Ethan B

15 July 2011

Story written 2008

Ethan was diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis just before his first birthday after recurrent chest infections. Ethan was a very ‘floppy’ baby who at times would only lie around, was not interested in toys or his surroundings and did not have the energy to crawl. Ethan’s first admission into hospital was on Christmas Eve when he was six months old, where it was thought he had Bronchitis. From then on it was fortunate that he was referred to the local paediatrician, who then made the diagnosis after several sweat tests came back inconclusive. Once diagnosis was made and he started treatment his life improved considerably.

Ethan has since had a further three hospital admissions for IV treatment and a bronchoscopy. Ethan’s daily routine consists of 40 tablets, nebulisers, inhalers and physio twice a day.

Ethan attends main stream school and despite having to have medication during the day he enjoys his school life to the full.

Update 1st September 2011

It is with sadness that I’m moving Ethan on from Post Pals but hopefully people who sent post to Ethan can send to another child who would appreciate it too.

He has loved everything he received and we will try and send post to other children.

Thank you for everything you have done.

Update 3rd May 2011

Ethan has had a tough few months; he has had over a month of antibiotics due to a persistent chesty cough. Fortunately this did not result in a hospital stay but it was on the cards if the oral antibiotics didn’t work.

Ethan has been out on the trampoline during the lovely sunny days to help clear his mucus and fingers crossed now that the weather has improved he will continue to stay well.

Ethan has not let his infection get him down and is now a member of his schools hockey team – to go with the athletics and cross country teams. Also, Ethan has been practicing for a local basketball team and hopefully will be made a member of the team in a few weeks time.

Update 20th December 2010

Ethan has been quite poorly this last month; he had a chest infection, a slight bowel blockage and was not gaining weight. At his last clinic appointment his right lung was very quiet, which the doctors didn’t like much, so his physio therapy was increased. We feared hospital was on the cards but with intense physio, lots of antibiotics, and some new weight gain supplements, Ethan has improved and this Christmas will be hospital free. Fingers crossed.

Ethan is very much looking forward to Christmas and has some presents under the tree already from Post Pals. Thank you ever so much for all that you do for him.

Merry Christmas xxx

Update 26th September 2010

Ethan has been keeping well, up until a week or so ago. He is coughing a lot and is very tired – a course of antibiotics has his name on before the end of the month. Hopefully we can escape going into hospital.

Ethan didn’t manage to hit his target weight, but didn’t loose anything either, so the doctors are now hoping he will improve by his next clinic appointment in November.

Ethan has received some lovely cards and letters and still looks forward to seeing the post when he comes home from school. Many thanks to everyone who takes the time to send Ethan some mail. Ethan loved the story that was written over a few letters so many thanks for that and he loved the parcel he got with toys, pens and sand art in it.

Update 18th August 2010

Ethan has kept fairly well over the last couple of months and has not needed any extra antibiotics. However his weight still seems to be a problem, he has now got a target to get to by next month. We are not certain what will happen if he doesn’t reach this target, but we are feeding him up in the best way we can.

Ethan has been receiving lots of lovely letters this month and he would like to thank everyone who sent him some post for his birthday – the room was covered with cards!!

Update 4th June 2010

Well, after having a good couple of months, Ethan has had a course of antibiotics, a bowel blockage and been tested for diabetes (still waiting on the results for that).

Ethan has not reacted very well to the hot days as he is on an antibiotic that makes him sensitive to sunlight. He also forgets he needs to drink a lot in the hot weather hence the bowel blockage.

Fortunately, things now seem to be moving along nicely after a tense week.

Ethan was tested for diabetes late this month so we don’t have the results yet. That was a very tiring time for him as he hates needles and having blood taken every half hour from his canula was a terrifying experience for him. After a little while though he settled into it and he let the nurses have his arm without any moaning.

There are no scheduled appointments this month so hopefully it will be a smooth month for him.Ethan is very much looking forward to his birthday this month as he will be away on cub camp, a very special party indeed.

Many thanks to everyone who has sent Ethan some mail, he just loves it. Ethan has had some wonderful gifts, including a whole box of pirate bits and bobs, a fan that has a display function and a book on the wonderful world. Many thanks!

Update 30th April 2010

Ethan has had a good couple of months. He had his annual review which was all good except his weight; he really does need to put on a few pounds. Ethan is now on Calshakes which apparently taste like McDonalds milkshakes which he loves. Ethan has another appointment in May which hopefully will show a weight gain.Ethan would like to say thank you for all his post, and that he looks forward to coming home after school to see what has arrived.

Update 28th February 2010

Ethan has not had a bad couple of months, he has had a course of antibiotics for a heavy cold which ended up on his chest, but thankfully his swabs came back clear.Ethan is still not putting on much weight and is still on his build up drinks which he is not keen on. He has his annual review next month which, fingers crossed, will go well. He is looking forward to the liver scan and chest x-ray but not the blood tests! Hopefully he can try some different drinks to help him gain weight.

Ethan made it into the school cross country team this month after coming 4th in his year group. He ran a county school race, but unfortunately his team came second and didn’t make it into the finals.

Ethan is doing very well at school as well, having completed a whole term without having a day off – something he has never achieved in any of his 4 years at school.

Ethan loves receiving his post and is now taking an interest in sending post to other children, as the post makes him smile and he wants to make others smile as well.

Thank you for Ethan’s post, he loves the Karate Bag!!

Update 13th January 2010

Ethan has had a good month as his blood levels have gone down and his cough has eased. However, he is on another short course of steroids as he was starting to cough again.

Ethan had a wonderful Christmas and unlike last year was hospital free. Thank you to everyone who sent cards and gifts for Ethan and Kezia, they were lovely. Ethan also really loved the letters from Jangles!

Update 3rd December 2009

Ethan has had a few up and downs this past couple of months, starting when he developed an infection from having his flu jab, he was not happy! Ethan has had a very strange cough and has had blood tests to determine the cause, he has had a course of steroids as some infection markers were up, and we are awaiting the results of a further blood test, hoping the markers have come down.

Ethan is now on build up drinks as he is not eating as well as he should and his weight is dipping slightly, although he hates them we are persisting with them with the hope of him coming off them when we next see his consultants in 3 months time.

Ethan had his swine flu injection and was a very good boy, holding his arm out nicely for the nurse, usually it takes 3 of us to pin him down!

Ethan is very much looking forward to Christmas. A great big thank you to the person who sent him the letter from Santa Clause, he loved it so much that he took it into school and showed it to anyone who would look. Ethan loves his post!

Fingers crossed we are not in hospital like we were over Christmas and the New Year last year.

Update 27th September 2009

Ethan has had a varying couple of months. He has been up and down with his chest and he has had a few courses of oral antibiotics which have kept the worst at bay.

Ethan has lost a little weight which his doctors are slightly concerned about, so we are feeding him with as much fat as possible. His next hospital appointment is not until November but we will have to get in touch with them over the next week or so as he is coughing a lot more and is quite tired, which is unusual for Ethan.

Ethan had a good summer holidays but couldn’t wait to get back to school as he enjoys it so much.

Now he is back thought he wants time off.

Ethan also became a big brother to a little sister in September who he loves to pieces and takes really good care of, despite him feeling rough himself.

Thank you to everyone who has sent cards, letters and gifts. Ethan loves to receive his post and looks out for it most days, I can’t thank Post Pals enough for making Ethan feel loved by people he has never met. Post Pals is fantastic and always brings a smile to Ethan’s face.

Update 25th July 2009

Ethan has been keeping very well over the last few months. We have recently moved and he now has a much bigger and very grown up bedroom which he loves.

Ethan has not had any courses of antibiotics or any problems apart from a little bit of hayfever.Unfortunatley, during the karate holiday, Ethan did not manage to gain his brown belt which he was dissapointed about, but he is continuing to work hard towards it!

Ethan has also started his guitar lessons and is doing really well. He is not sure if he enjoys them or not so only time will tell if he sticks to them.

Many thanks to all who have sent Ethan birthday cards and post. He loves receiving things through the post!

Update 2nd May 2009

Ethan has had a very good few months. He has been enjoying the sunshine and playing outside.His health has been excellent and two of his nebulisers have been cut out of his routine, which he is very happy about.

Ethan now does his own physio using an accapella which he breathes through and it vibrates his chest, making him a very independent boy.

This month Ethan is attending his Karate group’s camp on the Isle of White and he is hoping to gain his brown belt whilst there. He has been practicing like mad!Ethan has a routine hospital appointment this month and fingers crossed it will go smoothly as he is in good health and keeping well.

Update 23rd February 2009

First of all, sorry for the lack of updates as it has been a hectic few months.

Ethan became quite poorly in the run up to Christmas and was not improving. He went in to hospital a couple of days after Christmas for a 2 week IV course of antibiotics. Whilst in hospital he managed to contract pseudomonas which put him in isolation. The IV antibiotics worked and Ethan came out of hospital the best he has been for months.

Unfortunately over the last few days he has developed another cough so is on more oral antibiotics and more nebulised antibiotics. Ethan is now on 5 nebulisers a day which he is not keen on.Otherwise Ethan is well and he is enjoying school and keeping up with his karate. Most of all though, he is excited about becoming a big brother!

Thank you for all the cards and gifts that were sent over Christmas. Ethan also loved his Valentine’s cards.

Update 6th November 2008

Ethan has kept fairly well these past few months. He has had a few courses of antibiotics which have now seemed to have stopped his chesty cough.

Ethan is keeping very active taking part in Karate and Beavers. He has now started swimming lessons at school which he enjoys.

Ethan would like to thank everyone who has sent him mail; it really makes him a smile after a hard day. Special thanks to Julie B for your lovely notes and gifts. Also to Post Pals for the parcels, Ethan loved them.

Post Pals is fantastic, thank you everyone!

Update 31st July 2008

Ethan has had a varied few months. He was very poorly in May with an infection. He picked up in June and had a very good hospital visit, although this month he has unfortunately developed another cough and a bug in his lungs. This is being treated with a course of oral antibiotics which, fingers crossed, will prevent the need for another hospital stay.

Ethan is still a purple tag in karate and is very near to getting his purple belt.

Ethan is very excited about going back to school in September as he will be in the Junior part of the school.

Post Pals is a fantastic site and thanks to everyone who sends Ethan mail, he eagerly awaits them arriving.

Update 7th April 2008

Ethan attended his annual review in March and we had some good news and bad. The good is that Ethan has grown and put on weight. The bad is that unless his cough goes he will be going into hospital for 2 weeks. Ethan is now on a nebuliser which he hates and needs to have physio 3 times a day along with his other activities. Ethan also has crackles back on the base of his right lung and they took months to go last time.

On a positive note, Ethan is now a purple tag in karate, even though he broke his little toe during a sparing match!

Many thanks to Helen F, Ethan loves the socks so much he wears them every night! To Debi, the hat is lovely, thanks! Julie, thank you for your cards and the tongue-twister which had us all in fits of laughter!

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Dominic F

15 July 2011

Story written 2008

Dominic was diagnosed with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy (DMD) when he was 3 years old. His Mum began to suspect something was wrong as Dominic couldn’t jump or go up and down stairs. DMD is a condition which causes the muscles to die and is life limiting. Sufferers, always boys, go off their feet and into a wheelchair at around 9 years old, although they normally need a wheelchair before 9 years old for occasional use, especially if walking any distance.

Dominic was such an active baby, toddler and boy, and his Mum thought he would react badly to having to go in a wheelchair, but he accepted it well. Due to his severe learning difficulties, Dominic does get frustrated as he can’t do things for himself and yet can’t always communicate what he wants.

Dominic is, on the whole, a happy boy although he can be a bit ‘Kevin the teen’ on occasions since he hit 13 last year. He loves his books, DVD’s and CD’s and has most of the Disney films. He likes things that are more for under 8’s and he can use easily as his arms muscles are weak now and he can’t lift things any more. He likes going for day trips out too. He doesn’t like too much noise or people around him.

Dominic is very affectionate and loves cuddles with his Mum, even at 14 years old. He has a huge fan base and people fall in love with him easily whether it’s family, friends or professional people who see him. He occasionally goes to Keech Cottage, a children’s hospice in Luton and loves it there.

Dominic is a very special, much loved boy.

Update 1st December 2012

Hi everyone,

It’s been months and months since I last updated due to the website being revamped and I’ve been so busy.

Dominic has been plodding along. He’s had a sleep study which has shown his respiratory system is pretty good still. It is dropping slowly but he still doesn’t need night time ventilation. His heart has remained the same, thank God.

His mobility is getting worse and worse. He can hardly move his hands at all now. It literally is just his fingers. Other than that he can still move his head and upper trunk ok. He has to start going to the Thoracic clinic locally to monitor his chest more regularly. His appetite has dropped and it has become increasingly hard to get him to eat much so his weight has dropped. This is normal for DMD boys but worrying. Due to his severe learning difficulties it is hard to encourage him to eat or reason with him. If he won’t then he won’t.

He is getting a new wheelchair from Whizzkids in the near future as now he’s 18 he’s outgrown his other one. We are soon moving house where Dominic will have a much bigger bedroom and more space to move around. Dominic will be going to college next September and, at present, we are still trying to get funding for Dominic to go out of County as he cannot be provided for within County, but the red tape you have to get through is unbelievable. He has been offered a place at the college though and I have accepted on his behalf. It is perfect for him.

After careful consideration I have decided to move Dominic on from Post Pals and make room for someone else who would benefit from receiving mail. Dominic is finding it increasingly hard to pick up anything and can’t read. His sisters are both in Secondary school and busy with homework and Ben has been spoilt rotten (in a nice way) by Post Pals. I am very busy sorting out both Dominic’s transition from his school and Vanessa’s transition from secondary school and I’m helping with dog rescue again and stitching for Love Quilts still.

Therefore, I want to thank everyone who has taken time and spent money on making my children smile, especially Dominic. It has made a huge difference to all the kids this last 4 years and we are all extremely grateful. It is so reassuring to know there are still so many people who care about others despite having their own busy lives.

You are all angels. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Obviously, thanks to everyone who has sent a card/present/letter/postcard/email the last few months since I’ve updated. Some have been taken away by the kids so if your name is missing I am so sorry but a final heartfelt thank you to:- Helen (SparklyStar), Natashja, Georgia, Laura and the 3rd Dorchester Brownies,  Emma, Rosemary, Claire (Guernsey), Erica, Sarah (North Wales), Laura J, Harriet Hunt, Jane Fawcett, Adam, Joe and Tom, Dorothee, Jen, Ally, Claudia from Germany, Anita, Eric, Tracey, Poppy, Kate Stanforth, Rachel, Launa J, Jessica, Helen E, Maria and Michael, Jenny from Cardiff, Claire H, Heikki R, BB, Dawn, Emily B, Candice Nash, Becky Butler, Catherine, Susan from USA and Alex Hanson. To the regular people who have been consistent and amazing for a lot of the 4 years:- Sarah Gilligan, Ray and Marjolijn, Becky Fisher, Dominic and Gethrin, Kim (who always will be Ginger to me!), Karen (Sami), Kate D, Imogen and Ben, Christine B, Jo from Belgium, Libby, Jenny, Denise C, Elizabeth Batty and Claire.

To anyone I’ve missed and everyone who has sent mail to my family… Thank you so much. We really do appreciate it.

To all who work behind the scenes at Post Pals i.e. Viks, both Kates and everyone else… You are an inspiration and have added so many smiles the last 4 years. Thank you all.

And to all the other Pals, past and present, and their families… Love and Best Wishes to you all. You will always be in our thoughts and hearts and I will continue to send mail to Pals.

Update 1st March 2012

Dominic’s Echocardiogram in January showed the ACE inhibitors and Beta Blockers are doing their stuff as there has been no change, thank God.

He was very poorly last month. He had a sickness bug which went over 12 hours but he was lethargic, weak, and very poorly afterwards, and didn’t get out of bed for 6 days and didn’t eat for 10 days. It was very worrying and he looked awful. Thankfully he seems fine now although he hasn’t got such a good appetite these days. I am still trying to get his seating sorted out as he is leaning forward really badly now and I have to keep pushing him back. I am trying to get it sorted but, as per everything, no-one seems in a rush to help and I end up chasing everyone.

Dominic has to leave his fantastic school next year which will be tough as he’s been there since he was 5 years old. I have been to look around a local college and on Monday went to look at another college in between Bedford and Wellingborough which I think would be great for Dominic. If he stays locally he will be shoved from pillar to post and lose his respite and social life almost totally. With this one he could go there in the week and I would fetch him at the weekends. Initially I didn’t want him to go to a residential placement and thought that, if he knew his life expectancy was a lot less, he wouldn’t want to be away from home, but my sister rightly said ‘of course he would.’ He would want a quality of life and she is totally correct. They have different activities after lessons every night whereas he would be bored at home every night and weekend. So… now comes the fight for out of County funding, but his name is down and I intend to get him in there if at all possible.

Thanks to Imogen and Ben for their cards and gifts for Ben. You are so consistent and it is really appreciated. Also, thanks to the amazing Viks, Sarah G, Karen (Sami), Leela for all her cards, Angela, Bethan, Christina and dog Charlie, and the photos from Dominic and Gethin… and the Lego club membership form. Thanks for Dom’s Valentines cards too… the two with ‘?’ and the one from Marjolijn and Ray. Thanks to Denise for Ben’s letter and the gift. Thanks also to Becky for her regular letters and bits to Emily. She loves hearing from you.

Love to everyone at Post Pals, all the Pals themselves and families… and especially to Katy H and Connor’s families and friends.

Update 16th January 2012

Since my last update Dominic has had another echocardiogram which showed that the Ace inhibitor and the beta blockers have stabilized his heart so far. Let’s hope it stays this way.

We had a Neurological appointment last week at GOSH just to discuss Dom’s general health and we discussed ways of improving Dominic’s seating, as he is starting to lean forward a lot and it’s clear that he is losing strength in his torso. He is also finding it increasingly difficult to move his forearms and hands now and even steering his wheelchair is more difficult for him. This is such a cruel illness. He is obviously uncomfortable at times so I think he is getting a bit of pain in his legs and muscles in general. It’s so hard to know for certain or pinpoint anything due to his Severe Learning Difficulties. Dominic has his next Echocardiogram next week on Tuesday (24th Jan). Keep your fingers crossed for us please.

On another note, Dominic’s little brother, Ben, who turned 4 just after Christmas, has been ‘unofficially’ diagnosed as being on the Autistic Spectrum now. It doesn’t overly surprise me as he was showing tendencies like his brother and older sister and hopefully with a bit of help he will get along ok. He is a placid lad but does have some funny ways at times and can be hard to handle.

I’d like to say a really HUGE thank you to everyone who set aside time in what is a very stressful and busy month to send a Christmas card, Ben a birthday card, or a letter or a gift to Dominic or his siblings. I can’t tell you how much it is appreciated and you people are just so caring and thoughtful. Thanks to Helen T, Denise C, Jo from Belgium, Aafke and Iris, The Homberg family, Christine from Florida, Kay, Katie, Emily Collingridge, Becky and Josh, Ray, Marjolijn and Does, Marty Long, Helen R, Sarah G, Matt Dover (homemade card!), Glad, Lizzie, Jenny, Suzy (good luck), Daniel, Dominic and Gethin, Kay, Despina, Charlotte, Angela and Elyse (Dom loved the car and Christmas huge car you made. Hope Angela’s brother is doing well!), Viks, Glad, Catherine, Kim and baby Stevie, Rachel, Dawn Goddard, Sarah G, Angela, Christine, Niduska, Imogen and Ben, Penny, Jane (loved the poem), Joe and Josh, Christopher Adam, Di, Steve, Daniel, Chris and Laurue, Elaine, Graham, Danielle and Hazel, Bekki Ford for the Santa letters (you took so much time and effort. Don’t know how you managed it with organising Christmas. Thanks so much. We read them to Ben but his sister really loved them too), Holly (great letter and Santa pics), and Danielle. Thank you so much for taking the time to send the letters and Dominic’s siblings and us enjoyed reading them.

I would like to wish all Post Pals and their families, Viks, Kate W, Kate D, and everyone who sends post, a very Happy and Healthy New Year.

Update 4th October 2011

Dominic’s sleep study results were as good as last year. Good news at last, thank goodness.

I also want to say thank you to Tracy from Bristol, Dominic and Gethin, Ruby, Maria and Michael, Jenny Orpwood, Jenny, Denise C and superwoman (AKA Viks!) for Dominic’s cards.

Update 2nd October 2011

The visit at GOSH on 12th September really just confirmed what had already been said. We discussed ways of making Dom as comfortable as possible in his wheelchair now he can’t have the spinal surgery and they said that the Cardiology department needed to keep an eye on Dom’s heart to see/make sure it stabilises and doesn’t drop suddenly again. After having said that, I then got an appointment through from the Cardiology department with an appointment for January!! Six months after his last Echo! After phoning the wonderful Ruth Barrett, who spoke to the Cardiology department, who then called me, they are going to send Dom an appointment for this month… although I still haven’t had one. When I spoke to them they didn’t seem to see the urgency and I almost felt that they were giving Dom the appointment just to keep me happy. I just don’t understand it. Why don’t they think it’s important?

Dominic and I are at Brompton Hospital tomorrow overnight as he has a Sleep Study to check his lung function/breathing patterns. Last year the results were almost perfect and I’m hoping that there is no change or we will have problems, as obviously if the lungs aren’t working properly it puts extra strain on the heart, and Dom would need BiPap at night. I just don’t know how he will cope with that. I think Dom deserves a bit of good luck this year. Last year Dom really enjoyed us being there together alone though so I’m hoping that we have a nice time again this year despite the circumstances.

I have also booked me and Dom a long weekend away in Norfolk on Bonfire weekend in an adapted cottage that has a swimming pool with a hoist on site. Can’t wait!

I would like to thank everyone for all their thoughts, care, well wishes etc. Please mention Dom in your prayers if you are religious. It can only help.

Huge thanks to Glad, Ewelina, Marion, lots from Jenny (congratulations on your wedding), Penny, Nathalina, Susan, Dominique, Melanie, Christine, Jo from Belgium, Ninta, Julia, Ray, Marjolijn and Does, Willa, Jane, Becky, Teresa, Tina, Lucy, Beverly, Karen (Sami), Imogen and Ben, and Angela. Thanks to Sarah, Libby (thanks to Sarah for my personal letter, what a fantastic lady you are!) and thank you to Keri. Apologies if your name has been missed off. I have to retrieve post from all over the house but all are appreciated, believe me.

Huge, huge, huge thanks to all the ladies at Post Pals for my make up bag of goodies. It is all useful and really cheered me up. You are amazing.

Loving thoughts to all Pals and families.

Update 3rd September 2011

Firstly, I would like to thank everyone who has sent card/postcards/letters and gifts to Dominic and his siblings over the last 2 months. I am so sorry not to mention everyone singularly, but the post is spread all over the house and with the summer holidays and with the kids home I’ve not had time to keep on top of it, especially as I’ve had visits to GOSH and been cross stitching for Love Quilts too. To say they have all been very much appreciated is an understatement… especially Dominic’s birthday cards and bits. He had a great birthday at Church Farm in Stow Bardolph, Norfolk, as we were on holiday in Pentney, Norfolk, at the time. We all had a great holiday actually and were sorry to come back.

It’s amazing how things can change so quickly and we had some very upsetting news this week. After going back for yet another echo and ECG in the middle of August, the Neurological department have been through the results and had a meeting and we have been greeted with the bad news that Dominic’s heart is not in a good enough condition to undergo anaesthetic, as it’s just too risky, so he won’t be having the spinal surgery. He has moderate Cardiomyopathy. He is on the young side for his heart to be affected like this and GOSH feel that taking into account other boys with DMD who have had heart problems at this age, Dominic’s life expectancy has been reduced substantially and anything over 20 years old will be a bonus. He has just turned 17.

We have been plodding along day to day since Dom was young with his health and mobility disintegrating all the time, feeling like we always had time… for treatment, a cure… and now we are counting down and times running out. I know there are very young children on Post Pals that lose their fights to awful illnesses too and there are a lot of times I’ve read updates on here and thought how lucky we are… this isn’t one of those times. I am trying very hard to process the information I have been given, but at the end of the day, Dominic is my life and I am finding it very hard to keep a brave face for the other kids… and obviously for Dominic. From now on life has changed totally and will never be the same.

I have to go to GOSH on Monday 12th September (Ben’s first day at Nursery) alone to speak to the Neurological team about where we go from here, and more in-depth, the results and implications of Dominic’s heart. I have a feeling I’m not going to like what I hear even more than I haven’t already.

Prayers and support to all the Pals and their families… including my own.

Update 29th June 2011

I must apologise for not updating sooner. This year and in particular these last few months, have been very trying and not good ones for our family to be honest. A much loved family member has been fighting Cancer, and we had our lovely old rescue collie cross put to sleep a few weeks back, after months of her being poorly and debating on making that decision. Dominic has asked where she is a few times. I used to have to keep moving her out of the doorway so Dominic could get past in his wheelchair and he can’t understand where she’s gone. I am still grieving too. If you have or have had a dog you will know where I’m coming from. If you haven’t you will probably think I’m daft.

We welcomed a new addition to our family just over a week before we lost Skye… a beautiful rescue 5 year old ex stud Labrador who we have called Oz. Skye took a real liking to him before she left us. Dominic appears to be very keen on him and Katie, our Lurcher, is glad of the company. She misses Skye too.

We still have no date for Dominic’s spinal surgery but they have indicated it will be around November/December time. Dom had an MOT at GOSH in April and an echo he had done showed that his heart was pretty good and had slightly improved since he started taking Perindopril which was great news. His spine hadn’t got any worse either. They referred us to the Cardiology department at GOSH just to get a more in depth look at Dom’s heart ready for the surgery and we had that appointment a few weeks back. I assumed Dom would just have an echo and a chat with the Cardiologist but it was a long day. Dom had a blood test, echo, ecg, blood pressure taken and THEN we saw the Cardiologist who greeted us with the not so great news that Dom’s heart had swollen slightly. This was slightly worrying as it was only two months prior that he had had an echo which had been positive. They decided to put him on beta blockers ready for the op to make sure he is fighting fit so we went back this Monday gone to start him on them and he was monitored for a few hours to make sure there were no major side effects. He was a star. The bloods were to check his kidneys were functioning properly. His condition means that all his muscles waste so every organ needs monitoring. We have to go back in a month to raise the dose of the beta blockers once we know he’s OK on them and then we need to go back to GOSH again to the Duchenne clinic to amalgamate all the info we have (I assume). Dominic also has his next sleep study in the Brompton in October and from what GOSH have said, the surgery will then be imminent.

Please send Dominic some positive, loving thoughts in these coming months as he has a tough time coming up. If someone could send me some strength too I would appreciate it!

Thoughts go to all Pals and families who are having a really tough time. I’ve been reading Alice P’s blog – what an amazing young lady. Hope you get a lot of your Bucket list fulfilled Alice.

Thank you so much to everyone who sent cards to Dominic and his siblings. We are grateful to everyone:-Anita from Portugal, Jessica, Emily and Poppy-Mae, Karen (everyone loved the Smarties cards), Karen (Sami), Denis, Ray, Marjolijn and Does, Bethan, Imogen and Ben, Juno, Kylee, Dominic and Gethin (the photo is gorgeous), Jo from Belgium, Genevieve, Dawn Goddard, Tor, Rebecca Cook, Libby (we liked the ramblings!), Chloe, Despina, Julia and Dasha, Courtney, Tracey (Bristol), Jenny, Laura H, Nichola, Jon, Daniel and Jasper the dog, Luca, Helen, Julia, Viks and Post Pals Team, Anita (Texas), Anne Calico, Niek and everyone else who I have missed. This is 3 months worth so some cards, letters etc have disappeared into various areas to be read and or displayed. Thanks so much to Debbie S (Dom loved the drawings) and Sarah G for your lovely letters which we all look forward to reading. Becky Fisher (Emily loves getting your letters and always fills me in on what you are up to and what a clever young lady you are!). The kids have had some lovely presents this last few months including the choccie treats at Easter. We’ve had a few toys, stickers, colouring pads and various drawing stuff, Fuzzy Felts and little trinkets and gadgets. Loved the CD that Sarah, Dominic and Gethin’s Mum, sent. We have watched it a few times. Emily loved the stickers from J Patterson. Thanks also to whoever sent the photos of the Tarantula and the Bearded Dragon (which I am debating getting for Dom for his birthday). Thanks so much to everyone who has spent their hard earned cash getting my kids pressies. It is so kind of you and I am always amazed at what fantastic people there are in the world when the post comes.

I loved seeing the pictures on Facebook of the Post Pals party. I had hoped to go with Dominic but it was my sisters’ birthday the same day. It is amazing what Viks, The Kates’ and everyone else who gives up their time achieve, especially when they themselves are poorly. We are very grateful.

Update 4th March 2011

Things have been pretty quiet so far this year with Dominic health wise.

He is due to have his wheelchair reviewed by Whizzkids in the next few weeks. We are still waiting for a date for his spinal surgery but as we haven’t had the pre op yet I am assuming it is unlikely it will be before September now. His February appointment at GOSH was rescheduled to April due to the surgery happening later than expected.

Thank you so much for all Emily’s birthday cards. There were some really pretty ones.

Thanks for all the cards and postcards too. Dom loves looking at the pictures on them all. The more the merrier. Thanks also for the Valentines cards. Thanks to:- Dina from Oz, Rachel, Lola, Jenny, Libby and Florence, Ally, LOADS from Jenny, Daria, Charlotte May, Jo from Belgium, Wendy from the Netherlands, Jokobl (is that right?), Penny, Catherine, Maria and Michael, Samantha, Tracey from Bristol, Ray, Marjolijn and Guinea pig (hi back and you are more than welcome!), Efe, Karin, Nadine, Linda and everyone else who sent one that I can’t find now (they end up being looked at by everyone and in various parts of the house but they are ALL appreciated!). Special thanks to Becky Fisher and Imogen and Ben who write constantly and send things to Emily and Ben. Thanks as always go to Sarah G and also to Jenny for all her letters this last two months. Thanks for all the Special Memory pressies and thanks again to Imogen and Ben who regularly spoil Ben with little gifts.

We wish all the other Pals and families our best wishes… especially those in hospital at the moment.

Update 5th January 2011

Dominic has been up and down the last few months. As always, he enjoyed the run up to Christmas, but over the Christmas period when he was off school he wasn’t very happy on the whole, and neither was his sister. It’s their Autistic tendencies coming out and teenage hormones.

This year will be the year of Dominic’s operation and I am waiting to find out when it will happen. We’ve heard that GOSH can’t do any dental work whilst Dom has the op which we had hoped would be possible. I will update better next month when I’ve caught up.

I am totally overwhelmed with the cards Dominic and his siblings have received. There have been lots received from all over the world after people have been told about Dominic by ‘Jo from Belgium’ so thank you so much Jo. We have had lots of cards from Sarah, as always, who always finds the time to write lovely long descriptive letters to Dominic and the rest of the family and Ray and Marjolijn who also send lots of cards and gifts. Thanks also to Kim (L), Anne Calico and Despina for their cards as always and Becky Fisher and Imogen and Ben for writing and sending things to Emily and Ben. Emily WILL be writing back Becky. Thanks also for Ben’s Reindeer letters. He enjoyed having them read to him despite saying Reindeer and Santa all the way through.

Just HUGE thanks to everyone for the cards in November and December including ones from Tjitske, one from Germany, Isa, Opitz, Nancy, Fabian and Smudge, Erin from France, one from Malaysia, Jo K, Svetlana, Olga, 2 from Finland… which all mentioned Jo from Belgium. Also, huge thanks to Jessica, Helen T, Juno, Annie, the Homberg family, Michelle P and family, Barbara, Marli, Mummy and Daddy, Carol and Kim’s Grandma for the lovely Aladdin handmade card. Thanks also to Dominic and Gethin for their card and lovely photo, what handsome lads.

We’ve had a lot of cards from a school too. I think they are all from Maltby Academy but one mentions Rolleston as well so I’m not sure. Anyway… there are SO MANY names signed in these cards I would be here all day mentioning each one but classes/forms mentioned are… Rolleston 9, Mrs Richards and Form RO14, BE12 and Matt, Joe L, Miss Lovel and YO7.

There are some cards with foreign postmarks that I can’t read the names on but thanks anyway. Dom only really looks at the pictures and drawings anyway.

I would like to say a special thank you to Christine for her lovely letter regarding Dominic’s upcoming spinal op and her personal experience, it was very helpful. Thanks for your thoughtfulness.

Again… thanks so much to Maltby Academy for their bits and pieces and Imogen and Ben who regularly send bits to Ben. Also, Ben got a lovely parcel of Thomas bits and a festive book and crayons from Jeanette, Peter, Adam, Richard and Louise. We also had lovely presents arrived from Grace and family (including the dog and guinea pig) and Kay, Simon, Aimee and Lucy. Thanks too to Jessica for your presents and to Ray and Marjolijn and family who sent a very huge, heavy parcel of allsorts from the Netherlands for the kids. It must have cost a fortune and I can’t tell you how grateful we all are. Fat chance of the birds getting the edible bits in this house! 🙂

Update 6th November 2010

I haven’t updated for a couple of months as September was a ‘getting settled back in school’ month and sorting out the numerous things that need sorting out when you get married and have to notify the whole world.

In September Dominic had a sleep study at the Brompton. We had to stay overnight and he had to be wired up to test his lung functions and breathing. It was actually lovely to spend time alone with Dominic in a private room. I caught up on my cross stitching for Love Quilts. Anyway, Dominic was a star and very happy and relaxed there. The next morning we were told that his oxygen and breathing levels are all 99% which is fantastic news. I have to say that the staff in the Royal Brompton were fantastic and made a potentially difficult stay almost enjoyable.

Dominic was then at GOSH last Wednesday and had another spinal X ray. It showed his spine had curved further and therefore in the consultation with the specialists after the X ray, we discussed Dominic having spinal surgery. This will be in Dominic’s best interests as he will be in pain the more his spine curves, which it seems will happen without surgery. He will have 2 rods put in his back and be in GOSH for 10 days (on average) unless there are complications and he will be off school roughly 6/8 weeks. They have said he will have his pre op assessment in the New Year and then the surgery will be a matter of weeks later. The Specialist said that he was a perfect candidate for it as his heart and lungs aren’t affected much so far. I had hoped he could have the surgery done in Stanmore which would make it easier for me to go between the hospital and home, but they want him to have it done in GOSH due to his extra needs (his severe learning difficulties) and they feel they can give him and me better care at GOSH. It’s getting in and out and parking that worries me… especially after getting another parking ticket (this time it was despite being on a single yellow line with my disabled badge showing). The Camden traffic wardens need a lesson in humanity and I shall be appealing, especially after speaking to a nice traffic warden who was disgusted that someone gave me a ticket and took my details to help me, bless him. SHAME ON YOU WHOEVER GAVE ME A TICKET!

Most of Dominic’s cards this last two months have been from the ladies who never forget or fail to keep in touch with Dominic and/or his siblings and me… Christine from the USA, Anne Calico, Marjolijn and the very lovely Sarah Gilligan who writes and sends gifts to the kids several times a month. I can’t thank you ladies enough on behalf of the kids and myself. Thanks also to Heather Wright for her lovely chatty card. Thanks so much to Miss Walter and Emma, Holly, Onie, Aimee, Jack, Daniel, Hayden, Eloise, Jade, Tom, Jay and Kaya from the class of S11 at The Westlands school in Sittingbourne Kent for their lovely letter. Thanks to Sarah G (again!) for her poems to all the kids also to Uzair! Thanks so much to everyone who sent a gift for Dominic this month and in September. All were appreciated and Dom loves getting all these little nick nacks. Any that he can’t use the other kids benefit from. Thanks to Post Pals (and Kate D) for the kids Halloween packs. Dom loved the light changing ghost and the girls drove me mad with the vampire teeth. Ben liked the pumpkin torch. Well thought out. Thanks to Imogen and Ben and Lisa and Olivia for all their bits sent to Ben and to Becky for her letters and cards to Emily who is going to write back. If I have missed mentioning anyone who has sent something I am so sorry. The cards and letters get passed around for everyone to read and some get mislaid before I can make a note, but please rest assured all are gratefully received.

Love and best wishes to all the Pals, especially the featured ones. A special hug and strengthening vibes to the very brave Jaz L and her equally brave Mum, Jade. Thinking of you.

Update 1st September 2010

Dominic has had a quiet few months medically. He turned 16 last week whilst we were on holiday in Felpham near Bognor. We took him to the Amberley Museum and Heritage Centre and he loved it. The weather wasn’t too bad, other than one downpour that day, and the Museum was pretty quiet. He loved the old buses, trains etc and there was so much room he could scoot around on his wheelchair to his hearts desire. When we got back to our holiday home Dominic was sooo excited when we sang Happy Birthday to him (he normally flips out) and he blew out the candles on his cake… persevering when they didn’t blow out straight away. I don’t think he’s ever had such an enjoyable birthday and it made me very happy to see him happy.

My partner, Jamie, and I also got married on holiday. We hadn’t told anyone other than my sister that we were going to do it and it was hard to keep it secret and took a lot of organizing. Dominic looked very handsome and smart in his trousers, shirt and waistcoat.

Dominic goes back to school on Monday which I think he will be pleased about. He has a sleep study at the Brompton this month (September) which will determine when he will be having his spinal operation.

Thank you so much for all Dominic’s birthday cards this month and thanks to everyone who has written to Dominic. He can’t write back due to his severe learning difficulties and I just haven’t had the time to reply the last few months, but each and every letter and note is very much appreciated. Thank you for all the little gifts, not only Dominic, but for the ones his siblings have received too. The football doorbell that was sent to Ben is now on his bedroom door and has ‘Come on lads’ (due to it being a football) recorded on it in his voice and he’s got a fantastic rap going with it.

Love and best wishes, as always, to all the Post Pals and families, especially the featured Pals who are having a tougher than normal time at the moment.

Update 30th June 2010

Thanks this month to our faithful Sarah G and Kim L who NEVER forget Dom and his siblings. Thanks also to Nicola (West Midlands) and Christine (Florida). Thanks so much for the Power Rangers pack. I couldn’t find a name on it. Dom has been playing with it. Thanks also to the Nitrol team for the goodie bag.

I am so sorry for missing the party on Saturday. It looks like the sun shone for you all and the balloon release looked breathtaking and was a fitting tribute to the beautiful Angels who have lost their fight against illnesses over the years. I just don’t think Dom would have coped very well with it. He’s not good with crowds due to his Autistic tendencies.

Update 7th June 2010

Just a quick update as I’ve had Dom’s Echo Cardiograms results. His heart hasn’t got any worse since the last Echo in Jan 2009 and has, in fact, improved probably due to the Perindopril he’s been taking since last year, so that is great news. This isn’t 100% official yet as the Consultant needs to go over the readings etc but they hardly ever find anything different apparently. This does mean that his heart is OK to have the spinal operation and after another chat tonight with the Neuromuscular Nurse at GOSH, I think that they would like to do it sooner rather than later. In the long run it’s much better for him. We just need him to have this sleep study and get the results from that.

Update 4th June 2010

Dominic had his annual review at school last week which was very interesting. He stays at his school until he’s 19 but we have to start thinking about where he would go afterwards. He’s growing up so quickly.

Dominic had a very busy, stress filled day at GOSH yesterday. He had a Scoliosis appointment, a spinal x-ray and an Echo Cardiogram. In total we waited for 5 hours. Dom’s Echo appointment was supposed to be at 12.30pm and we got in a 3.15pm. The poor lad was so patient too despite being really hungry. In the end I had to feed him in the waiting room. It was all so much easier when the Neuromuscular Clinic was at Hammersmith Hospital. Due to Dom’s learning difficulties he doesn’t understand that we are at hospital to try and help him, so obviously when he is messed about he gets very scared and retaliates at times. When he’s waiting for a long time he gets more and more tense.

Anyway, I digress. I don’t know his Echo results yet but hope to have those through in the next day or so. Last time his heart had deteriorated slightly but I’m hoping there’s not been much change since then.

His Spinal x-ray showed that despite the body brace his Scoliosis had got worse. It was very clear to see when they put his last 2 x-rays together. Normally they would operate on his spine without question but because of Dominic’s Learning Difficulties I have to make the decision on whether or not he should have it done. If he doesn’t he will be in pain when it bends even more which they expect it will do as it has despite wearing the brace. The surgery depends on what results come back from the Echo and also the results from his baseline lung/heart sleep study, which has come through at the Brompton Hospital in September, as if the heart and/or lungs are affected too much they may not risk the anesthetic, as it can be risky anyway for boys with DMD. So we have an appointment coming for Oct/Nov (after the results are in for both) to have another x-ray and see the Neuromuscular consultants to discuss and decide what to do from there. It will certainly be a busy latter part of 2010 by the looks of it.

Despite changing to Adult care after August (when Dominic’s 16) they will be operating at GOSH, which is good at least. It concerns me greatly that Dominic will have to be with adults after August whenever he needs medical care as mentally he is younger than a lot of kids half his age. He needs the DVDs, toys, books and so on that you get on a Children’s ward. It is also so unfair because he has Autistic tendencies so doesn’t react well to any change at all. Fun times ahead I think.

We’re thinking of all Dom’s fellow Post Pals who are having a hard time at the moment.

Thanks to Debbie from Shrewsbury, Despina, Penny, Jenny Flack and old faithfuls Kim (Ginger that was) and Sarah G. Thanks to Stephanie and family, Guy Townsend AKA ‘Naughty Schoolboy’, Matt B (who sent a fantastic drawing!), Blake H, Marjolijn and family, Jonathon and another Dominic. I hope to reply to some of the letters etc on behalf of Dominic but if I don’t get chance to I would like you to know how grateful we all are to everyone of you sends a card, letter, gift or email.

Update 5th May 2010

I would like to make sure that everyone who sends a few lines, card, gift… anything to Dominic and/or his siblings… knows that it is gratefully appreciated. I would love to personally write and thank everyone but I just don’t have the time but that doesn’t mean I am complacent.

Dominic received a beautiful quilt from Love Quilts who make up cross stitched quilts for a lot of poorly children from all over including Post Pals. It is just gorgeous and totally personal to him. We chose Disney Characters as the theme and I attempted my first cross stitch square and did Captain Hook for it. I’m quite impressed with it for a first attempt. Dominic just loves it. Thanks to everyone at Lovequilts and all the stitchers… especially Kat who put it together. I am now a Lovequilt stitcher and have done 2 other squares for other quilts. I’m on my 4th square. It felt only right after doing one for Dom that I should do some for other kids.

Dom has had a quiet few months medically. He has a big appointment at the beginning of June when he will have an echo and a spinal x-ray. I have also had an assessment appointment through for the Brompton Hospital which is next week. This is because he will be going in to have a sleep study soon to test his lung function. Boys with Duchenne need nighttime ventilation at some point and this is to see where we are at as regards to Dom’s lung function. At present he just takes Perindopril nightly to slow his heart down and take some pressure off it. It will be a busy month for Dominic.

I would like to express my families deepest sympathies to Holly’s, Jamie’s, Madison’s, Sophie’s and Kian’s families. Such a sad time with so many special angels passing away the last few months. I’ve just found out that Rhianna passed away today too. Sweet dreams beautiful girl and condolences to her family. It’s just heartbreaking.

