loving support for Lewis.  It is a comfort to know people do think of and care about us.

Update 20th July 2018

Hello from sunny South Yorkshire!  Lewis has not had any real dramas since our last update.  He is not coping with the hot weather so we spend a lot of time indoors with fans and portable air-con pipes sticking out of the windows.  Very strange to have this lovely weather and have all doors and windows closed wearing woolly socks and jumpers!

On days when it has not been too hot, we have finally been able to get Lewis out in the woods with Phoebe (our crazy dog) in his jogger chair for short walks.  We have been loaned on trial a different kind of ventilator which has a nebuliser running through it for up to 6 hours which is similar to being on a humidified ventilator so we are giving it a try!  With Lewis, since his pneumonia over Christmas, the lower parts of his lungs (which are already a bit messed up) can easily fill with secretions created within his lungs which then can dry out and go hard and block the lower areas of his lungs.  Once this happens it is only a matter of time before the blockage gets worse as the secretions sit on top of the dried out ones until finally the lung blocks up as its so full of rubbish that it can not breath effectively.  So to avoid this, the humidified ventilator pushes air into the lower parts of Lewis’ lungs which is nice and warm and wet to stop the secretions from drying out.  If Lewis does not have the humidified ventilator, but just has the dry ventilator then the secretions are at risk of drying out resulting in the lung blocking off which is why we haven’t been able to take Lewis out since Christmas – the humidified ventilator does not run on batteries and so needs to be plugged into the mains electricity all the time.  This new vent runs off battery and the nebuliser can run for up to 6 hours.  So we are giving it a try and hoping it will give Lewis some freedom!  Unfortunately not as much as we hoped however as with Lewis’ decline he has become very anxious in unfamiliar surroundings so a trip to the cinema just this week to see Incredibles 2 did not go so well.

We are still working on the VW camper van which will have a bed in the back so that travelling with Lew will be ultra comfortable!  We plan to use this once it is finished to take Lewis to the seaside (Cleethorpes).  The van will have a power inverter and leisure battery in it so it will be like taking our household electricity with us!  We can plug all of Lewis’ equipment in and maybe even a little TV so he doesnt miss his cartoons! We won’t be able to travel far in it as it is 45 years old (!), but we think journeys of up to 1 hour should be fine.

Lewis has put on quite a lot of weight and length since Christmas so we have had to have ceiling track put in over his bed to be able to hoist him for bathing, etc.  We are also waiting for a much longer bath as he has grown out of his old one!  This has meant we have had to move a lot of Lewis’ Post Pals cards, postcards and pictures from above his bed, but we have just found new places to hang them so he can still see all his lovely post when he is laid on his bed!

Update 3rd June 2018

Earlier this year we started fundraising for a camper van which we could use to get Lewis out of the house.  Lewis has been unable to leave home since before Christmas when he had a particularly bad chest infection, this means that he now cannot cope on a dry ventilator circuit and now has to be constantly connected to a humidifier – this has no battery capacity and needs to be plugged in all the time.  So we have found out about leisure batteries and pure sine inverters!  Amazing the things one learns about on this journey with a poorly child.  We have an old (45 years old!) VW van which is being renovated and kitted out for Lewis, as he also cannot sit up and needs to be always laid down.  This means we can take him out of the house in the van laid down in the back on the bed which will be fitted with a special seat belt system.  We really are hopeful we can get to the Post Pals party next month!  This past week we have learned that Lewis now relies completely on the ventilator for his breathing and so this makes the right equipment all the more important.  Whereas before he needed the ventilator to help him to breath, now he cannot really breath without it.  It’s another part of his deterioration with his illness and I feel so lucky now that Lewis had to have his tracheostomy and ventilator back in 2013.  Without it, Lewis wouldn’t be here now.

Lewis continues to enjoy Cbeebies and we now have an App on the TV called Disney Life, so we can catch up on lots of Donald Duck and Pluto cartoons which are Lewis’ absolute favourite!  Lewis continues on the blended diet and his array of herbal supplements to help him to be as well as he possibly can.

We both get quite fed up of being stuck in the house all the time (6 months now!) but now the weather is nicer and there are less bugs around, we are getting more visitors.  Also, it means the absolute world to us to receive cards and letters from our Post Pals family.  They really do brighten our days.  We put cards up in Lewis’ room (what used to be our dining room) so that he can see them and we hang dangly gifts around his bed too.  I always try to reply and say thank you for cards and gifts and letters, so please do leave a return address or email if you would be happy to receive a thank you from us.

Hoping to see lots of friends on 7th July in Effingham! Love always from Lewis and Samantha (and Phoebe the dog and Arthur, Chelsea, Aoife, Bianca, Benjamin and Nicolas the cats!)

Update 6th February 2018

Lewis will be 14 this month. We honestly never believed we would reach this point with Lew but every day he amazes us with his strength and resilience. His health has been bad during December and early January with chest infections and seizures and 100% reliance on the big ventilator. This has meant we have not been able to get Lewis off his bed, but just this last week we have been able to get him on his beanbag in the front room for short periods of time.

Lewis’ illness, batten disease CLN14, remains a terminal illness without treatment or cure, but with an incredible team of carers I think we are doing ok. Lewis has had a growth spurt recently and so we are awaiting a longer bath and some hoisting to be put in place as he’s getting too long and heavy to lift. Lewis is very tired a lot of the time but still manages to smile and laugh at his favourite cartoons and people.

We love to display Lewis’ Post Pals cards, photos and drawings around Lewis’s bed by his twinkly lights on the ceiling.

We are feeling very brave and have booked a hotel for 3 nights so we can hopefully come to the Post Pals summer party in July.

Every morning that Lewis wakes up is an absolute blessing to us. Every seizure he has could be the one that takes him from us so we try to squeeze every drop out of every day, but while still keeping Lewis safe at home. This year we want to try and see some friends from the south of England and hope to achieve this while we are in Woking and Effingham in July.

We love our Post Pals family so much and your post always makes us smile and feel so special. Thank you for all the smiles you have brought us over the years since Lewis first became ill in 2006. We don’t know how long we have left with Lewis but we’re incredibly lucky to have you all share this journey with us.

Update 16th November 2017

I can’t believe it’s November already. Lewis has had a few bad chest infections this year so we are prepared for the worse over winter and are avoiding going out or having people visit in case they have germs. It gets quite lonely and boring at home so we are watching a lot of movies and reading a lot of books! Lewis loves being read to but nothing beats a good cartoon on the tv. Capturing Lewis laughing is always magical!

At the moment we have a different battle going on – trying to work out what is upsetting Lewis physically. He is in a lot of pain most of the time but we cannot pinpoint what is causing the pain for him and so it’s very difficult to be able to help with easing it. We will persevere.

We are all looking forward to our Hawaii Christmas and hope Lewis will be well enough to enjoy it.

I have spent several months since Lewis’ 13th birthday worrying that he is on borrowed time and never dreaming we would make it this far into 2017. Now Christmas is approaching which will soon lead to 2018 and Lewis’ 14th birthday and part of me is excited to greet this new milestone but most of me is so scared knowing that getting to those dates with Lewis would be an absolute miracle. Scary times.

You may remember that Lewis had very long hair for a few years as we let it grow while he was in critical care for half of 2013. Well we cut Lewis’ hair short in October 2016 but now we are letting him grow it again!

Thank you to all Lewis’ amazing post pal friends and the incredible Post Pals team who continue to surprise and move us with the lovely postcards, letters, cards and gifts.

We hope you all have a wonderful December ♥️

Update 6th October 2017

Hello. Well, it’s been a busy few months as Lewis has continued to have severe chest infections and increased risk of pneumonia, so we have had to avoid people and leaving the house most of the time to keep Lewis safe from coughs and colds.  Each chest infection has left more lasting damage in Lewis’ lungs, so he is now on the humidified ventilator 24 hours a day with very high ventilator pressures to keep his lungs from collapsing.  To make it easier to care for Lewis now he has to spend most of his time in bed, his bedroom is now in what was the dining, right next to the kitchen and the lounge.

In September, Lewis was best man for his Daddy and Daddy’s new wife Emma at their wedding.  It was a very special day for us and even the local newspaper did a front page story about it.

Lewis has a new favourite which is Stitch from the Disney movie Lilo and Stitch.  We now watch Lilo and Stitch every single day and he loves it so much that we have decided that instead of having a traditional Christmas this year, we are going to have a Luaua Christmas – the reasoning behind this is that (as with everything in our life with Lewis), this may be his last Christmas, so instead of it being dark with dark reds and greens, we will have a bright colourful Hawaiian Christmas!

Lewis has been receiving such lovely postcards and photos from Post Pals friends, so we have purchased even more LED pegs to go above his bed.  When Lewis receives new postcards or photos, we hang them up above his bed so he can see them all the time, so thank you to everybody who has sent Lewis such lovely, bright colourful post!

Lewis has also received some amazing gifts from Post Pals and we cherish them all – THANK YOU!

Update 6th July 2017

Lewis has had pneumonia twice, almost back to back this past few months so had to have a 2-week then another 4 week dose of strong antibiotics to try and clear up the second round.

This has meant he has not been able to come off his humidified vent, and therefore has not been able to leave the house for quite some time, but we have been gradually doing very short trips on the dry vent to see how he copes. He has managed ok initially but then after a few hours the after effects have caused breathing difficulties and low O2 saturation levels.

However, this week, with lots of preparation, we have taken Lew Lew to the local cinema to see Despicable Me 3 not once, but twice! And we plan to go again next week!

It isn’t out on DVD until November and we can’t wait that long without seeing it again!

We sadly had to miss the Mad Hatters Post Pals Party last week for two reasons. First, our lovely family friends, Sam and Barry, had their wedding vow renewal day that day (where Lewis spent most of the day laid on the sofa with CBeebies and his ventilator!) – it was a beautiful day and Lew Lew got to see lots of pretty ladies in their posh frocks!

Secondly, with Lewis’ lung health being so poor now, we couldn’t contemplate such a long journey away from home with him having just got over pneumonia.

Lewis has received some wonderful cards and letters this past couple of months and some fabulous gifts! Thank you all so much!

We will be doing some personal thank you’s very soon so please, if you would like us to reply, remember a return address (and print clearly as my eyesight is getting old – like the rest of me!).

Looking forward to seeing lots more photos from the Post Pals Party!

And thank you for all the pet photos which we do put up for lewis to see.

Update 1st January 2017

Like a lot of Post Pals families, there has been a lot of illness here. Not only Lewis, but mummy, daddy, close family members and nurses!

Lewis has been struggling with some very painful issues with his hips, spine, digestive system, his seizures, and coughs and colds. He still smiles and laughs though – they are just a little bit harder to find.

Lewis has had some incredible post in 2016 and now (hopefully) everyone is recovering, we will be able to go through the return addresses and personally thank every one of you.

Now we are in 2017, Lewis has his 13th birthday in February. Lewis’ condition means his life expectancy is 10-12 years old so it’s very worrying for us as we are on borrowed time.

All I can say to you all is how special and precious and truly joyous you have helped to make these years with Lewis and what wonderful and lifelong friends we have made on our journey. Let us hope Lewis can prove the numbers wrong and stay with us this whole year.

Much love to all, especially the amazing young women at Post Pals Central

Update 12th October 2016

Lewis is doing ok at the moment. His seizures are gradually increasing, and his bone/joint pain is intermittent but each time he has a bout of pain, it seems to hurt him more than ever. Heartbreaking to see the pain in his eyes. But despite all that, he still smiles and laughs and his Trachy has developed a small leak (air can pass the tracheostomy tube and pass the vocal cords) which means we get little tiny surprise bursts of sound from him – it’s so amazing to hear his beautiful voice, even if it is just for a split second.

It is Lewis’ step sister’s birthday this weekend so we are looking forward to going to her birthday party. Poppy will be 6!

Our rescue kitten Benjamin is growing fast. And another rescue cat which adopted us last year (Arthur) is recovering from being lost for 4 months and coming home looking like a skeleton cat. Lewis loves having the animals around him, they often make him laugh, especially when they are making a lot of noise!

Lewis is loving receiving postcards and now the weather is colder, we shall be spending more time in his sensory room where all his postcards decorate the walls and ceiling.

Lewis has a lot of toys he cannot play with and so we are going to sort through them gradually and hope to send them to fellow pals.

We have the Alice in wonderland post pals party to look forward to next year as well x

Update 17th August 2016

Hello! It’s always scary to say we are doing fine, but we will be brave and do it! Lewis has been stable for a couple of months now. The odd seizures, but nothing we couldn’t manage at home. The weather has had its moments of being too hot for Lew Lew but it has meant afternoons indoors with the fan and CBeebies so he hasn’t complained! Lewis has received some beautiful post this past couple of months from our wonderful post pal friends – his postcard ceiling in the sensory room is looking amazing!

On 27th August Lewis is having a party arranged as a wish from Rays of Sunshine Charity. We have lots of children as we wanted it to be a party for lots of children so if you are local to Doncaster and would like to pop along, please send a message through Lewis’s Facebook page or through Post Pals website.

With the passing of time, Lewis is getting older, which is scary because it means we are running out of time, but it also means we are putting even more effort in to making amazing memories with him. As Lewis’ classification of NCL/Batten Disease is so rare, he is the only child in the world of his age known to have this mutation so we don’t know what will happen or when. There is one other little boy we know of in India and he is much younger than Lew Lew. He’s also absolutely gorgeous just like Lew Lew!! Every new day with Lewis is a gift for us to treasure.

Love to all our friends who are now like family. Any post received with a return address will eventually be replied to, sorry if it can sometimes be quite a long while!

Update 5th July 2016

What an amazing month June has been. We got to go to two spectacular parties.  The first was with Post Pals and I cannot describe how special it was, and what an amazing day we had.  We met old and new friends, we met Post Pals we have been communicating with for several years. There was a lot of hugging and a lot of love!  The party itself was quite simply the best party ever!  We all had such an amazing time – it was truly a day of a lifetime.

Lewis hasn’t been too great over the past few weeks, with seizures and generally being under the weather, but we have carried on taking care of him and doing all we can to make him smile!  He always loves receiving post with his name on! Lewis now has a platform outside his bedroom patio doors so that when he is particularly poorly, we can wheel his bed outside on to the platform so he can still enjoy time in the garden and fresh air.

I was clearing out the spare bedroom just this week and I found a big pile of Lewis’ Post Pals postcards, so they are now in the sensory room on display with the rest.  Some of them go as far back as 2010, so Lewis and I will be replying to the postcards which had return addresses on.  They all look so amazing in Lewis’s sensory room – such a bright and colourful way to decorate the walls and ceiling!

Update 3rd May 2016

Lewis and I have received some lovely post this past few weeks and I have kept my cards out on display – they really do mean so much.

Thank you to Post Pals for the butterfly growing kit. We aren’t ready to start ‘growing’ yet, but will take photos once we do. Lewis also received some super soft toys from Post Pals. Lewis loves puppets so our collection is getting very exciting for our puppet shows to help Lewis laugh! Also he loved his deer blanket cuddly and his wobbly head Fraggle!

A particular thank you from me to Bev for the lovely card which made me chuckle!

Lewis has been unwell quite a lot over the past few weeks, including a hospital admission for uncontrollable seizures. We manage almost all of Lewis’ medical care at home. Sometimes we need some extra help, but since his recent admission plans are now being discussed to be able to give Lewis IV medication at home.

Lewis has been in a great deal of pain with his scoliosis and hip problems so we are trying to balance Lewis’ pain management without losing the essence of Lewis in sedation.

Lewis has very much enjoyed spending time with his new step-sister, Poppy, who is 5. Poppy is busy trying to teach Lewis’ dog, Phoebe, new tricks, which is always fun!

We look forward to seeing everyone at the Post Pals party in June . Poppy will be coming too which will make Lewis very happy.

Update 13th April 2016

Lewis has had a chest infection which needed antibiotics. The antibiotics caused him a very upset tummy which he is just getting over now, a week after finishing the antibiotics.

On top of that, the past few nights Lewis has been having very bad seizures which have now spilled over into the daytime while Lewis is awake (mostly his seizures only come when he’s asleep). Today is a battle to keep him out of hospital as he has had his rescue medication but, so far, it has been ineffective.

Hoping Lewis can fight this and we can stay at home. We have HDU at home so admitting we have to go to hospital is pretty serious for us.

Thank you for all Lewis’ amazing post. We will take time to thank everybody once Lewis is feeling better and things can go a little more back to normal.

Update 16th February 2016

Well January started off really slowly, but now we find ourselves in the second half of February, and almost to Lewis’ 12th Birthday! This is pretty spectacular as when we received his diagnosis of NCL / Batten Disease, they said 11 years old was the expected life expectancy. So to be getting to 12 is something to celebrate! We are having a kind of party in the local Pizza Hut and so far 44 people are coming! (they are all paying for themselves, though!) And we have arranged a surprise visit for Lewis (but, shush, don’t tell him!) of Upsi Daisy and Iggle Piggle from In the Night Garden!

It seems that everyone around us has succumbed to a horrible flu-like cough and cold, so we are trying very hard to avoid getting that in our home. Something like that can be a massive problem, not only for Lewis and trying to keep him away from hospital, but also for myself and his nurses who need to be fully fit 24/7 to look after him properly!

Thankfully, since our last update, Lewis hasn’t had too many seizures (everything crossed, as usual!) and I’m pretty sure he’s having a growth spurt. I’m going to have to sort out his clothes as a lot of them don’t fit his long legs anymore, and some of his t-shirts are just too short! It’s lovely though to know he’s growing, because, of course, that gives us hope that he’s doing well at the moment!

Sadly, just today, our eldest cat passed away. She was almost 17 years old and she died in her sleep. We still have 6 cats left and, of course, our crazy puppy, Phoebe, who was a year old the day before Valentine’s Day! Thank you so much for Lewis’ lovely Valentine cards! He was very much spoilt!

Post Pals cards and gifts have already begun arriving for his birthday at the end of this month, so they have been put safely away until the special day!

We will be taking lots of photos at Lewis’ birthday party, and thanking everybody for your lovely cards and gifts! Could I just ask, people who send Lewis post – please could you put a return address in as we are now more organised here and Lewis is enjoying helping me to reply with personal cards and letters as part of our home education!

Update 3rd January 2016

What a busy December! Lewis had two interactive Post Pals advent calendars to open, from Nanna Lyn and from Grace & Henry, plus a picture advent calendar from Bev, and a WOW advent calendar from Post Pals which we had so much fun with.

Lewis received such lovely elf gifts and we have tried to individually thank everybody for the love and kindness shown to us this Christmas – even I got some gifts which were so lovely and a really precious surprise!

With Lewis, being busy seems to automatically mean being unwell. He has had a bad chest early in December, and then unexplained (so far) temperature spikes and random seizures. He is still unwell but we hope he will start to pick up soon.

We look forward, as always, to warmer weather so we can get out and about more.

Lewis no longer attends school due to his illness so we do educational activities at home as much as possible.

Thank you for another wonderful Post Pals year with Domino (Dottie’s litter pup), the monthly projects, and the wonderful friends we now consider family who we made through post pals.

Update 13th October 2015

Hello.  Well, here we are in October.  What happened to September? Lewis has been stable since his seizure scare last month.  A tweaking of medications has sorted him out for now so hopefully goodbye to nasty seizures for a while. We are now getting settled into our routine together. Since Lewis’ care package reduced from 24/7, Lewis and I now get to spend from midday until 10pm each day on our own.  We have fun trying to think of things to do each afternoon, ranging from baking, making cards, painting, watching funny music videos on YouTube, snuggling on the sofa with a family movie, or, if the weather is nice, getting outside with crazy Phoebe puppy in the garden.

Since Lewis’ care package has been reduced, its been a lot more difficult to get out of the house, but a lovely friend who lives right down south near the sea (Dorset) has very kindly donated her daughter’s specialist car seat to us so I can get to take Lewis out on short trips in the car on my own.  Can’t wait to get that little bit of freedom back!  Before Lewis had his tracheostomy and ventilator, we were always off out and about together!

We have been planning what we will be doing for Hallowe’en, Bonfire Night and, of course, Christmas!  We have to plan these things early and then hope that Lewis stays well enough to actually do the things we plan!  We are being brave this year and spending Christmas away from home with friends.  As you will know by now, we avoid hospital at all costs!  All of Lewis’ medical care is done at home.  If it’s bad enough to go to hospital, it’s bad.

We have a huge fish pond in our garden which we were able to completely revamp with the help of donations from charities.  It is a special sensory pond which Lewis loves. Now the nights are drawing in we get to see the twinkly lights much earlier – a good side of the darker nights coming with winter!  In the summer, we put Lewis’ two fish tank fish into the pond to see how they would cope with the bigger pond fish.  Well, we are pleased they have grown really fast and are four times the size they were when they went in!  They are called Makka and Pakka (after my favourite TV programme, In The Night Garden).  We hope they will all survive ok when the really cold weather comes.

We are hoping to be able to go and visit one of our Post Pal friends soon as well, Lewis’ health willing!

Thank you to Lewis’ Post Pals for all the amazing gifts, cards and letters he has received since our last update.  Don’t forget, we are decorating the ceiling of Lewis’ sensory room with postcards!  Also, if you send post to Lewis, please please put a return address or email in so we can reply.  We take a while to reply, but we do get around to it eventually!

Update 24th September 2015

Hello. So the summer is over and we are looking forward to Halloween here now! We are enjoying the latter sunny weather and Lewis is spending a lot of time out in the garden around his sensory pond. We have taken advantage of the shops selling off all their summer garden lighting and ornaments to make Lewis’ sensory pond even more spectacular, and of course because its now getting darker earlier, Lewis can enjoy the lights before bedtime.

Healthwise Lewis is pretty stable. He has had some of his anti epileptic medication increased because of his seizures getting worse at night, and he’s also had the pressures on his ventilator increased to help him breathe better when he’s asleep at night too. As we come into the colder weather though, Lewis’ health is at more risk of deterioration because of the winter bugs like flu and RSV, so we have to start being extra careful with him, especially around people, or in areas where bugs will be flying around! This can make life pretty boring, so we try to do lots of fun activities at home as much as possible without wearing Lewis out.

We are preparing our outfits for Halloween again and we have decided we will be characters from the film Corpse Bride. We love to have trick or treaters visit us on Halloween night (only the treaters though, no tricks please!) and so we decorate the garden to encourage children to visit, and we have the big patio door open and wait patiently with a huge bowl of sweets and treats!

We still do wonder if Lewis will ever have to not have his tracheostomy, but we know that in reality, it has saved his life and that it will not come out as he relies on it too much, more and more as time goes by. So although its horrid and it makes life so very difficult, it means that Lewis is here with us to enjoy and to love. And as always, he still manages to wow us with his gorgeous smile and his amazing laugh (silent laugh because his tracheostomy tube blocks his voice). It is the best thing ever to see his eyes crinkle up and his shoulders shake when he sees something super funny – usually Iggle Piggle and UpsiDaisy sneezing, or Big and Small playing on the swing!

Thank you to the amazing ladies at Post Pals for making it possible for us to reach out to such a wonderful group of people (Post Pals volunteers and friends) and for the wonderful friends we have made on this journey so far. We are often slow at responding to Lewis’ wonderful post, but if you give a return address or email we do get there eventually! Promise!

As you know, Samuel, Lewis’ older brother, is 22 and at university now, but when he was younger he loved being part of Post Pals too as a sibling.

Update 14th August 2015

Thank you this month to Post Pals for the very cute knitted doll! Also, for the lovely cards and gifts Lewis has received. We would like to say a really huge thank you to Teresa and Clive (who we met through Post Pals) and who were able to come and spend the day with us for Lewis’ Naming Day last month.

So many children we know have passed recently and there have been so many funerals. This set me to thinking that people pull out all the stops to attend a funeral, especially that of a child, but they often don’t make the same effort to visit when the person is still alive. I wanted to celebrate Lewis while he is still here and so I came upon the idea of a Naming Day to bring everybody together.

We had a great turn out and it was an amazingly special day with so many memories made. Friends from all over the UK came to the day and made it extra special. Meeting Teresa and another friend we had met online (but never face to face) was so wonderful. I am so happy so many people got to enjoy Lewis’ special day WITH him, rather than everybody coming together for the sad occasion when Lewis leaves us to become an Angel. I would encourage parents of terminally ill children to do this as although it is incredibly emotional, it is a happy day of celebrating. It was wonderful.

Lewis is pretty much stable health wise (everything crossed as I type that!) although his lungs are struggling day to day and we do have difficulties with his SATs (oxygen levels) every evening now. Lewis’ eyes are sore all the time now from straining to see his favourite DVDs and TV programmes, but he still smiles. Sometimes he even treats us with his amazing laugh, which is silent because of his tracheostomy tube, but his shoulders shake and his smile is so huge and his eyes light up!

Lewis’ puppy Phoebe is six months old now and still as cheeky – it is always funny when she tries to lay on Lewis’ lap as she did as a tiny puppy, because now she just doesn’t fit!

Update 23rd July 2015

First of all, thank you for the amazing paper cut framed gifts we received via Post Pals. We were so overwhelmed, they are beautiful and will be treasured forever.

Secondly, thank you for all the lovely cards and letters and of course our regular Dottie newsletter which we love to receive and always know who it’s from by the giveaway paw prints on the envelope!

Lewis is doing ok. He is having a spate of seizures again. With Lewis’ condition, we will never know if this cluster of seizures is ‘the one’ or if this infection of illness or deterioration is ‘the one’. It can make life very stressful indeed which is why we make sure to squeeze every drop out of every day.

Lewis’ puppy, Phoebe, is growing fast and is very, very cheeky! When she was tiny, she used to like sleeping next to Lewis. She is a big girl now and still likes to sleep next to Lewis but is a little bit too big now so it’s quite funny to watch her trying!

This weekend Lewis is having a naming day. This is like a christening but is non religious. The reason behind this is that we wanted to bring as many people together as we could to celebrate Lewis so that he can enjoy them too. As you know, Lewis’ illness is terminal and so one day everybody will get together to say goodbye. I wanted all those people to get together for a happy time so we have friends giving readings and we hope it will be an extra special day. In true Lewis style, though, he’s starting to get ill!! I hope so much that he is fine for Saturday as we have guests from as fat apart as Scotland and Taunton! It will be busy and the preparation is really stressful but we hope it will all be worth it and that Lewis will have an extra special day.

Lewis’ brother Samuel has been home from university for the summer but is going back at the beginning of August to do his Masters. It’s been lovely to have him home and we will miss him loads when he heads off again.

Thank you again to all Lewis’ post pals in UK and overseas. We do try to get around to sending personal replies in the post if you give a return address or email, but sometimes it takes a few weeks!

Happy summer to everybody!

Update 7th June 2015

Lewis has another chest infection and so is on antibiotics again, but otherwise he is feeling quite well and is very smiley and happy!

He is enjoying the sunshine and has had some surprise visitors this month (May) already, particularly Jan and family from Taunton in Somerset, and our very own Post Pal Leona who is all the way from Scotland!  It was amazing to meet Leona after all these years of her being a regular Post Pal for Lewis!  A very overwhelming and emotional day!

We are really looking forward to coming to the Post Pals Party at the end of this month!

Update 30th April 2015

Lewis has 24/7 care by qualified carers but due to illness, maternity leave, going off to college/university and childcare issues, Lewis’ care package collapsed in March. Since then it has been very stressful as Lewis’ medical/clinical needs are way too much for one person (in other words, me, his mum). For a few weeks we had emergency cover by agency nurses and finally in mid April we started with a new care agency called Thornbury.  This means we have been having a qualified nurse and an unqualified (training) healthcare assistant doing 12 hour shifts around the clock. Consequently, the house is always full and busy with training and teaching new people Lewis’ routines and needs, and both Lewis and I are getting used to having these new people around.

In addition, we finally gave in and got a puppy! She is called Phoebe and she is now 10.5 weeks old and absolutely gorgeous! An absolute bundle of madness and we love her completely! She is brilliant around Lewis, and completely crazy around everybody else until she collapses on the floor in a heap from exhaustion!

To coincide with the new care agency starting, Lewis also got a very bad chest infection. He has been on antibiotics for 2+ weeks now and is still quite poorly with it. He is also having seizures and very high temperatures – all infection related – so we are doing our best to keep him as well as possible while he recovers. We did manage to get out to the cinema recently to see Disney’s Home and he really enjoyed it!

Lewis has had some lovely Post Pals post but we haven’t had chance to take photos of him with it yet to put on his Facebook page. If you have sent Lewis post, we will get around to it, I absolutely promise! And if you leave your return address in the envelope or email, we will also get around to a personal thank you at some point. We make lots of plans to do activities with Lewis but often his poor health prevents this from happening.

Yesterday, Lewis got a visit from the SpecialEffect Charity Team to introduce him to a new, super high-tech eye computer to play games on! They already loan Lewis an eye computer for communications but this new one really is amazing! I expect Lewis will be able to use it sooner than we will learn as he is very quick at picking up the programmes on his eye computer! Now that a new kind of funding has been made available by the government for eye gaze equipment for disabled children, we hope soon to be able to give the charity their equipment back so they can loan it to some other much deserving children!

In July I will be running the Vitality British 10k for the Batten Disease Family Association so I will at some point be begging for sponsorship from all of Lewis’ friends and supporters! Details will be available on Lewis’ facebook in the next few weeks (and then probably every single day after that!).

Update 3rd March 2015

Hello. This past month has been very busy, not least because it was Lewis’ 11th Birthday!

Earlier this month we helped to film a video for the Department of Health about what it is like living with a diagnosis of a rare disease. The video was launched on Lewis’ birthday, which is also World Rare Disease Day! I did mention Post Pals in the interview, but they didn’t keep that part in the final cut, unfortunately. You can watch the video on YouTube
http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=FLkVX1SK7NCrXR2E5xKoV-jA

Lewis had to go on a strong course of antibiotics earlier this month because his neck wound had got infected. The good news is that the neck wound is looking better although it is still very large and causes him a lot of pain and discomfort, especially at tape change time which happens every day after his bath. He’s so brave!

We’ve also been interviewing some new potential carers for Lewis’ at home care package, as he does have a 24/7 waking fully trained care requirement. The girls who look after Lewis do 12 hour shifts every single day/night and are amazing. We are so lucky to have such wonderful people in Lewis’ life.

And of course we come to Lewis’ birthday! We were overwhelmed by the amount of Post Pals post Lewis has received for his birthday! There was so much post, we did open a lot of his presents on his actual birthday, but two days later we still have a pile of unopened packages! We have been so busy, we haven’t got around to them yet, but we will, and the photos will be on his facebook page very soon!

He had a wonderful day and not one but FOUR birthday cakes! This morning he had a slice of Gruffalo cake blended in with his porridge. Lewis has blended porridge and fruit every morning for breakfast via his feeding tube into his tummy, then he has a healthy lunch of meat, vegetables and potatoes, pasta or rice, and then some fruit later on. He eats very well, considering he is nil by mouth!

As you may know, Lewis’ medical professionals have suggested that due to his illness, he has a life expectancy of 11 years, so you can imagine this birthday was extra special for us. Let’s all hope and pray that Lewis defies the odds and has many more birthdays after this one!

Love and hugs to all Lewis’ wonderful supporters old and new and as yet undiscovered!

Update 31st January 2015

Not long since our last update and nothing much has changed. I have signed up to do the British 10k in London on behalf of the Batten Disease Family Association. I did the same run in 2010 for the charity SpecialEffect. I think I have only just recovered from that run in time for this one five years later!

Lewis is doing ok. He is very noisy with his breathing and seems to struggle a lot, but his oxygen saturations are good so we aren’t sure what is wrong. We have changed his diet to try and put some weight on him as he is only 22kg, so he’s getting a lot of calorie dense foods at the moment to try and bulk him up a bit. He cannot cope with large volumes so we are having to find foods with lots of calories in a small volume. It is a task!

We are currently getting quotes to have Lewis’ bedroom window changed into a patio door as he has a new charity funded sensory garden pond but it is difficult to get him out into it so we will have direct access from his bedroom which will be particularly important when he becomes too ill to really leave his bedroom.

Lewis has had some wonderful post from Post Pals, particularly recently. We do cherish every letter, postcard and gift, and everything has a place. We do try to remember to put photos on Lewis’ facebook page of all his posts so please do remember to check often.

We saw Lewis’ neurologist recently who has given us permission to give Lewis high dose oral rescue medication at home if he starts having seizures again so this will hopefully greatly reduce our need to take him into hospital.

We are very much looking forward to Lewis’ birthday at the end of February. We have The Gruffalo theme going on and are looking forward to lots of Gruffalo type games on the day! We are going to try REALLY hard to come to the Post Pals Summer Party this year as well!

Lots of love to all Lewis’ friends and supporters!

Update 18th January 2015

I’m really sorry, we don’t seem to have updated for quite some time!

Lewis has Batten Disease. The illness we were twice told he didnt have, even though he showed all signs – well finally through a special micro-DNA study, they found a faulty gene which Lewis got from us (mum and dad) which is a new form of (neuronal ceroid lipofuscinosis) Batten Disease which wasn’t diagnosed before because nobody had seen it before.

It has been a difficult journey coming to terms with this, that Lewis has a terminal illness which has a life expectancy of around 11 years.

Lewis has also been quite poorly over the past couple of months, he sleeps alot and is easily sick so he has lost weight. He now weighs 22kg, but he keeps getting taller, so he is quite skinny!

We do still manage to get smiles from Lewis, but he is in constant, chronic pain with scoliosis, kyphosis, discolated hips, unhealed shoulder fracture, pressure sore in the creases of his neck, and other things we probably even don’t know about. On Boxing Day his broviac line dislodged due to tissue granulation, so for a period of time we were not allowed to leave the house or give Lewis a bath because of the infection risk. It has now been removed so we can leave the house again, and Lewis can have a bath!! However it means we don’t have IV access anymore. Luckily, Lewis’ neurologist has agreed that we can give him an oral dose of his epilepsy rescue medication at home so we no longer have to take Lewis into Resus via ambulance if he goes into seizure clusters. The oral dose will take longer to work than the IV dose but will have the same effect overall (to stop the seizures) and it means we can stay home.

Our aim is to keep Lewis out of hospital and to keep him as well as we can for as long as we can so we can enjoy spending time with him and making precious memories.

As we have had such difficulty taking Lewis away from home for any period of time, the Pilgrimage did fall a little flat, but we have been making up for this by using the Fund to buy things Lewis can enjoy at home.

Lewis still loves to receive Post Pals post and continues to recognise his name on his post, although his eyesight is starting to deteriorate slightly. We continue to post Lewis’ photos on his facebook page and tag Post Pals as much as we can.

We have received some amazing post for Lewis and we are now endeavouring to return post if we have return addresses – we are good at the writing and drawing, but just not so good at the actual getting to the post office part! Bear with us!

We are now planning Lewis’ 11th Birthday party for the end of February. It is going to be small and simple, but all Post Pal buddies are welcome to come and visit Lew Lew at anytime, just let us know and we can make plans!

Thank you again for all your amazing support.

Update 18th October 2014

Lewis is doing well. We had a great surprise recently when Lewis was nominated for and won the Outstanding Bravery Award at the Yorkshire Children Bravery Awards 2014 in Leeds. Lewis got to meet the actual real life Chuckle Brothers which was massively exciting as we have loved watching them for many years!

Lewis’ neck wound is healing well so we will soon be ready for him to go into hospital for his broviac surgery. His broviac line will be removed and replaced with a port-a-cath. Lewis requires this direct IV access as he is very difficult to cannulate and requires IV medications in an extreme emergency situation (if he needs IV medications, it has to be immediately).

We have had a couple of practice trips for Lewis’ Pilgrimage and we are getting ready for our first proper trip to Taunton in Somerset next month. Then in December we will be heading to Southampton to meet some Post Pals friends! Very exciting indeed!

Lewis has received some lovely post this month and we feel very privileged to have made such amazing friends.

Update 29th August 2014

Since we received Lewis’ diagnosis of NCL on KTCD7, we have gone into overdrive fundraising to fulfil some wishes for Lewis. We cant go far with Lewis and we cant do much, so we are planning a trip around the UK to visit his Post Pal friends! The fundraising has been a huge success and we will be starting our visits next month if all goes to plan! We look forward to meeting as many Post Pals people as we can. Lewis wasn’t well enough to come to the Post Pals Party, but we have taken lots of precautions and plan to travel in a special vehicle which is extra comfortable for Lewis, with lots of supplies!

Lewis has received such lovely post this past couple of months. As usual we have taken photographs and put them all on his facebook page. Lewis always loves receiving post, and he recognises the Lewis J on the letters and postcards and parcels!!

There is no plan to take Lewis back to school as he is too poorly and because the time we have left with him is very limited, so we are going to try and make as many memories as we can while we can.

Post Pals has been amazing for us. I remember the first post we received – two huge parcels from the Post Pals Christmas Elves! We haven’t looked back – the friends we have made, the amazing children we have learned about, and the family we have got that we didn’t have all those years ago. Our Post Pals family.

Update 9th July 2014

Yesterday we finally received a diagnosis for Lewis’ condition and that he has defective gene KCT07 which he got from mummy and daddy. It’s incredibly rare for two people to have the same gene problem and meet and have a child. The diagnosis came from the second stage of the DDD study which is a study where the DNA is micro-analysed and this takes several years as you can imagine.

At the moment we are simply in shock.

The condition is progressive and degenerative with no cure, treatment or recovery. It is a distant cousin of Batten Disease which will explain why this kept cropping up in connection with Lewis’ deterioration.

Very little is known about the condition as it is so rare.

We hope (as always with the help of amazing Post Pals buddies) to give Lewis happiness every single day that we are luckily enough to have him with us.

He also had a recent scoliosis appointment and his curve is 100 degrees plus and therefore inoperable.

Our beautiful little boy still manages to smile despite being in constant and considerable pain.

Update 12th May 2014

Hello everybody. Thank you all for the lovely post Lewis has received from Post Pals. We continue to post photos and thank you comments on Lewis’ facebook page and we hope you get to see them. I keep putting particular pieces of post aside to respond to personally by post, and the pile is getting larger all the time! I promise I will get organised!

This past week I have just been able to start caring for Lewis by myself which is a major achievement for me after 5 months of feeling terrified of the responsibility. Lewis has been so smiley and happy and he really is enjoying life at the moment. He is loving watching his DVDs in his new sensory room, having his books read to him, and listening to music. He loves his Post Pals post, especially the post cards which we are going to use to decorate the ceiling with in his sensory room so that when he is lying on the sensory carpet, he can look up at see all his post!

We really feel like we are getting organised here now. Lewis’ trampoline has been sunk into the ground so that he can now go on it easily as it is at ground level. We have had some decking put in the garden so he can sit out comfortably in his wheelchair, and we are also in the process of making a corner of the garden his very own sensory garden!

Lewis still remains undiagnosed but (everything crossed!) his seizures seem to be finally under control again. His shoulder and hip are still sore but we have agreed no surgery this year if we can help it. He also needs extensive spinal surgery for his scolio-kyphosis as well but all his doctors and we his parents agree that the best place for Lewis this year is at home, with no hospital! So we are trying very hard to achieve this!

This weekend we are taking an extra special trip to London to Hamleys for an extra special party for 60 children from all over the UK which is being hosted by the Strongbones Childrens Charity. We have got to dress up as pirates and princesses! We are hoping the trip will go smoothly – it is a practice run for the Post Pals summer party on 28th June as we hope to be able to come to that too!

Lots of love to everybody on Post Pals. Thank you so much for everything and we hope to keep bringing you positive and happy news.

Update 5th February 2014

Happy New Year everybody! Well we have managed to stay at home, although Lewis has had several hospital visits in an ambulance because since we came home from Sheffield Children’s Hospital, he’s had a lot of seizures. Lewis’s neurologist has now started him on a new anti epileptic medication called Phenytoin which is what they were using in hospital as a rescue medication. We hope this works as there isn’t much left to help with his seizures if this new medicine doesn’t work.

Lewis has been so much brighter and happier and we have been getting lots of smiles. He has even laughed, but we can’t hear his laughter sounds anymore because of his tracheostomy. He is gaining weight well – such a difference from the skin and bone he became last summer. He is getting used to his trachy now and his tummy and bowel seem to be settling down as well which is really great news as he has had problems since April 2013, just before his admission to hospital for that long 6 months.

Lewis has lots of care at the moment as it is difficult for me (mum) to cope with all his new requirements on my own. His carers have been absolutely amazing and almost part of the family, which is lucky since they are here 24 hours a day at the moment!

We still have no diagnosis for Lewis. The doctors now say Lewis has ‘undiagnosed neurological degeneration with epileptic type seizures and movement disorder’. We will continue to search for a diagnosis for Lewis, try and discover what turned him from a normal little 3 year old boy into a child who can’t move or speak or eat.

Lewis will be going back to school for a couple of hours in the next few weeks and then the plan is to re-integrate Lewis into school gradually after the Easter holidays. He is really excited about going back to school, but he gets very tired at the moment and all his new medical requirements have to be sorted before he can go back. He will go back to school with a one-to-one carer who is fully trained to care for him.

Lewis really needs hip and spine surgery this year but his doctors have agreed that he needs to have a good period of recovery after long hospital admission, so we are going to try and put it all off until next year if we can.

Lewis has loved receiving all his amazing Post Pals post while we were in Sheffield Children’s Hospital, and also since we have come home. He was thrilled with his amazing Elf gifts! Thank you! It has been difficult for me to thank everybody personally because I had a bit of a breakdown when we finally got home from hospital so I’ve not been well myself, but once I am back on track, I will try to thank everybody personally for the amazing support, gifts, cards, letters and love Lewis and I have received over the past months.

Update 26th November 2013

Lewis has been in HDU at Sheffield children’s hospital (after various trips back and forth to ICU) for over 5 months now. The Post Pals cards and letters and postcards he has received have been great for decorating his bed space.

Well, everything crossed, this coming Monday we will be packing everything away ready to finally leave hospital and go to Bluebell Wood Children’s Hospice until Friday when we will finally go home!

We are very excited but as Lewis has been this close to discharge on numerous occasions, we won’t celebrate until we are settled in and have definitely left HDU for good! Well, at least until next year!

Update 26th October 2013

I had my first tracheostomy change on Thursday. It needs changing every week. The tapes that hold it in place need changing every evening. At the moment it is quite a big hole in my neck but as it heals up the hole will get smaller. The skin on my face, which was getting very sore from the mask I was wearing, is now much better.

I am still having very powerful and uncomfortable spasms in my right shoulder which I have now had Botox for – hopefully this will start to work in the next few days.

My left hip has now become dislocated and will require surgery (I had the same surgery on my right hip last year).

I am on antibiotics for a UTI again so I will be having my kidneys checked at some point to make sure they are functioning ok.

Everybody who needs to be trained in how to care for me with my tracheostomy is coming in to learn all the new ways to care for me as I will now have to be cared for only by a person who has had tracheostomy training. Once everyone is happy and comfortable caring for me, I will be allowed to start going home and should be home properly before Christmas.

Mummy has planned an extra special Christmas for us to celebrate!

Update 24th October 2013

Lewis has now had his tracheostomy and we are learning how to care for him with this new thing.

He’s doing really well and is really bright and happy. He’s really loving his Post Pals post and we are decorating his bed space as much as we can to make it nice for him.

We hope to be able to go home before Christmas.

Update 14th October 2013

Today we had Lewis’ MDT meeting (all professionals involved in Lewis’ care) and we expected to be discussing being discharged at some point this week. Instead we will be here for another 4-6 weeks as Lewis will be having surgery early next week to give him a tracheotomy. This is necessary because attempts to wean Lewis off the NIV have failed and we really want to get Lewis out of hospital and back home.

A bit of a shock, very scary, but Lewis is a hero and we love him so very much.

Update 3rd October 2013

Lewis is still in critical care at Sheffield children’s hospital but is doing really well. We were due to go on home leave for 48 hours this week but Lewis has managed to get a chest infection and as he is now on non invasive ventilation for his weakened lungs (from prolonged and numerous intubations on ICU). So because he now also needs oxygen, he needs to stay in hospital until he has kicked this bug!

It’s been a very long slog in hospital and we are really looking forward to going home but better to be properly well before we take that big step.

Lewis has managed to get out to the park across the road before he got the infection, so he has seen a bit of the outside world! We miss our cats and fish!

As we have been in hospital all summer, we intend to make the most of the rest of the year so will be celebrating Halloween, bonfire night and Christmas in great style!

Thank you to everybody who has sent Lewis cards, postcards, letters and gifts. We really appreciate it all and do try to take photos and do thank yous on his Facebook page.

Update 31st August 2013

Lewis has now been in hospital for 10 weeks, most of them in ICU at sheffield children’s hospital. There have been a few problems. The first two were severe stomach problems combined with very low levels in his blood. The blood became the priority and so the choices were bone marrow aspiration to check function, or temporarily stopping Lewis’ anti epileptic medication as a side effect of this is decreased bone marrow function. Lewis has been on the same AED for 6 years, but they suggested the stomach problems may have triggered this new reaction.

Less than a week into reducing the AED, Lewis went into status epilepticus (constantly having seizures) so was intubated and transferred from Doncaster to Sheffield by the amazing Embrace transport team. While on ICU, we discovered what was causing Lewis’ stomach problems. When his PEG was replaced with a new one in 2010, his bowel had moved between his abdomen and stomach so the new PEG was inserted through the bowel and remained there for 3 years without anyone knowing. During this time, Lewis PEG sore was always very sore and infected and unbeknown to us, a tunnel was forming, connecting Lewis bowel and stomach together and his bowel had also become stuck to his abdomen wall.

Lewis had already lost a lot of weight (approximately a third of his body weight) through his recent stomach problems, and so it was agreed he was not strong enough for the major laparotomy surgery required so the surgeons decided to try the surgery laparoscopically (using cameras instead of a large incision). The surgery was successful – they unstuck the bowel from the abdomen, sealed up the infected peg site and put in a new peg. They decided to leave the tunnel and hope it healed itself. Unfortunately the tunnel has not healed so Lewis will be fed into his jejunum (entrance to intestines) for 3 months and when he is stronger, he will have the laparotomy to sew up the holes.

So that was sorted out, fits had calmed down, AED was re-started, and we were coming home. Then Lewis suffered a collapsed lung so went back into ICU.

Since then, Lewis has had problems with collapsed lungs and been intubated and vented several times. He has also gone into status epilepticus again after an antibiotic for a urine infection had a nasty side effect of dropping his AED levels to zero. That was 2 weeks ago.

On Tuesday, Lewis had his ventilator tube removed and he went on to non invasive ventilation (NIV) but only lasted half an hour before requiring re-intubating. Yesterday they tried again and he is now on NIV and doing ok although he has another urine infection and is on (different) antibiotics, but the infection is causing him to have a lot of fits so for now we are still in intensive care.

Lewis has been through so much and has been so immensely brave. He has loved getting post pals cards, letters, postcards and gifts and we have been decorating his bed space with them all. We have been overwhelmed by how loving and caring people have been.

We hope to be able to start talking about home again in the next 2-3 weeks if we don’t have any more setbacks.

Update 21st August 2013

Well it’s been a tough few days for mummy and daddy and I. My EEG on Monday showed I’m in non convulsive status which means I’m having fits all the time. I moved back into ICU to be ventilated and am now on very strong sedation. A couple of not very nice options have been discussed to try and control my seizures but at the moment we are hoping my anti epileptic drug (which has been recently introduced) will soon take effect and so no fiercer intervention will be required.

So at the moment I’m asleep most of the time. I’m still having breakthrough seizure type movements but only when I am awake so I’m in a dark and quiet room and everybody has to whisper!

Tomorrow I’m going to theatre to have a broviac line (which is a permanent-ish type of canular) and I’m also having my jej PEG replaced with a jej mickey button.

Update 30th July 20013

As Lewis seizures are not being controlled in critical care HDU ward, the decision has been made to increase the sedation to a level where Lewis will be unconscious. As this may in itself cause respiratory problems, we are moving back next door to critical care ICU ward. This is being done for 24-48 hours with a 24-36 hour post sedation recovery plan so the neurologists and medics can come up with a reason for the increased seizures (infection?) and a plan for their future control. Until then we are reading a fabulous book Lewis has received from Post Pals but I’m sorry I can’t remember exactly who it’s from as we are quite disorganised at the moment, but thank you! Whoever sent it! 

Update 29th July 2013

Lewis’ lung has started to reinflate and he is breathing by himself. He is in HDU due to seizures though.

Lewis has had so much Post Pals post (thank you!) but because he’s not stopped fitting, we haven’t had chance to do photos. But we will!!! In particular Lewis loved Grace’s jokes and Henry’s footprints, and Julie and Alexander’s book about Jake the pirate. Thank you to Harriet for the beautiful pillowcase and Clare and Jessie for the bunting. So many more cards and gifts and we will get to them when things are a little less tense!

Update 27th July 2013

Yesterday Lewis was moved back to PICU. He has made it through the night, though his left lung is still partly collapsed. Physio came last night and loosened the gunk inside the lung which is stopping it being fully inflated. He is having physio again this morning to clear more. Lewis is sedated and his breathing is being undertaken by a ventilator but he’s doing better than last night and they hope to X-ray again this morning and show his left side is doing better and may be partly inflated now. Keep strong for him everybody, he’s fighting back and won’t let this get to him. Our brave soldier.

Update 19th July 2013

Lewis has woken up today. During an X-ray and CT scan of his abdomen this afternoon they discovered a problem with his PEG and he will require surgery early next week. This is in addition to his other problems. He is doing well now off the ventilator but is needing suction and oxygen often.

Update 17th July 2013

Lewis is in Sheffield PICU after spending three weeks in Doncaster Children’s Hospital. The doctors couldn’t discover what was wrong with him (he’s been having severe stomach problems for 8 weeks now) and during this time his blood levels have dropped very low so he was admitted. The doctors decided that either Lewis’ already undiagnosed degenerative condition had worsened and was now affecting his internal organs or that he was having an adverse reaction to his anti epileptic medication and so they decided to stop his medication and see if the bloods dropped.

Yesterday he fitted constantly and so after following usual hospital protocol, Lewis was intubated and sedated and transferred to Sheffield PICU. He hasn’t woken up yet but we are hoping he will soon. He is being very well looked after and Mummy and Daddy (and big bro Samuel) are taking turns staying at his bedside for when he wakes up.

Update 1st June 2013

Lewis is currently in hospital with an unexplained abdominal problem. He started with a poorly tummy last week and has since got increasingly worse and is now being closely monitored as his condition is deteriorating. We were hoping he was on the mend yesterday but today he’s a lot worse and will be in hospital for a little while longer.

Update 5th May 2013

Well Lewis has been on new medication for his overnight screaming, since we discovered they are a new type of seizure. It has taken almost 18 months for this to be sorted out – 18 months of him not sleeping, screaming for hours every night, being exhausted all day. Finally the doctors agreed to an overnight EEG and so now we are trying a new anti seizure drug. So far so good but it is difficult trying to get the balance right… too much and he’s too sleepy in the daytime, not enough and the screaming comes back. We have an appointment with the neurologist later this month to discuss long term treatment, and another overnight EEG is booked for June.

Lewis has been enjoying school a lot more now he’s not tired all the time, he’s much more chatty and bright during the day, and he’s sleeping so much better – we aren’t used to all this sleep!

We went to see Lewis’ private doctor in London in April and as a result some new tests have been done and we are trying some new foods and supplements. Every little thing helps. We will not give up searching for some answers for Lewis as long as the doctors are unable to give us any idea why he got ill and is now like he is.

This weekend Lewis and I went to visit his big brother Samuel at university for the day. Samuel is doing really well and we are so proud of him. He will be 20 next week so he really is Lewis’ BIG bro!