Thanks for all the cards received over and around Easter. As always the constant and caring Sarah G and Kate D sent a few as did Kim (can’t get used to your name change!). We ALL love the Tiger card. It is just brilliant! Thanks also to Marjolyn, Libby, Margret, Garry and Julie. After Post Pals was on Russell Howard’s Good News, Dominic has received a fair few Emails. I have replied to some on behalf of Dominic. Forgive me for not replying personally to all of them. Dominic has severe learning difficulties and so cannot reply personally but we are very grateful for all emails received and the fact you’ve taken time out to send them means a lot to us. It was also great to see Viks get praise that she truly deserves on Russell Howard’s Good News. Well done to a special lady. I would like to thank Chezz for her fantastic letter and drawing of Mickey Mouse. Dom loved the drawing and the girls thought your letter was lovely. I would like to thank Becki for my Mother’s Day package. The DVD has been played and sung along to. Thanks so much. Ben would like to thank Leo for his photo and bits and pieces. Leo looks as cheeky and cute as Ben! Thanks also to Karen for Ben’s book.

Update 10th March 2010

Apologies for the lack of an update last month. It was a pretty quiet one.

In February Dom had an appointment at GOSH with Professor Muntoni. It went pretty well. Dominic’s upper body movement remains good for his condition. It could be a lot worse. They feel that Dom needs a more intense sleep study at the Brompton as I mentioned that he isn’t eating breakfast so much and was stroppy tired first thing in a morning. This could be a sign that his breathing has deteriorated further. This will happen in the latter part of the year I think.

Due to Dominic turning 16 this year, it was discussed about Dominic having to move to another clinic, as GOSH is a children’s hospital. So, we will probably go to the Neuromuscular hospital behind, as that’s where Dominic’s used to going. He doesn’t adapt to change very easily because of his autistic tendencies.

They couldn’t fit in an Echocardiogram so he has been booked for one of those on his next appointment at GOSH (which is 2nd June) at the scoliosis clinic when he will also have another spinal X-ray.
Dom has also had an appointment at the Wheelchair services where, at long last, we have got his seating right. We’ve had huge problems with his legs splaying and so his ankles have started turning in. We now have arms that come off his foot plates and push his knees in. His posture is much better now and should hopefully help avoid his feet hurting because of turning in.

Dominic’s older sister has now started a new school and appears to have been accepted and is a lot happier. Hope it stays that way.

I would like to thank everyone who has taken the time to drop a card, letter or gift to Dominic and/or his siblings. I cannot tell you how much we appreciate it. Thank you for Emily’s birthday cards too. We are grateful to everyone but would like to mention Marjolijn who sent some lovely Valentines gifts to all the kids. They loved their nik naks. Also, thank you so much to Hannah who goes to Birmingham University for the books she sent with a lovely little note. Thanks also to Kelly Han. I would also like to mention Sarah G who regularly sends Dominic and his siblings cards and photos and bits and pieces. She is a lovely lady. A recent picturesque photo received of the canal outside her house has made me green with envy though.

I would like to send my thoughts, prayers and love to both Sophie’s and Madison’s families… and the precious girls themselves. I hope they are comfortable and pain free… It is the least they deserve. Whatever your beliefs, it makes you question them sometimes.

Update 18th January 2010

Once again, I just want to thank all the wonderful people who sent cards, gifts, letters, e mails and wrote messages on here for Dominic over Christmas… and, in fact, all year round. Also, huge thanks for all Dominic’s siblings gifts and cards. You have no idea what a difference you make to all their lives. Having a very poorly brother/sister is really hard on the siblings and they deal with a lot more than their peers.

We are thinking of other Pals i.e. Jon Paul and the featured Pals this month, who appear to be having a pretty tough time at the moment.

Update 3rd January 2010

Sorry for the lack of an update last month. I’ve had such a busy few months with one thing or another. Dominic’s sister has been home since the end of November due to bullying and I’m trying to get her in to a new school. We also had Dom’s Disneyland Paris ‘dream’ at the beginning of December kindly organized by The Dream Factory. It was very beautifully set out, exciting but stressful, and we had an awful situation occur while trying to meet Santa but were rewarded with a special Meet and Greet with Mickey Mouse and Friends where they interacted with Dominic, his siblings, cousins and the rest of us privately for 15 minutes. It was amazing. I had a mad rush to get organized for Christmas once coming home though which is why I never had time to update.

Dominic loves the build up to Christmas but once it arrives he gets very angry and has temper tantrums as it’s out of his routine. This is due to his autistic tendencies (due to having Severe Learning Difficulties) but it’s very hard to deal with.

He loved all his presents though and everything that was sent was appreciated. My other children are really pleased with all their gifts from the elves and other Post Pals Supporters and have asked me to say a huge ‘Thank you’ to everyone. You are all amazing. All the messages and letters are much appreciated and I’m so sorry that Dominic can’t reply to them personally.

Including all the cards from the reindeers and elves for Dominic and his siblings we received a lot of cards and I would like to thank everyone for taking the time out of a stressful Christmas to put a smile on my kids’ faces. The reindeer cards were so well thought out and interesting and enjoyed by everyone. It’s overwhelming. I’d like to not only thank people for any letters received but also for the emails Dominic has received too. In all, Dominic and his siblings received over 20 presents… I’m not sure how many but there was a Post Pals sack from Father Christmas with presents for all of them in to open Christmas Day. Emily did very well out of it. Thank you so much everyone. I have a few ‘doubled up’ presents my kids received from friends that will be winging their way to other Post Pals.

For some reason we have started getting really bad shocks off Dominic from the wheelchair so I need to look into this. We have a wheelchair seating assessment this week and also a GOSH appointment coming up in February. Dominic appears to have a tender area at the base of his spine. He is seated in a Jay Cushion, which is gel filled and therefore not hard, so I don’t know why this is and I will mention that at both appointments.

In the meantime I would like to wish everyone a Happy New Year and let all the Pals who are having a real tough time at the moment know we are thinking about them.

Update 9th November 2009

Dominic’s October was pretty busy. We collected his Body Brace, which was pretty painless, and it fits him much better than the other one did. It fits him too well actually, as it now restricts his upper body movement, and so he is finding it hard to eat as he can’t bend down to his food. His upper arm muscles have also deteriorated and he can’t lift his hand to his mouth, so I need to get something sorted for that and have left a message asking his OT to get in touch. At present I’m putting books under his elbow so it lifts his arm higher.

Dominic had a visit at the Community Dental Clinic and it seems doubtful that he will have his front tooth mended where he broke it in temper on holiday. The local hospital won’t sedate a child with DMD. The only options would be to have it done at GOSH or leave it. At present we are leaving it as it isn’t really bothering him (although it did at first) and it is one less thing for him to have to go through.

Dominic started on the Perindopril for his heart 2 weeks ago and so far there doesn’t seem to be any side effects, thankfully. This reduces Dominic’s blood pressure and therefore reduces the hearts work, as according to his last Echocardiogram, Dominic’s hearts muscles have started to become affected by his condition.

Dominic broke his wheelchair in temper last week. His temper since hitting 15 in August is unbelievable. Too many hormones now! He steered it into a wall at school and broke the footplate off. Anyway, Whizz Kids sent their repair company out and mended it on Friday so it’s brilliant again now.

Thanks to everyone involved with Post Pals… especially Viks (who I never knew much about until finding her and Post Pals on Facebook) as she really is a selfless and amazing lady.

Huge thanks for all post this month. A special mention for Kim Ginger who sends things for Dominic and his siblings regularly. All post is very much appreciated. I would like to thank Sara Gilligan for her lovely letter last month after she saw I was having a bit of a hard time. It was very kind of her to think of me and I was touched.

Update 6th October 2009

Dominic went to GOSH a few weeks ago to be cast for his new body brace. To say it was a drama is an understatement, and if I’d known, I would have gone into training. They have NO hoisting equipment in the Orthotics department which caters for hundreds of children in wheelchairs, so we had to lift Dominic onto a bed and then back again… and then on the bed and back again. He is 15 years old and weighs over 9 stone and is a dead weight. The whole experience was challenging. Also, due to his SLD, he hates hospitals as he doesn’t really understand that we go to help him and he doesn’t comply easily. We got him cast eventually but I was totally worn out and had a job to drive home and Dom was very fraught!

Anyway, I’ve got to take him back on 14th October so he can have a fitting.

Dominic’s behaviour has been a lot more challenging of late .He seems to get angry and frustrated more and it’s quite hard to deal with at times. I try hard to be understanding etc but I’m not a robot and sometimes it’s hard not to let it get to me. I enjoy his odd nights respite much more than I used to and it makes me feel guilty for even saying that.

Thank you, as always, to everyone who has taken time out to send a card or letter to Dominic and my other children. You are all amazing and very thoughtful. God bless you all.

Love and hugs to all the very poorly Post Pals. Thinking of you all and your families.

Update 1st September 2009

I apologise for the delay in updating Dominic’s page. The month before school broke up was a tough one due to my eldest daughter being bullied at school, and then as all you parents will know, the holidays are busy and I have been totally distracted.

We had a family holiday in Weymouth at the beginning of August. The weather was dire but the company was good. The one downside being that Dominic re broke his front tooth throwing his head forwards in temper, so I have got to try and get that sorted as it is irritating him. He has an appointment at the dentist next week.

Dominic turned 15 last week too. We took him on Leighton Buzzard steam railway, which he enjoyed despite the wasp invasion, and then we had a family party at home. I always find Dominic’s birthday very bittersweet and quite hard. I don’t want him to get older with the nature of his condition.

To add to the stress, we ended up in A&E as the baby, Ben, fell off a chair and cracked his head open on the path. He’s fine now though after they glued it.

Health wise Dominic is OK. He has an appointment at GOSH tomorrow at the scoliosis clinic. I think he will probably need to be cast for a new brace as this one doesn’t seem to fit him very snugly. Hopefully this one has stopped his spine curving any further though. He also has someone going into the school next week from Wheelchair Services to view his seating. I still don’t think he is seated as well as he could be.

We would like to send Madison and her family our deepest love and strengthening thoughts through this very tough time. We are following her updates closely and we would do anything to change things for her if we could. Life is very cruel at times.

As always we are grateful for all post received. The kids all get a huge kick out of the fact that strangers are taking the trouble to write to them and send them bits and pieces. Thanks to an American school for all the postcards received. It was lovely of you all to take time out and write to someone overseas. Aurora (beautiful name)… Dominic would love to write to you but he can’t write. However, he has a 12 year old sister who I’m sure would love to write to you, especially as she has been looking for a penpal from overseas. If you could email me your address that would be great as I can’t find it.

Thank you everyone for all the lovely cards, as always. Particularly for Dom’s birthday cards. Thanks to the lovely person in Japan who sent ‘lollipop’ facecloths to all my children, Ben included. Thanks too for all the stickers received recently.

Update 3rd June 2009

Thankfully Dominic has had a quiet month this month… especially after last month. There has been no changes in his condition and no appointments. At his last appointment at GOSH they told me his last echocardiogram in January showed there was a decrease in his heart functioning, so Dominic will be starting Perindopril soon to reduce pressure in his blood vessels, so his heart doesn’t have to work so hard to pump blood round his body.

I have had a major disappointment after thinking I had, at last, found a carer who could take Dominic out in an adapted vehicle once a month. A community nursing service offered a carer for Dominic in September last year and after setting up direct payments and repeatedly trying to get hold of them, I have just received a letter saying they can’t do it now. So Dominic is back to never going out without his family, which he needs to as he is a 14 year old lad. We have had one bad experience after another with carers. I feel so sorry for him as his quality of life is affected and quality of life is so important as his condition is life limitting. Why is everything such a fight?

Thanks this month to Kim for another gadget type card she sent for Dom, he loves it.

I would like to say how sorry I am to hear about Jack B. I had been following his progress. Deepest Sympathy to his Mum, Dad, brother and sister. We’re thinking of them all.

Update 12th May 2009

Dominic has had a busy month this month with appointments etc. He had his main 6 monthly GOSH M.O.T. I received the results from the recent sleep study I did at home and also from his last Echocardiogram in February.

On the downside, his heart has deteriorated a bit. This means he will be taking medication to slow his heart rate down to take the stress off it a bit. There are a few side affects with this medication i.e. dizziness, but he will be taking it at night so it shouldn’t affect him too much, as he will be asleep shortly after he’s taken it. He will have another Echocardiogram later in the year.

The positive news is that the sleep study showed his breathing is very good, with only one dip in 10 hours, which the Doctor told me anyone could have, so that’s great news. The sleep study will be repeated again in January I think. It’s so hard sometimes to take in all the information given on the day, but I will get a report home re that appointment soon and if I’ve missed anything out I will update again.

Another bonus was that I took Dom to the Orthotics clinic while we were there and got his body brace adjusted under his arms, so it is much more comfortable now. They said that it wasn’t a perfect fit as GOSH had cut the hole at the front out too big, so he will need another one very soon and will need to be cast again… which he HATED last time.

Dominic also had an appointment at the wheelchair clinic who have agreed to give us a cushion for his powered chair, as well as keeping the one for his manual chair (which he hasn’t used since getting the powered chair!). He has been measured accurately for it and we are waiting for it to be delivered now. It will make a huge difference to his posture, which is so important as his feet are turning in which is painful for him and correct seating keeps his knees together and therefore his feet flat.

Dominic and I went to Locktons in London at the beginning of April so that Whizz Kids could thank the Company and its employees for raising the money to provide Dominic and, I think, four other children with wheelchairs, which makes a huge difference to their quality of life. In Dominic’s case it is so important as his condition is degenerative. The employees at Locktons were very welcoming and very pleased to see Dominic and another little boy who was there in their wheelchairs and see firsthand the difference that their generosity has made to their lives. I mentioned to a few of them that Dominic was on Post Pals and what Post Pals was about and so if any of them are reading this I would like to thank them, and Whizzkids, from the bottom of my heart for giving Dominic his independence back and giving him a better quality of life. I would also like to apologize for Dominic’s ‘near misses’ as he careered around the room in the chair, narrowly missing taking a few of the staff down.

As always, a ‘Huge Thanks’ to everyone who takes the time to buy/make and send things to brighten not only Dominic’s but his siblings lives too. Thanks to Post Pals for making it happen. They all get so excited opening things and although Dominic doesn’t really understand what Post Pals is, the girls do and they are so amazed and grateful that people they have never met are sending them gifts and cards. Dominic’s condition is hard on them too at times as they worship their elder brother… as do I! Thanks to everyone for the lovely cards. Although this month we are very disappointed with some dishonest Post Office Workers who have slit open the edge of some of the thicker cards obviously hoping to find money. Dominic had another great cat letter from Tracey which was very much appreciated and thank you so much Sarah G for all the books which are all being put to good use, it’s so kind of you.

Update 31st March 2009

We have a busy month coming up with Dominic having a Whizz Kids presentation in London next week and another appointment at GOSH. STILL no sleep study and I’m STILL trying to get his body brace trimmed. Nothing is ever straightforward.

Special thanks this month to Sarah for my Mothers day card and poem. Only Dominic had made me a card at school as everyone else forgot… so that was very well received. I made sure they made up for it though! Dom had a great Easter sticker card from Kim. We can’t promise that he won’t be eating a lot of chocolate, Kim! Thanks for Tracey’s letter to Dominic with the pictures of cats on. It is soooo screwed up where he has looked at it over and over. He likes letters if they have plenty of pictures on.

Update 4th March 2009

It’s been a pretty quiet month this month with hospital appointments etc. I am STILL chasing up his sleep study. Why this is proving to be such a drama I really don’t know but GOSH will not be happy. It is so important that his breathing is checked regularly at this age with his condition.

Dom is still wearing the body brace everyday although it is rubbing him under the arms now so it will need trimming… something else I need to chase up.

Dom has also been to the Dentist this month and his teeth are OK other than he has one that is behind the others as there is no room for it to come through. Under normal circumstances they would remove it but Dominic wouldn’t tolerate having it taken out and, with his condition, General Anaesthetic is avoided unless absolutely necessary, so it is being left as it doesn’t seem to be causing him problems.

I hope the snow didn’t cause everyone else as much disruption as it did us.

Special thanks this month go to the people who sent Emily birthday cards. She was really impressed that she got cards from people who saw it was her birthday on here and particularly loved the one from Maria that had an ‘E’ cross stitched on the front with a ballerina (she loves ballet!). All her cards have been taken down but kept.

Supportive thoughts and best wishes to all the other Pals and families.

Update 5th February 2009

Dominic went to GOSH this month to the Neurology Scoliosis Clinic. He had two x-rays on his spine, one wearing his brace and one without, and it showed that the brace is improving his posture no end. His spine curvature has worsened since July partly because he’s only been wearing the brace a few months, and despite hoping that the brace will avoid the need for Dominic to have spinal surgery in the future, I was told that he probably would need to have surgery at some point. However, after speaking to the Neurological Nurse last week it may be something that I may have to opt out of for Dominic. Due to his Severe Learning Difficulties he wouldn’t tolerate the aftercare well or have any understanding of what was being done to him or why. Also, due to the fact that he has a life limiting condition, I want him to have a good quality of life rather than be in pain or discomfort. Hopefully I won’t have to make any decisions regarding this for a while yet.

He also had another Echocardiogram which showed that his heart was possibly a bit more affected than last time. However, at present I don’t have the exact results, as his last Echo was at Hammersmith and now the Duchenne Clinic is at GOSH and the last I heard they hadn’t compared the two.

Dominic has gone off having breakfast recently which I also mentioned to the Nurse and she said it can be a sign that his breathing is dipping more during the night. He needs a sleep study to determine this but I have spent the last year chasing this up as he was supposed to have one January 2008. As always these things become a battle. If it shows a marked difference in his breathing at night he will need further studies done. At some point he will have to have ventilation at night but I really hope that won’t be for a while and I’m not sure how he will tolerate that either.

On a high note, we picked up Dom’s new Indoor/Outdoor powered wheelchair kindly donated by Whizzkids and it is great. I wouldn’t mind one. I’m having trouble at the moment sorting out the transport clips as they are too small so he’s only been in it once, but hopefully by Monday he should be set to go.

Thank you for the cards and gifts this month, especially knowing what a hard month January is for a lot of people. Huge thanks for the lady who sent chocolate candles and an aromatherapy bath bomb for Dom, but every card and gift is appreciated immensely. Also, thank you to Post Pals for my little box of truffles. I would love to say that I was dieting after Christmas and had saved them, but they lasted about half an hour.

Update 7th January 2009

Dominic has a GOSH appointment this month and collects his new powered wheelchair.

As recently updated, I am overwhelmed by people’s generosity and goodwill and would like to say thank you.

One of my youngest daughter’s gifts was food for the reindeer from Santa so they would stop here. On Christmas Eve i went outside with her and we sprinkled it. She also got cards from the reindeer which she loved. Dominic got a few Christmas tree decorations and as he has his own little tree in his room as well as our main tree, we put them on that one. We also got an elf hamper full of presents.

Update 2nd January 2009

I’d like to say thank you so much for all Dominic’s cards and presents last month. I was in tears opening them with him when i saw that people had sent such nice gifts to someone they have never met before, including the things sent for the girls and Ben too. I am so touched and totally humbled.

Thanks to all of you marvellous people at Post Pals and all the wonderful, huge hearted people who read Post Pals and send things too.

Thank you and Happy New Year.

Update 2nd December 2008

Dominic now has his body brace which he has just started wearing over the last few days to try to prevent his spine from curving any further. He isn’t very keen on wearing it at all and I can’t say I’m surprised. It is very hard and rigid and restricts his upper body movement. He has to wear it at least 8 hours a day everyday. He also wears leg splints at school so I feel very sorry for him.

Dominic had a bug a few weeks ago which made him very lethargic and he wouldn’t eat as he was sick a lot. He seems to get a lot of the bugs that go around.

I put his Christmas decorations up in his bedroom last week as he adores Christmas, especially the run up to it, so he was very excited about that and watched ‘The Grinch’ about 10 times in a row.
Dominic is due his next GOSH appointment in January/February and at that time will need an echo to check his heart is still OK as that can become a problem as kids with DMD go into their teens, so we are hoping that it goes well.

Thank you for the cards and letters this month and also for the Disney 3D Viewers and the gifts for Dominic and my daughters, Vanessa and Emily. They were both very excited and grateful and wanted to say thank you.

Dominic and family would like to wish everyone at Post Pals, all the children who are part of Post Pals, their families, and all the lovely people who take the time to send a smile, a very HAPPY CHRISTMAS AND NEW YEAR!

Update 8th November 2008

Dominic now has his powered indoor wheelchair which has given him back some independence which is great. It will be even better when he gets an indoor/outdoor powered wheelchair from Whizzkids so he can stay in it permanently, but this one is great for the time being. He now has his leg splints too and wears them at school as he won’t tolerate wearing them at home. We went to GOSH this week to have a fitting for his body brace but it needed sending back to be adjusted. He recently had a few nights stay at Keech Cottage which he loved too.

We received cards and postcards from all over the world including America and Japan. Dominic loved looking at the pictures. We are very grateful and touched by people who have never met Dominic taking the time to send him something. Dom’s face when he has cards to open and look at is heart warming. The letters and E mails were lovely too. Me, my partner, and daughters, loved reading them and we read them to Dominic, but unless it’s short and basic he doesn’t understand. Thanks to everyone who has written to Dominic and I’m sorry that he can’t reply. Dom has had some lovely little toys from a few people – a bandana, torch keyrings, and Dominic and his sisters also received a little parcel of goodies from a lovely lady for which we are very grateful. Thanks to Kelly Davison for sending a beautiful Glo light elephant mobile which Dom loves.

We are very touched by people’s kindness in taking the time out to drop a line to Dominic and/or send a little gift. Post Pals is a fantastic idea.

Update 16th October 2008

Dominic has been very pleased to get back to school and see all his friends again.

He swims three times a week at school as it is very beneficial to keep his muscles loose and flexible. He seems to like spending most of the time in water with his head underneath the water which worries his teachers and assistants.

He went to be measured up for a powered wheelchair last week which will be funded by Whizz Kids as it is the price of a new car to buy. He had a test drive and kangaroo hopped a fair amount. He can easily use the controls but panics if it moves too fast.

He also went to GOSH two weeks ago to be cast for a body brace as his spine has started to curve and the Specialist wants to hopefully rectify it with the brace or at least stop it getting worse.

On behalf of Dominic, I would like to thank Tamaki, Linda B and Helen for the cards and Julie for the card and Bandana. It is so nice of you to take the time to buy/make, write and send things to my precious lad.

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Dylan S

15 July 2011

Story written 2006

Dylan was diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis at seven days old. His treatment regime was started the next day at the hospital. Dylan has twice daily chest physiotherapy, nebulised antibiotics and DNAse three times a day, inhalers at least twice a day, oral vitamins once a day, a proton pump inhibitor drug once a day to treat his reflux, oral antibiotics three times a day, capsules to digest food with every meal, and he has to have a high fat, high calorie diet. He also often needs courses of steroids for his asthma or intravenous antibiotics for frequent chest infections.

Dylan had so many intravenous antibiotics by the age of 9 1/2 months old that his veins were collapsing whenever they were accessed, so he had to have surgery to fit a portacath in his chest, which sits under the skin above his right breast and delivers drugs straight into his jugular vein. This portacath became infected on the 9th of September this year, and so Dylan had to undergo more surgery to remove the port and fit another one.

Dylan requires a lot of care, and goes through an immense amount of trauma both in his daily life, to endure all his many treatments, and when he is unwell. When unwell, he often needs to stay in hospital (the more recent was a two week hospital stay in September 2006) and he finds this distressing. When on intravenous antibiotics he also requires many blood tests, which terrify him. He also has regular cough swabs which he finds uncomfortable, as he can’t cough on demand yet, so the swab has to be taken from the back of his throat.

When he has a chest infection or his asthma gets bad, he can often be up all night coughing and wheezing, coughing until he is sick, making him very miserable. When he is unwell like this he needs a lot of inhalers, and high calorie drinks to boost his calorie/fat intake so he doesn’t lose too much weight.

Update January 2014

Dylan is now in Year 4 of Primary School and although he finds school difficult, because of his learning disabilities, he tries his absolute hardest, is cheerful and hardworking, and is making steady progress. His teacher is full of praise for him and we are very proud of him. He enjoys PE, swimming and music at school, and loves getting creative. He still loves his Lego more than anything and takes it everywhere with him!

When he’s well, he also enjoys his disability football club, his modern dance class, church club, and Sunday school. He is really loving and kind, and loves to spend time with his family, both here and in Wales.

His autism still throws lots of spanners in the works, but he is getting to know himself and finding some coping mechanism which work well in some instances.

His CF is obviously an ongoing concern and at present he is fighting his first Staph Aureus infection, and recovering from a little bowel blockage on New Years Day. However, Dylan always meets his CF challenges head on, and he rarely lets it get him down. He is amazingly resilient and rarely gets discouraged. He is a true CF Warrior.

Adrian, Dylan and I would like to thank everyone who has sent letters, cards, postcards and/or gifts to Dylan from 2006 to now. We are so very grateful. He has loved receiving all the items you have so kindly taken the time and money to send, and your support has cheered him when he has been going through tough times.

And now, as Dylan is getting older and his health is generally stable, we would like to thank you all once again for your overwhelming support, and wish you all the very best for the future. THANK YOU xx

Update 24th August 2013

Dylan has had a very stable few months, with only a few minor blips. In mid-April, he developed a sore throat which gave him a nasty cough for a few weeks and required a trip to the hospital for a lung function check, but his lung function was stable at 79%, so he was prescribed a three week course of oral Ciprofloxacin. Unfortunately, this gave him some serious photosensitivity and he burned himself badly on a few occasions over the three weeks while at school. It wasn’t overly sunny, and he was only outdoors at playtime, with a hat and factor 50 sun cream on, but he still burned very badly on his face, neck and ears, to the point of blistering, so he had to stay indoors and I had to order him a Factor 50 fabric legionnaire style sun hat to protect him.

In mid-May, he had his port flushed and he also had his annual review chest x-ray and ultrasound, ready for his June annual review appointment. At his appointment, he was 142.2 cms tall, weighed 43.4 kgs, and his lung function was 76%. His x-ray showed no decline from the previous year, so the consultant was really pleased, as the last three or four years’ x-rays have shown definite decline, so that was a big victory. His ultrasound showed thick bile in his gall bladder, but as this hadn’t turned into gall stones, the doctor was happy to wait and see for now, rather than make any medication changes. His doctor increased his Azithromycin dose to 500mg three times a week and said that due to his displaying more and more severe side effects when taking Ciprofloxacin (his last few courses have caused him extreme photosensitivity, rashes and itching, sleep disturbances, irritability, joint pains, etc), he is no longer allowed to take this particular drug, and that in future, if he requires such an antibiotic, he will have Septrin or Augmentin. If he grows Pseudomonas, then he’ll just be put straight onto IV antibiotics, as he has his portacath. In general, he had a very positive annual review!

In early June he had an asthma attack while at disability football club, and at the end of the month he developed a bad cough, which hung around for a few weeks, causing a bad cough, which wasn’t helped by a trip to London in early July, as London air always sets his chest off, and so he required many, many doses of his reliever inhaler while away in London, but once we got back to our sea air, his chest settled down again.

Dylan had his port flushed again on 10th July, and from then to now, in late August, we’ve seen far more autistic symptoms than we have CF symptoms. His CF seems to have settled down for a while, but due to the summer holidays and coping with changes, he has struggled with things like dance performances and extra rehearsals, boat trips, waiting for things, waiting before and after Holiday Bible Club sessions, and changes of plan. Hopefully this will settle down once he gets back to school and can settle into his new class. I’m hoping that as his new teacher taught his older sister Seren, three years ago, he might get to know and understand Dylan and his CF and autism a little easier than some other teachers have.

Dylan had another CF Clinic visit on 2nd August and he was 144.3 cms tall, weighed 43.4 kgs again, and his lung function was back up to 79% which is pretty much his current best. He recently enjoyed a lovely holiday in West Wales, he particularly enjoyed playing on Pendine beach, going on the rides at Oakwood Theme Park and in Folly Farm, watching the Perseids meteor shower (it coincided with a night where his Melatonin tablets didn’t work too well!), and go karting at Heatherton Activity Centre. After his go karting experience, he told me he’s ready for big car lessons!

We’re looking forward to celebrating Dylan’s 9th birthday with him on the 2nd September.

Thank you to Bradleigh, Nadine Marshall, Marty Longo, Jessica, Dee, Eleanor, Karen (Sami), Libby, Angela, Natashja, Summer, Fraser, Iain, Alex & Adam, Julie S, Debbie and Harriet for all the lovely cards you have sent to Dylan, he absolutely loves opening cards! It makes him feel like every day is his birthday! Thank you also to whoever sent him the Lego card! Thank you to Julie, Karen (Sami), Sarah G, Kathryn, Emily, Luca Parmitano, Becky Rideout, Sabrina, Julianne, Bhaavya, Soo Min, and Mrs Hill for the postcards you sent.

Thank you to Louie, Sarah G, Isis, Sofia, Natashja, Year 7 of All Saints Academy, Plymouth, and Northwold Primary, London, for the letters.

Thank you to Nadine Marshall for the joke book; to Isis for the badge and stickers; to Dee for the stickers; to Kathryn for the plane; to Heather C for the postcard puzzle; to Luca Parmitano for the planets picture; to Natashja for the Lego minifigure and SpongeBob poster painting book; to Summer for the Buzz Lightyear lego; to Northwold Primary for the 9 pictures; and to Julie S for the SpaceQuest movie kit!

Update 10th April 2013

Dylan has had an up and down few months. On 17th December, he came down with a sore throat which turned into a bad cough which kept him off school for the last week of term. He was feeling brighter by 22nd December though, and he was able to enjoy Christmas at home and New Year in Wales. He came down with another bad cough in early January however, and a week later it was still quite wet. He was seen at CF Clinic on 14th January, and his lung function was pretty stable with an FVC of 93%, an FEV1 of 79% and an FEF50 of 56%. His chest sounded clear and so his doctors didn’t want to make any changes. His cough gradually cleared up, and in mid-February, we noticed that he was really starting to make some progress with his reading, which was amazing! On the 19th February, he developed yet another cough, which got worse over the course of a few days, and he had to have a day off school because of it on 26th February. He was feeling well enough for school the following day, but on 28th February, during a parents evening chat with his teacher, he mentioned that his cough was still bad. He had CF Clinic again the following day, and his lung function had dropped a little to an FVC of 87%, an FEV1 of 72%, and an FEF50 of 53%. His doctor could hear some mild crackles in his lungs, so he diagnosed a chest infection, and prescribed three weeks of extra antibiotics, Ciprofloxacin. The following day, we went to the park with the childrens’ new carer, but he wasn’t feeling well enough to play most of the time. His chest continued to be very nasty for almost two more weeks, and he reacted badly to the new antibiotics, with lots of side effects such as tiredness, grumpiness, sleepwalking, joint pains and itchy skin. The doctor reduced his dose from 750mg to 500mgs, and he got through the course, and by the end of it, his chest was much improved.

He was feeling much better by Easter, and he really enjoyed spending Easter in Wales, and then traveling to Skegness for Spring Harvest. He did struggle a bit at Spring Harvest with his autism, as it was so different to his normal routine, but he still had a lot of fun, and he is currently feeling well!

Thank you to Louise for the lovely Christmas card! Thank you to Marty Longo for the many cards he has sent to Dylan over the months, he’s getting to know your name very well! Thank you to Karen (Sami), Angel Touch Mail, Angela, Callum D, Julie & Alan S, whoever sent the Valentines card, Thomas’s London Day Schools, Emma & Hazel, Dee, Jai & Rio, Sophia, Andrea Rob & Jaiden, Sarah G, 1st Brantham Brownies, Laura J, Kati, Maria & Michael, Natashja, Mrs Hill and Tek for all the lovely cards you sent!!! Thank you to Lyndsay, Claudia in Germany, Claire Simon and Nathan, Samrana, AJ, Natashja, and Sarah G for the lovely postcards! Thank you to Kate, Bron and Sophie and someone else for the letters they sent. Unfortunately, he finds letters a bit difficult to read and understand, but it was very kind of you to send them. Thank you very much to Tracy, Helen T, Claire Connon, Tek, Jenny Mathiasson, Milton Cross School, Kym and someone else for the lovely Christmas presents you sent for Dylan! He absolutely loved them! Thank you Claudia in Germany, Angel Touch Mail, Claire Simon & Nathan, Julie & Alan S, Thomas’s London Day Schools, Charlotte, Bron, Sophie, Andrea Rob & Jaiden, 1st Brantham Brownies, Gareth B, and Tek for the lovely gifts you have sent to Dylan recently, they have made him feel very special!

Update 1st December 2012

Dylan’s had a pretty rough few months since I last updated. He had his annual CF review in early July, which was a mixed bag. He had grown and gained weight well, and his oxygen levels and cough swab were both fine, but his lung function had dropped all the way down to 70%, which was very close to his lowest ever lung function score. His smaller airways were shown to only be functioning at 51%, which is not good either. His ENT examination noted that he has polyps in his right nostril too, although they don’t seem to bother him too much. His Vitamin K levels were a bit low, so his consultant started him on vitamin K supplements three times a week, to prevent damage to his bones. His iron was also a little low, and his consultant increased his antibiotic doses. Due to his steadily declining lung function, his consultant decided to stop his pre-physio DNAse nebuliser and switch him to hypertonic saline, to see if it improved his lung function. He also prescribed some Desmopressin hormone tablets to help stop him producing so much urine overnight and leaking through his nappies and soaking the bed so frequently, but we are reluctant to use them, as if he takes them and then has a drink, he could become water toxic, which would be very dangerous, so for now, we’re coping with the wet beds for a bit longer.

Dylan started his hypertonic saline on 9th July, and tolerated it very well, even though Seren finds it very salty and won’t breathe it in, Dylan did really well with it! On 17th July, he was well enough to take part in his school sports day, and his team won, which he was very proud of!

On 23rd July, he developed a bad cough and was very tired after his football club, and on 24th July he went downhill quickly with a very high temperature of 38.9 degrees, which rose as high as 39.6 degrees by the evening. We took him to the GP and by that point he couldn’t walk unaided, was very sleepy, hadn’t eaten or drunk anything all day, and the GP was concerned that he might have septicaemia caused by another port infection, so we had to rush him to the hospital.

They admitted him overnight, took blood tests and cultures, and eventually he was found to have severe tonsilitis, but the following day when they tested his lung function, it was down to 68%, which was very worrying. They did discharge him, and he went back on the Friday, by which time his temperature had stabilised, his tonsils had healed, but he had developed a nasty viral rash, which prevented him from going to the hospice for his respite care stay that weekend. Instead, we vegged out at home and watched the Olympics opening ceremony, which he enjoyed.

He improved over the following weekend, and was well enough to attend Holiday Bible Club on 30th July, but he was too tired for his football club. The following weekend, 3rd to 5th August, we travelled to Wales for my friend’s wedding and he really enjoyed attending the evening wedding party for a few hours and dancing.

On 13th August, he had his physiotherapy annual review, and he passed his physical test, which we were relieved about. The physiotherapist suggested using his blue inhaler before his hypertonic saline nebulisers, to try and open his airways before his physio sessions.

The end of August was a very fun time for Dylan, as Donna’s Dream House treated us to an amazing family holiday in Blackpool! If you’d like to see what we got up to, then feel free to click the link and watch our photo slideshow …

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Dylan also celebrated his 8th birthday in Blackpool, with a trip to Blackpool Zoo and play barn, followed by dinner at Pizza Hut and a ride on the waltzers on the pier.

Unfortunately, as much as Dylan enjoyed that week, he was quite poorly during the week too, he was constantly exhausted and very chesty. When we got home, he had CF Clinic again on 7th September (after starting Year 3 at school on 5th September) and he had grown and put on weight, and his lung function had increased a little to 78%, but he was still constantly exhausted and still had a horrible cough, so his consultant prescribed three weeks of Ciprofloxacin tablets to try and delay starting him on IVs as soon as he started back to school, as Dylan always struggle to settle in to a new school year, and Year 3 was proving the hardest year to settle in to, as there were just so many changes for him.

By 10th September he was no better, and he missed his football club, and when he tried to attend on 17th September, he had to keep stopping and lying down to rest, because of his exhaustion, and afterwards he was incredibly tired. The following day was the last straw, and he got up exhausted, got ready for school exhausted, and struggled to walk to school. When we arrived at the school, he could barely stand up, so I took him back home, called the nurse, and she said to prepare his port for starting IVs.

We took him to the hospital and the CF Nurse was very concerned to see just how spaced out and lethargic and unresponsive he was, she was concerned that he might have low blood sugar or be developing CF related diabetes as well as having a chest infection, so she ordered extra blood tests. He was seen by the doctors and as his lung function had dropped to 74%, they started him on IV antibiotics that day. The CF Nurse was so concerned that she wanted him admitted for a couple of days of observation, but Dylan didn’t want to stay in, and his initial blood results came back okay, so he was allowed home. The nurse took a blood sample for glucose levels, but the lab didn’t test it, and so the test had to be repeated again the following day when she had to do his TOBI level. Dylan REALLY struggles with finger prick blood tests, and so we had to take his sample from his port, which meant that it came back too high, so his IV dose had to be reduced.

Dylan missed school on the 18th, 19th and 20th September, however he went back to school on 21st September and coped fairly well, so we were able to go to the hospice that evening for our family respite care stay, which was very much needed. We also found out that day that Dylan’s blood sugar results over a three month period were 41 mmol, or 5.9%, which is the very highest limits of normal for blood sugar results. Some online diabetes websites class that result as pre-diabetes, so this is something we are going to have to keep a close eye on as he grows, as 1/3 of CF sufferers develop CF related diabetes.

On 23rd September, after our weekend at the hospice, we had to go to Norfolk and Norwich hospital for Dylan’s TOBI blood test, and again he struggled with a finger prick, so the doctors had to pin him down and use a butterfly needle in his hand to get the sample, which he found very distressing.

The following day, he was too tired to go to school, and later in the day, he came out in another bout of tonsilitis, which hit him hard and caused him to need another full week off school, and he had to go back into hospital for another review because his chest went downhill again and his lung function dropped to 68% again. As he was already on IVs at this point, the doctor suggested we increase his ventolin inhalers to help him cope with the viral infection. On 30th September, Dylan coped with going back to Sunday School at church, and so on 1st October, he went back to school, and did okay. He was seen by the consultant on 3rd October, and although his lung function had only climbed back up to 72%, lower than when he started the IVs, the doctor was happy to stop his IVs. I was still concerned, as he was still constantly exhausted with a persistent poor lung function, and so I requested that he be referred to the specialist in Cambridge for a review in the near future.

On 4th October, he went back to his dance class, and he coped fairly well, although he tired easily. He went back to football on 8th October, and although he needed to take frequent rests during the session, he tried his best. He was feeling a bit brighter by the weekend, which was good, as on 13th October, we headed to Legoland for the day, and he had a GREAT time. The following day, 14th October, he cheered Seren and I on as we ran a 2.5 km fun run, and cheered Adrian on as he ran a 13.1 mile half marathon, all to raise money for the CF Trust in Cardiff. After our runs, we took Dylan and Seren to the Doctor Who Experience in Cardiff Bay, which they loved, although he was clearly exhausted that night, sleeping badly and having lots of nightmares.

We travelled home on 15th October, and the following day, he had his flu jab, which he coped AMAZINGLY well with. However, he was still really struggling to adjust to being in Year 3 at school, and he was getting very stressed about school.

On 22nd October, he was seen again at the Norwich CF Clinic, and his lung function had climbed a little to 80%, but he was still getting tired all the time, he was vegging out on the examining table while the doctor was in the room and everything! The doctor wanted to get his sodium and potassium levels checked at his next port flush, to see if that could be causing his exhaustion, as he sweats very profusely because of his lung disease, and doesn’t seem to control his temperature well or recognise when he is too hot and remove layers to cool down, because of his autism.

The end of October and early November was more fun, with carving pumpkins and watching fireworks, and Dylan was seen again at CF Clinic on 12th November, by the specialist from Cambridge. His lung function was fairly stable at 80%, although the specialist was concerned to hear that it had twice dropped as low as 68% recently. He noted the polyps in his right nostril, and prescribed Nasonex nasal spray for them, but apart from that, there was little else he could do, as Dylan is on pretty much all the treatment he can be.

On 18th November, a Sunday, Dylan admitted that he is becoming really discouraged at school, because he finds everything so difficult, due to his learning disabilities, and he can see that his academic skills are way below that of his peers, and it upsets him. I gave him a big pep talk about how far he had come, how many obstacles he’s had to overcome, how his brain works a little differently due to his autism, and how fantastic he is, but he just got upset. The following morning he didn’t want to go into school because it was all too hard, so I had a talk to his teacher, and he agreed to customise the curriculum a little more for him, and set him for reasonable targets, and he also had a chat to him about making some changes, and Dylan seemed encouraged.

On 20th November, his teacher came out with him at home time and complimented him on some great progress in his reading, and Dylan ABSOLUTELY LOVED being praised by his teacher in front of his Mum! He grew about two inches before my eyes! He is trying super hard with his reading now, and on 23rd November, he was awarded Pupil of the Week for his class! He was so encouraged and so proud, and it’s amazing what a little praise from his teacher can do!

On 26th November, Dylan had to have another cough swab because his cough was becoming a little thicker, but the results came back clear, so we’ll just have to keep an eye on that. He had his port flushed on 28th November and was SUPER brave for that, and the nurse also took a blood sample to test his sodium and potassium levels, which also came back fine, so we have no idea what is causing him to get so tired. I have to say, as his lung function has crept up slightly, we have noticed a slight improvement in his energy levels, so perhaps it is related to that, but he still does tire easily.

Dylan is really looking forward to Christmas, and is counting down the sleeps. He has a better understanding of what to expect now, and thanks to his autism, he still has a lot of innocence and still enjoys talking about Father Christmas and the reindeers. He has chosen a gift to leave out for Father Christmas already this year, a Kinder egg chocolate Father Christmas, so that Father Christmas gets to eat the chocolate AND have a present! He’s such a sweetheart.

Here’s hoping for a happy, healthy, peaceful December for our brave little man.

Thank you to everyone who has been kind enough to send Dylan cards and postcards over the last few months, he loves getting them, particularly the interesting handmade cards (particularly if they have different textures on them) and postcards with interesting pictures on them! Thank you to those who send letters to Dylan, however, he struggles to concentrate long enough for me to read them to him. He does look at the pictures if there are some pictures enclosed though. He loves cards and short notes best with concise wording in simple language so that he can understand them. Thank you to everyone who has sent Dylan some fantastic gifts over the past few months, he has loved them all! In particular, he loved the sword and shield he received just after a visit to Framlingham Castle, and his lovely quilt, which he snuggles under to watch tv, and uses to pad his chest when he has his percussion physio in the evenings. It’s getting plenty of use and he really loves it. He gets tired a lot, so something he can snuggle up with is very much appreciated.

Update 1st July 2012

Dylan had a rough time in March and April, with a nasty Pseudomonas chest infection. He tried oral antibiotics for it in the first instance, but his cough got increasingly worse, and when the CF Consultant at Norwich checked him over, his lung function had dropped to from 89% in December to 77% and so he decided that he needed another course of IV antibiotics (even though he’d only had some in December). He was VERY brave for having his needle fitted into his port and the course of IVs went smoothly.

He had two and a half weeks of IVs and by the end of the course, in early May, his chest sounded clearer but his lung function had dropped even further to a very disappointing 72%. The doctors were a bit stumped as to why his lung function was so poor, but they wanted to give him some time to pick back up after the IVs, and to get his activity levels back up to normal by getting back to PE at school, Disability Football Club and his modern dance class (none of which he could do with his needle in his port) and see if that improved things.

His chest has stayed pretty stable since then, just the odd flare up of coughing. He still gets tired easily and has bad days with his chest, but he soldiers on and is doing well in his dance class and enjoying disability football club. He has his annual review on Friday, when we will get all his blood test results back, along with his recent x-ray results, the results of his abdominal scan, his latest cough swab results, and he’ll also get his lung function re-tested. Fingers crossed for good news!

Academically, Dylan is trying his hardest and making some progress. He had his Annual Review for his Statement of Educational Needs in April, and we were happy to see that he is finally scoring on the reading and spelling tests, and is almost up to the level of a Year 1 pupil in literacy (he’s at the end of Year 2). He’s a little behind in Maths too, but not as much. The speech therapist was quite blunt about his difficulties, but stressed that he has made a lot of progress in the past year. The Educational Psychologist arranged to come back and re-assess Dylan again in June, which happened this past week, but we will have to wait for her written report before we know what she thought of him. She was supposed to be testing him for dyslexia, and re-assessing his cognitive skills, ready for him starting Year 3 in September, so I’m eager to hear her recommendations for the coming year.

Dylan was refused a place at the local special needs school, and so he will be spending Year 3 in mainstream school (they can then reapply if they feel it necessary for Year 4), so lots of transitions and safeguards need to be put in place, so that he will hopefully settle easily into Year 3, with a new teacher, new location within the school, different daily routine, different play areas, less supervision, and much bigger, older, stronger peers in the playgrounds with him, making him very vulnerable. He REALLY struggled to settle in last year and the first term and a half were a nightmare for him, so I really hope that the transition into Year 3 goes more smoothly.

Thank you for the cards and postcards Dylan has received recently! He really enjoys opening cards, it’s like having lots of birthdays! He particularly likes handmade cards, so thank you especially for those! Thank you to those who take the time to write letters to Dylan. Unfortunately, his literacy skills are a little behind, and he struggles with concentration, so we read what we can to him, but he doesn’t always understand what is being talked about. He still enjoys opening the letters though! Thank you very much to everyone who has sent Dylan a gift recently. He loves to open presents and gets very excited! He really enjoyed opening the sword and shield set from Kim recently, as we’d just been to Framlingham Castle for the Jubilee and he was very interested in knights!

Update 13th March 2012

Dylan has had a pretty good few months. His course of IVs in December cleared his chest up nicely and he was well over Christmas. He did have a tummy bug in early February, which made him feel awful, but he bounced back pretty quickly. He was seen by the specialist in early February and they were fairly pleased with him, although they did acknowledge that his lung function has been sitting around 75% for the past year now, without any improvement. He is on all the treatments he should be on, DNase, daily nebulised antibiotics, oral antibiotics, regular physiotherapy, inhalers, etc, and so it would seem that 75% is his new baseline. It’s upsetting when he is only 7 years old, but I think it (and all the bronchiectasis seen on his x rays) is mostly due to how poorly he was as a baby. I think it did some damage, or maybe left some areas vulnerable.

He has been fairly settled at school and he has a new friend who he really enjoys playing with. They seem pretty well matched and get on with each other really well, which makes his school time a lot easier. He is still awaiting the decision from the panel about whether he will be going to the local special school in the Autumn, but just today he was seen at school by the assessor who doesn’t feel the special school is the right place for him, so now we’re pretty stumped, as he’s so very far behind his peers, particularly in literacy, and even though he’s coming towards the end of Year 2, he’s still not got the basic skills he should have had when beginning Year 1. His teacher admits that she struggles to support him adequately with just one TA to help her, and so I really don’t see how he is going to make much progress in his current situation. But we will have to wait and see what the panel says on 22nd March.

At the moment, Dylan has a bit of a cold, which has increased his cough a little, but he’s coping well and is keeping on keeping on. He is a lovely smiley, positive, loving boy who keeps us smiling. He has recently decided that he doesn’t want to leave us to have respite care at the local children’s hospice anymore, and so we are now making arrangements for some home-based respite care instead, which should be better for everyone. We have another CF Clinic coming up on 30th March and then we are going to London for the weekend, before spending Easter in Wales with my family.

Thank you to everyone who has sent Dylan Christmas cards and cards during January, February and March, he loves receiving them. He particularly loves handmade cards or ones with interesting pictures on the front, because he loves receiving post, but struggles with the reading/comprehension of what’s inside. He feels very special when he sees his name on the envelopes though! Thank you to all the lovely people who have sent Dylan presents over the past few months. He had some really lovely gifts at Christmas, as well as treats each month for 2012, and he very much enjoys opening them. Thank you to everyone who has taken time out of their busy lives to make my son feel special!

Update 5th December 2011

Since August Dylan has had some ups and downs. He had his annual review/MOT in September, which brought the depressing news that his bronchial wall thickening in the bases of his lungs has progressed yet again, for the third year in a row. However, very little changes were made to his treatment regime, apart from removing his Vitamin E supplement because his levels were consistently high. His chest was rather nasty at the time, and IV antibiotics were considered, but thankfully a course of oral antibiotics sorted him out for a while.

His chest then settled for a while but he had some ups and downs with his schooling and adjusting to being in Year 2 and being so far behind his peers, and the school have now referred him to the local special school for next year. We are still waiting to hear as to whether he has been allocated a place, but for his sake, we hope that he gets in, as he really does need some specialist teaching to maximise his potential, as he is progressing worryingly slowly at his current school, and his peers are starting to notice and treating him differently. He has also had to start wearing glasses full time recently, as his long-sightedness has worsened, and so he required a stronger prescription and to wear his glasses full time.

In the summer of this year, Dylan made a wish with the Make A Wish Foundation UK to go to Disneyland Paris and meet Mickey Mouse, and at the end of November, his wish came true! Make A Wish, with the Disney Wish Program, sent us on the train to London, put us up in a hotel overnight, then spirited us away to Disneyland Paris on the Eurostar, with us staying on the Admiral’s Floor of the gorgeous Newport Bay Club hotel, mere minutes walk from the Disney parks. We had the pleasure of watching the Buffalo Bills rodeo show, meeting lots of characters, and riding lots of amazing, breath-taking and beautiful rides with Dylan’s special Wish Program pass which enabled him to jump all the queues and have special attention from all the characters. And the icing on the cake was the Character Tea Party, where Dylan was able to meet Mickey and Minnie Mouse, who spent ages with him and gave him a big hug, and Woody from Toy Story, who taught him a little dance and gave him lots and lots of hugs. Dylan felt so amazingly special and had the absolute time of his life!!!

The day after we arrived back home, Dylan had CF Clinic, and unfortunately, he was rather poorly for it. He had become unwell while in Disneyland Paris and when we got back his lung function was down a little, his weight was down a little, and he had an awful, awful cough. His lungs didn’t sound too bad, so the consultant wanted to try him on oral antibiotics first, but after 5 days, there was no improvement, in fact his symptoms were getting worse, and so today he was started on IV antibiotics through his portacath. However, by starting them today, 6th December, he should be finished by 20th December, and should hopefully be feeling much better by Christmas!

Update 25th August 2011

Chest-wise, Dylan is doing fairly well. His fingers are looking a little clubbed, and he always has gunk to bring up during his physio, but he’s not been ‘ill’ with a chest infection since June, when he grew Coliforms (gut bugs) on a swab and needed antibiotics to shift them. He has had some tummy troubles, particularly after eating fruit, so we’re not sure if it’s reflux or constipation. He’s eating a lot better now and not drinking quite as much as before, but he still drinks plenty.

He had a good report at CF Clinic last month and he’ll be having his annual review on 15th September. I’m not looking forward to it much, as the last two years’ x-rays have shown a decline in his lung health, with bronchial wall thickening worsening in the bases of his lungs.

Autism/education-wise he’s doing okay. He has at least another year in mainstream school and they are working on his transition into Year 2 with him. They had him making regular visits to his new teacher/class at the end of term and he has a social story to read over the holidays to keep him reminded about the changes. He will also be going into school a day early to meet his new teacher and see his new classroom, as the building has had some renovations to it over the holidays.

He has enjoyed the summer holidays so far and although it took him a few weeks to settle into the new holiday routine, he is settled now and enjoys our mini routine. He is also now doing GREAT with his PEP physio, which he has every morning. It’s much quicker than percussion, and still gets him shifting the gunk. He loved our summer holiday to Legoland, my family in South Wales, and a trip to West Wales, and he LOVED riding the rollercoasters at Legoland and Oakwood!

His speech seems to be improving; his sentence structure has definitely improved, as has his ability to use his/her and he/she more accurately. He is also taking a little more interest in reading, asking what things say, and asking how to spell things. He is also asking lots of questions about himself and the world around him, which is great!

He’s really looking forward to his birthday, which is only a week away now, and he’s looking forward to having a riding lesson and a party at a nearby soft play place. He also has a hospice stay coming up before he goes back to school!

Thank you very much to Jessica, Emily & Poppy-Mae, Tracy (Bristol), Kelsey, Karen (Sami), Maria S, Shelly, Libby, Anne & Kaitlin G, Trina, MJ, Jane, Jenny, Claire, and Helen E for all the fantastic cards! Thank you to Despina, Dottie the Dalmatian, Claire, Libby, Anne, Catherine and Lisa for all the lovely postcards! Thanks to Kate, Tapan, Alvaro, Shannon & Elsa, Maria & Michael, Anne & Kaitlin G, Dottie the Dalmatian, Sarah G, Noah, Dominic Firth, Lisa and Kelsey for the lovely letters. Thank you to Katie for the picture; to Shannon & Elsa for the snake, mask and foam plane; to Anne & Kaitlin G for the blue sticker book; to Nicola Jane for the Spiderman toothbrush; to Maria & Michael for the Bart Simpson stationery; to Trina for the stretchy lizard; to whoever sent the goodie bag; to Kelsey for the notebook and all the lovely stickers; to MJ for the stickers; to Kate Dee & PP for the Tonka car; to Noah for the drawing; to Anne for the book; to Catherine for the space kit; to Libby for the superhero monkey; to Lisa W for the Spongebob sticker book and chocolate; to Helen E for the pompoms; to Dottie for the party bag; to Lisa for the dinosaurs; to Tez for the magic painting book and bubbles; and to PP/Kim for the make your own aliens kit (he loved making them!), the Ben 10 sticker album and the family games set!

Update 1st May 2011

Dylan’s had a good few months health-wise. He’s had the odd flare up of his asthma and a few episodes of tummy pain, probably related to his eating relatively little compared to how much he drinks. He needs to eat a little more and he particularly needs to eat more at school, as often at lunchtime, he will have 4 Creon capsules and then not eat anything for lunch, preferring to go out to play. So we have spoken to his teacher and a stipulation has now been added to the new draft of his Statement to specify that he should always eat SOMETHING at lunchtime, in order to give the Creon something to work on. The CF nurse also said that we could give him a dose of Lactulose when he has episodes of stomach pain which has helped as well.

His Statement needed a lot of adjustment this year, as he is now significantly behind in both his reading and writing, and is starting to fall behind in his numeracy, due to his speech delay, language comprehension difficulties, and his poor short and long term memory and poor concentration skills. So there are new strategies being put in place to help him. He is always trying his best and always making a little progress, but his progress is so slow that his peers are pulling further and further ahead of him.

He just had his first proper eye test, which showed that he is a little long-sighted, so he has been given his first pair of glasses, which should hopefully make reading and literacy easier for him and hopefully he will now get less headaches!

Apart from all that, he’s doing well. He’s had a couple of heavy colds, which did go onto his chest a little now and then, but he picked up again fairly quickly. He has coped pretty well with life, autism-wise, although he did have a few wobbly times during the Easter holidays, because his daily routines changed so much. This is partly where his comprehension difficulties make things harder, because he struggles to understand what is going on a lot of the time, and can either get the wrong end of the stick, or be completely clueless and get distressed. He gets there in the end though!

He is also having an assessment by the Educational Psychologist next week, and some people have also asked whether he may be dyslexic, or whether maybe he would be better suited to the local special school, but we’ll have to wait and see what the professionals think. Personally, as long as he is in the place which will maximise his potential, then I don’t mind where that is.

Here’s hoping for a happy, healthy summer!

Thank you very much to Qiao Feng & Ya, Michelle P & family, Claire, Dottie the Dalmatian, Dawn Goddard, MJ, Claire Connon, Leonie, and Helen Brierley for the beautiful cards! And thank you to Elroy, Dottie the Dalmatian, Claire, Liz, Laura & Emma, and MJ for the lovely postcards! Thank you to Dottie the Dalmatian for all the lovely letters! The children love reading them! Thank you to Sarah G for all the lovely letters you send to both children, they enjoy reading them! Thank you to Jack Anyon for the letter. Thank you to whoever sent the Valentines note! Thank you to whoever sent the door hanger; to MJ for the dinosaur photo and Easter basket kit; to Dottie the Dalmatian for the cress seeds, and the egg decorating kits; to Post Pals for the running hamster; to Jo Garrett for the Wii fishing game, the Kung Zhu hamster, and the pumpkin seeds; and to Helen T for the Toy Story bath set, flannel, fish and duck!

Update 1st February 2011

Dylan has had a pretty good few months. He caught Norovirus in early December, which knocked him for six for a few days, but once he recovered from that, he had a good Christmas, and has stayed pretty well apart from the odd cold. He’s occasionally chesty, but it doesn’t seem serious at the moment, and his latest cough swab was clear. He also did great at CF Clinic in early January! He scored a lung function in the high 80’s and his consultant was very pleased with him!

Regarding his autism and learning disabilities, he was assessed by the speech therapist in November, and he is nearly two years behind in his speech development. He scored low on his vocabulary and even lower on his sentence structure. He’s also really really struggling with learning to read and even just with learning the alphabet, but recently I’ve been teaching him his Jolly Phonics at home using a sort of sign language, and he can now say almost all the sounds in the alphabet. Once he’s sure of all the sounds and signs, then I’m going to start linking it to letter shapes. It’s slow going, but he’s finally making progress.

Here’s hoping for a good few months of health, especially for when we go to watch Daddy run a half marathon for the CF Trust in Blackpool in late February, and for his and Seren’s hospice stay in March!

Thank you to June, Marli & parents, Helen T, the Homberg family, Lynn, Kate Dee, Stacey, Maria, Claire, Jacqueline, Dasher, Dancer, Despina, Lidy, Sarah G, MJ, Tez, Claire, Penny, and Helen Brierley for all the fantastic cards! Thank you to MJ and Claire for the fab postcards! Thank you to Dottie the Dalmatian for all the lovely letters! Thank you to Sarah G for your letters!

Thank you to Post Pals, Kate Dee and another anonymous sender for the Halloween goodie bags! Thank you to Malmesbury Youth Development Centre for the Christmas tree and keyring; to Maria for the keyring; to Anna for the picture; to whoever sent the Sheriff badge and Toy Story Top Trumps; to Post Pals for the sweets, chocolate and Post Pals badges; to Stacey for the stickers; to MJ for the indoor sparklers, monster snap cards, McDonalds erasers, Spongebob keyrings and stickers, frog keyring, walking dinosaur, and calendar; to our Elf for the Playmobil pirates and Buzz Lightyear voice changer; to Helen T for the Toy Story art tube, Toy Story mug, Lego police car, Toy Story stamper set, choc coins; to Tez for the bat; to Claire for the puppet, Dr Who figure, soldier keyring and chocolate; to Post Pals for the ‘make your own Christmas decorations’ and Thorntons chocolates; to Penny for the colouring book and crayons; and to whoever sent the choc coins and candy cane!

Update 28th October 2010

Dylan’s had a rough few months again. In his last update I said that he had been having some trouble with the fungus Aspergillus and at that point was about to finish a month’s anti-fungal treatments. Well, at the time he finished the course his chest sounded pretty good and he happily went off to stay at Fritton Lake for a four night stay with big sister Seren with the nearby children’s hospice. He had a great time there, but came back with a nasty cough again.

He had his Annual Review in July and his x-ray showed further chronic changes from last year, with bronchial wall thickening at the bases of his lungs. He wasn’t able to complete the lung function test, because his technique is very hit and miss, but his chest sounded quite clear, so the doctors weren’t too concerned. His blood results came back positive for Aspergillus as well, showing that it had been a problem for him recently. Because his cough was pretty nasty at the time, but his cough swabs were consistently coming back clear, the consultant felt that it could be asthma causing his symptoms, so she increased his Seretide inhaler to see if that helped.

It didn’t help much and then in early August Dylan was blasted by multiple infections at once. We took him to the hospital and they found that he had a crackly chest, so they put him on Augmentin antibiotics, but we had to take him back two days later because he was still being knocked flat by really high temperatures, and that’s when they found that he also had conjunctivitis, two ear infections AND severe tonsillitis, as well as the chest infection! So they doubled his dose of Augmentin which helped.

However it didn’t help his chest much. He was seen again on the ward in mid-September because of his bad ches, and because although his cough was disgusting and he was getting really upset at physio time, and was complaining of chest pain, his cough swabs were STILL coming back clear, the doctor put him on Ciprofloxacin antibiotics.

At CF Clinic in early October, the best lung function he could manage was 55%, his fingers were clubbed, he was still complaining of chest pain, his cough was disgusting, and so even though his swabs were STILL coming back clear, the consultant said he should have two weeks of intravenous antibiotics through his portacath.

He had those, and even though he hadn’t had any IVs for 22 months, he coped REALLY well with having the needle stay in his chest for 14 days and he was VERY careful not to knock his needle or undo the clamps. He also sat lovely and still every time I had to give his IVs and by the end of the 14 days his chest was much improved. Unfortunately, he found the finger prick tests to check his Tobramycin levels far more traumatic.

And now, nearly two weeks later, he’s recovered from the side effects of the IVs and his chest is the best it’s been since the spring! Physio time is almost a pleasure, as he has pretty much nothing to cough up, and he is so much happier. He loves going to Disability Football Club each week and he’s looking healthier than he has in months!

I can’t believe he’s now in Year 1 at school! He’s doing well at settling in and has got some nice friends who he loves to play with and he likes his teacher too. He’s still really struggling with his literacy, both reading and writing, but he’s a little better at numeracy, and he loves the more creative subjects and PE. He’s also had a Statement review and is still being allocated full time one-to-one or small-group support for all the hours he accesses school, which is a big help.

So we’re now hoping for an healthy autumn and winter for him!

We have lots of thank you’s since our last update. Thank you to Post Pals, Claire, Alan & Sylvia, Amy Benyon, Samuel Liv, Susan, Mai, Mandie Lowry, Ruby, Shahlaa, Becky, Ria, Amanda, Maria, Laura, MJ, Kate Dee and Marcella for the beautiful cards Dylan has received lately! Thank you to Claire for the postcards! Thank you to Claire, Linda Eldred, Dottie, Claire, Maria & Michael, Kate Dee, Michelle P Chloe Jack Kacey & Max, Jenny Orpwood, Kate Lauren & Estelle, Michelle Sophie & Frosti, Mandie Lowry, Kim Ginger, Penny Berrill, Helen Brierley and Maggie & Damson for Dylan’s fantastic birthday cards!!! Thank you to Murphy, Claire, Mandie Lowry and Alida in Italy for the lovely letters! Thank you to balloonbaboon.com for the balloon cow and balloon baboon; to Elle M for the smile badge and lights; to Post Pals for the bat finger puppet; to Mai for the colouring book; to Sheelagh Hawkins for the football doorbell; to Mandie Lowry for the make your own bat, Gary pencil sharpener, Spongebob stickers, Ben 10 socks, eye patch, Spongebob eFlyers, Spongebob flannel, Transformers puzzle, Tom & Jerry DVD, Toy Story alien, Spongebob snack pack, pencil and ruler; to whoever sent the GForce book and Lego jet; to Helen T for the colouring book; Maria & Michael for the Spiderman activity book; to Claire McCartney for the Charlie & Lola stickers; to Lucy & Richard for the activity book; to Helen Brierley for the Spongebob puppet kit; to Shahlaa for the alphabet stickers, hot chocolate sachet, Spongebob busy pack and sticker book; to Michelle Sophie & Froti for the cardboard make a bat; to Mandie Lowry for the Buzz Wallwalker, Little Einsteins stickers, Toy Story song book and CD, and Go Diego Go clock book; to Penny Berrill for the Toy Story notebook, pencil, ruler, rubber and sharpener; to Helen T for the Toy Story cup, Toy Story Wizaround floor puzzle, Toy Story walkie talkies and Toy Story swim bag; to Helen Brierley for the pirate stickers; to Donna Bedford for the bracelet; to Alida in Italy for the stickers; to Becky for the monkey and pirate; to Helen T for the balloons, spiders, insects, felt tips, sand art pens and paper; to Marcella for the Ben 10 alien and Transformer; and to Margaret Howell for the cuddly dinosaur!

Although Dylan LOVES getting post, especially cards, he doesn’t get too much out of letters because he doesn’t have the concentration span to listen while I read them out, and without seeing photos of what people are talking about, it doesn’t mean too much to him. He much prefers cards with an eye-catching picture on the front and just a short note inside. Saying that, he really does enjoy the Dottie the Dalmatian letters, because they DO include photos, and so while I don’t read the letters out word for word, he looks at the pictures and we talk about what Dottie is doing in the photos, and he really enjoys those. He knows when he sees the blue paw prints on the envelope that it’s going to be a Dottie letter! Then Seren reads them from top to bottom afterwards and keeps them all! She especially liked the one where Dottie visited a stable!

Update 22nd June 2010

Dylan was doing pretty well during the spring, just having the odd cold, but his chest was playing him up now and then through April. We did various swabs, which all came back clear, so we just got used to him having a bit of a cough and to his chest sounding a bit wet during physio sessions. He was well in himself, but he just had a cough.

He had CF Clinic in early May, and did well with the lung function machine, scoring over 90% for the first time, but he still had a wet cough. We found out at the end of May that his cough swab had grown a couple of fungi – Candida and Aspergillus Fumigatus, which certainly explained his chesty cough, which was gradually getting worse and worse through the month.

He was coughing during the night, and all day, and I think over the month his lung function was probably declining, as he started to struggle with coughing fits when exercising, and was getting breathless much more easily.

He started Itraconazole (anti-fungals) on 30th May, and he’s now nearly completed the four week course, and his chest is much improved. He’s been coughing up an awful lot of gunk over the past month, which has been helped by him starting PEP physio with his first ever PEP machine, which he’s slowly getting the hang of. It’s really helped him to shift the gunk out of his larger airways, which was where it was getting stuck. The percussion physio was clearing his lungs, but he wasn’t able to cough the gunk up effectively, which has been greatly helped by the PEP machine.

Being unwell has definitely affected his autism, as he’s definitely been able to tell the difference in his body, which has worried him, but it’s also been educational for him, as he now understands that he has ‘bogeys’ in his chest, and that his new medicine is to help to get the nasty bogeys out of his chest, and that coughing them up into a tissue is really good. He also understands now that if he doesn’t cough them up, but swallows them, they go down into his tummy and then into his bottom.

He really dislikes the taste of the Itraconazole though, it nearly makes him sick each morning, and so he’s counting down the last few doses, and is very pleased that the course is nearly over.

He has his CF Annual Review (MOT) coming up next month, and he’s already had his blood tests done for this, and has to have an x-ray done tomorrow. I’m a bit nervous about finding out the results of his annual review, because last time they could see bronchial wall thickening in the bases of his lungs, so I’m nervous to find out if this has worsened over the past year.

In more positive news, he is very much looking forward to a four night hospice stay which is coming up next week, his first time sharing a hospice stay with big sister Seren! And he’s very much looking forward to celebrating Seren’s birthday in just 19 days!

Of course, he’s REALLY looking forward to his own birthday in September though, and has found the waiting absolutely agonising so far! He’s so impatient to have his party and invite all his new school friends!

Talking about school, he’s going to be going into Year 1 at school in September, and I’m a little nervous about it, because expectations of him will be higher in Year 1, and he’s REALLY struggling with learning to read still, although his writing is improving and he does now recognise some letters. I’m hopeful that his teacher will be working hard to settle him into his new class properly, with a ‘social story’ book about his new class for him to read through the summer, word lists for upcoming topics so we can help his vocabulary and give him a chance of keeping up with the rest of the class, and frequent visits to his new classroom.

Fingers crossed that his Aspergillus and Candida infections have cleared up, and that he’ll have a healthy summer!

Thank you to Kate Dee, Postie Sarah, Nicola, Maria & Michael, Fiona & Peter, Martin Jackie & Jamie, Kim Lawrence & family, Quackers, Helen Brierley, Emma Plummer, Kim Lee & Bridget, Stephanie Dom Karen & family, Postie Sarah, Elizabeth, Claire, Jenny Flack, Catie and Post Pals for the beautiful cards! Thank you very much to Post Pals, Max, Caroline, Sarah G, Ashley Green from Ifield Special School and Despina for the lovely postcards! Thank you to Karen Wright, Horndale County Infant & Nursery School, Marvin, Mitchell from Horndale School, Karen Drew, Lindsay F, Sarah Gilligan and Jack for the lovely letters! Thank you to Karen Wright for the photo; to Nicola for the chocolate rabbit; to Maria & Michael for the Cars book; to Helen T for the Hairy McLary books, Postman Pat book and bats and cats book; to Post Pals for the scary sticker book; to Max & Caroline for the chocolate treat; to Fiona & Peter for the cuddly Mr Bump; to Fiona for the Christian CDs for me and the bendy calculator for Adrian; to Quackers for the photos and the duck; to Helen Brierley for the seeds; to Marvin for the SpiderPirate drawing; to Mitchell from Horndale School for the drawing; to Karen Drew for the noisy animal and the Ben 10 frame; to Kim Lee & Bridget for the Ben 10 stickers and Spiderman colouring; to Stephanie Dom Karen & family for the Spongebob Top Trumps, teddy and toy car; to whoever sent the Spongebob; to Elizabeth for the toy bat; to Claire for the Ben 10 straw; to Lindsay F for the knitted bat and dinosaur; to Cobey for the make your own monster and pirate ship; to Claudia Meyer for the pirate stickers, Spongebob socks, flannel, chocolate, ball, badge, crocodile, puzzle, and pirate with boat; to whoever sent the Cushelle teddy; and to Post Pals for the fantastic LEGOLAND tickets for us all!!!

Update 27th March 2010

Dylan has had a good few months! He had a nasty cold at the end of November/beginning of December, but for the rest of December he was well, and apart from a few colds and asthma flare ups, he’s been pretty well so far in 2010, and his cough swabs have been clear. He is a good weight at the moment, and is making progress developmentally, although he is struggling with learning to read. He had his first Statement of Educational Need annual review at the beginning of this month, and they were pleased with the progress he’s made so far, and set him some new things to work on – learning to read using full words instead of phonics, taking turns and sharing, and sitting still and listening while playing with blu-tack at quiet times. His toilet training is great, although he does still have accidents on times, and still very much needs his nappies overnight.

He very much enjoyed Christmas, and is looking forward now to the Easter holidays, because we’re going to visit my parents, and he is going to have a three night stay at the hospice for respite care too! He hasn’t been to the hospice since last September and so he’s really missed it.

Fingers crossed for a happy, healthy Easter holidays!

Thank you very much to Margaret, Blitzen, Maria & Michael, Despina, Dasher, Martin Jackie & Jamie, Kate Dee, the Homberg family, Post Pals, Daniel, Helen T & Adrian B, Sarah, Beth Wendy & Doris, Becky P, Cupid, Kathryn, Vickie, William S, Claire McCartney, Katie, Tracy (Bristol), Laura H, Jessica, Jane, Brabourne & Smeeth Brownies, Sarah Kidd, Helen Brierley, Rudolph, Daniel & Joseph, Vixen, Emma & Jayden Barclay, Rachel Cridge, Hibiki, Jake, Bradley, Cody, Jake, and Billy for all the FANTASTIC Christmas cards!! Thank you to Becky for the Transformers postcard. Thank you to Kate Dee, Kim Ginger, K, Garry & Julie, Postie Sarah and Juno & Muffin, for the cards received so far in 2010, and thank you to whoever sent the anonymous Valentines cards! Thank you to the ‘friend’ who sent the Valentines postcard, and thank you to Sarah Hart for the postcard. Thank you to Edwin Elf, Santa Claus, Edward Elf, Jane, and Beddy Bear for the lovely letters!

Thank you to whoever sent Dylan some stickers; thank you to Becky for the mini bat book, bat picture, bat facts, and bat wordsearch; thank you to Dasher for the chocolate presents and Santa’s Magic Key; thank you to Cupid for the letter pack and tree decoration; thank you to Beth & Wendy for the Ben 10 Micro figures, Postman Pat cake mix, Making Faces sticker book, wooden pirate ship kit and chocolate buttons; thank you to Doris for the Night Before Christmas and Monkeys Magic Box books; thank you to Kathryn for the sweets and stickers; thank you to Vickie for the lolly; thank you to Beddy Bear for the bookmarks; thank you to Rudolph for the coins, spiders and bat; thank you to Daniel & Joseph for the snowman; thank you to Becky Paulinyi for the Christmas story books, cuddly Father Christmas; thank you to Debbie & cats for the spooky sticker book and jungle sticker book; thank you to Tez for the stocking with dog and giraffe; thank you to Postie Sarah for the Ben 10 jet balls and skeleton pyjamas; thank you to Kim Ginger for the space bubble gun; thank you to Holly for the bat, coin, spiders and chocolates; thank you to Helen T for the remote controlled car, paint your own train, Waybuloo books, Buttons, and balloon art kit; thank you to Elf Mel & Helper Nick for the pirates, the Lego fire lorry, Lightnin McQueen and Cars book; thank you to Jenny Bridger for the personalised jar of sweets; thank you to Prancer for the Santa lolly, bat ruler, bat and chocolates; thank you to Post Pals for the Smarties; thank you to Jessica for the big chocolate coin; thank you to Emma & Jayden Barclay for the stickers; thank you to Hibiki for the origami; and thank you to Billy for the paper plane. All of these were sent at Christmas.

Thank you to Garry & Julie for the plankton drawing; thank you to Postie Sarah for the stickers; thank you to Post Pals for the frog to prince egg; thank you to Juno & Muffin for the Thomas Tank Engine DVD; thank you to Rhiannon for the Thomas Tank Engine poster art set; and thank you to Debbie & the cats for the audio book and activity book.

Update 30th November 2009

Dylan has had a pretty good couple of months, with a few colds thrown in here and there.

On 14th September, Dylan started with the first of those colds, and so he stayed home from school the next day. He ate something, but he was very tired and his cough was nasty. He was off school again the following day, and he hated it! He wanted to go back to school so badly, but he was still coughing and sneezing, so he couldn’t go. And he was sad to miss what would have been his first swimming lesson. That evening, his cough was absolutely disgusting, and he was really tight-chested and rattly, so I booked him in to see the doctor the following afternoon, but luckily he brightened up through the following day, so he didn’t go in the end.

Happily, he was well enough to go back to school by the Friday, which he was very pleased about! His cold did mess his asthma up for quite a while, but by the Tuesday of the following week, he was able to get rid of the extra inhalers.

On 23rd September, Dylan finally had his first swimming lesson, and he loved it! He had some settling in issues, but each week he has been making fantastic progress, and he’s getting more and more confident in the water now. Yay!

On 25th September, Dylan had a 2 night stay at the childrens’ hospice and loved it! He went on trips to the zoo and to a local park!

From 28th September to 1st October, Dylan’s asthma played him up again, giving him a dry, wheezy cough, so we had to increase his inhalers and give him Simple Linctus to try and soothe his cough a bit, as it was really bothering him.

On 2nd October, Dylan had CF Clinic, and he was then 115 cms tall, and 21.7 kgs, putting him on the 77th centile for his BMI, which is great! His SATS were great at 98%, but his lung function was poor, only 60%, mostly because his technique was REALLY bad. So I don’t know what his lung function really was. His consultant said that his nasty cough was probably caused by a virus, as the glands in his neck were enlarged.

On 8th October, Dylan had his seasonal flu jab, and was very brave, and didn’t have any side effects from it.

On 17th October, Dylan came out in another cold, and by Monday 19th, he was still snotty and coughing, so he stayed home from school, and he spent all of Monday night coughing, so he had to have Tuesday off school as well. However, he was well enough to go back on the Wednesday, which he was overjoyed at! On the Thursday night, his cough turned chestier, but luckily, it was half term from the following day, so he didn’t have to miss any more school.

On Friday 23rd, Dylan’s Daddy (Adrian) was told that he had Swine Flu, and was put on Tamiflu, and because of Dylan’s CF, he was given Tamiflu as well, just in case he caught it from Daddy. Thankfully, he didn’t have any side effects at all from the Tamiflu, and neither did he catch Swine Flu! Phew! He still had his chesty cough though, which took him all of half term week to get rid of.
On 3rd November, Dylan had his first Parents Evening. His teacher was generally very pleased with him, saying that he’s settled in well, and that his strengths are numbers and shape recognition, and he LOVES junk modelling and art, but that he REALLY struggles with phonics. He can’t grasp it at all. So we need to work on that, both reading and writing letters. It’s a real stumbling block for him, so I think that’s going to take a while.

On 27th November, Dylan had his Swine Flu jab, and so far, hasn’t had any side effects to that jab either! Yay!

Fingers crossed for a happy, healthy December! This is the first year Dylan has really been aware of Christmas and understands a little of the role Father Christmas plays in the whole event, so he is REALLY excited about it all! And we can’t wait to share the experience with him!

Thank you to Tracy (Bristol), Becky Paulinyi, Kate Dee, Viks, Maria & Michael, Erica Durante, Sarah Gilligan, Karen (Sami) and Kim Ginger for the lovely cards! Thank you to Val Simms and Kate Dee for the great postcards! Thank you to Maria & Michael for the lovely letters! And thank you to S Gilligan for the Beddy Bear letters! Thank you to Sarah Gilligan for the paper rabbit, the lollies, the popping candy, the koala, the parrot, the fish kit, the butterfly kit, the 3 Clarice Bean books, the 2 masks, the Dennis the Menace book, the jigsaw kit, the cress kit and the needlepoint kit. Thank you to Post Pals for the stickers, the LEGO digger, the flying lantern, the chocolate bar, the cars chocolates, and the Spooky Sticker Book. Thank you to Maria & Michael for the pumpkin straw. Thank you to Sarah for the Thomas sticker & puzzle book. Thank you to Karen (Sami) for the witch cape, the reflective armband, the skeleton, the pumpkin straw, and the lolly, for both kids. Thank you to Kim Ginger for the Batman face paints!

Update 13th September 2009

Dylan has a pretty good summer!

On 23rd July he had a trip to the dentists and we found out that his being so ill all his life has affected the health of his teeth. His new bottom front teeth are marked with yellow spots and apparently it’s due to severe illness in his toddler years causing his teeth to have a lack of calcium. Apparently the teeth shouldn’t go bad, but we’ll need to keep an eye on them. I hope all his teeth won’t be affected.
On 31st July Dylan had his port flushed and was very brave, although it did bleed for a while after which bothered him.

On 4th August Dylan had a speech therapy appointment to score him ready for starting full time school and he did so well! He totally surprised the speech therapist with his recent progress and coped a lot better than expected with the tests, so we were really proud of him!

On 18th August Dylan had his first occupational therapy appointment and his therapist discovered that although, to our relief, he’s not got dyspraxia, he does have very weak finger muscles (apparently it’s quite common among autistic children and is another form of developmental delay) and so we have some exercises and work to do with him to strengthen his fingers ready for him to be able to learn to write.

On 25th August Dylan had another OT appointment and because it was quite challenging, his autistic symptoms came through a lot, and the OT had to work hard to keep Dylan focused or persuade him to do any tasks, but she gave us lots of tips on how to build up the strength in his fingers and she’s going to send a report to his school as well.

From 28th to 31st August, Dylan had a 3 night stay at the children’s hospice and had a brilliant time!

Then on 2nd September it was Dylan’s 5th birthday! And it was by far, his best birthday ever! He was so pleased that my parents were well enough to travel to see us for his birthday, and he had a lot of lovely presents to open that morning, and then had a bowling party in the evening, before going round to see Adrian’s parents later. He was happy all day long and enjoyed every second of his special day!
Then on 3rd September Dylan started full time school! He did so well that he was able to stay all day, instead of having to be picked up at lunchtime as planned! And he did the same the day after as well! He has just done another full week at school, with hardly any problems! The only ‘teething problems’ have been him not liking eating school dinners, and so he now takes packed lunches, and by halfway through the week, he was getting REALLY tired, so I am now walking him to school in the mornings and picking him up in the pushchair in the afternoons. I can’t believe how well he’s settled into school so far! Long may it continue!

I think this was by far the best summer holiday I’ve had with Dylan, and he loved going to Pleasurewood Hills, a play farm, going on holiday in West Wales, visiting my parents, the park, and going to Africa Alive, before his birthday and starting school.

I just hope that he stays well through the autumn and winter.

Thank you to Amy Singleton, Helen T, Kate Dee, Catherine, Hanna, Vikki, Kim Ginger, Debbie & cats, Jenny, Helen Brierley, June Junko, Maria & Michael, Laura, Jenny Orpwood, The Schauers, Rachel Cridge, and Tracy (Bristol) for the lovely cards! Thank you to Estelle Kate & Lauren, Liz Eckhardt, Sarah Gilligan, Mary Beth, the Schauer Family, and Fiona in Poole for the postcards. Thank you to Wendy Nixon, Marisa Jackson, and Kellie Morris for the notecards. Thank you to Lydia for the fab party bag full of goodies! Thank you to Vickie for the diggers and dumpers sticker book. Thank you to Helen T for the Cars sticker packs! Thank you for the flannel lollipop. Thank you to Kim Ginger for the two foam planes. Thank you to Debbie & cats for the Thomas sticker pad. Thank you to Helen T for the birthday balloon bouquet! Thank you to Helen Brierley for the ‘Jimmy’s Sunshine Book’. Thank you to Rachel Cridge for the stickers.

Update 18th July 2009

Apologies for the lack of updates over the past 7 months on Dylan’s page, apparently there were some technical difficulties with his page, but they’re fixed now and his recent updates are showing. This one goes from 26 April to 19 July. Due to the problem being linked to my updates being so long, in future I’ll be trying to limit the updates to medical and autism linked updates. For more in depth updates with photos though, feel free to visit my blog, which is linked as his homepage at the top of this page.

Dylan’s had an up and down few months, and on 28th April, he had his first port flush for 10 weeks (2 weeks late!) and HATED it.

On 7th May he started with a yellow gunky nose and we thought he might be getting a cold. The following day, he developed a slight cough, but he didn’t have a temperature and was eating well, so I wasn’t too worried. Over the following couple of days, his cough and cold got worse, so he had a day off school the next day and had lots of extra inhalers and physio, and went back to school the day after.
On 13th May, Dylan escaped from his classroom at home time, and gave Seren and me quite a shock when we found him wandering in the playground. Luckily no harm was done. He had a cough swab done the same day, and then after his evening bath he was very hoarse and snotty and his cough was much worse again, so he had some Vicks on his chest and some Simple Linctus which helped. He had a bad night that night so I kept him home from school the next day, but on the 15th, although he still had a bad cough, he was better in himself so he went back to school.

On 26th May, he had his another cough swab and his x-ray and blood tests done ready for his Annual Review in July, and he was very brave. On 31st May he came out in a cold, and so I kept him home from school. On 1st June he was full of yellow gunk again and hardly eating. The following day his nose dried up, and his cough started up and he was coughing up yellow gunk, which isn’t a good sign!
On 3rd June his cough was much worse and he coughed all night, so he was still home from school and he was just coughing and coughing all the time. He had CF Clinic on 5th June and he was up to 20.6 kgs, putting him on the 75th centile for his BMI. His sats were good and his lung function was 83%, but his cough swab had grown Pseudomonas, which explained the yellow gunk and all the coughing. Because, apart from the cough, he was quite well in himself, he was prescribed 3 weeks of oral Ciprofloxacin, with the safety net of IVs if his symptoms got worse or the orals didn’t shift the bug.
That night was the worst night with his cough, but then the following day he seemed to cough a bit less. By the 8th June I felt he was well enough to return to school.

On 24th June, I had a meeting with his nursery teacher to re-set his IEP targets ready for moving up to Reception in September. His teacher said that she was happy with his progress and that he could start the settling in process to his new classroom/teacher, and that they’d make him a social story book about what to expect in September.

On 6th July he had his Statement reviewed ready for Reception class and it was decided that he will have two days of attending Reception class from 8.55 am to 1.05 pm on the 3rd and 4th September. He will then try a full day from 8.55 am to 3.20 pm on the following Monday. His teacher will also build chill out times into his day, and he will be taking his cuddly ‘Batty’ into Reception with him to help him with quiet times like story time or assembly. I raised issues about his safety in the main school, because of the possibility of him escaping out of the front door or the garden gate at certain times, so the teachers assured me that they would be keeping a close eye on him.

The following day he met his new teacher and saw his new classroom and was very excited about it all. He also stayed for school lunch and coped REALLY well. He got his ‘Dylan Is Going To School’ book for us to read to him at home over the summer holidays.

The 10th July was his first ever school sports day and he coped really well with some extra support and he scored lots of points for his team. He also had nose, throat and cough swabs done ready for his Annual Review. He got his first school report too which was generally positive!

On 11th July he coped REALLY well with his first trip to the cinema and ended up enjoying it a lot. On 14th July he spent an hour in his new classroom and REALLY enjoyed it, and gave his teacher an ‘All About Me’ book that I had written from his perspective explaining about his CF, asthma and autism. Then 15th July was his last day at school nursery!

On 16th July he had his Annual Review at the hospital. He did his first ever urine sample and it was clear. His weight had gone up to 21.3 kg, and he was 112.9 cms tall, putting him on the 83rd centile for his BMI. His swabs were all clear, as were his blood tests, but they did show that his Vitamin E levels are too high, so his consultant dropped his dose down to 0.5 mls a day. He increased his Singulair dose from 4 mg a day to 5 mg a day, and lowered his Seretide dose from 2 puffs of 125 micrograms twice a day to 1 puff of 125 micrograms twice a day. His x-ray showed some bronchial wall thickening at the bases of both lungs, which wasn’t very nice to hear, but his consultant still said that he’s had the best year health-wise of his life so far. His bowel was rather full on examination, so we have to keep an eye on that. Oh, and the physio said that we need to encourage him to do lots of huffs during physiotherapy sessions and do lots of bubble blowing.

From 16th to 18th July he spent two nights at the childrens hospice and had a great time!

Fingers crossed for a happy, healthy summer!

Thank you this month to Tracy (Bristol), Maria & Michael, Kate Dee and Helen Brierley for the cards. Thank you to Maria & Michael for the postcard and to Margret Nagy for the notecard. Thank you to Helen T for the letter and Thomas cupcakes pack. Thank you to Tracy (Bristol) for the bat book and thank you to Kim Ginger for the ‘getting dressed’ jigsaws.