We are looking forward to spending a lot more time outdoors now the weather is getting nicer. Lewis has enjoyed watching me tidying the garden and helping out a little bit in his own special way. Lewis is very sensitive to the sun so he can’t go out in it without lots of sun cream or he gets very sore indeed so it is usually only for a short time, or we spend a lot of time in the shade. But Lewis does love to be outdoors, and we play with bubbles and other messy things, lots of which he receives from his lovely friends at Post Pals.

Update 7th April 2013

What a busy couple of months! Lots and lots of appointments to try and discover why Lewis has been unable to sleep, including a 24 hour overnight EEG which tested Lewis’ brain activity during sleep so we could see what was happening to make him wake up screaming several times a night. Well it turns out Lewis is having a new kind of epileptic seizure and he is having a lot more than we were even noticing. The doctors think he was probably having only 30-90 minutes of decent sleep per night. No wonder he was so tired and unhappy. Well we are really pleased to say that so far (everything crossed!) the new medicine Lewis is trying has helped to control these new seizures and he’s having a lot less so he’s getting a lot more sleep and is getting back to his usual smiley, chatty, happy self with his big beaming smile!

Lewis has had a lovely Easter holiday so far, spending time with family and friends and receiving lots of Post Pals post which he continues to love! Looking forward to some sunshine so we can get outside in the garden a bit more as we are all very fed up with snow now!

Update 3rd February 2013

What a busy month January has been! Lewis has had real problems sleeping. He’s been having sporadic sleep issues for around 14 months but this January he has been struggling to sleep at night at all, and so has been very sleepy during the day and not happy at all. We have spoken to his medical team about this before, but as it has escalated quite alarmingly this month, we have asked for an emergency appointment to discuss some kind of sleep study to see if we can get to the bottom of the unexplained screaming out in the night, often for several hours at a time.

Lewis has received some wonderful post this month, cards and postcards and letters and some great DVDs. He absolutely adores watching films as this is really one of the only activities, alongside reading, that he can participate actively in. Watching and listening are his only abilities. He enjoyed watching Mummy trying to drink milk through the crazy straws he received from Post Pals recently! And he did laugh whilst watching Open Season 1, 2 and 3 which were also from one of his Post Pal friends, Grace.

So it has been a tough month with little sleep and not many smiles, and we didn’t even get to make a snowman as it was far too cold to go outside! But we enjoyed looking at everyone else’s on the internet!

We are looking forward to some finer weather soon and also Lewis’ birthday is later this month, can’t believe he will be 9! It is always difficult at birthdays because we are another year further into him being ill, and another year with no idea why he is ill like he is, no explanation, no cause, and no hope of a diagnosis, but we try not to give up as one day someone might be able to help Lewis to get better.

Lewis’ scars are healing well after his hip surgery. We need to speak to the surgeon about it though because he is getting a sore patch of skin from pressure which was not there before the surgery. In fact, when he is sat on my knee, his bone is very hard and digs in so it must be very uncomfortable for him too.

We will keep trying to make Lewis’ life as happy and comfortable as possible, and we have to say that having so many Post Pals friends has been an absolute life saver for us and for Lewis. Knowing people care and want to take the time to write a little note or send a card or a gift to our gorgeous little boy, it is just wonderful. And Lewis ADORES receiving Post Pals post! It is the first thing we do when he gets in from school, before anything else!

Happy February everybody! Love from Lewis and family x

Update 4th January 2013

Happy New Year everybody! Lewis had a split Christmas this year as he spent it with Daddy, so he will be having a second Christmas at home with me and his big brother Samuel at the weekend, so thank you to all the Post Pals who sent Lewis Christmas gifts, especially his two elves – we will be taking photos and doing proper thank yous once he’s opened all his gifts. Lewis also received lots of lovely Christmas cards, and almost a full set from the reindeers! The Reindeer cards were wonderful and Lewis really enjoyed listening to their antics in the letters they wrote him.

Lewis has been out of his horrible plaster for several weeks now and is coping a lot better. His scars are healing nicely and his hip position seems to be good, although the surgery and the plaster for 9 weeks has caused his scoliosis to get a lot worse. We have an appointment with the consultant next week to see how bad it has got. It is giving him a lot of pain at bedtime, being laid flat, so we will need to talk to the consultant about this too as Lewis is not sleeping well at night anyway, and this is making it worse for him.

Lewis’ results came back from the micro-array study which took almost a year to carry out. Scientists looked very closely at his DNA to check for any abnormalities – it takes so long as the DNA is very tiny and there is a lot of it! The results were that there were no abnormalities at all, so they are now putting Lewis’ DNA into a further study which will take slightly longer which then micro micro analyses Lewis’ DNA to see if they can find anything that way. Other than that, there are no new tests on the horizon and so we still have no idea what made Lewis ill, or what continues to keep him ill.

On a positive note, Lewis is really enjoying life at present, and is often smiling and happy, and occasionally will laugh at his favourite films or TV programmes.  At the moment he is loving Open Season 2 and Open Season 3 and Happy Feet 2, but his favourite favourite at the moment is RIO which we have in 3D so its extra special for him to watch!

Lewis does love to receive post from Post Pals and we do keep everything that is sent. A lot of his pictures and cards are on display in and around his room and the house and it is always an absolute joy to know that people from all over the world are thinking and care about our gorgeous Lew Lew, so thank you very much indeed.

Update 27th November 2012

Hello and thank you everybody for Lewis’ wonderful postcards, cards, letters and gifts over the past couple of months.

Lewis is now out of plaster and finding it very strange after 9 weeks of being laid almost flat on his back with his legs sticking out to the sides! He is quite skinny and a bit spotty so lots of massage and cream is needed. Its also very uncomfortable for him and he has two rather long wounds, but they are healing very nicely. He is still in a lot of pain when moved, but is settled now when in a good position and is enjoying being back at school half days at the moment. He has loved receiving his cards and letters and gifts from Post Pals and we treasure them all! Everything is kept!

So now we are just waiting for Christmas and for big brother Samuel to come home from university for a few weeks to visit us. We would like a rest from hospital until next year so Lewis’ next appointment is at the scoliosis clinic in January. Having his hips in plaster has not helped his scoliosis at all and we are very worried that it has worsened quite considerably, but we will find out soon enough, so will try to put it out of our mind for now.

Since Lewis has been improving after his pelvis/hip surgery, he has been quite ‘chatty’ which has been lovely and we’ve had quite a few smiles, especially when reading letters and books or watching DVDs from Post Pals. It is so lovely to receive post from over the seas, so lovely to know that people very far away are thinking about our gorgeous Lew Lew, but also extra special to receive Post Pals post from people just around the corner! Thank you again! And we hope you have a wonderful Christmas – we will, as usual, do our best to make sure Lewis has the best Christmas he can!

Update 25th September 2012

Well its been a very stressful few weeks! The weeks leading up to Lewis’ hip surgery were worrying as it was all so scary and major, especially when we went for the pre-op appointment and found out just how major his surgery would be! But before then, he got to go to Blackpool for a week with Daddy and Granny and Grandad and he had lots of fun there!

So on 7th September we turned up at the hospital for Lewis’ operation and he was first down on the list to go to theatre. Four and a half hours later they paged us to say he was in recovery and we rushed up to see him. Since Lewis became disabled around the age of 3, his positioning has been a problem and he has developed quite severe scoliosis. This, alongside difficulty with supporting his upper body effectively, has caused his right hip to slowly come out of place and his pelvic bones have grown incorrectly because of this.  This meant that Lewis’ right hip was basically totally displaced and there was no simple way to put it back. So the surgeons decided to break Lewis’ pelvis, shorten his right thigh bone as this had also grown longer due to the hip being out, and to use a plate and screws to put his hip back into a better position. All this was done to hopefully help Lewis’ positioning and also to ease pain which it was starting to cause him.

When we saw Lewis, he had a canular into his neck (he doesn’t like giving up his veins to needles!) and was on oxygen, and had masses of blue plaster cast round his waist, down both legs, all the way to his toes. He will be in this until at least 22nd November when we will go back to hospital for an x-ray to see if the surgery has worked and that the thigh bone has re-set and the pelvis is safe.

Lewis was in hospital for 12 days after his surgery because he got a couple of infections requiring IV antibiotics, as well as needing a blood transfusion due to losing a lot of blood during surgery. It was quite worrying for the first week as Lewis was asleep most of the time, very pale and not very responsive, but as the blood transfusion kicked in, along with the antibiotics starting to take effect, he started to brighten up which was really great news and we were finally allowed to come home.

Now we are at home, Lewis is fighting off a tummy bug and a chest infection. It isn’t helped by the fact that his plaster is set in such a way that he is laid almost flat, and of course it is very difficult to move him about with his huge hip spica on. Even the OTs and physios on the ward were surprised about how large his plaster is! He only just fits through an average doorway! So Lewis is spending a lot of time watching TV and having stories read to him in bed! He has received a lovely parcel from Post Pals which made him smile, and some lovely Get Well cards and postcards too. He also received some lovely cards and gifts whilst in hospital and we put photos of these on his facebook page to share with everybody.

So now we are hoping Lewis’ general health will improve, that his surgery will be a success, and that after 22nd November he will be out of plaster and ready to go back to school as he is really missing all his friends!

Update 12th March 2012

Sorry it’s been so very long since the last update. I’m afraid the winter blues set in and the computer hasn’t got much attention at all. Lewis was ill most of November/December/January and is only just really starting to pick up. There was nothing specific that was wrong, but he was very unhappy and generally under the weather. We had several hospital visits to try and pinpoint the problem, and a few visits to the GP as well, as Lewis was unable to sleep at night, waking and crying for hours, with no apparent cause, and with no way to console him. So we’ve all been very very tired.

Everything crossed, things seem to be picking up and he’s becoming a lot brighter, and just this week starting to sleep through the night again, almost the whole night anyway!

Christmas was difficult as he was very ill on Christmas Day so although he had so many presents from Post Pals, he was too exhausted and unhappy to really open many and it really took it out of him when we managed to open a few, so we decided to open them with him gradually over the next few days. He got some wonderful cards and presents from Post Pals posties as well as an extra special card from each of Father Christmas’ reindeers!  These will now become annual Christmas decorations!

Lewis had to have some more bloods taken in January as the bloods sent off from Liverpool to test for Battens Disease were sent to the wrong lab so they couldn’t be done. The poor doctor at Sheffield who tried getting blood from Lew had a real struggle and after 1.5 hours only managed 3mls! He sent them off anyway and we got the results back a couple of weeks ago – negative! So here we are again at square one – no idea why Lewis is ill or what his diagnosis is! But it was great news to have it confirmed that he definitely does NOT have Battens Disease.

In February Lewis had his 8th Birthday! Again, he got lots of lovely cards and presents from Post Pals and as he was feeling MUCH better, he really enjoyed opening these and still has many of them up in his bedroom. He has finally moved into his ‘new’ bedroom and we are fast getting used to it being much easier to manage, and Lewis LOVES having a TV on the wall! He’s also got all his reading books on shelves in his new room so its much easier to choose a bedtime story!

Now the weather is improving, we are trying to get out and about as much as possible as Lewis really loves the fresh air! Sadly, in the winter months, we tend to avoid people because of coughs and colds and bugs which Lewis picks up very quickly and which do tend to knock him back quite severely, so we love the warmer weather and being outdoors!

Thanks to Sian and Jamie for the wonderful gifts and cards and thank you to Teresa Murray for the lovely gifts and cards which always make us smile.

Update 16th November 2011

Well, Lewis did indeed have his brain biopsy in September this year, which was a very scary time for all of us as we had left it until the very last and had many many other tests done first that weren’t so invasive or risky. Of course to the neurosurgeons, its a daily thing, but for us it was major and to be honest I think if we’d known how huge the scar would be on Lewis’ head, we might have thought about it a bit more! But it was definitely necessary as we had run out of ideas and we are determined to continue to try and find out what has caused Lewis’ illness as we do believe the miracle might happen where he can get better. As long as he is completely undiagnosed, there is hope.

We did have a fright when Lewis came home after the surgery. We were in the car for 2.5 hours for the drive from Liverpool back to Doncaster, and when we arrived home we noticed that Lewis’ head had swelled up A LOT and was squishy down the side of his wound! We panicked, an ambulance was called, and we were rushed to hospital. Well… panic over… Alder Hey were telephoned and advised us that it was completely normal and would drain over a few days! Which it did, phew!

So after a few more days off to recover properly, Lewis was very very happy to go back to school. He had definitely missed all his friends and teachers, as he had been off school since July when the summer holidays started. So we then had the wait for any results of the biopsy. At the time, the surgeon did say they had noticed that the arachnid membrane which covers the brain just inside the skull was abnormal so that was giving them something to look at, as well as investigations of his actual brain tissue (both white and grey matter) and his brain fluids.

Apart from a bunch of seizures and a ‘Frankenstein’ head (just in time for Halloween!) Lewis has recovered really well and is back to his normal happy self. He still loves receiving post from his Post Pals friends, and was very very excited to receive a package of goodies all the way from Madagascar! He also had great fun with his Halloween package from Post Pals, and continues to enjoy hearing about Dottie the Dalmatian.

Yesterday we returned to Alder Hey for the results of Lewis’ biopsy and we really didn’t expect much. Lewis had his wound checked by the surgeon who was very happy with its healing, and he had an EEG as well, he wasn’t bothered about having his head covered in electrodes as Cbeebies was on the TV!

Our final appointment was with the neurologist and we are still in shock really from what she told us. They have noticed in Lewis’ brain cells some pigment which is highly suggestive of Late Infantile Batten Disease. Now you may remember Lewis was tested for this 5 years ago (almost to the day) and the results were negative. But as this particular pigment in the cells is such a big marker for this condition, they have taken bloods to send to Guys Hospital in London (where the UK specialist on Batten Disease is based) to check Lewis’ lymphocytes. Apparently this is a new and conclusive test and will give a definite result. Although Lewis does not display a lot of typical Batten symptoms, there is a lot about him that is typical. So we now have to wait 4 weeks to get the results of that. It’s going to be very difficult and we are all very very upset and we really had hoped never to hear that word again in relation to Lewis. However, we will hope and pray that like all the other tests, this one will also come back negative.

In the meantime, we shall continue to enjoy spending time with Lewis (perhaps a little bit more than usual if that’s possible!) and work very hard to make this Christmas very special for him.

Thank you, as always, to everyone who sends Lewis cards, letters, postcards, and gifts. He really does love to receive his post and we do keep everything.

Update 2nd August 2011

Lewis is enjoying the school holidays and being able to visit lots of fun places with his new friend Lucy who is doing some work experience caring for Lew before she goes back to university in September.

Lewis is still awaiting a further appointment at Alder Hey hospital in Liverpool to discuss his brain biopsy. We have heard from the consultant and are just waiting for the appointment letter to arrive – very scary!

Lewis’ antibiotic treatment has almost finished now after more than a year. He did at some point have some bacteria in his blood caused by a bite from an infected tick, but all that bacteria is now gone from his system so we are slowly reducing the antibiotics and will be stopping them completely soon. We hope that this will not cause Lewis to return to having severe chest infections again. We will see when the colder weather comes.

Lewis is now wearing glasses as he is very slightly short sighted. What we have found is that when watching TV, if he doesn’t wear his glasses, then his eyes water, so we make sure to remember now!

We have been using a new sleep system for about a month now and are hoping to see some great improvements soon in his spine and ribcage situation. At the moment he has severe scoliosis and a rotated ribcage causing one of his shoulders to ‘hump’ and his ribs on one side to stick out. He’s basically all twisty. But we are hoping that with the sleep system and with good overall positioning, we will be able to prevent or at least put off for a very long time any spinal surgery, and at the same time hopefully resolve his hip displacement problem too which has been caused by his twisty spine.

Lew’s general health (everything crossed as usual!) is good and he’s definitely enjoying the sunshine! People comment on his lovely colour, but I point out to them that it is only on the bits that show! He’s got a very white belly and back!

We have noticed that Lewis is very very smiley and happy most of the time nowadays, which we see has a really good sign. Also, his head control is continuing to improve, and he’s started making a lot more sounds, so we do make a massive effort to have ‘chats’ with him. Whilst life with Lewis is physically very hard work, and emotionally very difficult at times (with worrying about the future and his health), he is always an absolute joy to spend time with and we love him so much, and knowing that his Post Pals friends care about him too is just amazing.

Thank you to Post Pals and to everyone who sends Lewis post. He does love to receive it, we keep everything, and we keep extra special items out on display so we can look at them often.

Thank you to Sian and Jamie for the fantastic home-made photo book about their rabbit called Milo which has been made specifically for Lewis. Thank you to Holly for the crafty bits and the hand puppet making kit.

Update 14th June 2011

Lewis continues to do really well on his blended vegetables diet! So far he is having butternut squash, sweet potatoes and carrots! Apples next! All this is through his PEG (tube) as he cannot have any food/liquid in his mouth.

Lewis is growing very fast, lots of people comment on his long eyelashes, but now they are also commenting on his length even though he’s always in a wheelchair! He’s not been able to go in his stander recently as unfortunately he fell off his bed and broke his leg AGAIN! So he had a plaster cast on for three weeks but had that removed today.

Lewis has had lots of hospital appointments recently as we are trying to get lots of testing done to continue to try and find out what has made him ill. We have been invited to take part in a genetic study and we hope that this will give us some answers although it does take up to one year to carry out the testing so it will be a while before we hear anything.

Lewis is, as ever, very happy to be receiving post from Post Pals! He has received today two letters from schoolchildren in Switzerland! He loved having these read to him, and looking at the colourful stickers on the letters.

Unfortunately Lewis will not be able to come to the Post Pals party this year as he is unable to travel far anymore. We travel for important hospital appointments (in London and in Liverpool) but these distance appointments do take their toll and make him ill. Although we know he would love to see everyone at the Post Pals party, we also know that the distance travelling and the need to stay somewhere overnight would really upset his delicate constitution, resulting in increased fitting, and digestive shutdown, and no smiles which is always really sad!

Thank you so much as always to everybody who sends Lewis cards and letters and gifts. Lewis loves getting mail from Dottie and we always read the letters and show the postcards to Domino!

Update 13th April 2011

Lewis has been back to Alder Hey for the results of his MRI and they have come back normal as usual! He also had some bloods taken for various, very rare conditions, also all normal. We are now waiting to arrange either an angiogram and then a brain biopsy, or to just go straight in for the brain biopsy. We should hear from the hospital in the next few weeks about that.

We are also starting Lewis on a blenderised diet, which basically means we will wean him off the formula milk he has through his PEG and he will instead have real, healthy nutritional food, through his PEG which has been blended to a liquid consistency. It’s quite daunting but will definitely be worth it for the health benefits!

Lewis also had another test for Lyme Disease which has also come back as negative which suggests that either his original positive test was a false-positive, or that the long-term use of antibiotics has eradicated the disease from his system. Whichever, the doctors have advised that we now start to reduce Lewis’ antibiotic intake which is good, but also a bit scary as he has been on them for such a long time!

Lewis has lost both his top front teeth and his new ones are growing through, but there isn’t enough room! So we are waiting for a dental appointment to see what can be sorted out so he doesn’t end up all crooked!

Lewis continues to be a super smiley and happy young man who is always wanting to see what the postman has brought for us! He loves it when the post has his name on so thank you to all the fabulous Post Pals out there who send Lewis postcards, letters, cards and gifts! I cant remember if I thanked one particular Post Pal last month but massive THANK YOU to Sian and Jamie (who have been sending post to Lewis for 3+ years now) for the donation to Lewis’ Fund!

Looking forward to the summer now so we can spend lots of time in the garden with the cats and the chickens!

Update 2nd March 2011

February was Lewis’ birthday month and what a busy month it has been!! He’s had ALOT of hospital appointments as the doctor in Liverpool (Alder Hey) was true to her word and is trying lots of new things to see if we can find a diagnosis finally for Lewis. So we’ve been flitting between Doncaster hospital, Sheffield Children’s hospital, and Alder Hey hospital in Liverpool.

Since our horrible appointment at the scoliosis clinic we’ve seen some improvements already in Lewis’ posture as we’ve starting to be much more focussed on his positioning in his seat, in bed, and with his new Charleywrap from New Zealand. We are determined to prove to the doctor we saw who said ‘nothing can be done, just wait until it gets so bad he needs surgery’ that positioning and posture management can and will help to maintain Lewis’ spine and extend the time he has before surgery does become necessary.

On 22nd February Lewis had an appointment with a specialist optician who prescribed him with glasses for very mild short sightedness so that’s a trip for the weekend to get some glasses! On 23rd February Lewis had his general anaesthetic at Alder Hey for his MRI, blood tests and lumbar puncture. Unfortunately they couldn’t get the needle in the correct position for the lumbar puncture so we’ll have to go back again for this another time. We will get the results from the other tests over the next few weeks. The list of things being tested for is quite long but is on Lewis’ facebook page. On 24th February Lewis had his check up at Doncaster about his broken (but not fixed) leg and the x-ray showed that all was fine so that’s a relief!

On a sad note, Lewis’ kitten (Tig) who would be a year old on 17th March has gone missing. Tig was definitely Lewis’ kitten out of all our cats as he would always sit with Lewis, whether in his chair or on his bed, and they had a special bond. Tig has been missing since 11th February. Yesterday we gave in and went to the RSPCA to get a new cat who is 4 years old and is called Mannie and has settled in already!!

The end of February was of course Lewis’ 7th Birthday! He received lots of cards from Post Pals which I saved for his big day. Unfortunately, on his actual birthday, he was ill in the morning so missed out on spending his birthday at school, but Mummy and Granny made up for that at home! In the afternoon he had a small tea party with TWO birthday cakes, some singing and dancing and lots of fun! Thank you very much to all the Post Pals who sent Lewis a card, and thank you also for the gifts he received, especially his Disney DVD! He has received some fantastic hand made cards and we do keep them ALL! We are running out of space to display them in Lewis’ small bedroom but when he moves room after the adaptations have been done (hoist, special bath, etc) we will have more room and will have a ‘Post Pals Wall’ like we used to have before we moved house in 2008.

Update 1st February 2011

Lewis received lots of cards and letters and gifts in December from his Post Pal friends and Elves, but as he was spending Christmas with his Dad, we saved them until he came home on 3rd January when Lewis had his second Christmas!!! He loved opening his gifts so thank you everybody who sent Lewis a gift or a card or a letter… he really enjoyed opening them and we are making good use of everything he received! In January Lewis received a scrapbook kit from Post Pals which we will be filling up over the next month or two!

Lewis has, fingers crossed, been well most of the time apart from un-explained temperatures which is usual for this time of year. We’ve managed to keep at bay any chest infections so far and are hopeful we can survive this winter without a hospital visit (please don’t let that be famous last words!).

Lewis is seeing a new doctor now at the Alder Hey Hospital in Liverpool. As a result of seeing this new doctor, Lewis is now in the process of undergoing several new tests. He’s already had a very detailed eye examination involving having sensors on his head and face, and looking at flashing lights and a computer screen with moving squares. It made my eyes go funny as Lew was sat on my lap for the 30 minute test! Lewis will be going under anaesthetic again at the end of this month for another MRI (a very detailed extra powerful one) and at the same time will have extensive bloods taken for more tests as well as a lumbar puncture for more testing of his spinal fluid and DNA. The doctor in Liverpool is VERY hopeful that she can find some answer for Lewis. She said that because Lewis was completely fine until he was past his second birthday (i.e. was not born with a condition) it should be possible to discover what caused him to become ill and (we wish and hope and pray!) to find some way of making Lewis better! There is talk of a brain biopsy if the MRI scan shows anything that needs further investigation and we have discussed this and will agree to this surgery if we believe it could lead to some improvement with Lewis’ condition.

Lewis continues to be his happy and bubbly self and we are seeing very tiny improvements in him, which although they are really tiny, are so amazing for us to see! He is getting brilliant at being able to move his head about for a short while, lifting it off his chest when it falls forward, turning his head to look to either side of him – amazing! And he smiles most of the time now which is really fun especially because he has lost one of his top front teeth so I call him Gummy Bear sometimes! In the past couple of weeks we’ve even experienced Lewis’ laughter once or twice which really is magical!

The best thing (I think) about the improvements in Lewis just recently is that other people who don’t know him well are starting to see him! Usually, people will see Lewis in his wheelchair and assume he has cerebral palsy and is not mentally responsive either. But with his exceptional eye tracking and responsive facial expressions, people are now seeing the Lewis inside who understands and wants to interact with people! He may not be able to move his body but his brain, his personality, is very intact!

So lots of hope for us here at the moment and everything crossed!

Update 15th December 2010

As usual it’s very busy here!! Lewis is stable which is great for this time of year – often we would be in and out of hospital but FINGERS CROSSED he’s doing okay! He has however been to hospital quite a lot for appointments. As you know, he broke his leg in October so had to have a lot of time off school as it was very difficult to transport/manual handle him. He had his plaster off in mid-November and is now plaster-free, hooray! He has had some intensive physio to try and sort out any niggles and is doing a lot better!

We have an appointment in January to see the orthopaedic team about his hip placement and his spine (scoliosis) but in the meantime we found out about a family in New Zealand who have made their very own version of a back/spine brace which is much friendlier than the NHS versions available here. We have put our order in to get one and hope to receive it early next year – we have had approval from Lewis’ physios to try this.

Lewis was very very happy to be back at school but then the snow arrived!! We could not leave the house for three whole days because of the extent of the snow (18 inches in some parts of our garden and drive and even out on the road!). School was closed for a little bit longer because of the ice, but thankfully Lew is now back at school and this week he was a shepherd in his nativity. He loved it! The photographs are on his facebook page for everyone to see.

Today we had a very exciting appointment at the Alder Hey hospital in Liverpool. Lewis saw a paediatric neurologist we had been recommended and she was fantastic! She was so positive and really confident about new tests and really getting to the bottom of why Lewis is ill. She feels that it is just a matter of finding the right tests so that we can finally get some answers and she’s determined to get us there if she can! So Lewis will be having another (super duper very high powered) MRI in the next couple of months which will show up any changes in his brain that might not have been picked up before. She also wants to take some more bloods to test for other conditions, particularly metabolic illnesses, as well as doing a further lumbar puncture to test the DNA from his spinal fluid for various illnesses she has in mind. She has also spoken to the neurosurgeons at Alder Hey about the possibility of a brain biopsy for Lewis – now this is very scary for all of us, but the place in the brain they want to take the biopsy from is a very easy part to get to (for a brain surgeon!!) so once Lewis has had the MRI, we will decide whether or not to go ahead with this – the reason for doing this would be that the results might lead us towards a treatment programme that could see some real improvements in Lewis’ condition and that is something we would love to see and what we are always hoping for, so we are definitely leaning towards having this done.

Lewis is very excited about Christmas, we have the tree up and the decorations and lights are sparkling all over the house! Lewis will be going to spend Christmas with his Daddy and grandparents on Christmas Eve but will be back home with Mummy just after the New Year for a second Christmas with Mummy, Shane and big brother Samuel. Thank you everybody who has sent Lewis Christmas cards, thank you to the reindeers (4 so far!) for sending Lewis letters about what is going on with Father Christmas and his preparations for the big day, and thank you to pals who have sent Lewis Christmas gifts!

A wonderful December to everybody and let us hope that for us and all other children in need of answers that 2011 is the year we get our wishes!

Update 12th October 2010

I can’t believe it has been three months since my last update! It’s been so very busy here!

Lewis is growing very fast, is becoming very tall and heavy, spending lots of time in his stander at home and continuing to practice holding his head up! Unfortunately, because he is getting so heavy, I did slip and drop him while trying to lift him off the bed about a week ago, and so we had to go to A&E to get an X-ray on Lewis’ foot to check it wasn’t broken! Luckily, it was just badly sprained, but it is hurting Lew and so he has been off school for a week, but we hope he’ll be happy enough to return on Monday.

Lewis will be changing bedroom soon (hopefully by Christmas!) as we live in a private rented bungalow and our landlord has just agreed to a 5 year tenancy so we can get some adaptations done! Lewis is swapping bedrooms with his big brother Samuel so that he can have his bath and bed and other equipment all in one room complete with ceiling tracks and a hoist! So that is exciting! Luckily, all the items Lewis received from a charity via Post Pals for his ‘In The Night Garden’ room makeover can be moved to his new room once it is finished! We are also hoping to get accepted by a charity that does ‘sensory gardens’ as Lewis loves being outdoors and we know he would love his own little sensory garden at home.

Lewis got his Lyme Disease test results back from the hospital in America and again they were negative so it is now time for us to put that behind us and look to other reasons why Lewis became ill when he was 2 years old. We continue to hope that we will find a cure for him and that one day he will be able to walk and talk and eat again.

Lewis has received lots of lovely post from Post Pals and I always try to take photos and put these on his facebook page and tag in Post Pals so everybody can see him! Most recently he got a very cool smiley face wrist band (bracelets are for girls!) which he was very happy to wear and it looked very cool as it matched the t-shirt he had on!! Lewis is looking forward to Halloween and we will be hollowing out a pumpkin to make a Jack O Lantern and will hope for some trick or treaters to visit (but only for treats please!). Lewis loves to meet people, especially other children, so children in fancy dress is the ultimate enjoyment for him!

Lewis now has just two kittens (Patrick and Tigger) who are huge and they love to sit with him on his chair or bed and keep him company. Unfortunately, April died in the summer, and we were so sad but then we heard about another little kitten who had nowhere to live and as she was a little girl, we couldn’t resist, so now we have Aoife too and although she is tiny, she thinks she is as big as the boys (who are 4 months older than her!) and they have such fun together. Aoife’s favourite place to sleep is with Lewis and he loves her – she always makes him smile!

Lewis has another ‘pet’ now too… Domino the Dalmatian! Domino was sent to Lewis by Post Pals and we receive regular updates from Domino’s family who have all gone to live with the Post Pals children!

Things in the future for Lewis are a microarray analysis – this is very intensive testing of Lewis’ DNA which takes around 9 months to complete (all it takes from Lew is some blood I believe). The waiting list for the testing is around 2 years, but the results so far for children who have had the test have been positive – several children with totally undiagnosed conditions have finally been given a diagnosis. If we can get a diagnosis for Lewis’ condition, we can then look at a cure or if not at least have an answer. We are also awaiting an appointment for a SPECT scan which I think is like an MRI scan except its a video rather than a photo… so it shows where signals/blood/fluid, etc are going in the brain. That might give us some answers too! We are always looking in new directions to try and find some help for Lewis and are always open to suggestions – a lot of tests Lew has had have been as a result of people suggesting doctors/conditions because who knows? One day we might find the right one!

I’ll try not to leave Lewis’ update so long until next time! Apparently as I type, it is 77 days until Christmas! Help! Thanks again to everybody for taking time to contact Lewis, to send emails, postcards, letters, cards and gifts! Lewis always recognises his Post Pals post and always has a huge smile!

Update 29th June 2010

Not much to update. Lewis is still doing well on his antibiotics and we are hoping to get another MRI scan done soon to see if there have been any more changes to Lewis’ brain.

Lewis went into hospital for day surgery recently to have his PEG (stomach feeding tube) changed into a button (easier, more compact). Unfortunately, Lewis has grown so much since he had the original PEG put in three years ago, that it wasn’t possible to give him a ‘button’ – the hole in his stomach and the hole in his skin had grown too far apart!! So he’s got a sparkly new tube for now and we hope to try again with the button in a few months!

Lewis is going to a hospital near London next month to have some bloods taken for some specialist tests to be done at a Lab in America so we will hope to get something useful from them.

Lewis’ kittens are growing fast although he only has three now. Sadly, we lost one of them to a car accident. We are all very sad, but the two brothers and sister left behind have become super affectionate which Lewis absolutely loves!

Lewis recently spent the weekend at his Daddy’s house as his aunty and cousins were visiting from Australia. It has been almost a year since he last saw them so he had a great time catching up with the family and having his cousins sing and do shows for him – I believe the videos are on Lewis’ facebook page for all to enjoy!

Thank you to everybody for the emails, the letters, and the postcards Lewis has received. I am sorry that sometimes there is quite a delay in responding to them – sometimes it really can get super busy here!

Best wishes to you all from all of us until next month!

Update 26th April 2010

We have been brave this month and re-started Lewis on his antibiotic therapeutic treatment to see if we can re-gain the improvements we saw in him last year (i.e. holding his head up for prolonged periods of time and trying to speak and reach for things). Since we stopped the treatment in December (due to increased seizures and hospitalisation) Lewis has lost his head control completely and doesn’t try to speak at all or seem to have any control over his reach which has been very sad, but we needed to sort out the seizures before they did some serious damage to his brain. Now the weather has started to improve, it seems like a good time to start over as Lewis is usually (fingers crossed!) very well in the spring/summer months and he looks great with a little bit of a tan!

Lewis’ cat Chelsea had her 4 kittens – Patrick, Blondie, Tig and April! They are such characters and now they are almost six weeks old Lewis loves to watch them playing around and they are very happy to climb all over him and keep him entertained!

Lewis’ neuro-physiotherapy with Anna is also going really well and we really do feel that Lewis is benefitting from the weekly sessions. Now that Lewis is back on his antibiotics, we might even see some bigger improvements than before!!

Lewis’ big brother Samuel will be 17 next month – very scary how fast time goes by!

Lewis has received so much post this past month from Post Pals, he’s had something in the post almost every day! I have put photographs on his Facebook page of Lewis with his post so if you have sent him something, please do take a look at Lewis’ photo albums or visit his website!

That’s it from us for now – its so very busy here, sometimes I just don’t know where to start! Love to all of Lewis’ friends until next time!

Update 3rd March 2010

February was Lewis’ 6th birthday month so it was definitely up and down. Part of me was very excited about my little boy being a year older, but another part of me was so scared and hurting because Lewis can’t do the things he could do before he got ill… the things a 6 year old should be doing… so I’ve had a few tearful episodes. As usual though, Lewis’ smiley face has cheered me up and Lewis’ older brother Samuel has helped me loads with hugs and heart to heart chats – for an almost 17 year old, he’s a top young man!

Lewis’ health has been up and down this month. He’s had a mild chest infection and a severe tummy bug and had lots of time off school and in bed watching DVDs! He had a brief visit to hospital for assessment and to get some antibiotics then it was straight back home again – we are trying not to stay in unless it really is very serious. Lewis is better off at home where we can care for him properly unless he needs very intense monitoring / treatment that only the hospital can provide.

As physiotherapy is inconsistent and patchy (I am guessing due to huge staffing issues?) here in Doncaster, we recently got in touch with a paediatric neurological physiotherapist to come and assess Lewis. The assessment went really well and Lewis’ Fund is going to pay for Anna to come once a week. Lewis had his first session yesterday and although it wore him out and he found it quite difficult, we know that it will help him hugely so we’re very excited about that. We are also waiting for Lewis’ new antibiotic prescriptions to arrive as we are re-commencing his intense antibiotic treatment programme now we have ascertained why his seizures increased massively in December (the antibiotic he was on for 6 months increased the levels of anti-epileptic medication in his liver – when we changed antibiotics at the beginning of December, the anti-epileptic levels effectively dropped, hence the increased fitting – Lewis’ medication has now been increased and he will be even more closely monitored this time around).

Lewis’ cat Chelsea is going to have kittens! She is huge and waddles a lot! Her kittens are due mid March so we’re very excited about that!

So on to Lewis’ birthday party – what a fantastic day Lewis had! He got so many wonderful gifts from friends, family and lots of Post Pals posties! There are photos on his website and also on his facebook page! Lewis had a Science Boffins party – James Boffin came to our house with his white coat and his experiments, and he performed stinky, messy, exciting, fun experiments for and with the children! It was a great entertainment and we will definitely be meeting up with James Boffin again in the future for more science fun!

As usual, thank you Post Pals for your amazing work. Samuel asked me the other day how Post Pals started and who did all the work… I explained about Viks and how we had met at the Post Pals party last summer – I might even be able to get him to come along this year!

Update 4th February 2010

What a mad couple of months! As you may remember, Lewis was in hospital a lot of December due to his massively increased seizures. We took him off his antibiotics while we tried to work out why he was having so many seizures instead of the 2-3 a month – he was having a seizure every 5-7 minutes constantly – he was exhausted, we were exhausted – and we didn’t know what to do. Lewis came out of hospital on 24th December but was ill on Christmas Day. He did friends – thank you so much! A very special package Lewis received was from a class of students in Korea! Each student had hand-drawn Lewis a little Christmas card with a personal message. He loved to read these and to look at the drawings and I will take a photograph for Post Pals as the students heard about Lewis on the Post Pals website!

At the beginning of January Lewis had another cluster of seizures resulting in a visit to A&E at which time he had to be given so many drugs to control the seizures that he did actually stop breathing. It was the most terrifying moment of our lives, seeing Lewis lying there, unconscious, covered in wires and tubes, and then for him to go completely still. All the alarms went off and the crash team came running down the corridor into the room. I was just a screeching headless chicken, running in and out in a major panic and shouting at Lew to stop being silly (funny the things you say when you panic!). Anyway, after a short while the team got him breathing again and he remained stable (but still unconscious) for several hours. The medicines did their job though and he has been seizure free until this past two days where he has had two single seizures – I am very very nervous about giving him any rescue medication after what happened last time, although I know the time will come when I will have to so let us hope he doesn’t need so much this time and that he recovers quickly from the next seizure cycle.

Since Lewis has been off his antibiotics, his head control and improved cognitive abilities have gone, so we are very sad about this and keen to re-start the antibiotics, but without the suspected side effect of increased seizures. It’s going to be a difficult time but we want the best for Lewis and of course we want him to get better. Hopefully one day we’ll be able to find out what is wrong with him and then find a cure – what a miracle!

We are now looking forward to Lewis’ 6th Birthday at the end of this month. Lewis is having a science boffin party – lots of fun, colourful, noisy experiments to watch! Lewis has grown a huge amount in the past couple of months and continues to grow out of all his equipment! We are hoping to apply to a charity to take Lewis to Walt Disney World in Florida later this year. We feel Lewis is now old enough to appreciate this and we hope he would be well enough to travel – the charity arranges specialist seating on the flights so this would be such a huge thrill for Lewis to enjoy – we’ll see and let you all know!

Lewis continues to receive letters, postcards and gifts from Post Pals friends and he is always very excited to see his name on the front of envelopes! As December and January have been so very busy and stressful, I haven’t had much chance to update Lewis’ website with photos of him with his Post Pals post, but I will be doing this shortly.

Lewis continues to enjoy school and is doing well on his eye computer!

As ever, thank you Post Pals and friends for everything. What would we do without you?!

Update 4th December 2009

Lewis has been very poorly recently, having lots of seizures and therefore spending a lot of time in ambulances and in hospital. He is in hospital now as his seizures are not stopping at all and his usual rescue medication has not been able to stop them. Lewis is being tried on an extra strong anti-epileptic drug and if this doesn’t work then they may have to anaesthetise Lewis (like a drug induced coma) while they try to work out what is wrong.

We have put our Christmas decorations up at home but Lewis hasn’t been able to see them as he’s been in hospital since 1st December. He is being well looked after in hospital though and there are pretty lights up for him to see here.

Thank you very much to Post Pals for the postcards, cards and letters Lewis has received in November. He does have a couple of cards at home that have arrived from Post Pals which we haven’t opened yet – if he is in hospital for much longer we will bring them in here and decorate his room with them!

Update 2nd November 2009

It has been very busy here since our last update. Lewis has been on his antibiotic treatment for suspected Lyme Disease (although this still hasn’t been confirmed) and we are awaiting further tests. Lewis is due to have nerve conduction therapy and a sleep deprivation EEG on 2nd December. We are also still awaiting detailed feedback on a recent MRI scan which showed changes to his brain. Lewis continues to grow and is becoming very tall and heavy! He’s definitely having a growth spurt! He has been managing really well (fingers crossed!) with his feeding programme and so this has helped his weight a lot and has also given him a bit more strength in his neck area so he can hold his head up for a few minutes at a time now if it is gently supported.

Lewis has received lots of post from Post Pals posties – he received a blanket, some garden lanterns which we will try setting off on 5th November, he received some lovely books and a glove puppet elephant, he received some very spooky Halloween cards and a Halloween candle! Thank you to everybody for his lovely postcards, cards and letters! Lewis loves to receive post with his name on and does get very excited! We do try to remember to take photos of Lew with his post and I will get around to putting these photos on his website soon!

Lewis is loving school and enjoying baking (although of course he can’t eat what he bakes so Mummy and big brother have to help out there!). Our two cats have taken a shine to Lew, I think they realise now that he won’t pull their tails, so they like to spend time sat with him which he loves! He finds it especially funny when they jump on the side of the bath in the mornings! We also have two chickens which are now huge and Lewis finds these very amusing when they are running and flapping around the garden!

Lewis still loves In The Night Garden… his favourite episode is when the Tombliboos clean their teeth… so I have recorded this one for him to watch! He laughs out loud when watching this one which is great to hear and see! He is, as ever, a super happy young man who never fails to charm everybody he meets!

Thank you once again Post Pals for everything!

Update 3rd August 2009

Lewis’ health has been up and down this past month. He’s definitely showed some signs of improvement, so we are now wondering if it’s the antibiotics we are paying for him to have to treat the possible Lyme Disease, or if it is just the nice weather we’ve been having! Lewis is definitely more in control of lifting up his head and turning his head to look to either side which is pretty special! He’s been on the antibiotics for 3.5 weeks now and we hope to see further improvements in the next couple of months at which time we will decide whether or not to continue with the medication.

Lew has an MRI, lumbar puncture and blood tests under general anaesthetic booked for the end of this month, so that’s a bit scary given how badly he reacts to anaesthetic. It’s for a good reason though so fingers crossed we’ll get some good news from the results.

In the past month Lewis has been to Scarborough with Mummy, where he wasn’t very well with a 48 hour bug, and then to Blackpool with Daddy, Granny and Grandad where he had a great time.

Lewis’ kitten Chelsea entertains endlessly as do the 2 chickens we now have in our garden!

Thank you Karen Sami for the lovely cards that always cheer us up. Thank you to Sarah for Hugo Mouse who goes everywhere with Lew and also to Helen for the Winnie the Witch books and CDs!

Update 29th June 2009

It has been an immensely busy couple of months. After Lewis had blood tests sent away to a private lab in Germany in May, we were told that he had tested positive for Lyme Disease. This was amazing news as it might mean that Lewis could be cured in some way. Of course the first question was if Lewis was ill because of Lyme Disease or if it was just something else that he’s got but that is not causing his current undiagnosed condition. Since then we have hit a brick wall as far as treatment is concerned. There is so much controversy around Lyme Disease (even its existence is questioned by some) and so we are fighting now to get Lewis started on antibiotics because we feel that we must try. If the antibiotics don’t work, at least we can say we made this effort for Lew. And if they do work… it will be a miracle!

Lewis has been in hospital this month due to increased seizures and unexplained rashes. He is home now but definitely not 100%.

He has got a new kitten called Chelsea who loves him! She sleeps with him, climbs all over him, purrs at him, and makes him laugh and smile! Lewis is also a lot more ‘talkative’ (trying to vocalise) which is wonderful for us! He is so happy at the moment and it is always great when Lew is having his up periods as it helps us through the bad times when he is very ill and not our bubbly little man!

Thank you to Karen for the Iggle Piggle t-shirt and thank you to Sarah for the ‘book about me’ which Lewis loves! We are looking forward to the Post Pals party this weekend and hope to see some posties there!

Update 31st March 2009

Well Lewis is 5 years old now! We have had a busy time with him having tests for various conditions – always searching! He had the conclusive test for Lyme Disease and this did come back negative. We are still pursuing the possibility of 3 months IV antibiotics to see if there is any chance that the test was not correct (apparently this can happen with Lymes – it is a very elusive disease to pin down!). We also have on the horizon some new tests for Lewis. We are waiting for an appointment for nerve conduction testing – where small electric shocks are passed through Lewis’ nerves to see how fast (if at all) they travel from one place to another. Also, Lewis’ hospital is getting a new super MRI scanner in April and Lewis is on the waiting list to have a scan on this machine to see if it can pick up anything that his other regular MRIs have not. We are also hoping to see a brain specialist about the possibility of Lewis being suitable for deep brain stimulation surgery – so lots of things coming up. Lewis’ hip surgery has been cancelled. We were not happy to go ahead with the surgery once we realised how permanent it was (cutting his abductor and adductor muscles) given that there is a chance of recovery – as long as we have no diagnosis at all, then there is always hope. With Lewis, he has absolutely no diagnosis, not even some vague idea. The medical profession is totally confused by him which is good in a way as it means he is quite high on the new tests list!

Thank you so much to pals for Lewis’ birthday cards and presents at the end of February. I put photographs on his website. Thank you for the lovely cushion he received from SOLAR (Stitches of Love and Kindness). Also, thank you to Post Pals for his teddy bear! Thank you to pals who send Lewis and Samuel regular postcards and letters! We even found a letter that had got ‘lost’ in the house move at the beginning of February from Post Pal Leona so that was a lovely surprise! We have now moved house completely and the bungalow we are in is fantastic! We are just renting so we hope the landlords decide to let us rent it for a long time as we are very happy here!

Lewis has a new carer, Rachel, whom he adores! She is young and pretty and blonde and he absolutely loves her! Samuel is doing really well at school and is approaching his exam time now before going up (fingers crossed!) to Sixth Form in September. He’s working really hard and making good grades!

Update 24th February 2009

Sorry for the long wait for an update! We have been very busy moving house! We are now in a fantastic bungalow which is absolutely perfect for Lewis and is huge so is perfect for me and Samuel too! We have a huge garden so Samuel has his trampoline back up and we now have telephone and internet and Sky too so everybody is happy!

We have postponed Lewis surgery – we got a date for end of March – as he has recently had tests for Lyme Disease. You may remember Lewis appeared in The Daily Mail in September 2008. From that article, we had 60+ messages from people suggesting Lyme Disease. A few things have added up (Lew was bitten by an insect in Southern France in September 2005 and started to get ill in December 2005) so The Lewis Jeynes Fund has paid for Lewis to have specialist tests for Lyme Disease and we are awaiting the results. If it did by some miracle turn out that Lew had Lyme, he could be almost completely cured! So having surgery which is irreversible (cutting muscles) is not an option until we are absolutely sure we are ready for that step. We saw the specialist (Dr Daymond) at Nuffield Hospital in Newcastle on 9th February and the results should be back from the tests in 3-4 weeks. Fingers crossed!

Dr Daymond has also suggested that Lewis see a brain specialist in London so we are hoping for an appointment with him soon too.

It’s Lewis’ 5th Birthday on Saturday! Wow it has come around fast! It’s a happy time because we didn’t expect him to see his 3rd Birthday, but it is also sad because it means he has been ill for 3 years.

Samuel is doing really really well at school – preparing for his exams! He is doing lots of extra revision lessons and he is feeling really confident so that is great!

And Spring is on the way so we’re all feeling great!

Thank you so much to Post Pals for the lovely postcards, cards and letters we have received. Lewis got some valentine cards too – the only ones in this house!! We got two amazing postcards as well – made from material. They have pride of place on display for everybody to see!

Update 11th December 2008

We had a hospital appointment today and I thought it was just a routine one so was totally unprepared. Lewis is going to have to have surgery on his right hip due to the problems with his positioning. He has slight dysplasia and if it continues and is not dealt with now, his hip socket will erode and it will not be fixable. So he has to have something done to the soft tissue around his hip joint (not completely sure what – got an appointment in the New Year to go over details) and he will be in braces and plaster for 6-8 weeks. If this doesn’t work, he will have to have something done to the actual hip joint bone so it was quite a shock.

Other than that, he’s been great and he loves getting all his Post Pals letters, cards and presents!

Update 25th November 2008

Lewis is not very well (lots of seizures, twitching and temp spikes) so we’re going into the Bluebell Wood Children’s Hospice this afternoon for a few days.

A HUGE thank you to Love Quilts UK for Lewis’ wonderful ‘transport’ quilt which we received yesterday.

Update 7th November 2008

Sorry for the delay in an update. We haven’t had access to the internet until just this week!

In August I separated with Lewis’s dad, and so Lewis, Samuel and I have moved into a new home which isn’t very practical as it is a 3 storey town house with lots of stairs, but we will find somewhere more suitable early next year!

Lewis has been poorly a couple of times since we last did an update. In August he had a severe chest infection and suspected strep infection and was in hospital for a while. He eventually recovered but then got another chest infection in October and was in hospital again for a few days. He’s feeling a lot brighter now, although autumn and winter are the time for chest infections and children like Lew are much more vulnerable to these so it’s always a difficult time – lots of staying indoors and keeping warm!

Lewis has been enjoying learning more about his eye computer at school and we have been very lucky to borrow an eye computer for home for 3 months from a charity called Special Effect (www.specialeffect.org.uk). As Lewis learns how to use his eye computer more, he will eventually be able to communicate with us by eye pointing which will be amazing!

We do still have hope for some kind of miracle and that Lewis will one day get better and be able to walk and talk again, but there has been no breakthrough for Lew, even though we did get lots and lots of feedback from a lot of very kind people after Lewis appeared in an article in the Daily Mail in September. Lots of suggestions were made as to why Lewis is like he is, but sadly all the suggestions had already been explored, or once passed on to Lew’s medical team, were not conditions that were relevant to be looked at or further explored.

Thank you very much for Lewis’ and Samuel’s Halloween packages! They were a lovely surprise! We didn’t get to go out as it was way too cold and Lew had just got over a chest infection. Lew received two books, Crazy Cats which he loves to look at, and a great book about Christmas which has Lewis’ name in! We are saving that for December when we get all Christmassy at home! Lew’s favourite gift has got to be the Hoob he received! He loves it! Every time he sees it, he has a huge grin! And we now try to catch the TV programme now and then so that our Hoob can watch with us – thank you very much! Thank you for the great Halloween bags for Samuel and Lewis! They were a lovely surprise! We weren’t able to get out trick or treating because of Lew’s chest being vulnerable but Samuel got to go out with a friend and her children which he really enjoyed!

Update 4th June 2008

Not much has happened this month. Fingers crossed, Lewis has had a good month and so we’ve been quite steady and just got on with normal life day to day!

We have had some visitors over half term which was exciting but tiring for everybody and Samuel had a birthday (thank you so much to all the Post Pals for Samuel’s lovely cards and gifts!)

June and July are much more busy for us – me and Lew are going on a 3 part holiday this month – we are visiting our friend for the weekend, then going to butlins for the week, then visiting Declan K (Post Pal) for the next weekend – so lots and lots to do!

Thank you to all Lewis’ Post Pals for his cards, we love to receive them.

Lewis is looking forward to going back to school tomorrow after the half term holiday and then a training day on Monday.

He had an appointment with his surgeon and his PEG is absolutely fine and should last him another couple of years so that’s good news. We are feeling a bit like Lewis has been forgotten by the neurology department though, so we are going to be nagging them for some more tests, as it’s now 2 years since Lewis became ill and we still don’t know what is wrong so we want to see if anything has changed – so I think another MRI is on the cards!

 Update 24th March 2008

Thank you to Post Pals for all Lewis’ lovely Easter cards!Especially thank you to Kate W for your letter card, to Karen (Sami) for the lovely bunny card, to Julie Barrett for the funky bunny card, Kate Dee for the squidgy dinosaur card, and to Marie and Michael, and Martin Jackie and Jamie for their lovely surprise Easter cards.

The cards are on Lewis’ dayroom windowsill at the moment, but will go on his Post Pals wall in the playroom soon!

Update 3rd March 2008

Wow what a busy year it has been so far! February was super busy with appointments and visits and of course Lewis’ 4th Birthday! Lewis had the most wonderful day and he got so much post from Post Pals arriving from the first week of February. I kept it all hidden away until his birthday so he had a really big surprise! He was quite tired early on his birthday when we opened his cards and gifts but later on he brightened up and had a wonderful time at the local bowling alley with his friends. On Sunday we had his ‘proper’ party with an entertainer and his puppet called… LEWIS! It was great fun!