Update 26th April 2009

Dylan has had a pretty good couple of months! He was starting to get over his cold on 16th February, but it was clear that he’d lost some weight after not eating for nearly a week. He had his port flushed the following day, and was very brave, but HATED having a plaster put on afterwards! And on 18th Feb, Dylan went to the dentists and had a good report.

He went back to school on the 23rd, for what turned out to be six weeks of 100% attendance! An absolute first for Dylan, and we are over the moon!!

On 25th February, Dylan’s psychologist came round to discuss his recent progress and to chase up what the school are doing about providing help for him at school.

On the 26th we re-started potty training and after buying him a new, comfier toilet seat, he immediately got the hang of it and hasn’t looked back since! On the 27th he bumped his head badly at school when he stepped on a plank and it shot up and smacked him in the face, so we had to take him to the GPs to get checked over, but he was fine and the GP was happy for him to still go to the hospice that night for his respite care. He had a great weekend at the hospice, and when we picked him up on the 1st March, he had done really well with his potty training all weekend!

On 4th March Dylan wore pants for the first time and did fabulously well! In nearly two months, he’s only had about three accidents in his pants, which is amazing, and he now wears pants all day at home, and at school, and just wears nappies at night and pull ups for when he goes out walking or in the car. What a HUGE achievement for him!!

On 18th March, I attended a meeting at his school to discuss how to implement the advice set out in his Statement of Special Educational Need, and also to plan his move to full time school in September.
He had CF Clinic on 3rd April and he had a great report! He’d grown to 110.5 cms, and had gone up to 20.1 kgs, which puts him on the 77th centile for his BMI, which is fab! His chest was clear and his consultant was very pleased with him.

During the Easter holidays, Dylan had a lot of fun, but the highlight for him was getting to see some real live BATS at Bristol Zoo!! We were able to walk into their enclosure, so he could see them sleeping all curled up hanging upside down, and one bat kept flying around too, so he ABSOLUTELY LOVED IT!

He went back to school on 23rd April and his teacher had a surprise waiting for him, Batty, his cuddly quiet time bat! The teacher found him in a charity shop over Easter and bought him for Dylan to help him to sit still on the carpet at quiet times, which is working really well! He struggled with leaving Batty behind after the first afternoon, but now he’s helped to make Batty a box to sleep in when he’s not there, he’s happy to leave him behind.

Fingers crossed for some more good health!

Thank you to Jessica, Nikki, S, Kim Ginger, Helen Brierley, Post Pals, Julie B and Nicky Walker for the cards. Thank you to Julie and Jill for the postcards. Thank you to Kim Ginger for the letter. Thank you to SOLAK for the beautiful cushion, Dylan loves it and sleeps on it every night. Thank you to Post Pals for the cuddly teddy. Thank you to Kim Ginger for the stickers, reward chart and stickers, finger puppet and Flat Stanley book. Thank you to Helen Brierley for the Pat books and sheep mask kit. Thank you to Post Pals for the puppet kit. Thank you to Julie Barrett for the egg decorating kit. Thank you to Nicky Walker for the Postman Pat sticker box! Thank you to Debbie Gray for the football!

Update 15th February 2009

Dylan was well for the end of December once he finished his IVs, but January and February have been rougher on him.

He finished his IV’s on 23rd December, but he was left with a very sore chest from all the dressings he’d had on it, and we had to use Sudocrem on it for a few days to help it heal, as it was so sore and he found it very uncomfortable. On 24th, we received his draft Statement of Educational Needs through the post, which wasn’t nice reading on Christmas Eve, especially when we read that some of his assessment scores were off the bottom of the centile charts. But he had a lovely day on Christmas Day with lots of fabulous presents, and he really enjoyed the Christmas holidays!

On 5th January, I had a lot of discussions with the Advisory Teacher, psychologist and education department about his Statement, and where he should go to school, as part of the draft statement asked us for a decision on where we want him schooled. The decision we came to was that as the local special needs school doesn’t take children until they turn 7, he will go to the mainstream school until then, with full time one to one support from a properly trained learning support assistant, and he may have some outreach work done by the special needs school based at the mainstream school.

On the 8th he went back to school, and then that evening went to the childrens hospice for three nights of respite care. He had a great time while he was there! When we picked him up on 11th Jan, he seemed to struggle to adjust to being back home at first, but then the next day he was very tired and had no appetite. By the afternoon he had started with a nasty cough, so that could have been part of why he struggled on the Sunday.

On the 14th and 16th he was really bad, needing lots of inhalers and extra physio. We guessed it might be asthma flare ups, but it was very weird.

On 17th, we found out that he is eligible for free nappies, which we were very pleased about!

His chest was really bad again on the 18th, and the next day, his chest was bad again in the morning, but cleared up in time for him to go to school that afternoon. We also got the first delivery of his free nappies, and they’re so great! Much more comfortable on him and much more absorbent!

On 20th, the physiotherapist assessed my physio technique, and was pleased with it. Before school that afternoon, he had a cough swab done, and that night his chest deteriorated and he had a really rough night. So the next day, I took him to the hospital to be checked, and although his cough was horrendous and he couldn’t even stop coughing long enough to manage the lung function test, his lungs sounded mostly clear and so the consultant prescribed him a two week course of Augmentin. I was pleased to see that he’d put some weight on, going up to 19.8 kgs, and 111 cms, which is great.

On 22nd he had another really bad day with his chest and no matter what I tried, inhalers, tons of physio, he just couldn’t stop coughing and it was making him really upset, so we took him back to the hospital, and they re-checked him, but again, they couldn’t find anything really wrong, and so they said we just had to wait for the Augmentin to kick in. We got some Vicks to rub on his chest, which seemed to help him have a better night’s sleep.

The 23rd was another bad day, but over the 24th and 25th his chest started to clear as the antibiotics kicked in, and so he went back to school on the 26th. They were obviously glad to see him, but they said that as he’s missed so much time over the past term  he’d need to start from scratch with settling into the nursery, as it was as if he was starting this term, not back last September, and he’s still struggling to adjust to it all.

Then on 28th he had to stay off school again because he had some diarrhoea, which turned into constipation later in the day. That plagued him for another couple of days, until we gave him a dose of Lactulose on the 31st, which helped a lot. His cough turned chesty again on 1st February, but it improved again through the day on the 2nd, and he went to school on the 3rd and 4th, but he found school quite stressful, partly because he didn’t sleep well all week, waking very early in the morning and not being able to go back to sleep. We also received the final copy of his Statement on 4th February, so it’s now official and legal that he needs full time support at school.

He went to school on the 5th, but then woke up the following morning crying in pain from a very sore throat and he had a temperature, but luckily, he had CF Clinic that afternoon. When he was weighed, he’d lost 0.3 kgs, taking him down to 19.5 kgs, which meant that he’s now on the 60th centile for his BMI. He was on the 86th centile in December, so that’s quite a big drop, but still over the 50th, which is the acceptable centile for CFers. However, he only managed a lung function of 80%. His consultant said that it looks as if he’s been bombarded with bugs lately, and that hopefully when he recovers from them all, his weight and his lung function will go up.

That night, his sore throat turned into a monster cold, and he’s had a really tough time with it, and has missed a whole week of school with it. He barely ate a thing all day Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, or Wednesday, and you could see the weight dropping off him. He ate some cereal on Thursday, and had a good lunch on Friday, and even yesterday, Saturday, he didn’t eat very well. The cold totally knocked him out, but he’s finally starting to get over it now, and his nose has mostly dried up, but he’s still getting his energy back, and he’s definitely lost more weight. Fingers crossed for a healthy, happy half term!

Thank you to Claire McCartney, Helen Brierley, Sue & Ethan B, Julie B, Rachel Wheeler, Kate Dee, June Junko, Viks, Jessica, and Anne Gairn for all the lovely cards. Thank you to Jenn for the note card. Thank you to whoever sent the card and reindeer food. Thank you to Courtenay for the Pirates of the Caribbean Will Turner. Thank you to Helen T for the Thomas fuzzy felts, Night Garden stickers, the play doh cutters, the play doh pizza party set, the 15 pots of play doh and the Mickey Mouse DVD!  Thank you to Katie for the Thomas activity pack, the Rheneas book, the plane money box, the Thomas magnets, the giraffe and the chocolate Santa! Thank you to Vikki for the duck hooter and the cuddly reindeer. Thank you to Becky Paulinyi for the Lion King book. Thank you to Joseph, Jasmine and Sam for the four finger puppets. Thank you to Hilary and Muffin for the Star Wars hoversphere and the Cars poster art set. Thank you to Claire McCartney for the flannel. Thank you to Julie B for the Wonderful Farm Pig, and for the Mickey Mouse stickers. Thank you to Post Pals for the rainbow mobile, the elephant wristband, the stickers, cow, Tigger wash mitt, and balloon. Thank you to Helen Brierley for the colour changing ducks. Thank you to Anne Gairn for the pencils and the cars. Thank you to Julie B for the Charlie & Lola book. Thank you to Jessica Allan for the Mickey Mouse rubbers.

Update 22nd December 2008

Dylan has had a very rough month. After his vomiting bug on 16th November, he had three days off school and looked absolutely terrible. His appetite was affected and he was very lethargic.

On 18th November, the educational psychologist phoned me to discuss Dylan and said that he has ‘significant learning disabilities’. This was when we first seriously considered that Dylan might need to go to the local special needs school when he is able to at 7 years old, rather than staying in mainstream school. Dylan went back to school on 20th Nov, I asked both his teacher and his speech therapist what they thought, and they both said that it is a definite possibility.

Since his special needs pushchair arrived in mid-November, I have pushed him back and forth to school in it at least twice a day, sometimes three times a day, and it has been an absolute lifesaver. He just doesn’t have the energy to cope with all the walking, and also, from the autistic point of view, he finds walking very stressful, especially at the end of the day, and has found things much easier with the pushchair.

On Friday 21st Nov, the cough which had been troubling Dylan for a couple of days suddenly turned very nasty and croupy, and so we kept a close eye on him over that weekend. Sunday afternoon, his cough got a lot worse, so I ended up taking him to the hospital to get his chest checked out. His obs were okay, but when the Dr listened to his chest, she could hear crackles and wheeze, so she started him on a two week course of Augmentin, and put him on 4 puffs of Ventolin 4 times a day. So he’d only been back at school for two days before he was off sick again for all of the following week with his chest infection and his autistic symptoms went through the roof, he wasn’t coping at all.  His appetite has been up and down, and he’s looked so pale and washed out and tired.

Dylan was reviewed again on 27th November at the hospital, and a new Dr said that his chest was now clear, and so he could stop the extra inhalers and keep on the oral Augmentin until CF Clinic on 5th December. So we did that, and his chest went straight downhill the same day. As soon as the inhalers were stopped, his cough came back full force and he had some awful coughing fits that night. So the following day, the CF Nurse came to see him and got him a 3 day course of oral steroids, which he started on the Saturday morning.

Dylan was off school again on Monday 1st December, but that afternoon, his steroids finally kicked in and he had a good few days with his chest. He finally went back to school on 2nd December.

The 5th December was CF Clinic. Dylan is now 19.7 kgs and 107.7 cms, and his oxygen level was 97%, and he had a go at the lung function test, but only managed to blow 75% of what the machine predicted he should have been able to for his age, height and weight. Then he was examined by the Dr and although his bowels and liver felt fine, he was breathing rather fast, and his chest was crackly again when the Dr listened in. So as he’d already had 12 days of Augmentin oral antibiotics, three days of steroids, AND extra Ventolin inhalers, the Dr decided it was time to bring in the big guns and put him on IVs. So it was agreed that Dylan will start IV’s on 9th December.

Dylan had a really bad day with his autism on 6th December, and on 8th December I tried to prepare him for starting his IVs by showing him some photos of him on IVs in the past, which he seemed to take a bit of notice of. On 9th December, we went to the hospital to get Dylan’s needle fitted in his portacath and have the first dose of his IVs on the ward. He coped quite well with having the needle fitted, but wasn’t happy about it staying in his chest for longer than the couple of minutes it would normally stay in for a port flush! He was VERY tired that afternoon and had a long nap on the settee, and then that night, he pulled his port needle out, so we had to go back to the hospital and get another one fitted.

Wednesday was a tough day. It was the Christmas Craft Afternoon at school and at first Dylan seemed to be coping well and enjoying himself, but soon he was unable to cope and got very distressed, so I had to take him home early. His teacher told me that his behaviour that day wasn’t just limited to the craft session, apparently they have that same problem with him from around 2.30pm every day, and they just can’t do anything with him from that point on.

So when we got home, I rang the speech therapist for some advice, and she said that Christmas is a difficult time for autistic children in general, because of all the changes to routine, but that it is clear that Dylan isn’t coping with school very well, which is being worsened by him suddenly starting IVs on the Tuesday. Her advice was to keep Dylan off to rest him for the rest of the week, to give him time to get used to the IVs, and to speak to his teacher about reducing his hours at nursery, because he clearly starts flagging at 2.30 pm and if he’s not able to cope with being there after that, then there’s no point in him being there, because he won’t learn anything.

So he had the rest of the week off school, and then on 13th December he had another unplanned trip to the hospital, after pulling his port needle out again and getting it stuck in his chest.

On 17th December, Dylan had his continence assessment to see if we can get free nappies for him. We worked out that we’d need 6 pull ups a day and 3 nappies at night, which made 63 nappies/pull ups a week, or 252 a month. Wow! There was quite a long form to fill in, listing all his conditions, and all his medications, all his developmental delays and learning disabilities, and his continence history. The health visitor seemed quite hopeful that we’d qualify for the free nappies, but that we are very unlikely to hear anything until after Christmas now. Fingers crossed that we will get them, as it would save us a fortune.

At the moment, Dylan is due to finish his IVs on 23rd December and hopefully he will be well enough to do so.

Thank you this month to Jessica B, Jenn, Kate Dee, Maria & Michael, Despina, the Homberg family, Tracy (Bristol), Helen T, Martin, Jackie & Jamie, Sarah Gilligan, Julie B, Ria & Chris, Vikki and Courtenay P for the cards. Thank you to Karen (Sami) and Jenn for the postcards. Thank you to Julie B for the ‘grab a gift game. Thank you to Vikki, Courtenay P and Helen T for the parcels, they are now sitting under the tree waiting for Christmas Day!

Update 16th November 2008

At the end of September we ran into a few teething problems with Dylan’s new school nursery.  Although they are used to children with autism, they have no experience of children with CF, so it’s been a bit of a learning curve for them, but things have settled down since.

He had CF Clinic on 3rd October and Dylan had gone up to 18.7 kgs and 107 cms, which is the 72nd centile!! He was seen by the consultant and he was pleased to hear that Dylan had gone 10 months without IV antibiotics. He said that if he gets through until the spring without needing any more IVs, then he could start reducing his treatments, maybe by cutting out the Colomycin nebs and just having the TOBI nebs, 28 days on, 28 days off, and of course, the DNAse nebs. He was quite concerned about the wet cough Dylan had had for the previous month though, even though all his swabs had been clear. He said that as he’s only on Azithromycin three times a week as his oral antibiotic, he needed to have two weeks of Augmentin to see if it clears the cough. Apart from that, he was really pleased with him.

In October I had to fill in Dylan’s Statement of Educational Need forms, which wasn’t a nice experience, focusing on his negative points and his delays.

However, he was REALLY good for his flu jab! He pulled up the sleeve of his t-shirt and gave the nurse his arm with a huge smile on his face! And he didn’t even flinch when she jabbed him! What a brave boy! And then that night he ate spaghetti in tomato sauce for the first time and really enjoyed it! This was a huge milestone for him, as it’s a wet, sloppy food, which he’s always avoided before, because of his autistic symptoms.

He also had his appointment to discuss the medical side of his Statementing process. After the appointment I took the kids to McDonalds for lunch and when we’d sat down with our meals I went to get Dylan’s puree ready for his Creon and realised that I’d forgotten to ask for an empty cup and spoon to mix it with. So I decided I’d try Dylan on swallowing the Creon capsules again. We tried him a little while ago, but he just chewed it up, pulled a face, and spat it out, so I wasn’t expecting him to do any different this time, but I gave him the tablet and pantomimed putting it in my mouth and swallowing it. Well, he put it in his mouth and did it and then he did it three more times! Yay!

His psychologist also saw him at school and assessed him. She said that he had made some ‘okay’ progress, but I got the feeling she had been expecting to have seen more progress over the past year than she did.

On 12th November, I had a meeting with his school teacher to go through the educational side of his Statementing application and she had some more not very nice news for us. Dylan is only able to cope with a curriculum suitable for 22 to 36 month old children, making him between 14 and 28 months delayed now. This means that he’s so far not managing to catch up with his peers at all and that the gap between where he is and where he should be is widening.

Today, Dylan woke up at 5am vomiting. He proceeded to vomit every 20 minutes for the next five hours and then managed to sleep. He has stayed in his room all day, apart from having a bath, and he hasn’t eaten all day, but has drunk some juice. His temperature has been up to 38.8 C, so we’ve been keeping him dosed up on Calpol and Nurofen. Hopefully he will be feeling better tomorrow, but tonight he still looked very pale and drawn, and he definitely won’t be going to school in the morning.

Thank you to Kim, Jenn, Julie B, Linda B, Maria & Michael Carney, Karen (Sami) and Helen Brierley for the cards! Thank you to Jenn and Julie B for the postcards. Thank you to Julie B for the letter, the pencil and the Dracula model. Thank you to Karen (Sami) for the bat whistle, skull straw, skeleton, spider, pencil, rubber and lolly. Thank you to Helen Brierley for the wind up crocodile. Thank you to Post Pals for the cuddly elephant, the echo mike, the pop up clown, the car and the wooden train set.

Update 28th September 2008

Dylan hasn’t had a bad couple of months. From 16th to 23rd August we went to West Wales for a week’s holiday in a cottage, paid for by the CF Holiday Fund. Both children had a great time.

Dylan has had another assessment with the speech therapist she was very pleased with him as he has made good progress, but obviously, still has a long way to go.

Dylan went to the local children’s hospice for two nights respite care and had a fabulous time.

On 2nd September it was Dylan’s 4th birthday and he had a lovely day! On 3rd September Dylan started school nursery and is so far doing well. He has missed a lot of sessions due to Seren’s illness, due to a rash he developed after his MMR booster jab, and due to a cold he is still getting over, but he is settling in well.

He had CF Clinic on 3rd September and his consultant was very pleased with him, as his weight has now gone up to 18 kgs, putting him on the 52nd centile for his BMI and his examinations were good.
As I mentioned, he is still getting over a cold he caught from Seren at the beginning of this week, as it’s really playing his asthma up, but he’s had two cough swabs and they’ve both come back clear, so we’re hoping it’s just asthma and we’re increasing his inhalers. He has CF Clinic again on Friday, so we’ll see what the doctors think then.

Thank you to Julie B, Helen Brierley, Sheila, Zenith, Kate Dee, Linda B, Maria & Michael Carney, St Matthews Sunday School, Jenny Orpwood, Fiona from Dorset, June Junko, Karen (Sami), Jenn, Claire McCartney, Jane, Marge, Margret Nagy, Cathe Garnett,  for all the lovely cards! Thank you to Helen Brierley for the Teletubbies tape, the Postman Pat & Jess postcard and the BUGS book! Thank you to Fiona from Dorset for the chocolate bar. Thank you to Karen (Sami) for the stickers, pirate telescope and parrot finger puppet. Thank you to Jenn for the 2 notecards and the Postman Pat cake mix. Thank you to William M & family for the Thomas movie camera. Thank you to Julie B for the book, Postman Pat play office and postcard. Thank you to whoever sent the Playdoh. Thank you to Clair Fraser for the purple gorilla, the Thomas play set, the Push n Go Thomas, the Ninky Nonk train, and the pull back Thomas, James and Percy. Thank you to Marge for the ‘Bless You’ token.  And lastly, thank you to Claire McCartney for the card for myself and Adrian.

Update 7th August 2008

Dylan had his CF Annual Review. The results were very positive, with a 2 kg weight gain in the past year, and 4 cms height gain. His asthma is reasonably well-controlled, and he’s only had 1 course of IVs in a year, and only 3 days in hospital. His bowels are generally good, and his oxygen saturations were good. He had bilateral equal air entry into the lungs, no crackles, no rhonchi, no enlarged liver or spleen, no growths on cough swab, and his x-ray showed normal looking heart and lungs. It was also noted that his communication has improved.

Dylan has a stay at the hospice coming up at the end of August. He gets back to us just in time for his birthday on the 2nd September! I can’t believe he’s going to be FOUR! And then he starts school nursery the day after! He’s getting to be a big boy now!

Thank you to Helen Brierley, Hedayat, Hayley Thorn, Jenn, Rachel Cridge, Kate, Karen (Sami) and Kate Dee for all the lovely cards! Thank you to Sarah, Hope, Ellie and William for the card and the stickers. Thank you to Jenn for the postcard. Thank you to Rachel Cridge for the stickers. Thank you to Kate Dee for the 10 pots of Play Doh! Thank you to Julie for the letter and for the Kung Fu Panda mask, and for the picture. Thank you to Hilary and Muffin for the letter and finger puppets. Thank you to Jenn for the note.

Update 7th July 2008

Dylan has had an up and down month. He had a bad couple of weeks with his asthma in June, possibly due to higher pollen counts, or to do with the painting being done in the house, but he got over that eventually and his swabs were clear.

On 1st July, Dylan started with a cold, with yellow gunk coming down his nose and since then he’s not quite been himself. He had a couple of days off nursery while he was still snotty and although his nose has now dried up, his cough is getting slowly worse and he’s started coughing in the night, so we’re keeping a close eye on him, as the cough is getting gradually thicker. Since he’s been unwell, he’s also been quite a poor sleeper, not wanting to be left in his room at night, lots of tears and screaming, and then waking up crying in the night too. Hopefully when he shifts this bug he’ll sleep better again.
He’s got his CF Annual Review coming up on Tuesday, which will be a long day as it involves a lot of tests.

Thank you to Hayley, Despina and Post Pals for the postcards! Thank you to Karen (Sami), Helen Brierley and Jenn for the cards! Thank you to Hilary & Muffin for the letter and the stickers! Thank you to Fiona Wilson for the Roary book!

Update 10th June 2008

Dylan’s had a very busy month with appointments and his asthma hasn’t been great.  On 9th May, he had a trip to the dentists to ask about his teeth grinding. The dentist said that although he is definitely grinding his teeth and there is damage there, it’s not too serious at the moment and he can afford to wait for a while until these teeth fall out and his new stronger second teeth come in. If he’s still grinding them then, we’ll have to think about doing something about it.

Then on 22nd May, Dylan had his developmental delays re-assessment at the local hospital. The Doctor thinks he DEFINITELY needs statementing for school and she has doubled his dose of sleeping tablets, because he’s not been sleeping properly lately. He has been waking up a lot in the night, multiple times per night, almost every night, which is killing us and so hopefully the bigger dose will help. She was also concerned to hear about the problems he’d been having with being very clumsy all the time. He can fall over six times in a 7 minute walk!  He doesn’t seem to fall over anything, just over his own feet, and he is ALWAYS doing it. He is also terrible for walking into objects and people. I forever have to guide him out of people’s way, as he’ll just try to walk through them. So far we’ve been putting this down to his autism, but the Doctor was concerned that it could be Dyspraxia. The Advisory Teacher was saying we’d have to watch out for the possibility of this during his Autism assessment back in January, as she’d noticed a few symptoms, but now the Doctor has concerns too.

Then on 23rd May, Dylan spent two nights at the children’s hospice for his respite care, which he really enjoyed.

He wasn’t too well for part of half term with a bad cold, but he improved by the end of the week.

Since he started his double dose of Melatonin, his sleeping, his mood, attention span and WALKING has improved! He hasn’t fallen over more than twice in total while walking since!

Toilet training isn’t going so well anymore now though. For about 5 weeks he did really well, but after Week 5, everything suddenly stopped. The tutor on the EarlyBird autism course suggested altering the rewards, to spur him on again, but it didn’t work. So I left it for a few weeks, and then started looking for fresh ideas and my mother in law suggested trying him with a potty. So on 2nd June, we started trying him on that, and for a few days, he did start to come round to the idea, but then he went straight back off it, and since then he’s not wanted to use the toilet OR the potty. It might be that he’s simply not ready yet, as mentally he’s only between 2 yrs and 2 1/2 yrs, so maybe he needs to develop a bit more before he’s ready to cope with it.

On the 6th June Dylan had CF Clinic. He’s grown to 104.7 cm, which is halfway between the 75th and 91st centile. He’s still 17.6 kgs, which is just over the 75th centile. That puts him on the 61st centile for his BMI, which is absolutely incredible!  They did his lung function and Dylan’s FVC was 103.5%, and his FEV 1 was 72.0 %. Great results! And his SATS were 99% too!

The consultant was a bit surprised that Dylan is still needing high dose Seretide twice a day, Atrovent twice a day, Montelukast tablet once a day, AND sometimes still needs a lot of Ventolin to control his asthma, but we’ve been telling him over and over since last July (when the kids saw the CF specialist) that we can’t get him off the Atrovent without his health declining. He was also surprised that Dylan is now on 6 mg of Melatonin at night. A dose of 6 mg per night is double the normal dose for a child under 5, but it’s clearly what Dylan needs and the consultant was reassured in the end.

Thank you to Helen Brierley, Kate Dee, Jenn, Post Pals, Karen (Sami) and Helen T for the lovely cards! Thank you to Fiona for the letter. Thank you to Helen Brierley for the Bob the Builder and Postman Pat tapes. Thank you to Helen T for the Night Garden magazine and Thomas magazine! Thank you to Vicky for the Rainbow mobile. Thank you to Kim Ginger for the Richard Scarry book and the 3D viewer Disney card!

Update 7th May 2008

Dylan’s had an up and down month. He was still having a bad time with his asthma and he missed some time at nursery because of all the coughing and wheezing.

On 24th April, he had his last video taken for the autism course and it went really well. He, Seren and I, played a turn-taking game for the camera and he coped really well with it all and really enjoyed it.

On the 28th his asthma was bad again and he had another bad night, so he missed pre-school on the Monday, but he was well enough to go back on the Tuesday.

Since the beginning of May, Dylan’s been really struggling with his autism. He’s been very isolated and ‘cut off’ a lot of the time and has behaved really poorly, with a lot of repetitive speech and repetitive behaviour and his sleeping pattern has been really disrupted. He’s also finding it very difficult to stay calm or settle anywhere and today he has been a bit violent at times.

Thank you to Helen Brierley, Rachel and Poppy the snail, Jenn, Kate Dee, Fiona, and Helen T for the lovely cards! Thank you to Clare Bray for the dog binoculars! Thank you to Helen T for the Thomas walkie talkies, drum and whistle! Thank you to Fiona for the pop up book.

Update 12th April 2008

Dylan’s had quite a good month! We had the CF Specialist from Cambridge appointment at Norwich on 10th March and he was very pleased with Dylan! Dylan had put on another 1/2 a kg, taking him up to 17 kgs, which puts him at the 64th centile on the BMI chart! That is the first time he’s been a healthy weight (over the 50th centile) in about TWO YEARS! And it is really reflected in his health too!

His SATS (oxygen levels in his blood) were fine and then he had a go at the lung function machine. It was only his second attempt, but he scored 85%!! The consultant was really happy with Dylan, especially with his fabulous weight gain, and he said that it’s clear that treating his asthma so much more aggressively has made a huge improvement in all areas of his health. He even stopped his oral Flucloxacillin which just leaves him on two antibiotics every day, bringing his total number of medicines down to 17 instead of 18 a day.

Then I had the EarlyBird course the next day and I found it really informative, the most informative session yet. Our homework for that week was to practise a ‘three way attention communication game’, so I decided to get two birds with one stone and do a book with him.

The tutor said that we needed to find a book which bridged the gap between pointing out pictures and listening to a story, such as a song or rhyme book. So I got him ‘Songs and Rhymes from In the Night Garden’. He absolutely loved it! We got into quite a routine about it, and he sat on my lap and we read the book together, with him holding his palm out so that I can tickle it at one point and finishing off sentences when I wait for his responses and then at the end, he has to tell some of the characters to go to bed and then kiss Iggle Piggle goodnight on the last page. He loved it so much that it has become a regular part of our routine, and it’s a real quality time for me and Dylan together.

He really is like a different child since we started this autism course and his progress is incredible.

Dylan’s chest has been playing him up a bit in the past few weeks though. He started with a cough and a bit of a cold over Easter. Then last Wednesday, I picked him up from nursery and he had a REALLY bad afternoon with his asthma, the worst he’s ever had. I was giving him 5 puffs of Ventolin every 30-60 minutes from 1 pm to 7 pm and it wasn’t helping at all, so we took him to the children’s ward to be checked over. He coughed all the way there in the car, and then in the hospital car park, he coughed himself sick, bringing up some thick sputum and some brown gunk, but he was much better after that. By the time the Dr checked his lungs, he was still wheezing a bit, but nowhere near as badly, and his oxygen levels were a little low for him, but still within normal ranges so she was happy for him to go home. So we’re keeping up with the inhalers and waiting for the fungal results, which should be back on Monday.

Thank you to Julie B, Kate Dee, Jenn, Michael & Maria, Erin F’s grandparents, Post Pals, Karen (Sami) and Helen Brierley for all the lovely cards! Thank you to Helen F, Kate Dee, Anne Gairn, Helen Brierley and Chloe G for the lovely postcards! Thank you to Anne Gairn for the Postman Pat and Jess figures. Thank you to K.Winch for the car rubber, pencil and blue snake.  Thank you to Julie B for the wind up duck. Thank you to Helen Brierley for the bear stickers! Thank you to Anne Gairn for the Thomas stickers and sticker album! Thank you to Kate Dee for the Sir Handel train and the Bill & Ben and Mighty Mac books!

Update 5th March 2008

Dylan has had an okay month. We had to miss the dentist, but we’ll be going soon. He had CF Clinic on the 1st February and he’d put on 1/2 a kg, which was great, and his SATS were 99%. He had his first go at the lung function machine and did a great first try, which was fab! He had a slight cough, but as his cough swab was clear, they weren’t too worried about it.

Then on the 9th February, we went to stay with my parents for the week in South Wales, and while we were there Dylan’s cough got a lot worse and he was quite tight chested with it, so we had to give him tons of inhalers and we took him to a local GP. The GP said that his tonsils were fine, as was his chest, but that he had an awful lot of glands up in his neck. He took another swab, but that was also clear for bacteria and fungus, so we had to presume that it was asthma related. So we increased his inhalers for a while, which eventually cleared it up after we got back to Suffolk again.

Then on the 18th Dylan had his ENT appointment at Norwich. He was really well behaved all day, which was fabulous, and the Dr was lovely with him. He said that he doesn’t have a polyp, that it’s a growth of normal nasal tissue, so doesn’t need removing. He was concerned about how much tonsillitis he had last year and said that if he’s still having a lot of tonsillitis by next June, that he’d definitely take his tonsils out. But fingers crossed, we’ve reached March now and he’s not had tonsillitis yet in 2008, so I’m really hoping that he’s outgrown it.

And then on the 25th, Dylan started toilet training! He had started taking an interest in the other children using the toilet at nursery and so we got him some pull ups so that he could have a go and he’s now in pull ups full time and using the toilet between 2 and 6 times a day! I think it’s going to be a long road, getting him trained, because of his developmental delays, and he’s still having wet pull ups, and it’s going to take time, but he’s taken a huge step in the right direction.

Next week, Dylan and Seren have their appointment with the CF Specialist from Cambridge at Norwich, so that will be interesting. Apart from that, I’m continuing with the EarlyBird autism course and we’re hoping to go and visit my family in Wales again at Easter, as my Dad has just been diagnosed with Non-Hodgkin Lymphoma. This means I’m dashing back and forth to Wales all the time, which has been very unsettling for Dylan, and has caused some more autistic behaviour than normal as he tries to cope with the changes.

Thank you to Post Pals, Jenn, Kate Dee, Anne Gairn, Colette Morgan, Jeanana/Jewana, Colette, Michelle, and Anna for all the lovely cards! Thank you to Okka, Helen F and Kate Dee for the postcards! Thank you to Jade and Phil for the letters! Thank you to Kate Dee for the Diesel train and the Thomas number chart. Thank you to Anne Gairn for the Nursery Rhymes CD. Thank you to Colette Morgan for the 2 finger puppets and 2 little figures. Thank you to Jade for the Charlie and Lola table mat and coaster! Thank you to Anna for the drawings of Thomas, Annie & Clarabel.

Update 30th January 2008

Dylan’s health has been quite good this month, with no extra antibiotics or bad patches of illness. His last IV’s seem to have done a lot of good for him. He has had some problems with his asthma, but nothing too serious.

He went for a 3 night stay at the hospice from 10th – 13th January, which he really enjoyed.  Then from 14th – 24th January, Dylan had his Multi-Disciplinary Assessment at the Children’s Centre. He was assessed by the community paediatrician, the speech therapist, the psychologist, the advisory teacher for children with special educational needs, the physiotherapist and the staff at the assessment nursery, and they were all in absolute agreement by the end of the two weeks, Dylan is definitely autistic.

Although we were expecting it, it has still come as quite a blow, and we are still getting our heads around it all. I started the National Autistic Society EarlyBird course today, which should hopefully go a long way towards helping him with the condition. At the moment though, all the new research and learning we have to do about Autism is looking like Mount Everest. I have no idea how I’m going to keep up my high standard of CF care on both Dylan and his sister Seren, whilst doing my absolute best for his Autism, as CF already feels like a full time job and I know from what I’ve read that you can make a full time job out of Autism too.

We have a busy time coming up again now, as Dylan has his first trip to the dentists on Thursday and I really want to get his teeth checked this time, as I think he’s been grinding the top of his two bottom front teeth and worn the tips away. Then on Friday he has CF Clinic, then next month Dylan has his ENT appointment at Norwich, which finally came through today.

Thank you to Kate Dee for the sea life themed card, he said “Fish!” when he opened it! Thank you to Julie Barrett for the card as well and for the fab Lunar Jim finger puppets, we’re using them to encourage his pretend play!

Update 4th January 2008

As I said in the last update, Dylan was on IV’s all over Christmas, which was a bit miserable, but he coped very well with it all. His chest gradually improved, and by Christmas Day he was feeling a lot better, so at least he was able to enjoy the day.

He has a very busy month coming up, as he has to see the CF Specialist at Norwich on 14th January, and then from 15th to 24th January he has his Multi-Disciplinary Assessment to give us a diagnosis on whether or not he is autistic. He is also STILL waiting for a referral to ENT. When we see the specialist in a week and a half, he’ll be able to tell us whether Dylan will need a gastrostomy in the near future, which we are very nervous about.

Thank you to Despina, Kate W, Edie, Lynne, Maria Carney, Helen T, Post Pals team, Julie Sue and Alan Barrett, Becki, Kate Dee, Laura H, and Jenn for their lovely cards. Thank you to Deborah Bright for the letter, origami and toys. Huge thank you’s to Kate W, Helen T and an anonymous Elf for being Dylan’s Elves. Also to Maria Carney, Julie Barrett, Charlie & Chloe G and family for the presents they sent, he loved them all, and to Emma Hoole for the reindeer food!

Update 16th December 2007

Dylan came out in chickenpox on 8th December and he’s been quite poorly with it, hardly drinking and very sleepy. He’s also still fighting the Aspergillus in his lungs and he’s been on the Itraconazole for 9 days now. Then yesterday (Friday 14th Dec) his consultant decided that because his chest is so awful and he hasn’t had any IV antibiotics since May, his horrible cough might be caused by a bacterial infection which hasn’t been picked up. So he has put him on two weeks of IV Ceftazidime and Gentamicin. The Gent is once a day and the Ceftaz is three times a day and he’ll be on them all over Christmas, until the 28th December. So we’re a bit gutted that everything has gone haywire just before Christmas, but hopefully the IVs will have kicked in by Christmas Day and then he should be feeling a lot better than he is now. He’s having such a rough time lately.

Update 8th December 2007

Dylan has had another rough month. They seem to be the only ones he’s capable of having lately. On 8th November he was very poorly with a double ear infection and severe tonsillitis again, all of which drove his asthma haywire. He got over that, but was left with quite a cough, so we had another cough swab done.

Last Thursday we had the phone call to say that his swab had grown Aspergillus, a fungus which plagued him back in August and made him very poorly. So he has just started treatment for that, but his cough is really disgusting. On Monday, he coughed so hard that a load of brown gunk (the fungus) came down his nostrils.

This Thursday he was assessed at nursery by the Advisory Teacher for Children With Special Needs and she said that for her, he ticks all the boxes for an Autistic Spectrum Disorder, but we have to wait for the official 2 week long assessment at the Child Development Centre in the spring for a formal diagnosis. She was concerned that he hardly spoke at all at nursery and his social development is clearly much delayed. He is also very into routines and patterns, but struggles to understand abstract concepts, or WHY he has to do things. Her main reason for the assessment was to get to know him and to decide when we would have to get the ball rolling for a Statement of Educational Need. She feels that all his needs are being met at the moment with his Individual Education Plan, his Play Plan and his Care Plan, so if we agree, she doesn’t feel that we will need to start organising a Statement until January 2009, ready for him starting full time school in September 2009.

Then yesterday, Dylan had CF Clinic. The consultant examined his ears first and said that they still looked dull, so clearly there is some fluid in there which isn’t draining away, possibly caused by the many polyps the consultant saw up his right nostril. His nose is also still very inflamed, so the Nasonex spray hasn’t done anything for him at all and he’s having regular nose bleeds now.

The consultant wants him to stay on the Itraconazole for the Aspergillus chest infection for 14 days and he said that it’s possible that Aspergillus is going to become a problem for him the future. If it does, he may have to have either oral or nebulised anti-fungal treatments long term, but as he’s already on 16 medications a day, (17 including the Itraconazole), two of which are nebulised, it would be tough for him to have another new treatment on top.

We asked why he seems so vulnerable to bugs and fungi and we were told that his lungs have clearly been damaged with all the many infections he’s had in his life and that they just can’t shift the bugs anymore. His cilia hairs which line his lungs and should move bacteria out of the lungs clearly aren’t able to function. So this was hard to listen to.

We also spoke to the dietician, who worked out his BMI as being on the 32nd centile, which is way below the CF Trust’s target of 50th centile for all CFers. So he has kept him on the Paediasure drinks and given us some samples of new things to try – ProCalShot, Calogen, and Enlive Plus. At the moment, we’ve tried the ProCalShot, and he is taking that fine.

The Fantasy Charity Fund and the Family Fund paid for us to go to Disneyland Paris last week for 3 days and it was a really amazing experience. Dylan was incredibly tired and very unsettled there, not sleeping properly, and hardly eating or drinking at all, but he enjoyed meeting all the characters and giving them a cuddle and he seemed to enjoy some of the rides.

We are now looking forward to Christmas and looking forward to having some family time together.

Thank you very much to Julie Barrett, Rachel Laws, Despina, Kate W, Edie, Lynne, Maria Carney and Helen Turner for their lovely cards. Thank you very much to Julie Barrett for the DVDs for Dylan and the Fifi purse for Seren. Thank you also to Rachel Laws for the crayons and colouring book for Dylan, he really loved it! And thank you very much to Dylan’s Elf Kate W, and to Maria Carney and to Helen Turner for Dylan’s fabulous Christmas presents! They are all sat under the tree ready for Christmas morning!

Update 31st October 2007

Dylan has had another rollercoaster month. He was quite well at the beginning of October, and then we had a FABULOUS surprise on 6th October when we were offered a trip to Disneyland Paris!  Dylan was chosen by his hospice to receive the gift, and we are SO grateful, and we just can’t wait to go at the end of November.

Dylan had caught a cold and tonsillitis in mid-October, and a couple of days later he was still poorly and it had gone onto his chest as well, so we took him to the hospital on the Sunday (14th) and the registrar put him on 5 puffs of Ventolin every 3 hours (in addition to his Seretide, Atrovent and Montelukast), a 3 day course of steroids, and a 2 week course of strong oral antibiotics (in addition to the 3 he already has every day). It took quite a while for him to improve, well over a week, and he struggled with a very nasty chest, but eventually the antibiotics did their job and his chest improved.

We have had more information about a gastrostomy from the dietician, which was very helpful, but his local CF teams have said that they don’t want to make the decision whether to put a gastrostomy in or not, they want to wait until Dylan is seen again by the specialist from Cambridge in January.  The dietician told us that Dylan’s energy consumption was down to 50% of what it should be and that some of his nutrient intakes were right down as well and that he couldn’t go on like that, as his body wouldn’t have any resources to repair itself or fight infection.

He’s since been drinking Paediasure drinks very well, at least 2 cartons a day, so at least his nutrition has improved even if his eating hasn’t, but he so far hasn’t put any weight on since July.

He had his feeding study done last week and that showed that he definitely has feeding problems, such as he is a very picky eater and very choosy about what he will eat off his plate, and he gets full far too quickly and once he’s decided he’s finished, he can’t be convinced to eat any more.

He finally had his flu jab two weeks late, after being unable to have it initially due to his tonsillitis, but I’m glad that’s out of the way now.

He also had his developmental delays re-assessment, which didn’t give us many answers, as the community paediatrician wants to wait until he has his formal intensive assessment at the children’s centre before she does much else, which might take until March or April next year.

So, at the moment, we’re just trying to get some weight on him if we can and waiting for things to progress as far as all the other aspects of Dylan are concerned. His speech is coming on nicely, he’s now joining 3 words together confidently, but he’s still very challenging and unpredictable and usually a total mystery to us.

Thank you to Kate Dee for the gorgeous Halloween card, both children loved it, especially Dylan has he is MAD on pumpkins at the moment! It’s his new word!

Update 1st October 2007

Dylan had a lovely birthday on 2nd September! He opened some of his presents in the morning, and then we went to a Lions Club function for lunch, then the Lions Club took us to see the Hippodrome Circus in Great Yarmouth. Then we took them to Brewsters for a birthday meal.

He has had a tough month with his health again, he just hasn’t stopped coughing. He’s on all the appropriate asthma treatments but they just can’t shift his cough.  He was seen at the ENT clinic and the doctor put him on Nasonex nasal spray for life, but said that there wasn’t anything he could do for his nasal polyps, and that he didn’t want to take his tonsils out while he is so underweight, because of the extra risks of blood loss. So that was disappointing, but his CF consultant isn’t happy with that assessment, and so he is going to query the consultant’s decision.

Dylan has had a terrible month with his appetite; he’s hardly eaten a thing most days, and is losing weight again. He had lost weight at his Annual Review a couple of weeks ago, and so his consultant is almost certain he’ll need a gastrostomy in the next few months, as he can’t afford to lose any more weight.

He had his Multi-Disciplinary Planning Meeting last Thursday, and the outcomes were that he is being referred for a more formal assessment for a possible diagnosis of Autism; his ENT assessment is being queried; he is to have a gastrostomy plan considered; he is to have a food study done at the end of October to see if there are any psychological/behavioural reasons for his lack of appetite; he is to be considered for a Statement of Educational Needs in December, ready for him moving up to pre-school in January.

He also had his booster dose of his pneumococcal vaccine on Friday, and he was very brave. He has his Flu jab coming up on the 10th October and an appointment with his dietician, and his Developmental Delays re-assessment on 25th October, then his food study on the 26th.