Health-wise, Lewis has been doing really well (fingers crossed!) and is absolutely loving school. After Easter he will go to school for 3 days and will also be going on the school bus which will be very exciting for him!

A big thank you to all Lewis’ Post Pals who have sent him so many cards, gifts, postcards and letters this month. You certainly have made his birthday very special and there are lots and lots of photos on Lewis’ website to prove it!

Update 3rd February 2008

We had a great Christmas although Lewis was ill in November and in December, particularly on Christmas Day and Boxing Day, but fingers crossed so far this year he has been doing really well! His PEG site was infected so he had to have antibiotics for that, and with the infection he did have increased seizures, but once the infection was gone, he was back to normal again.

The most exciting thing about January for us was that Lewis started school! He goes on a Monday and a Friday for around 5 hours and he absolutely loves it! It was very difficult at first to leave him, but its getting easier and he is already signed up to go an extra day from after Easter! He does baking on a Friday at school, and on a Monday he has communications sensory assessment so the school can assess his abilities and preferences and how to help him to communicate. We are so excited that one day soon Lewis might be able to communicate with us in some way by using switching.

We still haven’t been able to get Lewis in his pool (which was donated by Make A Wish Foundation) as the weather has been either too wet or too windy! But Lewis still loves his bath every morning!

We are now preparing for Lewis’ 4th birthday! This is a very special time for us as we didn’t think he would have a 3rd birthday, so to be celebrating his 4th is so super for us all!

Thank you very much to Post Pals and posties for all the wonderful Christmas cards and gifts Lewis and Samuel received – too many to count! Thanks also to our regular Post Pals for our post in January. Receiving a postcard, letter, gift or even an email really does make us smile. Lewis recognises his name and so we always show him the envelope when we receive Post Pal post so that he knows it is especially for him!

Happy New Year to everybody! Let’s hope 2008 can be good to us all.

Update 4th December 2007

November was not a very good month health-wise for Lewis. I knew there was something wrong, I just couldn’t point to what it was, but he wasn’t himself. He was under the weather, not very happy, and generally not well. We made several visits to the assessment unit at the hospital and finally Lewis was admitted with pneumonia, so we spent a week in hospital and then the rest of November at home avoiding people (germs!) and trying to get Lew back to full health.

Lewis’ new bedroom is now complete and he has started sleeping in there properly. His new bath was plumbed in last week so we are still getting used to that, but Lew enjoys it! He has not been able to go in his spa pool from The Make A Wish Foundation, but we hope to when it stops raining, now that he is better!

Thank you to all who have sent us emails and cards. We really do appreciate it very much. Thank you very much to Sami (K) for the get well card for Lewis and also to Despina Ropa for the lovely Christmas card all the way from USA!

Update 31st October 2007

Well it seems that each month we are super busy! This month Lewis had five really big and exciting things happen! First of all we went to an open day at the Bluebell Wood Childrens’ Hospice near Sheffield which will open in Easter 2008. It has been an ongoing project for some time now and it is finally getting to a stage where the families of children who are cared for in the community by the Hospice could go and have a look around. It was a very emotional day, enjoying the atmosphere and the surroundings, but at the same time knowing that we all there because we have a very poorly child. Lewis got to meet some Star Wars characters as well as making eyes at lots of pretty ladies!

Next up was going to London to collect Lewis’ Bravery Award at the Best Wellchild Childrens’ Health Awards 2007. Lewis was presented his award for bravery by Mark Foster, an Olympic and Commonwealth champion swimmer. Lewis loves the water and so to have his award presented by someone who also loves water was very special for us. Lewis was also presented with a special anniversary award to mark the 30th anniversary of the Wellchild charity, and this was presented to him and the other children by Prince Harry himself! It was amazing to meet with Prince Harry, he was so kind and caring and really interested in the children who had won awards. We got to meet a wonderful young lady called Natalie Robinson who also won a bravery award and who also lives very close to us, so that was very exciting too as Lewis loves young ladies, especially blonde ones!

We had an overnight in a hotel in London and the following day we went to London Zoo! Unfortunately it was very busy, as it was half-term week, but we did get to meet up with Lewis’ aunty Nicola and cousin Evie who live in London, as well as our friend Catriona and her two daughters Tilly and Eliza who also live near London and who we rarely get to see. Most exciting of all, Lewis finally got to meet his buddy Nathan Bovell who is very much like Lewis in his undiagnosed condition, except Nathan was born very poorly and Lewis was fine until he was 2 years old. Again it was a very emotional day with lots of cuddles and kisses and tears, but lots of happiness and smiles too.

Back at home it wasn’t long before we were packing again for our mini holiday in Cleethorpes. As you may recall, in August, we were taken by a charity to Disneyland Paris, but Lewis was so ill and ended up in hospital there. So we decided to try again with a little holiday at a local seaside resort (just one hour away from home) in a caravan. Unfortunately Lewis was again very ill and we had to take him to hospital in Grimsby and then bring him back home to our own local hospital here in Doncaster so that was another holiday cut very short by illness.

Lewis is still not 100%, but for a few days he was very very poorly, and reminded us of December last year when we didn’t know if he would reach his 3rd birthday. Because of his condition, he can become very ill very quickly, so when he shows small signs of illness we have to think fast to prevent him getting much much worse.

The final exciting thing for Lewis this month has been his sensory room. We have been fundraising to buy Lewis some sensory equipment and it arrived this month so Lew now has a wonderful place to relax and chill, and that has come in very handy this past few days with him being so unwell.

And so today it is Halloween! Lewis is well equipped with his sticky spider web, his glow in the dark skeleton, and his fab spooky Halloween cards from posties Kate Dee and Karen (Sami) Winch. Thank you so much Kate and Karen for your lovely gifts and the cards which are super creative and which will (after Halloween) go on Lewis’ postie wall.

A huge thank you as well goes to Helen B for Lewis’ blue card for his new bedroom. Everybody who has a look at Lew’s new room always has a look at the card and says ‘I wish I could do things like that!’ It is on Lew’s windowsill and will be put in a frame when he finally moves in! At the moment we are waiting for his bath and bed to arrive!

Update 5th October 2007

September was a very busy month for us. We have been catching up on all the activities that were not available during the school holidays, enjoying music and massage and catching up with Lewis’ friends.

We visited a local school and Lewis will hopefully be starting there (just half a day a week) in January. It’s a school for children with physical disabilities and it offers some amazing equipment and experienced staff, so we might even be able to get Lewis communicating with us in some way, because at the moment all he can do is make choices with eye pointing, and smile to let us know he’s happy or cry if he’s sad.

The conversion of our garage into a bedroom/bathroom for Lewis is almost complete and we are very excited about it! Lew has been able to choose the paint colour for his walls and he is having blue! Also, his new indoor chair has arrived. He had a giraffe chair which he grew out of as he is growing so fast! So he now has a very cool BLUE triton chair which he loves!

We had results back from his tests taken in July and they were all normal, so we are having a rest from tests for a year or so. Lewis has definitely grown out of his reflex anoxic seizures, which is AMAZING! And (fingers crossed) he hasn’t had an epileptic seizure for almost 2 months!

We are excited about going to collect Lewis’ award later this month for Best Brave Child age 2-3 years, through the Best magazine and Wellchild Charity Children’s Health Awards 2007. We will be getting Lewis a smart outfit to wear to collect his award, I have a feeling his outfit will be blue! It’s his favourite colour at the moment!

Fingers crossed, Lewis’ health has been good over the summer except for the odd temperature spikes which come for no reason and go within 24 hours. We are hoping that this winter will be a lot gentler than last year when Lew spent a lot of time in hospital.

He is such a handsome young man, he’s so brave, he has a wonderful smile and we are so proud of him!

Update 31st August 2007

Doesn’t seem like a month since we did the July update! August has been very, very busy!

At the beginning of August we went to Disneyland Resort Paris with a local charity called Bati-About-Kidz. Unfortunately, Lewis was ill and ended up in hospital while we were there so we didn’t get to see much of Disneyland, but thank you very, very much to the charity for taking us.

Our friend Mike ran and completed the Monschau Marathon in Germany on 12th August and raised lots of money for Lewis’ Fund so that we can purchase sensory equipment and a touch screen computer for him eventually!

Lew’s PEG is doing really well, we’re pretty much used to it now and it’s so much easier to use than his NG tube was! Lew is continuing to grow and we are now awaiting his new indoor chair as he has grown out of his giraffe chair already! We are also waiting for work to start on converting the garage into a bedroom for Lew so that we will no longer need to carry him up and downstairs for bathing and bedtime. We are very excited about the new room as once it is complete we will be able to purchase some sensory equipment with the Fund.

Some exciting news – we approached the Make A Wish Foundation about Lewis having a wish from them and they have (in principle) granted his wish so we are waiting to hear more about that – will let you know when we hear!

And some very, very exciting news – we are 99% sure Lewis has grown out of his reflex anoxic seizures!!! Lewis has been having these since he was around 6 months old – it is an involuntary reaction to pain or fear which would cause Lewis to stop breathing, his heart to stop beating, his brain to flat line for a few seconds. During this time he goes blue and stiff and then very floppy before taking a breath and coming back round. It is very distressing to watch and at one point Lew was having these several times a day (he developed a fear of being laid down on his back). He hasn’t had one for a whole month so fingers crossed they have gone for good!

Later this month Lewis and I had a little holiday in Scarborough (just for one night) and enjoyed visiting the Sea Life Centre, Scarborough Castle, and walking along the promenade enjoying the sights, smells and sounds!

We are looking forward to the schools starting again after the holiday so Lew and I can start going on days out again! During the school holidays, everywhere is so busy that it makes visiting attractions very difficult with a wheelchair, so we are looking forward to getting out and about again!

A quick THANK YOU very much to postie Karen (Sami) for Lew’s giggle stick, wiggly snake and very cool train card! A big hello to Lewis’ two regular posties Sian and Lawse.

Looking forward to September!

Update 1st August 2007

July has been a very busy month for us! We met up with some very good friends for a fantastic Fun Day and Lew had his face painted! I don’t think he was so bothered about the face painting, but he fell in love with the very attractive young lady who was doing the painting and enjoyed the 20 minutes he could gaze into her eyes!!

Lew’s nasal gastric tube decided it didn’t want to stay put and it came out several times this month. It was very frustrating as it is such hard work for Lewis and for me to have to re-pass it, but it was lovely for Lew to have some time without the tube during the day, to have a rest!

Lew had a few big seizures earlier this month, we could tell he was under the weather but could not pinpoint the exact problem. He didn’t have a temperature, but he wasn’t himself and it was clear he wasn’t feeling very well. He has more seizures when he is poorly and he was having on average 2 a day for a few days but thankfully that passed after about a week.

The week before Lewis’ surgery we avoided everybody! We didn’t leave the house very much (which wasn’t difficult with the terrible rain and flooding) but we got very bored not seeing anyone!! We didn’t want Lew to catch a bug just before his surgery though and have to have it postponed!

On Monday 16th July, Lew was admitted to Sheffield Children’s Hospital for his PEG surgery. The op went really well, Lew came round from the anaesthetic much better than expected and we were able to go home on the Thursday, having done the fast track course on PEG care! Lew looks so much better without the ng tube taped to his face and of course he can breathe much better too because it’s blocking his nose and his throat.

The stoma did become a little infected so Lewis is now on antibiotics (oral and cream) and it has cleared up very nicely, however it is now over-granulating which is when the skin tries to heal over the stoma site…! So we are awaiting some magic cream to hopefully ‘dry it out’, but if that fails, Lew will have to have it cauterised, but that is a last resort. Feeding and giving meds via the PEG tube is so much easier as well! It’s great! No more ph paper testing! Hooray!

While Lewis was in hospital he also had substantial bloods taken (for various testing) and a rectal biopsy. The results of these tests will take some time to come back as they are rare tests which require specialised culturing, etc. We have already been advised that the conditions that are now being tested for are very rare, are untreatable, and are incurable – but the general medical opinion is that they won’t find out what is wrong with Lew – that he is an enigma!

I found out just last week that Lewis’ dad had nominated Lewis for an award – the WellChild and Best Magazine Children’s Health Awards 2007. I found out because the organisation telephoned me to say that Lewis had won the Award for the Best Brave Child 2-3 years old category! So in October we will (Lew’s health permitting) be going to an awards ceremony in London to collect Lewis’ award!

A friend of ours is running a marathon in Germany to raise money for the Lewis Jeynes Fund on 12th August, and so I have been given the job of printing his special t-shirt to wear on the day! I have sneaked the Postpals logo and website onto the t-shirt so let’s hope we can get some more post for our pals!

Thank you to pals who sent Lewis Get Well cards while he was in hospital and when he had come home. Thanks to Sian who is a regular Post Pal for Lewis and sends us letters often. Thank you to Post Pal Helen who sent Lew a lovely windmill! Thank you also to Post Pals Sian and Jamie for the fab stickers! Thank you Post Pal Declan for the wonderful glowing monkey! And thank you to Nathan for the bouncy boingy monkey!

Update 5th July 2007

Lew has been stable for most of June, however as we have moved into July he has started to deteriorate noticeably and have more seizures and absences than he has done before. He is not as ill as he was at Christmas, but he seems to be heading that way, so we are hoping that he will be able to fight off whatever it is that is making him ill. He is also struggling with his head control and we are looking at a new car seat as his head flops forward almost constantly now and blocks his airways so I need to pull over and put his head back so that he can breathe again. We have now moved his car seat into the front seat so that I can keep a closer eye on him while I am driving.

On 11th July, Lew should be in an article in the Daily Mirror in their Health supplement. Do look out for him (and the rest of us!)

On 16th July Lewis goes in to hospital for a rectal biopsy, blood tests for several very rare genetic conditions, and for a gastrostomy so we can say goodbye to the horrid nasal gastric tube for good (we hope!)

Please do think of Lew while he’s in hospital. We’ll be at Sheffield Childrens Hospital, Western Bank, Sheffield, South Yorkshire, Ward S1.

Thank you so much to fellow PostPal Declan K for the lovely STAR card and the glowing monkey and the totally cool Bob the Builder pyjamas!

Update 11th June 2007

Wow what a wonderful gift Lew received today from you all! It was the best surprise, as I was feeling so miserable because Lew pulled his tube out 4 times in the night and he is on night drip feed so it’s a major panic every time, especially when he just pulls it half out so it’s still going in but who knows where its dripping to – stomach or lungs? We were both soooo tired, fed up, miserable, and the postman said ‘oh I’ve got a parcel for you as well’ and Lew watched carefully as I unpacked and… well gorgeous!

It hasn’t got a name yet, but it hasn’t left Lew’s side since it arrived. It’s been to taekwondo with us this afternoon (to watch Lewis’ friends) and now it’s on Lew’s bed next to him so he can see it when he wakes up.

Thank you so much for making our day very special (again).

Update 6th June 2007

 

Lew has been stable since our last update. He is still very much enjoying his life to the full; he finds lots to smile and laugh at and enjoys meeting new friends and spending time with old ones! He always has a smile for the ladies, especially young, blonde ones!! We are seeing Lewis’ surgeon on Friday to discuss his forthcoming surgery and we expect a date in the next 3-5 weeks. Lew will have a rectal biopsy and quite a lot of blood taken (for the tests Professor Surtees of GOSH asked to be done) as well as having a fundoplication (putting a band around the top of the stomach to prevent reflux) and a gastrostomy (tube directly into the stomach rather than in his nose and down his throat as it is at present). Lew will really benefit from the gastrostomy and fundoplication as he really doesn’t like having the ng tube and its also very stressful for us as parents as we have the constant worry of it misplacing and there is a serious risk of milk/medicine/water being introduced into the lungs instead of the stomach. It’s a huge worry for us as Lew is on overnight drip feed so to have the tube going directly into his tummy will be a great weight off our minds, and will also mean that Lew will have a clear face, no more horrid plasters, and a clear nose and throat. Perhaps the biopsy and the blood tests will bring us back some results – we will have to see. The major worry we have with the surgery is the general anaesthetic. Lewis doesn’t do well at all under GA and we are very frightened, but it has got to be done so I think we just want it all over with as soon as possible so that we can come out the other side, hopefully all of us unscathed.

At home, we are awaiting building work to convert our garage into a bedroom/bathroom for Lewis as he is growing fast and is very heavy!!! We have some money from fundraising which we will use to buy sensory equipment and a touch screen computer for Lewis’ new room once it is finished.

Lewis should be in the Daily Mirror on 4th or 11th July so if you get that newspaper, you can take a look at us all!

Lots of love, hugs and very good health to all our PostPals and thank you to PostPals for Lewis’ fluffy bunny and his gorgeous hug blanket thing!

Update 4th May 2007

Thank you to all our Post Pals who have sent Lewis cards, letters and gifts. We so enjoy receiving them and it really does brighten our days.

Lewis has been stable this past month. We had our long awaited appointment this week at Great Ormond Street Hospital with the world expert paediatric neurologist. Unfortunately he feels there is no treatment for Lewis, but he has commissioned more tests to see if a diagnosis can be found – but he did say that the conditions they are testing for are incurable and do not have any treatment. All the tests can be done through bloods except one, which will require a general anaesthetic, as he needs to have a rectal biopsy to obtain a nerve cell. Apparently nerve cells in the rectum are very similar to those found in the brain and rectal surgery is a lot less risky than brain surgery. So we are waiting for that appointment to come through.

Once Lew has had his surgery, the Professor wants him to go on a 3 month course of maximum dose steroids to try and control his epilepsy. He said there are of course risks involved with large doses of steroids, but that if Lew’s epilepsy does respond to the steroids then they can look at long term treatment with reduced side effects i.e. giving a huge dose once a month.

We are really struggling at the moment with the hopelessness of Lewis’ condition. We are very sad and low, but we are trying so hard to keep positive for Lewis’ sake. We are going to contact the Make a Wish Foundation to see if they can do something really great for Lew because although his body is now almost completely useless, mentally he is totally aware of what is going on.

Please do look at our website which I try to update regularly with our daily activities and lots of photographs.

Update 3rd April 2007

Lewis has been stable for a couple of months now so we got a bit complacent, but this last couple of weeks he has been in hospital twice (once after 999 call for ambulance) as his breathing has deteriorated a lot and he is struggling with the simple action of breathing. We are concerned that this deterioration of his muscles is passing to the muscles around his lungs and this is affecting his ability to breathe. Lew is still ng tube fed and has real trouble with his secretions, so spends a lot of his time choking and coughing. He still smiles occasionally, but not as readily as before, as he really is feeling unwell at the moment.

He has also started to have a new type of seizure which is distressing him a lot as he is aware of what is going on and finds it very frightening, as do we, because it causes his entire body to go rigid, his back arches, and he gulps for breath. Luckily, it only lasts a matter of seconds.

Lew is currently on antibiotics to hopefully prevent any infection spreading to his chest and we await our appointment at Great Ormond Street on 30th April. In fact it can’t come around quick enough because we really are very worried about how quickly Lew is starting to deteriorate again.

Thank you to Post Pals for your lovely card and gifts. Also, many big thanks to Katie Plant for your letter and your card. I am so sorry we haven’t got around to replying yet but it has just been a bit crazy here recently.

Update 7th March 2007

Lewis’ condition has remained pretty stable these last few weeks. He’s losing small abilities, like he can’t blow kisses anymore or poke his tongue out to be cheeky. His weight is continuing to stay on track and he is soooo heavy now!!! I have muscleman arms!

We have our appointment at Great Ormond Street at the end of next month so things are just trundling along until then really.

Lewis’ seizures have increased recently; he’s been having a lot of absences too, so we are expecting him to have a major seizure in the next couple of weeks – not looking forward to that! Especially as so far after each major seizure, Lewis has lost more ability and to be honest he’s not got much left now. He can smile (and what a smile!) and he can turn his head slightly left and right.

Lewis is still on ng tube feeding and we’re pretty much settled into the routine now.

On 28th February, Lewis had his 3rd birthday. Two months ago, we didn’t think Lewis would make it this far, so it was a really very special day for us and we celebrated it in a big way! The house was in chaos, full of people, but it was so great. Lew had a great time but of course was absolutely shattered by the end of the party!

Lewis made an appearance in the local newspaper and then on the local TV news programme and from that we have heard from a charity called Bat-I About Kidz (based in Bradford) who would like to take Lewis (and us too!) to EuroDisney in Paris in August so that’s exciting. We just hope that Lew will be well enough to travel then. They do provide medical assistance and we travel in a ‘jumbulance’ so fingers crossed all will be okay. The hardest thing about not having a diagnosis for Lew is that we don’t know what might happen next. So we literally live each day as it comes and don’t plan ahead. Keeping positive and enjoying every day as much as we can.

Thank you to all the post pals who sent Lewis lovely birthday cards and letters.  We were so impressed with the home made cards – they were awesome! He had the most wonderful birthday and I will be putting photos from his special day on our website very soon! Lots of love and hugs and cuddles to all our post pal pals xxx

Update 8th February 2007

Lewis’ swallowing had returned somewhat, so we tried him with some stage 1 baby food which he LOVED, but unfortunately there is still a huge risk of aspiration so we have been advised to stop the feeding or to give 1 or 2 very small spoonfuls a couple of times a day. As food has been such an important part of Lewis’ life before he became ill, it is actually more traumatic for him to have just 1-2 spoonfuls than to not have any food at all, so we have decided to wait a month or so and see how his swallowing goes.

Lewis’ dad’s company held their annual dinner in London this week and raised over £4000 for the Bluebell Wood Hospice and for Ward 31 at Doncaster Royal Infirmary, on behalf of Lewis which was awesome!

Lewis’ weight is back to normal after he lost 2kg before Christmas, hence our long stay in hospital. So, the tube feeding is doing wonders and my arms are getting super muscly again from carrying him around!

We are collecting his new (CATO) pushchair/wheelchair on Tuesday so we are very excited about that! At the moment he has a Maclaren Major buggy on loan, but it does not offer anywhere near enough support for him so we’re really looking forward to getting his new, custom-built ‘wheels’!!

I tell everyone I can about Post Pals. It is so awesome and I think more people should know about it! It has brought us so much happiness, just to know that people really do care, people who have never met us, don’t know us, but care enough to want to touch our lives.

Thank you to Laura (Lawse) for our cards, thank you so much to Helen for our lovely letter (love the paper!) and to Laura for your very touching letter. Thank you so much Jodie for the cassette of nursery rhymes, to Helen for the orange twirly thing (do they have a name?!) and for the cassettes – we particularly love Postman Pat Takes a Message!

Update 21st January 2007

Hello, I wanted to thank everyone for the wonderful presents Lewis and Samuel received over Christmas from Post Pal friends. We have also received some lovely cards and emails too.

As you may know, Lewis was in hospital (with me!) from 29th December to 15th January and so we are still trying to get into a home routine now that Lewis is on ng tube feeding.

I will get around to sending thank you cards to all those who have sent gifts, cards and kind wishes to both Lewis and Samuel, but until I do, I hope everybody will know how much you have made Samuel and Lewis smile these last few weeks.

Update 3rd January 2007

We have made it into 2007! Lew is still in hospital, on IV fluids as he vomited up his feeding tube! We’ve got to see some specialists tomorrow about feeding and will be here for a few more days at least.

Update 21st December 2006

I wanted to say thank you again for all the wonderful Christmas cards Lewis has received, one of our walls is covered in cards and he has loved receiving them. Samuel enjoyed receiving some too.

Lewis had his 3rd MRI yesterday at Sheffield and he didn’t come round from the anaesthetic very well. As a result, we had to stay in last night. Lew has now been allowed home (hooray!) with antibiotics for a chest infection and antibiotic eye drops for an eye infection! He was fine yesterday morning when we went in for his MRI lol!

He is now losing his right hand as well as his left hand which is very worrying. He is also having real problems sleeping as his seizures/twitches are getting much stronger and keep him awake. He is soooo tired love him, he has bags under his eyes, but still he manages to flirt and blow kisses and smile at the ladies!!! He enjoyed making eyes and blowing kisses at two other patients in the ward this morning before we left.

Well we are back home now and we are having a rest before Lew’s giraffe chair arrives at 1pm hooray! We hope it will give him the support he needs so that he can hopefully be a bit more independent (ie. not have to sit on our laps all the time).

Merry Christmas to everybody and so many loving and caring thoughts to all who need them.

Update 9th December 2006

Well Lew hasn’t got battens! Phew! That was such a relief, its amazing how much better I feel hearing that news! I was so convinced he had it; I was shocked when they said no he hasn’t!

The next steps are to test for mitochondrial disease and creatine deficiency as well as awaiting the results of a gene test for dystonia.

We are being referred to Great Ormond Street early next year and Lew will be having a further MRI in January/February.

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Alice P

28 June 2011

Story written 2008

Alice first started receiving post as her sister, Milly, has been a Pal for a year. Alice has her own health problems though.

Alice started loosing a lot of weight which caused concern. As a type 1 diabetic, her sugar levels were out of control and she started having hypo’s during the night which was very scary for everyone involved. The weight loss continued and she started to feel really ill. Next she developed a bad itch all over and would scratch and scratch until she bled as it wouldn’t go away. She also has enlarged lymph nodes and anxiety which made going to school difficult.

Alice’s family took her to various doctors which dragged on for months, and faced with the prospect of another long wait for a biopsy of the lymph node, they decided to see a consultant privately. He carried out a blood test, chest X ray and a scan before delivering the terrible news that Alice had a form of cancer called Hodgkins Lymphoma. He said that it has spread beyond the initial stages as shadows showed up all over her chest Xray. He sent her home for the night with the instructions to be admitted to Manchester Children’s Hospital the next day (Saturday) for more tests and then to start chemotherapy.

Alice is a lovely girl, if you have ever written to her and Milly then chances are you have received a thank you card. She also writes to other children on Post Pals.

Update January 2015

Milly has now turned 16 and feels it’s time to move on from Post Pals.

A big thank you to everyone who supported her and Alice over the years.

Update 12th January 2013

We are very sad to say Alice passed away today. Alice joined Post Pals many years ago as a sibling while Milly was going through multiple operations. We all remember when she first got ill and joined as a Pal the day she was diagnosed, she fought so hard and for so long. After Alice’s bucket list went viral the whole world found out how special Alice was, right until the end she was working to help others despite what she was going through. We were lucky to know Alice for so long and we also knew how kind she was, always thinking of others long before cancer

Update 13th May 2011

Alice continues to amaze us with the most positive attitude imaginable and a determination to make the best of the situation. She refuses to give in to the cancer and is giving her all in a desperate effort to outsmart the beast within. Her diet is entirely organic – home cooked/grown, with a variety of supplements and a mix of fresh home juiced vegetable and fruit drinks. She is making herself get out and walk every single day with Mabel. We also meditate together in the evenings and I think this plays a valuable part in her positive approach.

We are still seeing the psychic healer in Spain and are due to fly out again the week after next… unfortunately, I didn’t think about booking flights earlier and have now realised that it is actually going to be half term week following… not the best time for finding a budget flight!! We are seriously grateful to our friends, Jayne and Dean, for letting us use their apartment out there. Alice has now had EIGHT FULL MONTHS without any intervention or treatment of any sort… for an aggressive, lymphatic cancer. While the healer may not offer the cure we so desperately need, I have gone from being a little sceptical to becoming a total believer and I know that Alice is here with us now because of the healing.

In other areas, Mabel has provided so much joy to Alice, it’s unbelievable. She is such a character and if there’s any trouble, you can guarantee that Mabel will be in the middle of it! Alice is entering Mabel in her first dog show this weekend (14th) so God help the judges if they don’t place our baby! Alice continues to enjoy her oil painting and has quite a little business going – I must add that she has never pocketed the money, it is always given to charity, usually childhood cancer related. Other than that, Alice is also making cards to give to charities to sell – we give them to places such as the hospital shops and charity shops in town, etc.

Milly is continuing to do well and absolutely loves her ‘new’ school. This is such a relief as just a year ago, school was such an issue to her and her self esteem was so low. It’s so nice to see her flourishing and it’s one less thing for us to worry about. A few years ago, when Milly won her Child of Courage award at Westminster Abbey, she was granted a wish and asked to be a journalist for a day. It’s taken longer than planned but, just a couple of weeks ago, she was invited down to Bliss Magazine in London where she worked on a few articles and generally had a whale of a time. Thanks so much to Charlotte at the magazine – Milly will be back for her work experience! Milly’s ‘How to get the look’ piece can be see online – http://www.mybliss.co.uk/web/guest/beauty/detail?id=53856. Milly also recently completed a 23 mile walk to raise money for ‘Over the Wall’, a charity providing camp style breaks for terminally and seriously ill children. Our team, ‘Team Alice’, hope to have raised several thousand pounds. Milly’s next mission is to personally contact and engage all the local schools in supporting a child on Post Pals… watch this space.

Together, the girls have approached a couple of nursing homes in the area and we are shortly to commence visiting once a week with a combination of Bess, Scooby and Mabel (not all three together)! Milly and I were out walking the dogs a while back, when we bumped into an elderly lady, supported by a carer. She was absolutely thrilled we stopped, but very emotional when telling us how much she missed her dog. The idea was launched and we can’t wait to start our visits.

Simon and I both completed the 40 mile version of the above – visit http://www.keswick2barrow.co.uk/about.asp which gives info on the walk and its history. Simon is following in my footsteps and is off to Peru in November, raising money for Great Ormond Street and I’m currently thinking about my next BIG challenge… I’m desperate to do Kilimanjaro, but not sure if I could get enough training in and obviously I can’t up and leave Alice at the moment, despite it being her dream to go to Africa.

Now for the big thank you for everyone who has written to the girls. There has been so many lovely, encouraging cards sent that it would be difficult to be miserable about life. Thank you too for all the thoughtful gifts, they brighten the day even more. Alice received some basset books from Helen in Australia… ‘You can survive – tips for life through basset eyes’… absolutely fab, thank you. But the most entertaining of all gifts has to be the ‘Mabel-cam’… a small digital camera which clamps onto the dogs collar and takes photos automatically on timer. We have laughed so much at the photos telling us of Mabel’s day from her view point… pinching food… eating Nurofen (oops!)… shredding slippers… stripping garden furniture… not too sure that she should be doing it all but it sure makes entertaining viewing. Perhaps we’ve a novel in the making… ‘Mabel and me’!

So thank you to each and every one of you for filling Alice’s life with positive vibes and giggly post… we love it.

Update 1st February 2011

Apologies for such a lengthy gap in our updates. We’ve been mainly at home for the past couple of months, just taking each day as it comes. Alice had a particularly rough patch over Christmas and we did wonder if she’d ride through it but, in typical Alice fashion, she picked up and is making the most of the hours she’s awake! It’s at this point that I confess to not having noted down who to thank for all the lovely gifts and cards that Alice has been getting. She was so excited to receive more Lush deliveries and has become an expert at mixing the different bombs… half of this and a bit of that and half of that. I think that she would make a inventor for Lush! To the school group who were Alice’s Elves, please email your names and contact details via our link – what you did was truly special. We also had other thoughtful gifts for Milly as well. So, despite the lack of individual mentions, please accept our thanks.

Alice is continuing to see the psychic healer out in Spain, on a monthly basis. We’re not sure on how much longer we will be able to afford this for, but, for the minute, she benefits both physically and mentally and we’re grateful for that.

We haven’t heard or seen from anyone related to the hospital since October. This ‘out of area’ thing isn’t so grand when you’re at this stage and I have absolutely no idea what the forward plan is for us. South Cumbria does not have paediatric Mac nurses / Clic nurses / a children’s hospice or anything similar. I’m just thankful that I have been able to take on her entire care and her diabetes management; else I’d still be doing 200 mile round trips.

After months of hassle with her diabetic canula supplies, I’ve managed to win yet another small battle and I now have control over the ordering. Hopefully, I’ll not allow Alice’s supplies to get down to the last cannula, as the hospital did. Somehow, we’ve managed to stumble this far without any major disasters; we make a good team.

We had Milly down at GOSH in January and thankfully, things look okay there. Her almost continuous headaches are been put down to stress, so I’m not really sure how to address that. Really not sure.

So, more a rambling diary of life as opposed to a medical update; but that’s it from us.

Our heartfelt thanks to all who continue to support Alice on her journey.

Update 17th October 2010

First of all, thank you to everyone who continues to support Alice in sending her cards and gifts through Post Pals. She was delighted to receive some ‘Lush’ goodies since the last update and also some craft supplies which have already been put to good use.

I’m very sad to report that despite the extra chemo; last week’s scan shows that there is still some active cancer in her chest. Unfortunately, her function tests show that her body has had enough and we have been told that there is no more curative treatment on offer.

We have been offered surgery to remove as much of the active cancer as possible, but it is major surgery and would likely involve ICU, so we are really on the fence as to what to do. Surgery would only give us time, but if part of that time is spent in severe pain, we feel you have to ask what the true benefits are.

In the meantime, we are seeing a healer with Alice and spending a great deal of time preparing organic, pure foods and raw juices. If nothing else, it will perhaps change my (bad) nibbly habits! Alice is aware of the results, but remains very focused on doing all she can, both mentally and physically, to keep forward moving.

She is so very well in herself that I do sometimes forget about the beast within. She has been busy helping me with the Christmas Card project for Post Pals, and although we are back and forth to either the hospital or the healer, she has managed to make about 8 packs of 5 so far (all sold)!

We were absolutely delighted to be invited to attend the ‘Over the Wall’ Gunpowder Ball in Manchester on 5th November and are hoping that nothing happens to prevent the girls from going. They both have beautiful new dresses (just the fat, anaemic mother not sorted)!!

Having promised Alice a puppy once her treatment was over, we stuck to our word and the very day the hospital delivered the dreadful news, we collected our beautiful new puppy. ‘Mabel’ is an 8 week old Labrador puppy – as chunky and appealing as they come! She already follows Alice everywhere and Mabel has somehow managed to escape the crate at night and make it to the bedroom… mmm, not too sure what Cesar would make of that!!

So, we move forward into the winter months unsure of the road ahead. But we are still smiling as a day spent in misery would be a day wasted… having been on this path for so long, we know that there are many that would give anything to have this special time together.

Update 8th August 2010

I have no idea where the last three months have gone and I do apologise for the lengthy delay in updating Alice’s page. Alice continued with the intensive chemo and had a PET scan on 2nd June to assess the response. We were relieved to see a reduction in masses and it was decided to continue with a further two cycles, the aim being to achieve complete remission. It was following this course that we heard the news that a bone marrow donor match had been found for Alice, which while fantastic news, made us aware of how crucial it was that this chemo works if she is to have a chance.

Last week, after a further PET scan on 2nd, we continued south for a break in Torquay with Luke of the THHN. We’re glad that we were away, as the results show improvement but still not the elusive clear we are so desperately searching for. After debate, it has been decided to try two more cycles and see where we are after that. The cancer, it would seem, is made of pretty stern stuff. But Alice is tough too, and she is determined to fight with all she has.

So, she is going back into Alder Hey tomorrow to commence with a fifth cycle and she’ll be accompanied by some lovely ‘Lush’ bath bombs and some nice smellies from Torquay. She loves her Lush products and stocks permitting, has a morning and evening soak! It’s her little bit of ‘me’ time and the smell lifts her so much (and the nurses who love the lingering fragrance). The poor teenage boys on the ward!!

Which leads me nicely into ‘thank yous’… she had some lovely little boxes of Lush arrive over the past weeks and I can assure you, her face lights up so much that you’d think they were solid gold. She was also made up to receive a lovely card, letter and class photo from a secondary school – oops, I lost the address but thank you so much. I know her latest ‘lift’ is in the form of a DS quiz type game, which is going back into hospital with us – quite a hit. I’m not going to list all I can remember, as no doubt I’ll forget some, but just ‘thank you’ for everything sent to everyone. Alice does try to reply to as many of you as possible, but sometimes, she just isn’t up to it. Please understand and don’t think that it isn’t because she doesn’t want to. And to ‘Fiona’ (if you’re reading), Alice has lost your address and so hasn’t been able to write to you recently. Please write again (or email) with your address!I’ll try to keep you up to date a little more often in future. Sorry!

Update 29th April 2010

We were home last weekend following surgery on Thursday to remove the new areas of growth; so far Alice hasn’t had any feeling come back on one side of her chest. She started the intensive chemo yesterday at Alder Hey, although it’s best for post to go to our forwarding address.

The chemo is very experimental and hard hitting but Alice wants to do it and said that she won’t give in. If the chemo does manage to clear her cancer, unlike the previous ones we have tried these past 2 years, then she will need a bone marrow match to proceed and we are desperately searching for that special someone. You can join up by http://www.nhsbt.nhs.uk/bonemarrow/ or http://www.anthonynolan.org.uk/ or if you can click on www.facebook.com/pages/Alice-Pyne-Bone-Marrow-Recruitment-Appeal to find out about events you can come along to.

The recent coverage on the TV program saw a rise in post through our door. Alice received a letter from a lad who himself has gone through Hodgkin’s, which really touched her and he sent a voucher for a DS game. There have been a few boxes of ‘Lush’ products and some fantastic craft things arrived which is a huge hit. And yet more doggy post, although our scrapbook is on hold for the minute. Thank you to everyone who sent something, it really did help distract her and put a smile on her face.

Update 17th March 2010

After spending the earlier part of February in hospital with shingles (which I had no idea could be so painful), we were glad to have a little time at home before our Consultant decided enough was enough, we had waited long enough (for action from London) and they would start with a new chemo regime in Liverpool. This started on 23rd February, but what should be a series of day case infusions, ended up been just over 2 weeks in hospital. We’re not quite too sure whether it was solely the chemo causing problems; it could be that she was already coming down with something else, but it really knocked her. Having not eaten for over 3 weeks, she’s lost 12kg of weight and we were left with no choice but to have an NG tube for feeds (which Alice is not impressed about). So, we are just home at the weekend and due back again tomorrow!

Alice was very down while back in hospital and it was reassuring to see a bit of the old Alice appear once we’d got home. She’s still very tired and using her chair constantly to go anywhere, but definitely happier in herself. Monday was a nice day as Julie Bennett kindly treated us to cinema tickets to watch ‘Hachi’ – a new film about a dog. If you get the chance then go – it’s lovely and unbelievably, it’s based on a true story.

Alice has been well supported with post this last month so HUGE thank you to all of you for keeping her going – it really does provide a distraction. Our ‘Dog Scrapbook’ is coming along – we ended up buying an expandable album so that we can scrap properly and Alice can take it with her to hospital to look at all her canine friends! Doggie contributors include – Percy the Poodle, Bess, Fizzy, Toots, Harriet, Holly, Buckley, Oscar, Lily, Poppy, Paddy, Jess, Tara and her puppies (awh), Charlie (RIP), Fergie, Toby, Zach, Suzy, Diesel, Dave, George, Bob, Poppy, Ally, Kimmy (RIP), Jenny, Harry, Jessie, Ruby (and baby Jack!), Max (who is a fluff ball), Dizzi the Dalmatian puppy, Alfie and pals – Bella, Drogba and Jimmy, Skye, Elvis, Kita, Oscar, Rocco, Dylan and finally, but not least, Merlin.  WOW – so you’ll see that we have quite a few woofas to be getting artistic with – we’ll be posting photos of the album on here as it progresses.

Alice was so made up to receive a dog card from her idol, Cesar Millan, and that is being framed (I’m not allowed to add it to the scrapbook) – thanks Jan for organising that. He wrote ‘Believe with Love and Calm, Assertive Energy’ – ‘Blessings’. She couldn’t believe it and had to keep reading it again and again.

Now onto ‘none doggie post’! Thank you to Sharon, Kate D, Miriam for Alice’s book (fab choice), Sarah G for the bunny (sorry got it wrong last month), Jenny, Sacha, Viks, Alison for Alice’s book (another classic), Max the dog, Julie Bennett for various things – letters, treats and dog photos, Emily B, Emily, Helen B, Libby for the fabulous box of Lush things (one thing guaranteed to put a smile on her face is Lush), Arlene for photos and stickers, Deidre for her handmade card, an unnamed card from Finland, Anne-Louise for the puppy book (awh), Jane, Garry & Julie, Sarah, Suzannah, Claire, Kate D for the 100 ways to train a human dog book (so funny), Emma Stone for the knitted Angel, Angels of Hope, Wendela, Clare and Sophia. Phew – so you can see that Alice has been well loved this month. Thank you! Now for the grovelling apologies – Alice received a beautiful ‘Alice in Wonderland’ bracelet which wasn’t added to the usual list as we were sending a thank you and somehow, we have lost the address and so have no idea of who to thank. Please drop us an email and we can put that right! Another thank you is still due to the kind lady who sent a huge box of craft things for both the girls at Christmas time – again, please let us know who you are. Finally, anything sent to both of the girls may well have been opened by Milly at home and unfortunately, Dad does not always think to write down names and Milly is usually too excited – so, I arrive back none the wiser. Apologies if you are one of them!

So, the vague plan is to complete another 1 or 2 cycles of chemo and then PET scan to see if the cancer is sensitive to it. We can give more chemo if necessary, although the less required the better. Then, we have to pray that a donor is on the horizon and proceed with transplant once more, although this time it’s more risky. My job is to keep Alice as strong as possible for the battle ahead, so thanks for walking with us and supporting her.

Update February 2010

Alice had a further PET scan on 1st February, which we were praying would show the previous PET results to have been false. Sadly, that was not to be and we were dismayed to find further spread. Having tried all known protocols, we are somewhat out of options and the team at Alder Hey have been talking with the team at UCL to try and come up with something. We are hopeful that we will be allowed to try something experimental, but that will still have to be followed up with a BMT and currently, there is no donor. I would ask anyone eligible to register with either www.nhs.co.uk or www.anthonynolan.org.uk – the upper age on the NHS is slightly higher, up to 44 inclusive. Please consider it – YOU could be the one to save our girl. Please tell anyone you can.

Alice is still my smiley girl, but she has to deal with a lot at the moment. Her body is constantly aching, she isn’t sleeping and she is quite low, which just isn’t her. She has had much comfort from the fabulous microwave bunny which arrived (and pinched Milly’s at times, sorry – don’t seem to have written name down – was it Helen?). She managed to develop shingles at the beginning of the month and that required a week back in hospital as the pain was so great. Thankfully, it seems to be under control now. She has been enjoying a charitable project which has been run in the hospital by ‘Twin Vision’ and on Friday last week, we were invited to St George’s Hall in Liverpool for the awards ceremony. The animations were screened and the children all collected their very own Oscar – very proud mum!

At the end of January, we were gobsmacked when a large Elf box arrived for Alice – from her Elf Debbie. Not really too sure where it had been as the post mark was mid-December, but it provided a huge boost and we actually decided that Christmas in January was rather nice.On our thank you list – Helen, Hanna, Clare, Lydia, Kate D, Post Pals, Viks, Claire, Maria & Michael, Marjolyn, Shelagh, Helen, Sophie B, Munchang Middle School, Shauna, Hannah, Jemma, Marcus, Tez, Heather, Erin, Percy, Jayne, Sarah, Emily, Sarah & Abi (Liberty Rose) and finally a lovely box of Valentines goodies arrived, but with no name – posted from LE17, so thank you whoever you are.  No doubt I’ll have missed someone – please don’t be offended, it’s just my mushy brain and not intentional.If anyone could find any information on how we could get an autograph / card from Cesar Millan, please let me know. He is her idol and any regulars will know that she lives, breathes and talks dogs. I know that would lift her (as would Colin Firth coming to take me out for the evening)!!!

And finally, thank you to Anne who makes the most wonderful cards and sent one for ME! I was very touched that you did that. Thank you!

I haven’t a clue where we go from here but I will update as and when I am able. Please keep your messages light and child appropriate.

Update 10th January 2010

We got the results back from Alice’s scan on 22nd December and unfortunately the PET scan wasn’t clear and showed a new area of activity. So, Christmas wasn’t the easiest time for us and despite been a few days late, we were glad that we made the effort to go up to Malcolm Sargent House in Scotland, for Christmas itself. Alice was back in hospital for surgery on the 30th, which involved cutting a rib out to perform a biopsy on her thymus. Alice understands that the disease is still there and that we need to keep the fight going a little longer. She has such an amazing attitude to everything and I know that I wouldn’t be half as brave as she.

I apologise for complete lack of acknowledgements on here and hope that you will understand it’s a very emotional time for us. Prior to Christmas, the girls received a huge box full of really fabulous craft things which was just so exciting for them. I have taken photos and the girls have put your address to one side, so you will receive a thank you at some point. Alice was delighted with her Elf boxes and I do know that one came from Fearne and the other from Jojo – thank you so much for making it special for her. Alice’s regulars Hanna, Emma, Anne and Percy are to be thanked – we love hearing about Percy’s antics. Alice has also been receiving gifts and cards from many others – I don’t wish to list the ones I can recall for fear of offending those I can’t, but please know that your thoughtfulness brings a smile to her day when I am (more often than not) failing.

It may be some weeks before we have a plan of action and I will update when we know anything, but in the meantime, heartfelt thanks to you all.

Update 13th December 2009

Alice is doing well but is very, very tired and not really managing to do full days of anything. We try to get out for a walk every day but she seems to get slower as the weeks go by, not livelier. She’s even resorted back to the wheelchair at times, which is panicking me as she seemed to be doing so well. Not too sure if that is normal or not, but it could be over analysing things and perhaps we’re just starting to try and do too much with her, too early. She had her PET scan two weeks ago; yes… two whole weeks ago and we still haven’t got the results back. I wish that the people doing these things could live these weeks as us. I know that things would soon change if they had to wait. We rang and were told they haven’t got the results. Whether that means that they genuinely haven’t got the results or that they have the results, but are figuring out where to go from here, is anyone’s guess.

We go to London for a few days next week and will be going to see Billy Elliott on Tuesday evening, attending the GOSH party on Wednesday and meeting up with some good friends. The purpose of the visit is really for Milly to attend various appointments at GOSH but as it’s Christmas and also Alice’s birthday coming up, we thought it would be a nice treat for her. Having booked everything, we’re just not that sure that she is going to be up to it all and taking steriliser bags, clippi-bottles, a travel kettle and wheelchair with me is kind of taking the edge of it!! It will be fun to experience British Rail on a busy Friday when we travel back.

She is looking forward to Christmas and on her list is a puppy, hair straighteners and some crafting supplies. Not the easiest of lists to work with as a) the puppy is out due to transplant restrictions, b) she hasn’t actually got any hair and c) the thing we know that she wants costs the earth! Anyway, I will have to get my finger out and have a proper look and see what we can find. We have spent the past few weeks making 20 red fleece stockings and have persuaded our friends and family to sponsor one. They are filling them and each one will be delivered to a child affected by cancer, who is staying at the house over Christmas. We thought that it was a lovely way to show that our friends and us care about these other children and Alice feels very good about having done them.I promised that I wouldn’t do it last month and yet I have… again. The list was started with good intentions, lost and never re-started, so it’s down to my brain, which isn’t exactly efficient at the moment. Still… I know that Alice has had lots of good wishes from various Effingham villagers and loves all the different postcards, June, Marjolyn, Tez, Kate D, Post Pals themselves – love the bathbomb and haven’t opened the little Christmas package, Emma, Emily, Percy the gorgeous Poodle and last, but not least Hanna. We loved the PJ pictures – cool. Alice has also had some Christmas cards starting to arrive and again, I haven’t got a list for those, but THANK YOU. Alice and Milly both received a fabulous surprise from the Thomas Ball Children’s Charity which I can’t mention as, once again, they’re not getting them until Christmas Day. However, I know that they will be absolutely thrilled when they see the boxes and their contents!To all of those that I’ve no doubt missed off, huge and grovelling apologies… I feel a New Year’s resolution coming on! THANK YOU.

Update 27th October 2009

We have just (about an hour ago) been given the news that we are free to go home tomorrow (Tuesday) and so we are so excited, but nervous as well.Alice is doing really well but things have been tough for her in the last week; one of the lads who was in transplant with her sadly passed away and another has been told he is now terminal. Bit of a reality check, I think. ‘Stereo Decade’ came into the ward on Friday to play to the kids, a real lift for them – they were amazing and it is so lovely to see youngsters giving their time so willingly.

I do have a list of people to thank, particularly Percy the Poodle (with his humans Sarah, Emily and Jane) who have been keeping Alice’s spirits lifted throughout transplant. Hanna and Tez have also been very supportive as have many others and I promise to update with a proper list… soon!

We now have a period of clinic appointments until her PET scan in December to see if everything looks to be working as it should. As we haven’t had a holiday for a while and her birthday is 15th December, I’m trying to find a short break package to take her and Milly away for a few nights that week, perhaps do a show for her birthday night and just enjoy London. That should (theoretically) fit in regardless of the results. Milly has her pre-surgery appointments in GOSH on 17th, so that would tie in nicely with that. However, mid December is not the easiest time to find nice (but affordable) accommodation in London and, unfortunately, we still have transplant restrictions (diet, etc).

So, we’ll be back home from tomorrow, which will be so strange. I’m now trying to figure out how to pack 4 months worth of rubbish into one car! It’s frightening how quickly time has gone by, can’t believe we’re not far from Christmas.

The Hell’s Kitchen DS game was well received and I’ve even had a go on it! She has spent all her (waking) hours on her laptop, her iPod, her DS or her DVD player. It makes you wonder what people used to do prior to these modern inventions.

Milly is currently out in Florida on ‘Dreamflight’ with an amazing bunch of people. The timing was excellent as she has had quite a year with all of Alice’s treatment, but also has surgery coming up herself, so it just fit nicely in the middle. She gets back tomorrow, so it will be back to full-on-busy-mode at home… I can’t wait to get my family back together.

Update 23rd September 2009

Alice is doing as well as expected. She’s lost a lot of weight and is on TPN now, antibiotics for an infection, morphine on pump (which is blissful for us as well as her) and just generally sleeping and groaning a lot. She is fine though considering what others are going through. G-CSF starts today (or perhaps not) and then hopefully, within the week, the cells will start to kick into action.

Update 13th September 2009

Things are moving along with Alice and she is into high dose at the moment, with transplant due on Tuesday. After a couple of rough days, her sickness is now under control and although extremely inpatient with us, she is at least not feeling too bad!

Thanks go to the following who have sent post over either August or September (or both in some cases)! I do apologise if you’re missing… I did try my very best. To Hanna, Nicky W, Linda B, Clare, Katherine, Tez, Anna (Ohio), Michelle, Percy the Poodle, Viks Post Pals (the poodle is on the bed – girlfriend for Percy we reckon), Erin & Dave (Utah), Tracy, Edit (Toledo), Vicki, Silvia (AB), Charlee – Jack – Harry, Autumn (UT), Kylie (UT) Nicola (UT), Karen, Cathe, June Junko, Liz (Pitman), Anne Ray (wow), Kellie, Caroline, Sarah, Jenny, Jane, Karen, Kate Dee, Melinda, Sarah, Owen, Nicola, Grace (Mmm), Flo, Laura (returning to her reception kids), Emma, Debbie, Lynn, and finally, but not least, John from Sussex – how nice to receive a card from a gentleman! Alice has been thoroughly spoiled with post which has done an amazing job of keeping her spirits up and her time occupied. She has enjoyed making friendship bracelets, loved the Lush bath we poured for her and really enjoyed the DVD sent just this week.

I have made up a large clip frame with many of the cards she has received this past month and as it is sealed, we are having it cleaned to come into the isolation room. So thank you – it’s something nice to look at!

Update 23rd August 2009

We remain in Liverpool with Alice and things are moving slowly, but I suppose it is expected.