Thank you to Helen T for the lovely card and stickers, the lovely lady who sent the card and Teletubby, and the birthday present of luminous stars and a snake (which he loved) which he received last month but opened on his birthday.

Update 31st August 2007

Dylan has had a very rough month. He stuck a piece of plastic up his nose on Sunday 5th August and we couldn’t get it out, so we took him to the local A&E, and after some very traumatic tries, they couldn‚Äòt get it out either, so they sent us to Norwich hospital, where they tried again, and Dylan was hysterical. They tried hooking the plastic out, tweezing the plastic out and suctioning the plastic out and they made his nose bleed really badly, but they still couldn’t get it out. So we had to go all the way back home.

That Tuesday, the 7th August, he had to have a general anaesthetic at the local hospital to remove the plastic. He found the experience incredibly traumatic, as because of his developmental delays, he couldn’t understand what was going on, and he HATED the name bands. He REALLY fought against the anaesthetic, but they eventually got him under. He was only under for a few minutes before they removed the plastic and took him into recovery, but it took 40 minutes before they could rouse him at all. He was fine afterwards and went home that evening and didn’t need any painkillers or anything.

Then during the week, his cough gradually worsened and so on the Friday I took him to the GP, as his inhalers just weren’t keeping his coughing and wheezing under control any more. I wasn’t sure if it was the effects of the anaesthetic, the Haemophilus Influenzae bug making a comeback, or his asthma getting worse to the point of needing steroids. The GP said that we should keep him on the Atrovent for another week, and if he was still wheezy in a week, or if he got worse, then she’d put him on steroids.

By Sunday he was coughing himself sick and then his temperature shot up to 38.7 c, so I took him to the ward. They told me that his cough swab taken on 1st August had grown a fungus called Aspergillus, which was causing his cough and making his asthma much worse. They also found that he had really nasty tonsillitis AGAIN. They didn’t want to give him anything for the fungus until the blood results came back though, and so they sent us home. That night his temperature went up to 39.9 C, and he was really unwell. The next few days were an absolute nightmare.

His nurse rang up on the Monday morning to see how he was and I told her about the Aspergillus and tonsillitis and she said that he should be put on anti-fungals and steroids immediately for the fungus, and antibiotics for the tonsillitis. So, his Doctor prescribed him a 10 day course of Itraconazole (anti-fungals), and an initial 10 day course of Prednisolone (steroids), and a 10 day course of Penicillin. The Itraconazole made his stomach very upset and the tonsillitis hit him hard. He didn’t eat for two days and hardly drank either.

The steroids helped a lot, but as soon as we reduced the dose to half strength after 5 days, he got worse again and so they had to extend his course to two weeks, but in the last few days he has improved a lot and now he’s hardly coughing at all.  He’s had a few nose bleeds, which I think are due to his nasal polyps, and on Tuesday night he was up all night, unable to breathe through his nose. I have made repeated phone calls to chase up his appointment, but so far we haven’t received an appointment yet. It took his consultant over a month to bother to make the referral, and then it got lost in the internal mail for 2 weeks.

It’s his 3rd birthday on Sunday and we’ve got a really nice day planned for him.

Thank you for the present Dylan has received. We’re saving it for him to open on his birthday on Sunday, so I don’t know who it’s from or what it is yet!

Update 3rd August 2007

We went to see the specialist on 9th of July, and it was a huge eye-opener. The specialist found that Dylan’s nose was really badly inflamed and congested, probably because of nasal polyps, which are common in people with CF. He said that this is probably why his ears are full of fluid, because his mucus can’t drain down his nose, so it runs into his ears. He was also concerned with all Dylan’s recent bouts of tonsillitis, so he has asked for Dylan to be referred to the local ENT clinic, possibly to have surgery to remove the polyps, grommets to drain his ears, and his tonsils out, but we’ll have to wait and see what the ENT consultant says.

He also said that he didn’t feel that Dylan’s asthma was being treated aggressively enough, so he has drawn up an asthma action plan for him. He has increased the strength of his steroid inhaler, and told us to be much more generous with his Atrovent inhaler, which is working wonders, and that if he needs oral or IV antibiotics, or if the Atrovent and Ventolin aren’t doing the trick, then to get him oral steroids straight away. He also wants him to stay on his antihistamines all year round and to have Montekulast tablets long term as well, which should help the wheezing and coughing.

He has also asked for Dylan to have bloods taken to test his immune system functioning and to find out exactly what he is allergic to, what is triggering his asthma.  He also said that if Dylan’s weight centiles don’t catch up to his height centiles over the next six months or so, then he’ll be seriously considering a gastrostomy tube, which is a scary prospect, as I don’t think he would cope very well with it. I was over the moon to find that he’d put on over a kilogram when he was weighed at that clinic, which took him back up into a healthy weight range.

Dylan’s cough swab from that clinic grew a bug called Haemophilus Influenzae, so he had two weeks of oral antibiotics for that, and he’s just had another cough swab done on Wednesday to see if he’s managed to shift that.

He had Cystic Fibrosis Clinic at the local hospital today, and he was weighed again and he’s managed to put on another 1/2 a kg, which is fabulous. He’s also had his Creon tablets increased from 3 per snack and 4 per meal to 3 1/2 per snack and 5 per meal, which will take some getting used to, as he’s been on the same dose for so long now. It will also mean that he’s on a higher dose of Creon than Seren, even though she’s 2 years older than him.

His oxygen levels were really good today, which was a relief. He has had a bit of a cough over the past few weeks, and I think it’s asthma-related, as the Atrovent totally clears it, until it wears off again by the time of the next dose.

He is now being referred to the ENT clinic, and hopefully we won’t have to wait too long, as his nose is really bothering him. He is constantly sticking his fingers up his nose to try and clear it, and sometimes cries and says ‘nose’ in a really pitiful voice. He also got his prescription today for his Montekulast tablets, which should help I hope. I can get him those tomorrow.

His Melatonin sleeping tablets are a bit hit and miss though, totally inconsistent. He can have a really good night’s sleep some nights, but all this week he’s still been awake at midnight, one night he was up until 2am! It seems he’s able to fight the medication sometimes. I could tell the difference in him today though; he was so much grumpier and far less tolerant, all because he’s not been sleeping so well. My fingers are tightly crossed that as he settles back into being home again, his sleep patterns will improve.

His speech has improved a bit recently, as has his interaction with us as a family, both his psychologist and his consultant were happy with the improvement they could see in him today at clinic, and the respiratory registrar said that today is the first time she’s EVER seen him looking well! I think that’s partly because even though I slathered him regularly in Factor 50+ sun cream, he still managed to pick up a slight tan!

So now we’re just waiting on the results of his latest cough swab to see if he’s kicked this bug, to see how the new medications work out, and to see what the ENT consultant says.

Thank you to Kate Dee for the fab postcard of a Thomas the Tank Engine character, he got it this morning and he honestly LOVED it, didn’t put it down for about twenty minutes! Also for the London postcard.

Update 7th July 2007

Dylan has had an okay month, no bugs growing on cough swabs, but he has struggled with his asthma and hay fever this month and has been coughing and wheezing lots and having to use his inhalers. His sleeping has got even worse; he has been staying awake until 2.30 am and then having to be up for nursery at 7.30 am. It has been taking its toll, so his developmental paediatrician has prescribed him some sleeping tablets called Melatonin. He started them on Wednesday and they are AMAZING. He is now on his 4th night of excellent sleep, and the difference in him is amazing.

His speech therapist and psychologist are currently battling it out as to whether he has a type of autism called Pervasive Developmental Disorder or Global Developmental Delay, and there’s no solution in sight! Hopefully things will be agreed upon at his multi-disciplinary planning meeting at the end of September.

His speech is still very poor for his age, but he’s making slow progress. He’s trying to name TV programmes at the moment, and he’s also started saying ‘bye’ a lot more.

He had a lovely two nights respite at the hospice recently, and really enjoyed himself. It was his first time using the safe bed there, and he was fine with it.

He and Seren are going to Norwich on Monday (9th July) to see Dr Isles, the CF Specialist from Cambridge. It will be the first time that either of them has seen a specialist, so we’re all nervous and interested to see what will come of it.

At the moment, Dylan has a nasty cough, and Seren is coughing a bit too, so we’re waiting for cough swab results, which should be ready on Monday.

Dylan has just had some lovely cards from Helen T, Julie B, Alan B, and a very pretty one from America with buttons on the front! His favourite was the Thomas Tank Engine one, he loved it! Seren has had some nice cards too, her favourite was the princess card from Helen T. Fiona G has sent Dylan two lovely parcels with some gorgeous magnetic Thomas the Tank Engine and Polar Express trains, and some Disney’s Cars cars. He was over the moon with them! Thank you to all.

Update 4th June 2007

Dylan has had a really rough month. His cough swab from early May came back growing Pseudomonas again and he ended up on two weeks of IV antibiotics – his 16th course in 29 months. Then just ten days after he finished the IV’s, his temperature shot up to 39.5 C, and so we took him to the hospital. They said that the glands in his neck were huge, his tonsils were huge and inflamed with pus on them, and so now he has a really nasty bout of tonsillitis.

He hasn’t gained any weight since November, despite our hardest efforts to try and fatten him up and he’s now so skinny. He’s hardly eating a thing at the moment again with this tonsillitis, but at least he’s drinking. His temperature is still up and down and he’s feeling really rubbish. His Teletubbies and Thomas DVDs are keeping him happy though. ‘Tubbies’ is his new word and he’ll try to sing parts of the songs too.

Thank you to Kat for the fabulous push along frog, Dylan LOVED it! He pushed it all around the house for AGES! Thank you to the wonderful Fiona and Helen for your parcels, they have cheered both of the children up no end! Dylan especially loves the Polar Express train and the cuddly Postman Pat!

Update 4th May 2007

Dylan did well for most of April, but about a week ago his hay fever set off his asthma and he’s had a difficult week with lots of coughing and wheezing. This has meant he has needed a lot of his inhalers. He also lost his appetite and didn’t eat for three days.

Just as he seemed to be getting over that and gradually needing his inhalers less, he then got hit by a really bad stomach bug on Tuesday night. He was up all night being sick, and was very distressed. He then slept all day on Wednesday. He has managed to avoid vomiting since, but he’s got nasty diarrhoea and he’s hardly eaten more than a mouthful of food since Tuesday night.

In the last couple of days, his chest has also started playing him up; he’s got a nasty cough and starting to get temperatures. This might be contributing to his lack of appetite, and he’s lost nearly half a kilogram in a week.

He had CF Clinic today and they’ve started him on Clarityn once a day, to try and combat the hay fever, which seems to be affecting his asthma. He’s had a cough swab done today, so we’ve now got to wait until next week to see if there is any bacterial infection lurking in his lungs.

He was re-assessed at the developmental clinic on the 26th April. He hasn’t really made any progress that they can chart, as although he is now happier to be with people, gives more eye contact and has increased his vocabulary to about 40 words, he hasn’t developed enough to improve his scores. This means his developmental delays now range from 8 to 17 months delayed. His delays are now being termed as Global Developmental Delays, and they are wondering whether he may turn out to be diagnosed with some form of autism, but he is too young to make a diagnosis yet.

He has been referred to the Pre-School Liaison Group, who are arranging a Multi-Disciplinary Assessment. This will involve him attending a special nursery for 2 weeks, and while he attends he will be assessed by various professionals. It’s not nice to know this is necessary, but it’s good that so much is being done for him to help him.

So at the moment, he’s pretty miserable and he can’t even tell us what’s wrong. He is spiking temperatures, coughing, needing inhalers, pooing a lot, refusing to eat, isn’t drinking much and is very tired.

Update 11th April 2007

Dylan has had a good month although he did have tonsillitis and an ear infection. It did make him ill initially, but even though it gave him a horrendous cough, he fought it all off himself without having to resort to IV’s and so his doctors were over the moon.

His weight is still the same as it was in November, so we’re working hard to try and get his weight up.

His speech and communication has come on a bit lately. He’s now babbling a lot more which is wonderful to hear. He’s also started to try and parrot some words back to us, which is a huge step. He has another developmental assessment at the end of April, so we’ll be awaiting the results. We know he’s still a long way behind his peers, but at least we can see he is starting to progress, however slowly.

Thank you to Kate Dee and Julie for their regular cards and the Easter cards received are absolutely lovely!

Update 2nd March 2007

Dylan is now out of hospital, and he has finished his course of IV’s, which ended up lasting for four weeks. He did improve slightly on the IV’s, and he was also given a course of steroids to help him recover. He has now got his appetite back, and his wheezing has improved, but his wet, rattly cough has never left him, although it did get more infrequent. Today, however, his cough has worsened again and so we are really hoping that he isn’t going to go back downhill again.

He has his CF Clinic appointment tomorrow, and he will be seen by his consultant then, so hopefully we will know more tomorrow. It is possible he might need more IV’s, or they might want to do another throat swab and see if they can find out what is causing the cough, or they might want to try him on some extra oral antibiotics.

Dylan, Seren, Daddy and I, are going to the children’s hospice for the weekend tomorrow, to give me and Adrian some respite from caring for Dylan. Hopefully the weekend will be enjoyable for all of us.

Thank you very much to the very kind people who sent Dylan gifts recently, his favourites were the Postman Pat DVD, the heart-shaped balloon and the board book (which he did unfortunately eat!).

Thank you to everyone who sent cards and presents for Seren as well, as she really struggled with being apart from me and Dylan so much. She is a terrible worrier, and so didn’t cope very well with the past month. The cards and presents really cheered her up and made her feel special, and for that I am very very grateful.

Update 9th February 2007

We took Dylan to see the consultant this afternoon and his oxygen levels were down to 91-93 % (they like them to be above 95%) and he certainly showed off his horrendous cough to the doctors and nurses. He is still the same weight as before, still has no appetite, etc.

The consultant talked to the specialist in Norwich and he recommended keeping Dylan on his Ceftazidime IV, but stopping his Gentamicin IV (using this one for more than 3 weeks damages the hearing/kidneys and Dylan’s now had 3 weeks of it) and switching to IV Colomycin.

The new IV has to be given 3 times a day through a drip infusion, so I can’t bring him home, as I can’t do drips at home. I can do bolus doses or syringe driver doses, but not drips. So he’s got to stay in for the whole week’s course.

He’s really feeling rough tonight, tons of coughing, coughing until he gags, and he’s quite grumpy with it as well. He had a huge tantrum at around 5 pm, kicking and hitting me (really hard, I’m still sore!) and screaming his head off hysterically, which of course triggered wheezing and lots more coughing, so I tried to give him his inhaler which made him a million times worse tantrum-wise.

He eventually calmed down and dozed on my lap for an hour or so, but was still grumpy when Daddy woke him up for his physio about 6.30 pm. From Monday they’re going to get the hospital physio’s to do Dylan’s physio morning and evening (never had that before!!), which will make things a bit easier.

Update 8th February 2007

Dylan has had a very rough month. He started coughing in mid-January and grew a bacteria called Pseudomonas on his cough swab. He started oral antibiotics for this, but 3 days later he had declined significantly, and a chest x-ray showed that 1/3 of his right lung was covered in infection. He started intravenous antibiotics for this immediately, and has now had 3 weeks of these, with hardly any effect.

He is still very unwell with a very nasty cough, no appetite, grumpy, temperatures, breathlessness and wheezing. He has had to stay in hospital for 3 nights so far during the course of his IV’s, usually for blood tests. He has been very brave and stayed in hospital all by himself.

He is going to be seen at the hospital again tomorrow, and will probably be started on yet another course of IV antibiotics, different ones to the course he’s just finishing, and may have to stay in hospital again while he’s on them.

He is struggling with being so unwell for so long, and big sister Seren is struggling too, as my friend has had to take her to school and pick her up for me, and she doesn’t like that much. She also has to accept less attention at the moment because of Dylan requiring so much more care, and although she is very good about it, because she really loves Dylan, it makes her sad.

Update 3rd January 2007

Dylan was diagnosed with developmental delays in early December. His understanding of language, his self care skills and his social development are all about 12 months delayed. His speech development is about 9 months delayed.

His health has been kind to him over the past month; he has had all his normal treatments, but hasn’t needed any IV antibiotics, which is a huge relief. He actually enjoyed Christmas Day a lot more this year as well. Last year he did nothing but cough and cry, but this year he hardly coughed at all. He got a bit overwhelmed by it all, due to his developmental delays, so there were quite a few tantrums, and he got very tired, but overall he enjoyed himself.

He has also been allocated 10 nights respite at a local children’s’ hospice, which will be a hugely positive thing for him and for us as a family, and there is also a monthly support/play group which we hope to go to.

Social Services Children With Disabilities Team are also going to give us some support, by funding two mornings a week at a local nursery for him, which I’m sure will really help him with his developmental delays.

Thank you for all the beautiful Christmas cards Dylan has received for Christmas, they have made our front room look very festive! Also, thank you to Fiona for the very sweet message. Thank you so much to the wonderfully kind people who sent Dylan presents for Christmas. He loved them all, the Postman Pat van, the stocking making kit, the Royal British Legion teddy, the Dinosaur book, the art set, the Mr Men jigsaw and the magic painting book. THANK YOU.

Update 2nd December 2006

Dylan did really well in October, but he’s had a bit of a rough month through November. He had a two week chest infection which he fought off himself, and then last Thursday he caught a virus, which aggravated his asthma, and so at the moment he’s coughing himself sick and waking a lot at night. He’s been prescribed steroids for his cough, in addition to his regular inhalers, so hopefully they will kick in soon and he will be able to enjoy the run up to Christmas. He’s due a portacath flush in the next week or so as well, so I’m sure he’ll be brave for it. He’s just been allocated some respite at a hospice in the area, so hopefully he will benefit from that as well.

Thank you very much for the Rupert DVD, the stickers and today, the Christmas paper chains, and the Teletubbies finger puppet, all of which he has loved. A general thank you to all the kind people who have sent postcards and cards, including two Christmas cards so far. They are very much appreciated, and have certainly made Dylan smile! Also, a huge thank you to those who sent things for Seren, as she has really appreciated it.

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Ella C

15 July 2011

Story written 2010

Ella was diagnosed with Congenital Nephrotic Syndrome at 8 weeks old. This is a rare genetic condition resulting in kidney failure, which meant Ella had to have both her kidneys removed and needing dialysis for 11 hours every night.

Ella has spent an awful amount of time in hospital, and due to also having a low immune system, has spent many nights in ICU, HDU, and the renal ward. She has not been away from hospital for longer than 3 weeks this year, so the hospital has defiantly become her second home. Ella’s low immune system has also meant that she hasn’t been able to mix with other children as much as she would love to.

Although Ella is a really happy sociable little girl, this year has defiantly taken its toll on her. She sometimes has little energy and can get frustrated as her body won’t do as she wants it to. She is small for her age and doesn’t look like a 3 year old and although she can’t walk she gets about bum shuffling when not connected to a machine which brings a smile to the people she passes on the ward.

Update 13th April 2016

Ella and her family are now moving on from Post Pals. We want to wish them all the best for the future. Her Mum said this:

Ella has loved receiving post, on way home from school she will always ask “has the postman been”. She will always have issues, delays and transplant is not a cure but she is doing well (dare I say it, I’m touching wood). There are so many children in hospital, I know how much it helps receiving post when inpatient and decorating the room with cards and pictures definitely helped brighten the grey walls.

Thank you so much for the past 6 years on Post Pals, it’s brought many many smiles over the years even when smiling was the last thing we wanted or were able to do.

Update 7th December 2016

Ella’s knees and back are continuing to cause her pain if she’s on her feet for too long and she has stopped trying to take steps. She took her first ever steps earlier this summer but because of her problems with her bones her legs and joints are not aligned straight and they hurt which is putting her off.

Ella continues to need between 5-7 injections a day as well as regular blood sugar checks. She is also still having epo injections to increase red blood cells, her thighs are like a pin cushion. If her bloods are good when we’re seen at the hospital then she can move to 4 weekly clinic appointments. Ella is very excited for christmas and loving all the decorations and lights

Update 23rd August 2015

Ella is still having water infections that she can’t seem to shift, but this is probably down to her low immune system and anti-rejection medicines she has to take.

Ella has been having pain in her back legs and knees, so she’s got some new special shoes and insoles to help support her feet and ankles. We hope this will help, but her feet, ankles, legs, knees and hips, are not in the correct positions, so it will always be an ongoing problem.

She’s also having to go back on epo injection again, as her heamoglobin (although better than it once was) is not where it should be. Add that to the fact she already has 4-6 injections a day for her diabetes and she’s feeling like a pin cushion, but once they’re done she’s fine.

Her hearing also seems to be getting worse, which is another side effect of the steroids, so it’s going to be checked.

After all her hair falling out, it has started to grow back. Although there’s no legnth yet, it is starting to get thicker, so she’s hoping it continues. Ella always has the horrible side effects to any meds that she has, even if small risk, and for a girl it is an especially big thing to lose your hair. She just wants princess hair and a plait like Elsa from Frozen.

Despite all this, Ella had a fab time at the transplant games in Newcastle where she won a medal and 2 in team trophies. On one race, right at end, she left her walker and walked over the finish line – she was so happy and I was a very proud and emotional mummy!

Update 24th July 2015

Ella has been well in herself although she has needed lots of trips to hospital for blood tests. This is because we’ve been struggling to shift a urine infection, so lots of new antibiotics too.

On a happier note Ella took her very first steps, at nearly 8 years old, which got her on the tv 3 times – twice with Granada reports and once on Good Morning Britain. She now tells everybody she is famous – she really loved being on tv and lapped up all the attention.

Despite the first steps being taken, this is causing problems with her legs, knees and back as they’re in funny positions. This is due to bone disease dialysis and not walking. When she does walk, this is putting pressure on her joints and back, but we’re hoping some more supportive shoes and physio will help this. Ella also needs to restart epo injections to help increase red blood cells, as hers are low so she’s a bit anaemic. It’s not good as it’s another injection and she already has insulin injections about 5-7 times a day.

Update 2nd May 2015

On 7th May it will be 1 year since Ella’s kidney transplant. It is a huge milestone for Ella and the family, so we’re having a little party for ‘sidney kidney’, as this is what Ella calls her kidney! Two days later on 9th May, Ella has been chosen to be race starter for the Morrisons Great Manchester mini/junior marathon. She’s so excited and has insisted she wants to do it with her walking frame not wheelchair.

Ella had a fab Easter – her first Easter that she could eat Easter eggs, as she couldn’t eat them before transplant due to strict renal diet. She was also in ICU at Great Ormand Street hospital last summer.

We are having issues with Ella’s anti rejection meds as her hair is falling out and there’s not much left now. If things don’t improve we may have to change meds, but a happy kidney is more important and so it will needs lots of thought. Diabetes is also still an issue, requiring lots of insulin injections every day, so it wasn’t short term as we had hoped. Ella’s had extra trips for blood tests at hospital this month due a to water infection, but luckily antibiotics sorted that out again.

Update 5th February 2015

Ella has had 2 hospital stays this month, both with very high temperatures. The first time was put down to viral infection and infection around her gastrostomy button site and the second time she had a water infection. Luckily once the antibiotics kicked in Ella was loads better and blood levels improved. We have to go back again on Monday for repeat bloods as her blood clotting level has gone too high again, so we need to adjust her warfarin medicine dose. Consequently she has been at the hospital a lot these past few months but luckily Ella likes it there.

Update 11th December 2014

Apart from the typical cough and cold, Ella has been well lately – it just takes her longer to fight bugs and illnesses as she is immune suppressed. Transplant clinic appointments are now every 3 weeks instead of every 2 weeks.

She’s going to school full time and doing well. At the moment she’s enjoying practising her school nativity play. She is opening the play and she’s in her element when on a stage, so she’s very excited.

Update 4th November 2014

Ella has been going to hospital each fortnight for transplant clinic. The doctors are happy although there’s still an issue with her heamoglobin level being low (which is ongoing) and her pottassium being high, but they assured me it can take a while to settle. Ella’s anti rejection meds are also making her hair fall out so we are also keeping an eye on that as it has gone very thin.

The good news is her growth is picking up, as at the beginning of the month growth hormone injections were being mentioned because she’s so low down on the height charts. However, over the past 3 clinics Ella has grown 2cm each time, so she’s definitely having a growth spurt and at clinic yesterday the doctor said we can hold off on the growth hormone injections.

Ella still has diabeties which I was hoping would have settled by now, but as she is still on steroids her sugars are going to be high, so she’s requiring regular insulin injections many times a day.

Update 18th September 2014

August has been a busy month with lots of clinic appointments to change Ella’s medication. She was having injections twice a day to thin her blood, but on top of all the insulin injections and finger pricks to test blood sugar, this wasn’t ideal. The medicine in this injection also really stings, so we were swapping for warfarin in a tablet form which is kinder than injections. However, this meant going every day to hospital for bloods until she reached the correct blood clotting level.

Whilst this was going on, Ella’s haemoglobin level dropped again so she needed a blood transfusion. This is not ideal for transplant patients so to prevent needing another Ella also had an iron infusion a week later.

The week before bank holiday Ella’s cmv infection returned, and although well in herself, this caused her creatine (kidney function) level to creep up which isn’t a good sign. She spent the week going back for bloods but each day it got higher, so Ella got admitted over bank holiday weekend and had operation number 41, which was for kidney biopsy and to start iv steroid infusions. We had a long 24 hour wait for results but luckily they came back ok and her levels had come back down. Luckily they could also stop steroid infusions as this caused Ella’s sugar levels to go through the roof and not even recording on the tester.

On a good note, Ella has been well and her legs are definitely getting stronger. She is using her walking frame for longer periods and getting more confidence using it.

Update 28th July 2014

Ella is doing really well (dare i say it!) and we’re nearly 3 months post transplant. Clinic appointments are now every 2 weeks instead of weekly. This is very strange for us as we’ve gone from going every other day, to weekly, and now fortnightly. It is a very nice strange though.

Ella had her 40th operation a few weeks ago to have her stent removed and her gastrostomy tube changed to a button as she needs this for all her medicines. Ella is still having to have blood sugars checked and is needing insulin, but she’s still on steroids and we’re not sure when these can be stopped. She obviously doesn’t like all the finger pricks and injections every day, but luckily will forget after a while. She is also still having blood thinning injections but the doctor did say we could possible swap for aspirin which would just be tablet so one less injection. Fingers crossed!

Update 5th June 2014

Ella had her kidney transplant on the 7th May and is doing well. She is still in hospital though as the steroids needed have affected her pancreas and she now has diabetes. We are hoping this will be a temporary thing but in the meantime she’s needing lots of insulin injections and lots of finger pricks to check her blood sugar levels which aren’t nice. However she soon forgets about them and is happy and playing again.

Ella got transferred to Manchester children’s hospital from GOSH last night (4th June) so we’re nearer to home now. We’ve been far away from family and friends for a long time.

Update 4th June 2014

Ella is on her way back to Manchester children’s hospital from Great Ormond Street after a good response to her kidney transplant.

Update 8th May 2014

Thank you for everybody’s messages, it has been such a hard 24 hours. The operation went really well (although it took 9 hours) but the surgeons were really pleased. She got taken back to theatre to open her up and look at the kidney as she wasn’t urinating, but thankfully after an hour the surgeons told us the kidney looks fine. They think it is just a sleepy kidney which is common, especially as the operation was so long.

She’s now doing 7mls per hour which we’re so happy to see as Ella hasn’t urinated since she had both her kidneys removed at 19 months old. Fingers crossed it starts to pick up more but after 2 operations in one day I’m not sure my nerves can take any more! It is never straight forward for my poor baby girl.

Update 2nd May 2014

Once again, plans were made to come back to Great Ormand Street on certain a date in preparation for transplant which is planned for 7th May. The day after getting this plan Ella’s dialysis line wasn’t working properly and then the next morning Ella had pulled it again. After a big panic and flap we got her to Manchester Children’s Hospital where we were blue lighted in an ambulance to Great Ormand Street. This was the day before Good Friday. Once at Great Ormand Street we spent the night trying to get Ella’s potassium/phosphate levels down. Due to not getting dialysis since the Monday these were high, as her body can’t break these down and are harmful and dangerous if too high. She was on 2 lots of different i.v meds and nebulisers hourly through the night to make her safe to go theatre. This took a while and she didn’t get to theatre until 12 midday. We were told this was a very tricky operation with no guarantees of getting a line in due to Ella having really bad access because she’s had so many lines previously. There was talk of maybe going into the liver but this was also very tricky. Luckily the surgeon got a new line in just above where her old one was. Ella had to go straight to intensive care on a ventilator after the operation as she was so fluid overloaded they struggled to get the breathing tube down her. They were worried if they took the tube out there would be problems, so she went to icu on continuos dialysis until all the extra fluid was taken off her. Two days later Ellaa was extubated (taken off ventilator and breathing tube taken out). On Easter Sunday Ella was transferred back to Eagle ward and allowed a little bit of easter egg. We’re still there now as it was felt best to stay here until transplant, so she’s had her ECHO ultrasound, chest x-rays and blood tests, all in preparation for transplant on 7th May. Throughout all this Ella has been oblivious as likes being in hospital and we’ve had chances to get out for walks and to the park.

Update 21st April 2014

Ella is now off the ventilator and has moved back on to the ward from ICU.

Update 19th April 2014

Ella is at Great Ormand Street hospital in PICU on a ventilator. She pulled her dialysis line out and as she didn’t get dialysis since Monday, all the extra fluid that built up made her extremely fluid overloaded. So she had operation 36 to put a new line in, which luckily they managed, as it is extremely difficult to find access. She went straight to picu and hopefully once all fluid is off they can take her off the vent.

Update 8th April 2014

After the past 2 transplant cancellations in February and March, Ella is now home and continuing her heamo dialysis at Manchester children’s hospital 3 times a week. We have been given a new “provisional” date for transplant as May the 7th. We would be going back to GOSH two weeks before (around 23rd April) so fingers and toes crossed and prayers it goes ahead this time.

Update 25th March 2014

Ella has had a very rough time after being admitted to hospital on 15th January with a line infection. She had to stay in for 6 weeks of iv antibiotics and whilst there we got a date for transplant, which was 19th February.

So, at the beginning of February we were transferred to Great Ormand Street Hospital from Manchester Children’s Hospital. Unfortunately, the day before transplant, whilst having dialysis, Ella had a seizure and the transplant was cancelled. She had an emergency CT scan and luckily this was ok and the seizure was due to the more intense dialysis washing out her medicines.

We were soon given a new date for transplant (18th March) and allowed to go home to return to GOSH on 11th March in preparation for transplant. A couple of days before leaving for GOSH we got a phone call saying transplant had been cancelled as there was a problem with theatre slots. We were assured this was all sorted so it left us all very angry and confused. Luckily, a few days later, we managed to get everything back on track and we went to GOSH the following day.

Whilst this was going on Ella had been complaining her leg was hurting and swollen and she wasn’t wanting to move it, so we got her leg scanned whilst at GOSH. This showed the muscle in her thigh was full of blood so she needed a trip to theatre which got cancelled at 10pm after being nil by mouth all day. Luckily, Ella went to theatre at 3pm the following day for operation number 36, to have her leg drained and leave a drain in.the operation went well and Ella was ok despite needing 100mls of blood draining just from muscle. The drain was removed the day before transplant, but after an echo scan on the same day, the consultants decided it was best to cancel the transplant again. So, in the space of a month we’ve had the transplant cancelled twice on the day before.

We are now at home but don’t have a new date yet. We’re waiting to hear back from GOSH as to what the next plan or date is. Ella is still in pain with her leg but nothing like it was, so we are hoping it’s just a case of needing time for it to heal, as she was left very badly bruised.

Update 23rd February 2014

Ella is being transferred back to Manchester Children’s Hospital today. We should have been going home today but because of her high blood pressure we’ve got to stay in hospital. She will be back to GOSH on 11th March ready to try transplant again on the 18th March.

Update 20th February 2014

Ella’s transplant didn’t go ahead yesterday after all the build up and planning and 6 weeks already spent in hospital. She had a seizure during dialysis on Tuesday afternoon (the day before transplant) so it had to be cancelled. Luckily, despite needing to be sedated and an emergency ct scan, there were no bleeds and they think it was all down to needing a higher dose of meds now that she is on anti rejection meds, as one of them lowers the seizure threshold. So it is a case of waiting for blood results for levels and also waiting for another date. More importantly though, Ella is fine in herself.

Update 5th February 2014

Ella is now at GOSH as we got transferred from Manchester children’s hospital today. I was hoping to get a couple of days at home next week before transplant as we’ve already been in hospital 3 weeks but we’ve been told we’ve got to stay in, so it’s looking like a very long stay ahead and far from home.

Update 29th January 2014

Ella has been in Manchester Children’s Hospital for the past 2 weeks. She had a line infection so is being kept in on 3 different iv antibiotics. Doctors have said they want her to continue the iv antibiotics for another 2 weeks, although this now may be longer as on Monday we got a phone call from GOSH with a date for transplant. The date is 19th February and so we may be on them up until transplant and are looking at a long stay in hospital.

Update 25th January 2014

We got a phone call from GOSH yesterday. Ella’s transplant will be on 19th February. She’s still in Manchester Children’s Hospital on ivs and will be for 3 more weeks. We are hoping we can go home for couple of days before we need to go to GOSH, but it looks like it will be out of this one and straight to GOSH, so we are looking at a long stay in hospital.

Update 6th December 2013

Ella has had a rough couple months and spent 5 weeks in hospital having 3 operations in the space of a week. This was due to problems with her central line which she’s dependant on for dialysis. Luckily the new central line was put in and an artery on the opposite side that had been blocked due to previous central line being there was unblocked and a stent put in to keep the artery open which was a relief. From this operation another clot was found which wasn’t there the week before and we found out Ella had abnormal blood clotting, so we had to stay in hospital on continuous heparin infusion to thin her blood and had to have bloods taken every 4 hours which was very stressful for her. She is now having this treatment by having an injection twice a day which she hates and gets so upset, but luckily after lots of cuddles she calms down.

As for the transplant, we were originally told it would happen before Christmas but that’s obviously not the case now, as we’re still waiting to hear back from GOSH. Despite all this Ella is very excited for Christmas and is loving all the Christmas songs and decorations.

Update 26th October 2013

Back home from an emergency admission / transfer from Manchester Children’s Hospital to Great Ormand Street Hospital. Ella’s line started playing up last Saturday as when connected to dialysis machine the flows needed to filter and clean her blood were not strong enough. After unblocking infusions it was a trip to theatre for a new line. This was operation 33 but unfortunately she came back from theatre with no line and the surgeon saying there is no way of dialysing Ella. Luckily, within hours we were on our way to Great Ormand Street and the next morning had operation 34. After a very long 4 hours a line was put in. It was a horrendous week but despite this Ella remained her cheerful self and just wanted to go in the playroom. We’re now waiting on a date to go back to GOSH for more detailed scans either next week or the week after.

Update 23rd October 2013

Ella was transferred to GOSH from Manchester children’s. Her operation on Monday night did not go to plan as the surgeon could not get a central line in which she is dependant on for dialysis. After a CT scan at Manchester, GOSH said they will try using balloons and stents, so Ella is in theatre now at GOSH having this done.

Update 1st October 2013

We’re still waiting to hear about next stage of transplant work up and still awaiting a date for this.

Ella has had a good month settling into her year 1 at school and likes her new teacher.

Update 18th September 2013

Ella had an echo scan at the hospital as build up for transplant. Luckily everything was fine so now we’re just waiting to hear back from GOSH.

A huge thank you to everybody who sent birthday cards for Ella. After looking at each card she shouted ‘thank you Post Pals!’. Huge thanks for the moshi monsters magazines too, I thought Ella was going to burst with excitement!

Update 21st August 2013

Tests are still ongoing with Ella’s Nanna who’s a blood and tissue match to donate her kidney to Ella but now is having scans and blood tests to see if her kidneys are working fine.

Next month will be 3 years since Ella’s transplant happened and failed within the same day and it was scary times as it is Ella’s only option, so it is very good news that Ella can have a second transplant as last year wasn’t an option due to poor arteries.

Apart from this Ella is enjoying the school holidays and continues to go hospital three times a week for her dialysis.

Update 31st May 2013

After having a new central line put in (after only having the last one put in on the 15th March) things have been ok. We are currently awaiting blood results from Ella’s Nanna to see if she is a match to donate her kidney. This will be Ella’s second transplant and due to the first one not working this transplant is being treated as high risk and being done at Great Ormand Street Hospital not Manchester. This means we will be a long way from home but it is Ella’s only option.

Ella continues to go hospital 3 times a week for her dialysis and enjoys using all her new colouring books and kits to occupy her whilst she’s connected to the dialysis machine.

Update 9th May 2013

After returning from Great Ormand Street where Ella had a new dialysis line fitted, this has since had to be removed and a new one put in. This was tricky as her access is poor, but luckily a new one is in and working.

In the past week we have heard back from Great Ormand Street, who after looking at results, have said there is a vein/ artery big enough for Ella to have a kidney transplant. This came with very mixed emotions as Ella’s first kidney transplant went very wrong. Last year we were told she was untransplantable though, so obviously this is good news now as transplant is the only option for Ella. We have no date or time span as to when this will happen, just that they will push for it to happen. A family member is awaiting an appointment to have further tests done to see if she can donate her kidney. In herself, Ella is doing well, enjoying school and getting excited for an upcoming holiday.

Update 1st April 2013

It has been quite a stressful month. Ella’s planned operation to create a fistula in her arm didn’t go ahead as the morning of the operation an echo scan showed a clot inside her main artery where her dialysis line lies. So another operation was arranged to remove the line as this would break the clot up or it would come out with the line and they would put a new line in. The operation seemed to go well and Ella was sat up wanting toast within half an hour of being back on the ward, but another echo scan showed the clot is still there and is in the same place and same size, so it felt like a waste of time. However, the operation provided an opportunity to put dye into Ella’s veins and arteries so the consultants can look at them and see if Ella can have a transplant again. We’re still waiting to hear back from GOSH so I’m not sure on the plan yet.

Update 9th February 2013

We are still awaiting the results of Ella’s scan she had done on her arms. It was to look at her main arteries and veins in her arms to see which would be best to create a fistula in her arm, as this is seen as a better way for Ella to receive her heamo dialysis in the long term because there is less chance of infection and it lasts longer than hickman lines do. We went down to Great Ormand Street for this and were then sent to Guys hospital for the scan. So up until we hear back from GOSH we won’t know what type of fistula Ella will be having and when. It is difficult trying to get information as Manchester children’s hospital have never put or used fistulas in children (just teenagers) so we just have to wait for GOSH to get in touch with Manchester and then let me know.

Ella had a short stay in hospital in January due to high blood pressure which led to her becoming unwell, but luckily was fine soon after.

Update 11th December 2012

Ella’s mri scan was cancelled last minute as her consultant decided it would be best for her to have a general anesthetic rather than just sedation, so that will be happening on the 7th January. Hopefully we’ll then get an appointment at GOSH to see a consultant as nobody at Manchester has created a fistula in a child as young as Ella (just teenagers) but luckily they have at GOSH. So, once we’ve had her appointment we will hopefully get a date for operation number 30. Ella needs a fistula creating in her arm for her heamo dialysis, she has always had rubbish IV access and has had lots of central lines which she uses at the moment, but central lines don’t last long so fistula is the best option for Ella.

Ella is very excited for Christmas and is looking forward to her school nativity play and Christmas party at school.

Update 12th November 2012

Ella is continuing her heamo dialysis 3 times a week at the hospital and going to school on the days we’re not at the hospital. She is doing really well at school and has settled in well in her first year at school.

After spending most of summer in hospital, we made it through October without admission.

Next month Ella is having an mri scan to see veins in her arms. This is so they can put a fistula in her arm so that we are not dependent on just the hickman line for her dialysis. We have to go to Great Ormand Street Hospital which we have never been to before, as no surgeon at Manchester children’s hospital or nearer to here has done this operation on children, only on teenagers, so it is all new for them as well as us. Luckily GOSH have done this on young children. After had scan at Manchester, we will hopefully get a date soon to go down to GOSH and talk about having the operation to create fistula in her arm. This will be Ella’s 30th operation but it probably won’t be until January.

Update 13th September 2012

Ella has had a rough couple of months as she spent most of summer in hospital. In May, we had to take her to A&E with the same reoccurring problem of severe tummy pain and vomiting. After being given way too much morphine and it not even helping, Ella had operation 27 to repair a huge hernia and to remove a small part of bowel and insert a support for her tummy wall where it had broken away. She also needed a new hickman line putting in as this operation meant she would have to temporarily switch to heamo dialysis instead of the dialysis she has at home (peritoneal dialysis) as any fluid going in would put too much pressure on the large scar after surgery.

Ella had a long recovery as she had high blood pressure and she’s had that much surgery on her tummy that things took a while to start again and then her scar started to open a little bit which needed vac therapy treatment. By the middle of July she finally came home although she’s still having to come to hospital every Tuesday, Thursday and Sunday for heamo dialysis.

Unfortunately, with being in hospital, Ella missed all the settling in days for her new school and we also had to cancel a family holiday. By August, the nurses tried her back on peritoneal dialysis, but the catheter for this was blocked so operation 28 went ahead in the hope of getting a new one in time for starting school. The operation seemed to go well as the surgeon managed to get a catheter in and although Ella was well and in good spirits when she first got back to the ward, I noticed after a few hours that she was breathing fast and had a high temperature and was then complaining of tummy pain. Three types of I.V. antibiotics were started but as days went on there was no improvement, so 4 days later Ella went back to theatre for operation 29 and unfortunately the surgeon had to remove the PD catheter and said her peritonaeum had adhesions that weren’t there 4 days prior, and although fluid went in, non came out, so home dialysis was no longer going to be an option.

The next day Ella started vomiting badly and needed an NG tube putting in to free drain all the bile in her tummy and was put nil by mouth. Luckily (and finally) by September and the weekend before her birthday, Ella started eating and drinking and moving about and being back to herself and was finally discharged from hospital.

Although Ella missed her first day and first week of school, she has started her ‘settlings in’ this week. She did an hour on Monday morning and did 2 and a half hours Wednesday and really enjoyed herself. It will be a long process settling her in and she still needs to go hospital for dialysis, but she can at least go to school on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays.

Ella also had a fab 5th birthday on the 9th September and enjoyed a party with friends and family. Thank you for all her cards and gifts!

Update 3rd July 2012

Ella has had a very tough 2 weeks and is still poorly in hospital. She had her 27th operation last week and needed part of her bowel removed – luckily only small part, but it was still not expected and she had to go straight to HDU. Ella also had a bad reaction to the morphine and had to be kept on oxygen and was also requiring blood sugars and gases done every hour so she was being pricked every hour. Due to the operation they had to change her form of dialysis – she was on peritoneal dialysis but has had to change to heamo dialysis to give her tummy a break. We are hoping she can go back onto pd dialysis before she starts school in September. Ella’s also had to be put on feeds as after 2 weeks she is still not eating or keeping fluids down. On the plus side, Ella is now off oxygen, morphine and ketamine, so I’m hoping things start settling down and improving very soon.