Her counts haven’t been recovering lately and as such, she has been in and out of AH with various infections or viruses. Her trip to Over the Wall was cut short after two days and they phoned for me to go and collect her. She just wasn’t up for it and it was too much for her, but she did enjoy the time she was there, be it limited.

Last week, Alice had functioning tests done on the Monday/Tuesday and we are delighted that her heart and lungs both appear to be okay to proceed with high dose. We are still awaiting kidney and liver function. On Friday she had a PET scan at Preston and we should get the results by Wednesday. She is having surgery on either Wednesday or Thursday to put in a double hickman in readiness for the high dose and we are now set to proceed on 7th September.

Alice was recently offered a place on ‘Dreamflight’ to Florida, but we have had to decline as regardless of which way things go, she won’t be able to go.

Update July 2009

Once again, apologies for the lengthy delay in updating Alice’s page. It never ceases to amaze me that I manage to get to midday and still be in my dressing gown; nothing to note and yet so much achieved!

Through June, Alice had the first two of four cycles of conditioning chemo and we also managed to successfully collect adequate stem cells, disease free. We’ve been back down at Alder Hey since the beginning of the month and just today moved into the Rhys Daniel’s house for a few weeks. Alice has been having chemo 24/7 followed by G-CSF for 10 days (currently ongoing) and hopefully back to chemo for 2 weeks from next week prior to high dose chemo starting on 25th August. The stem cell transplant will follow on from high dose. So, regardless of whether Alice is in or out of hospital, this is now our base for the duration. It is just so good to have this place and such a relief not to be living out of a bag and constantly packing and unpacking. Alice was reaching her limit in hospital as it is just so invasive and she is a very private girl. She is noticeably happier to be ‘out’, if only across the road!

We are keeping our fingers crossed that Alice will now be able to go on the ‘Over the Wall’ camp in the Midlands. She has been for the last two years but we thought she wouldn’t be able to do this year. She was supposed to be in transplant now but, with the positive PET, we had to add another course of chemo, thus giving the potential to fit a few days out. Alice’s consultant is keen to get her there and they seem willing to move things around if need be. I’m a little on edge about her going away, but if it’s what Alice wants, I won’t spoil things. I won’t be far away though!

Alice has received lots of post – cards, letters, postcards and some lovely gifts. The teddy on her hospital bed was sent from Sue and is absolutely gorgeous and she’s had some lovely craft things, some DVDs, a story CD and some gorgeous fluffy slipper socks! These have been keeping her spirits up and providing a constant source of distraction. I am guilty once again of not being able to recall all the names, but please don’t hold that against Alice. Thank you to each and everyone of you … I will try better, but better not promise because I’m useless!

Update 1st June 2009

Alice has been having chemo and is having the stem cell harvest early this week. We hope to be allowed home for a couple of weeks from Wednesday.

Update 11th May 2009

Following last weeks tests we have a new plan.

We go into hospital on Tuesday. She will have a bone marrow aspiration on Wednesday, followed by functioning tests for all the vital organs, and then start a new chemo on Thursday or Friday. When that starts to have effect, she’ll have cyclophosphomide to stimulate new stem cells and they will harvest them then. Once these are safely out and the Hodgkins has reduced enough, they will start the high dose chemo and she will then be in isolation and have a stem cell transplant (information on what can and can’t be sent post wise will be posted on her page when needed).

We are expecting to stay in the hospital right through, but it all depends on how the initial chemo goes – she may well need a break from it and if possible, we will come home for that.
We will post the hospital address when we know which ward we will be on, but Milly and their Dad will be able to bring up any post at first.

As she will be feeling very wiped out (she is already shattered) we have updated her list of interests.

Update 28th April 2009

Sorry that we haven’t updated for ages. Alice’s radiation finished in mid-February, which she tolerated well and with a smile on her face. We then had to wait until the end of March (6 weeks) for the next PET scan. We were lucky to spend a week at Malcolm Sargent House over the Easter Holidays, enjoying time together as a family and being pampered by their wonderful staff, although the pending scan results were never far from our minds. We got the results back after an agonising 2 week wait which although are now clear in the chest, show new disease in the neck. This is obviously another blow to us. Alice is being admitted back into Alder Hey this week to have surgery and we’ll know where we’re heading a week or so after that.

Alice has been approached and asked to say a few words and then start the Race for Life in the nearby town of Barrow. She was thrilled to be asked and we’re just hoping that she will be well enough to do it. Need to sort out tutus, fairy wings and lots and lots of PINK!

Thanks to everyone who continues to send Alice and Milly post. I’m praying that being a complete wreck excuses me from keeping lists (the lists that I never remember to do anyway)! Something arrived this week that brought the biggest smile ever… a fabulous huge hand stitched quilt from Love Quilts UK. Each square has a different dog stitched onto it and it is really quite amazing and had us all emotional. Its arrival gave a much needed distraction and it will have pride of place on her hospital bed this week! Milly also received one. If you are a cross stitching fan (I am hopeless) then have a look on their website and get stitching – http://www.lovequiltsuk.com/. We will update as soon as we know more. Thank you.

Update 31st January 2009

Alice has had quite a difficult month, but as usual, she has faced it with cheerful resilience.Prior to commencing radiation, she had several appointments at Clatterbridge to make a mask in readiness for her treatment, along with various x-rays and scans. After her previous experience at Manchester, she was particularly anxious about it and it was a relief to have such wonderfully caring staff that went to great lengths to put her at ease. She started radiation a few weeks ago and after the initial daily commutes, we were lucky to be offered accommodation through the Rhys Daniel’s Trust. We are now approaching our final week down here and looking forward to getting home. We are then going to have to return to the much hated phase of ‘watch and wait’ until our next PET scan. We just pray that the treatment has worked this time.

We have had some post down here in Liverpool from Viks, Kate, Jane and Emily. Thank you so much for everything and the chocolate candle is fab! Before we left, Alice received a fabulous audio CD from Stephanie and that’s all I can definitely remember – I am told that there is much more waiting at home in Cumbria, so no doubt Alice will be even more excited than I to arrive back next week. We do have another list at home and we will thank people properly when I arrive back – this is more to keep people up to date with Alice’s treatment.

With grateful thanks to all and wishing you all a ‘Happy Valentines Day’!

Update 5th January 2009

Alice has had a fairly uneventful month health wise. She has completed her second course of chemo and will be starting radiation treatment this week at Clatterbridge (where Alder Hey sends their kids to). She is just feeling tired really, no other side effects at the moment, although I’m sure the RT will bring its own problems! We are currently faced with having to do the 4 hour round drive every day, as there is no accommodation available at present. As with many things, it comes down to cost, and it is still much cheaper to drive (at around £35 daily in petrol) than to find a B&B. It is a joke that prisoners are afforded better conditions than kids enduring these truly horrific treatments.

Alice was invited to go to Lapland with ‘When you wish upon a Star’, Manchester. It was so good to just be a ‘normal family’ again. She had an amazingly magical day and we were all very sad to get back onto the plane.  Alice also turned 13 in December and we managed a quiet meal with a few close friends. She received lots of lovely cards and gifts, particularly from Post Pals, so thank you to everyone.

Christmas was a particularly exciting time for both the girls, although it took Alice 3 days to open everything as she was so tired! So many people had put a great deal of time and effort into sending things and it was so lovely to see the smiles on Alice’s face (see the photos we’ve uploaded to Post Pals). Alice was extremely lucky to receive two ELF boxes – one from Kate D and another from ‘?’ (please let us know who you are)… even I was curious about the contents! They were packed to the brim with little (and not so little) packages. THANK YOU WONDERFUL ELVES! Hanna sent a wonderful array of well received gifts which Alice was delighted with and she also received a package of gifts from Marjolijn, including lots of crafty bits and some FAB name stickers which are already being put to use. I think that this last package was intended for Alice’s birthday, but I’d put it under the tree! She also received some very thoughtful gifts, emails and cards from Stacey, Julie Barrett, Louise Woodcock, Linda, Post Pals, Becky B, Despina, Maria & Michael, Erin & Kyle, Charlotte, Marjolijn, Jenn, Viks, Susan, Helen, Sarah, June Junko, Amy Parr, Emily Edmondson, Kristina and last, but not least, Emily & Jane. I pray that I have everyone on my list, but if you are ‘MIA’, then it is most likely because the children managed to receive and escape with your gift before I could list it!

There is no package or card more special than the other – each unique delivery brings its own joy and if they were all the same, the magic would be lost. So, big or small post, thank you to each and every one of you and ‘HAPPY NEW YEAR’.

Update 26th November 2008

Sorry for the delay in updating Alice’s page. We travelled to London in late September and were disappointed to learn that UCH didn’t want us as Alice isn’t yet 13. Apparently 12 and 3/4 is a very awkward age! The consultant we spoke to was also of the opinion that it was too far to be travelling from Cumbria and he didn’t think that it would be fair on Alice. It is a great pity therefore, that he didn’t listen to our argument. So far, we have left for Alder Hey (where she now is) from London, more times than from our home in Cumbria. One can only assume that these people have their mind closed to the minority with exceptional circumstances. After our encounter with UCH, we were desperate to move ANYWHERE. Manchester and UCH had other ideas and seemed almost desperate to continue Alice’s care at Manchester, which we were not going to allow. We dug our heels in and eventually Alder Hey were asked to accept Alice.

So, Alice is now into her second month of chemotherapy at Alder Hey hospital, bringing it close to a year of treatment for something that should have been solved in 4 – 6 months! Alder Hey are fantastic in every single way – the nurses, the assistants, the shop, the canteen and especially our new consultant, Heather. She has gone through everything with us in detail which was so wonderful. We are unaccustomed to such communication and extremely glad we made the move. It has that wonderful feel that we have come to know and love at GOSH. We have now been told that Alice should have been a 3B and not a 2B at diagnosis and therefore the prognosis is a little worse, but we are still very hopeful. She will now have to have radiotherapy as a matter of course, to the full field, including heart and lungs. This was very upsetting for us as had they listened to me a year ago the treatment would have been very different. So, another of ‘those months’ and we’re not too sure if we’re coming or going. Alice’s hair, which had reached the grand length of 2cm, is now falling out again and she is pretty distressed about that. She is feeling very tired and weepy, but still my gorgeous girl inside. Alice hasn’t been to school for quite a long time and unfortunately her friends now seem to be forgetting her. Two of her closest friends have had birthdays recently and not included her which left her feeling very upset. It’s very hard to come up with reasons for things like this, other than they are simply thoughtless and have no idea just how difficult life is for her right now.

Alice has had so much post over the last 2 months and just for a change, I’ve kind of misplaced, okay – lost, the list. Kate D did send a very special present for both of the girls and they were over the moon. Alice is using it constantly at the moment – in bed, in hospital, in the car… thank you! Hanna also continues to send regular post to Alice and also St Matthew’s Sunday school brought a smile to her face with some lovely letters. I sincerely hope that you can accept my apologies for not been listed personally but every letter and every single item is so eagerly opened and read or played with. The post has kind of become her ‘friend’ and is a wonderful distraction, particularly on the down days. Alice has taken up residence on the sofa in the hallway just to be there when the post arrives. She is busy making cards herself and has already posted to some of you. As for me, I’ve just completed a 10 day challenge in Peru, for Great Ormond Street Hospital. With various events and my sponsorship, I think that I’ve raised around £11,000 for them, which I’m very pleased with. Having agreed to this over a year ago, it was extremely difficult to know whether to go or not, but the 10 days fitted with Alice’s ‘off treatment’ days and I had so much money resting on it. I found it quite difficult to detach myself from what was going on at home and spent a lot of time holding back the tears. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but I’m so glad that I did… it kind of proves that you can make yourself do anything if you really want to.This will probably be our last update before Christmas so – ‘HAVE YOURSELF A MERRY LITTLE CHRISTMAS’ x

Update September 2008

We had our scan in early September and unfortunately, the results show disease progression. We have been back in Manchester but this time at Christies where we have been fortunate in having the most wonderful consultant who actually talks to us. What a difference a bit of communication makes. We were advised to go with radiotherapy, but not being one to settle for the first answer, we spoke to both the US and to GOSH / UCH, both of which would do different things. They would go with high dose chemo and stem cell as they don’t think that the radiotherapy is the answer for Primary Persistent Disease. We have therefore made the difficult decision to pull Alice out of treatment in Manchester and get her down to London ASAP. Manchester still felt the radiotherapy was the best option. It wasn’t easy, both have their advantages, but we had to go with the one we thought best.So not the best of months, but at least we know what we’re facing and have a plan, if a little vague. Unsure of what will happen to Milly now, she may have to go back to school as I don’t know how things will pan out with this new phrase.

Thanks to all who have written to the girls in the last 6 weeks. Hanna, you continue to put a smile on Alice’s face – thank you. I simply haven’t got around to listing the others, but please don’t be offended, your cards still mean a lot. Thank you for your continued support of our girls.

Update 18th August 2008

Alice has had a good July/August and is looking really well, at last. She is in Manchester today to see the consultant, but unfortunately we don’t have a good relationship and I just can’t face going. Her Dad has taken her as he if far more detached and businesslike than I am. We are waiting to get another scan to confirm the make up of these residual solid masses. They are likely to be nothing to worry about, but until we know, we feel unable to draw a line under the treatment part. Once we are settled with that, we can move onto the next phrase, which will be wonderful.

Alice went off to ‘Over the Wall’ camp at the end of July and announced it to be her ‘best ever break’ when I collected her. They are just amazing and I always cry when we drive away. I am in awe of all these wonderful people and everything they give for a child they don’t even know. The girls are full of chatter and obviously have the time of their lives. You can go to ‘Over the Wall’ and link to photos of the kids at http://www.otw.org.uk – select the ‘photo’ link. Our paths have crossed with many charities over the years and I know that when the girls are older I’ll be getting involved in some way.

We were planning to spend a week camping after collecting the girls, but unfortunately, Alice felt ill within about 4 hours of arriving back at our tent, and although recovering, Milly then wasn’t well and we ended up packing up and coming home early. Illness under canvas doesn’t mix! We are fortunate in having 5 days booked in Scotland from this coming Saturday at Malcolm Sargent House. We’ve never been and don’t know what to expect – excited and nervous at the same time!

Thanks to – Post Pals, Jenne, Lily, Hayley, Sami (Karen), Dawn, Kate Dee, Hanna for everything, Becky (Surrey), Jennifer Castle and to Sheila and her woofa, Rufus x x x

Update 2nd July 2008

Alice has had a reasonably good month. She finished her initial chemo in June and managed to get back to school for a few mornings, which was nice to see. She is looking a lot better in herself, although this is deceptive as she still tires very easily. She completed the Race for Life on 9th June and we raised around £200 between us. Alice’s scan in late June wasn’t completely clear and we now need to wait for 6 weeks (early August) to rescan and see what’s going on.

Alice has to stay with my mother at the moment as I’m in London with Milly, so I’m proud of her managing to sort out all her meds and her diabetic pump without me to guide her. Thank you to all who continue to write to Alice, especially her regular, Hanna (hope I’ve spelt that right). I will add thank you’s at a later date as I have the list at home, not here in GOSH. I can remember the jewellery box from Kate D… thank you.

Alice is going to Over the Wall camp on 27th July, which I think (hope) will do her some good. She is very hesitant about going at the moment, but I’m hoping that she’ll gain from it. She lacks confidence and I think once she’s there, she’ll be fine.

Update 16th May 2008

Another month has gone by! Alice had her PET scan and the results were promising, showing everything shrinking and becoming less active. The plan is to continue her chemo for the moment and then re-scan. Alice is now on a 2 weeks worth of oral chemo, along with the steroids and anti-sicks. We are back at Manchester on Monday.

Alice has now managed to miss the majority of the whole school year. Her school has been very good with us all and her friends keep in regular contact. Unfortunately, the weeks she feels well tend to be the weeks on treatment and the weeks she isn’t on treatment, she tends to be quite weak. We are hoping to get her into school, at least part-time, after the spring break in June.
Alice and Milly are both being bridesmaids at the end of this month. They have beautiful ivory sequined bodices and tulle skirts. Alice is going to collect her wig next week, so we’re hopeful that she will feel like a princess and have a very memorable day.

I competed in the annual ‘Keswick to Barrow Walk’ on Saturday 10th and managed to complete the full 40 mile walk, raising around £1,000 for Clic Sargent Childhood Cancer. I’m hoping to raise around £5,000 doing the Inca Trek for GOSH in November and I’ve already raised thousands for ‘Jeans for Genes’, so next on my ‘hit list’ will be fund raising for ‘Over the Wall’ (OTW) and for ‘Post Pals’… watch this space!

Update 1st April 2008

I can’t believe that another month has gone by! We have had a mixed month with Alice. Some very good periods and some not so good. Her diabetes is giving us major problems and we have been on I.V. insulin as we just couldn’t get her levels under control. Steroids are causing some major moods – or is it just pre-teens?! She is tolerating chemo fairly well, sickness now under control, but is suffering with bad leg and back aches. Last Wednesday she was back in with a line infection but thankfully no temperature with it, we’ve been lucky to see antibiotics working already. Due to the relationship with our local hospital, we have to travel to Manchester for all diabetes and oncology care in-between our stays. This is proving to be very tiring as the 180 mile round trip takes anywhere up to a few hours each way due to the horrendous traffic. It is the ‘norm’ for us to spend all day at the hospital and leave after tea – I could make the drive with my eyes shut! We are having to wake every few hours through the night to test her levels as she is so all over the spot that her BMs are 20-odd one minute and 2.3 the next!

Alice is doing the ‘Race for Life’ with a group of friends (plus us parents) soon.Next week, our favourite GOSH nurse is arriving for a week to help us out – no mentions of name, but we love her to bits and will be very pleased to see her!

Huge apologies, but I’ve been absolutely hopeless with keeping track of who sent what and when. Rest assured that Alice is always thrilled to receive anything and I will reprimand myself and try better next month with ‘list keeping’. I did manage to ‘check in’ letters from Claudia & Jules, cards from Helen & Jenn, a lovely Easter bunny from Martin, Jackie & Jamie, a ‘tangle toy’ from ‘The Training Shop’ (Mum likes that) and a lovely package from the Burnetts in Jacksonville, FL, who sent some beautiful beaded book marks with notes from Brianna, Millie, Emma, Ruth, Catherine and Jazmin – thank you girls! Alice also enjoys receiving lots of e-cards, from Linda and particularly from Marie in Scotland.

Well, on with another month. We will be having a PET scan and CT on the 14th so will know more how she is responding to treatment then. Fingers crossed we can stick with the chemo and won’t need the radiotherapy, but we’ll cross that bridge when we come to it.

Update 27th February 2008

Alice is feeling pretty low at the moment, which is probably due to a combination of shock and drugs! The Vincristine she is on is making her sick and we have upped the anti-sickness drugs to try and combat that. She is having her hair cut short this week – losing her hair is the one thing that is really bothering her. She is clingier than ever and follows me everywhere, assuming she is awake! The post arriving really does provide a welcome distraction and we’re also grateful for the space our friends have given us now we are home for a bit.

SPECIAL THANKS to Julie, Joe & Sam for all the craft stuff, Joyce at E J Crafts in Ulverston for the card making stuff, our angel in Spain – Claudia for all her lovely gifts, especially the glow teddy, Colette who has just found Post Pals, Leila for sending her first signed novel to Alice, Anna Mae for the lovely necklace and finally, Kate Dee who will always have a place in our hearts. Kate sent Milly a Bratz balloon when she was in hospital and last week a huge box arrived on the ward with a fabulous unicorn balloon for Alice – it brought a lump to my throat – thank you Kate. Alice also received some lovely cards from Julie, Annie, Debbie & Louise, Sarah and Becky Butler. Singing e-cards from Marie brought smiles and finally, emails from Sera & Liberty, Marie, Erin F’s family and Hannah-Lou. I hope that I haven’t forgotten anyone as the original list I did in hospital went AWOL!

We are fortunate to have lots of family and friends around us, which makes everything so much more bearable. We feel stronger for what we have already experienced with Milly, and the support from the big charities such as ‘Over the Wall’, ‘Jeans for Genes’ and ‘Great Ormond Street Hospital’ (fund-raising dept) has been deeply appreciated. We have built special relationships with these charities over the years and feel we know them well, as they do us. Our commitment to continue raising awareness and / or money for them is stronger than ever, and I still intend to pull on my boots to raise money for GOSH in Peru later this year. The last but not least mention of course goes to Post Pals themselves, particularly Viks. You’re a star – thanks for being on the end of a phone at 3am!!!

Update 24th February 2008

Alice is doing well but seems to spend all day sleeping. She is feeling a bit sick, but not being sick, which is good. Her mouth and throat is now starting to hurt. We are hoping to be home for Tuesday for a few days and then it starts to become a bit ‘in and out’ from what I can gauge. She is being really good and always has a smile for the nurses. We are doing an initial 4 months of chemo cycles and then they reassess and see where we are.

We have had lots and lots of post which has really helped in keeping that smile going. I did start a list which has gone AWOL (but it will be around somewhere) – it is a little like living in a caravan, but with no cupboards. Kate Dee sent a huge unicorn balloon which is floating above her bed and we have had lots of teddies (all lying on the bed with her) plus lots of cards (all stuck on the wall). A little girl called Grace sent both girls a lovely picture and letter and she’d been out to buy some craft things for them to do – she is only 4! Pal Erin F’s family have sent things and I received a lovely letter from Jeff (the grandfather). I will get a proper list done and as always, we will get some thankyou’s done when we get a minute.

Update 21st February 2008

Treatment is going ok, how ever it is causing problems with her diabetes.

Thank you for all the lovely postie being sent.

Update 13th February 2008

Alice had a hickman line put in, but they were unable to get the lump out. Thank you for the Chemoduck now named “Danny”. Chemo starts on Tuesday.

Update 11th February 2008

Alice’s family were told today that the cancer has not spread beyond the neck and chest, so the outlook is good. She is going down to theatre on Wednesday to have a lump removed, bone marrow biopsy and a hickman line put in. She starts chemotherapy on Monday.

Thank you to Barbara for dropping off the quilts while Alice was having a CT scan, she is curled up under it at the moment as it’s really lovely!

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Aled

28 June 2011

Story written 2005

Aled was born on the 1st Sept 2003 after 38 weeks of his mum having to control Gestational diabetes. His mum was regularly scanned to check Aled’s progress and after 8 months a date was set for Aleds birth due to his size and because he was in the breach position.

When he was born the only thing that we noticed was that his arm was looking strange. After a couple of hours a Consultant came and explained to us that Aled had VACTERL Association which meant he could have loads of problems. Some of the immediate problems were an Imperforate anus, a large hole in the heart with possible coarctation of the artery from the heart, a missing Radius, 3 fingers on one hand and a free floating thumb on the other hand.

After 18 hours he was transferred from Plymouth to Southampton because of the heart problems. After 48 hours he had an operation to fit a colostomy bag due to his imperforate anus. That same day we found that one of his kidneys was not formed properly and would probably shrivel up and die on its own. He stayed at Southampton for the next 8 weeks while they fattened him up for his heart operation. They repaired his heart in Nov 2003, all went well with the operation but while he was In PICU is heart was failing to recover and slowly we watched as we thought he was slipping away from us. We decided to let our families know that things weren’t too good so we left PICU to make a few phone calls. While we were out of PICU his heart sprang into life and that was the start of a really quick recovery.

Since then Aled has had two operations on his bowel and anus, an operation on his left hand to move his index finger to the thumb position. He also had an operation to release a tethered spinal cord and is now awaiting an operation on his right hand to split the webbed fingers. We have also found out that Aled has Scoliosis and abnormal vertebrae which will also need watching for damage.

No matter what Aled goes through he is still a “proper” boy, into all sorts of trouble. He loves meeting people and enjoys going shopping just to see other people in the shops.

Update 21st September 2012

Since Aled joined Post Pals in 2005 he has really had some great post from you. Post Pals was there throughout a lot of Aled’s surgeries and each of his recoveries, during which time he received letters from all around the world. Please be in no doubt that you as a group made a significant difference in how Aled recovered after his surgeries and for that Gaile and I will always be thankful.

Once again, many thanks for the support you have given, it really has been priceless.

Update 8th April 2012

Aled is doing well with his ACE and Mitrofanoff that he had in July. He still gets affected by infections, but luckily these appear to be less intense.

Aled has been granted a wish by The Starlight Foundation so he is going to New York in a couple of weeks to meet Jake T Austin (Max Rouso) from Wizards of Waverley Place. As you can imagine he is really excited!

Update 27th August 2011

Aled has finally come home! It turns out that he had a nasty infection in both his bladder and his kidney. He has been sorted with antibiotics and has another two weeks of them before swapping to long term antibiotics.

Update 20th August 2011

Aled was admitted to Bristol children’s hospital on the 2nd July for a bladder augmentation. At the same time he was to have the ACE and Mitrofanof formed. It was a big operation with Aled being in theatre for just over ten hours.

Initially all was well until a week after the operation when fluids were introduced to his diet. Sadly this proved too much and Aled was in excruciating agony. In the end they did emergency surgery on Thursday 14th July. This was another 6 hour operation. When we saw the surgeon he said that Aled suffered from serious adhesions which have stopped his stomach from working correctly.

At the moment he remains in hospital with no real chance of coming home just yet. Otherwise he is good though. He is taking it all in his stride and making his mum and dad proud by being as strong as he is.

Thank you to all that have sent cards, gifts etc. They are really appreciated. Thanks also for the box of goodies that was sent to Gaile, this was a lovely surprise.

Update 4th May 2011

Things have been relatively quiet for Aled, he’s had a few hospital appointments but these have just been the routine check-ups.

We are going to Orlando and then up to Washington DC to take part in some research that is being carried out for Aled’s condition.

When we arrive back home we are home for a couple of days, then Aled is being admitted into hospital on the 2nd July for the operation that he should have had in November.

Aled would like to say thank you very much for the cards and gifts that he receives.

Update 1st February 2011

Since we last updated Aled’s page he has had a good Christmas even though he managed to break his arm the week before. So for the second time in 5 years he has spent Christmas with a red cast on his arm.

On New Years Eve he was lucky enough to go to the theatre to watch sleeping beauty. He was even luckier to be invited on stage to take part in a small section with Joe Pasquale. Aled had a really big buzz from this and has now started drama classes and even auditioned for a part in a play during his first session at the drama club.

Yet again though he has been poorly with a chest infection, luckily he is getting over it and is now back in school.

A big thank you to Louise Siddle for Aled’s Christmas parcel, he was over the moon with it.

Update 29th November 2010

Since Aled returned home from hospital he has made slow progress in improving his health. He is back at school but seems to be catching all the chest bugs that are currently around.

He has really enjoyed receiving the postcards and seems to get more decent post than his parents get junk mail.

Update 2nd November 2010

Aled’s operation was cancelled on Monday morning due to Aled having pneumonia. He was put on IV antibiotics and is now on oral antibiotics. We now have a new date in July.

Aled loves having post again and wants to thank everyone for their support.

Aled has rejoined Post Pals.

Update 17th October 2010

Aled has had a relatively quiet 22 months, apart from the follow up hospital appointments. He is now in year 2 of school which he loves and is thriving being at school. He has also started Beavers and he really enjoys going there and even went on a overnight camp with them in July which he thoroughly enjoyed.

He is due to go into Bristol Children’s Hospital on the 30th October and have a surgery on the 1st November. This operation is on his bowels and bladder. He is having a bladder augmentation, a Mitrofanoff and an ACE. We are expecting to be in hospital for 2-3 weeks, and after the operation he will not be allowed to go back to school until at least January. So, as you can imagine, this is a massive operation.

Update 3rd January 2009

Aled had an MRI during December to try and discover why he suffers with pains in his legs; hopefully we will get the results soon.

He was really excited about Christmas this year; he received a video email from Santa, as well as a letter from one of Santa’s fairies which he really enjoyed, as it was left by his bed while he was sleeping.

A special thank you to Aled’s reindeer and Elves who really made a big effort and was really appreciated by Aled.

Also, a special thank you to Julie Barrett and Karen Reece-Mae, who have continued their support.

Update 15th November 2008

Aled had tests on his bladder recently, the results of which we have only just received. It turns out that his bladder is only about half the size of a normal bladder. The bladder neck is thickened and he has spasms when it gets full which causes him to have accidents. He was already on the highest dose possible of his medication, but now it has been increased by 50% which has already caused trouble as the GP won’t prescribe it until she has spoken to the consultant. So we wait to see how the medication will help with the spasms.

Sometime in the near future Aled is going to have a bladder reconstruction and at the same time have an ACE made to help with bowel issues. The down side is that he will have to self catheterize after the op, but on the flip side he will get two operations for the price of one, as the ACE was already expected anyway, so at least he will only have one surgery.

The preparations for Christmas have started, Aled’s list is huge and he is already counting down his sleeps until the big day.

Update 6th September 2008

Aled saw his Plastic surgeon last week to see how his hands are doing after his operation, as well as to check on a problem Aled has with his arm. The surgeon is happy with Aled’s hands but has said that Aled also has an improperly formed elbow on his left arm which means that he cannot rotate his arm enough to do certain things like accepting change from people. This was a bit of a shock to us as parents, as we thought that it was just muscular and needed a bit of stretching… never mind it could have been worse.

On a good note Aled started school 2 days after his 5th birthday, he was really excited about going and so far has really enjoyed himself. Many thanks to everyone that sent a birthday card, he had a major smile when he found out that he had 44 birthday cards. Thanks to everyone that sent a gift too, you are all very generous and thoughtful.

Aled is in hospital on 15th September for a Supa pubic catheter to be fitted before they do bladder tests on the 16th. The outcomes of these tests decide whether he will have a bladder reconstruction or not.
Post Pals is an exceptional website that brings Aled a lot of smiles. He is the first to check through the post when it arrives to make sure that he has his cards/letters first. The generosity of all the people that send cards etc. is incredible, and I thank Post Pals for making Aled so happy with his post.

Update 8th June 2008

Aled has had a quiet time over the last couple of months; his hand has healed well after his last surgery, and he visited Disneyland Paris (again) which he really, really enjoyed. The trouble is that he now wants to go there all the time… if only.

Last month Aled saw his urologist as he has had a lot of problems with his bladder and finding a cause has been a nightmare. It now looks like they have one – some sort of growth on the bladder. This means that he has to have video urodynamics done to check this out and then depending on the results a possible bladder reconstruction. This has been a bit of a shock as we were sort of hoping that his operations were over with, but maybe not…

Preparations are also well under way to getting Aled to school in September. He is really excited about it but mum and dad are anxious about the outcome.

Update 5th March 2008

Thank you everyone that sent Aled a card or gift over the Christmas period, he had a great time with lots of presents and cards. A big special thank you to Aled’s elves and reindeers who made the build up to Christmas an exciting one.

Aled has been in hospital lately to have some plastic surgery on his right hand. He had a lot more work done than was originally expected, but hopefully it will be okay. He had the dressings removed yesterday and his hand looks sore but otherwise okay.

Update 7th December 2007

Aled is currently getting very excited about Christmas, he had an angel visit him while he was sleeping one night (she left some angel dust on the bedside cabinet) and that really put him into the Christmas mood. He is playing Joseph in this year’s pre-school nativity, which we are looking forward to.

We are still awaiting the appointment for his hand operation that we are expecting sometime soon.

At the moment Aled is having lots of trouble with his bladder function, this worries us as he only has one kidney which we want to protect. Hopefully these problems will be sorted soon and won’t turn out to be a nightmare.

Many thanks to Post Pals for their support, Aled really enjoys receiving any mail and keeps it all for people to see.

Hope you all have a lovely Christmas and a great New Year.

Update 3rd October 2007

Another month has gone by and Aled continues to do well with his bowel management, we are changing the routine slightly by changing the equipment that we use, which we hope will make it a bit easier for him.

We had some bad news this month, Aled needs further surgery on his fingers, and this is quite a shame as he had an operation about 18 months ago to separate his webbed fingers but sadly they have rejoined. We have told Aled about the op and he is a bit scared this time (obviously getting older). Hopefully by the time he has it done he will be okay.

Many thanks to all the kind people that have sent cards and gifts; they are really appreciated.

Update 30th August 2007

Aled has had a rough time this month as he is struggling to deal with the intrusive elements of the bowel management. He is out of his nappies during the day though, which is a great confidence booster for him. His next step is to see the plastic surgeons about his webbed fingers; hopefully they can sort something out in the way of separating them.

Aled has had a steady flow of postcards etc over the months but this month has been lovely, he has been really excited when checking the post in the morning.

Update 2nd August 2007

Since Aled’s last update he has had a busy time. At the end of June he went to Cincinnati, Ohio, to a conference about people with VACTERL association. He had a really good time and made loads of new friends, all going well we will meet them in a couple of year’s time when they have the next conference.

These last few weeks have been spent introducing Aled to his new bowel management program. It has been a very stressful time for all of us and we are hoping that things will get easier over the next few months.

Update 10th June 2007

Aled has had a good month so far. He spent a week with his Nan in Wales which he really enjoyed.

He is now set for a busy couple of weeks with an MRI for Hydrocephalus and re-tethering of his spinal cord next week, followed by more hospital and clinic appointments.

After that he is going to Cincinnati for a week so that he can attend a VACTERL conference. This will give him, as well as mum and dad, a chance to meet other families and also to speak to some of the top VACTERL specialists in the USA.

Update 9th May 2007

Aled continues to do well. He has several appointments coming up with general surgeons which we hope will be positive for him. He is also waiting for an MRI to rule out a re-tethered spinal cord as well as to check for Hydrocephalus. He is still a happy and “lively” little boy who wins plenty of hearts. We have just completed his statement process, which was a bit of a nuisance, but hopefully he will get the help he needs at school.

Update 12th March 2007

Aled had a good month; hospital appointments had been quiet but Doctors not so because of chest infections etc. He is now well again and enjoying his time at pre-school.

Update 9th February 2007

Aled did have a quiet month until today when he has come down with a fever and is quite poorly with what looks like tonsillitis. Aled has seen the Urologist about his Neuropathic bladder; he is pleased with the progress at the moment and doesn’t want to see Aled for another twelve months.

Aled has enjoyed returning back to nursery after the Christmas break and is really proud of all his Christmas cards from Post Pals.

Update 27th January 2007

Aled is doing really well at the moment and continues to improve in all areas. We are trying to get him potty trained at the moment but because of his problems it may take a lot longer than initially expected, hopefully things will get easier with bowel management routine but that won’t be until late summer at the earliest. Aled is also noticing that his hands are different as he keeps inspecting each one in turn. We are expecting him to start questioning as to why they are different very soon; neither of us is looking forward to that day.

A big thanks to everyone who sent Aled Christmas cards and a huge thank you to Kate D and Beth Hughes who were Aled’s Elves this year. Aled was really excited about receiving them and was especially pleased with the monkey and power rangers.

Update November 2006

Aled has had a good couple of months, his asthma appears to be staying under control and so far he hasn’t had any serious attacks.

He saw the cardiologist recently who was very pleased with his progress and the reviews are now becoming less frequent.

Aled recently met up with 4 other VACTERL children; it was a good time to see how other families cope.

We are now getting ready for Christmas; Aled is getting more excited and seems to be looking forward to it.

Merry Christmas to you all.

Update 30th September 2006

We saw the orthopedic and plastic surgeon this month to see if there is anything that can be done with Aleds right arm and as expected they have said that things will have to remain the same as any surgery for cosmetic purpose would reduce any use that he could have with his arm.

Aled has spent a few weekends away in the caravan enjoying farm yard walks and egg collecting. He wasn’t too happy when he paid a visit to the dairy farm and the cows decided to do a Number 2 (if you know what I mean) right in front of him… it stunk!

Aled is currently highly interested in the power rangers and any other hero or villain that allows him to dress up.

A big thank you to Karen and Julie for all their post and comments on Aleds website.

Update 3rd September 2006

Aled is well and has just enjoyed a two week holiday in Holland. He enjoyed camping, even if it rained every day (bar 1).

He sees the plastic surgeon /orthopedic surgeon this month to see if they can make some sort of elbow for him as he is complaining of aches and pains in his arm.

At the moment Aled really enjoys dressing up to play and has just had a wooden train track for his 3rd birthday.

Thank you Post Pals, Aled has had a lot of mail and has really enjoyed receiving it. It really does make him smile when he receives a card or message.

Update 31st July 2006

Aled has had a busy month; it started with a meeting with other VACTERL children which took place over a weekend. Then Aled had his cousin and her friend come to stay for a few weeks which was tiring for his mum and dad but very enjoyable for Aled.

Thanks to Julie and Karen for their ongoing support, and a thank you also to Post Pals for your obvious support.

Update 1st July 2006

Aled had a lovely holiday with his Nan and Granddad, but now he has returned home he’s back into a round of hospital appointments. These appointments are to investigate problems with his ankles, as well as ongoing tests to his bladder.

Aled recently started swimming again for the first time since February and is really enjoying it. I think he enjoys getting his mum and dad wet more though!

Update 14th June 2006

Aled is doing well; he is still having tests carried out on his bladder to determine how much control he will have. These tests are likely to go on for a while, but hopefully they will give us a good picture about his future.

He is going on holiday with his Nan and Granddad in June which will give all the family a much needed break.

In July Aled is meeting up with two other VACTERL children; this should be a good time for the families as well as for Aled as it gives us a chance to share experiences.

Aled enjoys opening any cards he gets. We have kept them all so one day we will take a photo of him with them.

Update 15th May 2006

Aled is continuing to do well; he suffers from frequent bad asthma attacks which slow him down (but only for a short while). He has plenty of hospital appointments at the moment as all the reviews seem to come around together. He has just been diagnosed as having a Neuropathic bladder which isn’t a surprise to us because of his spinal issues. Hopefully the consultants can sort out some way of controlling it.

Thank you once again for the lovely gifts and cards.

Update 29th March 2006

Aled’s check-up with the plastic surgeon went well. He had an infection in the skin graft site on his hand so was given some antibiotics by the GP which cleared it up, but we went to see the surgeon earlier than planned in case it had been affected in some way. She had a good look at his hand and was pleased with the results. She also talked about the elbow (or lack of one) on Aled’s right arm; we are seeing her again in September with an orthopaedic surgeon to see if there is some way of making him an elbow. We’ll wait and see.

We had an interview with our local newspaper last week who did an article on Aled and the support group that we’ve have set up in the UK. We also had a radio interview a few days laterwhich Aled’s mum did. She was a bit embarrassed about it but did a very good job.

This week Aled had another bad asthma attack, we think it was caused by the onset of the cold. It proved to be a right nuisance as his mum was minutes away from leaving for work when Aled vomited all over his bed. That is a great sign of him having an asthma attack. It took a few days to get over it but now he is fine, except for the cold that is.

Update 17th March 2006

Aled had his operation to separate his fingers in February. All went well except for an infection which has now cleared up.

Thank you to everyone that has sent emails and cards, Aled really enjoys having the messages read to him and he shows all his cards to whoever enters the house. Many thanks to you all for your continued support.

Update 4th March 2006

Aled went back to have the dressings removed from his fingers last week, it went really well as he didn’t have any anaesthetic (the surgeon normally takes the dressings off under a general anaesthetic) because of a hospital mistake. The skin graft seems to have taken okay and the fingers look okay, just a bit red and swollen. Aled has to go for another check up in about 3 weeks; hopefully they should be all sorted by then.

He had a session with his OT and PT this week, the physio seems to think his ankles need to be seen by a Pediatrist to get an experts opinion. He has also been diagnosed as anaemic so is now on iron supplements.

Update 18th February 2006

Aled went into hospital on the 9th Feb to have his fingers split. The operation went well, but he was really upset when he came out of recovery because his arm was strapped to his chest to stop him from taking the bandages off. Aled has had quite a lot of pain with it this time… his mum says it might be because he is older and feels it a bit more.

Aled go back to Birmingham on Thursday to have the dressings removed on the Friday which he am not looking forward to as it will be a bit sore but it has to be done.

While Aled was in hospital he received a big poster from America which was made up of loads of cards made by children. Each one was wishing him well. It was really smart!

Update 31st January 2006

Aled has had a fairly quiet month with the exception of a few bad asthma attacks. These now seem to be getting a bit better to control which makes life a little less worrying.

Aled has his next operation to split his syndactyly (webbed fingers) on the 10th Feb. This will also include a skin graft from around his groin, so please keep him in your thoughts that day.

Update 30th December 2005

Many thanks to all at Post Pals for such a lovely Christmas and special thanks to Karen who was Aled’s elf; you made his day extra special. Thank you to all the kind people that sent cards, your generosity is incredible. Post Pals has shown us that there are a lot of kind and thoughtful people who will go out of their way to make others happy… Thanks.

Aled has had a fairly quiet time lately, he, as well as his mum and dad have been really touched by the generosity of people around the world. He has received parcels from Canada, USA as well as here in the UK. The support he has been given has been immense. Thank you.

Two weeks before Christmas Aled had what we thought was a chest infection; as usual it started just in time for the weekend so we had to see another doctor rather than his GP. He confirmed that it was a chest infection and gave him the usual antibiotics. After a further 24 hours Aleds breathing was in excess of 60 a minute so we saw his own GP who sent him straight to hospital.

After loads of tests and X-rays the Paediatrician said that it wasn’t a chest infection but a chronic Asthma attack. He was given loads of inhalers and kept in the hospital for the day. The good thing about staying in there for the day was that we got to meet the Plymouth Argyle football players who gave Aled a hat and were about to give him some gloves until they noticed his hands and gave him some sweatbands instead. Aleds Asthma seems to be under control and he was well again for Christmas.

Aled was really excited about Christmas, especially when we placed Rudolph’s glitter food outside on Christmas Eve. When he woke up in the morning he opened his stocking and was really pleased so he shouted ‘thank you Father Christmas!’

We are still waiting for a date for Aleds next operation on his right hand, hopefully that will be soon after the New Year.

Update 19th November 2005

Unfortunately Aled has been poorly this week with a viral infection. Aled also saw the cardiologist this week who says the patch on his heart is really good and doesn’t leak, but he has a leaky heart valve which the doctor will keep an eye on.

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Lennon R

28 June 2011

Story written 2010

Lennon was born 12 weeks premature. He was transferred to Chelsea and Westminster when he was 2 days old, for 6 weeks, as he needed an oscillating ventilator. During this time he had respiratory failure, a suspected bleed on the brain and a severe kidney infection which resulted in him only having one functioning kidney. He was transferred back to our local hospital only to suffer respiratory failure again. We were told by our local consultant that Lennon would be ventilator dependant and we waited for a bed at GOS for further tests. On arriving at GOS, Lennon had cardiac surgery and came off the ventilator. We were transferred back to our local and then went home. Lennon then suffered respiratory failure again, and in the 6 days he was at home we resuscitated him 3 times. He was re-admitted and transferred back to intensive care at GOS. This happened again only the next month. Lennon came home when he was 9 months old, with 24 hour oxygen and a gastrostomy, as Lennon has no swallow. We had quite a stable period at home, with lots of outpatient appointments at GOS, (Lennon is under 11 of the teams at GOS), and lots of therapy at home. Lennon is immuno-compromised so we very rarely take him out in busy places.

Just before Lennon’s second birthday, his bowel begun to fail. He became severely constipated, despite all the medication he was taking for it and he begun being sick every time we fed him. Lennon’s stomach could only hold 50 mls of milk in one feed, so we were feeding him every 2 hours. It came to a head on Christmas Eve and Lennon was admitted to our local hospital to give his bowel a rest. He went onto iv fluids and was closely monitored due to his chronic kidney failure. We failed to restart feeds again and were transferred to GOS. After a lot of tests and investigations, Lennon was diagnosed with Intestinal Pseudo obstruction and Eosinophilic enteritis. We went back to our local on TPN and waited for a bed on the Gastro ward. Whilst waiting, Lennon got a line infection, and then RSV, and was transferred to intensive care at Addenbrookes. When he first arrived, we were again told to prepare for the worst. If Lennon deteriorated further, he would not survive. And in true Lennon style, 2 weeks later he surprised everyone and was taken out of ICU. We finally got a bed on the gastro ward at GOS and Lennon was given a gastro-jejunostomy feeding tube and slowly came off TPN and onto a 24 hour jejunal feed with his gastrostomy on free drainage to clear all the green bile and air he was producing. We came home again in April 2009, on oxygen and this time with a 24 hour feed running into his jejunal tube.

Since then, we have been in and out of hospital for procedures and tests as Lennon developed Hypo-glycaemia while he was on TPN and as yet they cannot find the cause for this, so Lennon remains on a 24 hour feed. If Lennon’s health deteriorates in any way then he has to be admitted too. He has had various Genetic tests, most have come back negative and we are still awaiting results from the last test for Schinzel-Geidion syndrome.

Lennon attends outpatient appointments at GOS almost every week. And now goes to nursery at a SLD school, which he loves!

His current diagnoses are Chronic lung disease, Pulmonary hypertension, growth hormone deficient, he has growth hormone injections, Hypo-glycaemia, Intestinal Pseudo obstruction and Eosinophilic enteritis, severely deaf, chronic kidney failure, hypo-tonia, Reflux, E-coli, central apnea, sagittal synostosis, dysphagia, failure to thrive.

Lennon has no communication, he cannot walk, but he has just started to pull himself forward on his tummy! He is such a happy boy and very rarely gets upset. Everyone who meets Lennon instantly likes and remembers him – he is well known for being a happy and endearing boy. He is the apple of his Mummy, Daddy and sister’s eye.

Update 15th April 2013

We would like to move Lennon on from Post Pals as he hasn’t been admitted to hospital for over a year now, and we feel that other children would benefit much more.

It has been a pleasure to have been part of such an amazing charity, and all the post we have had has been greatly received by Lennon and Isla. Thank you and all the best. I will continue to send post to the other Pals too.

Update 23rd April 2012

After a quiet few months, comes a busy few months!

Lennon was admitted to Great Ormond Street in March as his jejunostomy stoma was prolapsing. The surgeon managed to sort it out fairly quickly in theatre so it was a short stay.

Since then, it has begun to prolapse again. The surgeon believes it is due to the muscle behind the stoma wasting away. So he has decided to admit Lennon for major surgery some time in May. He will do a laparotomy and have to revise the small bowel, and then sort out the jejunostomy. We are anticipating a 4-5 weeks stay. Lennon’s Picc line split last week and had to be removed, so the surgeon will also insert a port a cath whilst Lennon is in theatre.

So, with no Picc line we have been able to go swimming which Lennon loved! He is so confident in the water, even after 18 months without being able to swim. And it means we don’t have to be so cautious in the bath and he can splash and get as wet as he wants. And have showers again!

Unfortunately, this all means that we have had to cancel our trip to euro Disney. Both Isla and Lennon are devastated that we can’t go now.

Thank you to everyone that has sent post to us and especially to all those who have brought gifts for Lennon and Isla. Thanks also to Dottie for all the letters she sends, they both look forward to reading what she has been up to!

Update 18th January 2012

I’d like to say a massive THANK YOU!! This is to everyone that sent Christmas post to Lennon and Isla. We had so many gifts that they were allowed to open 1 Post Pals parcel every day on the run up to Christmas Day. We are amazed at the generosity of people. Both Lennon and Isla loved every single present they opened and were both keep busy with all the contents. A special thank you to the Sandwell Academy who sent Lennon and Isla build a bears each and a huge box of presents and cards for them both. Isla thought Santa had come early, she was so excited! Thank you so much everyone.

Also, thank you to everyone who sent post for Lennon’s birthday. He had a really good day. The school allowed me to stay for the day with him which was lovely. We took Lennon and Isla ice skating and to have tea with Santa, which they both loved. We also went on the Santa express train and to see a pantomime.

Lennon has had a good winter so far. Lots of out patients appointments, but no stays! His surgeon has decided that it is now time to perform surgery on Lennon’s undeveloped testicles, but will kindly do it in the same anaesthetic as his next endoscopy, along with a hearing test, and maybe more grommets. Lennon’s renal consultant is now thinking about catheterising him. Lennon has had bad bugs in his bladder for 3 years now, and they are all antibiotic resistant now. His last 2 ultrasounds show that he is not emptying his bladder and there is a lot of debris in his bladder. She is worried about the effect it will have on his one kidney and impaired renal function. We will know more at his next appointment. She also made a very interesting observation about the fact that Lennon’s body has a problem with emptying. His bowel, bladder, mouth, stomach and the back of his ear drum don’t empty properly, so she will look into this.

Lennon also has an emergency appointment with Gastro at the beginning of next month, as he has stopped putting on weight again and his stomach has been bleeding every day since mid December.

Lennon is still whizzing around in his walking frame and when he last went to stay at the hospice, all the staff were so amazed to see how much he had changed since he has been walking – what a little character he has become!

Update 19th November 2011

Lennon is now whizzing around in his new walking frame! Thank you to everyone that helped us to raise the money we needed to buy it. It has already made a huge difference to us all. Lennon is much more interactive now he is upright at home. He is free to go where he wants and it is so lovely to have him following me around! Lennon loves to chase Isla and grab her hair!

Winter is here now and we are trying to keep Lennon out of hospital. So far, so good. His weight has stayed the same for the past 14 weeks and his potassium levels are getting lower every week, but he has remained relatively well.

He is really enjoying school and is now part of the school choir. He can now walk around the school to all his classes. His favourite lesson is Dance and he runs down to the dance studio and then has to be dragged back to nursery afterwards!

We are also waiting for Lennon’s new bed to arrive. He already has a specially made bed, but he has begun to climb up and throw himself over the side head first on to the floor, scaring the life out of me and his dad. We now watch him on a video monitor when he is in bed. The new bed will stop him from being able to climb out and hurt himself.

We are looking forward to Lennon’s birthday, we have booked for him and Isla to go ice skating and have tea with Santa and to hopefully go to the London aquarium as Lennon loves fish and water.

Thank you to everyone that has sent us post and thank you for the Halloween parcels. Both Lennon and Isla had great fun with the parcels from Post Pals and the monthly project parcels. Also, a massive thank you for the balloons, Lennon and Isla were so surprised when they opened their boxes to find balloons flying out of the box!

Update 7th September 2011

Sorry it’s been so long since my last update. Time goes so quick and I have a rubbish memory.

Lennon was admitted for his picc line insertion in February. It took them 3 attempts to get the line in, so they are hoping it lasts! Lennon now has his weekly bloods taken at home which is so much better for him. They have been up and down and we are constantly changing the doses of all his supplements to keep them with in normal ranges for him.

With the weather getting better in April, Lennon’s health began to pick up, he put weight on and his blood sugars stabled out. He was taken off the TPN list for the time being, but they will continue to keep a close eye on him, especially with the weather now getting colder again.

We were given a free holiday, unfortunately Lennon wasn’t able to come. We took Isla and Lennon went to stay at the hospice. She had a great time and was spoilt rotten. Lennon loves staying at hospice, and was also spoilt by all the nurses. We came back to find him covered in paint and cake mixture!

We’ve had a few scares with the Jej tube, but I am now allowed to change them myself at home, which has saved a lot of hospital trips.

Lennon has remained relatively well through the summer. He has had a lot of infections. Strep A seems to be hanging around and becoming hard to shift, like the e-coli. And candida has also been a regular visitor. As always, Lennon takes it all in his stride and doesn’t seem to be too affected by them all.

School have been really pleased with his progress. His communication has improved slightly and he is much more interactive. He has also learnt to walk using a walking frame! This is a major milestone in Lennon’s life. We were always told that Lennon would never be able to walk because of his muscle tone. When he turned 3, it took 3 people to support him enough to stand up. The frame has a hip support, saddle and chest support and it means that Lennon is finally free to go where he wants. Leave a door open and he is through it! It is so nice to see him playing with Isla and her friends. We were able to borrow the schools frame during the holidays, but have had to return it. County are unable to fund a frame for Lennon to have at home, so we are raising the money ourselves. I can’t bear to see him have his new found freedom taken away from him.