Update 16th April 2012

Ella had another stay in hospital with her re-occurring abdominal problem of extreme sickness and pain brought on by constipation, which resolved itself by day 4 . Doctors are thinking her intestines may be getting affected by her dialysis and numerous surgeries on her tummy, so not much can be done at this point apart from manage it as it occurs with i.v. pain relief and fluids, lactolose and suppositories. Unfortunately this admission happened on Easter Sunday so Ella not only missed out on celebrating that but she also missed out on going to see cbeebies live as we had tickets for her for that day.

On a better note, Ella is loving her new house and has more space to practice getting her legs stronger by being helped to walk about whilst we hold her hands. Her latest x-rays have shown her ankles are in a better position than they were 6 months ago too. They’re still not in the right position but are much straighter than they were so we’re hoping this continues now her parathyroid level has improved and she has the strength to try and get up on her feet. She also got a walking frame today which were excited about.

Update 8th April 2012

la is back in hospital again with the same symptoms as the last few admissions – very bad tummy pain and sickness. I’m hoping iv pain relief works better but we need to find one that works better because they said they can’t give morphine as it will make things worse (can apparently make you constipated).

Update 3rd January 2012

The operation Ella was due to have in October that got cancelled (due to her having a cough) is at present no longer required. She was to have her para thyroids removed as they were over active and causing all calcium to leak out of her bones. This was making her bones spongy and weak and so leaving her with bone disease and unable to walk. However, bloods taken since October have shown her pth levels drop from 2500 to 150 (this is still not a normal level as it should be below 50, but it is a huge improvement on what it was), and i am noticing the difference as Ella seems to have more strength in her legs and is always asking to be stood up. Although we still have to hold onto her, this is a massive improvement as she couldn’t do it before and would cry if we tried to get her to do it, so I’m hoping this continues.

A huge thank you for what you do. This is an amazing charity! Mornings can be quite stressful in our house with medicines and dressing changes, so when the post gets delivered my daughter gets so excited and soon forgets the trauma of sticky dressings and yucky medicines. I have often had to say to Ella to have the medicines quickly and then the post man will be here!

Update 5th March 2011

Ella’s operation went ok but unfortunately we can’t go home today as she now needs i.v. antibiotics because she had a high temperature, so we’re waiting on blood results.

Update 1st March 2011

Ella is having another operation on Friday to have a pd catheter fitted so hopefully when tested in a couple of weeks time we can go back to having dialysis done at home rather than in hospital. There’s no guarantees as her peritoneum was damaged but fingers crossed it has now healed and we can do dialysis at home as Ella has spent way too much time in hospital!

Update 14th January 2011

Ella has now been moved to the ward after spending a week on a ventilator in ICU. MRI and CT scans have shown little bleeds on the brain and sign of a stroke down to a condition called PRES (posterior reversible encephalopathy syndrome). We have to be patient as recovery will be a long slow process and we’re not sure by how much.

Today was good day though, she’s moving arms and legs a bit more and her eyes are focusing/following a little better. She also blew a kiss to her favourite nurse and gave her daddy a high five.

Update 8th January 2011

Please could everyone pray for my little girl Ella. She’s on a ventilator in ICU. MRI and CT scans have shown bleeds on brain. I just want her to get better so I can give her a huge hug. I’m missing my cuddles and need them more than ever.

Update 3rd December 2010

Ella had her kidney transplant in September, but sadly the transplant failed and Ella was only allowed home on the 2nd of December.

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Courtenay P

15 July 2011

Story written 2008

Courtenay was born on the 3rd October 1999. From the age of around 2 months, I noticed that her head was to one side. I asked the GP at her baby clinic and he told me that there was no need to worry, it was just a lack of head control, and at the time I accepted this. When she reached the age of one year her head was still to the one side and she was sleeping less and less. Her behaviour was also getting worse. She had brown patches but I didn’t think anything of it because I had them and so did her 2 other sisters and my Mum. I revisited my GP and insisted on a referral to the hospital, the paediatrician there put her problem down to glue ear and said she was purposely putting her head to the side because she was shy Courtenay is anything but shy!

I left it at this though deep down I knew there was something wrong and I didn’t know what. For the next 3 years it was the same. I was wary of going back to my GP because he said i was an over protective mother due to my other children also having problems at the time. Then in December 2003 I was taken into hospital doubled over in severe pain at first and I was thought to have appendicitis. The doctors did an ultrasound scan followed by a CT scan. They found a big tumour attached to my pelvis, spine and travelling down my right leg. It was thought to be malignant and I was transferred to the Royal Marsden hospital in London. There I was diagnosed with Neurofibromatosis.

This set the ball rolling and everything started to slot into place. The whole family were referred to a geneticist and tested for NF1. Courtenay and her 2 sisters were also diagnosed with NF. It was such a relief to find out that I was not going mad and the children’s problems were not all in my head. First Courtenay’s oldest sister was late sitting, walking, and had problems feeding. She was very underweight and small for her age. She also had lots of cafe-au-late spots, but they were overlooked. I was told I was worrying about nothing and it was normal for first time mums. Secondly, Courtenay’s behaviour was put down partly to our parenting and her neck was over looked. Armed with new knowledge, I visited her (thankfully new) GP. He took me seriously and suspected scoliosis and organised X-rays which confirmed this. Her spine is S shaped and her hips are lopsided causing her head tilt. Since then everything has gotten better for us and we have more support from doctors etc. Courtenay tries not to let this restrict her when playing football, but she is not able to play for longer than 10 minutes due to the pain. Her doctors allow her to play football but she has to take it easy, no saving goals etc. Courtenay will probably have her brace next year, even sooner if it progresses.

Regarding Courtenay’s younger sister Tyanna, luckily after my diagnosis she had support from the start. She has developmental delay and attends a main stream school with one to one support.

Having 3 other siblings with special needs and also having problems myself, it takes its toll on Courtenay and her behaviour can be challenging. She can be aggressive to her siblings but is always very remorseful because she often does it on impulse without thinking. She often comes home from school upset because she so often has to play alone at break times. Courtenay is a loveable, chatty and very funny little girl and would love to make new friends to exchange letters with. She is always writing me letters and posting them under my bedroom door.

Update 22nd September 2015

Courtenay still sings in various singing competitions, she loves singing and sings constantly at home and in the car.

She had a fantastic time in Bulgaria and made a lot of new friends. She enjoyed trying new foods and swimming in the pool.

She started back at school at the beginning of September and this year she’s doing her exams. I think she’s going to stay on an extra year and then going on to college to do midwifry.

We are still waiting for an appointment for her to see her back specialist. The last two appointments have been cancelled by the hospital for some reason and so we are waiting for another which will hopefully come soon.

Update 13th May 2015

Courtenay is growing up fast, she’s in her GCSE year and is currently doing a lot of revision. It only seems like yesterday that she started in comprehensive school. When she leaves school she wants to go in to midwifery so she has a lot of work and studying to do.

Courtenay is having a lot of problems with her back and it is causing her a lot of pain and discomfort.

Courtenay has an amazing voice and loves competing in singing competitions. She can sing anything from rock to ballards. When she has some spare time she loves sitting and looking after her disabled grandfather and helps around the house and makes him tea etc. She also loves going to the caravan and helping down there during the school holidays.

Thank you to everyone for the children’s post.

Update 2nd August 2014

Courtenay’s back problem has become a bit worse (pain wise) and scan results show that even though the curve hasn’t decreased as badly as they first thought, a brace wouldn’t be helpful as yet. They also diagnosed another problem called sheuermann’s disease which causes a curve at the top of the spine. This means she now has an S shaped one at the bottom and a C shaped one at the top, so it’s no wonder she’s in a lot of pain. The doctor has referred her for more physio which I’m a big skeptical about as last time it didn’t help at all. I’m also a bit angry as I read that sheuermann’s can sometimes occur with scoliosis when a brace could have prevented it. She was told she needed a brace years ago but it kept being held off.

She has just enjoyed a lovely holiday in Bulgaria where she let nothing hold her back. She tried out all the big rides despite the fact that it caused her a lot of pain. She just wanted to be like other teenagers, which I can understand. She was a hit with other guests and often had them laughing. She also wowed them with her singing.

She’s going into her GCSE years next year and wants to work her socks off as she wants to be a midwife. Along with her siblings, they made loom bands at the hotel on holiday using all their own bands and raised over £230 lev which is about £95 in our money. It’s to help send underprivileged children to Lapland.

Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to write and send to the children, it’s really appreciated.

Update 10th March 2014

Firstly, I’d like to thank everyone for sending cards, letters and parcels, to Courtenay, Tyanna and also Cameron.

Courtenay is having a lot of problems with her back. She attended the Royal Gwent Hospital in Newport last Friday. She had x-rays and is currently waiting an appointment for an MRI scan to see what’s happening in her back. She has been advised to start going swimming on a regular basis to help her back muscles.

Courtenay is still doing well at school and is going into her GCSE year. She’s decided to go to college to learn either midwifery or teaching.

In April, Courtenay, Cameron and Tyanna are attending a week long PGL camp with me as one of the helpers. There’s a lot to organise and we are all looking forward to it. We will be abseiling, etc.

We hope everyone is ok and keep smiling.

Update 15th August 2013

Courtenay has had an up and down couple of months. The pain on her back has been getting worse causing more sleepless nights. It is often reducing her to tears but she keeps on going and tries not to let it restrict her, but she pays for it pain wise later on.

Her paediatrician thinks that the hump on the top of her back is more pronounced and has referred her to her orthopaedic doctor for an emergency appointment, bringing the appointment forward by 4 months. She is seeing him on 6th September.

Courtenay had a lovely time at the Post Pals party entertaining everyone as usual. She was really thrilled to see Kate W again and wouldn’t leave her side. They had quite a few giggles together.

She enjoyed a lovely school trip to Paris. She loved visiting the art galleries and seeing the sites. She also enjoyed tasting snails for the first time – yuck!!!!!!!! On the first night she was quite ill and violently vomited all night but was right as rain next morning. She was also very brave there and helped protect her friend from pickpockets. There was a scuffle and she was knocked down some steps and she banged her head – she was a bit shook up but ok.

At the end of July we had a lovely holiday in Clacton-On-Sea. The friends we went with also had NF so did some of their children. The children liked the fact that the others knew how they felt and what they were going through. She was also chuffed to see her idol Peter Andre’s brother there and stood at the front of the stage the whole time he was on.

They were all due to go to a NF Camp with the Children with Tumours charity on 26th August. For some reason though it all fell through and it was cancelled. The children were gutted as had been really looking forward to it. Fingers crossed though it will go ahead in April next year.

Courtenay is looking forward to starting in year 9 in September. She’s determined to study hard because she’s decided that she wants to become a social worker and I’m in no doubt that she will achieve her dreams as she gives everything her all.

Thanks to everyone who has thought of the children and taken time to write, email and mail them as it really means a lot.

Update 9th May 2013

Courtenay has had a up and down time since November. She has had to stop playing netball which she loved. The pain in her back has been a lot worse lately. Her paedatrician has referred her back to her orthopedic doctor for an urgent scan. Her school has been great because instead of doing PE she now mentors the other children due to her enthusiasm. She’s doing really well at school and scoring 1 – 2 years above her age level. In english it is around 3 – 4 years. We are very proud of her achievements as she tries not to let anything hold her back.

On the down side, the lack of physical activity has made her gain weight, which is so self conscious about. She’s now doing her best to try and lose some.

We have also been given the good news that her aunty is in remission from cancer.

Courtenay is due to go to Paris with the school in July which she is looking forward to. Our family is also due to go to an NF camp in August by the charity The Children with Tumours Charity.

Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to write and post to our children, it has been greatly appreciated.

Update 1st November 2012

In August we went on our family holiday to Benidorm. We went with friends so Courtenay, Cameron and Tyanna, had other children to play with. Courtenay didn’t need this because as usual she made lots of friends around the pool both young and old. Courtenay wowed everyone by singing karaoke – she has found something she real enjoys and that’s singing.

She hasn’t been too bad pain wise but seems to smile through the pain and doesn’t let on that much when she is hurting. She is still having physio which I’m not sure really is helping. They found that along with her scoliosis she has another spinal problem and another condition with her neck.

She was really upset as she wanted to join rugby with Cameron but there is no way that she’d be able to do it with her problems. She has been referred to a dietician too, because partly due to her medication and also not been able to exercise, she has put on a lot of weight in the last year. She has also comfort eaten a lot since her favourite Aunt was diagnosed with cancer. Luckily, her Aunt has just finished her last chemo. Her Aunt also loves spending time with Courtenay because Courtenay really cheers her up and looks after her.

In September, Courtenay and the rest of the family attended a NF camp at PGL in Surrey and it was an inspirational weekend. It was so lovely as all the children had the same condition as Courtenay and Tyanna. Cameron also loved it and made lots of friends. At the end of the trip awards were given out and Courtenay won the making us smile award which was so fitting for Courtenay! There was not one thing Courtenay refused to try, you could see that Courtenay was in pain trying things but she wouldn’t give up until she achieved what she wanted. They all did us proud.

Courtenay also won school merits for high scores in History which is a subject she excels in.

Thanks so much to everyone who has sent emails, gifts, cards and letters, it is such a comfort to know that people are thinking of us.

Update 9th April 2012

Courtenay has been complaining more often about pain. The specialist brought her appointment forward by 3 months as they had interesting findings to why she is in pain. Along with her shaped spine due to the scoliosis caused by her neurofibromatosis, she has 2 other problems. She also has another condition that I can’t remember the name of but it causes a hump at the top of her spine which can become increasingly painful and he seems to think the majority of her pain is caused from this other than her scoliosis. She also has a muscle that is too short on one side and pulls her head to that side. There is an operation to correct this but the success rate isn’t that great. Courtenay has declined this and at the age of 12 we decided to let it be her decision as she definitely knows her own mind.

Courtenay has also gone through a horrible period of bullying by girls who are 4 years older than her, causing her to become very upset which is unlike her. She has also gone through a period of cyber bullying, though she was more upset at what they were calling Tyanna due to her learning difficulties, than what they called her. She is made fun of about her weight gain due to the meds and also her scoliosis. Luckily the school cracked down on one girl and she was excluded – the school threatened to get the police involved too. This has helped it calm down at the moment and Courtenay has some lovely friends to help her through this.

Thanks to everyone who has taken time to email, write, and post to the children. They look forward to them all and love reading about Dottie’s adventures – Cameron loves to read the letters to Tyanna and no one else is allowed to do the job, only her big brother!

Update 8th February 2012

Courtenay has been a bit better this month. Last month and the month before that she was plagued with viruses and infections – as soon as one would go she would come down with another. She is still having the physio on her back that helps with the pain but won’t do anything for the curve. Luckily, the curve is still stable though.

She hasn’t heard back from Britain’s Got Talent which means she didn’t get through. She is fine about this though as she just loved the day out and wants to try again next year.

Courtenay has been a bit upset the last few weeks as her favourite auntie has just been diagnosed with colonic cancer and Courtenay found out about it and is really confused by it.

Unfortunately I have also had to have a lot of visits to hospital this last month. I’ve had lots of PET scans as my consultant is very concerned about a new tumour on my knee.

Tyanna has also had to see a specialist as they said the tumour under her ribs is a plexiform (which can be a rarer side effect of Neurofibromatosis) and is in danger of growing larger. They said that her NF will probably be more severe like mine but I will cross that bridge when I come to it. They don’t think it is safe to remove because of where it’s situated and don’t want to do a biopsy as they don’t think it’s sinister and think because of her learning difficulties she won’t stay still for a MRI scan.

Update 24th November 2011

Courtenay has had an up and down past 2 months. Her pain has returned and the meds are not really helping. She has also been plagued with infections and illnesses, having one on top of the other. She currently has a nasty chest infection on top of a water infection. This is leaving her so lethargic and she is sleeping all the time. It is so out of character for Courtenay as she is usually a bundle of energy.

She has settled well into Comp and made lots of new friends and has become quite popular. She has been put forward to be part of the school council and in her election speech she told them she wants to me the next Martin Luther King! She was also part of the school Stars in Their Eyes competition – she was entering as Adele but sadly on the day of the competition she came down with her latest infection.

Earlier this month she went for an audition for Britain’s Got Talent. She had a fantastic day and whether she gets through or not she really loved the experience. If she is lucky enough to get through we will know by the end of January and if she doesn’t it will be in March.

She has been having the physio which is helping a little but she is often in pain for a few hours afterwards. She is also taking part in a scheme for healthy eating. She is doing really well in this and has lost half a stone which is doing wonders for her confidence.

Thanks everyone who has taken the time to write and send gifts to the children, it’s really appreciated. Sorry if they can’t always write back. The balloons put a big smile on their faces and was so lovely to see when they opened the boxes and a lovely balloon floated out.

Update 4th September 2011

Courtenay has had a good month and has just come back from a lovely holiday in Kusadasi in Turkey. We almost didn’t have a holiday at all because 6 days before we were due to fly the company we were with went bust. We had to book another holiday and pay again though we will be getting most, if not all, of the money back.

On holiday she spent most of her time in the pool, which is excellent physio for her and eases her pain a lot. While in Turkey she made lots of friends, especially a Turkish/Irish girl of the same age, they both broke their hearts when they had to leave but have promised to keep in touch.

Everyone we met there instantly fell in love with Courtenay saying that she was the funniest little girl that they’d met with the biggest smile and that she should be on stage! Even the Turkish loved her and would always stop her when they saw her for a chat; one even said that if he ever had a little girl he would want her to be exactly like Courtenay!

The holiday was event free and there were no doctor or hospital visits – this is what usually happens on holiday with Courtenay! The worst that happened was a cut foot!

It took our minds off all of the doctor and hospital visits that we knew we had to come back to. Tyanna has an appointment about her tumours on 8th September, Courtenay a follow-up on 12th and I go down to London on the 28th.

Courtenay has also asked if she could enter Britain’s Got Talent this year. She has a lovely singing voice so I filled the application form and sent it off. I will keep you posted on how she does.

She is due to start Comp tomorrow; she is very excited but very nervous at the same time. She looks very grown up in her uniform and very smart too!

Lastly, thank you so much for all the letters, cards and gifts, which were sent to the children. The stationary came in very handy for them going back to school and Courtenay has her Liverpool set all packed ready for tomorrow. The Dottie letters are a definite hit with Cameron and Tyanna, they love hearing about her adventures and always recognise the envelope that they come in.

Sorry for the delay in thanking for some of the letters as we have had no access to her PO box address for the last 7 weeks. Thank you again, everything you do is so much appreciated by the whole family and we love seeing the smiles on the children’s faces.

Update 9th August 2011

We have received some worrying news about Courtenay’s sister Tyanna this month. She had a scan as there looked to be a lump under her ribs. The scan showed 3 tumours and another on her head. These are causing her a lot of pain, though she rarely complains and uses it to her advantage thinking we can’t tell her off for being naughty! There is a high probability of them being benign and they most probably are. It is just the 10% bit that worries us. I also feel guilty for passing it on.

On the good side though, Courtenay has had a good few months. Her broken fingers have healed well. She is still waiting to see the specialist for bone density scans and tests. She has coped well with the pain and is doing really well. She has been away with my parents to Aberystwyth and wowed the other holiday makers with her singing. We are due to go to Turkey tomorrow for 2 weeks after losing the first holiday when the holiday company went bust.

She is also starting a diet and fitness children’s course in September. It is her own choice because she is being badly bullied due to her weight gain from her medicines. Some children are so cruel and it breaks my heart to have her sobbing in my arms about it. She is looking forward to doing it though. I’m going to do it with her as I could do with losing weight. The rest of the family are going to support her too.

Update 26th June 2011

Courtenay has had a good month or more. She is still in pain but that is usual for her. She enjoyed a lovely week with her Grandparents at their caravan in Aberystwyth. It’s quiet there and the peace does her the world of good.

She had another accident that landed her in A&E with as badly sprained arm. They are on first name terms with her now because she is up there so often! She enjoyed coming from there with a sling as it got her out of writing in school for a few days!

She was gutted that she missed the Post Pal party this year, she was torn between there and going with a trip with the PLG, as it was the last year that she would have been with some of her friends, as she is going to Comp in September. She was chuffed to know that she was missed. Cameron and Tyanna had a wonderful time there and Courtenay thought the caricature of Tyanna was fab and wished she had one herself! She had a lovely time at the PLG though.

She saw her back specialist on 28th and he noticed that she was developing in a bit of a hump on one shoulder. He isn’t too concerned at the moment but wants to keep an eye on it. On the good side though there is an improvement on her neck and she is able to hold her head up straighter than she could. She has been given exercises to do to improve it. It is painful for her to do this but she is getting results so she pushes herself. We have been given other physio exercises to do at home and we’re still waiting to see her physio again.

Thanks to everyone who sent mail to the children as it is always greatly appreciated. Tyanna loved the birthday cards with her name on, she showed everyone as we can’t find things with her name on unless it’s specially made. Cameron and Courtenay loved their personalised things too.

Also, thanks for such a wonderful party, so much work must have gone into it and we were made to feel so welcome.

Update 26th April 2011

Courtenay has had a good month. She hasn’t had many sleepless nights due to pain and it has been really manageable this month. She had an accident a few weeks back though. We had to take her to hospital and at first they were going to operate because they thought that she had broken the eye socket. As they were looking for a bed, another maxio facial doctor examined her again and luckily found that there wasn’t a break there. They could not rule out a hairline fracture until the swelling had gone down and the bruising subsided though. She had to visit the hospital every other day for a week and half.

Sabina Gatland and the girls from Sandwell Academy in West Bromwich arranged for Courtenay and her Dad to go to a Liverpool and West Brom match, along with a overnight stay in a hotel with breakfast included. When they arrived at the hotel there was a prezzie waiting for Courtenay, it was a big signed picture of Steven Gerrard, she was over the moon. Courtenay loved every bit of the match and even though Liverpool lost she couldn’t have cared less!

Last weekend we took the children to Swindon for a weekend meeting of other people who have the same condition (neurofibromatosis). It was really good for her because apart from me and her sisters she had never met anyone else with the same condition. She had a lovely time and made lots of friends, the group meets up every 3-4 months so we will be going back in July.

Thanks to everyone who sent the children cards and prezzies. They had a lot of fun planting the seeds too.

Update 6th March 2011

Sorry that I haven’t updated for a while, we have been rushed off our feet with hospital appointments etc.

Courtenay has had her kidney and bladder scans plus various blood tests that we are waiting for the results of. She’s had her routine appointment with her paediatrician who is referring her for other tests. Firstly to a dietician because Courtenay has put on a lot of weight in a short time even though she is eating healthily and the same amount as her siblings. He thinks that she may be retaining water so he wants to make sure of that also. Personally, I think it is because she can’t be as active as she used to due to the back, neck and leg pain from her scoliosis. It limits her a lot which can be really upsetting for her. He has also referred her back to her physiotherapist for help with exercises that may help her pain wise. He has also suggested that she goes back to see her clinical psychologist that she used to see for her behaviour and ADHD because she has started to get extremely angry again. It isn’t unsurprising with all she has to cope with, as myself and two of her siblings have NF as well and her brother has Aspergers. It’s a lot for her to cope with along with her pain, appointments etc.

Something happened last month that made Courtenay’s year, she had a letter from Sabina G and the year nine pupils at Sandwell Academy. They offered 2 tickets for Courtenay and a parent to the Liverpool and West Bromwich match and they also included overnight accommodation. I was really made up with this as Courtenay’s face was a picture; she hasn’t shut up about it since!

Thanks also to everyone included in the Dottie project – Tyanna and Cameron received their Dalmatian and they decided to call her Poppy.

Thanks to everyone else for their kind words and letters sent to the children. I cannot thank you enough.

Update 21st January 2011

Courtenay has had an ok month; she hasn’t been in too much pain and has only had a handful of sleepless nights.

She took part in her school play and did really well in it. She had a really good school report and the teacher informed us that she is really bright. On the down side though, she finishes her work too quickly and then gets distracted and bored.

She went to her Aunt’s party last week and went up on the stage with the singer and sang solo. We found she has a lovely singing voice and hit all the right notes. She sung Journey, Don’t Stop Believing (her favourite song).

She had her kidney scan earlier today to find out why she keeps getting infections. Her kidneys are fine but they said that her bladder isn’t emptying properly and is retaining urine and that is why she keeps getting infections. She has written to our GP with the results and we will know more then.

She is due to see her paediatrician on 25th February so I will let you know how it goes.

Thanks again to everyone who sends messages etc as they make such a difference.

Update 2nd January 2011

Thanks to everyone who sent post this Christmas, the children are getting around to sending thank you letters to those who left addresses and Tyanna especially loved the reindeer letters. Thank you for everyone who posted, it was so generous of you. The children loved their parcels and Courtenay was so thrilled with all the Liverpool FC items that she was sent. I cannot say thank you enough.

Update 22nd December 2010

Courtenay has been feeling a bit better this month, though she has had yet another infection and has just finished her fourth lot of antibiotics in 5 weeks. She has now been referred for kidney scans and we are unsure how long she will be on the waiting list for.

Her sister Tyanna has had a brilliant recovery from her burns, they looked terrible at first but looking at her now you can hardly tell that she’d had an accident. She has one more appointment now and will then be discharged.

Courtenay is still in pain with her back, neck and legs but all we can do for that is to make her comfortable and give her pain relief.

Courtenay took part in her school Christmas concert and had the part of a rapper, she was so funny and had us all in stitches.

Courtenay has been upset this week as her Great Uncle passed away on Monday. It was a sudden death and not expected because even though he was in his 70’s he was in good health and full of life.
Thank you very much to everyone who sent the children cards, Reindeer letters and Elf parcels, it is so much appreciated by us and the children that you have taken the time and effort to do this. They are all sitting under the Christmas tree ready to open on Christmas morning.

Thank you all again and have a lovely Christmas from Courtenay P and family xxxxxx

Update 21st November 2010

Tyanna, Courtenay’s little sister, had a very nasty accident yesterday. She ran into the kitchen as Andrew was making burgers and he tripped over her and hot fat tipped over Tyanna’s face, chest, arm and shoulder. We are devastated. I managed to treat her in the house until the ambulance came. I put her under the cold shower but she couldn’t tolerate this and was starting to go into shock so I wrapped her in wet towels. She was then transferred from our local hospital to one with a specialist burns unit. They were concerned because the burn on her face was over her left eye and they were worried about damage to it.

At the hospital she was examined and we were told the burns to her chest, shoulder and arm were superficial, but the burn on her face was a little worse. They said that the water and wrapping in wet towels helped the burns from getting worse. They think that the burn on her face is going to leave a scar. We are devastated for her because she has such a pretty little face and her Dad is heartbroken and feels so guilty. We have to take her back to the burns unit on Wednesday where we will know more.

Whew, this has been a horrible month with Courtenay’s illness too and I’ll be glad when it is over, though Courtenay is almost back to normal now.

Update 10th November 2010

Courtenay has had a really bad month this month. Her pain has got to the point where she has it by day now, as well as the sleepless nights. She is sobbing in pain now most days and all our GP will give her is Nurofen medicine because she has a problem swallowing tablets. The medicine is useless and doesn’t relieve her pain at all. She is not due to see her paediatrician for another 2 months or orthopaedic doctor for another 3 months. I have been trying to get them to rush another appointment through for her. Our GP isn’t much help because I don’t think he really understands her condition as ours is the only family with Neurofibromatosis on his books.

Courtenay is still really brave though and tries to carry on as normal and fights against the pain to try and play sports but sadly she pays for it later as she is in agony after.

It was also upsetting for her because I was taken into hospital with complications due to my NF. Courtenay is very close to me and found the separation difficult and worried about me with the drips etc. It was really difficult but I asked her Dad to keep her away because I hated seeing her upset by them.

The children loved making the designs for the Post Pals Christmas Cards and it was a project that they managed to do together without fighting!

On the good side though Courtenay won an award from the teacher for her language skills, and her reading and story writing is about 4 years above her age. She has assured me that she is going to be an author when she grows up. She also came first in her Halloween competition and she was thrilled about that.

Thank you so much again for all the post, parcels etc that are sent to the children. We can’t thank you enough; they make a big difference in the children’s lives.

Also, God bless Jaz. Heaven has gained another angel. My deepest sympathies are with the family; my prayers are with you all. Fly High Jaz xxxxxxx

Update 6th October 2010

Courtenay has had an up and down month both physically and emotionally. She has had a return of the severe back pain and has had some sleepless nights. All we can do is to comfort her and give her pain medication. She has also started to have headaches; I am hoping that her NF isn’t going to affect her the same way as myself because I have severe migraines from it. The GP has told us just to keep an eye on things for now and to go back if things persist or worsen.

Courtenay’s best friend has been critically ill with a bad form of Meningitis and this affected Courtenay a great deal because they spent a lot of time together and Courtenay couldn’t understand why she wasn’t allowed to visit her in intensive care. Luckily she is now making a good recovery.

Courtenay also loved to use her bike when the pain allowed her to, but sadly it was stolen from outside our door and Courtenay was heartbroken over it. We bought Courtenay a new bike for her birthday which she was thrilled about but she hasn’t been well enough to use it yet.

A massive thank you for all the letters, cards and gifts that Courtenay and her siblings received, they love reading the letters and feel so important to receive them.

Update 7th September 2010

Courtenay has had a really good month. We have just come back form a 2 week holiday in Turkey. Courtenay really enjoyed herself; she spent most of the time in the pool which eases her back pain a great deal. She is really becoming a strong swimmer and loves the physio exercises we sneak in also! This is the first holiday in 5 years that she hasn’t ended up at the doctor’s surgery or hospital. It was a close call for me though after a nasty Sea Urchin sting!

Thank you so much everyone for all the lovely gifts and letters – sorry for the late reply but we have been away. The children also LOVED their pillowcases, thank you so much to everyone involved.
Courtenay is pleased to go back to school; it is now her last year in Juniors before Comp next year. Also, we are really proud of her sister Chelsea who passed all of her GCSE’s and has just started 6th form to do her A levels.

Update 10th August 2010

Courtenay has had a good month, she saw her paediatrician who says that everything is ok for now. Courtenay is waiting to be referred for hearing tests because we find that we have to say some things over and over before she answers. Firstly we thought that it maybe stubbornness but her teacher expressed a concern about Courtenay’s hearing.

We are frustrated about the bone density tests because the paediatrician is no longer referring her for them. It’s difficult because that doctor doesn’t specialise in NF and wasn’t taking our concerns seriously. Courtenay has had 4 breaks in 2 years, the last she woke up in bed in the morning with.

Last week I saw my own NF specialist in London and I asked about Courtenay’s breaks and if there could be a link with NF. She says yes definitely because in NF bones are more brittle and thinner. She is now trying to refer Courtenay to a NF paediatrician at Guy’s hospital.

Courtenay had another accident the other day, she caught her finger and ripped the nail off, so she had another visit to hospital. She is very accident prone but the clumsiness is due to NF (or so we have been told).

We are all going to Turkey for 2 weeks on 14th August so we are hoping for our first holiday without a hospital or doctor visit with Courtenay. Our holiday insurance is well used!

I am so glad that fellow Pal Jon Paul is showing signs of improvement. Jon Paul, I think you are an inspiration to us all.

Update 11th July 2010

Courtenay has had a much better month this month than the last. She has still been in a lot of pain some nights but has coped much better. She is still waiting for an appointment to see someone about doing bone density tests to see if her bones are more brittle than usual. She has had 4 broken bones in 2 years which is a lot and they have broken so easily – the last her toe she broke during her sleep and even she doesn’t know how she has done it. Apparently some people with NF can have more brittle bones than usual.

Courtenay is due to see her specialist on 3rd August – she was due on 27th July but the date was postponed by the hospital.

We all loved meeting you at the Post Pal party last month; it was so nice to put faces to names. We all had such a lovely time and we can’t thank you all enough for making us feel so welcome.

Courtenay has had a lovely break with her Grandparents in Aberystwyth and it did her the world of good, she really had a lovely time. We had to collect her a few days early because she was going away with the school the day later, so she came home on the Thursday. I only had one night with her and then she was away again. Thank goodness though this was only for 2 nights!

Thank you so much everyone who sent the children letters – Sarah H, Fleur R, Jodie, Sarah G, Seth, Kate W, and Susan C. Courtenay also had a letter from St Joseph’s Catholic College in Swindon. The teacher, Liz Howell, had heard about Post Pals during a Year 7 assembly. They thought it would be nice to write to a person on Post Pals and said that they chose Courtenay because she didn’t live too far away from them. Lots of the students wrote to Courtenay. So thank you to Liz H, Mileigh L, Mitchell S, Kyle, Megan Louise P, Gaby, Gino, Reagan, Lionel P, Angel L, Sebastiao, Olavo, Aneshka S, Jay, Macvil, Rosalia and everyone else at Post Pals.

Update 22nd June 2010

Thank you everyone for Tyanna’s cards and gifts. To LAURA – Tyanna loved the princess gifts, she’s a little Diva!

Hopefully we will see you all at the Post Pals party on Saturday. We will do our upmost best to get there. It is a long way for us (an 8 hour round trip) and Courtenay has not been well this week, but I’m sure this will cheer her up no end.

Update 8th June 2010

Courtenay had an appointment with her orthopaedic doctor today. She had more x-rays of her spine because he is concerned that she is developing a hump on one side. The x-rays show that the ‘S’ shaped curve is stable and hasn’t got any worse. There is a curve the other way that he wants to keep an eye on, but is happy with at present. There is nothing he can do to help with the pain and he said that we just have to give her paracetemol, which don’t really help.

He is unsure weather the reason for her head tilting is muscular or because of the scoliosis. I just wish they could make their minds up because one doctor is saying one thing and another is saying another thing.

She doesn’t have to go back to see this doctor for another 6 – 12 months. Luckily though, she smiles and jokes through it all.

Thanks for all the parcels and letters sent to Courtenay and her siblings, they really love reading the letters and cards.

Update 11th April 2010

Sorry we haven’t updated for a while – I have been at the Royal Marsden Hospital in Surrey for an operation.

This hasn’t been a good month for Courtenay as she has been in a lot of pain and we are waiting for her to see someone about it. I have also had lots of hospital appointments in London which is a 4 hour drive each way from where we live and I am gone all day for them. This has had an affect on Courtenay because she is aware of something going on. I have also been an inpatient at the Marsden and Courtenay has missed me a great deal and because it is so far away from us she has been unable to visit, but we kept in touch by telephone so that helped a little.

Courtenay has also broken another bone (her little toe) and we are asking for bone density tests or something similar to be done. This is the 4th bone in 2 and a half years. We are unsure weather the NF could have something to do with it as she hadn’t even bumped her foot, she just woke up with it hurting and x-rays showed the break. She loves the crutches though.

Thank you for the letters and gifts that have been sent to the children, you have no idea how much a letter cheers them up. Thanks so much everyone.

Update 12th February 2010

Sorry I’ve not updated for a while but Courtenay has had a really good month. She is coping with the pain a lot better and doing lots of after school activities. She is coming on really well at school and has none of the learning difficulties that can be associated with NF. She still has lots of visits with her physio but is at last seeing an improvement.

Thank you so much for the birthday cards etc for Courtenay’s siblings, Chelsea and Cameron. They loved them. Thanks also the Valentine gifts; they were a lovely idea too.

Thank you very much from us all.

Update 20th December 2009

Courtenay has had an up and down month. She has had another bad episode of tonsillitis and other infections. She has been sick a lot and missed a lot of school.

She has been in a lot of pain with her back but due to other illnesses she has been unable to go to her physio.

She was chosen to be a monkey in the school play and she was very funny doing her monkey dance and had the audience laughing.

She was picked to sing in the school choir and visited churches and nursing homes to sing carols.

She is due to see her specialist on the 23rd December. We will update you on that in the next update.

Also thank you very much for all the cards and parcels that have been sent to Courtenay and her siblings. They loved the elf and reindeer letters, its adding to the Christmas magic and excitement for them.
So a very big thank you to everyone and we wish everyone at Post Pals and all of Courtenay’s friends a very Happy Christmas and a very happy New Year.

Update 4th November 2009

Courtenay hasn’t had a good month. She had her arm put back in plaster due to breaking her thumb and she had the plaster off last Thursday. She has also had tonsillitis as well so she’s had a bad month.
A big thank you to all the gifts and cards that Courtenay has received over the last couple of weeks, especially those from overseas.

Since Courtenay has been back in school she’s been doing really well, although she doesn’t like her new teacher.

Tyanna has gone Micheal Jackson mad. When she gets up in the morning and comes home from school, she switches MTV on and sits patiently in front of the TV until his records come on. When they come on she dances and sings. Last Friday i took her, Cameron and Courtenay to see the new Michael Jackson film “This is it”. The cinema was packed (of empty seats) there were just six of us in the cinema. We as a family are getting a bit fed up now because Tyanna has told us that she wants to marry him as well!

Chelsea is in her GCSE year and says that she’s going to stay on a year, but we’re not sure what she wants to do for a career. Maybe she will decide what she’s going to do before September.
Thanks again for all your support where Courtenay is concerned.

Update 19th August 2009

We hope that everyone is having a great summer holiday and enjoying themselves.

Courtenay’s holiday started with a bang as she finished school on the Friday and broke her arm on the Saturday, so the best part of the Saturday night we were in the local A+E department having her arm set in plaster.

As she was due to go on holiday with her grandparents, she was worried that she wouldn’t be able to go in the swimming pool, but the doctor told her the plaster would only be on her arm for three weeks. She was vey happy about this. Three weeks later, as promised by the doctor, her plaster came off. She was told that it was only slightly broken but she needed to take care with her arm for two weeks.
I took Courtenay and her grandparents (plus their dog) to the caravan park. Courtenay had a fantastic time doing everything that she wanted to do, such as swimming and dancing. She even did kareoke. On the 15th of August i took her eldest sister Chelsea up to the caravan for the night, as we thought it would be a good idea to go up the night before i brought everyone home because of the travelling distance.

Hope everyone enjoys the rest of their holidays.

Update 20th July 2009

Courtenay has had another fall and broken her right arm. She did it on the first day of the school holidays. Sadly she can’t go into any pools etc.

Update 6th July 2009

Courtenay had an accident on the third day of our holiday in Bulgaria. She ran through the patio door as there were no safety stickers on the windows or patio doors. She ended up cutting all her knee and elbow which resulted in her using a wheelchair for the last 10 days of the holiday. Courtenay didn’t enjoy the rest of the holiday at all.

She was rushed to the nearest paramedic station where she had her cuts seen to and glued and bandaged. She would have had them stitched if she hadn’t been so stressed. When she got back to the hotel there was no concern about her injuries. We were presented with a bill for the window (300 levs) which we weren’t happy about and we also had to pay out for the hire of the wheelchair. We are claiming back medical bills from the insurance.

Before this happened Courtenay was a very happy child who was in the pool all day and running around with the friends that she had made. After the accident, she was in a wheelchair for 10 days and she was bored because she couldn’t run around and do what she wanted to do.

On the plane back home we were diverted to Birmingham due to pilot error – he basically overshot the runway. Courtenay was allocated an extra two seats due to her injuries, but ended up having one extra seat. She had to sit with her legs across Sharon which wasn’t comfortable for either of them at all and we finally got in to Cardiff 5 hours later via bus.

Where Courtenay’s back is concerned, she is attending physio to strenghten the musles. She has to go back to Newport to see the specialist at the end of the month, so i will keep you posted.

Last Saturday, Courtenay, Chelsea, Cameron and Tyanna, were involved in the local carnival. Chelsea and Courtenay were lady in waiting and flower girls on the head float. Cameron and Tyanna were dressed up as pirates on the third float and they all looked fabulous in their costumes.

A big thank you to all of the support, letters, etc, that Courtenay and the rest of my children receive from Post Pals.

Update 15th June 2009

We have just arrived back after 2 weeks in Bulgaria with Courtenay and her siblings. We had a horrendous time as Courtenay ran through a glass patio door that she thought was closed because there were no warning stickers on it. She suffered bad cuts to her knee and elbow and she had to be rushed to hospital and then return daily for treatment. She spent the last 11 days of the holiday wheelchair bound and couldn’t enjoy the beach or the pool etc. I felt really bad for Courtenay because she was so looking forward to this, but she is also lucky as it could have been a lot worse.

Update 20th May 2009

Courtenay has had a great deal of pain with her back and neck this month and because of this her behaviour is beginning to deteriate. At her hospital visit we were advised that Courtenay should have a series of physio therapy sessions to try and strenghten her back muscles. If this fails then Courtenay will have to have an MRI scan. After that we will be told what treatment she will be having. Due to this constant pain she has been advised to finish football and she didnt like that news at all.

Courtenay has been very excited the last couple of weeks because we’re going as a family to Bulgeria for 2 weeks. She has been trying to organise the areoplane seeting arrangements.

Courtenay’s mam is very nervous at the moment because she doesn’t like dentists and she has to go to the University Hospital of Wales to have a wisdom tooth removed tomorrow.

A very big thank you to all of Courtenay’s friends on Post Pals for all their support, love and best wishes.

Update 6th May 2009

Courtenay has not been well this week and is home from school because she has had a very bad chest infection and been staying in bed mostly. It has knocked the stuffing out of her leaving her with no energy.

Her doctor has also told her that she can no longer play in football matches. This has greatly upset her because she was so limited as to what she was allowed to participate in. On the good side, he has told her that she can take part in light practices but has to refrain from the match at the end of practice.

Update 13th April 2009

Courtenay has had a good month, although her behaviour is deteriorating due to the pain she is in. Courtenay has to go back to the hospital on the 24th April to have a further check up. Hopefully we will find out what is happening with treatment this time.

We are trying to keep Courtenay as active as possible. If the weather is fine she goes to her friends and plays on the trampoline or Sharon takes her for walks etc. Courtenay’s sister Tyanna has started Brownies too and enjoys it very much. She is only five and gets tired very easy though.

I took Courtenay, Cameron and Tyanna out on Tuesday. They didn’t know where they were going. I told them we were going to get Sharon’s birthday present. They soon changed their attitude when I pulled up outside KFC. The three of them enjoyed it very much and they enjoyed Adventure land even better. Courtenay has had a fairly good school holiday so far and hopefully the rest of the holiday will be just as fine.

Thank you to everyone for their kind support regarding Courtenay and a happy belated Easter to you all.

Update 1st April 2009

Thank you very much to Sarah Gilligan for your lovely letter and activity packs, it was very nice of you to think of us. It will give us lots to do over the Easter holidays.

Update 26th March 2009

Thank you to whoever sent Courtenay the teddy bear. She has been in so much pain this month and having a hard time of it. She’s needed lots of cuddles. The teddy bear really cheered her up.

Luckily, complaining about her postponed appointment did the job for once and they have rushed her an appointment through for the 27th. I will keep you posted with the results.

Update 17th March 2009

Courtenay has had a problematic month which has affected her behaviour. She has been suffering from a lot of pain in her back and neck. The specialist in Newport had to cancel Courtenay’s appointment because of annual leave. This appointment was pushed through as a matter of urgency because of the pain that Courtenay is having. We were told that a new appointment would be sent out as soon as possible. Both Courtenay’s mother and I were very annoyed over the matter and we made a complaint, so hopefully we will hear something soon. The scan that Courtenay had on her tummy went ok and we will know the results when she sees the doctor.

Courtenay’s Nan has bought a new puppy which they’ve called Taffy. Courtenay has spent quite a lot of time at her Nan’s since the new puppy arrived. She loves having the puppy on her lap and stroking it. The puppy was allowed out for the first time last week. It is getting carried more than it is walking at the moment. I think it will be a different story when the puppy gets bigger. Sharon went out and bought it some squeaky toys last week – they will drive Sharon’s father mad. Sharon’s father was also taken into hospital at the weekend which upset Courtenay very much.

Update 3rd February 2009

Courtenay has had a good month considering she is in a great deal of pain with her back. Although she is in pain, Courtenay is trying to keep as active as she can by playing football. She has an ultrasound on 13th February in Caerphilly hospital. We will let you know the results as soon as we receive any feedback from the hospital.

Courtenay, Cameron, Tyanna, Sharon and I, went to see Aladdin with the school to Cardiff’s New Theatre. We had brilliant seats and we all enjoyed it. Peter Barlow from Coronation Street played the part of Jafar the evil Wizard and he did a good job as well. The pantomime was in 3D which was very effective; it made us jump in some parts of the play, but we all enjoyed it just the same. We got home to New Tredegar around 6.00pm and very tired.

Courtenay is doing really well in school, especially with her reading. She is in front of the rest of her class in this subject. She gets on very well with her teacher and he always has good things to say about her. She is also doing really well with her violin class in school and she was very excited when she found out that Sharon and I had bought her a violin of her own. A couple of weeks ago, along with a few of her class mates, she entered a dance competition which was held at her elder sisters Comprehensive school. She did very well and they are supposed to be doing another one shortly.

On 31st January we went to McDonalds and then we went to a local Kids Adventure Land for Cameron’s 7th Birthday. Courtenay, Cameron and Tyanna were very tired when they got home, but they enjoyed themselves very much.

A big thank you to all of Courtenay’s friends at Post Pals for all their support love and letters.

Update 1st January 2009

Courtenay has had a much better few months. The pain has not been so bad and she has handled her emotions much better.

At the beginning of December she had an appointment with her paediatrician. The doctor thinks that it is important for her to have an ultra sound scan on her kidneys. She also needs another type of scan to check for tumours in her tummy. The doctor is also trying to rush her spinal doctor, due to the decline in her condition. She has also recommended that we and Courtenay take another course with Courtenay’s psychologist.

Courtenay has had a very busy and exciting month. She was fantastic in her school play. She had the part of cuddly dog. Courtenay also had another concert with her Brownie troop. She was dressed as Elvis and we all fell about laughing at her in her outfit. She even borrowed her sister Chelsea’s guitar to look the part.

Christmas was a very busy day in our house hold. Courtenay woke the entire family at 4am and would not go back to sleep. We eventually gave in to her nagging at 5:45am. Courtenay was thrilled because she had a laptop and Wii from Santa; we hid the laptop until later on in the day.

For New Years Eve we allowed her to see in the New Year but this backfired as she got wound up and didn’t go to sleep until 3.00 am.

Courtenay’s parents would like to thank all of the Post Pals that sent Christmas cards and gifts to both Courtenay and the rest of her siblings. The children loved the letters from Santa’s reindeers as it helped to keep the magic alive and build up the excitement until Christmas day.

HAPPY NEW YEAR to you all!

Update 22nd December 2008

Thank you everyone so much for the lovely cards, letters and gifts that were sent to Courtenay P and her siblings. They especially loved the letters from Santa’s reindeers. It is keeping them so excited. I’d like to wish everyone a very Happy Christmas and lots of prayers for everyone.

Update 8th November 2008

This month has been both up and down for Courtenay. She has been in a lot of pain this month due to her scoliosis. The pain has been very intense which has caused Courtenay to lose sleep and this has been very difficult for her.

In turn, understandably, this caused her behaviour to deteriorate which has caused her to be very aggressive and bad tempered towards her siblings.

To give Courtenay and her siblings a break she went to stay with her Auntie for a couple of days which she really enjoyed.

This month also has ups. On October 3rd Courtenay celebrated her 9th birthday. She enjoyed reading the letters and cards that she received from Post Pals. She even took them to school to show her friends and teacher.

She had fun at her school Halloween disco. She dressed as a little devil and looked very cute in her outfit.

Thank you once again for your kindness towards Courtenay.

Update 30th September 2008

Courtenay’s had a very good month so far. She came back from her grandmother’s house in Northern Spain to rain drenched Cardiff. Courtenay started back to school and has got a new teacher. She doesn’t like him very much because he tells her off every now and then for getting her numbers the wrong way round (her number 5’s). I had a talk to her teacher this morning about the matter and apparently Courtenay isn’t the only member of her class that is having problems. Apart from that she is doing great. Courtenay is in the top band for spelling and reading and is getting on great with her school mates.

Courtenay is now in Brownies and two weeks ago, along with around fifteen other girls, she enrolled. This was a special enrolment because they had to enrol in sign language. This was a major achievement for Courtenay because of the complexity of sign language alphabet. She accomplished this with flying colours.

Two weeks ago Courtenay got to stay at her cousins on a sleep over. She enjoyed this very much because she got to stay up extremely late – until 3.00am. When she got up on the Saturday morning she had a chocolate breakfast, so she was most probably mental for the majority of the Saturday morning!

In football, her uncle Adrian (her football coach) informed me that Courtenay would make a fantastic winger because she is fast with the ball. She is doing really well in football and this year so far she has won two trophies. The way she is going we will have to have a shelf just for her trophies!

Sharon had to go up to Guys hospital in London on Thursday for her results of her biopsy. Everything was fine; in fact the doctor was very impressed with Sharon’s weight loss. Her weight was causing Sharon a great deal of discomfort, especially where the tumour is situated (in Sharon’s back). Her doctor is that impressed and happy with Sharon that she doesn’t want to see her for another nine months. Good news all round. The only problem that occurred was the transport side of things. Guys hospital would not supply Sharon any transport this time round and told her that she had to provide her own transport. This meant that Sharon had to get up at 4am to be in Cardiff to catch public transport to London. Sharon didn’t get back home until 10.30pm Thursday night which meant she was extremely tired.

Update 10th August 2008

We have just got back from Alcudia. We had a fun packed two weeks and went to lots of different places, such as the beach and hydro park. Sharon went paragliding while we were at the beach. This was my wedding anniversary present because it was something that she wanted to do and she enjoyed it very much. At the end of the first week Sharon and I took Courtenay and Cameron to Hydro Park where there were at least 10 different kinds of slides, a wave pool, and about 6 different pools.

Courtenay had a tough time during the second week because she had blisters on her shoulders. She had to stay out of the pool and sea for a few days until they dried up. We made lots of new friends and the weather was very hot. In the evenings we saw tribute bands to the Jackson Five, Spice Girls and High School Musical. The Jackson Five had Courtenay up on the stage with them and called her the sixth member of the Jackson’s.

On 24th August, Sharon and Courtenay are going back to Spain to spend two weeks with my mother and step father at their home. Courtenay is looking forward to this as she will be able to have one to one attention with Sharon and see my mother.

Thanks for all your support and friendliness towards Courtenay. She would like to thank everyone for their cards, letters and presents. She loves receiving it and reading her mail. She keeps it all in her keep sake box. She was also thrilled when Kim from the Nintendo magazine wrote to her (Kim also has Neurofibromatosis) and told her that if she drew a picture of her favourite Nintendo character she would print it in the magazine. Courtenay drew a picture of SpongeBob SquarePants and Kim kept her promise and printed the picture. We were all very proud of her. This was a brilliant achievement for Courtenay because she has never had anything printed before.

Update 12th July 2008

On 13th June Courtenay went on a school trip to Drayton Manor. She was so brave as she went on all the thrill rides and wasn’t the least bit scared. The only rides she didn’t go on were the ones she was too small for. She had a brilliant time and bought lots of joke gifts to play on people during the journey home, including fake snot and dog poo YUK!!

On 20th June I (Courtenay’s mum) had to go into hospital for surgery on my foot (a removal of a NF tumour). Luckily it was day surgery so I was home the same day. Courtenay was great trying to look after me; she was fetching things for me over the weekend. I was in a lot of pain and I had to go back to the hospital with a blood clot in my leg. Over the next week I was back and forth to the hospital for scans.
It was Tyanna’s birthday on 21st June and so Courtenay’s dad took them to McDonalds in Newport. From there he took Courtenay and her two sisters and cousin to a local adventure play centre. They were gone the majority of the day and Courtenay had a great time and let off a lot of steam.

On 26th June I had to go to the Royal Marsden hospital in London (which is a four hour car journey from New Tredegar) for a biopsy on the tumour in my pelvis. It was difficult for Courtenay as I had to leave her and she is very clingy to me. She had the driver in stitches when he picked me up.

Whilst I was in hospital Courtenay had another football presentation where she was awarded another trophy. It was presented to her by Darcy Blake who plays football for Cardiff City Football Club. He lives in the same town as us. Courtenay was very proud of herself and so were the rest of her family. Courtenay doesn’t let the NF and Scoliosis get her down.

We are hoping the next month will be a better one as currently I have to inject myself with blood thinners on a daily basis. We are awaiting the results of my biopsy from Royal Marsden too. Courtenay has really tried to look after me this month and she has taken it in her stride when she’s had to be left with relatives while I’ve been in hospital. She is excited about the school summer holidays and I’m sure she’ll be keeping everyone entertained and she hasn’t lost her smile.

Thank you to everyone for Courtenay’s post, you have been so kind and she is thrilled to receive it.

Update 4th June 2008

Courtenay has been thrilled with all the kind letters and cards that people have sent her. She has especially loved the handmade ones with her name on. It has been keeping her busy trying to reply to all the letters. She enjoys reading them to me and it’s also helping with her reading. So thank you for accepting Courtenay on the Post Pals site, it has been so lovely to see her face light up every time she has post.

On 7th May Courtenay had an appointment with her psychologist. There isn’t much she can do to help us at the moment because we insisted from the start that we didn’t want Courtenay to have medication unless we had a 100% diagnosis for the ADHD or things worsened.  Now we don’t have to see her for 6 – 12 months because we decided to go along with the behavioural therapy option at home. We strongly believe this is better for Courtenay as she needs consistency.

On 17th May Courtenay’s brother, Cameron, had his official diagnosis for Asperger’s Syndrome. This didn’t come as a shock as his autism specialist already said she was 99% certain he had it and it was just a case of one more person going to see him in a school setting to confirm for sure. In a way it is a relief to get it in writing because we feel we have closure and know why Cameron behaves as he does. He is a lovely little boy just a little different. Rough play as other boys his ages do frightens him as he prefers his own company. It also helps because he can get the extra help at school.

On 19th May Courtenay played in a football tournament although she could only manage 2 minutes of play due to pain. Despite this, her team ‘The Wasps’ won the whole tournament and each child came home with their own trophy. Courtenay came into the house grinning from ear to ear, she was over the moon and we were so proud of her.

On 27th May Courtenay had an appointment with her paediatrician. She informed us that she was still unsure whether Courtenay’s behaviour is due to ADHD. We are frustrated at this as at the end of the day we’d like closure and a diagnosis for Courtenay’s sake. It’s not fair on her being shipped back and forth. Despite this she agrees that Courtenay does have very bad behavioural problems that she says are probably due to the Neurofibromatosis. She wants us to go to child behavioural classes which I refused. I’ve done about 5 so far; they don’t help and are not suitable for Courtenay because her behaviour is not always her fault. We find the behavioural therapy we did with her psychologist is far, far better for her. Courtenay thrives on one to one attention, we try our best with this but it is not always easy because having all 4 children with special needs and having a lot of problems due to NF myself, it is hard to split our time. Courtenay recognises when her behaviour is out of control and when calmed down she always apologises and feels really bad about it.

Courtenay started Brownies on 28th May. They were starting a group near us and she wanted to join although was a little concerned that it may be too girly for her as she is a tom boy! She is already a member of the scouts, football, youth club and after school club, so she is a busy little girl! She loved it though and it all her fears were quashed. Courtenay was the most chatty and energetic but her leaders were brilliant with her. They were trying to organise a summer trip out and asked Courtenay where she wanted them to take her and she said Spain! I’ve taught her well! She enjoyed the whole session and can’t wait to go back next week.

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Caitlin

15 July 2011

Story written 2005

Until Christmas 2004 Caitlin had been a healthy child with no symptoms of any illness. After 3 ear infections after Christmas she seemed to lose her appetite, didn’t drink and didn’t want to play. Shortly after finishing her course of antibiotics that didn’t seem to help, she developed a bag cough. After going back to the doctors they rushed her into hospital with pneumonia. After various tests and a blood transfusion they concluded that Caitlin may have an underlying condition but they were not sure if it was Ceiliac Disease or Cystic Fibrosis. With no CF in the family we felt it was highly unlikely.

One night she had a heart block, her heart rate plummeted through the floor and the doctors did everything to get her heart rate back up. It was very frightening as everyone believed we were going to lose her. Following day, after an ultrasound, Caitlin was immediately transferred as they had discovered a problem with her liver. She was moved to Kings College Hospital, London.

During the following 3 weeks various testes were done including two sweat tests. They carried out a liver biopsy and a bronchoscopy which eventually concluded the diagnosis of Cystic Fibrosis. A total shock for the whole family. She was immediately put on IV antibiotics, various medicines and creon (pancreatic enzymes) which she has to take with all her meals and snacks that contain any fat to help her digest her food.

Luckily her lungs are still in reasonably good condition but she has some liver disease which is consistent with CF – all be it very early.

Caitlin now takes around 8 medicines a day orally, a nebuliser twice a day, and has to have regular IV antibiotics every 3-4 months to keep her well. We have to do physio every day twice a day, this no longer involves back slapping but just energetic exercise, such as trampolining etc. It’s very important to keep her active so that her lungs can remain clear, the more she runs the more she coughs so the more stays off her lungs. It is a constant battle to keep her free from infections.

Later in the year she will have a portacath fitted to make her IV’s a little les traumatic. Caitlin also has a nasal gastric tube, she has an over night feed of high calorie drink to help build her weight up.

It has been hard to accept the diagnosis, knowing that the average life span is only 31 for a CF person, and that ahead lies possibilities of transplants of lungs or liver. Despite that, we try and remain hopeful and positive, enjoy our little girl each and every day and just try our best to keep her well.

She has been remarkable and takes everything in her stride. We are very proud of her. We have a great support network in hospital specialists and home nurses, so between us we will battle to keep her well.

Update 6th March 2013

Hi everyone, we are now moving Caitlin on from Post Pals. We have been so grateful for all the support that we have had from you all over the years and the people who have taken time to write and send things to her.

Caitlin is currently holding her own, health wise, and we feel now that it would be nice to give her place to children who would benefit from your support who are perhaps in need more than Caitlin currently is. Thank you.

Update 13th January 2013

Caitlin has remained very well over the Christmas period, he new port that we had fitted before Christmas is working well, and she has healed well after her operation. We visited the clinic in Leeds on Thursday and were very pleased that her lung function has gone up from 76% to 87% and her weight has increased by 3 kilo and her chest sounds clear – so the steroids and itraconazole seem to have done their job. We are now playing the waiting game, as normally after we stop some of her meds her health deteriorates again and getting children with Cf through winter is always a challenge, so fingers crossed for the time being.

Caitlin joined Sea Cadets in York before Christmas and really loves it, she has just got her new uniform so really feels the part. I think she longs to be like her big sister and brother who are in the Royal Fleet Auxiliary, so sea cadets will be the nearest thing to a life at sea for her but she’s so happy. As a family we just cherish each day she is well and make the most of it, as we know that over time her health will decline, we just hope it is not too rapid and we do our best to keep that time at bay by doing lots of exercise. She is wearing us both out doing xbox kinect dance games at the moment!

Thank you again to everyone at Post Pals, friends of Post Pals and all the elves that helped out at christmas. We had sooooooo many lovely cards sent to Caitlin – thank you to everyone who took the time to send cards and write to us, Caitlin and I read each one and were very touched. Thank you to Grace and Wendy for their letters too. Thank you to Staff at Horseford infant school, Bethan, Katie Koskinen, Nigel Dixon, Christine Kay, Harrison, Tez, and Jessica, and to all those who we haven’t mentioned – your gifts were so nice and we always save Post Pals gifts to the end so that we can really appreciate things.

Every day we as a family are truly touched by people who take the time to think of us and send things to Caitlin. We can see the thought, time and care that have gone into everything she receives, be it a letter, card or gift. We have received some lovely things and we love the fact that people like to share their thoughts or lives with us through their post.

Everyone at Post Pals has a special place in our hearts, what they do for us families is truly amazing and so selfless. Thank you.

Update 19th November 2012

It has been another very up and down few months for Caitlin, we have spent a lot of time to and fro to the Leeds General Infirmary to try and get on top of her aspergillus infection, which has been a constant battle really. Her lung function dropped down to 65% which is low for her, so she has been on a constant barrage of medication, Itraconazole (which is a anti fungal medicine) and steriods, her health did decline for a while but fortunately she seems to be improving finally – with lung function back up to 76% so we’re getting there.

On top of this we suddenly discovered when she was having her portacath line flushed it caused her pain and after an xray it was discovered that the line had split and so the decision was made to take it out and have a new P A S port fitted in her arm. So, two weeks ago she was admitted for what was a 3 hour operation. She is fine now, still a little sore, but on the whole is healing well and is back at school.

Our one wish is to keep her at school for a full week. To some people this is not an issue but for us it is a genuine target. She misses so much school because of hospital appointments and illness, so we would give anything for her to just have a normal term. So fingers crossed we make it to Christmas uneventfully now – although winter always seems to bring with it it’s own challenges so we can just hope for the best.

A big thank you to Shehinah of Chad Varah primary school in Lincoln. Thank you for the most beautiful cards, especially the hand made ones, we can see how much time and effort has gone into them. Special thanks to Anne Bennett, Heikki, Wendy, Bethan and Sarah Fitzgerald in Texas, Becci Willets, Natashja, and Sarah G. The Halloween gifts were great too, thank you to Kerri Wood and Susan Cuin.

Update 16th September 2012

Health-wise Caitlin has had a fairly good summer with no IV’s needed, but over the last 3 weeks the dreaded Aspergillus seems to have reared its ugly head so we are hitting her hard with treatment again – 3 lots of nebulised antibiotics a day, 3 lots of physio and some oral medication which she said tastes horrible! Still, it seems to be helping, as in two weeks her lung function has gone up from 71% to 83% so thats good news. The hospital are now starting to test her for diabetes too. On our last visit last week they wanted to run some bloods, unfortunately it looks like her portacath may have given up working so we had to go through a rather traumatic time of her having to have bloods taken normally. So next visit i have a feeling we may be discussing her having a new port. Better now than when we need to use it suddenly for IVs. We’re awaiting results of the bloods that have been taken and other tests to see what else comes up.

On the plus side, she is still loving school and now being year 6 she feels very important! She has been given 3 jobs so wears her badges proudly.

She has also asked to be known as Caitlin K – i know its a little confusing but its something she feels very strongly about. She has had a tough time not seeing her dad so feels the need to identify i guess. We are not changing it legally though.

Thank you to Bethan for remembering Caitlin by sending her things from her wedding, it was very thoughtful and we will be sowing the seeds soon. Thank you to the kind person who sent her a beads set, Caitlin opened it without telling me who sent it, but she is thrilled and i am now the proud owner of new earrings. Thank you to everyone who has sent her post.

Update 11th April 2012

After what we thought was 8 weeks of good progress, it came as a bit of a shock when we went to clinic and discovered that Caitlin’s weight had suddenly dropped by 6kg and lung function is down to 77%. We have had some blood tests and cough swabs so are awaiting results. My feeling is that there is obviously some kind of infection brewing. We are back at Leeds next month so will keep you all posted as to how she is getting on.

On the whole she deals with everything in her usual manner, with a smile on her face and a determination to kick it! I wish it was so simple.

Caitlin is doing a run for CF 2k at Newby Hall next month so hopefully she is well for that.

Thank you to everyone who has set us gifts, letters and postcards, as they really do brighten her day and bring a smile to her face. Thank you for your special letters – Catherine, Claudia, Dani, William G, Hannah and Olivia. Thank you to Thomas Clapham School for their wonderful book and a special thank you to Imps Six, 5th Retford Brownie Pack, for their lovely box of treats. Thanks also to Marjolijn for the lovely stickers and thank you so much for the Mother’s Day treats.

Update 30th January 2012

Caitlin’s treatment has been ongoing since October last year, Aspergillus has been causing a lot of trouble and we have been on a constant stream of antibiotics, nebulisers and steroids. It has been a chaotic time for the family over the last few months and things have been tough but we’re over the worst now.

So a belated Happy New Year to everyone at Post Pals and all our friends and Pals.

Thank you to everyone who sent Cailin something at Christmas, whether it be a card, letter or gift. It really brought a smile to her face as she has been getting really down in the dumps with things. Things seem to be improving a little now fortunately, so fingers crossed. Thank you to Caitlin’s elves too who sent her Christmas gifts.

Update 10th November 2011

Caitlin has been fairly well and free from serious infections for the last couple of months, though she is still battling aspergillus but I think the steroids are helping keep things under control. She has been having a fair few problems digestive wise and we are having to fine tune her creon dose as there seems to be an imbalance at the moment and as Caitlin cannot absorb fat its important we keep on top of things. At the moment she is starting to miss occasional days from school with an upset tummy which she hates.

We are currently attending Leeds clinic on a weekly basis as she is undergoing therapy for her aversion to needles, but this is proving to be a challenge as currently we have no transport. Our car has suddenly died on us and looks unlikely we are going to be able to save it, so whilst we wait for our mobility car to be organised, getting to appointments is proving difficult. We are praying that we don’t get hit by too many winter bugs, but as a parent of a child with Cystic fibrosis, it’s realistically our worst time of year. So here is hoping this winter will be kind to her.

Caitlin is very excited about this Christmas as we are hoping to get to Bristol to have a family Christmas with her big sister Holly. She is home from sea for a couple of months so she is really looking forward to spending time with her. Her oldest brother who is also in the RFA has just left for 4 months at sea, so she is going to miss him.

Thank you so much to the guys at Post Pals and all their helpers as we really appreciate all you do. Your letters and cards, gifts and messages, are genuinely treasured and appreciated. Life in our household has been rather up and down recently so it is always nice to know that people are thinking about us. A special message and lots of love to our friend, Kate D, who is in hospital. We’re thinking of you.

Thank you to Rose Chambers and the Brownies from 1st Stambermill Brownies, Caitlin loved her letters and card, it was very special. Special thanks to Christine Harrison, Madison and Katrina for their lovely letters too. Many thanks to Wendy for my card making kit, Caitlin also loves her cat stickers and fairy making kit. Thanks to Post Pals for her Halloween goodies as well.

Update 17th September 2011

Caitlin has had a bit of a rough time over the summer. Apart from her usual challenges with her Cystic Fibrosis, she developed cluster headaches on a daily basis. They were migraines and she spent 2 hours everyday in agony and having to lie down in a dark cool room. The consultants are not overly concerned as they felt that these are probably down to the Aspergillus infection that she seems to be continually fighting. Yet again we are on a high dose of daily steroids and strong meds for that infection and on top of it she has been on a course of oral antibiotics for an influenza type infection.

We are also currently taking her for meetings with a psychotherapist to deal with her needle phobia. It’s currently going very well but because she has had such a rough time in the early days she has been terrified of any needles other than the one they use for her portacath.

She is really enjoying being in year 5 and has started swimming again and is doing really well with it. We have just acquired a tent so we hope that when the better weather comes next year we might have a go at camping for a few days. As always she is glued to the X factor and loves every minute.

Caitlin adores cats, and after we moved north we had to leave her loved cat with her father, she now barely sees it. I’d love to get her a new kitten but living in a rented house gives us a bit of a dilemma. I’m still pondering things, as I know it would give her a huge amount of pleasure, so I may contact the local rescue centre to see if we can foster any. Watch this space.

Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to send Caitlin post, she is starting to slowly write back to some, but whether you receive a reply or not, rest assured your mail brought a smile to her face.

Special thanks to Bethan, Anne and Kate and also to Dottie. Thank you to Susan Pike and Madison H who wrote to Caitlin from the USA. Caitlin also really loved her party bag from the party so thank you.

Update 26th July 2011

Caitlin’s health has been a bit of a rollercoaster again lately. We did well with our last course of treatment but it seems as soon as one course is done then infection starts again – Aspergillus again! So we are on steroids and voriconazole, which are awful as it has so many nasty side effects, but it usually works and lung function goes up for a short while. The consultants are now considering long term steroid treatment, so we will see how that goes.

We always travel to Kent for my job in the school holidays and on Friday (the last day at school) she came home with a nasty cough, high temperature and earache, so I consulted the local GP who does not think it is more upper viral, so I am keeping a close eye on things. If it gets any worse then i will make a 250 mile dash back to Yorkshire.

As ever, Caitlin tries so hard not to let her condition get the better of her, she is such a brave girl.

Thank you again to all those who take the time to make my little girl smile. Special thank you’s to Bethan, MJ and Anne Bennet. So many thank you’s in general I would like to make but the page isn’t long enough! Special thanks also to the institute of international de lancy in Switzerland. Thank you to all those who sent Caitlin lovely gifts, she really loved her Man United pictures.

Update 7th May 2011

Firstly, apologies for not being able to name and thank everyone who has sent Caitlin presents and mail in the last couple of months. The generosity of everyone who takes the time to send us mail always overwhelms us. We are always extremely touched and humbled.

Caitlin has been having a hard time health wise and it seems like we have been in and out of clinic constantly. Caitlin’s lung function has been decreasing since last October and was down to 59%. She had another two week course of iv’s as she has had pseudomonas and Aspergillus and unfortunately they have not really helped her. So the next course of treatment has been to change her medication to a stronger antifungal medication to combat her Aspergillus. This seems to be slowly helping but has some awful side effects including visual disturbances, hair loss, and it also makes her photosensitive so it means we have to cover her head to toe in sun cream all the time. As this is slow to take effect they have now put her on steroids, six per day for two weeks, then we have to reduce them. That takes her medication count to 19 tablets before school even starts! So it is about 37 medicines per day in total – we are surprised she doesn’t rattle. To top that she is losing weight so we’re doing our best to get her calories in but it is hard when she needs 2,500 per day.

We have had a tough week with the side effects, she has been experiencing stomach cramps which have meant that we have had to keep bringing her home from school and she is so pale now she looks like a ghost. Still, Caitlin is a tough cookie and keeps going the best she can. As her mum though, I must admit I think I have had the most worrying two months and we still have a long way to go.
On a positive note, she had a great birthday party. We took her to a place called potz of fun where her friends painted different cups, ornaments etc. The best bit though was the chocolate fountain which was a big hit.

Easter has been a busy time for Caitlin. She was lucky enough to go to Bristol to stay with her sister, Holly, and her boyfriend, Jeff, for a week. She was spoilt rotten and went to Bristol Zoo and the Aquarium. It was a special time as her sister Holly is in the RFA – part of the Navy – and is away at sea a lot. Her elder brother, Chris, is also at sea as a chef in the Navy and he is currently out in Bahrain serving. When they are home though, they do lavish her with lots of attention.

The highlight though was a week before, thanks to Post Pals and Me&dee Charity, for giving her the chance to go to see the X factor concert at Newcastle. She absolutely loved it. Her first ever concert! Her favourite is Cher. We do have another concert to look forward to now as I am taking her later this month to see Take That. It’s as much as a treat for me as it is Caitlin, but I think she will love the atmosphere, so I’m just keeping my fingers crossed that she will be well enough.

A big thank you to everyone who sent Caitlin birthday cards and postcards. She said she feels famous! Special thanks to Sarah G, Lauren and Bethan, and everyone who took time to write a letter. Special thanks again to Mj for her birthday gift and to everyone else who also sent Caitlin presents – she was thrilled and excited to receive them.

Again, huge thanks to Post Pals, it really has changed our lives. It has provided Caitlin with opportunities for special days out and experiences, a chance for us to make friends with other parents who are also facing tough challenges bringing up poorly children (especially as with a cf child they are not allowed to mix with others with the same condition due to cross infection risks), and to feel the warmth and care of people who contact us. It is so touching and we read every letter and card and each and every one of them makes a difference to our days. They really do bring a smile to a child’s face.

Update 9th March 2011

Well, it is now the end of February and Caitlin is still fighting two infections, pseudomonas and aspergillus. The treatment has been tough going, but just as we thought she had turned a corner and seemed to improve, the coughing has started again. Its slowly getting chestier now, so we are giving her extra antibiotics on top of the medicines she is already taking – last medicine count she was taking 14 tablets a day, nebulised antibiotics twice a day, plus nebulised dnase which thins the mucus, two oral medications and finally add to that the 17-20 creon tablets she takes with her food. I don’t know how she manages it. I am so proud of my little girl. Caitlin, as always, takes it all in her stride.

We have two things coming up over the next couple of months to look forward to, one is an amazing wish that has been granted for Caitlin – we are going to see the X factor tour in Newcastle at the end of March, and at the beginning of April we have planned a birthday party for her 9th birthday – she is having a painting potz party so is very excited.

She has been having a really fun time with her Post Pals puppy Lucky – brother to Dottie – and we have been taking him on lots of adventures. Caitlin has even done her own blog for him.

So we’re back to hospital on Monday next week. Fingers crossed we will see what’s going on.

A big thank you to the charity MeeandDee who have arranged for Caitlin to have a special wish granted.

Update 30th January 2011

Caitlin has had a tough time over Christmas. She is still fighting pseudomonas and aspergillus infections and is on such an array of antibiotics and nebulised treatments that she has days where she is just totally washed out and exhausted. On the whole though she keeps smiling and carries on.

To all those who sent Christmas gifts, to the elves and to those who sent cards, she was thrilled with everything, it really cheered her up. We are always so grateful of the time and thought that people put into their lovely cards and letters. Post Pals really makes a difference.

Update 18th November 2010

Caitlin has had a rough few months. We have been battling aspergillus and just when we thought we were turning a corner, she yet again has started coughing and lung function and weight is down. We are just embarking on two weeks of iv antibiotics which hopefully will do some good.

Caitlin is, as always, a happy positive and brave little girl. She said she’s determined to fight CF and if she goes to heaven she wants to be a blue angel.

Thank you to everyone at Post Pals and everyone who spares the time to write and send gifts. Caitlin gets so much enjoyment from them and I’m hoping that soon she will be able to start responding to some of the mail she receives. A special thank you to St Patricks RC primary school Cardiff for all of Caitlin’s cards, she really loved them. Thanks to Kara for the beautiful letter c sun catcher, it is now hanging in pride of place in Caitlin’s room. Thanks to Post Pals for the wonderful Halloween goody bags.

Update 12th September 2010

Caitlin has been undergoing aggressive treatment for a chest infection, Aspergillus, which has involved extra nebulised treatments twice daily, antibiotics and steroids. Touch wood, so far this seems to be working and she has made some good progress. We are getting set to start home iv’s soon as the hospital feel that it would benefit her to go back on them 3 monthly.

Other than that, Caitlin is enjoying being back at school, she is about to take up violin lessons and dance classes.

Thank you to Kara for her letters and cards, it is nice to hear from you as always. Thank you for the art kits we received care of Helen T, Caitlin especially enjoyed making the mirror. The doorbell for her bedroom has proved a really big hit so thank you Sheelagh Hawkins. Big thank you also to Bethan for the Man U stickers and wand and to Xena for the lovely cat card and SpongeBob pen – Caitlin really loved it.

Update 11th July 2010

Caitlin is still suffering with her chesty cough, it is more productive now and the decision has been made to put her on ivs again every 3 months. Her lung function had improved to 75% but we are still keeping an eye on it. We have two weeks until her next visit to Leeds for clinic visit, so fingers crossed we can escape more ivs before the school holidays.

Life has been very hectic in our household lately but I am pleased to say we had a wonderful wedding and Caitlin loved being a bridesmaid, it was a special day for us all.

Thank you to all those who have sent Caitlin gifts and cards, as always we are extremely touched by everyone’s generosity. Thank you to all the class of Courthouse Green primary school for all their letters, they were lovely and very special. Also, thank you to Viks and everyone involved in Post Pals for the huge difference you make to our everyday lives, you make our dark days that much brighter.

Update 17th May 2010

Just to let you know that Caitlin is going through a rough patch at the moment and we attended an emergency appointment this morning in Leeds to see a consultant. She has got another nasty infection and so will be starting another course of iv antibiotics early next week. She’s coughing frequently and its disturbing her sleep so she’s having a bit of a rough time of it at the moment.

Update 8th May 2010

Caitlin has just grown another infection which she is being treated for, but on the whole is doing ok. Her severe headaches have now subsided for the time being and we now think it was probably linked to an infection. We’d had to take her out of school most days when her headaches were bad.

We’re going to Leeds General infirmary for ultrasound scan next week, and her annual CF review is in June, so fingers crossed. Her lung function is currently continuing to be stable so she is able to get around with her friends and still do the same things. She is currently also really enjoying swimming lessons and doing cross country at school. As always with a lung condition, it can be a challenge, but she really loves it.

I would like to thank everyone for all their kind gifts, cards and letters this month. We couldn’t get to the door some days for the sheer amount of post! Thanks to Russell Howard’s show for highlighting Post Pals. I am slowly doing my best to try and respond to as many personally as I can – I think I am going to have to be Caitlin’s PA for a while! So many lovely handmade cards, crafted gifts, presents and lovely letters that cannot remain ignored. I am sure Caitlin will have acquired a fair number of new friends by the end of it.

So a huge thank you to all those lovely people who kindly took the time to send Caitlin post, the generosity of people often makes me want to cry. Thank you also to Post Pals for the Alton Towers tickets, we plan to use them at the end of the summer holidays, and it will be a real treat for Caitlin and our family. Thank you to Stitches of love and kindness for the beautiful cushion, the Jaxons for their blanket, and Dave Langdale for his Spongebob blanket.

Update 15th March 2010

Caitlin has really had a rough few months. Since June last year, we seem to have been battling infection after infection. Fortunately, after some excellent treatment, I think we have finally turned the corner. Her lung function has risen from 65% to 86% and the biggest current problem we are experiencing is that she is feeling extremely tired and seems to be getting daily severe headaches. The hospital thinks it could be down to dehydration. This always seems to be some challenge to overcome.

In general, Caitlin is about to start swimming every week with the school, so is looking forward to doing that and enjoys going out cycling. She is starting to get excited as mummy is getting married in July and she is being a bridesmaid.

Thank you to all the people who have kindly sent their best wishes and for all the books and craft kits that have been sent which have been very useful for the days when Caitlin hasn’t been able to attend school. A godsend!

Update 30th January 2010

Caitlin is still suffering from chest infections and has been since June now. We have been throwing all sorts of medicines and treatment at them but they don’t seem to be clearing, so we’re going to St James hospital (Leeds) again on Tuesday to start another two weeks of intravenous antibiotics. This is the third lot in 7 months so things have deteriorated a little. Fingers crossed this final push will clear whatever it is.

Apart from that, Caitlin is keeping busy. She has just started drama club in school and we are going to start going swimming regularly as part of her physio regime.

We are going to Kent for half term week where she will attend playscheme and visit her old friends, so it should be an exciting week.

A special belated thank you to the George Washington class in the USA, for all their Christmas cards. We will be sending a thank you letter soon. We had a lot of handmade cards from the children that arrived this week, so that was very special.

Update 20th January 2010

Caitlin is currently doing ok. She is still fighting what we believe to be the same infections since June. They seem to be under control but we have not managed to eradicate them, which means that she is still having disturbed nights coughing and has recently also taken to sleepwalking and more night terrors, so she has a very tired mummy at the moment!

She continues to take her daily medication and have physio sessions but her weight has become an issue as over the last 3 months. A child with Cystic Fibrosis needs at least 2000 calories a day, so eating and more eating is the issue of the day.

We had a lovely Christmas and thank you to everyone who took time to send us good wishes and gifts. The generosity that people show us never fails to touch us. Caitlin was very very excited to receive regular letters from the elves and reindeer and I think that was a real high point of her Christmas.

Thanks go to Shiyu from Kochi Japan for her handmade card, Rock Ferry high school in Birkenhead, class 4ap St Hilary’s school for the lovely cards, Jack and Erin for their photo, Despina for her lovely cards and postcards, and Caitlin’s two special elves Liz and Emma. Thanks also to Santa’s reindeers for their lovely cards and presents. A big thank you to you all. I am always humbled by the amount of mail that Caitlin receives and the love and support that is shown to us as a family. We are always grateful for Post Pals hard work and their generosity.

We are back at hospital for our next review at clinic on 8th February, so fingers crossed.

Update 8th December 2009

Caitlin is still having a bit of a rough time of it and is still undergoing her treatment for pseudomonas and another infection, so it limits her being able to go out and about with her friends. She does have good days; I just wish the infections would clear as her coughing disturbs her sleep so much.

We are just hoping that she remains fairly well through the Christmas period so that she can enjoy herself. Caitlin is very excited about Christmas and fortunately she still believes in the magic of Father Christmas.

We would like to take this opportunity to thank everyone at Post Pals and all those kind people who take the time to spare us a thought and send cards and gifts. Every one of them is truly appreciated and valued; your kind wishes are very important to us and help us realize we are not alone. The joy that Caitlin gets when she receives mail makes a world of difference.

Special thanks this month to Wendy, Kate Dee, Norma Lumley, Valerie Simms, Caroline in Surrey and Ruby – all your cards and wishes have brightened Caitlin’s day. We really love the hand made cards too and are grateful for your thoughts.

We wish everyone best wishes for Christmas.

Update 8th November 2009

Caitlin has just finished her course of iv antibiotics and is feeling a lot better, although she is still receiving intense treatment for 3 difference lung infections. She has had to miss 2 weeks of school because of the threat of swine flu so it has been hard for her having to stay home, so the little craft kits that people have sent have been a Godsend.

Caitlin did go to Legoland and i would like to thank Post Pals for giving her the chance to go, she said it was her dream to go there!

Thank you to everyone who has sent good wishes our way, it has been a big help over the last month. Caitlin received some lovely craft packs which she absolutely loved, and the books were great as she is reading properly now.

Update 21st October 2009

Caitlin is having a tough time right now; she has grown pseudomonas and is on a really intensive treatment regime of drugs every day, as well as doing home IVs.

She has a bit of a temperature today so am keeping a close eye on her and to top everything off, we now have had to take her out of school because there is suspected swine flu going around. She is home bound until she has had the swine flu vaccination.

Update 1st October 2009

Caitlin has had a rough few months over the summer and has been struggling to clear a lung infection. Her lung function was dropping rapidly but now i am pleased to say she is finally making some improvement. She has been fighting an infection called Aspergillis, it’s a fungal infection so it’s going to take around 3 months of medication to clear.

Caitlin is currently on steroids and has been taking up to 6 steroids a day, which in turn has made her put on weight and she now has chubby cheeks!

Caitlin attended St James’ hospital in Leeds and her lung function has gone up to 75% so that’s great.

Thank you to all that continue to send Caitlin mail, i have just started to teach her to use the internet so that hopefully now i will be able to help her send some replies to all the wonderful people who send her things.

Thank you so much to all at Post Pals for the Legoland tickets, Caitlin will be visiting there at half term so we will be sure to take lots of photos. She is very excited about going as she has never been there before, so thank you again.

Update 17th August 2009

Thank you to Wendy for her lovely hand made card, to Kate Dee and also Tracy in Bristol for your cards and messages.

Update 14th July 2009

Caitlin has just finished her course of IV antibiotics and is now back to enjoying some outdoor fun with her friends. IV’s really restrict what she can do due to having a line in situ for 2 weeks. Her lung function is currently up a bit more but she’s already coughing again!

The post she has recently received really cheered her up whilst she was having her treatment, so thank you to everyone. Thank you for the lovely SpongeBob and the personalised necklace – Caitlin was thrilled. Also, the most beautiful quilt arrived from Lovequilts UK today, so a huge thank you to all involved in making the quilt. These gestures really are appreciated.

Update 29th May 2009

Caitlin is in reasonably good health at the moment, although is on a course of extra antibiotics for a bad cough which wont seem to shift, and she is starting to look a little weary in the heat which is normal for most people with CF. Our next appointment is in Leeds in a couple of weeks when we go for our Annual Review so we will see what they say.

Caitlin is having a lovely half term and is looking forward to her big sister Holly coming home soon as she is in the Navy. At the moment she absolutely loves Britain’s Got Talent and i cannot get her to bed until it is finished! She has also gone Garfield and SpongeBob mad and has started a collection of SpongeBob things.

A special thank you to all those people who send Caitlin mail from overseas. Post Pals means so much to us and helps us get through the tough days. It’s lovely to know so many people care and bring a smile to Caitlin with the mail they send. Caitlin is just starting to read some of the mail for herself too, which is even nicer. So thank you to everyone for taking the time to think of us.

Update 11th April 2009

Well, we are now settled in Yorkshire and we love it. Caitlin loves her new school and is already making friends. She really likes our new home and there are lots more outdoor activities to do here. At the moment we have a duck with her ducklings who have made home in our garden for a while, so she is out everyday checking on them.

Her health has remained pretty good so far. We are starting to set up all her health care here and are based at St James hospital in Leeds. We now have to go to hospital every 8 weeks to be seen at clinic there, with a visit to the local hospital in between. She is coughing again and is on extra antibiotics so I’m hoping that it will be enough to fend off any infection. They have changed some of her medication around so we are all getting used to new routines. She’s on 9 tablets each morning along with her nebulizer, one at midday and another 3 in the evening. Add to that her 17-20 creon a day with her food and i don’t know how she does it. She’s so good at swallowing all her meds.

Thank you to all who have sent us best wishes in our new home cards and all the things that have been sent for Caitlin’s birthday and Easter. Thank you to all the following people for their special birthday gifts and Easter wishes –  Erin F’s Nan and Granddad, Wendy, June Junko in the USA, Sarah Gilligan in Lancaster, and Amy Singleton in Ayrshire. Special thanks to the Post Pals team for the egg decorating kit and the lovely brown teddy. I am always overwhelmed by everyone’s generosity. Best wishes to all other Post Pals and their families for Easter.

Update 1st February 2009

Caitlin is generally well at present, and with our forthcoming move to North Yorkshire in 3 weeks time, we have been signed off from Kings College Hospital and are transferring our care to St James hospital in Leeds.

We are still struggling to keep her in school for a full week as since summer Caitlin has suffered from the usual coughs and viruses that go round, but because of her CF they just really seem to hit her harder and knock her off her feet for a day or so. Still, she keeps smiling and is always eager to go into school.

We are coming up to her 4 year anniversary since being diagnosed and when i look at how far she has come, from a malnourished very poorly little girl who was fighting for her life, to a child of normal weight, height and enjoying life as any other 6 year old, she really is a brave girl.

Without the support of the people around us, from the doctors at the hospital, the community nurses, right down to everyone at Post Pals, i really don’t know how we would as a family got through so far. So thank you to everyone for the hard work you put in, it really does make a difference.

Update 1st January 2009

Caitlin had a wonderful Christmas this year as all the family were around which was especially nice as this coming year is one of big changes for us. Caitlin and i have an impending house move to Yorkshire, which unfortunately means she will see less of her big brother and her dad, and also big sister Holly, as she is going to sea with the royal fleet auxiliary for 4 months from the end of February.

So, with a new school and new hospital team to get to know, it will be a bit of a challenge for Caitlin. I’m sure she will cope really well.

Just before Christmas Caitlin was invited to a party laid on by Invicta FM (our local radio station) as one of their Christmas stars. She had lots of fun, met Santa who arrived in style via helicopter, and was generally spoilt rotten. She also got to meet x factor star Austin Sage.