Thank you to everyone that sends post. Lennon and Isla both love receiving their post and hearing your news and stories. They have loved all the postcards this summer. And when the party bag from Dottie Dalmatian arrived, we had our own little party with Ziggy, our Dalmatian. Lennon and Isla even made cakes and we played party games.

Post Pals has become a huge part of our lives and I cannot thank them and you enough for making my children smile, even through the tough times.

Update 6th February 2011

We managed to keep Lennon at home over Christmas! It was only his second Christmas at home, and both he and Isla really enjoyed themselves. I’ve never so many cards and presents! It was hard to keep a track of what was being opened, so I am truly sorry if I leave anyone out on my list of thank you’s at the end. We still had to take Lennon to the hospital twice a week for bloods to be taken. His bloods have been up and down, and we have started him back on supplements again to hopefully stop them from dropping.

On New Years day Lennon’s Jej tube blocked again, so we spent a very stressful 10 hours at our local waiting for GOS to decide what they wanted to do about it. Because it was a holiday, there were on skeletal staff, with few free beds. The doctors at our local tried all day to get cannula’s in, they had about 15 attempts with no luck. By late afternoon, Lennon’s blood sugars began to drop. I managed to persuade the surgical SHO at GOS to find him a bed and admit him, on the promise that all we needed was a bed and a tube. And if it came to it, I would change the tube myself! So 6pm that night, we were blue lighted to GOS. Lennon really enjoyed it! The Registrar first tried to unblock the tube. Then removed it and inserted a new one. We left there at 11.30pm.

We managed to get a last minute appointment with the gastro team at GOS. They wanted to see him as he had lost 0.4kg in just 5 days. We explained everything that had been happening over the last few weeks to the registrar. She thinks that Lennon’s gut dysmotility has got a lot worse, and that his small bowel is now refluxing back into his stomach. She says that he needs to be on TPN now. So, the plan is for Lennon to be admitted for a picc line as soon as possible. Then we wait for the home TPN training. We have known since Lennon’s last Gastro admission that it would only be a matter of time before Lennon needed to be on TPN permanently. So we were always prepared for this happening but it doesn’t really make it any easier. The reg agreed that it is a difficult decision to make. We have decided that Lennon deserves quality of life for his last years, over quantity. We want him to be happy and pain free and not to be restricted to his feed pump 24hrs. Also, it is thought that if the pressure is off of Lennon’s bowel, he may learn to walk and want to sit up unaided in his chair. We just want our little boy to have the best years possible. The risks are high – liver failure, line infections. The pro’s far out weigh the cons though.

Ian and I both feel a little defeated that we lost the battle of the bowel. But we keep reminding ourselves – as a family, we have all won the battle. Lennon wasn’t expected to survive 2 days, let alone 4 years. He is a gift that has been sent to us, and we will do all we can for him to enjoy his short life and be as well as he possibly can be.

On to the thank you’s! Thank you to Leona for your amazing reindeer letters. We read one a day on the lead up to Christmas. I was so impressed with them; I have kept them in their envelopes for next Christmas too. Also for the cards you sent to Lennon and Isla. To Mary for the stockings you sent to Lennon and Isla, and the rolling stamps. Kate Dee for Lennon’s elf box, he took so long to open it because he had to play with all the toys before opening the next present! Juno, Sarah G, Curly, Susan, Mike, Amethyst, Breeze and Izzy the dog and anyone else who sent Lennon and Isla Christmas cards. To Adam for last month’s monthly project, we loved the books, especially the family book! To Jenny for all your cards and recipe. Isla and Lennon love to bake on a Saturday afternoon and your fudge is on the list of things to make. Claire for your lovely handmade cards. Dottie Dalmatian, for all your letters and postcards. We love receiving the letters; we all love the photos too. I put them all together to make a book with them as Isla loves reading them over and over again. To Penny for Lennon’s ribbon box, he loves it. It always comes to the hospital with us. I am adding to it every time I go to the fabric stall. Thank you to Brianna and Marissa for the homemade card. Sorry if there is anyone I have missed. There were so many cards and presents over Christmas, it was so hard to keep up with them all.

And lastly a huge thank you to Post Pals. You have made such a difference to all of our lives. It is amazing that just one card can make such a difference to Lennon and Isla’s day. And through you, I have made some lovely friends, who truly understand what it is like to have a poorly child and all the trials and tribulations that come with it.

Update 19th December 2010

Sorry it’s been a while since my last update. Lennon has been in and out of hospital over the last month. We had to keep turning his feed off as he seemed to be in a lot of pain with it running. He was looking very grey and not very responsive, even at school. We knew he was not well.

At the end of November we went to GOS to see Lennon’s renal consultant, dietician and his metabolic doctor. We got the results of all the metabolic tests Lennon had done. They all came back normal. We are of course really pleased that Lennon has none of these awful metabolic conditions, but the big blow is that we will most likely never know the cause or root of all Lennon’s problem. This is extremely upsetting for me. I have spent all of Lennon’s life trying to get to an overall diagnosis – I have become almost obsessed! I feel that it is the least that Lennon deserves after all his been through in his short life. I simply can not accept that there is not a cause for all Lennon’s problems.

We then saw the renal doctor. Lennon was weighed and has lost 1.5kg in the last 3weeks. Lennon now weighs in at a tiny 11kg. Both the dietician and renal doctor put it down to his gut malabsorping.

The following day I rang the Gastro team, and the registrar seemed understandably worried and managed to make us an appointment with Lennon’s consultant. Lennon’s renal consultant then rang me at home to inform me that Lennon’s blood results were not good. His sodium, potassium, phosphate levels were dangerously low and he was alkalotic. Lennon was admitted to our local. They needed to get iv access to give him much needed fluids and to give him the supplements that he so desperately needed. Over the course of the night, the doctors had 13 attempts to canulate Lennon. None of which were successful. Luckily they did manage to get a blood sample, which confirmed what we already knew. Lister had lengthy talks with Renal and Gastro at GOS to decide what to do. It was decided to give Lennon a huge dose of salt – the biggest dose Lennon’s local consultant had ever given to a child. Give him potassium supplement, and replace all his gastric loses ml for ml with iv sodium chloride into his jej tube.

The main decision to be made was that Lennon is under no circumstances to have any kind of central line put in (this would make taking blood and giving fluids much easier). The doctors have all agreed that this could be fatal for Lennon. His gut, bladder and urinary tract are full of infections and bad bugs, that will travel internally straight to the line. Similar to what happened when he last had a hickman line. And that they would not consider TPN at this point. Mainly because he would need a central line for this, and because they are so worried about his gut. They want us to keep using it, no matter how rubbish it is, as they feel it will completely stop working if we give it a rest (unless he continues to loose weight).

Unfortunately I spent my 30th Birthday rushing Lennon to A&E at 2.30am after he drained thick brown bile into his gastric bag and was violently sick. But I did manage to persuade them to discharge Lennon the night before his 4th birthday, on the promise that we brought him back for daily bloods. So luckily he got to spend his birthday at home! He wasn’t very well, but we made the most of it. He loved opening all his presents and blowing out his candles!

Since then, his bloods have improved, and we are now having twice weekly bloods taken. His gastric looses have got worse and are now quite high, and his stools are very mucusy. He can be in a lot of pain when the feed is running and his blood sugars are all over the place. Endocrine have changed and tinkered with his meds again. We had a mad dash to GOS in the week as Lennon’s Jej tube blocked, but it was quickly changed by the stoma nurses and checked with a contrast x-ray.

Lennon managed to get back to school for the Christmas week. He had a great time! He made cakes, a Christmas hat and a candle. He met Santa, and attended his first school Christmas dinner, which he apparently loved, even though he can’t eat!

Yet again, a huge list of thank you’s. I am so sorry if there is anyone who I have forgotten. We receive such a lot of post that it is difficult to keep a track of what Lennon and Isla are opening. All post is extremely gratefully received; both of them love all their post! Thank you to Sarah G for all our letters, Sara and Meggie for all Lennon’s monthly projects, and elf box. We are still slowly working our way through the elf box; he is opening one present a day, after he has his injection. Thanks for the birthday cards from Tina, Ruby, Penny and Jenny. To Sarah, Dominic and Gethin for the card and book. To Catherine, Alicia and Nico for the card and pencil. Thank you for all Isla’ Reindeer letters, she has really enjoyed them! To Dottie for all her letters, they really cheer us all up; we love the photos of her out and about! Thanks for Isla’a elf boxes from both the Jackson family and Jill. They have been a godsend when we have been back and forth to the hospital with Lennon. Thank you so much. To Tez for the pop up book and card. To Janet for the toothbrush and fish mobile – the mobile is hanging in Lennon’s room. And thanks for all the Christmas cards we have received, Helen T, Cindy, and the Homberg family in America. Thank you to everyone who takes the time to read Lennon’s updates, it really does mean a lot to us to know that people care about him.

Update 27th October 2010

The past month or so has flown by. Lennon was discharged from GOS at the end of September. The Parental Nutrition worked wonders and Lennon became a different child when it started, I’ve never seen him have so much energy! It seemed to be just what his bowel needed and after a week it was turned off. The day after they turned it off, Lennon was back up to full feeds and the surgeon decided it was best for Lennon to be at home away from all the germs in hospital, before he caught something. Lennon has a habit of going into hospital, catching things, and ending up sicker!

So we went home with a picc line (in case we couldn’t replace all the gastric loses), and a gastrostomy tube and jejunostomy tube, both of which unsecure, much to my horror. We had a few scary moments when the gastrostomy tube slipped out, but thankfully managed to get it back in. And 6 weeks post op they put a button in. So now we just have an unsecure Jej tube for the next 4 months with a 22 hour feed running through it and Lennon rolling all over the place!

A week after we were home, we were coping with replacing the gastric losses so they pulled the picc line out. Unfortunately Lennon developed a rather large lump on the site of his jejunostomy tube, which has meant we have been back and forth to GOS more or less every week for them to check it. It was first thought to be an abscess, then a hernia, and now the surgeon thinks it is a collection of granulation around the tube on the inside. Poor Lennon is finding it very uncomfortable and it is still growing. They won’t do anything about it until they can change the tube – another 4 months.

Lennon managed to get back to school, which he was ecstatic about! He now has an intervener working with him all day, and gets to spend the lunch hour in the sensory room. We have noticed a big difference in him already; he is much more responsive and sociable.

Endocrine have changed all his medications and his blood sugars have been very stable. We are also waiting for the results of the muscle biopsy they took while Lennon was in theatre. They are testing for Mitochondrial disease, smith lemli opitz and CDG. We will hopefully get the results at the end of November.

Lennon had a weekend stay at the hospice, which he loved. He makes us laugh when we go to pick him up and he doesn’t want to leave!

We have a huge list of thank-you’s! Sara and Meggie for the George toy, Toy Story colouring book and rainbow card. Lennon especially loved the cat wrapping paper! And also for the Halloween gifts, the stars are in Lennon’s sensory cave, and he loves the ghost. Wiggly bags for the bags that they sent which came in handy for keeping the picc line safe. And for the fab drainage bag bags, they are coming in great use and the school loves them. Kate Stone for the lovely card and wiggly bags with Yo Gabba on them, Lennon loves them and has been using them on his gastro tube. Dottie Dalmatian for trusting us with one of her puppies, who the kids have named ‘Zippy’! Kate Dee for the Legoland tickets, we are hopefully going this Sunday. Also for the jewellery you sent Isla, and for Lennon’s windchime and rainmaker. They entertained them both through the long hospital days. Also for the Gulliver’s land tickets – unfortunately Lennon was unwell, he stayed at the hospice, but Isla had a fab time! And for the Halloween goody bags for Lennon and Isla, they both love them! Lennon loves the spider! The frog card from Emma, postcard and lovely letters from Sarah G. Katy and our friends in the village for the handmade card and for Isla’s colouring set. Ads, Hazel and Savana for all the artwork, handmade card and door sign for Lennon’s room. Emma and John for the card. Steve, Emma, Ben and Harry for the card. Gemma, Darryl, Rhys and Darcy for the card and lovely drawing. And a huge thanks to Gemma, Phoebe and Finlay for the lovely gifts you sent the kids. Lennon loves the bag, I have filled it with all his medical stuff, so it goes everywhere with him. And Isla is slowly learning to play snap with the cards and has demolished the chocolate! Sarah, Benjamin, Oliver and Matthew for the playdoh, Juna for the duck card you sent Isla, she loved it! Donna for the bracelets you made, they are fab, Abby for the cd you made Isla, she loves it and for the lovely letter you wrote, Teresa for the pop up book, Lennon loves it, and Susan Sweeney for the Peppa pig dvd, pink duck and card for Isla, and the george pig and buzz card for Lennon. The dvd has been earmarked for our car trip to GOS this week. And thank you Dominic for the fab light show you brought for Lennon, it is in his bedroom and he loves it!

Post Pals has made such a difference to us all, especially when Lennon was in hospital. It is so nice to know that there are people who are caring enough to send us a smile 🙂

Update 6th September 2010

Lennon went down to theatre on Thursday afternoon. He was down there for 3 hours. I went down to get him when he had woken up and was surprised at how chilled out he was! Every other time he has been to theatre he has come back screaming and uncontrollable. He had a Laparotomy to get to his stomach to cut the old tube out and part of his stomach, a new gastrostomy, and a jejunostomy. He had a morphine infusion running – which problem explains why he was so calm!

Lennon had a really bad night after surgery. He was in a lot of pain and having a lot of bolus’ of extra morphine on top of what was already being infused. His gastrostomy was on free drainage and draining out a lot of dark green bile – any of my gastro friends will know that this means the bowel has more or less packed up.

Friday morning, Lennon sounds really chesty and hasn’t been to the toilet all night. Chest sounds crackly and everyone panics. He is sent down for a chest x-ray, which shows cloudy bases, and the physio comes to give him chest physio, to good effect. He then spikes a temp of 39.3, so it is assumed he may have a chest infection so they change his antibiotics. Then the doctors decide to start some milk in the jejunostomy, running at 56mls/hour. A silly idea after the day he had! Lennon’s bowel agreed this was a bad idea, and after 3 hours the milk appears in the bile bag, so they stopped the milk. Now that the bowel has been stimulated by milk, the bile starts pouring out. Lennon’s stomach becomes distended and hard and he is so much pain.

During Saturday night he spiked a temperature again of 39.1, but it came down quite quickly, so the nurses put it down to pain.

So, Lennon’s bowel has been left alone for the weekend in the hope that a few days rest is all it needs – after all, he has just had major surgery on what was already a very slow bowel. And Lennon always needs a little extra time to recover from anything.

The pain relief team came round to see him and have agreed to see him on their ward round tomorrow morning. They had some ideas of him having stronger pain relief at home, which will hopefully help him sleep and stop him from self harming.

He has been draining a lot of air and bile today, but the bile is lighter in colour and not so thick, which hopefully means it is slowly starting to work. Lennon has been really fed up and in a lot of pain. He is still having bolus’ of morphine. He is very unsettled and not looking too well at all. Although was pleased to see his uncle, dad and sister today. He has a HUGE bruise on his head where he has been punching himself.

Thank you to everyone who has sent us post in the last few weeks. A massive thank you to Kate, who sent Lennon a bag FULL of Disney stuff, we really can’t thank you enough, we were all so excited empting the parcel!!! Lennon and Isla have both been watching the dvd’s and playing with the toys. Thank you to Alex for the card, ribbon, smellies and mirror. The ribbon is hanging from his bedside light and he loves the smellies! I have a few more parcels to take back to the hospital with me tomorrow too.

Update 24th August 2010

Just to let you know that Lennon is back in hospital waiting to be transferred to GOS. He received post this morning which really cheered him up, thank you to Jane for the postcard and pictures, to Wendy for the handmade cards, and to Sheelagh for the football doorbell which we have been playing with all morning! Thank you all for making my little soldier smile!

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Amy

23 June 2011

Story written 2004

Amy was diagnosed with Blackfan Diamond Anaemia at 28 days, after being born a month early and having had a HB level of only 3.4. After a blood transfusion given only hours after her birthday, her doctors hoped this was because of a tear in my placenta, but her HB started to drop again and after numerous tests was sent to Birmingham Children’s hospital and was diagnosed after a Bone Marrow test was completed. Amy’s condition is not just present at birth, it can be up to a year after until diagnosis is made. Amy was given steroids but this failed to kick start her red cells so she is dependent on transfusions every 4-5 weeks. Her first 2 years were extremely bad as she had no immune system and the slightest cold had her back in hospital with dramatically low HB levels and anaemic fevers. She has Chelaton therapy for 8 hours a night (she cannot use up her red cells so they lodge in her organs and can eventually damage them if not given Cheleton Therapy to get rid of them). She also has a Vascaport which is used for her transfusions and she is due in hospital for a replacement vascaport sometime soon (in a waiting list as we speak). Amy has a slight behavioural problem as she is not used to interactions (or doesn’t know how to) with children as she is constantly surrounded by adults who have their entire life revolved around her. Amy is a bright, happy, strong-willed and funny child, with a wonderful smile and a hug for anyone (even people she doesn’t know!)

Update 7th October 2013

Amy is now moving on from Post Pals, thank you to everyone who has supported her and her siblings over the years she has been a Post Pals.

Update 14th November 2012

We have just been granted power of attorney over Amy’s money issues as she finds things like this too hard to manage, so we can sort all her finances now and she can just get on with learning and building up her confidence. We are applying for a key worker to help build up her confidence away from home as she relies on me for everything even down to telling her to clean her teeth! She will also have to learn to be independent on the buses too as she has to go to college in September, so is losing her safety bubble and this is terrifying her to the extreme now. Health wise she is as well as can be expected for a child dependent on transfusions and we are awaiting a bone density scan as she is in the high bracket for osteoporosis so this is being double checked. We’ve also just found out children on chelation treatment can become vitamin d deficient as Amy has been for the past year. This is all being closely monitored now. Thanks to all who sent mail this month, the children are always happy checking the post.

Update 28th September 2012

We had a wonderful holiday in France and the kids loved it. Amy got to ride a horse and all came back with lovely tans as the weather was around 30 degrees every day. It was so lovely that we’re going back again next year, but to another part of France this time. Amy’s ADHD meds have been raised and this seems to be working. She has just undertaken an intense 3 week course to add 2 B’s to her GCSEs. Transfusions are all back to normal now and Amy is in her last year at school. We’re waiting to see what the consultant has to say to us in November, as after last time he suggested dealing with Amy’s fast dropping HB levels by having a transplant – we refuse to put her through that when she s so healthy!! The kids would like to say thank you for all the post they have received. They check the post every day and even Cody now asks if it is for him!

Update 8th July 2012

Amy has just found out her consultant is leaving next year, and other changes in her life are unsettling her at the moment, so she is a little down right now. We are trying to get her HB levels back up to what they were before the forced aneamia and this is going slowly. It has affected Amy this month as she missed a week of school because she was having extremely bad headaches and feeling more tired than usual. We are also getting Amy’s adhd changed and counseling sorted at the end of the month, as school are seeing bad behavior come back. We think her sudden growth spurt is effecting her levels of medication working correctly. Thanks to everyone who sent mail this month, the children always happily check the post.

Update 15th March 2012

Amy’s consultant recently decided to try forced anaemia. This basically means they kept her in an anaemic state to see if her bone marrow would start producing red cells, as this has happened to children going through puberty. We gave it a try for 2 months and nothing happened – she was ill over the 2 months as her red cells dropped faster than they expected and so we are now back on usual transfusions. Amy is on her work experience this week and has decided she would defiantly like to work as a nursery assistant and loves every minute of real work! I’m very happy with her boost of confidence as she has very little confidence in the world outside her school and home. I’m hoping this will make her realize not everyone is nasty because she is different! Thank you for the post, the children loved their books and every time Cody gets mail he asks me if it is another book.

Update 19th November 2011

Amy is doing well and her consultant is extremely pleased with her progress. She is doing very well at school too. We are running around with not just Amy, but her baby brother with medical problems at the moment too, so I’m a very tired mum. The kids asked me to pass on their thanks for all the cards and gifts and the balloons also went down well! Thank you to all the posties and Post Pals too.

Update 5th September 2011

Amy had a great time in France, the weather was wonderful for us and the staff on site were wonderful and friendly. Amy was a little reluctant to use French and it’s the first time we have seen her shy when it comes to talking to someone. The journey was 8 hours to get there and Amy realised she hasn’t got sea legs on the ferry. We loved France so much we are planning on going there again as we had no problems and know if we do the staff are very happy to help us out. A huge thank you from the children for the huge craft pack they received, it has all been used up and even Cody had a good time sticking all day!!

Update 9th August 2011

Amy is doing well at school, though socially she is still isolated and never goes out the door unless I can get to pop to the shops. We are trying to get her to see she will be safe outside the house but she is afraid if she goes out she will be picked on. This hasn’t happened though. We are going to France this weekend and this will be the children’s first trip abroad via a boat. We have been too afraid to take Amy before but are now ready to try, all armed with medicines and letters galore. Next year it’s the first plane journey as their aunt is marrying abroad. We would like to thank everyone for Kyle’s post for his birthday as he loved them all. Amy sends on her thanks for all her post this month too.

Update 8th June 2011

Amy is doing really well at the moment. There was talk of a bone marrow transplant but she decided against it as she and we are happy with her health and care at this time, and we’re wary of the dangers of a transplant. Her scans for her suspected deep infection in her ears was clear so we are back to square one yet again. Amy is doing fine on her ADHD treatment and her weight loss has slowed down. School is happy with her behavior at the present time and she is still enjoying school.

Update 28th February 2011

Amy is doing well and her health at the moment is excellent. Her iron levels are at an all time low though. Transfusions are still every 4 weeks and her vascaport is working really well. She is now on pump when she has her blood and that means we get out before 9pm every time we go.Amy is doing excellent in school, her teachers are really pleased and her grades have gone up ten fold which we are happy about. She is due for surgery again this year as it looks like she had a deep infection in both ears and this has gone on far too long and it now means surgery is the only way forward!! We are making sure it is put off until after her holiday as it means no swimming, or physical activity for 3-4 months, and it may mean more than one surgery as well. We are having a ct scan next week to check what is going on and then see another consultant to decide where and when surgery will happen. Amy is also 14 this year – growing up fast now! I’d like to say a big thank you for all the children’s postie as they love waiting for the post to come.

Update 25th November 2010

Amy is doing well with her health at the moment which is excellent but her iron levels are at an all time low. Transfusions are still every 4 weeks but with a review on how much next visit. We have a small problem with too much weight loss due to her adhd tablets, so a break from them may be in order, but I am hoping the Christmas break and eating lots of stuff that’s really bad for you will pile on some weight, plus a 2 week medication break we have planned. Counselling has now finished for Amy for now as we seem to go round and round over the same stupid things, so we decided to stop as it wasn’t really doing any good. The only good thing really is the fact they diagnosed Amy’s ADHD and got her moved to another school for children with medical problems and social problems etc. So we will stroll along and hope for the best now I think. I would like to say thank you for all the cards and gifts the children received, especially the chocolate!

Update 6th September 2010

Amy is doing well with her health at the moment and transfusions are going well. She has just started back at school after a long 6 weeks – she needs her routine back as boredom has definitely set in. Counselling sessions are still going on until the near future to help her deal with the problems she has. Thank you for Amy’s post and for her heart pillow, she loved it.

Update 21st May 2010

Amy is really enjoying her new school and is now inviting her friends over which is good for her as they also have some of the problems Amy has to face too. It’s nice to see her making real friends. At the moment we are having a huge problem with transfusions and are waiting to see her consultant next week as to why it’s taking so long for surgery as we are really struggling to find access to decent veins now. We know every time she goes for blood she is going to have major trouble for access which is very upsetting for Amy even though her nurses are really good with her and wait for her before they retry anything. It’s still up setting both for her and us though. Amy is enjoying after school club and socializing at school and is having some speech therapy to help her understand words and how to speak to people etc. The school is very good with the extra help she needs and it seems to be slowly working. A very special thank you to Paul who got a signed picture of Zac Efron for Amy. It’s now going in a frame in her room. Thank you so much, it was such a kind gesture.

Update 24th March 2010

Amy is really enjoying her new school and has settled in nicely and is making friends now to our delight. She is a complete change from the depressed little girl we had for years. It’s such a joy to see her excitedly waiting for the taxi and running out to meet the driver. She has joined in after school bowling and is really doing well; it’s such a relief for us. She is still waiting for surgery and having problems getting lines still but we’re still waiting for that call or letter!! Health-wise she is doing really well though. We have just celebrated Cody’s first birthday and we can’t believe its been a year already. So much has happened with Amy it seems the year has flown by. Amy is still receiving counseling and this will be a long term thing, but her counselor is pleased with her change of mood and her bounce has come back which they have never seen before, so that’s really good for us all. Amy is getting help with her dyspraxia at school and her aim is to learn to ride a big bike safely so she can have one for Christmas. She is also learning to use a laptop as writing is a major issue for Amy at school and she tends to avoid anything to do with writing and is still trying to learn the basics on a pc (hence why no reply to emails as she gets stuck with what to do and how to write back).

Update 9th March 2010

Amy is doing very well in school and has settled in nicely. She is a lot happier now and more excited about school. We’re still waiting for surgery and having problems finding lines for transfusions at the moment. Amy is still in counseling so she has some other outlet for her emotions and problems and this will be a long term thing for her.

Update 1st February 2010

Amy started at the new school today. We had a home visit last week and then went to visit on Thursday and were offered a place straight away. Amy is very happy to be starting and hopefully will get all the help she needs now. Fingers crossed home life will become calmer now she is happier too.

Update 12th January 2010

We have a meeting about Amy’s referral and we have been told Amy has a good chance of getting in on her medical and social problems and we just have to go before the panel now. We’re playing the waiting game again, but if no success this time, we have informed everyone she will be home schooled for definite. We can’t put her through the constant agony of forcing her to go to school, so would rather take out that problem totally for her own mental well being. A huge thank you to all elves this year, the children are in the process of writing thank you cards to the addresses they had.

Update 16th December 2009

Amy is at last being referred to a special needs centre for either extra support or a change of schools that can cope with her needs. We are awaiting a meeting to sort out what happens next and what goes into the referral. She is coping at the moment but is still unable to cope socially or with the fact she has been placed in lower groups and too many distractions from other children. She’s a very unhappy little bunny at the moment and is fed up of waiting for things to be done faster. We are still having counseling to help her and the family cope with her ADHD and school. Fingers crossed Amy will be moved, but if not, home schooling is our next avenue. Thank you to all that have sent Christmas presents, they are all under the tree waiting for Christmas day. May I wish all the other families a very merry Christmas and a good New Year.

Update 14th October 2009

Amy is doing well in school and the medication she is on for her ADHD is working well. She is still on transfusions every 4 weeks. This is going well even though there are problems finding a vein for transfusions and we are currently on 3 units a month.

Update 31st August 2009

Amy is doing well on her ADHD meds and her transfusions are going well every 4 weeks still. We’re just waiting for some more tests for concentration and to see what results are found to help her at school!

Update 18th August 2009

Amy has just been diagnosed with ADHD. After 10 years she is now on medication and life is a lot easier for her at the moment. She understands now what has been happening and is very happy to have a name for it instead of thinking it was her that was the problem. She is still in therapy to help her cope with everything she goes through and sharing her feelings with someone other than us seems to be helping her. Amy has also lost over a stone in weight since starting her medication, which for her is wonderful and makes up for not being able to eat herself silly! A much happier little girl!

Update 4th May 2009

Amy is doing well this month, apart from finding a vein for her transfusions which is proving a little difficult. She is doing fairly well at school although is still not happy being at her present school. We are proud to announce the arrival of Cody Alan Giles on the 23rd of April. He was delivered by C-Section at 10.07 and weighed a healthy 8lbs 6oz and is doing well. The children are over the moon and buzzing around him all day. A big thank you to Julie Barrat who sends regular cards and letters to all the children.

Update 1st April 2009

Amy is ok this month. She is doing fine at school despite the problems she is having, we’re hoping to try extra support and see what happens. She is still receiving counseling and is doing well at each session. She is now looking forward to her baby brother arriving on the 23rd of April and 2 weeks of Easter holidays. A big thank you to Julie Barrat who sends regular cards and letters to all the children.

Update 24th February 2009

Amy had her port removed on Monday and all went well. She came home an hour and a half after she woke up and was asking for food as soon as she got on the ward. She is in a bit of pain but has done really well this time and there were no complications. We are now using the veins she has that are working well for about a year. We hope to give her a break from ports and more surgery. Amy is still receiving counseling and we are trying to move her to a special school for her emotional and behavioral problems, but as usual, it takes time. She is a very unhappy girl and hates school. On the bright side, transfusions are every 4 weeks and her iron levels are low, so health wise things are going smoothly at the moment.

Update 31st December 2008

Thank you to the children’s elves for their elf boxes this Christmas.

Update 14th November 2008

Amy is being assessed at school for extra help and is finding it a little difficult there at the moment. As you can imagine, lots of telling off and lack of new friends is making her feel a little lonely and down, as she isn’t as grown up as her peers. Due to her dyspraxia she is also feeling down. Amy has been referred for some counseling with the rest of the family due to all the pressures and to help her and us deal with it a lot better. She is due to see her consultant next week to decide on whether to remove her unusable port for good or get it replaced. We are hoping to give her a break for the time being and see if this improves her behavior too. We are pleased to announce that a new member to the household will be here in May and Amy is hoping for a new baby sister, so fingers crossed she gets her wish this time. A big thank you to Julie Barrat for letters to all the children.

Update 5th August 2008

Things are ok with Amy at the moment. She is under occupational therapy to help us out with her dyspraxia. She did really well in her sats and she did better than her teacher expected her to do. She received a progress shield from school for all her hard work and the effort she put in since Christmas which was nice as she has had such a hard time at school.

Update 27th May 2008

Amy is having problems with her port at the moment as access is a nightmare. We are waiting for 6 months and if problems still arise then she will have the port out (more surgery!) and a break so she can just have canullas in to save having double surgery yet again, as she had a hard time of it last surgery. We have just been told her little brother could also have dyspraxia, but probably a milder form, so we’re in the process of changing schools to save all the problems we have had with his sister in the same school. So it’s double the trouble for mum and dad now!

Update 4th April 2008

Amy is having problems with her port access at the moment and having a full transfusion through it is a nightmare. Cannulised every time through the back of her hand, we’re hoping she wont need a another port yet, as hers is only 3 years old and her last one lasted 5 years. School problems are still a nightmare and she is now having another set of assessments done in her new school which will put her back with coursework as her junior school didn’t bother and just labeled her the naughty child, not the child who has dyspraxia! We are so dreading senior school, they are trying their best to set things in place for her for her first term, and this is the most help we have had in years thank goodness! We had lots of Easter cards for all the kids, plus valentine’s cards too. We also had lots of things for the boys and they loved it, so thank you for everything.

Update 30th January 2008

Amy has been diagnosed with learning disabilities as well as dyspraxia, so we now have to fight the education board for help yet again. The only thing in place is the fact she gets extra time in her SATs which helps. Her new medication is working well, fingers crossed, but she has had a slight glitch in her liver results so we’re praying it isn’t affecting her liver, otherwise its back on the pump if it is! Apart from that, she is doing well and is on the mend programme for kids to help get her moving and lose some weight and she loves it!

Update 19th December 2007

Amy has had so many appointments this month to sort out how we address her behaviour as she is now under the learning difficulties label. We don’t think anything will be sorted until senior school which doesn’t help her or our sanity, but what can you do! On a lighter note, her health is great and her new meds are working great, the only problem we have is port access – every transfusion we have to pin her down and try to get in a needle at the moment and she isn’t easy to pin down now she is getting bigger! We wish everyone at Post Pals a great Christmas and New Year and thank you for all the parcels and cards!

Update 1st October 2007

Amy is having OT appointments at the moment and is being referred for behaviour therapy too as she is having a lot of emotional difficulty due to her illness. This is a major problem at the moment and is a very difficult time for all the family. Health wise she is good and is now being bumped up to 4 units a month as she is getting bigger and the transfusions are not lasting as long. Her chelation therapy is working well and she is now being put onto a new drug that saves her having to use her sub cut pumps at night, so we are keeping our fingers crossed that this works for her, if not it means going back onto the sub-cut pumps again. Thanks to everyone who regularly sends cards and letters to Amy and a big thanks for the lads cards and small packages they love them too.

Update 27th March 2007

Sorry I haven’t written for a while but I have been busy with appointments and organizing our annual conference for families. Amy has had a good 6 months regarding school, although we had a set back last week with her behaviour and so will have to see how she responds to the way we are trying to correct things. We’re still waiting for her to be assessed for dyspraxia but as we have been waiting almost a year we are plodding along as best as we can. Health wise, she is fine and her treatment is working well. She is very healthy and happy at the moment. Thanks to everyone who regularly sends cards and letters to Amy and also for the cards and small packages that arrive for the boys.

Update 13th June 2006

Amy is being tested for ADHD as she is being so disruptive at school. She has also been bumped up to a lovely batch of 3 units of blood every month now as she was running way too low and we could tell!! (It’s going to be long days or nights for us now). Some good news is that her iron count is low at the moment. Apart from that she is fine, though the hot weather is hitting her hard this year so she has not been able to play outside for long in this extreme heat. Thanks to Katie for the cards etc they are still being kept on view in the living room and her box is full now so time for a sort out of old cards and letters I think.

Update 13th April 2006

Amy had bad news when we went to see her doctor; he told her it will be another few months before she can come off her sub-cut pump (we are not holding our breaths for her to come off it at all) so needless to say she was upset!! She has finished her sessions for her behaviour at home, as she has settled back down again thank goodness. School wise she is under the educational psychologist, who is monitoring her, but she has been really good for the past week and a half … it’s surprising what a lack of chocolate and biscuits can achieve!!! She is getting more stars on her chart and asks can someone send her some heart stickers so she can use them on her chart as she is running low on hearts and stars!! Health wise she is still ok – up every 4 weeks for blood transfusions but we are on 2 bags one month then 3 the next to keep her topped up nicely. Everything else is ok at the moment (fingers kept crossed). Her little brother has suffered some anemia but I am constantly assured it’s not DBA so we have another appointment to see Amy’s doctor for her and Kyle in the summer to check up on them both.

Update 2nd March 2006

Amy is just starting a few sessions to find out what the problem that’s causing her behaviour problems is. She settled for a bit, but has suddenly restarted her bad behaviour at school again, so we have to wait a while until she has done a few more sessions to find out the cause. Amy is due to find out tomorrow if she can reduce or stop her sub cut pump as the oral treatment she is also on is working well at the moment. Thanks again to everyone who has sent her mail.

Update 29th January 2006

Amy’s health is great at the moment but her behaviour is being looked into as she is having a few problems at home and school. I will update again when we know what is going on. Thanks to everyone for the many cards from all over the world she’s received this year. Thank you also to the class of children in Japan. Big thanks to Jennie and friends for the big postie box sent at Christmas – it took an hour to open and Amy was delighted with all the gifts.  Thanks to everyone who sent all the kids a small present, they loved them. Great pleasure is seen on the kid’s faces when they get a card or letter and even stickers – a small thing such as that is loved too.

Update October 2005

Amy is in good health at the moment, we have had so many appointments all in one go we have had to run around everywhere almost every week for one thing and another. Amy also had a liver biopsy and was a great little patient was up and asking for food within 5 mins of waking up and was home the same day. The only problem we had was keeping her from jumping and running around the house for a week after, because she felt fine she couldn’t understand why she had to be calm. So a good few months, plenty of letters, and still getting postcards too. Her oldest brother has a new post pal who he is writing to, even if it is a girl! Oh lads – you have to love them!

Update May 1st 2005

Amy is fine at the moment and is in good health apart from the odd cold and ear infection. She is due a transfusion in 2 weeks time. The kids are loving being on Post Pals, especially Amy. The lads also had some stickers from Sue which made their day.

Update 1st April 2005

Amy is fine at the moment, wasn’t well last month had a really bad ear infection for 4 weeks, but is ok now and back to normal.

Update 17th January 2005

Amy’s hospital ruined her first port access and I had to take her home before they used her as a human pin cushion again. She had her blood (although being 1 unit short) today on the outpatients ward. She had her friend Mikey come to stay over the weekend who also has DBA.

Update 31st December 2004

LOTS of great cards this month which made Amy very happy. She was waiting for post every day and was not disappointed. It made her Christmas to know people out there online do care and take notice of things posted on there. Amy has had her operation to have her port replaced and is doing well. It only took her a week to get over the operation and she is running around like nothing happened. She is due to use her new port in 2 weeks so hopefully it will make transfusions easier and shorter. She is now staying overnight in hospital for transfusions as she is having more units so it takes around 10 hours to do. She is in good health at the moment which is always a bonus, no illness for 6 months now so her immune system is a.o.k! Hope it stays that way.

Update 22nd December 2004

Amy went in for her vascaport replacement on Monday (too near Christmas but it had to be done). She did extremely well had the anesthetist in stitches and wasn’t scared at all. She was in a lot of pain on Monday when she came back from theatre, but we got home at around 7pm that night. Her first couple of days have been quite bad, but today she seems to be back to her old self and is smiling again and playing with her toys. We went out the house for about 20 mins today which was a bad idea because it wore her out too much. She has 2 weeks of no showers, which for a kid is a bonus! She will have a vascaport that now works for transfusions and as she had a transfusion on Friday night she will last out now till the New Year and we will see how well this new port now works. All my thanks to everyone who is sending cards and parcels she is very excited and knows every day she will get mail. She gets more than us now and has a whole door full of cards from post pals friends. It has brightened up her day and even more so when our neighbour sent round a parcel the postman had delivered on Monday so that made her smile.

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Dominic B

21 March 2011

Story written 2010

Dominic has had a tough life right from the start. He suffered from severe reflux which could not be controlled by medication and led to his refusal to eat. Eventually he was so dangerously underweight that they started tube feeds. He also suffered from aspiration pneumonia which has threatened his life on many occasions and led to him being ventilated, septic and with acute respiratory distress syndrome. He was given a very slim chance of surviving it and it was a traumatic time for everyone, including his brother and sister, who had to come and say their goodbyes. Thankfully he proved them all wrong and left intensive care only to spend the next 5 months in hospital recovering.

By the age of 2 Dominic had spent most of his life in hospital. He was nil by mouth due to an unsafe swallow and fed by a tube. He could barely sit, let alone run round like peers, and had severe muscle weakness. He was so used to spending his life in a tiny room with only me for company until someone came into his room to do something horrible to him that he became terrified of everyone. Even when we eventually came home he spent most of his time crying, and if anyone approached him smiling, he would automatically assume they were going to cause him pain, as that is just what the doctors and nurses used to do before they hurt him.

His gross motor skills were like that of a 6 month old and he wouldn’t utter a sound except to cry. Though he had started using Makaton sign language with me. Two muscle biopsies showed nothing conclusive but an EMG showed myopathy, so he was given the loose diagnosis of congenital myopathy.

Dominic got used to life at home, albeit still with huge anxieties when not with me or his siblings. Unfortunately any progress was lost last year when a portion of his bowel kinked which ended up with another long stay in hospital, a lot of pain and a huge operation to recover from.

Since his discharge our focus has been on trying to undo some of the damage that his condition and hospital has done to his confidence. With as much love and laughter as possible, I’ve slowly managed to pull this scared little boy out of his shell and to everyone’s amazement he started to talk, and laugh and play. Six months later I have a little boy with a wicked since of humour, despite the constant stomach pains, the dependence he has on me for all his care, and the medical regime that he endures to try and keep him at home.

He still gets very anxious outside our home but I hope he’s slowly learning that the world isn’t such a scary place.

Update 19th January 2015

After a lot of deliberating I think it’s time to let another family benefit from Post Pals. The children are that bit older and Dominic spends less time in hospital than he used to and Post Pals used to make such a difference to all the children that I want another family to experience it too. I never want the children to get the the point where they take other people’s kindness and generosity for granted. All of our regular writers are like old friends that we talk about as though we know them and we will be very sad to say goodbye, but happy that another family can find out the true kindness of strangers.

I cannot thank everyone that has ever written to us or sent us things enough. You are doing such a special thing and it has made a hugely positive difference to our lives at some of our darkest moments. I owe so much to Viks and all the amazing team that make Post Pals such a success. I feel so very sad saying goodbye, but know how lucky I am that it’s for all the right reasons. I wish you all happiness and health and thank you once again for making my children smile when there seemed to be so little for them to smile about.

Update 29th August 2014

In so many ways Dominic is doing wonderfully, so it is such a shame that the abdominal pain has come back with a vengeance and it now dominates a large part of his life. We know that he has a recurring abscess that keeps forming on an old operation scar, but aren’t sure why, and in the last month he has been in almost constant pain. He still manages to smile however, and we’re doing our best to just keep marching on with life. Getting away this summer was not without incident, but we managed it, which was just what we needed after what has been a pretty horrendous year so far. None of us were sad to leave our building site of a house behind (it’s been a building site for nearly 2 years thanks to cowboy builders doing the disabled adaptations).

In other news Elliot is moving on to Secondary school, and would like to thank everyone for all their lovely post, but he feels that he is taking away from younger children who need it more. However he would still be delighted to receive any books that anyone has read and thinks he would like (he reads well above his age), or science magazines etc that people that have finished with. He has a lot of challenges ahead which we are mindful of. In the last year we have found out so much about him that explains a lot of his difficulties over the past few years. Elliot has now been diagnosed with Asperger’s, ADHD, dyspraxia, chronic tic disorder and an underlying neuromuscular condition. I am immensely lucky that he is such a bright, sweet and caring boy though, and has made us all so immensely proud with how remarkably well he has coped with this complicated, confusing world that so many of us without any additional extras often struggle to interpret.

Lilia is still my unassuming flower in the middle of the two complicated boys. As always she is loving, affectionate and cheerful despite it all, but might need some extra big smiles through the post when Dominic goes back into hospital in the second week of September. She misses her mummy the most and finds it extraordinarily difficult.

As always thank you to everyone who sends post. We are shamefully bad at being able to reply to people individually, but please don’t think it’s because we’re not grateful. Once we know what ward Dominic is being admitted to we will let Post Pals know. The post arriving in hospital is his highlight of the day, and the joy it brings is infectious.

Update 1st May 2014

With the exception of a reoccurring abscess and continuing abdominal pain, Dominic has had a good run of health recently. This has meant that he can go to school regularly and has started settling back down again after his recent run of admissions.

Elliot has had a more difficult time. I can’t remember if I mentioned that he has had an Asperger’s diagnosis. That along with his age can be a very difficult combination. As always, Lilia puts up with being in the middle of them both with (relative) good humour.

Thank you for the letters this month and a special thank you to our regular writers. We love hearing from you all.

Update 28th January 2014

We had a really rubbish end of year with Dominic. Lots of things started going wrong and it seemed that with every week that he was in hospital we got another piece of bad news. It didn’t help that new teams started getting involved who lacked the courtesy to consult me before making decisions or actually talk to Dominic. I made the decision before Christmas that staying in hospital was no longer in his best interests and we left.

It meant that we got to spend Christmas at home and even though it was a bit of a blur it was so, so nice to be all together. Nothing could have prepared us for the amazing cards and presents that arrived throughout December for all the children though. We saved the Christmas presents and the children opened them on Christmas morning to squeals of delight. The cards stretched around the room as well.

It was obviously quite a stressful time coming home from hospital after another long stretch, and the cards, letters and parcels arriving from all over the world forced me to stop feeling sad and brought us warmth and happiness from so many different people. Thank you so much to everyone who took the time to write and send some Christmas spirit. Thank you especially to those people who remember Elliot and Lilia.

Unfortunately Dominic is going back into Great Ormond Street on Monday, it’s a prospect neither of us are looking forward to as you can imagine.

Update 12th November 2013

Dominic is now home and not expected to be admitted to the hospital again.

Update 13th November 2013

I am very sad to say that Dominic is still in hospital (Squirrel Ward in Great Ormond Street Hospital). It must be about 9 weeks now. At the moment we seem to be finding problem after problem which means I’m starting to feel a bit panicky. When it was just the large gastric losses that he gets after every surgery I was fine, but now he has problems with his bones and his blood sugar is really unstable. I have to watch him like a hawk and it has completely restricted what I can do as I can’t leave him at all (unless I can get someone to watch him for me). This means that Lilia and Elliot are rarely getting to see me and my home plan is out the window. We’re trying a tiny amount of growth hormone to try and help stabilise the blood sugar and help his bones, but it’s important that we don’t make him grow in the process as his muscle tone is so poor that he is highly likely to get scoliosis. To be able to do that we have to get funding though, and apparently the area that I live is so renowned for turning people down that the hospital won’t start him on it until it has been approved. He is getting less and less stable though, so today I begged. Fingers crossed.

Dominic had a lovely flurry of cards and letters for his birthday which really delighted him and we decorated the whole room with them, so thank you everyone for sending them. He hasn’t really received anything since though and I know would love to hear from you if you have a second. Equally, Lilia and Elliot are probably suffering the most at the moment, having been so amazingly strong I know Lilia now is really feeling down about it all. She smiles and says she’s fine, but sends me messages on her iPod that tell me a whole other story. If you think you can cheer her or Elliot up, I would be eternally grateful. Thanks as always.

Update 28th September 2013

What a roller coaster few months it has been. I had huge ambitions this summer, to finally get the children on a plane. They had been begging for the last few years and I just didn’t think the stress of going through security and taking all the medical equipment would be worth it, but having watched a few other families succeed with far more complicated children than mine, I bit the bullet this year and booked to go to Italy. Rather sadly, Italy was chosen as it’s his surgeon’s homeland, so there would be no language barrier if he had to have emergency surgery. As it turns out, a week before we were due to go his surgeon decided on the spot that he needed surgery, as soon as possible. I guess you just don’t notice how bad things have got when you’re dealing with it every day. We did still go away and it was the best decision, not only because Dominic was in so much pain while we were away that both he and I were certain that the surgery was the only option by the time we came back and secondly because a few days after we got back Dominic had another large bowel operation and I have seen very little of my lovely family since.

The operation cut out all the bowel that had previously been fashioned into a feeding tube (roux en-y jejunostomy). It was redone and then a new stoma was made. There were no guarantees that the pain that has haunted him since his 8 month stay in 2010-2011 would be cured by this, so everyone’s fingers were just crossed. This stay did not start well at all, the epidural failed so Dominic woke up in absolute agony and it took them hours to control the pain (every time they gave him morphine his breathing would slow right down so they would stop and then he would be in agony). On top of this, they forgot to put a catheter in while he was asleep. They then tried while he was awake with a tube that was too big. There was lots of blood and I have never seen Dominic so scared in my life and he was screaming in agony. I thought he would be traumatised for life, but a week or so later, now everything has healed, he has relaxed a little bit.

The surgery, in itself, went very well. The recovery is… well… slow. Dominic has his stomach on free drainage all the time, and at the moment they are managing to feed him 900mls into his bowel and he is losing over 800mls out of his stomach. I guess we shouldn’t be surprised that last night I got the disappointing news that the feed was going to be turned right down again as he’s obviously not ready. Frustratingly they have isolated him as well based on stool samples taken in 2011, so we are stuck in the room, and now he is going back on three machines again, we can’t even leave the room to go for a walk outside. I hope we are out of here soon, or I might just go mad.

So we will spend Dominic’s birthday trapped in his room in hospital. I have done everything to try and make it as special as possible, but it just isn’t the same. He has convinced the doctors and nurses to sing him happy birthday though, so come Monday we’ll find out how good they are at singing!

Elliot and Lilia are coping ok. Elliot’s behaviour has been very difficult recently, but with me not there, there is not much anyone can do but firefight until the present situation is resolved.

And finally to finish on a positive note, so far the surgery seems to have worked, there has been none of the awful pain he was having since. Long may it continue!

Thank you for all the post, I’m trying to post pictures on FB as often as possible to show people what a huge difference it make.

Update 5th June 2013

Dominic has been very up and down. There have been huge positives, like seeing how happy he was when his power wheelchair had the speed turned up, but worrying developments too. It seems like he is unhappy, really unhappy at school. Now I wouldn’t believe it for a second if I based it only on the smiling face I see whenever I’m in, but the tears, not wanting to go, not talking about any children in his class and some of the things he’s been saying (like people only like him because he’s in a wheelchair) have got me worried. Everyone wants to do the very best for him, but none of us feel equipped to know where to start.

And on the flip side of the coin Elliot has thrown us a curved ball. He was referred to Great Ormond Street by our local psychologist who thought he might have Tourettes syndrome. He ticks, but not really badly, but it was his behaviour that triggered her concern. The specialist Tourettes clinic think he has Aspergers however. Having just watched the latest Star Trek film which has a scene where spock is being over literal in his responses and proves so frustrating he is told to leave the room, both Roger and I turned to each other and said “Elliot”, because it was an exact replay of the sort of scene that would happen at home. I’ll write more about it on the blog, but for the time being we’re just waiting for the autism department to see him.

Thankfully Lilia seems alright… bit moody, but generally still her same happy self.

Thank goodness for Post Pals… keeps us sane! We’ve had some especially lovely letters, and thank you so, so much to the people who have written such kind things to me after reading the blog. I treasure them all. The children are sent some wonderful things too, in fact Lilia is taking a beautiful nature book she received into school tomorrow, she’s bookmarked all the pages she wants to show her class. And Bertie, your letter is sat right next to me. I feel honoured that your first ever letter was written to Dominic, he’s not very keen on writing, so it has sat waiting for me to find a minute to reply on his behalf. Apologies that it is taking me so long.

Update 1st April 2013

Life seems to have gone from hectic to just stupidly busy at the moment, but in a good way. Dominic is managing to go to school most days and is doing well. I’ve noticed a big change in him since he’s transitioned over to a power chair during his school day. He sits much better (as it’s a fully supportive seat) and doesn’t use up nearly as much energy. He’s a master at moving it, and the first time he came over to me when I arrived to pick him up I nearly cried. Most kids run up to their parents and the parents think nothing of it, but normally Dominic just stays put, so it was a very special moment.

Unfortunately the power chair is stuck at school as the house stiiiiiiilllllllllll hasn’t been adapted. Five years worth of bureaucracy and I’m utterly, completely fed up. It really hits home how restrictive it is when you see him moving around independently. He should have that at home as well. I have been told that all the paperwork bits are pretty much done now, but I’m not holding my breath. The other issue is the car. I drive a big car anyway to fit his manual chair in, but I would need a van to get the power chair in. Vans cost a ridiculous amount of money, so for the time being, the chair is staying in school and I’ll continue to lift him everywhere else!

Health wise he is doing ok, this coming month my focus is going to be on Elliot who is going up to GOSH for a lot of testing. I’m not sure how quickly I’ll hear anything or even if it will change anything, but it could well explain a few things. Sorry to be so mysterious!

Thanks, as always, for the amazing letters and cards and gifts that keep arriving. The kids have been making a concerted effort to write back, so I hope a few of you have received something. Apologies if you haven’t, it doesn’t mean that we are any less grateful. Just a little mention for a lovely 7 year old boy called Sam… Sam, your letter was passed around to everyone. We all adored it, probably because it was so wonderfully honest about what really matters when you’re 7. Dominic, although only 6 (and a half) totally agreed with your sentiments about brothers.

Update 29th January 2013

The last few months have been pretty tough for Dominic, although thankfully I’m starting to get used to the way that the abdominal pains affect him and have resigned myself to the fact that when things are really bad, the very best thing for him is to have as much pain relief as is safe and to rest and sleep. He had his MRI, and because of the unusual area of bowel that they saw when they reviewed the pictures he then went for an ultrasound. The significance of the ultrasound, it seems, was that the unusual area was no longer there. As always with Dominic there are no absolutes, so when we went to see the surgeons we were presented with two options, major surgery or doing nothing. I chose doing nothing as there are no guarantees that the surgery will prevent the same happening again down the line, and it seems like too much of a risk. I have been plagued since that appointment with both sadness and guilt, especially when the pain is bad, that I have chosen this for him. Thankfully Dominic is far wiser than I am, and sees the pain as a mere inconvenience in his otherwise happy life.

The post that we have received has, undoubtedly, been the highlight of the children’s day. We have been making an effort to reply to people, but do forgive us if we don’t always manage it. I was delighted to be able to track down one of the people who sent us things on twitter so we could say thank you, she (Kay) in turn told me about her penguin amnesty for Post Pals http://brinkofbedlam.co.uk/2012/06/12/im-having-a-penguin-amnesty/ and I have to say I was moved beyond words that people would make such an effort for children that they had never met. So thank you, once again, for reminding me that no matter how terrible things can seem, there are always smiles to be found.

Update 5th November 2012

Things have been hectic in our house recently. This time of year we celebrate not one, not two, but three birthdays, so I am now the proud mother of a 6 year old, an 8 year old and a 10 year old, eek! Dominic wasn’t really well enough to do much on his actual birthday (see my blog for a photo-video of some of the surprises he did get) but he did manage to go to the cinema to see Madagascar 3 with a friend from school as a ‘party’ of sorts a full month after his actual birthday. He is of course now mad on Madagascar as he enjoyed the film so much. Lilia had her party on Halloween, so the house was filled with little witches and I took them all trick or treating, which was wet, but good fun. A big thumbs up for all the Halloween project bits we received which took pride of place at Lilia’s party. Dominic joined in too (dressed as a vampire, so not too much make up was required as he is generally ghostly white anyway) and loved asking ‘trick or treat?’ even though he’s not currently allowed to taste any food at all. Elliot sensibly escaped to a boys party for the night.

Dominic has had a short respite from the horrible abdominal pains he’s been having, although, unfortunately they have recently returned. He’ll be having an MRI of his abdomen next week, and although I don’t think anyone is expecting to find the cause that easily, this is Dominic after all! He’ll have to be extraordinarily brave as they are going to do it awake with no sedative (it’s the safest option for him) and it’s going to be a long procedure (over an hour without being able to move even a tiny bit). Can’t say I’m looking forward to that appointment!

He also has lots of other appointments coming up, and hopefully I’ll get some help finding a way to seat him more comfortably (his bum is so skinny at the moment he’s getting sore just from sitting on the sofa and has to be on memory foam at all times) and getting him having tastes of food again.

Thanks, as always, to everyone who takes the time to contact us, especially those who sent birthday cards and presents to the children and made them feel really special. Extra special thanks go to Leona and Kati Koskinen for managing to make everyone feel thought of.

Update 28th September 2012

After having had a really positive first year in school, unfortunately in the months leading up to the summer holidays Dominic noticeably deteriorated. He started having crippling abdominal pain and slowly our lives started becoming dictated by his health again. We had various visits to the surgeons over the months and I tried everything to avoid Dominic having to have yet more abdominal surgery, however as the school year came to an end we were pretty much trapped in the house, as moving Dominic anywhere caused him so much pain. The surgeon and I agreed that holding off was no longer the right thing to do and we cut our holiday short and took him to Great Ormond street for exploratory surgery. They found a big loop of bowel that was stuck to both sides of his abdomen which fit all his symptoms. They took it down and repaired the bowel and everyone was exceedingly hopeful about the future. The gastro team had taken the opportunity to take a look at his large bowel while he was under anaesthetic. Unfortunately they found that it was inflamed and it explained some of the bleeding that he’d had. As a result all the tastes of food that he loved (with an obsession that would put any food lover to shame) have had to stop. Dominic obsessed about the times in the day that he was allowed to lick a lolly and this is a hugely upsetting thing to happen. He has been amazing about it though, only crying once at the thought of people eating his birthday cake when he couldn’t even taste it.

He remains philosophical about it all with wisdom well beyond his (almost 6) years and I’m in awe of his coping skills. Unfortunately, it’s not just the not eating that he’s currently coping with…

It very quickly became apparent that there was still something wrong a few days after the surgery. He started looking very unwell and screaming in pain. A week or so later with no one knowing what to do and no sign of improvement, I made the decision to bring him home, hoping that time and the distraction of family life would help. As things stand he is spending a lot of his life on the sofa, under a blanket. His pain is intermittent and helped a lot by the strong painkillers he came home with. I’m trying to get him into school as often as possible and home schooling him when he’s just not well enough. Both of us are exhausted as he is generally very unsettled during the night, but he is undoubtedly better in his own house rather than living on a ward for months while they try and figure out what to do next.

We are currently waiting for an MRI to give the doctors more of a clue about what is going on and trying to focus on his birthday on Sunday. We’re not sure yet if he’ll manage to do anything for his birthday as he might not be up to it, but it will be an Avengers themed day, and we’ll try our best to bring the party to him if he can’t go out anywhere.

All the post that we have received has undoubtedly carried us through the difficult last few months. Lilia has produced some beautiful pictures and crafts thanks to some of the lovely activities that have been sent, Elliot has done some gross magic tricks for us thanks to a gift and Dominic has been delighted by the fabulous postcards and gifts that arrive. Elliot and Lilia appreciate the letters addressed to them so much, even if they don’t always manage to write back, the anticipation and delight when the post comes lifts the mood for the rest of the day.

It’s a busy birthday month coming up with Dominic’s birthday at the end of September and Elliot’s and then Lilia’s in October. I’ll do everything I can to try and make sure their birthdays and (hopefully) birthday parties are unaffected by current circumstances. Thank you in advance to everyone who takes the time to send birthday cards.

Just as a little aside, with Halloween coming up especially, please, please don’t send Dominic any food related things, he’s being so brave about it, I’d hate to see him disappointed however wonderful the intention. Also Elliot and Lilia are both vegetarian and so all sweets with gelatine in they can’t eat (for example chewy sweets like Haribo anything with marshmallows in it etc). Lilia wants to have her party on Halloween, so this year we’re trying to make it extra fun. She is going to be a gothic bride, Elliot is going to be a ghostly escaped convict and with Dominic I thought we’d put his deathly pallor to good use and dress him up as a vampire.

Once life gives me a chance I hope to go back to updating my blog regularly, so if you enjoy following what we’re up to come and say hello, I love hearing from post pals friends.

Thank you once again from all of us, to all of you wonderful people out there.

Update 8th April 2012

Thank goodness for school holidays! All the children have been exhausted so the Easter break has been much anticipated, although we’re all disappointed that the weather didn’t hold out. For the first time, and only thanks to a friend of mine, I have managed to find an Easter activity that Dominic can join in too. He and Elliot and Lilia joined an inclusive theatre group for the morning which was fabulous (even if I had to stay to do all of Dominic’s medical care).

Talking of medical care, Dominic has been back in hospital briefly for testing, although after being starved and stabbed they didn’t have enough nurses to complete the test (he would have had to have a one to one nurse to be safe while they were completing it), so we’ll be going back in again next month which is a pain. Other than that we have a very important appointment coming up where we’ll be finding out some important test results. I post regularly on my blog with pictures and videos of the children so do stop by and say hello.

We have been getting some fabulous letters and the children (even my writing phobic oldest) have been replying to a few of them when they are able. Thank you as always for taking the time to make them smile.

Update 27th March 2012

It has been a while since I updated the actual Post Pals site rather than just the blog, for which I apologise.

All the children are doing well in their own ways. There have been a lot of appointments for all three of them, and I hope you’ll forgive my reticence in going into any more details for now until we actually know what is going on.

Dominic has amazed everyone with how well he is doing in school, and has caught up with his peers with everything except writing which is still difficult for him because of the weakness in his hands. He even managed to complete the sport relief mile with his class in his power chair. It took him a long time, but his class cheered him round which was testament to how accepted he is.

He’s been unwell recently and is going into Great Ormond Street briefly again in a couple of days. Life is undeniably exhausting for him, but he copes amazingly. I’m trying to give Elliot and Lilia as normal a life as possible, but trying to juggle everything is interesting to say the least. We are still waiting for the house adaptations to go ahead (goodness knows how many years it’s been now), but we are at least at the point of having a builder picked out. At the moment Dominic is pretty much stuck in one room unless I carry him, so both he, and my poor shoulder, are hoping that it might happen this year (although I was promised it would be finished by last Christmas at the very latest, so I’m not holding my breath).

We still haven’t managed to sort out any suitable supportive chair for the long days at school, and so the general consensus is that he should be in a power chair rather than a manual wheelchair at school. This seems like a huge backwards step and it’s taking me a long time to come to terms with it, but everyone is worried about his spine so I guess it’s unavoidable.

That’s it for now. Sorry about the patchy and slightly vague update, I will post fully when I know, and have come to terms with, whatever is going on with all three of them.

Thanks for the lovely letters and gifts that continue to arrive for the children. I hope you have been catching my thank yous on Post Pals Facebook page, which is where I generally post them.

Update 2nd November 2011

Huge thanks to everyone who has continued to send post despite my prolonged silence. The lack of communication has, in some ways, been for wonderful reasons. This summer is the first one that Dominic and I have managed to not be in hospital, so we made good use of it and went away with everyone first to a children’s music festival, and then to France for a week. Our trip to France was more wonderful than I could have imagined and I think of it very fondly. I couldn’t get any reception on my phone when I was there, which meant no one was hassling us and we actually got to be a family, just us, enjoying each other’s company.

It was fabulous for all the children of course, such a novelty doing things that regular families do. It took a ridiculous amount of planning and packing, but it was so worth it, and gave Dominic, especially, a real sense of family and security before he embarked on a huge milestone for all of us… starting school! He’s at the same school as Elliot and Lilia who are so proud to be seen with him in the playground. At the moment he’s a bit of a celebrity and is causing disruption every assembly when everyone wants to say goodbye to him when they’re meant to be lined up quietly, but I’m sure he’ll become a regular school boy soon enough. At first he found it very difficult to cope with the attention, but thanks to the weeks and weeks of preparation before school broke up for the summer, he seems to have settled in far better than anyone thought possible and, despite his protests otherwise, is actually really enjoying himself. He’s really, really exhausted by the end of the week which causes a few blips in his ability to cope with things, but, with the exception of hospital visits and illness, he is managing full days 5 days a week, which is testament to what a superstar he is. I recently started leaving him with his one-to-ones at the school, which again he, and they, are coping with very well.

I of course miss him like crazy, but I’m so busy that the day flies and I haven’t even made a dent in the towering pile of papers that have been put on hold for so long. In many ways things have been wonderful and the children have been more settled and happy than they have been for a long time.

Health wise Dominic has been relatively stable. I can do most things that he needs at home, so we have avoided hospital as far as possible. He has been having some pains in his legs which have been difficult to cope with as we have no idea what is causing it, and his same stomach problems persist, made worse by the school bugs that are of course flying around.

However, there have been a few reasons for my prolonged absence, so forgive me if I fall silent again, I don’t intend to, but sometimes hiding away is just the only way to stay sane.

Also, and this is rather harder to talk about as I’m still trying to work out what it means for us as a family, Lilia has been diagnosed with the same condition as Dominic… whatever that condition is. It obviously means that we have no idea of the implications at the moment; we just know that she has the same problems as he does with his muscles, they are just milder. They are currently getting Elliot referred to the same neuromuscular team. This could be devastating or relatively insignificant, no one really knows, but it does make the lack of a diagnosis slightly harder to bear.

Thank you to everyone who continues to write, especially Leona who writes regularly to Lilia and is much talked about and loved within our family despite our never having met. The arrival of the letters is such an anticipated event, and brings so much happiness. I know Elliot would appreciate some post of his own if anyone knows any good jokes, interesting (but appropriate) websites or fascinating facts. We keep every letter, and really appreciate all the thought and work that goes into them. There are some amazingly talented card makers out there! Thank you all for still thinking of us.

Update 29th June 2011

Dominic, in many ways, has amazed us all. He’s been going to Nursery pretty regularly and is learning to trust the staff. Trusting adults is a difficult one for Dominic still, he’s had the rug pulled a few times when people come into his life, then, for reasons only known to them, decide to remove themselves from it. It chips away at any feeling of security that we’ve gained since his discharge, and has a knock on effect on his pica which is so dangerous I have to be so, so careful not to leave him unsupervised.

He missed all of the other Nursery rites of passage such as the Nativity play, so I’m going to do everything that I can to make sure he makes it to the sports day. Having a slightly funky body doesn’t stop him being just as competitive as the other children, so I hope his one to one wears her running shoes as he wants the wheelchair crossing the line first. At least it will be the waggling happy feet that actually cross the line before anything, which is as good as running feet really.

Medically he’s been about as stable as I can manage. I’ve only had a few heart stopping moments this month, so it counts as a good month in our household. The hotter weather is starting to take its toll though and I’m going to have to watch him very carefully. Energy wise he’s really struggling. Nursery is hard work and he has very little left at the end of the day, and I don’t think the heat will help that much.

We have had yet more diagnoses added recently, with problems with his hips and bones being identified. I’ll find out more about that at the end of the month when we see the orthopaedic surgeon (yet another consultant added to our long list) for the first time.

We’re also going to Oxford to see the Congenital Myasthenia experts. We know that there is something wrong with Dominic’s neuromuscular junction (the bit between the nerves and the muscles) but he doesn’t fit the classic myasthenic types, so the team are going to give him the once over to see if they are willing to give him a CMS diagnosis, but with an unknown gene fault. It’s a very new and emerging field so I’m really interested to hear what they have to say.

Elliot is doing fantastically. His teacher said he’s been like a completely different child since I got home, he concentrating more, finishing his work and excelling in all his tests. Most notably they score the children’s views of themselves and their own abilities in the school as part of their assessment process. When I was in hospital with Dominic he pretty much said he was rubbish at everything. He gave the answers of a very unhappy child with very low self esteem, and this child top set for everything. He was recently reassessed, and finally talked about himself in a more positive light, even identifying strengths that he saw in himself. I’ve never been prouder.

Lilia is still her happy go lucky self, although a really defiant streak seems to have reared its head since I’ve been in hospital. I guess it’s that defiance that has been what has brought her through it all so well adjusted though, and with an emotional intelligence that belies her young age. She is having some worrying issues of her own that have prompted me to see medical advice. Lilia will be seen by Dominic’s neuromuscular consultant to properly investigate, so watch this space.

And to finish on a really positive note, we finally got planning permission to adapt the house so Dominic can have a downstairs bedroom and access the rest of the downstairs. At the moment he is unable to use the wheelchair in the house so he is confined to wherever he is put down, which must be hugely frustrating for him. He’s very patient with me when I say ‘in a minute’ for the hundredth time though. It’s been years and years of fighting to get to this point, so I’m happy, to the point of tearfulness, that the fight is almost over.

And to all our Post Pals family, thank you. You are part of our every day conversations, our regular writers are like welcoming old friends into our house to share little snippets of their lives or just to say hello, and we always love hearing from someone new.

We had the great privilege of meeting some of the people behind the computers at the Post Pals party recently. Lots of thanks and love to you all as well, you help make our lives immeasurably happier.

We received some brilliant letters and cards this month that Dominic had me read out to him, including some from a school in Switzerland. They were very much appreciated, especially the tremendous drawing of batman. The circus themed gifts were such good fun as well, so very generous and very well thought out. The kids had a lot of fun opening them and it’s kept them busy, which I’m thankful for!

Update 15th May 2011

Thank you from Elliot, Lilia and Dominic, for the lovely Easter goodies. They were utterly delighted. And some of the cards that we’ve received recently are amazing, so beautifully made. Thank you all.

Update 6th April 2011

Well March finally brought us what we had stopped believing would ever happen over the 8 long months that we were in hospital… Dominic was discharged and we finally came home.

It is unfortunate though that bed management got in the way of a proper discharge, despite months of begging to ensure that it didn’t happen, and then once we got home and the problems started arising, the lines of communication slammed shut, despite promises that they wouldn’t. So all in all his first few weeks at home have been unnecessarily frustrating, stressful and upsetting. I have somehow managed to keep him well hydrated; thank goodness his body is tolerating the haphazard approach to his medical care that I am having to fit into being a Mummy to three again. He is in a lot of pain though and it makes me so tearfully frustrated that not only was I forced into coming up with a solution to get him home with very little help, we then got caught up in hospital politics which destroyed both Dominic’s and my trust in anyone and have left us pretty much alone as the community team won’t do anything without the specialists say-so.

Thank goodness the community nurses are doing everything within their power to help and so I get the blood and urine results the day that they are taken and then attempt to get someone to listen if there seems to be a problem. At least it’s a good guess that people are reading the emails I’ve sent even if they are not replying as I’ve something that I’ve flagged up as a problem told to me on the phone a couple of days later by a different person.

To try and be slightly more positive, I have started taking Dominic to Nursery to try and get him used to a ‘normal’ life. He is doing his very best, but pain and anxiety get the better of him a lot of the time. It is so good to be home though, for both of us, and I’ve certainly settled in so much faster than I thought I would.

Elliot and Lilia don’t seem to have suffered too badly from having me back (we occasionally get homework done before its due in) and the doggies are content to have someone to potter around after in the afternoons. All our frustrations with the lack of medical care aside, life on the outside is immeasurably better than it ever was stuck in a room for 8 months and I’ve started to feel vaguely human, even if I do still feel strangely disconnected from my ‘former’ life.

Thankfully for us breakable adults, children are remarkably resilient, and I’m holding onto the fact that I have seen glimmers of the old Dominic seeping through, so hopefully, pain aside, the same cocky, smart, eccentric little boy will win out and the damage done will become a bad memory.

Thanks as always to the people who continue to think of us and write the most wonderful letters and make the most beautiful cards.

Update 17th January 2011

I’m very sorry for taking so long to update everyone on Dominic. Things have been difficult over the last couple of months and I am emotionally and physically exhausted.

Dominic, unfortunately, is still in hospital. We got to spend a miserable Christmas day at the mercy of the hospital canteen as he was having antibiotics for a central line infection which prevented us from escaping, which kind of set the tone for the start of the New Year. The good news is that he is well in himself for the most part; the bad news is that there is no talk of home yet. He is still losing too much fluid from his stomach (which isn’t working very well) to stay hydrated without IVs.

We have also fallen prey to the unstoppable machine that is hospital management. As a result life has become considerably more difficult and may have long lasting consequences for us when we do eventually get home. Obviously I can’t go into details, but I am trying to summon the energy for a fight that may involve starting a complex complaint process. It’s the last thing we need, especially as the decisions management have made are directly affecting his day to day care.

On a happier note, we were overwhelmed with the generosity of all the people who contacted us over Christmas. Thank you so much to everyone who took the time to write and send things and I’m so sorry to not be thanking everyone personally. Post Pals is a well known name on Dominic’s hospital ward now, as the staff love to see his arms and legs waggling as the post arrives. It really breaks up the day for us as he gets so excited. Elliot and Lilia open their post on the phone to me in the evening, and even though they don’t waggle quite as much, they are still so excited to see who it is from.

Hopefully there will be a happier update soon.

Update 7th November 2010

Dominic will be having yet another operation. At the moment it is looking like it will be this coming Tuesday. It’s going to be a very big and complex bowel operation and the resulting recovery time is likely to extend our stay even longer (probably through Christmas and into the New Year). The whole ward is also about to move for renovations so we will be stuck with no playroom and nowhere to store toys. Dominic is also not allowed into the activity centre so will be confined to his room. It’s obviously going to be a very, very difficult few months for everyone and any smiles will be enormously appreciated.

Update 30th October 2010

I’m very sad to say that Dominic and I are still in hospital and all plans to be home for Elliot and Lilia’s birthdays had to be abandoned as he got a line infection and his levels of pain are increasing.

We did manage to celebrate both birthdays in style though. For Elliot, with the help of all painkillers available to us, we managed to take them all to the London Eye and then to the Hard Rock Cafe before flying back to the hospital. Elliot’s day had a memorable end with a visit from London Fire Brigade after the sparklers on his cake set off the hospital’s smoke detectors. They were good humoured enough to let him have his photo taken with them, and the nurses were of course delighted to welcome them onto the ward.

Lilia’s one wish for her birthday was to have me home. Despite the consultant scaring the heebie jeebies out of me about how ill he thought Dominic was, I managed to force my legs to take me out of the hospital and onto the train. So I left Dominic in very good hands and went home for the night. Lilia didn’t sleep *at all* she was so excited to have me home. I managed to get the children off school for the day and after lots of present opening came and continued the party at the hospital with Dominic.

As for when we get to go home for good, it’s a very difficult question to answer. At the moment they are proposing another procedure (endoscopy and colonoscopy) and then probably another operation. I am terrified this won’t work as they still don’t know what is going on and why he is in such a lot of pain so often.

As always the kindness of strangers has made an unbearable situation more bearable. So many smiles have come through the post. I apologise enormously for not having replied to people, things have been rather difficult of late and I have spent little time doing anything other than focusing on the children. I really wish I could capture the joy they have when something arrives for them. Thank you, thank you, thank you… the nurses are so taken with how happy it makes Dominic that a few of them are signing up groups that they run, so the smiles will be passed on.

Update 4th October 2010

It has been a very, very difficult month, with Dominic missing the start of nursery and then starting to get excruciating pain, which he had to endure for 3 weeks until he eventually went on the emergency operating list just before his 4th birthday. When they operated they found a part of his bowel that they thought was twisting and sewed it in place. Unfortunately he has continued to be unwell, with us only seeing glimpses of my happy, foot waggling boy in-between the tired, grumpy, sweaty boy that has replaced him. He is also still getting the pains intermittently. Currently the feeds that he normally has in his jejunum have been stopped as he was losing too much bile and artificial feeding has been started (TPN). He was unwell and unhappy for a lot of his birthday despite our best efforts, so we will try again when he (eventually) gets home.

Each and every letter and card and gift have been cherished during the 11 or so weeks since we’ve been in hospital. Sometimes they really are the only time he is truly happy all day, and for that I thank each and every person who has taken the time to get in touch.

It is Elliot and Lilia’s birthdays in a couple of weeks and I would be enormously grateful for any smiles that can be sent their way.

An enormous list of thank you’s, as always. Julia and Roger, thank you for the Mr Happy card, very cheery; Isaac, Dominic had no idea it was a cricket bat (he thought it was a paddle for a boat) but I explained all about cricket and he’s better informed now! Dottie Dalmatian thank you so much for your brilliant letters and of course for sending Indy to us. Donna thank you for the great bracelets; Anne Calico the pig postcard was great fun thanks for thinking of us and Dominic adores the Buzz blanket and is sleeping with it every evening; Vicky Shepherd, once again thank you for the Toy Story things and the card which were very gratefully received; Kaden thanks for the great card. Babuka Aliex thank you for the get well soon card; Sarah Gilligan, we loved the rose postcard and really enjoyed the letter and thank you card; Rachel and Adam, once again thank you for thinking of us, the meercat card is up on the wall and the Toy Story drawing pad and card were wonderful. Sheelagh Hawkins, we all love the doorbells, the nurses think it’s especially funny as Dominic insists that they have to ring it to come into his room. Whoever sent the Sing along Mickey CD, thank you, the play specialist had a great time revisiting her childhood with it! Alison, thank you for the postcards; Ruby your handmade birthday card was beautiful, thank you. Jack, Dominic loves the Toy Story phone and stickers and phones Mr Tumble on it all the time! Georgina, thanks so much for the bubbles, playing cards and art set, and of course for the card. Maggie, thanks once again for sending us things from Oz; Kate Dee, thank you for the beautiful card you made him, he saw the boy in the bear suit and said ‘that’s me!’. Sophie P the Duplo was a wonderful gift to receive and he’s spent hours playing with it; Karen Isabell thank you for the pencil case and bag, both are being put to very good use and of course the art case and the Woody keyring, which of course he loves. Maggie (and Damson) thank you for the pirate card and of course the photo of Damson. Kate Thompson and family, thanks for everything, including the heart from Kitty and the book. Kate Ware, loved the elephant book, it got a big thumbs up from Dominic. Mandie, Lilia was so thrilled with her Hannah Montana things, and Elliot with his Ben 10 book, thank you. Naomi the Cars colouring book was great; I’ve never seen anything like it before. Jenny Rust thank you for the sticker book and animals and Carol Moore he loved the sticker scenes; Margret Nagy thanks for all the children’s cards. Wendy thanks for his teddy birthday card and letter; Nicky Pitman thank you for the great hammer picture maker, the spiderman stickers and Belle’s lovely rainbow. Leona thank you for Dominic’s Buzz blaster birthday present, which of course he loves. Ian, Nikki, Lennon and Isla, thank you for Dominic’s card, Toy Story characters and of course the lollipops! Penny Berrill thank you for the reusable stickers and your lovely letter. Becci, Mackenzie and Blake, thanks for thinking of Dominic as always and for the Toy Story bits. Mandie, the paper was amazing, and he loved the card, flannel and puzzle, I was very impressed with your Disney writing. Wiggly bags, thank you so much for the great bags for his line. Hayley (in case you’re reading this), thank you for the lovely t shirt and for frequently cheering him up when everything I have tried has failed. And of course Viks for the giggly toy, beautiful handmade card and most amazing huge birthday card which we have managed to stick on the wall with all the others (and of course for Post Pals).

If I have missed anyone I do apologise, sometimes it is hard to keep track of what the children are opening at home.

Update 25th September 2010

The surgery got cancelled at the last minute yesterday as a critically ill baby needed the theatre slot. He’s on the list for Monday unless he deteriorates more this weekend. Monday is going to be another very long day waiting to find out when he’s going down.

Update 23rd September 2010

Dominic is on the emergency surgical list for tomorrow afternoon. It’s another big operation to try and correct what they think is an intermittently twisting bowel which is excruciatingly painful for him. He’s already been in GOSH for nearly 10 weeks and it is likely to extend his stay even further. Added to this, it is his 4th birthday in a week and Elliot and Lilia’s mid October. They could all do with as much cheering up as possible. It’s come as a real blow to everyone.

Update 24th August 2010

So, Dominic has turned this into a bit of a hospital marathon, and we are really all scratching our heads. The issue is simply that he can’t stay hydrated. He’s had a new feeding tube placed in his bowel but it’s making bile pour out of his stomach. So much so we can’t get enough feed into him to stop him getting really dry so we’re stuck in hospital. No one has had any bright ideas yet and time doesn’t seem to be helping, so at the moment there is no end in sight. Things have been very difficult and seem more so now as it seems like we really have run out of ideas. Dominic is due to start his new school in a couple of weeks and so much preparation has been done to make sure he can start with everyone else. At the moment that’s looking increasingly unlikely. It’s not been helped by the ward deciding to put an infection status on Dominic, not because he has one, but because he had one at the beginning of 2009 and their protocol states that it cannot be removed until he has no ‘indwelling’ devices. Unfortunately his feeding tubes are precisely that and they are long term, so the play room and activity centre are now out of bounds which makes for incredibly long days with a little boy that doesn’t understand and two very bored siblings. Elliot and Lilia have really been struggling. They’ve been spending long days on the ward with very little sleep which has taken its toll on all of us. I wish I could organize some distractions for them, but it’s just so difficult as finding someone to take them so early in the morning until so late at night is so difficult and so much to ask someone else to do. Elliot has been waking up sobbing in the night apparently, and Lilia just clings to me and cries when it’s time to go. It breaks my heart.

Thank you so much to everyone writing to us. We do try and send thank you’s when we get addresses to write back to. Apologies if we miss anyone out, each and every gift, letter and card is very much appreciated.

So many people to thank and apologies to anyone I have missed… Becky thank you for the cards and the lovely hand drawn pictures. To Leona – Lilia loves your letters, if you let us have your address we’ll write back. To Rachel, thanks for your letter to Lilia. Karen thanks for the brilliant Buzz keyring and the letter. Ellie thanks for the colouring books and Elliot’s book. Alison – Dominic loved the tissues and the colouring book. Jane, thanks for the colouring book with Darth Vader in! Craig thanks for the card and pictures. Natalie, Cerys, Kaitlyn and Shannon, I wish we had your address so we could have written a thank you letter, especially for the chocolate! Sarah – you’re a star, such generosity, everything was perfect and there were squeals of delight. Rachel and Adam, your hand made Dominic laugh out loud and thanks for the flying fairies and dinosaurs, we flew them up and down the corridors. Anne, your paintings are just so beautiful and are hanging in our art gallery wall in his hospital room. Amethyst and Breeze, cool light sabre thanks, he’s given it to his pig toy to fight with at the moment. Rex the dinosaur – thanks for writing on behalf of the gang. Thank you to whoever sent the Toy Story sign for Dominic’s bed. Penny, many thanks for the pig, the jumper is proving popular for putting mini toys up so piggy can pull them out to scare the doctors. Lennon, thanks for the brilliant masks and the soft Buzz. He’s currently sitting next to Woody wearing sunglasses. Teresa, thank you for Lilia’s card and the sponge painting set. Becci, Mackenzie and Blake, thanks for the activity books and sweets. Finally, Viks, thanks for Elliot’s Dr Who ship.

Update 30th July 2010

Dominic’s operation went ahead as planned on 19th July. It’s been a long haul but I’ve finally got to the point where I’m not sitting by his bed worrying about what he’s going to challenge the doctors with next and I can start thinking about possibly taking him home sometime soon. As always, we are struggling to get his body to accept being fed, and so as predicted the kids lost out on going on the holiday that we had all been so excited about for so long. I also got to spend the fourth year in a row celebrating my birthday in GOSH, fun! He’s regressed hugely in his gross motor skills and is struggling to sit which is concerning, but I’m delighted that he is not retreating completely into his shell (well not in hospital as the nurses and doctors know to talk to him about Star Wars), but he has just hidden behind my hand on the two occasions we’ve been able to leave his room.

He’s also undergoing lots of tests while he is here to try get to the bottom of what is going on in his little body. And it is a little body – he’s the size of a one year old – which turns out to be due to the fact that he doesn’t produce enough growth hormone. So we’re probably adding in a nasty injection to his ever growing list of medications. Not looking forward to having to give that one.

Dominic has received some truly lovely post whilst he’s been in hospital and we’ve tried to reply to everyone who has included an address or email. Apologies if we’ve failed, but sometimes in all the excitement addresses might get lost, or the kids will open them when I’m not there. But thank you to everyone who has made Dominic, Elliot and Lilia smile when they are really struggling to find things to smile about.

Update 9th July 2010

Dominic’s big bowel operation has been brought right forwards. He’s now having it on 19th July. It probably means missing our mini holiday to Camp Bestival (he’s a big Mr Tumble fan and was desperate to see him and it’s all he’s talked about for months). It’s come as a real shock. I haven’t even attempted to break the news to his brother and sister who will fall apart too.

Update 8th July 2010

June has been a difficult month for Dominic. His health has been stable enough, despite a bout of chicken pox and his jejunal feeding tube coming out (which causes great panic around here as he has blood sugar problems so it means a mad dash to hospital). He has, however, had a lot of stays in hospital as the doctors try to understand what it is that isn’t working properly in Dominic’s body. His anxiety levels have risen with each stay and he is now terrified about the next one which is happening next week. Elliot and Lilia have been picking up on this anxiety and have been worrying in their own quiet ways as well. Hospitals mean losing mummy and worrying about their little brother and it puts a lot of strain on them.

Dominic doesn’t cope with change very well and his world has been thrown into turmoil by the loss of his beloved one to one carer at pre-school. Unfortunately, the pre-school didn’t manage the situation at all well, despite having months and months to prepare for it and Dominic is a shadow of the boy he was. He’s tearful and clingy and won’t speak to or look at anyone except those closest to him. It will take a long time to rebuild his confidence as his safe secure world has been turned upside down with no forewarning or preparation. Currently, I can’t even start rebuilding his security with all the hospital stays unsettling him.

He is also facing a big bowel operation. Some problems were found when his feeding tube was being replaced. It’s a very daunting prospect as his bowel doesn’t recover well from operations and there is always the risk that it wouldn’t recover at all. We’re awaiting a consultation with his surgeons and will go from there.

On a more positive note, his new manual wheelchair has arrived and is a huge success. The wheelchair service couldn’t offer anything suitable so I self funded a lightweight chair. It was worth every penny. For the last 4 years he has been completely reliant on adults to help him move. Now, suddenly he wants to be mobile. He’s learnt to change a Wii game and to come and find me to see what I’m doing. It takes my breath away every time I turn around and he’s there… it’s been a long time coming and I’m enormously proud of him.

A big thank you to everyone who has sent things. We have received some wonderfully thoughtful gifts and some brilliant letters and cards. I wish you could all see how excited he gets when it arrives. There is lots of arm flapping and leg waggling in anticipation going on! Enormous thanks to everyone who has sent things to Dominic. He’s going through a very difficult time at the moment and is very sad and anxious so every time something arrives it really is the highlight of his day.

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Alan S

17 March 2011

Story written 2008

Alan was born by C-Section and weighed in at a very healthy 9lbs 15 oz. When Alan was 18 months he was admitted to hospital with a very high temperature and sore ears. The Doctors ran some tests and we got a call two weeks later to go in and see them. We were told Alan had Cystic Fibrosis and it shook our world.

They then started him on antibiotics, vitamins and Creon for him to absorb the goodness in his food, and they taught us how to do physio to keep his lungs clear. Alan has required a few operations; he suffered twice from a rectal prolapse which required surgery. He also began to require IV antibiotics every 3 months; his veins were not good so they decided to insert a port which made things a lot easier for him. He was also started on DNAse to thin the mucus in his lungs so he is able to cough it up more easily. Alan also requires nebulised antibiotics to keep him well.

Alan requires a lot of care and has to endure a lot in his life with all the medicine and being in hospital, but he is a really upbeat little guy who tries to take things in his stride.

Update 13th September 2023

Alan is now 21 and will be moving on from Post Pals. A huge thank you to all of our volunteers who have supported Alan and his family over the past 14 years. Please join us in wishing Alan and his family all the best for the future.

 

Update 26th March 2021

Alan has been shielding what seems like forever! Hopefully we will can go out at some point. We have moved house which was really stressful for us all but we are happy now we are in. Alan is still having issues with his stomach and is lactose intolerant now. It’s on going. He has had his first dose of the Covid vaccine, he was ill for 24hrs then it settled. His lung function has improved a bit since he started on the new cf medicine. He often feels down with being stuck in due to Covid and every day feels the same. We have been baking and cooking to try and do different things with him. 

Update 12th September 2020

Alan has been shielding since March, so it’s been very isolating. His health hasn’t been as good as he’s not able to exercise, so it’s taken a toll on his lungs. He had been in hospital twice for IV’s which has been very stressful for us all as we are not allowed in with him. A lot of tears were shed, mostly by me.  

Update 31st July 2020

Alan has been shielding since March and it’s been a very stressful time. He has had 2 lung infections which meant he needed to be admitted for IVs and with the coronavirus we weren’t able to be with him, that was very difficult for us both. Not being able to get out to exercise has been bad for his lungs, we have been working hard at home to keep them moving. His lung function has declined but we are working hard to try to improve it. Thank you so much to everyone who has sent Alan mail and gifts, they have been a lifesaver of late. Even though shielding is being paused in Scotland we are very anxious about going out. It’s very strange times. 

Update 9th August 2019

We had a lovely holiday in July, it was well needed and we all enjoyed it. Alan managed to do really well in his exams so we are really pleased for him. He is being admitted to hospital on Monday 12th, he needs IVs as his health has gone down hill. As well as the aspergillus he has grown another bad bug called pseudomonas so they need to try and get it under control. He’s quite upset he needs to go in. The last year has been an almighty hard time for him not just physically but coping with it all mentally. He had a CT scan that has shown lots of damage to his lungs so he knows this is needed. His lung function is down too. 

Big thanks to everyone who has sent Alan cards, postcards and gifts, all very much appreciated by us all. 

Update 15th June 2019

Alan has been pretty unwell, he has aspergillosis in his lungs which are causing him real issues. He’s continued to lose weight and he can’t afford to as he’s so thin. He had a CT scan which shows his lungs are in poor condition with the mould growing in his lungs, so he has been put on an anti fungal medication for at least two years. He also needs his bloods checked every two weeks, which is really stressful for him.

One of the boys that go to clinic with Alan has passed away. He was only 16 and Alan and I have really struggled with this news.

Alan has taken all his exams now and we are hoping he has done ok, but I do know he tried his best so it’s all I ask of him. He’s now moved into 6 year, his last year at school.

We are going on holiday next week to try and relax.

Thanks so much to everyone who had send a card and a gift to Alan, it means so much to us, it really brightens his life. Times have been tough lately and it seems to be never ending but I’m trying to stay positive. 

Update 10th February 2019

Alan’s health has not been good in the last few months. In November he was admitted with DIOS which is Distal Intestinal Obstruction Syndrome. It causes him to be blocked all the way to his tummy with poo. He was really unwell and admitted as an emergency due to fear of it bursting. He then needed to go to the big hospital to get a midline put in as his veins were so bad, the last IVs only lasted a week and they wanted to give him another course, that went in on the 2nd attempt and lasted the two weeks. He was admitted on Christmas Eve as an emergency again with DIOS this time much worse than the first. He was really unwell and I was so scared. His IVs didn’t help at all. His bloods showed he has Allergic Bronchopulmonary Aspergillosis (ABPA), a fungus that is growing in his lungs, that he has taken an allergic reaction to, so he needs to have steroids and antifungal meds to treat it. The antifungal meds have affected his eyes, he says things are so bright or really dark. He’s trying to cope with it all but it’s been a lot on his body. His lung function is no better, so he’s to have a CT scan so they can get a good look at what’s going on. His spine is also causing him problems, we are waiting to see an orthopaedic specialist for that.

Firstly I’d like to say thank you so much for all the Christmas gifts Alan received. It was so appreciated, even more so with being in hospital.

If the Vaughan family see this could they please drop me a email or a message on Facebook please, they were one of Alan’s elves.

To Hilary for her continued support, I’m so grateful to her. To Kirsty and family also, thank you for all your letters and gifts, Alan loves reading about the children. Denise, thanks for your gifts and support you give to me, dropping a message on Facebook to see how things are really means a lot to me. To everyone who has taken the time to write to him, send him a gift or postcard, a million thanks, it’s been so welcomed at this time more than ever, to know people care about him makes him so happy. We are praying for better days to come as this year hasn’t started too well, but what we are lucky in is the love and support we receive from all of you at Post Pals and all who support it, so thank you each and every one of you.

Update 1st November 2018

Alan has had a awful few months, he’s currently having 2 weeks of IVs. His lung function has dropped by 30% in the last month and he’s lost a stone in weight. He also is having a problem with his spine because he’s lost so much weight we think. But he’s been referred to orthopaedic. He’s just not himself, he’s pale, sad and tired all the time. His veins are really bad so the lines only last a few days which really distresses him. 

Massive thanks to everyone who takes the time to write, email and send gifts we thank everyone of you. 

Update 2nd June 2018

We have had a strange few months. Firstly, we found out Alan’s surgery on his brain was not successful and he will require more surgery. We are seeing the neurosurgeon on Monday, so we hopefully will know more. He’s been having pains in his spine and legs and that will need addressing. Alan had a scan for his annual review. Alan’s scan shows he has CF-related liver disease. His liver and spleen are enlarged so he now has to go onto urso acid. His weight has fallen another 3kg, so he has been put on milkshakes to help with his weight.  His stomach issues are getting addressed with a specialist in Glasgow.  We met with him and they are doing further investigations and we had to hand in stool samples to see if that shows anything. His lungs looks good. Wee Al is shocked with the news, as are we. He looks so well, it just shows you never know what’s going on, on the inside.

We are going to Florida on the 18th June and we are hoping a break will do us all good, as it’s been a very stressful few months for us all. Alan has also sat his exams with all this going on, so we are hoping he’s done ok.

Huge thanks to everyone who writes and sends post to Alan, it is so appreciated by us all xx.

Update 15th March 2018

Alan and I were at Yorkhill on Thursday for further tests as he was having pain in his spine. The operation he had on his brain last June didn’t help the syrinx in his spine, so they were scanning and X-raying him to check for scoliosis as this is something that can happen with the malformation. They also checked to make sure his spinal column was not frayed or partly severed which thankfully they weren’t. He does has some inflammation on his spine so he has to take anti-inflammatory’s for a month to see if that helps. He will need surgery again at some point but not in the next 6 months unless something happens. So I am counting my blessings tonight. Not exactly what we hoped for but at least surgery is not immanent. He’s going to see the Physio a week on Wednesday for a muscular skeletal assessment as his joints as well as the pain in his spine have been giving him pain,

Update 4th January 2018

Firstly we would like to wish everyone a happy new year and hope you all had a lovely peaceful Christmas. Alan has had a stable month apart from his stomach. He has been having real problems with it. We have hospital on the 9th so hopefully we will get some answers. It’s also the start of his annual review so he gets his bloods taken then too. They will arrange for a bone scan and tummy scan and X-ray to be done. We see the big hospital in March. We also see the neurosurgeon this month, so we will see what that brings. Alan is also having issues with food and his weight. He has lost 4kg in the last month which is a lot for him. We are trying really hard to encourage him with food and trying to choose healthy options to make thing easier for him, although healthy options is not ideal as he doesn’t absorb the fat from his food. He also had his prelims at the end of January, a lot to cope with this month so please keep him in your thoughts.

I would like to thank everyone who took the time to send a card, postcard or gift not only at Christmas but all year, it really means the world to us. He was very much thought of at Christmas and received many many cards from all over the world. To Hilary and Kirsty who send every month to him, he talks about you as if you’re his friend who lives down the road, so thank you for taking the time to do what you do. To Alan’s elves thanks for all the lovely gifts he received – so kind of you.

Post Pals is a bright light in the darkness through all the hard times we have, so to Vikki and the team and all the lovely people who send cards and gifts to Alan, we thank you from the bottom of our hearts. We don’t know what 2018 will bring but we do know the cards that Alan receives will brighten his day.

Update 1st October 2017

Alan required surgery on his brain in June. The op took 6 hours, but he was away from us for 10 hours. It was a very scary and worrying time. He was in intensive care and it was really hard seeing him like that. The operation went well and they think it’s been a success, but we will know when he has a MRI in January. He has recovered really well and it now back at school. He can’t do all the things he used to yet as he needs 6 months recovery time. In terms of CF, it seems he just got over one thing and is hit with another. He was at clinic with problems with his stomach, it’s been really bad with him going to the toilet about 9 times a day. The consultant thinks it’s IBS but he has to go for an endoscopy for them to have a look. He will go to Glasgow hospital for that. They will put him to sleep and have a look. His lung function was down a bit, but he’s not exercising because of his head, so it’s a bit of a vicious circle right now. Alan is also in 4th year now, so it’s exam year for him, we are doing all we can to try to keep him well, so he doesn’t have to take time off school. It’s stressful for him, especially with his tummy being bad. On an up note Alan’s diabetes is really well controlled at the moment, so he’s had no hypos for a few weeks.

Alan celebrated his 15th birthday last week, he had a great day.

Huge thanks to all the support we have had over the last few months from everyone who has sent cards and gifts, means the world to us.

 

Update 1st May 2017

Alan has not had the best month, in fact since January it’s been really hard going for him. He has been suffering really bad headaches and we can’t get them under control. We had a neurosurgeon appointment on Friday where they have put Alan on the emergency list to go in and have an operation on his brain so they can check his brain pressure this week. He’s, as always, taken it in his stride, but his dad and I are really worried. He also has had a problem with his bowels. They took a stool sample to check that his creon were working properly, the results came back that they are working fine so he’s being referred to a gastroenterologist for them to do further investigations. They have taken bloods to check for coeliac disease but the results aren’t back yet. He’s coping with so much all at once, on top of all his CF and diabetes.
Thank you to everyone who sent Alan a card or gift, we really appreciate it. We wonder how we would get through without you. When he’s having a bad day and a card comes through his face lights up.

Update 5th March 2017

Alan has not had a good start to the year, and it’s not picked up. He is suffering terribly with headaches and bowel problems. He just isn’t getting a break. The headaches he has is connected to the chari 1 malformation he has , they have organised a MRI for the 18th. It can’t come soon enough. They have given him codeine for the pain in his head which is causing him constipation, so that then gives him bowel issues. They are not good at the best of time. So this is a added pressure for him. They have him on 3 meds to try and ease the pain in his tummy. I feel at the end of my tether actually, as I feel we are on our own with it all. The hospital have been no help when we need it, as the nurse is off sick and you can’t get a hold of anyone when you need them. I feel so sad for Alan as he is coping with so much. We have his annual review results on the 14th, so I’m really hoping we get some answers to his problems. Alan never complains about anything, but the headaches are really causing him problems.

I would like to thank everyone who had sent a card, gift or email they are really appreciated. Special thanks to Hilary and to Kirsty, Callan and Olivia.

Update 28th January 2017

Alan has been not been doing so good lately. He’s had an infection in his throat that has made him feel horrible. He was in Italy with the school when he was taken ill, he was ill for 4 days over there and it was one of the worst times ever for both of us. Glad to have him home. He’s going through all the tests for his annual review at the moment. Lots of appointments. We are seeing the neurosurgeon in a few weeks with regards to Alan’s operation, so it’s a stressful time. Alan tries to remain upbeat. We are having real issues with food at the moment. Alan lost half a stone in a week when he was in Italy, so we are trying hard to stop him losing any more.
We had a lovely Christmas, it was really quiet, but nice. Thanks to everyone who took the time to send Alan a card, gift or postcard all of them were and are really appreciated and you don’t know how much happiness it brings when Alan is having a rough day, which is a lot of the time lately.
On a positive note Alan played at Ayrshire schools badminton competition today and was runner up in the boys under 16’s and mixed doubles. Can’t tell you what an achievement that is for him and we are soooo proud of him and all the hard work he puts in with all the challenges he faces. Not a easy thing to do but he gives it his all.

Update 12th October 2016

Alan has had a terrible time, he’s had a blockage in his bowel. He’s now on 3 new meds on top of everything else. He’s not had a break lately.

Update 2nd October 2016

We missed out on Chessington as Alan has a bug so we were really sad about that and so was he. He’s really struggling with his diabetes as well at the moment with lots of hypos which is not nice at all for him. He celebrated his 14th birthday in September, he asked for a turntable to play vinyl records on, what a treat it’s been being able to listen to them again. He really loves it. We were at the lung lab on Friday to see if his lung function is up, unfortunately it’s down a little, but we’re hoping the meds help it really soon. He gets so frustrated not being himself and extra hospital appointments and being in hospital is not what or where he wants to be.
Thanks to everyone who took the time to send Alan cards and gifts throughout the month especially for his birthday it is really appreciated by all of us.

Update 8th August 2016

Alan has had an up and down month. We have been on holiday to Cuba, where Alan suffered a perforated eardrum. Very painful for him indeed. His chest has been up and down, a course of antibiotics are needed to see if it can help, if not then he will need IVs for 2 weeks. He has been training with a football team to try and keep his lung function up and they have asked him to sign for the team. Not sure if he will play many or any games but it’s been a dream of his since he was 5. I’m so proud of him! He makes my heart burst with pride. We are also attending the psychologist with Alan as he has huge issues with food. Not wanting to eat, worrying about being fat, not being like his friends. It’s really tough.
Thank you to everyone who has sent Alan post and gifts, he is so cheery when he receives them. Hilary you’re a star! Thanks so much for Alan’s project, he was so pleased.

Update 5th June 2016

Alan is currently fighting another bug. We haven’t had a break lately, it’s one after another. He is having a different antibiotic to see if it will make a difference. He is also being started on a sodium supplement because he sweats so much. He is also struggling with food, he worries so much about eating healthy even though it’s not ideal for him. He is constantly worried about his weight.

We have been at our caravan at Fort William for some rest and relaxation, it’s so peaceful up there, we played dominoes and totally chilled. Alan moves into third year tomorrow, a big change for him and a very important year in preparation for his exams.

A huge thanks to everyone who sent Alan a card. Thanks also to his monthly project from Callan, Olivia and Lennon the dog. Alan loved his parcel, his socks were amazing! He loves writing, so the note pad is perfect and the sweets are his fav.

Update 2nd April 2016

Alan had his annual review results from the big hospital in Glasgow. His lung function is still up and down. They haven’t made any changes to his medicines this year, although it’s thought his inhalers will need to be tweaked. His diabetes control is very good and they are really happy with his blood sugar results. Now he is almost 14, they have started to discuss puberty and fertility in men with cystic fibrosis. It’s very difficult for him to take all that news in.
He plays badminton as some of you may know. He played in the Ayrshire boys under 14’s which he managed to win. Words can’t express how delighted and happy we were for him. He’s also going away on a school history trip, to see world war sites in France and Belgium at the end of the month. He’s looking forward to it. He’s on holiday from school now, so we will go to our caravan for a few days, hopefully the weather will be good, and we will get out and about. Relaxing does sound brilliant though.

A huge thanks to everyone who has taken the time to send cards or a gift to Alan. You are all amazing!

Update 3rd January 2016

Alan has had a stable month, but yet again he grew a bug. It seems the winter is never- ending antibiotics to try and clear them up. We were in Tenerife for a week for some sunshine, which was lovely and it really helped Alan. He leaves tomorrow (Monday 4th) to go to Italy skiing with the school. He’s really excited. January is our annual review month, so when he returns from Italy, we have the hospital the next day. His bloods will be taken, X-rays and scans arranged to see how his lungs are holding up, and to see if there are any changes. It’s a worrying time. Alan is now 13 and he is aware that this is what it’s all for, this is why post pals is so important to us. He loves to receive mail and it helps keep him happy and not to focus on the worrying things.

Update 2nd December 2015

Alan has had a good month. He has a bug at present, but an antibiotic is helping for now. His lung function is down a little, but hoping when the antibiotics kick in, his function will improve. We had a parent’s night last week. I was so proud of him. He is doing amazing, the teachers are really pleased with his work. They said he is a very mature boy who helps everyone in the class. He is thoughtful and kind. My heart was bursting with pride that everyone sees what I already know. He deals with so much, but thinks of others all the time. He’s an amazing young man! He is really looking forward to Christmas. He is going skiing with the school in January, so I’m hoping his bug clears up and he’s as well as possible. Thank you to everyone who has written to Alan. Huge thanks to Hilary for Alan’s monthly projects she has sent him all year. You are amazing!

Update 1st November 2015

Alan’s lungs have been up and down, he’s grown a few bugs lately, which have been treated with antibiotics. He is having lots of joint pain at present and we are seeing the Physiotherapist to see if she can help. This frustrates Alan as he loves his badminton, but his legs and feet ache after it. We have also seen the neurosurgeon this month and although she is happy with him, if the pains continue, she will see him earlier than planned.

Alan is also going to Italy skiing soon with the school. It’s the first time he will have been away from me, so we are currently trying to organise everything. He goes in January, but things take planning, with all he needs to take with him.

To everyone who has written and sent gifts, a heartfelt thanks to you all. Alan loves receiving mail. Thanks to everyone who has made him smile, especially on the bad days x

Update 26th July 2015

We went on holiday to Cuba for 2 weeks recently and it was amazing. Before we went Alan got a very bad bug that needed really strong treatment and we ended up having to take it with us on holiday. It made his skin very sensitive to sunlight so we had to be extremely careful. We have also had a few days away up at fort William at our caravan and it was really relaxing.

Alan has clinic on Tuesday so we are hopeful the bug has cleared up.

Thank you to everyone who sends cards, postcards and gifts, it is very much appreciated.

Update 30th May 2015

Alan has had a good month. He had clinic last week and things are stable. His lung function was a bit better this month and he’s working really hard at it and doing badminton and horse riding. He had a bone scan yesterday so we need to wait for the results of this. Some of his vitamins were low, especially his vitamin D. So his supplements have been increased. Alan now takes 60 creon tablets a day as well as antibiotics, vitamins and other tablets, to keep him well. Sometimes it’s hard to comprehend taking that amount in one day.

Alan moves in to second year on Monday, I can’t believe a year has gone past already. He’s loving school so that makes a huge difference.

Thanks so much to everyone who has sent a card or gift this month, it means so much to us. To know people care about him is very touching.

Update 12th May 2015

Alan is recovering from having his toe nails removed, it has been 11 weeks now since they were removed, but we are finally seeing a light at the end of the tunnel. He hasn’t complained at all about his feet although I know he has been in pain with them.

He has not been able to play badminton for weeks but he went back on Tuesday and loved being back. His lung function was a little bit down but hopefully him being back to exercise will help improve it.

We have a dexa bone scan on the 28th to see what Alan’s bone density is, just to see if his bones are not thinning with the lack of vitamins and minerals his body absorbs naturally. We have cf clinic today so we are hoping all goes well.

We had a week holiday at our caravan at Easter which was lovely and the weather was fantastic. We are looking forward to our summer holidays.

A huge thank you to everyone who has taken the time to write to Alan this month, we really do appreciate it. Thanks to Hilary for his monthly project as he loves receiving your post. He loved his insect house this month.

Update 1st March 2015

Alan has had an eventful month. We are currently going through all the tests for his annual review which takes weeks. The psychology review always stirs things up we don’t think about every day.

Alan also took part in a competition to play for our county and he played amazingly and qualified to represent Ayrshire. We were mega proud but unfortunately he won’t be able to take part. On Thursday he went in to have surgery to have part of his toe nail removed and when we arrived and they saw his feet it he ended up with both big toe nails removed. He is in a lot of pain at the moment. It takes 6-8 weeks for them to heal. He was pretty gutted after playing so well to qualify then to miss out because of this.

The 10th March is his annual review so we will know the plan for the year after that. It’s a bit of an anxious time until then.

Thanks to everyone who has written or sent a gift to Alan, we really appreciate it. Alan loves it when he has mail and appreciates each bit of mail he receives.

Update 15th November 2014

Alan has had a good few months and his lung function has come up a bit. It’s been hard work for us to get it moving but we will continue to push forward to get it to where we want it. Alan has settled in at academy really well, he’s had lots of awards since he started with commendations from every subject and he got pupil of the month in maths. We had parents night last week and all the teachers say how hard he works and how lovely he is. I knew that but was lovely to hear everyone else thought that too. He got chosen for the basketball team at school which he was soooo happy about, they played their first game on Thursday where they drew 14 each.

We saw the neurosurgeon a few weeks ago for Alan’s neck and spine and she was quite happy with his MRI results, so she is not doing anything at the moment except watching. We will get a review appointment for next year.

Thanks you to everyone who has sent cards and gifts to Alan. Thanks to Kev for his continued support. To Hilary for all his monthly projects and to Denise who was his elf last year andshe messages me on facebook to see how we all are. To Libby for all her love and kindness. To Marjolyn from Holland thanks so much for all the cards you send. We appreciate everything that’s sent to Alan and he loves them all.

Update 2nd August 2014

Alan has had a good month. His lung function is still down but we are working hard on trying to improve it. Alan has finished primary school now and this upset him greatly as the lady who looks after him and his medicines isn’t going to the academy with him. We need to start again with someone new helping him.

Alan had a MRI scan for his chari 1 malformation to see if there is any change and we are currently waiting on an appointment with the neurosurgeon to get the results.

We went on holiday to Fort William for a week this summer which we enjoyed very much. We also went to the commonwealth games to watch the badminton and we had a fantastic day. It was brilliant to soak up the atmosphere.

To everyone who has taken the time to write to Alan and send gifts, we thank you from the bottom of our hearts. We really appreciate your kindness and for making Alan feel special and loved.

Update 30th April 2014

The last few months have been mixed. Alan has had ups and downs. He had an annual review where they decided to move him on to 25,000 strength creon from 10,000 to cut the number of tablets he needs to take with food as he takes 50 a day. It didn’t go well and he lasted 2 weeks. The new tablets gave him a very sore stomach, he was prolapsing all the time, and his bottom was very sore and he was terrified going to the toilet. We had that before and didn’t want to go back. I called the hospital and they decided he was to go back on 10,000 and they would try again in a few years. His vitamin d level is also low so they have given him an extra vitamin d supplement. His lung function is up a little so that’s a positive. Alan also contracted the virus hand, foot and mouth. He was covered in spots even in his throat. He couldn’t eat and it hurt drinking, but within a week he was back to normal although some of the spots on his feet are still sore looking.

On a positive note, Alan has been chosen to play for our county at badminton at Perth on Saturday. I can’t tell you how proud we are of him, who would have thought our baby would push himself and be able to achieve this amazing achievement. Alan continues daily to amaze me, he really is a remarkable boy with nothing stopping him, not cf, diabetes, his chari1 malformation, nothing!

He goes to the high school in August so we are in the transition period at present. I have to say I’m worried about it, a whole new set of challenges for both of us, and it’s the unknown of who will look after his medicine and things, but I guess that will be sorted out.

A huge thanks to everyone who sends mail and gifts to Alan. He loves receiving them and reading all your letters.

Update 28th January 2014

Alan is currently doing ok, although he is on a antibiotic for a mucus cough which has caused his lung function to drop.

He was entered in a badminton competition and managed to get to the final, he did amazingly well. Cf certainly doesn’t stop him trying even if he is exhausted afterwards.

Alan is currently going through lots of tests for his annual review in March. The big hospital come to see us to make a plan for the year so we’re keeping things crossed for good results.

He also came home from school today with star pupil for hard work. We couldn’t ask any more of him, he’s trying so hard. He’s a inspiration to me. He’s hard working, positive, kind, loving and always wants to help others. I’m very proud of him and how he is dealing with things at the moment. All helped by the fact he knows people care about him by writing to him.

To Kev, Maria, Hilary, Denise and Elizabeth, for the gifts they sent Alan at Christmas – we are so grateful and we thank you all so much. Alan was very happy with all the gifts. Thanks to Marty for the letters and to everyone else who sent mail, we thank you so much.

Update 2nd December 2013

Alan has had a stable couple of months, his lung function is still down but we are working hard on trying to keep it up.

He won a trophy tonight at his horse riding for most improved rider and we are so proud of him. He is doing well at school and at parents night they told us how mature he is and managing his medicine very well. He was away at Arran for 5 days with the school, although his dad had to go with him.

Alan is looking forward to Christmas very much, we love this time of year.

Huge thanks to everyone who has sent cards or gifts to Alan and to Kev and Hilary who regularly send to him. To everyone who has taken the time to write to Alan, we all feel blessed and he feels special receiving mail.

Update 28th September 2013

Alan has had a good month. His lung function is up a little and he has grown no bugs. He has grown and lost a little weight too and they want to keep an eye on that.

He had a birthday on the 24th and we went up to fort William as we have a caravan up there. Him and his dad did gorge walking, which is walking up mountains and ravines and using the waterfalls as natural flukes. All very scary for me! But the boys loved it. I was very proud of Alan as it was something I never thought he could do.

He is currently away on an adventure weekend with the diabetic team from the hospital and the other kids. He has never been away from me before and I was really worried but I’ve not heard from him so he will be having way too much fun to think about home.

He also had to write a speech at school to be considered for school house captain and Alan was lucky enough to be chosen by a panel of teachers and pupils to be the house captain, which was another very proud moment for us. He is turning into an independent young man who makes us very proud to be his parents each and every day. He’s my hero and inspiration.

To everyone who sent Alan a birthday card, gift or letter, we thank you. To Kev for all the letters, HUGE box of goodies for Alan’s birthday, for his support to me on Facebook, I thank him from the bottom of my heart. To Hilary for her monthly project and for the graze box for Alan he enjoyed it very much. To everyone who has put a smile on Alan’s face I really appreciate it. We do feel very cared for and loved.

Update 15th August 2013

Alan has had a stable few months, although his lung function is still causing concern, as it’s still low. We are attending the lung lab every month at the moment. We are taking him swimming for exercise and to help with physio. Alan has also had an increase in insulin as his sugar levels were running too high, he now does all his injections which are up to 4 a day now. He also has to take 48 creon a day as well as all his other meds. It’s a lot for him to deal with.

We were at Fort William for our holiday and although he still has all his treatments to do it is a break away and he loves it up there. He goes fishing with his dad and loves relaxing and watching all the little birds. He starts back at school on Monday as Scotland schools go back early. He goes into primary 7 and is looking forward to it. He is very caring and helpful and will be a monitor for the primary 1’s starting.

A huge thanks to everyone who has written to Alan. To Kev, Hilary and Elizabeth who write regularly to him. Kev, a huge thanks for the painting you did for Alan it is amazing and he loves it. He loves receiving mail and hearing everyone’s stories, we are really grateful to everyone who has taken the time to write.

Update 31st May 2013

Alan’s lung function is still causing concern, he is being monitored every 4 weeks at the respiratory lab. He is continuing with his hydrotherapy for his lung function and joints.

He has been playing badminton for a few months now and was in a competition in which he managed to get to the semi final. We were so proud of him. He really pushed himself.

We are seeing the neurosurgeon in July again about his chari 1 malformation and I will update when we find out what they say.

I want to thank everyone who has taken time to write to Alan as he really loves receiving post, it really cheers him up.

Update 11th April 2013

Alan has had a rough few months. He had his port removed in Yorkhill which he has recovered from. He had an annual review with the team and his lung function remains low and it’s the lowest it’s ever been, which is scary. They have started him on hypertonic saline to try and remove the gunk from his lungs, it’s hard for him to tolerate it as it’s very salty. He also has been referred to the hydrotherapy to help with his joints and his lung function, he’s really enjoying it. At the review it was decided that if his lung function doesn’t improve then he will require his port to be replaced which requires another operation. This makes me very upset as I wanted them to replace it when they took the broken one out! It’s very frustrating.

We are just back from a week up north which did us all the world of good as we all needed it. The weather was fab and very sunny which was really nice. Alan also started horse riding to help his lungs – he loves it and it is very rewarding to see him happy.

We want to thank everyone who sent cards and gifts to Alan. We really appreciate it and he loves receiving post, it makes us all smile when he opens them. So thanks to everyone who has taken the time to write.

Update 29th January 2013

Alan has been in hospital having a operation. He was having his port removed as it was blocked and he was very frightened this time and it was horrible to watch. He did very well though and was extremely brave. He has picked up a lung infection and is presently on antibiotics to help.

Alan is also struggling with food at the moment, it’s actually awful! He is not wanting to eat and when he does he wants it to be healthy as he says he doesn’t want to be fat. School have been doing healthy eating and this is the result. With him having cf and diabetes, food is a very important part of his health care and to say it is challenging is a understatement.

We are seeing the specialist hospital in March for Alan’s annual review, his lung function has continued to drop so I am hopeful they will have some sort of plan to help. He also had a scan of his abdomen to check all his organs so we will get the results of them then too.

Post Pals is a godsend at the moment as when Alan recieves mail it really makes him smile, which we are not seeing too much at the moment with the food issues. So thanks to everyone for their continued love and support.

A huge thanks to everyone who has sent Alan a card, letter or gift. Thanks to Hilary who is Alan’s monthly project (he loved the blanket), to Natasha for her cards, to Kim, Maria and Michael, Barbara, and everyone else, we really appreciate your kindness.

Update 29th November 2012

Alan has not been having a very good time, he’s off school with a very bad infection causing him to have a really bad cough and sore chest. He is on a new antibiotic to see if we can get it under control. He has been attending the lung lab to keep an eye on his lung function which in the last 2 months has dropped 20% which is a massive worry to us.

Alan always remains upbeat and really cares about others and he just tries to get on with it, which makes me very proud. He is also going to be an uncle as my eldest daughter, Nicola, is expecting a baby in June, so he’s excited about that.

I’m very lucky as although Alan is 10 he still believes in Santa so he’s very excited about December coming!

Thanks to everyone who has taken the time to write to Alan, is is truly appreciated.

Update 2nd October 2012

Alan has had a birthday this month and he was 10. He had a lovely time and we went up to Fort William for the weekend. He has a bug which has resulted in him needing 2 weeks of antibiotics though.

We are still waiting to hear from hospital about the renewal of his port – we have been waiting months for the appointment. His lung function remains down and they are monitoring it every month to keep a eye on it.

Alan received pupil of the month this month for continuous hard work in maths and we are very proud of him.

Thanks to everyone who sent cards for Alan and to Maria and Michael for the present for his birthday as it was very much appreciated. We do really enjoy receiving cards and letters, they really cheer him up and I am grateful to every one of you.

Update 19th January 2012

We had hospital recently for the start of Alan’s annual review. He had his bloods taken and they arranged for him to go to the lab for a lung function test, to the x-ray department for an x-ray, and scans of his abdomen, liver and portal system, which are happening on the 1st February. He is also going to have 2 weeks of intravenous antibiotics starting on Monday. We are trained to do them at home and although they are very tiring doing them, it means we do not have to stay in hospital. Alan has been off school with a sickness bug and is just not quite himself, so, the IVs will hopefully help make him feel a lot better. I do worry at this time of year when it is Alan’s review time, I am hoping for good news in March when we see the specialist from Glasgow to get the results.

A huge thank you to everyone who sent Christmas cards and gifts to Alan, he loved them. Huge thanks to Sara and Meggie for sending Alan all year, he would love to write back to them to thank them but there is no address on it.

Update 30th September 2011

Alan has had chickenpox very badly. They were in his mouth and down his throat and because he has CF they gave him antiviral medicine but it really did not help. He also had his iv line in whilst he had chicken pox which was challenging for us and the hospital as they had no kids having ivs and chicken pox at the same time! He also has had a infection which required 2 weeks worth of antibiotics which hopefully has cleared it.

He celebrated his 9th birthday last week – he got a mobile phone and he was delighted. I can’t believe he is 9, time has flown. I really struggle at his birthday; I think about each year ticking past and think too much about what if… it’s a bitter sweet time for me. I just try to get through it and Alan receiving cards and gifts from everyone reminds me people care.

Thank you to everyone who has sent Alan a card or gift for his birthday, it’s much appreciated.

Update 5th July 2011

Alan has had a good month. He had a haemophilis bug at the beginning of the month and had 2 weeks of antibiotics and he is due to have two weeks of IVs from the 20th July, so hopefully that will keep him well.

We managed to travel to the Post Pals party this year, it was quite a journey but sooooo worth it. We all had a great day and Alan really loved meeting everyone, it was so lovely to finally meet everyone.

We are taking Alan camping for the weekend for him to try it; he’s been desperate to give it a go. We are going to Inverness as he wants to go to Loch Ness to see if he can see the monster. Keep your fingers crossed the weather stays nice for us!

A huge thanks to everyone who sent Alan cards and gifts. Thank you to Sara and Meggie for the June project, Alan is enjoying playing with them very much.

Over the last few years Post Pals has made our life more bearable. To know people out there care about us means a lot. When Alan is feeling down and a card falls through the door, it makes both his and our day. So to everyone who has and continues to write to Alan, I want you all to know it means the world to us, so a HUGE thank you.

Update 2nd April 2011

Alan is having 2 weeks of ivs at present, which is very tiring for both of us but hopefully will kill the bugs in his lungs. He had an annual review last month and it was decided that he would have ivs every 3 months again this year as his lung x-ray had no changes from last year so it seems to be working.

He is attending the neurosurgeon on the 26th of the month to see what they are doing with his brain and spine, whether it will be a review again or surgery, his legs are really playing up at times. He has been really struggling psychologically at the moment and we are working closely with our team to make things easier for him. He is worrying about everything which she thinks is leading to him seeing shadows, so sleeping is a real problem.

To everyone who has sent cards and gifts to Alan it is so appreciated. With him being so low, he really loves getting them and it is a joy to see his face as he reads them and realises people do care about him. Any card this month would as always be most welcome. Post Pals has made life more bearable and seeing Alan’s face light up is priceless, so a huge heartfelt thanks.

Update 12th January 2011

Alan had a great Christmas and kept well. His chest was clear although he is still having problems with his legs. He got a psp for Christmas which he was delighted with.

We had Alan’s check up on Tuesday and his chest was clear, he had grown and he had put on weight. For the first time in ages he got a glowing report. I am so pleased. Alan is coping really well with the problem with his legs and feet and although he gets sore he is still keen to have a life. He is on codeine for the pain. Alan has had his bloods taken and he has to have an x-ray, an abdomen scan, a lung function test and a walking test before our next hospital appointment. We see the specialist from Glasgow then and they make the years plan for him.

Amy, Alan’s sister, has been nominated for North Ayrshire’s young musician of the year. We are so proud of her.

Thanks to everyone who sent cards to Alan and Amy at Christmas and to Kim and Maria for sending Alan a Christmas gift.

Update 26th October 2010

Alan has had the usual cough this month and he is due IV’s in November so hopefully things won’t get too bad. We went to the Neurologist a few weeks ago to have the results of Alan’s scans. They are satisfied with the way Alan’s neck works so although his ‘blocks’ are out of alignment they are not concerned. He will be seen in 3 months by them. The pains in his legs are no better and they have given him the painkiller codeine for that, which is helping a little. Alan is also managing to do his insulin himself all the time now. He had done it a couple of times when he felt he could, but the day we went to see the surgeon at Glasgow, he asked me if he could do it. Of course I said yes and since then he has done it by himself. I’m so proud of him, we all are, and in fact he is very proud of himself because it was a big obstacle for him to overcome.

We managed to use the tickets we got from Post Pals for Alton Towers we went down for Alan’s birthday. What a fab time we had, so thank you. Alan loves the fast rides, although he was too small for some of them, but he loved the ones he could get on.

Thank you to everyone who sent Alan a birthday gift, sent a letter, or a card. It really does make him smile and brighten his day.

Update 29th August 2010

Alan has been having 2 weeks of IVs and they finish on Monday. The IV’s have made a big difference to him this time; he has a little more energy and is not coughing as much either. We have also been to the hospital to have CT scans on Alan’s neck and they said results would be available next week sometime. He is having very bad pains in his legs and feet so hopefully they will get back to us soon so we can get something to make him feel a little better. He managed to do his insulin himself this month which made us so proud of him.

Alan is also back at school now and likes his new teacher. He loves fishing too and he caught his very first fish all by himself yesterday, it was a rainbow trout and weighed 2.2lbs. He was so proud of himself and his dad was really proud of him for the way he managed it himself, he is turning in to a very independent boy.

To everyone involved with Post Pals, I can’t put into words the difference it makes to our lives. When we are having a bad day, a card will pop through the door and really brighten our day, it makes a huge difference to all of our lives.

Alan was lucky enough to have a dream come true granted to him by the This Morning programme this month. He got to go in a helicopter and drive a tank. We got to stay in a hotel overnight and they came and surprised him in the morning – he had so much fun and to see him so happy was really nice. Alan has had a lot to cope with lately and I’m ever so proud of him and the way he handles things. We know we have lots more obstacles to overcome, but he is actually my hero and makes me very proud to be him mummy.

Huge thanks to everyone who has emailed, written, and sent a gift to Alan and Amy this month, it is so appreciated.

Update 24th August 2010

Alan goes to hospital on Thursday for 2 CT scans. He has managed to do his insulin himself too, we are so proud of him.

Thank you all for making Alan smile with all the post he receives.

Update 4th July 2010

Alan has been struggling with everything this month. He has been having serious pains in his legs and feet, and having headaches too. We are still waiting to see the surgeon at the specialist hospital and every day waiting feels like a month, it is so hard waiting. He is also finding getting used to his insulin difficult – he hates it. We have tears when we have to do the injections and it is awful watching him like that. I’m so hoping he gets used to it. All post will be most welcome as he needs cheering up so much.

His dad and I went fishing for the first time and he loved it. He never caught any fish but is going to try again. We also went to Linlithgow Palace this month, there was a jousting tournament on and we all had a great time. He has also stopped for his summer holidays from school; he is pleased because his legs and feet are really sore in the morning so this gives him time to recover.

Alan got a cup and shield at prize giving at school. He won the citizenship award and his headmaster said he is an inspiration to everyone he meets. He was so pleased to win it and his dad and I were very proud. He is inspirational to us every day.

We have the Diabetic nurse and the eye clinic tomorrow so hopefully the nurse can give us some tips on how to make life a bit easier for Alan.

Thanks to everyone who has sent posty and gifts to Alan. This has been a difficult month, so a huge thank you.

Update 5th June 2010

Firstly I would like to update you on Alan’s surgery. His operation was a success and he slowly recovered from it. Due to him being put to sleep with gas because they could not get a vein in his hand or arm, it irritated his lungs a lot and he had a awful cough. He had 2 weeks worth of IVS to try and keep any bugs at bay and he will have that every 3 months now.

They have also put him on the brown steroid inhaler as a preventer because he has been very wheezy lately.

Now when I updated last month that we were waiting on MRI results, well we got a call a few weeks ago to ask me to go up to hospital as they wanted to talk to me. They told me that they had found fluid at the back of his brain and a mass at the top of his neck that they could not see properly, so they needed to do a scan of Alan’s spine. What a two weeks it was – we had surgery one week and the scan the following, and obviously we were worried out our minds. We went for the scan but they did not say a thing, only that the results would be available in a few days. Alan was so so brave. It took 2 hours to do the scan and he had to lie very still. We waited a week and no news, so last Friday I could not take the wait anymore and I rang the hospital. Our nurse called Yorkhill and they said the results were available but the neurologist had not looked at it, so she was emailing him. Monday was the bank holiday so there was nothing, but on Tuesday the hospital rang to ask if we could go up on Friday the 3rd, so of course we agreed.

We went and the neurologist told us that Alan had a Chiari 1 malformation, with a Syrinx. This means for Alan, that the part that joins his brain and spinal column has a malformation and part of his brain is through the hole, the part that controls his movement. It is so tight that it has caused a syrinx, which is a build up of fluid on his spinal cord. They are referring him to a specialist hospital in Glasgow for him to have surgery on his brain and spinal cord. We are shocked and are very very worried. The headaches he has been having is a sign of this condition, but if they don’t do the operation it could leave Alan paralyzed and we do not want that at all. He already has more than enough to deal with and now all this.

He said to me last night he is sick of hospitals, but there is nothing I can do to stop this. Please keep him in your thoughts and he would really appreciate any cards anyone can send him. I just want to give him a boost and let him know we are all thinking of him.

A huge thank you to everyone who has sent posty to Alan this month, and for all the gifts he has received – huge thanks.

Update 30th April 2010

Alan has been having such a hard time lately, it’s been never ending.

He went up to the specialist hospital and had a CT scan and also an MRI scan but we are still waiting on the results. They are checking his chest because its not as good as it should be, and they also think his sinuses need to be all washed out under anesthetic. They also have discovered that Alan is diabetic – not normal diabetes though – its CF related. This means he needs to have insulin and we have to check his blood sugars before and after every meal. Alan is coping quite well with it, but it’s a lot to get used to.

He is also going in for a operation on the 13th May to have his bowel repaired and I’m really hopeful it will make it easier him. He also has 2 appointments to attend at the eye clinic as he has been having bad headaches and blurry vision; they think it might be because of his blood sugars.

I would like to thank everyone who has sent emails, letters, cards and gifts to Alan this month. He has so enjoyed receiving them all, especially when he has not been so well. We have received lots of email from people from the TV show. To everyone – a HUGE thank you as it has really brightened Alan’s and our lives; there are some really kind people out there.

A huge thank you to Kim Lawerance as she has been so kind and considerate to Alan and has sent him lots of things over the month including a jigsaw in parts of the world with books to match it, so thank you very much. To Jessica, thanks for the cards, and to Valerie, Kate Dee and to Kaden. A huge thanks to Stuart for the pictures and the scarf from the Rangers final, it was so kind of you. Sorry to everyone I have not mentioned, but we really appreciate your support.

Update 21st April 2010

Alan has be diagnosed with CF related Diabetes and now requires insulin every day. He also is having surgery on his bottom on the 13th May and he is struggling a bit.

Update 10th March 2010

Sorry for the late update. Alan had the specialist yesterday from the hospital in Glasgow to review his annual review results and I have to say it came as a huge shock to me and I’m finding it very difficult to come to terms with.

As you all know, every month I’m telling you that Alan has some sort of infection and our own hospital have always thought that it is upper respitory infections and they have given him antibiotics to combat them. However, yesterday the consultant hit us with the bombshell that Alan’s lungs have significant changes since last year and I can hardly believe it. They score them out of 25 for the condition of their lungs and Alan only scored 15. He is only 7 so that is not a good score at all. I’m gutted.

They are also sending him for an mri scan to have a detailed look at his lungs and sinus system. They are putting him to sleep to deep wash all his sinuses to try to prevent infections or to wash out any bugs that are lurking.

He has also been referred to the optromitist as he has been having double vision and headaches and not seeing his work very well. He had his eyes tested and it’s not his eyes so they are investigating that.

He went to see the surgeon last week due to the fact he is having a rectal prolapse almost every time he goes to the toilet, so in the next few weeks the surgeons are going to try to repair it or if necessary remove a bit of his bowel to stop this happening. He suffered from it before and they repaired it, but until they actually have a look they won’t know.

It’s been a very stressful start to the year and I’d like to say to everyone who sends mail and smiles that I am eternally grateful. It really brings smiles to us all knowing people care and take the time to write to us.

Update 10th February 2010

Alan got his line taken out yesterday, his 2 weeks of IV’S are finished and it has made him feel a lot better in himself. He got his results from his glucose tolerance test and his levels are a little high and they have to be monitored for a month to see what the results are. He has also been having rectal prolapses again so the doctor has referred him to the surgeon to repair it again. Last time we saw the surgeon he said that a part of his bowel would need to be taken out so we are just waiting on an appointment to come through.

It seems to be one thing after another for Alan, poor wee soul, but although looking at him I can see in his eyes he gets down, when you ask him he never ever complains. He is a little star and I am so proud of him.

He got a new Star Wars toy yesterday for being so brave – he loves Star Wars at the moment.

Update 26th January 2010

Alan has been ill and is struggling with lots of infections and he is so tired, so we are being admitted tomorrow for 2 weeks worth of IV’S. Hopefully it will make him feel better. They are also testing him for diabetes. We have so much happening and Alan is so sad and down, but Post Pals really cheer him up so thank you.

I will do a proper update soon with thank you’s for Alan’s Christmas post.

Update 3rd December 2009

Sorry for the short update this month, Alan has had a very rough month with infections that we just can’t seem to get rid of at all.

He got his swine flu jag this week too and it has knocked him for six, his arm is really sore and his neck is sore. I will update a proper update next month.

May I take this chance to thank everyone over the year who has taken the time to write to Alan, it really makes his day and it brings such joy to his life, we are blessed to have Post Pals in our lives.

Wishing everyone and their families on Post Pals a very Happy Christmas.

Update 31st October 2009

Alan has had a month of fighting an infection we just can’t seem to shift. He has a cough that would frighten you and its keeping him awake at night and making him feel tired and he has not got much energy. I’m really hoping they are going to get this under control soon as it is hard going for him when he feels this way.

He had a Halloween party yesterday and dressed up as a monkey. He had a really good time.

He is still trying really hard at school and managed to get 9 out of 10 this week for spelling. He also got a certificate for topic work and pencil and bookmark. He also passed his Level A maths and I am really proud of him doing so well and coping with feeling so horrible.

We went to the cinema this month to see Up in 3D. It was really good and I enjoyed it as much as Alan and Amy.

We wish everyone a happy Halloween and we thank Post Pals and everyone who writes to Alan and Amy. We are blessed.

Thank you to everyone who has sent Alan post this month, we really do appreciate it. To Jessica, Helen, Kim, Maria, Sarah, Kate Dee, Sami, Valerie, Margaret from America, and Lucy by email. Thank you all. To Post Pals for the DS game and thank you and for the angels of hope.

Update 1st October 2009

Alan has had a up and down month. He had an infection at the beginning of the month and then just before his birthday he began to feel under the weather and was very sick, but he seemed to pick up. Now he is back to being ill again, he has been coping with an infection but today it has got on top of him. He was feeling a bit yucky this morning but went to his friends and his mum had to bring him home. He was the colour of a ghost, i gave him some calpol and he is tucked up in bed. I hope he will pick up soon, i will ring the hospital in the morning for the doctor to have a look at him.

He has celebrated a birthday, he was 7 and he had a fab day. He got some lovely gifts, he got a dareway which is a battery operated toy you stand on and it moves back and forward – he loves it.

We also have parents’ night tomorrow to see how he is getting on, they are doing their topic on castles and he loves every minute of it.

To everyone who sent Alan a card or a gift for his birthday, thank you all so much, we really appreciate it. To Hayley Thorn, it was so nice to hear from you, to Kate Dee, Fiona, Sami, Tracey, Charlie (if you email Alan your address he has a letter for you). Rachael and Dave (happy birthday to you Rachael), June and David Junko, Rachael, Jenny, Michael and Maria, Helen (thank you for the card and gift), Jessica for the card and gift and for all her support, to Kim Ginger (your present and card was really appreciated and your cards are so cool) and to Valerie, thank you for everything, you are so kind to all of us, to Vikki thank you for the card you sent Alan, they were really nice words.

Update 30th August 2009

Alan has had a up and down month. He has had this haemophillis bug for weeks and can’t shake it. He has had an awful cough and a runny nose for weeks and we are waiting until Monday for a swab to come back. The last one we handed in got lost somewhere so it has been a waiting game for the last 2 weeks.

He also went back to school on the 17th and he has settled in not too badly, just the tablet taking incident, and when he is at school he has real issues with going to the toilet so with the schools help we are working through that. He also has been happy to be back at school with his friends and he really likes his teacher so that is a real bonus.

He is looking forward to his birthday in September; i can hardly believe he is going to be 7. We have the hospital on the15th for a port flush and a check up so hopefully it will go well and i will update next month.

A massive thankyou to everyone who sent Alan posty this month, they really have been a god-send. He has had cards from America and Cuba. To Natalie, Kara and Osmany from Cuba, to the crafty place challenge ladies thank you so much the cards are beautiful, to Kim Ginger, Sarah, Hayley, Kate Dee, Sami, Jessica for her regular post (and love and support – we missed you when you were on holiday), and to Valerie thank you so much for all your mail and gifts you send to the kids and to me, you are a wonderful person and we also missed you very much when you were on holiday.

Update 3rd August 2009

Alan has had a difficult month; he has been fighting a infection that he can’t seem to shift. We are waiting on results from the lab to see what treatment they will do now, as 2 weeks of antibiotics hasn’t seemed to move it.

He has also has been struggling with CF, he has been very tearful and gets really upset saying he wants to be a normal boy and that he doesn’t want to take tablets anymore. This has been heartbreaking and hard to deal with for all of us. The psychologist came out on Tuesday and had a chat with him, explaining why he needs to take tablets and showed him what they do in his tummy. She was brilliant with him. She is taking it slowly so we are seeing her again. He just keeps saying he wants to be normal and that he is not happy having CF. Heartbreaking.

He goes back to school in 2 weeks. We broke up much earlier than the schools down south, so hopefully when he goes back he will get back into the routine of school and the upset will pass. I think some of the children have been asking him about why he needs to take tablets and this is making him feel uncomfortable, so fingers crossed this will not get worse.

Post Pals have been a godsend. I can’t tell you how happy Alan is when he gets cards and this makes him feel special and loved, so to everyone who has taken the time since Alan has been on Post Pals – a huge THANKYOU.

Thanks to everyone who has sent Alan and Amy posty this month. To Valerie for all her love and support, to Jessica for all her cards, to Kim Ginger for her cards, dinosaur book and spy kit and the gift for Amy, to Jackie, and Jenny Clift too. Thank you all ever so much.

Update 30th June 2009

I really did speak too soon last month when I said Alan had a good month! He developed a terrible cough and could not even lift his head off his pillow; it really hit him for six. I rang the hospital and they saw him straight away. After an examination and a throat swab, they thought he had an infection and they would give him a covering antibiotic until his swab came back. It seemed to pick him up and the nurse rang to say he had an infection and not one of the bad bugs, thank goodness. He was to take the antibiotic for 2 weeks and be re swabbed. He is still coughing and is quite breathless at times, although when it’s really warm and humid he gets like that anyway. He seems to be a lot better, although the swab is not clear yet and we are persevering with another 2 weeks of meds.

I am hopeful he will stay the way he is, because on 1st July we are going to Disneyland Paris for a week. We are all so excited and looking forward to it. Alan is very excited about meeting Mickey Mouse! He also stops for his school holidays on Tuesday for 6 weeks and then will go into primary 3. He is looking forward to the summer holidays. We joined Historic Scotland and are visiting castles. We went to Edinburgh castle and had lots of fun and we are hoping to do lots more in the summer holidays.

Every month I am astounded by people’s kindness and love that they send. To Jessica – a huge thank you for all the cards and the keyring you sent Alan, we really appreciate it. To Valerie – thank you for all the cards you send the children, it really brightens their day receiving them. Thank you for the books and pencils and the sweet, they will be well used. The kids look forward to receiving your cards and I would also like to thank you for the beautiful card you sent me too. I really appreciated it and it made me feel special. To Sarah for her cards and to Kim for her cards, they are out of this world, especially the dinosaur one. Thanks to Michael and Maria, to Sami for the card and motorbike, and to Dispina for the card and postcard. Thank you all so much, our days are brightened by you all and i really thank you.

Update 31st May 2009

Alan has had a really good month health wise with no problems for the first time in years – i hope im not tempting fate saying this. He has had a busy month with staying at his aunts for the first time and he really enjoyed it. He was also away on a school trip to the lifeboats and had a great day as they got on the boats and he got to sit in the drivers seat. He also got his report card on Friday and it made my heart burst as he’s doing really well and trying his best and that is all we can ask of him. He is looking forward to his holiday in July and is busy saving his pennies, looking for jobs to do that end up costing me a fortune!

A huge thanks to Jessica for the brilliant balloon she sent Alan. He absolutely loves it and it really made his day receiving it. Thanks also for all her cards and love and support. To Sarah, thanks so much for sending Amy and Alan a gift. To Valerie, thanks for your cards and support. Thank you to Kim Ginger. To the Fullman family, thank you for sending Alan a Doctor Who torch – he takes it to bed with him.

Update 30th April 2009

Alan has had a reasonable month this month. He has been able to go out to play at school since the weather is a bit better. We had parents’ night and Alan got a fantastic report, he has come on so well this year at school and copes remarkably well. Kim sent him a beautiful 3D card for doing so well and he adores it as it’s a 3D dinosaur. We took him to the museum where he saw a dinosaur exhibition and he loved it. We also went to the cinema to see Monsters v Aliens in 3D and it was amazing to watch.

This month i also let Alan stay at his aunts for the first time. Due to his meds i never let anyone else do it, but he was keen to go and had a great time and it meant Alan and i had a bit of time to ourselves. He is staying again next weekend and Alan and i are going away for the weekend because Amy is in London with school.

Alan has hospital in 2 weeks for check up and i will update next month or on my blog.

A huge thanks to everyone who sent Alan and Amy mail this month. To James, Kim, Helen, Maria and Michael, Sami and Aisha for their cards. To Valerie for the Army hat, stickers and cards to both Amy and Alan, to Ria for her letter and picture, to Alaison for her postcard from New Zealand, to Shirley for her cards, and a heartfelt thanks to Jessica for all her letters. To everyone who has taken the time and thought to sent a card or gift, they mean so much to them and they really enjoy receiving them. Amy sends cards to other pals regularly and Alan replies to every letter he receives. Thanks to Post Pals for sending the bear as Alan loves it and sleeps with it every night. Also for the egg – we are busy growing it and although there is nothing to see yet, we are waiting and hoping.

Update 1st April 2009

Alan has had a busy month. Some of his results from his annual review are back so they have adjusted his meds a little – some of his vitamin levels were a bit low so they have upped them a little. He saw the ENT too as his ears are really sore all the time and they are over sensitive. They hope he will grow out of it and I hope so too because the things we take for granted really hurt him and the bell at school leaves him in agony.

He has been really trying at school to get 10 out of 10 in his spelling test and finally he made it. He was so chuffed and we were proud of him (he got his well earned playstation game). Jessica sent him a certificate and he has it on his wall with pride.

Alan and Amy made me breakfast in bed on Mother’s Day and it was lovely. They got me cards, a teddy and chocolates. It was a lovely treat.

We also had sad news as one of our friends died. We all took it hard and Alan finds it difficult to deal with. Although he is only 6, he has lost his papa, gran, and now our friend, in 2 years and words are hard to find to explain this, but we just try our best.

Health wise, Alan is struggling with a bug in his throat but managing as best he can. CF gets me down sometimes.

On a happier note, we are booked to go to Disneyland Paris in July for a week. Alan is so excited and so am I! He has wished for this for so long and now it is happening.

A huge thank you to everyone who wrote to Alan and Amy this month, they really love receiving post. A big thanks to Sarah who sent me a card this month as it really touched me. To Jessica for all her letters and gifts. To Helen for the card and the tapes she sent Alan. To the person who sent the scarves, and to everyone else who wrote letters and cards. Thanks Post Pals for cuddles the bear – Alan has slept with it every night since he got it. To Val for the posters and to Kim for the bunny making kit. A big thank you, it is really appreciated.

Update 1st March 2009

Alan had a bug at the start of February which really made him feel ill but as normal he bounced back and didn’t need to miss too much school as it was half term. I thought i had taken his bug as i felt terrible but it turned out to be shingles which was really nasty and i looked and felt awful. Alan wanted to see Bolt 3D but i wasn’t well enough to take him so his big sister came to the rescue and the two of them went to Frankie and Bennys first for dinner then to the cinema and he had a great time.

He has been at a few birthday parties this month as his cousin was 5 and had a party and his friend from school was 6 and he was at the bowling for his party. He also was out with his friend from school for his dinner and then to the soft play where he had a ball.

We have had workmen in fitting a shower rather than a bath for us to make things easier when Alan’s port is accessed. The occupational therapist helped us get it done and it has made life a bit easier. It means Alan can get a shower in the morning quickly rather than me having to put him in a bath because he sweats so badly and I’m really pleased it is done.

Alan has to go to hospital on Wednesday for his lung function test to finish off his annual review, and then hopefully we will get all the results the following week. He had his liver scan done but they don’t give us the result until they have it all done. I hope it has all gone well. We have ear, nose and throat clinic this month too as Alan’s ears are still not completely right since his operation and they want to check that again. His ears are very very sensitive and a noise we don’t think is loud is very loud to him. When it’s the school bell he stands with his fingers in his ears. We will update you next month on his results.

A huge thank you to everyone who took the time to write to Alan and Amy this month, as always he loves receiving them. A huge thank you to Jessica for all her letters, Shirley for the letter and the card making things you sent to Alan (he has done you a card and i will post it off to you), to Rachel for her card and the stickers she sent, to Kim who sent Alan a card and a bolt magazine (thank you, he loved it), Grace and Linus for the post card, Ria for the lovely letter she sent us, Valerie for the postcard, Kate Dee for the card and to Lu, June and David Junko, Maria and Michael and to everyone else who sent Alan a valentine card, a huge thank you as it made him feel extra loved. He also received a postcard from Samuel in Finland and would like to reply to him as he was so happy receive it, but it had no reply address.

Update 2nd February 2009

Alan has had a up and down month. He had his annual review in January but it’s a bit early to get the results yet. He has had terrible nose bleeds this month which was very scary for both of us as it happened in the morning when he woke up and scared us dreadfully but we coped. Alan is also suffering from a terribly sore throat and a dreadful cough at present and is a bit down in the dumps with it.

Alan had a birthday party this month – he went ice skating for the first time and he really did enjoy it. He’s also working hard at school and on a Friday they are now getting spelling tests. At first he was getting 4 out of 10 but last week he got 8 and he was so pleased with himself that we bought him a toy as a treat for doing so well. He is working towards getting 10 out of 10 and when he does his special treat is a new playstation game – he really wants transformers.

A huge thanks to everyone who sent Alan a card or gift this month. He enjoys receiving them very much. Thanks to Hayley for the pencil case and snow globe from London, he loves it. To Helen for the gifts for Alan and Amy, to Post Pals for the gifts not only for Alan but the yummy chocolates for me too – I really did enjoy them although I shared them so I didn’t feel guilty eating them with all the healthy eating at this time of year. To Jessica for the cards you send every week and the great pictures of London zoo and the postcards. To Shirl, Alan loves your cards and he would like to send you one back if you wouldn’t mind putting an address in please. To Rachel, thank you so much for Alan’s bear card, he loves it. Thanks Sami for the card too. Thank you to Kim Ginger for the Chinese pack of fortune cookies, a book mark, a scroll of the year he was born under, and a pair of chopsticks. He had great fun trying to use them to eat his Chinese meal, so a big thank you for that as he really loved it.

Update 31st December 2008

Alan has had a very busy month. Health wise he is doing ok just now, though he had a port flush in the middle of December, but we don’t need to go back to hospital until 16th January.

We went to see the Wizard of Oz at the Citizens Theatre and Alan got invited to meet the cast. Before Alan was on Post Pals he won a competition in our Scottish national paper – he was awarded the award Our Little Hero and through this got invited to meet the cast. He met Dorothy and the Lion and got to wear the Tin Man’s hat. It was a really lovely afternoon.

We also went to see him in his school show – it was really good and the kids did well. Alan was a bear in the play ‘The little angel’.

During December Alan was so excited waiting for Santa to come. He has been really aware of it all this year and enjoyed the build up to the big day. The letters and gifts from the reindeers really made him feel ever so special and he has them proudly hanging in his bedroom. He got a Rudolph nose and antlers in the Rudolph card and wears them with such pride.

He received lots of cards and gifts from people and your kindness and generosity is much appreciated. It certainly makes him and his big sister feel special.

To Lu, thank you for sending us cards and the letters you sent are really appreciated and very special to us. To June and David Junko, Despina, Kristina, and the Homberg family – these people all sent cards from abroad, so thank you for taking the time to make Alan smile. Thank you to Sarah, Maria, Hayley, Julie, Jessica, Jenny, Helen B, Helen T, Shirley, and Kate D, thank you all for the cards. To the person who sent Alan the letter from Santa – it made his day! He had been asking me about Santa’s good list and when he got the letter he turned to me and said ‘mum i must be on the good list’. It was a very special moment. To Alan and Amy’s elves, thank you very much for their gifts. To Amy’s elf, Jessica, and the person who sent her 4 gifts, thank you so much, she loved everything. To Alan’s elf, Mrs Whittaker, thank you ever so much, Alan loved all his gifts. Also to the person who never put a name on it, thank you. To the Post Pal team, thank you for the gifts. To Grace and Linus, thank you for the book. To Julie Barrett for sending a gift to Alan and Amy. To Jessica, your generosity is really appreciated. Alan looks forward to receiving your cards.

A huge thank you to everyone who has taken the time to send Alan anything right from the time he joined Post Pals. We really do look forward to receiving your post and Alan enjoys replying to them.

Wishing everyone a happy and healthy New Year.

Update 28th November 2008

Alan has had quite a good month and recovered really well from his surgery last month. He is back to his old self and his ears are very much improved so it was all worth it.

He came home last week from school with a certificate for “PUPIL OF THE MONTH” which he got for trying really hard in class and completing all his tasks. I can’t express how proud of him i am, he really has come out his shell since he started at his new school and it is wonderful to see his teachers getting the best out of him.

We have just returned from the pantomime (mother goose) and we all really enjoyed it. We also have a busy weekend ahead as we have Alan’s school Christmas fare tomorrow morning, then Alan has a birthday party in the afternoon, then we are going to see the Wizard of Oz tomorrow night and we’re really looking forward to it.

Alan is having a school concert this year and is playing the middle size bear and his class are singing a song so he has been practicing it and we’re looking forward to see him performing it.

Alan is so excited this year about Christmas and is asking me everyday when the advent calendar starts, so when Monday comes we really are on the count down.

A big thank you to everyone who sent Alan posty this month as it really does light up his day (and ours) knowing that people out there care and think about him. A big thanks to Jessica B, Sami, Karen M, Grace and Linus, Kate Dee, and June Junko and her husband David. Thank you all, it really means a lot to us. Also Thanks to Lu who emails us every week. A big thanks to Jessica for the gift she sent Alan this month, Alan really loved it and had lots of fun building it up with his daddy.

I would like to take the opportunity to thank everyone who has written to Alan and to wish everyone a very merry Christmas. Post Pals have really enriched our lives over the short time Alan has been a pal – we have had lots of different people write to Alan and it is very heartwarming to know people our there really care.

Update 1st November 2008

Alan’s month started off with us finding out that he would require surgery on his ears. It came as a relief in one hand and in the other we were really worried because they had to put him to sleep. His operation took place on the 9th October and it all went according to plan. They removed the gromets from his ears and cleaned his ears all out and he had a week off school and has recovered well from it. While he was off school he has been making model airplanes and painting them with his dad then hanging them from his ceiling in his bedroom and he really enjoys making them. His left ear is still a bit weepy and when we had a hospital appointment on Tuesday they were telling us his left ear is in really poor condition inside and the specialist will see us to see what they can do about it. I just really hope it’s soon. Apart from his ear the hospital is pleased with him as his weight is still the same as last month although he has grown a tiny bit, his lung function this month was really good and they have given us a physio belt for Alan to wear when he is exercising and to say he hates it is a understatement!

We had parents’ night for Alan and the teachers are really delighted with the way he has settled in. His work was really good and his reading has come on since last year. They say that even though he has a lot of medicine to take at school and sometimes he cant get out to play or take gym, he never complains and is a joy to have in the class. I came out feeling really proud of him.

Alan has been really looking forward to Halloween this month and has been really excited on the build up to it. He was at a Halloween party at school and dressed up as a soldier and looked really good. He went out trick or treating with his sister and cousin and enjoyed it.

A huge thank you to everyone who sent Alan cards and gifts this month, they really do cheer him up when he gets post. Thank you to Hayley Thorn, Helen, Julie, Karen (sami), Grace and Linus, Jessica, Maria and Michael and to Post Pals for the Halloween parcels. Alan loved receiving them all and i hope i have not missed anyone as I’m still trying to find a system to remember everyone. Thanks also to Lu who emails us every week to see how we are.

Update 1st October 2008

Alan had a hospital visit today about his ears. They were hoping they were going to clean them out, but no, Alan is going to require surgery to remove the gromits in his ears and relieve the pressure in his ears. The operation has to happen either next week or the week after, we are just waiting on the Doctor’s secretary to get back to us. We are worried but know it is needed to stop the running in his ears.

Update 28th September 2008

Alan has had quite a good month apart from his runny ear which is still causing him problems. It has been a month now and it’s still running. We have had 2 lots of antibiotics with no success, so during a hospital visit on Tuesday our consultant called E.N.T. They seam to think that he has an infection in the gromit and that it will need flushed to clear it. To do this they inject into his ear to try to wash it out and stop the running – it sounds quite painful. We have to go to have it done on Wednesday and I have to say I’m not looking forward to it!

Alan has gained 2.5kg and grown 1.5cm since our last hospital visit and they are really pleased with him.

Alan celebrated his 6th birthday on the 24th and he had a great day. He got lots of nice presents which included a remote control tank, a camcorder, army things, a projector for his room and much more. He invited 6 of his friends to the ten pin bowling then we went to wimpy for a burger and we had his cake we had a army tank cake for him he was over the moon with it.

He has settled in really well at his new school and his class had to choose a pupil council member and Alan was chosen. He was so excited when his dad and I picked him up! He has to go to the meetings and be the spokesperson for his class – I’m so proud of him. He used to be so shy but he has grown into a confident, independent wee boy.

We are looking forward to the beginning of the month when his big sister turns 18. We are going out for a family dinner.

Thank you to everyone who has sent Alan mail this month. Thank you to Hayley Thorn, Jessica, Helen, Linda B, Maria ,Jenny, Sami, Julie, St Mathews Sunday school, Maddie, Grace and Linus, Jennifer, Jade and Juno from the USA. Thanks you to everyone who sent birthday cards and gifts to him as he loves getting them, they really make his day. Also, thank you to Ms Lu who emails us every week to see how we are doing.

Update 30th August 2008

Alan has had quite a good month. He visited the safari park and saw all the animals which he really enjoyed. Alan loves visiting the cinema and we have been a few times this month. We went to see Wall-e, The Mummy, Batman and The Hulk, all of which he really enjoyed. We also had a festival where we live and we went and saw the big parade. It had horses and bands, dancers, people dressed up, and he really loved watching it. We saw a tiny little pony and that was Alan’s favourite part.

He also started a new school and has moved into primary 2. He has made lots of new friends and has settled really well. I was a bit apprehensive about him starting, teaching someone new to do his medication and worrying if they would do it correctly, but Alan’s helper has picked it up really well.

Alan has a bit of a cough and a very runny ear at the moment. The hospital has started him on antibiotics so hopefully he will start to feel better soon. We are hoping he is well for his birthday.

Thank you to everyone who sent Alan cards as he really loves receiving them. To Julie Barret, Kate Dee, Karen (Sami) for her motorbike cards, Helen for her fish card and the lovely fish you sent Alan – they are up in his room, so thank you. Maddie (Vikki’s Nan) and Karen thank you for your postcards. To Hayley Thorn – a big thank you for all the cards you sent Alan, he loved them all, especially the tiger card. Susan for the teddy bear card with the medal, Alan loved it, so thank you. Thank you to Grace for the bubbles and card you sent Alan, he really loved them and they helped with his physio too. To Jessica for Alan’s discover and dig toy – he really loved it and he spent the morning uncovering his treasure, thank you. Big thanks to everyone who emailed Alan too. Alan has been replying to the cards he has received and it’s helping his writing so it’s good when there is an address on it.

Post Pals is a wonderful organisation that has put a smile on Alan’s face when he receives post. When he is under the weather, seeing him smile means the world to us.

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Adam

17 March 2011

Please DON’T send food to Adam as he is nil by mouth.

Story written 2011

Adam was born by emergency c-section on 2nd March 2007 after becoming distressed before labour. He was born blue and floppy, and required immediate resuscitation. Once revived Adam was still very unwell and was immediately sent from North Tyneside to Middlesborough James Cook Hospital. He spent 2 weeks in PICU, being treated for hypoglycaemia, pulmonary hypertension, seizures and lung dysfunction as he had aspirated meconium prior to birth.

Three weeks after birth, Adam suffered more seizures and became critically ill. He was admitted to Newcastle General Hospital, where he was discovered to have had 2 haemorrhages in his brain since birth. Adam regained consciousness after 7 days but continued to be very poorly, and remained in hospital for a further 10 weeks. He has since had two further bleeds in his brain.

Since discharge, Adam has been diagnosed with spastic quadriplegic cerebral palsy, affecting his right arm most severely and also making him unable to sit unaided, stand, crawl or walk. He is making slow but steady progress in learning how to make his body work the way he wants it to. He is unable to form words, but enjoys making quiet noises. Adam has bilateral partial lamellar cataracts, making it difficult to focus on moving objects. Adam has feeding difficulties and is unable to swallow without aspiration into his lungs. He often has chest infections and is regularly hospitalised for treatment. In January 2010 he had a gastrostomy fitted, and now receives all his nutrition via a feeding tube. Excessive stress and medication has meant Adam has developed stomach ulcers, which sometimes bleed. He also suffers from epilepsy, with severe tonic clonic seizures, leading to a trip to A&E and usually a stay in PICU.

Despite all his troubles, Adam is a happy, lively boy who makes friends everywhere he goes. His grins and giggles keep his stressed parents and his loving little sister smiling.

Update 7th April 2018

Adam had eye surgery in December and January to remove his many cataracts and hopefully increase the amount of light getting in. Surgery went well and he was allowed home quite quickly both times. It has taken a while,but we think his general vision has improved,although he will never see very well due to nerve damage. Adam is still on the waiting list for surgery or further treatment on his knees and ankles, and under observation for the straightness of his spine and hips. He still experiences a lot of pain and doesn’t sleep well. Nevertheless he keeps a smile on his face, enjoys days out, rugby matches and a constant supply of superhero films at the cinema. He had his 11th birthday in March, and received so many amazing cards and gifts. Thank you everyone!

Hannah is awaiting further treatment for her liver and stomach problems. She is under the weather most days but carries on regardless. She is continuing to fundraise for lots of charities with her project Hannah’s Helping Hand, and particularly enjoyed making Christmas decorations for Post Pals in December. This month she is promoting Autism awareness at school. Hannah was 9 on April 6th, and she too received so much lovely post. Thank you again!

Very sadly, Adam’s best friend recently passed away. It was very sudden and he is going to miss her very much. We are all heartbroken for her family. Hannah’s best friend is very seriously ill at the moment and so we are doing all we can to stay positive and have lots of fun.
We are so very grateful to everyone who sends post. The last few months haven’t been easy for A & H, and all that love in the post has been a great comfort.

We are looking forward to the Post Pals Chessington Trip (especially Hannah who is nuts about rollercoasters).
Thank you Post Pals for everything you do.

Update 15th October 2017

Adam is still waiting for leg, knee and eye surgery. He is also back on the waiting list for hip and spine consultants.
As the winter approaches we are keeping a close eye out for chest and ear infections . He remains his happy self most of the time.
Hannah has been diagnosed with liver disease and autism spectrum disorder. She is working hard to cope with and overcome her difficulties, and is continuing with her monthly charity work with Hannah’s Helping Hand. In November she will be fundraising for Post Pals.

Update 25th July 2017

In the last few months, Adam’s health has been going downhill as he seems to be in more pain than ever. The tightness of his knee/leg/ankle muscles is now too bad and medication isn’t helping.

We also learned recently that his eye sight has deteriorated significantly and his cataracts are now obscuring most of his central vision. Adam is relying more and more on sound and touch to make sense of the world. We are very grateful for all his audible post, as we need to keep him constantly supplied with new stories, and of course as he isn’t keen on sleep, it helps us through the long nights!

Due to all this, Adam will be having a number of surgeries in the coming months (waiting lists permitting) on his legs and eyes. Adam’s history of respiratory problems means the doctors don’t suggest these things lightly, but we hope that the stress, discomfort and hospital stays will reap great rewards for Adam in the longer term.

Despite everything, Adam keeps cheerful. He has been awarded a second swimming qualification at school and was recently the winner of a North Tyneside schools Star Award for his “Can Do” attitude and positivity. The highlight of his year however, was definitely meeting Mister Maker after his Whitley Bay show!

Hannah continues to be unwell. She has been diagnosed with a liver disorder (we don’t know what yet) and has been having lots of tests. She hates them, gets very stressed, and as a result her anxiety has gone through the roof.

She continues to pursue her charitable project Hannah’s Helping Hand (she has a page on FB), and recently celebrated the 2 year anniversary with a tea party for our local carers centre , the 31st good cause she has supported since June 2015. In July she overcame her fears and did a zip wire challenge for Calvert Trust, raising over £200.

In March, Hannah was honoured with a Points of Light award from the Prime Minister, for her outstanding voluntary work and contribution to society. Of course,  we are extremely proud and very very happy for her.

Thank you everyone who sends post. The terrible two have received some wonderful things, including, to mention but a few, amazing paper cuts (Hannah hugs her Olly Murs every day), Adam’s fantastic Doctor Who cross stitch, letters and postcards from all over the world, books, teddies and very special extra smiles and monthly project parcels.

Thank you everyone, from the bottom of our hearts.

Update 6th January 2017

Happy New Year to everyone from all of us!
Since our last update, Adam has been having more difficulty with his epilepsy, which is still difficult to control, and constant pain in his legs and arms. He is now seeing a new set of neurology/orthopaedic consultants to try to find an answer, hopefully without the need for surgery. Thankfully, his latest x-rays have come back ok, so we can put his spinal problems aside for now.

Adam continues to be brave and keep smiling, despite some let downs recently. He had another set of tests to see if he can return to taking food and drink orally, but we were disappointed. His swallow is still very unsafe so he will continue to be fed via his gastrostomy (feeding tube directly into his stomach). This is the most upsetting recent development, as Adam did once take food orally (he has been nil by mouth for over 6 years), and is really desperate to get back to eating chocolate lollipops, mashed potato and whippy ice cream. He will have more tests later this year, so we remain ever hopeful.

Hannah continues to make us proud. She is still unwell, with an as-yet undiagnosed illness, causing her a great deal of pain and sleeplessness. She is having lots of tests and scans, and despite being terrified of needles she is always brave.
Hannah has carried on with her charity project Hannah’s Helping Hand, which is now in its third year. In 2016 she helped 17 charities and good causes and raised over £1700 with her friends. We have lots of plans for 2017 including a sponsored run and walk, craft sales, baking and even possibly a zip wire if H gets the medical all clear!
In December, Hannah attended the Chronicle Champions Awards, as a shortlisted nominee in the Champion Fundraiser category. These are awards in the North East area for people who have made an outstanding contribution to their local community. Hannah was shortlisted alongside two adults, and, although she didn’t win, we all had an amazing night and Hannah got the moment in the spotlight she truly deserves.

We are very grateful to everyone who supports Adam and Hannah by sending them post. Christmas was amazing for them, with all their cards and gifts making them both feel brighter on their bad days, and certainly very loved. Another big thank you to all the people who fundraise for Post Pals. We were very lucky to be included in the Chessington Trip, and had an unforgettable experience.

We wish everyone a peaceful, happy and healthy 2017!

Update 6th June 2016

Thank you everyone for all the lovely post and emails Adam and Hannah have received this month. Adam is doing ok but is in a great deal of pain and still having seizures. He had one particularly bad incident where we thought he was having a stroke and was very poorly, but he bounced back as he tends to do and tries to stay strong.

Hannah is trying her best but is still struggling with ill health. She is constantly tired and fatigued in her limbs, and struggles to sleep at night and stay awake during the day. She has seen a consultant and is waiting for tests. Her Year 2 SATS were a little stressful, as she has difficulty concentrating and can’t cope with worry very well.  Despite this she is continuing with her project Hannah’s Helping Hand and enjoying updating her blog (hannahshelpinghand.wordpress.com) and being of help to the community.
We won’t be able to come to the Post Pals party but we wish everyone a wonderful time and a fantastic summer!

Update 12th January 2016

Adam  has had mixed health recently. Despite our hopes, his epilepsy is getting worse and it is becoming difficult to control. He seems to be in more pain and needing many more stretches and doses of painkillers  than ever before. He will be seeing various consultants in the next few months to try to make him better.On a positive note, we are managing to keep him out of hospital more, even when he is very under the weather. This is great because he often recovers much more quickly in the comfort of his own bed. Adam is trying hard, but finds day to day life very tiring , especially school. We keep him happy with endless Star Wars dvds and of course all his fantastic Post Pals post.

Hannah has been generally quite unwell for some time now, so we are waiting for her hospital appointment for tests. She keeps cheerful and is happy to devote all her energy to her charity project Hannah’s Helping Hand. Last year she helped 10 charities, and hopes to do even more this year.

Christmas was relaxed and mostly quiet and we all had a great time.

Adam and Hannah have received so much amazing post. We had to spread out opening them over many days of the Christmas period. Our heartfelt thanks go out to everyone who thought of our terrific twosome, and the people who email or message to keep in touch with how they are doing.

We send all our love to our friends at Post Pals and to everyone sending post to any of the Pals and siblings.

Update 13th September 2015

The summer has been ok for Adam, with fewer seizures and hospital trips, except for one scary day at school in July. We may (fingers crossed) be on the way to getting his epilepsy medication right, which will make a difference to Adam’s life.

Adam still struggles with pain in his knees and feet, but now it is also in his arms too. His muscles and tendons are just so tight that they constantly ache for him, plus the medication to ease them makes him sleepy and we have to fight to keep him awake some days!

As always though, Adam keeps a smile on his face and a bit of mischief twinkling in his eyes every day.

We had a lovely short break in Blackpool over the holidays. Hannah got to dance in the Tower Ballroom which she says was a highlight of her life. We all went to the top of the Tower, which Adam loved, and also went to the zoo.

Hannah has started year 2 at school and has been a little apprehensive. It’s a lot to take in but she is working hard and having fun.

Hannah has started a new project called Hannah’s Helping Hand. She is aiming to help at least one charity each month, so that she can make a difference and learn more about the world. So far, she has helped Marie Curie, the local food bank, a local community group called The 5p Bus, and Post Pals (of course). Post Pals is also the charity for December. This month she is doing a sponsored walk for the Alzheimer’s Society.

Thank you so much to everyone who sends post to Adam and Hannah. Every item really brightens up their days and ours. As Hannah puts it, you are ‘amazingly awesome!’

Update 4th April 2015

Adam has had his 8th birthday recently and received lots of lovely cards and gifts. He had a dinosaur themed party and was happy and healthy for the day!

Generally, not much has changed. Adam still struggles with his seizures, which disturb his sleep and upset him. He is also needing more pain relief for his legs, knees and ankles. He is still smiling though and trying his best. He is growing fast so already needs a new wheelchair etc. School is going ok, he is learning his alphabet and numbers, and simple reading.

Hannah is about to turn 6 at the beginning of April. She is growing up too fast! She is doing well at school, keeping cheerful and trying to help out more with Adam. She has chosen to learn all about Adam’s conditions so she can understand and do more for him. They remain the best of friends, they really do love each other very much.

Thank you, as always, to everyone who sends post to Adam and Hannah. Hannah is now responsible for reading letters to Adam, which they both enjoy.

Happy Easter everyone!

Update 3rd February 2015

Adam continues to keep smiling and tries hard every day. He is struggling with increased pain in his legs and still has a troublesome bowel. We are still trying to find a good balance of medication to control his seizures, but he is brave about it. He isn’t sleeping well, so we are listening to a lot of Paddington stories in the middle of the night.

Adam is doing well at school, especially in his swimming, which he loves. We are hoping to start introducing a little more solid food this year, as he is desperate to eat and not too happy watching other people enjoying their food. We have a few family treats lined up for the year to keep Adam and Hannah’s spirits up.

Hannah is working hard and enjoying school, and continues to be a loving, caring sister to Adam. We grow more and more proud of her every day.

Christmas was great, and very busy, and Adam stayed well for most of it. They loved their elf and reindeer letters and gifts.

The children have received so much lovely post and we want to say a massive thank you to everyone. Recently they were delighted by their special balloons sent by Post Pals. We had just that afternoon been in a car accident (everyone is fine apart from a little whiplash for me and damage to our brand new WAV) so they were brilliantly timed! Adam took his to school to share with his friends in the sensory area.

We think it is important that everyone who supports Post Pals knows how much of a difference their kindness makes. Not long after Adam joined, he was sent a Postman Pat cd, which he still listens to now (a lot) and is the one cd we always take to hospital because it is guaranteed to make him smile. He also received a fish card in his first week, which is on his bedroom door. He has a big “A” sent to him by a lovely friend which he keeps on his shelf and wants to hold everyday. Adam loves to look at the large collection of postcards he has amassed (his favourite is one of a donkey sent from Ireland). He also has some Makaton story books, and some wonderful Mr Men and Postman Pat books which were decorated to make them sensory books, which go around in his bag all the time. Hannah has a collage of her name and fairies on the wall by her bed, and of course her beloved baby Maria was a Post Pals gift too. And not forgetting Indie, our lovely dalmatian who has had many adventures with us. We have a little metal heart hanging from our bathroom mirror which makes me smile every time I see it, and there are so many other precious things which mean so much to Adam and Hannah, and to us. Thank you to everyone who sends post to our special two.

Happy New Year everyone. We hope 2015 will be your best year yet!

Update 2nd August 2014

Adam has been his usual happy and hard working self over the last few months. He is trying his best with his physio, although as he grows the tightness in his knees, ankles and toes, is getting worse and he is troubled by increasing pain. We are looking at options for stronger pain relief and hoping this won’t making him too sleepy. His posture is improving, as is his grip and extension of his right arm. He is spending more time in a standing frame, which is helping him with his shoulder and head control. All this effort is very tiring and he is usually exhausted when he gets home from school.

School continues to make Adam very happy. He is working hard at his communication and we are starting to chat using Makaton more. He is also using communication software on his iPad to make choices and greet people. He loves to be part of the conversation! It’s early days, but he’ll get there we hope. Adam is also getting started with a bit of reading and counting. He is very pleased with himself!

Recently, the biggest difficulty Adam faces on a daily basis is his epilepsy. It is becoming very difficult to keep his seizures under control so we are trying new combinations of medication in the hopes of finding the right one. As always, Adam tries his best to stay cheerful and makes us very proud.

Hannah recently finished her first year at school and is doing very well. She takes time out every day to talk, read or play with Adam, and they continue to be the best of friends (although Adam could possibly do without hearing Let It Go ten times a day).

Adam and Hannah receive so much lovely post and we are truly grateful. Hannah’s reading is good enough that she can now read Adam’s cards and letters to him. They are very cute together, opening their envelopes and getting excited. A massive thank you to you all for the kindness and love you show our brave two. Everything is appreciated and looked at over and over again.

Update 2nd February 2014

Happy New Year to everyone. We hope you had a lovely Christmas! Adam and Hannah enjoyed their Christmas very much (although Adam wasn’t too well) with lots of treats and so many wonderful Post Pals letters, cards and gifts.

There is mixed news about Adam recently. It is now clear that having the fundoplication surgery last year was one of the best decisions we ever made. He is keeping his feeds and meds down and putting on weight. It has been a pleasure buying him lots of new clothes in larger sizes and finally seeing him get a little bit of a tummy.

Adam has been in and out of hospital for short stays of one or two days, usually due to his epilepsy. He is having regular seizures which are quite frightening for him, and us. We are trying new combinations of medication to try to stabilise his condition, but it is a real balancing act between controlling seizures and not letting him get too drowsy (which is a side effect of most anti-epileptic drugs). He has recently been so badly affected that he is spending all day asleep. We will keep trying to find the answer! He is also struggling with increased pain in his limbs and continuing bowel problems.

However, Adam is a fighter and he keeps going whatever comes at him. He is trying very hard at school, with regular physio and speech therapy. He has started lessons in Rebound therapy (on the trampoline) which he loves, and he is a member of the after school Boccia club. Adam loves sport and seems to have a real talent for this one!

Adam now has an iPad and is learning to use communication software to give him the voice he so desperately wants. Adam has no spoken words so this, with practice and patience, will open up the world to him. He is finding the whole thing very exciting, although so far we can only manage yes/no answers, but it’s a start.

Hannah is now at first school and is doing well. She enjoys reading and writing the most. Adam and Hannah are the best of friends and Hannah is a great help to us in looking after her brother and cheering him up on his bad days. We are very proud of them. They really are our heroes and we would fall apart without their smiles.

We would like to say thank you, yet again, to all the kind people who send post to Adam and Hannah. At Christmas they were overwhelmed by the gifts and cards. Adam loved the reindeer letters and has so many new postcards. Thanks also to everyone who emails – Adam looks at them on his iPad and always smiles when he sees a message is for him. Adam and Hannah think of you all as their friends and everything they receive brings a smile to their faces.

Sending lots of love to you all.

Update 15th August 2013

Adam continues to do well after his surgery and is slowly starting to put on weight. He still has the urge to vomit, but because he can’t he is learning to cope and is getting used to it.

He has been busy at school, doing swimming, sports, trampolining etc and cookery. He can now make a cheese sandwich with a little help, which made me so happy I cried a little. Adam got a great first report from school. He is a cheerful, friendly, popular and hard working little lad, apparently!

He completed the Children’s Cancer Run in May with Dad, Hannah, Grandpa and Uncle Richard. The two children raised over £100 for this worthwhile cause. Some of our Post Pals friends were kind enough to sponsor us, so a massive thank you to them!

In September Adam is going to start an after-school Boccia class, which is very exciting, because he really enjoyed watching it during the Paralympics.

He has been having a quite a bit of trouble with seizures, minor and serious, short and prolonged, of all types, and we have had quite a lot of ambulance rides to A&E recently. The seizures have made him very tired and seem to affect his limbs quite badly, making him very stiff. Adam has been having extra physio daily to help with this and as always he is being very brave. His pain seems to be getting worse, so we will need to raise that with his consultant in September.

He has been missing his school activities and friends so we have been trying to stay busy and get out and about over the holidays. We’ve been to the cinema, visited friends, explored the coast and countryside and even met a dinosaur!

Hannah starts school in September and she is very excited. She “graduated” from nursery in July, with a ceremony and a party. She’ll miss her friends at nursery but she is definitely ready for school now and eager to start learning. As usual she has been very loving with Adam, looking after him with gentle affection when he is having a bad day.

Thank you so much to everyone who has sent the little ones post in the last few months, I am pretty rubbish at remembering to post thank you notes, but please be sure your lovely letters and parcels do make a big difference to our two brave children. Adam now has over 100 postcards from Britain and around the world. Adam’s health is very up and down at the moment, with bad days popping up and surprising us, so every envelope holds a treat to make the days a little easier.

Sending lots of love and best wishes to all our Post Pals friends, the Pals and their families.

Update 8th May 2013

Adam had his fundoplication surgery on 18th April and it all seems to have gone well. He was admitted 3 days earlier to be on overnight ventilation, to prepare him for the anaesthetic as his breathing hasn’t been so good recently. We were told to prepare for 2-3 hours in theatre and in all we waited for 5 hours which was a bit nerve wracking. Once he was in theatre, the surgeons noticed that he needed another procedure as well as the fundo, so they decided to do that at the same time. This meant Adam had a lot of sore wounds afterwards (9 keyhole surgery points, two in a VERY delicate place!) and was on a lot of painkillers for a week or so. Adam coped extremely well with the surgery. The doctors had an intensive care bed and a blood transfusion ready for him to recover and were expecting to have him ventilated for a few days, but amazingly he didn’t need any of it. The next day he was sleepy but cheerful, and well enough for visitors and to play with Hannah a little. He was discharged after 5 days (it would have been earlier but he had to have some fasting tests for a couple of days), which was great as we’d been told to expect up to 3 weeks in hospital and we were home in 10 days!

He had a further week off school, went back for one week part time and is now back full time. It’s like he’d never been away! The surgery seems to have worked. Adam is now no longer able to vomit, which means he keeps his milk feeds down and hopefully he will start to put on some weight and gain some strength. It has caused some problems as now he can’t cough hard enough to dislodge anything in his throat, but he is learning to cope with it. He has also been able to come off two of his medicines which is great for him as we always thought they didn’t suit his tummy. So far, we are pleased with the results of his surgery. It wasn’t comfortable for him and we are so very proud of him for being brave and putting up with the pain and worry with a big smile on his face!

Hannah was a very good girl while Adam was in hospital, going to pre-school in the morning and visiting him in the afternoon. She played with him, drew him pictures and told him stories. She is doing really well at school, enjoying her dancing lessons and learning to read. She can read her name, and other key words. We look at her Post Pals post together, which she is finding even more exciting now she can read some of it herself!

Thank you to everyone who has sent post, letters, cards and gifts to Adam and Hannah in the last month. Adam put lots of his post up on the wall of his hospital room, which was admired by the many doctors, nurses and visitors he had.

The four of us send all our love to everyone at Post Pals, volunteers, Pals and their families.

Update 3rd April 2013

We have had a relatively stable last few months, Adam’s health hasn’t been too bad and he has been doing well at school. He has had a couple of nasty chest infections which make him very tired and he has missed some school this term, which he wasn’t happy about. His breathing difficulties seem to be getting worse and we are now having to regularly test for dips in his blood sugar as this might be causing his new seizures.

Adam will be admitted to the RVI Newcastle on Monday 15th April to prepare for his fundoplication surgery. He is going to be put on a ventilator overnight for a few days before to help his poorly lungs cope with the anaesthetic, so the actual op won’t be until Thursday 18th. While he is in the hospital he will also be having some tests to do with his blood sugar. We are hoping he should only be in for about 10 days altogether, but this depends on how well he recovers from the procedure. Whatever happens he is going to miss quite a bit of school. We have told Adam what will be happening and he is being brave but is obviously worried and unhappy about it. We are going to arrange lots of fun activities and visitors for him, and hope we can keep him smiling.

Adam had his 6th birthday on 2nd March and he was well! We had a family party, dressed up as pirates, danced and played games and he was very happy. Hannah is 4 on April 6th and will be having a Teddy Bear’s Picnic to celebrate.

Hannah is doing well and enjoying pre school. She had a nasty accident in March, when she fell and hit her head off a wall, losing a front tooth and splitting her top lip very badly. Hannah had some minor surgery the next day and had a week off school to recover. She was a very good girl about it and now talks about it like it was an adventure.

A very big thank you to everyone who has sent post to Adam and Hannah in the last couple of months, especially for Adam’s birthday and Easter. We can see how much care and effort is put into everything and we are very grateful. We send lots of love to everyone at Post Pals.

Update 4th January 2013

Adam has been mostly well in December and had a very happy Christmas. The rest of the family had a nasty bout of norovirus but Adam seems to have avoided it. He has had quite serious stomach and bowel problems, and seeing him in such severe pain is heartbreaking. Adam tries so hard to keep smiling and has been very brave. Aside from this he has been happy and contented, although we think he’ll be very pleased to go back to his lovely school next week. We were stunned when we realised that Adam had done a whole term without a single sick day, something he has never managed before in his life. Long may this continue!

Adam and Mum, plus Uncle Richard, took part in Adam’s school fundraising Pudding Run on Whitley Bay seafront on Boxing Day morning. It was cold and we only managed about half of the course (his wheelchair is heavy!). Adam enjoyed himself so much and laughed all the way round, getting lots of cheers as we ran.

As we haven’t heard from the hospital, it looks like Adam won’t be having his surgery in January so we’ll have to chase that up, again.

Christmas was lovely. Adam and Hannah were in good spirits, and enjoyed their gifts and being surrounded by loving family and friends. They had lots of time to play with their 4 month-old cousin George who they adore.

The children received so many lovely cards and gifts this Christmas and we are very grateful to you. Their cards covered two doors in our house and Hannah kept asking to look at them and to hear the names of the senders again. Thank you everyone for your kindness.

We don’t know what 2013 has in store for the family, as these days Adam’s condition is very unpredictable. We will carry on giving Adam and Hannah the best possible life and deal with the more difficult days as and when they happen. Post Pals has given our lovely two so many smiles, giggles and surprises, often when they were desperately needed, and we cannot thank you all enough. We wish you all a very happy and healthy 2013!

Update 7th December 2012

Adam has been mostly well and happy recently. He has had some chest and bowel problems but seems to cope a little better than he used to. He’s still in a lot of pain but is slowly learning how to tell us so we can help him.

School is going well. Adam won a prize at Awards Evening for his improvement and hard work. He beamed from ear to ear as he collected his certificate, and loved the applause. Adam is completely settled at school now. He has lots of friends and the staff seem very fond of him. He goes swimming every week, loves using the plasma screens, drawing, making music and playing in the sensory area. He has been busy rehearsing for his Carol Service, including some Makaton signing of some carols.

We are waiting for confirmation that Adam will be in the RVI Newcastle for his fundoplication surgery in January. He’s going to be in for about 2 weeks, which will be difficult for him as he’ll miss a lot of school. It’s possible he’ll have to go into PICU beforehand to ensure that he is stable for the procedure. We’re not looking forward to seeing our little man in so much pain post-op but we hope the results will help him to get on with his life without the constant vomiting.

Hannah is happy at nursery. She was Frosty and a donkey in the Nativity and is very excited for Christmas.

A huge thank you to everyone who sends the children their lovely post. We wish you all a very Merry Christmas and a happy, healthier 2013.

Update 30th September 2012

Adam’s health has been up and down as usual in the last few months. His seizures have been quite frequent and knock him out for days, but he copes well and needs to be admitted to hospital less often than in the past. Adam is still suffering horrible, painful bowel problems and we’ve been unable to help him with the vomiting. We’re still waiting for a date for his fundoplication surgery, after which he’ll need to be in hospital for a week or more. We need a date soon or else it will get dangerously close to Christmas!

A year late, Adam has finally started school! From his first day he loved it and he is well looked after and learning so much. He enjoys assembly and swimming. We have seen such a change in him. He is noisy now! Shouts all the time and trying so hard to form words. His signing is improving, he is more alert and doing really well with the communication technology. School really suits our Adam. He still misses his nursery friends but he has made some lovely new ones too. The school is excellent (which was why we fought so hard to get him in!) and we’re all delighted. Hannah has started pre-school, is settling in quite well although she is a little nervous, and is even doing extra dance and French classes!

Some of our Summer plans didn’t work out because of Adam’s ill health. We couldn’t use our tickets for the Paralympics which was very disappointing for all of us, but Adam just wasn’t up to the travel. We watched LOTS on the tv though. Adam is now a massive fan of David Weir and Johnnie Peacock, and has also decided he wants to learn the javelin and horse riding. Hannah changed her mind every day about her favourite Olympic and Paralympic sports, but definitely wants to be gymnast and a triple jumper. We enjoyed lots of Jubilee events too. We had a party for friends and family, Adam loved the River Pageant on tv and we even got to see the Queen in person (in the wind and rain!) at the opening of Tyne Tunnel 2. The kids both loved all the exciting events of the Summer, and we will have lots of happy memories.

Adam and Hannah love getting all their fantastic post. Massive thank yous to everyone, including Jenny, Jen and Emma who write regularly, everyone who sends Adam postcards from all over the world, and the several Becky’s (Hannah asks if her post is from one of her Beckys). We promise to get better at sending out thank yous!

A couple of final things – a big thank you to Kate D for everything she has done for Adam and Hannah. We hope you get your well deserved rest and relaxation! And congratulations to everyone at Post Pals on the fantastic new website, which we know has taken so much hard work. We love it.

Our love and thoughts are with all the Pals and their families everyday.

Update 1st July 2012

What a busy few months! We moved house in April to be closer to family, and we’re still only half unpacked. Adam now has a large downstairs bedroom which he loves, and we have a sofa in it so there’s a bit of comfort for Mum or Dad when we’re caring for him at night. Hannah’s room has mirrored wardrobe doors, so she’s happy too.

Adam had another week long hospital stay at the end of March, with seizures, pneumonia, bowel issues and chicken pox! Despite our best efforts, Hannah caught it too and was very poorly for a week or so, although she was very brave about it. This coincided with her 3rd birthday, but she managed to have a great time anyway and received some lovely cards and gifts from Post Pals people. Seizures have continued to be a problem, with two ambulance trips to A&E in two days in May. His vomiting has worsened a little, so looks like his fundoplication surgery is unavoidable. We had hoped for this during the summer, but looks like he will have to miss time at school for it.

We have had great difficulty getting Adam into school. He needs a special needs placement and the local authority told us there were “no places” so we  would have to send him to Durham or Northumberland. Two daily hour long trips in a taxi with a stranger would be impossible for a 5 year old boy with serious medical issues so we said no. After a lot of fighting, Adam will now start at a closer school in September, a year after he should have been starting. At the moment they are planning to put him in a year behind his age group, but as we’re not happy about that, watch this space. It seems a shame that the most vulnerable in society have even harder battles to fight to get what they need, just to achieve the same as the “normal” children. We’ll keep fighting though. We hope Hannah will be able to attend the nursery class of the mainstream school which runs along side it.

As Adam has been at home with Mum and Hannah (we have no respite care in place), we’ve been trying to get about as much as possible and see the world. Trips shopping, to the cinema, theatre, parks and castles have excited the kids. Currently, Adam is devoted to all things Tintin (especially Snowy the dog) and Hannah is enjoying baking cakes and then eating them. We will be gong to some Paralympic events in London in August/September which will be great.

Adam and Hannah continue to receive lots of fantastic post, which makes them feel very special. Some parcels are kept for difficult days, and letters are read to them before bed. Photos of scary spiders (scary to Mum, not to the kids) are put back in the envelope very quickly. Adam has had some amazing postcards from all over the world. We mark the countries off on  a map, look at where they are on his globe, and put the cards in a special album.

Paul and I are very grateful to everyone who sends the children post, emails or contacts us on Facebook. I’m making some great new friends via Facebook and Twitter. We’ve been looking at photos from the party and we’re so pleased it went well. We attended via the Facebook Unofficial Virtual Party which was a lovely bit of fun.

We send our love and best wishes to everyone at Post Pals, especially all the Pals and siblings, and we hope the summer is sunny and happy for you all.

Update 13th March 2012

Life has been all ups and downs for the last month. Adam had a communication assessment and did well, impressing everyone with his ability to use touch screen technology and tell us exactly what he wants. We’re hoping to arrange a loan of some communication aids which can be attached to his wheelchair. It’s very exciting for him and us because we’re certain that Adam has a lot to say!

Adam’s health hasn’t been so great.  He has had a couple of seizures, but thankfully minor ones. Unfortunately, he then developed pneumonia and vomiting virus, and this meant that for the second year in a row, Adam had to spend his birthday in hospital. We made the best of it though, with help from our wonderful friends and family. Adam shares his birthday with me (mum) so we had two cakes and roomful of decorations, cards and presents. Adam received dozens of cards and gifts from Post Pals people and we were overwhelmed by your kindness, yet again. Despite being confined to a hospital ward we had a lovely day.

Adam also had a sleep study last month, but he didn’t sleep much. He was quite stressed about the whole thing and he ended up vomiting throughout the night, had a choking episode and a small seizure. Although the study was limited, it does look like Adam has periods in the night when he stops breathing so we’ll be seeing the respiratory team in April.

Hannah will be three soon. She has asked for a little party with Adam and we are happy to oblige. It may turn out to be a very big party!

Thank you for all Adam and Hannah’s post. Any art/craft gifts are being used to make post for other Pals, so after we’ve had fun making, we can pass those smiles on. Adam’s Nursery class have been drawing pictures to send as well.

The four of us send all our love and thanks to you all.

Update 14th February 2012

Adam has had a pretty good month in January. We seem to have managed to control his vomiting and this has improved his health generally. His chest is still troublesome and he is having difficulties with his bowel which is very painful for him. He had his first seizure since May last year, unfortunately quite a serious one, but recovered quickly and didn’t have to stay in hospital overnight.

Adam is making more and more noise, shouting when he’s happy and crying when he is in pain. This might not sound so great but it’s wonderful that he is finally starting to express himself, instead of suffering, literally in silence. He has a sleep study on 16th February which should help us to deal with his breathing and oxygen problems. We should have results by March or April.

Adam is excited for his 5th birthday in a few weeks, and about moving house sometime in March, to be closer to school and family.

Hannah will be starting pre school after Easter. She’s getting to be such a big girl! I would have to say that the family has been happier and healthier recently, and long may it continue!

Thank you to everyone who sends Adam and Hannah post (and Paul and me too!). They opened their Valentines this morning. Adam went all shy and cute, and Hannah declared “Look how many people love me!” Paul and I are so grateful to all of you. Our love and thoughts are with all the Pals, families and volunteers.

Update 20th January 2012

It’s been a while since our last update and so much has been happening. Adam has had his ups and downs, chest infections and now a troublesome bowel. He keeps smiling but seems to be understanding more, and these days we can see the worry every time he goes near a hospital.

During the summer, we were in and out of various hospitals for short stays as Adam was having real problems with his chest and breathing, causing worrying drops in his oxygen levels. Generally Adam tried to stay cheerful.

We had a great family holiday in the Lake District, during which Adam was mostly well, and we got to see lots of boats and steam trains, visited a great zoo and played in a tent in the garden.

Adam had a couple of longer hospital stays in October and December and missed several nursery outings and his starring role as a reindeer in the Christmas play, which was very sad. He also had some surgery to change his gastrostomy tube to a button, plus some investigations of his throat. As a result of this, he has changed to a new milk feed, which has no undigested milk protein. In the month he has been on this, his vomiting has reduced dramatically and we’re very pleased. It makes day to day life for him a little easier and more comfortable. He is trying this milk for another couple of months before we decide if he will need a fundoplication, which we’re hoping to avoid. He remains nil by mouth, but does have flavoured lip balms to give him sweet tastes to enjoy.

Adam now has his new wheelchair, which is much more comfortable and means he’s happier getting out and about. We’re trying to involve Adam and Hannah in as many memorable experiences as possible, so we followed the Rugby World Cup and filled in a wall chart, he’s had several visits to the cinema, and we have got tickets to some events of the Paralympics in August which we hope they will both find fun and inspiring. When in the RVI in December he got to meet several Newcastle United footballers, and even better, a whole squad of the Newcastle Falcons rugby team. This made his year! Christmas was very happy, with Adam well and very, very excited!

So far 2012 has been better, Adam has been stable and happy and we’re making plans for holidays and moving house soon, as well as Adam starting school in April. Adam is our sunshine, and his determination and happiness in adversity is the generator that keeps our family going.

Hannah is doing very well – still a talkative little thing, always asking questions, singing and dancing. She finds it difficult to understand Adam’s condition, but tries her best to look after him and plays nicely with him. They’re putting together quite a cheeky little double act! A few weeks ago, she offered to put on Adam’s shoes and walk for him to help him. Hannah struggles when Adam is poorly, especially during long hospital stays when she has to stay with her grandparents. She keeps going, and is there to cuddle us when we really need it. Hannah is our sweetheart, and makes us smile even at the saddest of times.

We have been keeping up with the updates of other Pals and been pleased to read of some developments and saddened by others. We are always thinking of the Pals and the people who love them. We have some insight into how they might be feeling and they inspire us to try harder and keep going whatever the days bring.

Our thanks to everyone who sends post to our little ones. They enjoy (and keep) every single thing. Quite often, the post they receive can change a difficult day into a happy one.

We send our love to all the Pals, families, friends and volunteers at Post Pals and wish you a happier and healthier 2012.

Update 8th August 2011

July and August (so far) have been better for Adam. He is now fully recovered from his surgery and has been discharged, for now, from the respiratory clinic at the RVI. The vomiting, chest infections and terrible pain in his legs continue, but as he gets older he seems more able to cope. Adam has never been one to cry very much, so when he does we know something is definitely wrong. His seizures have settled down a little too, so his recent change of medication may be working after all. He’s still getting chest infections every fortnight or so, and they tire him out, but he continues to laugh, giggle, smile and try his hardest to have fun, however poorly he’s feeling. As I type, he’s sitting on the sofa wearing splints and gaiters, listening to a story cd and laughing hysterically!

The reintroduction of food and drink had to be delayed, which disappointed us all, but Adam was just too poorly to cope at that time. The first session has been rescheduled for this week, so hopefully it will go well.

Adam can now say three words, with a lot of effort and concentration – car, yes and more. He uses the last one a lot!

Adam is growing up fast and his Dad and I were very proud to attend his pre school “Graduation” on Friday. They did a little play (which Adam slept through sitting in his wheelchair, but then he was playing a tree so it was a very convincing performance!) and then put on gowns and mortar boards and received certificates from their key workers. Adam’s smile just beamed all the way through the ceremony and he was very pleased with himself. Adam is very popular at nursery and got a big round of applause when it was his turn. Adam won’t be moving on to school until summer term next year (as the council “can’t find” him a special needs school place but won’t send him to our choice in a different county), but a lot of his friends are now leaving. He’ll miss them a lot, as he is very happy at nursery and gets lots of love and friendship from the other children.

Hannah continues to do well, talking ten to the dozen all the time and singing to Adam from her bedroom to his.

We’re enjoying the summer and Adam is managing some time outside, either in his little gazebo, or sitting in his special swing, watching the world go by. The whole family (including grandparents and aunts and uncles) are going on holiday to the Lake District at the end of August, which we will all enjoy. Generally, Adam seems happy and contented, and determined, which is all we could ask for.

Thank you, as always, to EVERYONE who so kindly sends Adam and Hannah cards, letters and gifts. They are both constantly delighted by their post, as are Paul and I. Hannah is now asking for letters to be read to her as bedtime stories!

We send love, smiles and best wishes to all Pals and their families, volunteers and everyone at Post Pals. Have a lovely summer!

Update 11th July 2011

Adam had his surgery on 16th May and was very brave. It all seemed to go well as Adam didn’t have any bleeding problems and we were lucky enough to be discharged the next day. It took Adam a few weeks to recover as it was very painful for him. He was a on a lot of painkillers which made him drowsy and uncomfortable. The second week of recovery coincided with a long awaited family holiday to the west coast of Scotland (the week of the gales and torrential rain!), and it was good to get away. Adam and Hannah really enjoyed themselves, especially spending time with their friend Alfie (and Mum & Dad), and Paul and I feel we got a few days to relax for the first time in a long time.

Although the procedure went well, it doesn’t look like it has been as effective as we hoped it might be. Adam’s breathing has improved, but his reflux is still very bad and he continues to be kept awake at night by it. He currently has another nasty chest infection so the doctors are now looking at putting him on a long term course of antibiotics to help him fight infections. The next step is probably going to be further investigations of the walls of his throat and a fundoplication, to help control his constant vomiting.

There is good news too! In preparation for a videofluoroscopy in September, (to see if he is still aspirating into his lungs when he swallows), Adam is going to be weaned back onto food and drink. He has been nil by mouth for a long time now, and we’re quite nervous about this, but it will be amazing to be able to give him the food he loves again. It starts with water and weak juice, but will move onto pureed food and then some solids. As a baby, he loved pureed Brussels sprouts and cheesy mashed potato, so I’m looking forward to getting the food processor out again. It’ll be a slow process, and he will remain reliant on the gastrostomy tube for the majority of his nutrition for quite some time, but it’s a start.

On 4th July, we heard Adam’s first word! It was late at night and he just wouldn’t go to sleep. He’d been babbling away to himself in bed for ages and his Dad went up to check on him. Adam was asked if he was being rambunctious (one of his favourite funny words – Adam LOVES funny words), and out of the blue, he said yes! We are so happy and proud, and he is very pleased with himself. He is attempting other words now, with Hannah helping him.

In the last few months, Adam has mostly preferred to stay indoors at home with his comforts. He loves getting his post, listening to his letters and looking at his gifts and cards. He took part in the Children’s Cancer Run at Gosforth Park Racecourse on 8th May, pushed in his wheelchair round the bumpy course by his beloved Grandpa. He’s doing well at nursery, helped by his brilliant one-to-one support Coral, and growing up so fast we can hardly believe it. We had a Royal Wedding street party too, and Adam loved being King of the street for the day.

Hannah has recently started to do one day each week at the same nursery as Adam, which she loves. They see each other from time to time during the day, without Mummy getting in the way! She is doing really well with her talking, ABC and numbers, and is thriving at the moment. Hannah is totally devoted to her brother (and vice versa) and has told me she is Adam’s special nurse sister. We’re very proud of how loving they are to each other.

Thank you so much to everyone who sends Adam and Hannah letters, cards and gifts. Your kindness continues to make a big difference to our lives, often on very difficult days. Paul and I have booked to attend the Post Pals Charity Ball in October, and hope to meet some of you then.

Our love to all the Pals, siblings and families, and everyone at Post Pals.

Update 16th May 2011

Adam has been very brave but was a little upset this morning before his surgery. He has been recovering from the painful surgery in hospital this afternoon. We’d kept some Post Pals post aside and he opened some and inside was a smiley face balloon. This simple, thoughtful gesture, made a tired and poorly 4 year old giggle. He has fallen asleep tonight holding onto it so tightly. There was no sender, so to whoever sent this little gift, our heartfelt thanks. You really made his day bearable. Post Pals makes these wonderful moments happen.

Update 11th May 2011

Adam has had an up and down couple of months. It was his 4th birthday on March 2nd and he took a cake and balloons into nursery for his friends. Unfortunately, he was taken ill halfway through the morning and had to be rushed to A&E (thankfully just next door). Adam spent the afternoon of his big day in the Children’s Unit at Wansbeck hospital under observation. The opinion is that Adam had a prolonged complex partial seizure, which caused him to lose consciousness for a short time. He was cheered up when his Dad brought a stack of his Post Pals birthday cards and parcels to open in the unit.

Our plans for the day were only postponed until the following Saturday when we went out to the shops to spend his birthday money (Postman Pat toys were chosen) and have some fun at the soft play.

March and April have seen a total of 5 trips to A&E and 3 stays in various North East hospitals. This has mainly been due to seizures, but that tonsil problem has been back and caused him a lot of breathing difficulties. Adam is on some new medication that hopefully will settle down his seizures and let him concentrate on happier things.

We’ve been busy, usually having 3 appointments a week for all sorts of different treatments. He’s being very brave, but as he gets older he understands more and is becoming increasingly unhappy with trips out, as he always seems to think he’s going to hospital. His lovely post is helping though. We save things for days we know he’ll find difficult, to keep that gorgeous smile on his face!

Adam is due to be admitted to the Freeman on 16th May for surgery (he’s having his tonsils and adenoids out) and investigations. Usually this would be relatively straight forward, but because of Adam’s blood abnormalities it’s going to be a tense time. We’re hoping so much that this surgery will help him to overcome his breathing problems, maybe his terrible reflux which makes him sick several times a day, and even allow him to start talking to us. I can’t express how wonderful it would be to hear our little boy say something (anything!) to us in his own voice! Please send positive thoughts his way on 16th May.

Adam’s little sister, Hannah, had her 2nd birthday on 6th April. She’s a cheeky, silly, loving little girl who adores her brother and looks after him all day long. She is having trouble coping with the separation from me and Adam when he is in hospital but tries her best and is always there with a smile, cuddle and a kiss for Mummy and Daddy when we most need it. Hannah received some lovely Post Pals cards for her birthday – she proudly declared to us that she had lots of letters from all the Princes and Princesses!

Thank you to EVERYONE who has sent post to Adam and Hannah in the last couple of months. You really are making a difference to the lives of two brave little ones. Paul and I are so grateful to you all. It’s been a very difficult time recently but your kindness and generosity has helped us through it.

We send our love to all the Pals, siblings, families and everyone at Post Pals.

Update 1st March 2011

It’s been a mixed month for Adam. He has made good progress with his speech and language exercises, using switches and eye pointing more and more, but also attempting a little Makaton to communicate (he knows the sign for chcolate already!). The use of his right hand, which only 6 months ago was virtually zero, has reached a level now where he can grasp things and move them about. We took delivery of his new powered bed this month, which is helping him to sleep more upright and so means less pain and vomiting in the night. He also likes to take little rides on it in the mornings. We’ve put some of his Post Pals pictures and cards on the wall by his bed so he can see and reach for them. Adam doesn’t sleep particularly well, so he is very glad of the distraction.

Adam’s ophthalmologists told us his sight has not deteriorated as they thought it might, so they are going to put off his surgery for at least a year (we were expecting it sometime in 2011), and possibly (fingers crossed) he won’t need it at all as he seems to cope well despite his cataracts.

We’re still waiting for a date from ENT at the Freeman in Newcastle. Adam saw the top surgeon a couple of weeks ago and he seemed to think Adam was haemophiliac, which was the first we’d heard about it! Hopefully, we’ve managed to sort this out and once Adam has the thumbs up from the haematologists about his platelet count, we’ll get a date. The surgery has its risks, as Adam has had clotting problems in the past, but they’re going to be on hand for a transfusion if necessary. We’re just praying for a straight forward procedure and a short stay in the ward afterwards, as Adam is getting more nervous and unhappy in hospitals these days.

Generally, Adam has been his happy, giggly self, but those nasty chest infections (and eye infections, and ear infections) keep on coming and the antibiotics just get stronger and stronger. He didn’t miss any nursery days this month though, for the first month ever.

It’s difficult for us to believe but our lovely little man is going to be 4 this month. He’s packed so much into his short little life, but it still feels like last week that he was born! We’re very proud of our beautiful boy, who perseveres despite all the pain and discomfort, the doctors and physios messing him about and the frustrations of having to rely on us to push his wheelchair when he wants to be running around with his sister and his friends. Adam is very excited about his birthday and we’re going to make it special for him.

Thank you to everyone who has sent Adam and Hannah post in the last month. Adam takes his favourite things into nursery to show his friends and is very pleased with himself. Thanks for the past couple of months to (and this is just some as I’m doing it from memory) – Dominic & Gethin, Sally for the lovely angel, Libby, MJ, Salome, the Hutchinsons, Ann, Ali & Alex, Christine in Australia (Hannah says Kangaroo all day long now, bouncing round the room), Tracy, Elaine & family, Sarah G, Jenny, Emma, and to William for the lovely surprise letter. If I’ve missed you out, my apologies, but be sure your post has made all of us smile. Thanks also to Dottie for the lovely letters. We log into the blog now so Adam can practice his computer skills. Finally, to Adam’s Valentines – you made him all shy and giggly – and we were so happy to see that. Adam and Hannah have enjoyed sending cards and letters to other Pals, and we send all of them and their families our love.

Update 28th January 2011

Adam has had a better few months, with some good news and finally some future plans.

In November he was Page boy at his Auntie and Uncle’s wedding and had a wonderful time, smiling and laughing all day. Since then he had yet another chest infection, and this time he was prescribed some much stronger antibiotics which made him tired and nauseous. They did the trick though and we were very pleased that he was well for Christmas, for the first time in his life.

Adam and Hannah had a great Christmas and New Year, were treated over and over again and met Father Christmas three times! After Christmas the excitement took its toll a little and Adam has been under the weather again, but he has avoided hospital and is on the mend now, but back on those same strong antibiotics. Adam seems to have had quite a growing spree in December too, so he is looking a lot more grown up these days. He continues to progress well with his speech and language therapy, and we feel he is getting closer to saying his first word (probably going to be Pat, as in Postman Pat), which would be just brilliant. The strength in his limbs seems to be improving too, but with that comes more muscle spasms and more painful nights.

One piece of good news is that Adam has been allowed to go back to having small tasters of food a couple of times a day – just fruit purees and tiny morsels of chocolate on his lips but this has made him immensely happy, and us too. We are now waiting for a date for Adam to have surgery to remove his tonsils and adenoids, which the surgeon tells us could significantly improve his breathing and reflux. He will be admitted, all being well, sometime in March (we had a date of Feb 3rd but it was cancelled) and they will investigate his larynx at the same time as it is possible he has an obstruction. If this goes well, we will be able to go ahead with a possible fundoplication, more investigations of his stomach and lungs, and also a new videofloroscopy with a view to reintroducing solid food.

We are extremely grateful to everyone who sent Adam and Hannah post in the last couple of months. Adam kept his Christmas presents until Christmas Eve, and was delighted with every single one. Paul and I continue to be so touched by your kind thoughts and all the love and smiles you send to our little man. The four of us send lots of love and thanks to everyone (and there were a lot of you) who sent something, and we hope to send out thank yous as soon as we can (sorry for the delay!). Adam and Hannah have enjoyed choosing gifts and cards for other Pals and siblings too.

Our thoughts and love are with every one of the Pals and their families, every day.

Update 10th January 2011

Hi everyone I just wanted to wish you all a happy 2011.

Adam and his little sister had a great Christmas, although he has been poorly again since. We are relieved that he has avoided hospital this time.

Thanks to everyone who sent Christmas post, which really cheered us all up.

Our thoughts are with all the Pals and we send our love.

Update 7th November 2010

Throughout October, Adam has continued to recover steadily from his recent illness. He is still very tired and nervous of going out (we have to explain to him very clearly that he is NOT going back to hospital today). He has acquired a nasty and persistent ear infection because he spends so much time lying on one side, so that has been uncomfortable for him, but generally he has been trying hard, happy and contented.

We have been getting increasingly frustrated by cancelled and rearranged appointments, which has meant that the surgery and investigations we were expecting him to have mid-October (giving him lots of recovery time before Christmas) have now been put off indefinitely for no real reason, so it looks like it’s going to be 2011 now. We’re also still waiting for someone to look more closely at his seizures. Our priority right now is to avoid him coming down with anything “minor” like a chest infection so he can be 100% for his duties as Chief Page boy at his Auntie Barbara’s wedding in a couple of weeks.

Thanks to Post Pals as Adam and Hannah have now adopted one of Dottie the Dalmatian’s litter mates, and called him Indiana (Indy for short) as suggested by their Dad. He has been on several family days out already and is a much loved new friend. Adam and Hannah have also enjoyed choosing and sending out post to other Pals.

A big thank you to anyone who has sent Adam and Hannah post this month. He was the centre of attention at the nursery Halloween party thanks to the lovely treats from Carol, Kate D and Post Pals. Hannah enjoyed carrying the pumpkin lantern round the Metrocentre last week and got lots of smiles. We were delighted to receive a lovely postcard from Heidi in Netherlands. Susan very kindly sent Adam some Toy Story things and Hannah a great book, which they loved. Marti sent some lovely books with cds which have been helping Adam to get through the sleepless nights happily (and us to relax!). Sarah G continues to send her wonderful letters which Adam listens to with great interest, and the fabulous pig card from Jazz is also very popular. A huge thank you as well to Donna Bedford who sent a lovely bracelet for Adam, even checking to see what his favourite colour was, and a Hello Kitty keyring for Hannah. Thanks to Jenny for her letter – we would love to reply but you didn’t put an address.

If I’ve missed anyone out I’m really sorry. We are starting to send thank you’s to those who put an address. Paul and I are so grateful to everyone who takes the time and effort to contact Adam. Your generosity is just amazing, and we want you to know that you make such a difference to Adam’s life, giving him so many smiles, and to ours. We send all our love and best wishes to all the Pals, their siblings, Mums and Dads, and to everyone involved in Post Pals in any way.

Update 1st October 2010

Adam spent late August and September in PICU and Ward 1 at the Royal Victoria Infirmary, Newcastle, after being taken suddenly and very seriously ill on 22nd August. His diagnosis was Toxic Shock Syndrome, with pneumonia and tonsillitis to complicate things.

After a few anxious days, we were told he would pull through, and although he was ventilated for a total of 10 days, made a characteristically quick recovery. He is now home, and awaiting appointments for follow ups from ENT and gastro surgeons, who think they can help with his breathing problems (the ENT doctor called his tonsils “too juicy”) and maybe reduce his constant vomiting. Adam’s ulcers have flared up again as well, and are causing him a lot of pain, especially in the night. Whilst in hospital, Adam started having a different type of epileptic seizure, and these have continued since he has been home, so he will be back to the neurology department in the near future too, for an EEG and MRI. He has a few difficult months ahead, but we are hopeful that the doctors are right when they say the new treatments may be life changing.

Adam, despite being extremely tired, has continued to be his lovely, giggly self, and was very pleased to finally be able to go back to nursery. Unfortunately for a little lad who loves biscuits so much, he has had to go nil by mouth for the foreseeable future, as eating and drinking is getting too dangerous to his health. He is working hard on his physio and communication exercises and we even think he may have tried to copy his sister talking the other day. Use of his right hand has improved from helping to open so many envelopes!

Adam has very much enjoyed his first month with Post Pals and now recognises that an envelope or parcel making its way over to him is going to contain something exciting. Thank you to everyone who sent something – if you included your address, we will be in touch soon!

Thanks to Anne for the dinosaur card which made Adam laugh so much; to Sarah G for the teddy card and the lovely story which has been read out about 5 times now; to Becky Fisher for those lovely pictures (especially the fire engine) and her letter; Juno – Adam loves his mobile; Kate W – Adam and Hannah have both enjoyed reading Zigby over and over again; Jane sent a lovely set of pictures of her cat which Hannah in particular was fascinated by; thanks also to Carol who sent the Toy Story sticker book, which we’ve all had fun with (Mum and Dad included), and finally to Percy – Adam thinks you’re the cutest dog in the world. If we have forgotten anyone, our apologies, and thank you for welcoming us so warmly to Post Pals!

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