Boxing Day was eventful as when Caitlin got up in the morning we found she had the dreaded Chicken pox! So we have spent the last week itching and covering ourselves in calamine lotion. Maybe next year we will have a spot free, infection free, Christmas!

A big thank you to all who took the time to get presents for Caitlin, she loved them all, and it looks like I’m going to have a very busy month or two making things with her as we have lots of lovely creative kits. Special thanks to Judith, Chris, Paul and Rebecca, Maria and Michael, Alan and Aimee in Germany, Julie, Judi, Brian and family, and our very special Christmas elves Sue and Peter Barrett.
Thank you to all at Post Pals who made Caitlin’s Christmas all the more special this year and a happy New Year to all.

Update 2nd December 2008

It’s been a difficult month for Caitlin and the family. Caitlin spent 2 and a half weeks with a bad chest infection and up all night coughing constantly so she missed out on a lot of school. Despite all this Caitlin is a tough cookie and puts a smile on her face each day.

We are in the middle of not only Christmas preparations but house move preparations as we are moving to North Yorkshire at the end of February, just after her planned iv’s have been done, so there is a lot to organize with the transfer of treatment etc. Caitlin is looking forward to starting a new school though and we plan to start swimming and horse riding lessons if she is well enough.

Caitlin’s Nan is also currently unwell in hospital with brain cancer and is not expected to see Christmas, so any extra prayers would be gratefully received.

We would still like to express our thanks to all at Post Pals and everyone who send Caitlin mail, it really brightens her day, and we appreciate everyone who takes the time to help put a smile on her face. May we also take this opportunity to wish all other children and parents and the people at Post Pals a wonderful Christmas.

Update 6th November 2008

Life here has been so hectic. We went to Australia for a once in the lifetime holiday at the end of August. We are also moving to Yorkshire next year, so we are busy organising a move.

We are going to Kings today for a check up and to discuss the next course of IV’s. I think they will be just after Christmas.

We appreciate what you guys do for us all and the delight Caitlin gets with all the mail that comes our way is just immeasurable. It really does make a difference to us and brightens up some days that seem very bleak and when I’m feeling down it means a lot to know other people.

Update 30th August 2008

We are currently on a trip of a lifetime staying with family in Australia and Caitlin is experiencing the charms of living with kangaroos on her doorstep. There are also two horses which she is enjoying treating to the odd apple and carrot. It’s not quite spring here yet so we are having typical English weather, but it’s just right for her CF. She is still suffering from a bad cough but it does seem to be improving a little now as we have come equipped with lots of extra antibiotics.

Special thanks for the giant bowling that Caitlin has just received, it was lovely of Samantha’s parents. We are away so have not yet seen it but I’m told by Holly (Caitlin’s sister) that it’s amazing. Thanks also for the Thorpe Park tickets which we plan to use when we get back at end of September.

Update 16th July 2008

Special thanks this month to Julie for all her little fun cards and thank you to Despina for her postcards. Caitlin really loved all her craft kits she received too, she adores making things. Caitlin has been a little under the weather this month, so when she hasn’t been feeling well the little craft kits really seem to perk her up. Thank you to all who take the time to find these wonderful ideas for her.

Update 8th June 2008

Caitlin has just returned from a week in hospital. She went in for a routine exploratory bronchoscopy and to start her ivs off. When she was diagnosed they found the bug pseudomonas which is a pretty serious bug for a child with CF. She hasn’t tested positive for nearly 2 and half years with it, hence the exploratory operation to see if it is still deep in her lungs. So far the results that have come back show one infection but we are still awaiting news on the pseudomonas. We should hear on Wednesday. Caitlin has had a bit of a rough time with the operation and took a lot longer to recover from it, they had problems with her breathing during the operation because of the sheer amount of sticky thick mucus that they found.

We are now back at home and she is getting back to normal slowly and is currently on home ivs 4 times a day, which is pretty restricting for her, but like always she smiles and gets on with it. When i mentioned to her one day that i wish i could take CF off her she said “i don’t mind taking my medicine mummy”. Like all of the children on Post Pals, she is a total star.

We are hoping to be able to go holiday to Australia at the end of august, a once in a lifetime trip for both of us.

Caitlin really loved and got so much enjoyment out of the crafty items she received this month, especially the peg dolls. Thank you again to all that take the time and effort to brighten Caitlin’s day.

Update 16th April 2008

Caitlin is currently well and has managed to steer clear of infections for the last couple of weeks. We are due to Kings at the beginning of May for an annual review with the CF team and with the liver team also. So fingers crossed.

We then have planned IVS on May 18th so we are going to Kings again for our regular hospital admission.

Thank you for all of the wonderful birthday and Easter cards. Caitlin was overwhelmed and happy to have so many. Special thanks to the following people: Julie Barrett, Kate, Nicky, Liz, Maria C, Bernice, Callum and Emma, Helen T, Cara, Judith, Erin F’s nan and granddad and St Matthews Sunday school. Thank you to everyone who also took the time to send gifts, Caitlin loved them.

Update 1st March 2008

Caitlin is continually fighting off one infection and then another one starts. We have just completed 7 weeks of different oral antibiotics and we are due to attend the CF clinic again on the 12th March to decide when the next batch of iv’s needs to be done. We have recently began to try and stretch the amount of time between courses of iv antibiotics as up to now she has remained fairly well.

We are due for a liver review in March so, as always, we’re a little nervous as to what that might throw our way.

In herself though, Caitlin is her usual bubbly self, running around and not letting anything bother or faze her. I continually marvel at her bravery and determinedness.

She loves school, and doing anything outdoors. We have just started to take her swimming again which she loves too.

A lot of changes have been happening at home too, so it has been a difficult time for us all, but we are always sooooooo grateful for the cards, letters, gifts and emails that we receive for Caitlin. So thank you to everyone for taking the time to brighten her day.

Update 1st February 2008

Caitlin is currently well and we are continuously fighting off all the usual winter colds and trying to prevent chest infections. We are due to go to kings in London on 6th February for a clinic review, to book impending iv antibiotics and liver review.

Our family has been through a tough year last year, but we are now looking forward positively.

Thank you for all of Caitlin’s wonderful gifts, we are always amazed by people’s generosity and are truly touched.

Update 9th May 2007

Caitlin is currently has yet another chest infection, which we are fighting with various antibiotics. Hopefully we will be able to fend this infection off without another session of iv antibiotics.

We are due at Kings College hospital in London on May 25th for her first annual review. This entails scans, chest x-ray, lung function and blood tests, as well as a thorough examination, evaluation of her diet and physio and medication review, so it will be a long day.

Caitlin is mainly doing really well, her liver has stayed normal and the disease has not progressed at the moment. She is running around trying to be a typical little girl. So we are enjoying the good days and riding through the bad ones.

Update January 2007

Caitlin has just had a wonderful christmas, she finished two weeks of iv antibiotics a week before christmas, but has already developed yet another infection, so we are starting her on another course of oral antibiotics. Her health has remained steady so far, have had some concern over her liver disease which is being monitered regularly. Caitlin continues her regime of several oral medications twice a day, liver medicines, nebuliser 3 times a day and physio twice a day. frequent clinic visits and hospital admissions are still regular and will be indefinatly. Its nearly two years since caitlins diagnosis and i know that everyone is amazed at her recovery from the pneumonia and since her treatment for cf and liver disease has begun her health has really improved she is like a different child now. Hospital staff are continually amazed at the fact she is still here with us after her bad start. She is a brave little girl of whom we are very proud.

Cannot thank everyone who helps and supports us enough, every letter and email, card and postcard i keep in a special box to remind us of how many people think of her.

Caitlin has now moved on from Thomas Tank Engine and loves Dora the Explora and numberjacks, and anything girly (especially jewellery).

Update 21st June 2006

Caitlin has now been on IV’s for almost 3 weeks. We went into Kings hoping for just a 3 day stay, but due to a reaction with an antibiotic and her liver we had to change to another one and were kept under observation until the friday. We were finally allowed home on IV’s and then going back to Kings the following week for blood tests and yearly review – e.g. lung function tests, swabs, general examination by doctors, physio and dietician. As she was still coughing, it was decided to keep her on IV’s for a following week.

We returned to Kings today for blood tests etc and were told that her liver bloods have gone up. They don’t think its anything to be overly concerned about, but they will let me know tomorrow what today’s results are.

They have also talked about a treatment called Dnase – it’s a nebulised enzyme that helps thin the mucus, loosening it enough for it to be coughed up – i know it sounds awful (!) but apparently Caitlin is still too young to bring anything up. Once she does though the benefit is that they will be able to test it and find out what infections she has got and treat it more accurately. Despite positive cough swabs, it is still thought that her lungs are already infected deep down with the pseudomonas bug – which you pretty much can’t get rid of once infected as it’s resistant to most antibiotics. Dnase will in effect improve Caitlin’s lung function and hopefully keep it from deteriorating too quickly.

Because Caitlin is starting Dnase, she will be entitled to a free Eflow nebuliser. These are brilliant – it currently takes us 20 minutes for neb colymicin twice a day – with the Eflow it will be down to 5 minutes! Her Dnase will take between 1-2 minutes and it is portable and not noisy – isn’t the art of technology wonderful? It will certainly make life easier for both Caitlin and me. She is not due to start this until September as all the paperwork has to be done.

Next hospital admission will be September 3rd – hopefully with another on the December 3rd as we are trying to make sure she is fit for starting school in January. We are also off to Darent Valley for outpatients’ clinic on August 16th.

I am just keeping my fingers crossed for tomorrows liver results.

Update 16th June 2006

Caitlin is now a year since Diagnosis of Cystic Fibrosis and Liver disease. She has made immense progress, she had put on weight so no longer has the NG feeding tube and the new medications have hugely improved her way of life. Caitlin is now a totally different child to a year ago.

Her lungs have already slightly deteriorated but her liver functions have improved. Caitlin is reviewed at Kings College hospital every 6-8 weeks with her cystic fibrosis, and every 6 months with her liver disease. Fortunately she has stayed reasonably well, although we are now on our 3rd week of iv antibiotics to clear an infection, and she had a bad reaction to one of the iv antibiotics recently so that was a fairly worrying time.

Caitlin is very brave and takes everything in her stride. We have now also just bought her an 8ft trampoline for the garden for physio time.

She is due to start school full time after Christmas but until then she attends a nursery every morning and loves it. She is finally trusting people again and making new friends.

We can never predict how or when the CF will really take hold, so all we can really do is make sure she stays as well as we can for as long as we can. We continue to live each day to day, and pray for a cure. We hope our little girl will grow up and do something bold with her life.

Post from Post Pals has made a huge difference to our lives, we know that there are people out there thinking about us and that brings us great comfort. A special thank you to Victoria for all the goodies she sends to Caitlin, she loves them.

Update 23rd December 2005

Many thanks to everyone who has sent Caitlin cards and gifts, we are truly touched. She is getting really excited about Christmas now, so touch wood she stays well for the next week or so.

Update 1st December 2005

Caitlin is doing ok at the moment, we have another clinic tomorrow at the local clinic, she has a slight cough but is on strong antibiotics so we are hoping to avoid IV’s before Christmas.

She’s getting all excited about Christmas as its will be the first Christmas she will be well (hopefully) so will be able to enjoy it.

Update 14th October 2005

All went well with Caitlin’s operation. We went to Kings last Wednesday and they fitted her port on Friday. It’s already made all the IV’s so less traumatic and she loves her wiggly and her bessie bump, which is what we’ve called it.

Things are still manic as she is still on two weeks of IV’s, so although we moved down to our local hospital, I still have at least another 5 days sleeping at the hospital. We are now allowed some day release though.

All being well, the next course of IV’s will be in 3-4 months and they will hopefully teach me up at Kings to administer them myself, so it will greatly reduce hospital stays.

Caitlin is doing well at the moment although she does have her days and when you’ve been cooped up in a room with her 24/7 it’s hard sometimes. She can be challenging!

Anyway, your post always brings a squeal of excitement from her, and we are really grateful for all the lovely things you send.

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Charlie

15 July 2011

Story written 2008

Charlie was unwell when he was born with breathing difficulties and was put on CPAP to help him, although doctors could find no reason for this. After 2 weeks he was allowed home but had trouble putting on weight. He was always wheezy and was given a reliever inhaler. At 3 months he developed a chest infection; from then on he had one roughly every month and was in and out of hospital. It wasn’t until the following January that he was referred to the respiratory specialist at his local hospital. On Charlie’s first appointment he had lots of tests and a chest X-ray taken. He was immediately put on steroids and given a steroid inhaler along with antibiotics and vitamins and referred to another hospital – the Royal Brompton in London.

Charlie has continued to be unwell and in current months he has been particularly unwell after developing pneumonia. He has grown a lot of bugs on cough swabs, pseudo, influenza, and strep to name a few.

Charlie has a lowered immune system and needs some help to digest his food properly as he has a very acidic tummy. All tests Charlie has had have been inconclusive and not shown any one particular illness. However, he is now being treated as if he has Cystic Fibrosis as this seems to be the best way of managing him. In any one day Charlie takes 2 types of antibiotic, 3 different liquid medicines (one being vitamins and the others to help him digest his food), a power, steroids and 3 inhalers.

Charlie also has to have chest physio twice a day to help him move the thick secretions that are in his lungs. When he is suffering from an infection, this is increased to three times a day. He currently attends 3 different hospitals at least once every 4 weeks and he also sees a physio ENT specialist and has his own community nurse.

Despite all this, he is a very happy boy who when is well enough attends a pre-school and just loves having fun.

Update 11th May 2015

Charlie is now moving on from Post Pals and we’d like to thank everyone for all of the lovely post and emails the boys have received over the years. They really have made a huge difference to us at some really horrible times. Thank you to everyone at Post Pals for all the brilliant work you do to put smiles on the children’s faces, it is amazing what you guys do.

I would like to wish everyone all the best for the future and thank you once again for everything.

With kindest of regards,
Emma, Ollie, Charlie and Freddie xx

Update 10th August 2014

I’m so sorry for the very long gap in update. Things haven’t been very good this year.

Freddie has been very unwell and we are now at the point of discussing bone marrow transplant for him. We are also currently waiting for him to have a gastrostomy fitted so that he doesn’t have to have an ng tube permanently.

Charlie’s diabetes has been quite hard to control and he’s been having lots of vasculitis flare ups. He has full time 1:1 at school now to help him with everything which has proved to be the best thing they’ve done for him. I’m currently concentrating on having as much fun as is possible with the boys between them being in hospital as well as working and trying very hard to complete my teaching qualifications.

We are very grateful to Post Pals and everyone that sends us post. We also have a P.A. to help with some things. I’m sure you understand how difficult things are having two children with such intense medical needs and as I say, Freddie is in hospital more than he’s home.  Unfortunately heavy iv antibiotics are not working as they should and he now has glucose handling disorder and a type of anaemia which makes the red cells smaller. I can’t remember what its called but it is caused through him being chronically unwell.

Update 28th September 2013

Charlie hasn’t been great. He now has type 1 diabetes to add to the list, as well as the vasculitis and immune deficiency. He has been growing some odd bugs in his sputum as well as our old friend pseudomonas. He now on nebulised hypertonic saline and colomycin twice daily. We have also been awarded direct payment in order to secure a personal assistant for the boys as their medical load is pretty intense. Charlie is also due to start counselling as he’s finding things hard to deal with.

We were at GOSH and they told us that they think Charlie’s condition is progressing much faster than first thought. They have taken DNA and more blood for genetic testing. Unfortunately, Charlie is unfit to leave the country at present so his make a wish trip has been changed to a fantastic weekend in London, ending in a trip to see Charlie and the chocolate factory and a spree in Hamleys, which will be great and is something for him to look forward to.

Freddie currently has a chest infection and is on cipro. He is loving pre school but it is very difficult keeping him away from all the bugs going round.

Thanks to everyone for everything they send the boys as it really cheers then up. Big thanks to Post Pals.

Update 9th August 2013

Sorry it’s been a while. Charlie’s not been to good for the last couple of months. He’s got reduced lung function and developed quite bad clubbing of his fingers. He’s also had a ct scan which has showed some changes to his lungs. He’s been started on nebulisers, had his antibiotics changed, and we’re working really hard on physio. Most recently Charlie has been diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. He only came out of hospital on Wednesday evening. He is having to have 4 insulin injections a day and 8 blood sugar tests. He’s coping very well with it all and makes me so very proud. I on the other hand am feeling quite angry about the whole thing and feel it is very unfair, but I’m sure we’ll soon be on an even keel again. It means many more appointments, a lot more treatment and some getting used to. We will soon be getting a carer to help us at certain times of the day as Charlie and Freddie’s regimes are getting more and more complicated so I’m hoping that will help make for a less stressed house!

As always, thank you to Post Pals and to everyone that sends the boys mail.

Update 29th April 2013

Charlie hasn’t been great since Christmas. He has been having lots of chest pain, coughing, feeling sick, headaches, aching joints, and is very tired. His immunoglobulins were dropping and we’ve noticed before that when this happens Charlie is unwell so his treatment has been increased and hopefully this will help keep his immunoglobulins up.

He has just finished a two week course of iv antibiotics and seemed well for a few days but he is now coughing again and complaining of chest pain. So we’ll see what happens. He’s due to go into the Brompton in the next couple of weeks to have a bronchoscopy and depending on what they find they will decide whether he, like Freddie, should be started on nebulised antibiotics and hypertonic saline. Charlie and Freddie both have CT scans next Friday to see how their lungs are doing.

Charlie has missed a lot of time from school lately and is finding it all a little difficult. On the up side, Charlie has been granted a wish from the make a wish foundation to go to Disneyland and that is giving him something positive to look forward to.

The boys have lots of appointments coming up, as well as their 3 weekly infusions. Lately, we’ve never been away from the hospital. Freddie hasn’t been doing well, he’s been on iv antibiotics lots and was on them for 3 and a half weeks in December and again for two weeks before Charlie started his. In between, he has had countless oral antibiotics due to growing lots of bugs in his chest due to continuing growths of pseudomonas and staphylococcus aureas. He is now on nebulised drugs including alternate tobramycin and colomycin. It has taken him a while to get to grips with it all but he is doing. Olliver has been ok apart from missing out on time with me.

Thanks again to Post Pals and to everyone that sends the boys lovely mail, it is helping make a difficult time better for them and it is very much appreciated and really cheers the boys up.

Update 4th November 2012

Charlie has been up and down lately. He’s had a few tummy upsets and a chesty cough which ended up with him on cipro but luckily that did the trick. He’s also been having lots of headaches, some of which are very bad, and he just goes to bed. He gets very upset and cries which is very unlike Charlie. They are causing him to vomit so I’m pretty sure they’re migraines.

Charlie has also just been diagnosed with vasculitus which is basically leaky blood vessels. This is causing him quite a lot of intermittent joint pain and we think it’s also causing the headaches and quite bad nose bleeds too, but the standard treatment is immunosuppressant drugs which obviously Charlie can’t take so we are waiting for GOSH to come up with a miracle at the moment!!

Charlie, as always, is a lovely boy who takes it all in his stride, although he does of course get fed up of feeling poorly and is starting to question his condition a lot lately asking why he and his brothers have it and why I gave it to him! Which as I’m sure you can understand is very hard to try and explain to a 7 year old and a little upsetting I have to admit.

All Charlie’s treatment continues to be the same although we are having more done locally now which is great as getting up and down to London every few weeks for the boys to have their treatment was hard work.

Thanks to everyone for all the post as always. Thank you for all the presents and DVDs etc the boys get, it is all very much appreciated. As usual, a big thanks to Post Pals too, you do a fab job.

Update 8th March 2012

Firstly, thank you to everyone who sent the boys letters cards and gifts this month as they’ve loved everyone of them.

Olliver has been quite well other than joint pain and Freddie has finally had his port fitted and started treatment. He’s already had one infection since having the port fitted so it’s been fab already! Charlie is currently in hospital with a chest infection and a small area of collapse in his lung. He’s feeling pretty rubbish and has a high temp and been vomiting. However, when you ask him how he’s feeling, his standard reply of ‘I’m fine’ is all he says! He is clearly not fine and got quite upset during the night as he felt quite poorly. We are hoping to go home ASAP and carry on with the Ivs at home, but at the moment they won’t let him home till they’re happy he’s going in the right direction, so this could be a long 14 days for him!

Again, thank you yo everyone who has been in touch with the boys and also for the emails Charlie has had as he enjoys me reading them to him. Right, I better get back to him as we are reading Horrid Henry books at the moment – he suddenly gone mad for Horrid Henry – I hope he’s not taking tips off him though!!

Update 5th January 2012

Firstly, thank you to everyone for all the Christmas gifts for the boys and the letters from the reindeers – they loved them all.

Charlie has been doing quite well, he’s had a few low grade infections that have been treated with extra oral antibiotics, but is doing quite well overall.

However, he is struggling quite a lot at school. He has noticed that he is different to his friends and doesn’t really like this. He has started to say he doesn’t want physio anymore and asks when can he stop taking all his medications. Sadly, I’ve had to explain to him that he won’t be stopping his medicines and have explained in a simple way (that he can understand) about his condition. He seemed happier after this and understands a little more.

He is very behind at school with his written work and is being investigated for dyslexia. He is finding this very difficult as all his friends are in the top group and he constantly compares himself to them. It makes him sad that he is not as ‘good’ (his words) as them. This is becoming a big problem and he is not enjoying school like he used to. On the plus side, the school are working very hard with him, and in the afternoons he does work with a TA independently from the rest of the class. They are also modifying the work they do as a class for Charlie so that he is able to take part as well to try and boost his confidence as he is a very bright boy. After I had spoken to his teacher he said to me ‘I know you were talking about me and how rubbish I am’. He then went on to tell me he hates his life because of all the medication and hospitals etc. I spent a long time reassuring him and reminding him of all the good things he does etc. He seems better at the moment and just started back at school yesterday, so we will see how he goes.

He’s still having his regular plasma infusions and all other medications and we may soon need to think about replacing his portacath as it is very small. His consultant is leaving it as long as possible though as anything like that is obviously an infection risk.

Olliver is doing very well. He’s loving senior school and has been quite healthy. His immune system is still doing silly things but is no where near as bad as Charlie and Freddie. He’s still on his regular antibiotics and inhalers but other than that is doing great. He will have more bloods done in February to see if his immunity had deteriorated any further.

Freddie has been another story. He has been very poorly (hence the lack of updates) as we’ve been in and out of hospital a lo. We are now currently waiting for him to have a port fitted and begin plasma therapy. He was booked to have this on the 16th September but was too poorly to go under anesthetic. His immune system is very bad and he is currently neutropenic as well. He’s had sepsis infection, staph aureus pseudomonas, and moraxella infections in his chest, as well as ear infections and tonsillitis, all needing iv antibiotics. He also has a primary immune disorder and will be starting treatment as soon as his port is put in. His last lot of ivs (two weeks ago) was horrendous and he now has no vein access due to them being used so much. We had to resort to IM antibiotics in his thigh for 10 days and high dose oral antibiotics. They were not what his consultant wanted, but as i say, vein access is now impossible and he couldn’t go under anaesthetic as his chest was too bad, so that was the compromise.

Anyway, thank you to everyone who sends gifts, letters, cards and emails all year round, its very much appreciated. Again, thank you for all the Christmas cards, gifts and letters, they were all lovely and the boys loved them.

Carry on with the great work Post Pals, you do a fantastic job.

Update 10th August 2011

Charlie has not been too bad. He’s had a nasal infection which appears to have gone on for some time but we finally seem to have got on top of it thanks to a new antibiotic and nasal disinfectant. He then got an infection in his eye which he needed antibiotics for and this is clearing up thankfully. To round this month off he then fell down a climbing frame feet first, it was quite a height and he ended up hurting his left foot. After a quick X-ray we discovered that thankfully nothing was broken. However there is soft tissue damage so he has his leg in a support bandage and has been told to stay off it for a short while and keep it elevated as much as possible. Charlie, being the active child he is though, is doing too much on it when it feels slightly better and then is in agony with it and gets to the point where he can’t walk at all on it. Short of strapping him down though I can’t keep him still!!

He managed a good lung function test at his review last week which we were pleased with and all his medicines were left the same, so all in all he’s not doing too badly at the moment.

Olliver has not been too bad and is enjoying the summer holidays but is excited about starting senior school in September.

Freddie has been doing quite badly and he has been started on twice daily chest physio, daily antibiotics, vitamins, inhalers and Gaviscon, so we will see if any of that helps. He and Charlie have hospital on Tuesday and then all the boys have immunology clinic at the end of September, so hopefully all the results will be back from Freddie’s immunology screening and we will know for sure if he has the same condition as Charlie.

Charlie also begins genetic testing in September and will be taking part on some medical research to hopefully shed more light on the condition and primary immunodeficiencies in general.

As always, thanks to Post Pals and everyone who sends the boys things – it makes such a difference.

Update 17th April 2011

Charlie’s had an up and down month. He’s had another chest infection with three weeks of cipro and was booked in for iv antibiotics again even though he just finished a course about 9 weeks ago.

Anyway, he seems a lot better now and thankfully has not had to have the ivs. He was at hospital last week and they said his air entry is much better and he looks a lot better. He’s having to work very hard with his physio as he is having problems with the right lung where he keeps on getting reduced air entry due to consolidation.

He’s getting quite tired lately and has started to notice a difference between him and his friends. The other day he came home from school and was really upset as all his friends had a bronze badge for attendance and he never got one. He was so upset and said he’s never going to get one because he always has to go to hospital. I felt really sad for him. I’m going to speak to school and see if there is anything we can do for him to earn a bronze badge.

Speaking of school, there’s still lots of work being done trying to secure his funding as the school are saying he really needs more one to one help than is currently being provided, but health social and education are arguing about who should be paying for it. The whole situation is very frustrating and time consuming with having to attend meetings etc. I just think if he needs help to enable him to achieve his full potential then it should be given, he has enough hurdles in his way without this being another one.

On a lighter note, we’re having fun during the holidays. We’ve been bowling and to the cinema and park which all the boys have been enjoying. They are now looking forward to Easter and all the eggs they are hoping to get!

As always, thank you so much to everyone who sends the boys post, it is all really appreciated and always puts a smile on their face.

Update 12th March 2011

Charlie’s not had a very good month. He finished his two weeks iv antibiotics and seemed to be a lot better, but he has since has started coughing and becoming quite breathless again. He is being reviewed soon and we will see what they say. We know there have been some changes to the bottom of his right lung so perhaps this is the reason for the way he is at the moment.

He is getting quite frustrated with the way he is feeling and is getting very tired, so all the post he is getting is really cheering him up – thank you.

Olliver is doing well at the moment, but baby Freddie has been in hospital with whooping cough. It is improving, so fingers crossed it won’t be too long before he’s better as he’s been coughing for around two months and it is getting less frequent.

Thanks again for all the post, it has really helped Charlie.

Update 14th February 2011

Charlie’s sats have been quite low so he’s been on oxygen over night and his right lung is a bit quiet so he’s having to work hard during physio to try and shift any gunk that is down there.

He’s still quite cheerful considering everything and thanks to all for the Valentines cards he received!

Update 13th February 2011

Hi everyone and firstly thank you very much for the boys Christmas post – it was lovely, as always, and thank you for the memory boxes they received this week as well.

Things have been pretty hectic here. The good news is Charlie has a baby brother who arrived a couple of months too early on the first of December, but is doing very well. We have called him Freddie and he is home now and very healthy.

The bad news is Charlie has been up and down over the last few months and is now in hospital again for 14 days IV antibiotics for his chest. He has been very tired over the last 2 months with a cough that one minute sounded tight and the next quite chesty, so it was decided he would start IV’s and we will see what, if anything, his cough swab shows hopefully on Monday.

Charlie is taking it all in his stride as he usually does, while we run around like headless chickens trying to sort everything out! Charlie never complains and is so brave, he makes me very proud, as does Olliver, of course.

Olliver has had many coughs and colds over the winter period and also had the vomiting bug on three occasions. He seems quite well at the moment though, apart from a swelling on the bottom of his right foot, so I’m going to speak to Charlie’s consultant on Tuesday as she is also Ollivers and see what she thinks about it.

I will try my best to update soon on how Charlie’s getting on and as always, thank you so much for all the boys post.

Update 26th October 2010

Sorry it’s been so long since I last updated Charlie’s page. Things have been hectic here and my internet connection has been patchy and driving me mad! One day we have it and the next not!

Anyway, Charlie has had a good summer with no additional infections so that has been great and gave us a much needed break. He started school in September and loves it. The school have been so good and have done everything possible to make Charlie’s transition as easy as possible. Before he started, the school applied for funding for him of 5 hours a day to help employ a one to one assistant to cover all of Charlie’s additional needs, but they were only granted 2 hours a week which we all agreed was pretty bad, so we are currently fighting to get the hours increased, but at present we don’t seem to be getting very far. I’m finding the whole situation very frustrating and a lot of added stress that we could do without. I think it is really unfair that children with additional needs have to fight so hard for everything, you would think the powers that be would realise this and make things as easy as possible for them to access all things that other children do.

Charlie has recently had a skin infection around the area of his portacath and has currently got a chest infection. He is on cipro but is due to be reviewed tomorrow. If the doctor feels that his chest is not much better then he will be booked in for iv antibiotics as we want to try and keep him as well as possible and don’t want infections dragging on and then one going into another. He does seem a bit better but his chest still sounds quite mucky to me and he is very productive during physio which he hasn’t really been all summer. Anyway, we’ll wait and see what they say.

Olliver hasn’t been too bad but is having to get used to having daily chest physiotherapy which he is finding difficult. I don’t think his age helps as he just thinks it interferes with him doing whatever he wants to! He has been put on various antibiotics and they are keeping a close watch on his infection burden. If this becomes high they will start him on immunoglobulin replacement therapy sooner rather than later as we don’t want any lung damage etc. He is also being reviewed tomorrow so we will see what they say about him too. His school are not being as helpful as Charlie’s school and when I was at parents evening last week his teacher was unaware that he had any medical issues. I was very angry as just before they broke up for the summer we held a meeting (which amongst others was attended by the head teacher and Olliver’s nurse) and the point of this was to fill the head teacher in on all the issues and ensure that all the information would be passed on to the new teacher to enable Olliver to be supported in the best way possible. His teacher was very apologetic and has said he will find out everything including why he wasn’t told of these issues.

Olliver also is on something called school action plus and should have an individual education plan, none of which have been sorted out either. So I’m not happy at present! I will update soon and let you know what is happening with all these issues.

I wanted to say thank you very much for the post Charlie has received and the birthday cards he had as well. It is all very much appreciated and cheers him up. He has loved the Toy Story post he’s been getting too as he’s Toy Story mad. Both boys got some Halloween goodies from Post Pals as well, so thank you for that too. Sorry again for the irregular updates and I will make sure I update much more regularly.

Again thank you very much for all the post and please know it is all very much appreciated.

Update 21st July 2010

Hi everyone, I wanted to say a massive thank you first of all for all the post Charlie has received, it has been astounding and we are so so grateful for it. Thanks also for all the emails as he’s loved getting those to. Charlie has also had lots of Toy Story related post and he is absolutely mad on Toy Story so he has been in his element. Again, thank you. Charlie received a summer package which was crammed full of lots of exciting items, he especially loved the tomato plant and can’t wait for that to grow. Thank you very much.

Charlie has had quite a good few months. Thank goodness for the better weather as this always brings an improvement to his health. He’s still on the daily cocktail of meds and the plasma infusions but they all seem to be doing the trick in keeping him as healthy as possible. Charlie’s infusion has increased so it now takes around 6 hours to infuse which I’m sure you can imagine is very boring for him, but he manages very well and makes me very very proud.

Charlie will be starting school in September and we have thankfully managed to secure 5 hours one to one funding for him per day, so that will ensure he has continuity of who gives him his physio and meds at school, as well as helping him with his work and making sure he doesn’t get to worn out (which will in turn have a detrimental effect on his health). The worrying news is that there is a child in the class with CF and due to the bugs they will both grow this could prove to be somewhat of a problem. The consultant said thankfully it’s not a situation they come across often but when it does it needs to be handled carefully. The specialist CF nurse from the Royal Brompton will be going into the school to inform them of the importance of keeping the two children separated. Hopefully this will make things as manageable as possible and the school have been fantastic from the start which has been a big bonus.

Olliver has been confirmed as having an immune system which isn’t as it should be, he has been put on daily antibiotics to try and help prevent infections. His immunity appears to be gradually falling so although not as severe as Charlie’s condition, they think he will end up on replacement therapy and this will be decided by his infection burden. He has also been suffering quite a lot with his hypermobility syndrome and inflammatory bowel disorder, so he’s not feeling his best at the moment and unfortunately I seem to be bearing the brunt of it! It must be very frustrating for him as he’s an active boy who just wants to be like his friends. I asked his consultant to speak with him on the importance of taking all his meds as his cooperation in taking them has been poor for a few months – she did and it has appeared to help, so fingers crossed it will continue.

Anyway, I think that’s about it for now. Thanks again for all the post and I’m very sorry we can’t reply to everyone but please know it is very much appreciated.

Update 6th May 2010

Sorry for not updating for a while. Charlie has been keeping much better of late. He’s not had an infection requiring IV antibiotics since December which is such great news for us. He still attends every few weeks for his plasma and bloods etc but all in all has been much better.

He’s got to have more grommets fitted so we are waiting for a date for that as his left ear is causing a few problems because it keeps getting infected causing the drum to burst then fill with yucky stuff. So it’s not nice for him but the good news is his recent one was managed with strong oral antibiotics so we were really pleased about that.

He didn’t get into the primary school which we thought would best meet his needs but was given the second school on the list. Lots of people have advised me to appeal etc but to be honest I am going to go visit the school and meet the head teacher and see what to do from there, as if at all possible I would really like to avoid appealing as things are hectic enough as it is. If the school he has been given cannot meet his needs then of course we will go down the appeal route.

Everything has been going well with Charlie’s port-a-cath and it has helped a lot with his regular bloods and infusions, although his needle phobia is worse than ever. Charlie is having very intensive help from a psychologist and play specialist for this as it really is horrendous to watch. So all in all, Charlie is doing very well.

Olliver has been a different story. He’s still having lots of tests for his immune system and at the moment is neutropenic so is being monitored closely as we still don’t really know what’s going on with him. It seems that his immune system has been slowly declining but as yet we don’t have a name for it. He is on prophylactic antibiotics and various other meds to help, but currently has a heavy cold he can’t seem to shift and it is all really getting him down. He has also been diagnosed as having hyper-mobility syndrome for which he has been having regular physio and pain killers and has been referred to a podiatrist as he needs insoles for his shoes to support his feet and ankles.

Whilst all this has been going on, I’ve been hoping to go back to work part time in September, but really don’t know if this will be possible or realistic. I feel I really need to do something for me and would really like to go back, so fingers crossed it works out.

I think that’s just about all of our news at the moment and I will update more regularly from now on.

I want to say a massive thank you for all the post, gifts, and emails that the boys have received. It has been amazing and they are so grateful – as am I – for the big smiles it puts on their faces. I think it’s lovely that people do this for them, so again, thank you to every single person who has sent or emailed something.

Update 19th January 2010

Happy new year to everyone and hope everyone had a nice Christmas.

Charlie had his port-a-cath fitted without too many problems. He ended up staying in for a week for two different i.v antibiotics as he has a rattly chest and an ear infection. His ear was full of muck and a little bit of blood. He got over it well and we came home Christmas week ready to prepare for the festivities!

One of the antibiotics he was given whilst in surgery should have been given as an infusion over an hour, but instead it was mistakenly pushed through his cannula, so that caused a bit of worry as he then had to have a lot of i.v fluids to dilute it, but luckily he was fine. It’s quite a potent antibiotic and can cause deafness and kidney problems in some children if not given correctly, but as I say, he was fine. He also had his first plasma infusion through his new port and it all went very well although it had been accessed during surgery so he didn’t actually know he had to have a needle in it. When we went for his infusion on the 5th of January he had an absolute melt down when he saw the needle they had to put in, he couldn’t understand why he still had to have needles when he had his ‘button’ as he calls it. Once it was finally accessed and he saw it was nothing like having a cannula fitted, the look on his face was great. He was so relieved and couldn’t believe how easy it was and so was I because the last few months have been terrible when it came to getting cannulas fitted.

We had some bad news about Olliver – he had some tests on his immune system due to various issues. Whilst Charlie was in hospital, the immunologist came to see me and she told me that Olliver’s immune system is like Charlie’s and not functioning correctly and his bone marrow isn’t working as it should. I was quite shocked, as although my instincts told me something wasn’t right with him, it’s another thing to have it confirmed. We’re not exactly sure yet what type of immune disorder he has and they’re not even sure if it is the same as Charlie’s, because at the time we were still waiting for more blood results, so we have an appointment on the 10th February to see what the next step is. I told Olliver and he was very upset as he has seen everything Charlie goes through and being much older means he understands much more than Charlie does. I think I reassured him in as much as at least he has an answer now as to why he has the problems he has with his joints stomach etc and that we don’t yet know what treatment he’ll need. The doctor told me it may be possible to try him on long term antibiotics and see how that works for him before escalating to plasma etc. He is feeling a bit down in the dumps at the moment and I’m sure he would be very grateful for a few smiles if anyone could spare the time. He’s a very private boy so it’s hard to know what he’s thinking sometimes.

I wanted to say thank you very much for all the presents, cards, and letters that the boys got over Christmas and also for Olliver’s birthday. They really loved them all. Charlie opened some whilst he was in hospital and they really cheered him up and Ollie opened some after his news and that really helped too. It really does make them smile and Olliver (being a bit older) thinks it is so kind of people that they don’t even know to do that for them, as do I. So again, thank you very very much. Amongst other things, Charlie was sent a Wall-e laptop and hasn’t been off it since – there was no note or anything with it so whoever sent it, thank you very much! Thank you also to all our regulars!! The only thing is, Charlie thinks all post is his now!!

Update 4th December 2009

Things have been quite hectic here as Charlie has been growing some nasty bugs in his lungs again, namely staph and cepecia, and he was quite poorly with them. I am currently waiting on cough swab results taken on Tuesday to see if anything else is going on down there as he has been coughing a lot again.

Both boys have had there normal and swine flu jabs and were fine with it, other than Olliver having a slightly sore arm. We don’t know how successful Charlie’s will be as he doesn’t produce antibody responses, but even a tiny bit of protection is better than none.

Charlie’s going in on the 14th of this month to have his port-a-cath fitted so please keep your fingers crossed that goes well with no infections etc. He will also be having some i.v antibiotics through it.
Thanks to everyone who has sent the boys post as they really love it. I will send a proper update soon but he has a sore ear at present and just wants to sit with me. I will let you know how everything goes with the port etc and thanks again to everyone who takes the time to send the boys mail.

Update 21st October 2009

Charlie came out of hospital again yesterday as he had to go in due to another chest infection which hadn’t properly cleared up from the last one three weeks ago. He’s also been growing nasty bugs on cough swabs so isn’t really having a very good time at the moment. We have decided that he is to have a port-a-cath fitted as he’s had so many lines put in his veins are now very bad.

I want to say thanks to everyone for Charlie’s birthday cards and presents as he loved them all. Also, thank you for the parcels both boys received with all the books, sweets, and crafty things in. They we’re so chuffed with them.

Update 1st October 2009

Charlie hasn’t been too bad lately although he has just finished some i.v. antibiotics for a chest infection and bug he was growing. He also keeps getting reduced air entry in his left lung so is currently having to have physio three times a day to help prevent this.

He went back to school in September and didn’t cope too well as all his friends have moved up, but as he’s been kept back a year it threw him as he didn’t really know anyone. He’s getting on well now though and is getting used to all the changes slowly. He now has an IEP at school so he’s working toward the goals on that and we’re busy trying to get all the evidence together to support his need for a statement. Charlie also has 5 hours one 2 one support at school to help him with his targets etc but we are hoping for more once his statement has been sorted.

He is also going to be taking melatonin to help with his sleeping habits, he’s a very disturbed sleeper and this in turn affects his behaviour so we’re hoping these help.

Olliver has not been too well lately and is currently waiting for an endoscopy. He’s always had a lot of stomach trouble and is already on medication but his consultant thinks there is something else going on, possibly some kind of inflammatory disorder and juvenile arthritis has also been mentioned, and they also think that this could be related to his stomach. He’s currently taking co-codamol every six hours which concerns me slightly but this is the only thing that seems to help the pain a little and his consultant has prescribed these so i guess it must be ok. The sooner the endoscopy gets done and they sort him out the better as he’s had a bad year health wise this year too.

Thank you to everyone who has sent the boys post as they love it. Charlie’s had post from Cuba, Spain and America, so thank you very much for that and for all the other cards letters emails and pictures. They really are very much appreciated and do put a big smile on their faces.

Update 8th July 2009

Good news to report! Charlie has been infection free and out of hospital (other than going for the usual plasma and appointments) for six weeks. That is very good news. He has been doing well lately.
We’ve just got back from a break in a Haven Park and we’ve all had a really lovely time. Even Olliver seemed to relax and enjoy himself and Charlie and him got on really well – he was very patient with Charlie and they even shared the same room. Charlie wanted to sleep in Olliver’s room tonight, but things were soon back to normal and the arguing had begun after about half an hour of being home!
Charlie is still having the many assessments relating to his development, education and behaviour etc. I never realised it was such a long and drawn out process, but hopefully at the end we’ll have the right diagnosis and help for him. His IEP’S are already in place and his school have been great. He will be having a statement of special educational needs so they are busy gathering all the evidence for that, as it is obvious he works much better on a one to one level. This is because his concentration is much better like this, as opposed to in a large group where you never get his attention in the first place, never mind sustain it.

More good news is that we have been given 15 hours a month respite care for Charlie. This will enable me to spend some quality time with Ollie and catch up on bits that need to be done. I can also have a rest as Charlie can be very hard work sometimes. I wouldn’t change him for anything though!

I wanted to say thank you to everyone who has sent the boys things this month as they were really chuffed. I keep meaning to write down everything they get to say thank you to everyone but I never quite get round to it. Please know though that we really appreciate it and they are so grateful for everything they receive. Also, thank you for the kind letters that I’ve received as well; they have really helped lately as everything has seemed a real struggle, so thank you very much. Once again, thank you very much for all the letters, cards, emails and gifts we have received.

Update 3rd June 2009

Things have been pretty hectic the last few months. We’ve had so many assesments, appointments, and reviews, that my head has been spinning with all the information i’ve been getting!

Charlie’s had a couple more hospital admissions for infections where he’s been in for 4 days or so for i.v antibiotics as is his protocol, but touch wood he’s got over it all well. He was also at the Royal Brompton a few weeks ago where they reviewed his recent CT scan etc and they have increased his chest physio to 3 times a day as they said there is much more muccas lying down there now and if it’s not shiffted then obviously it can lead to infection. He’s going to be trying a new device with his physio alled a PEP mask. I’m not really sure what it is but i think the idea is it keeps the airways open longer so it is easier for him to cough up the sputem. It will also allow him to be slightly independent from me and is something new to try and encourage him. It will also be portable so we can take it where ever we go and then if we’re out for the day he can use that and i’d do the hands on physio later when we got home.

We’ve also discovered that Charlie has a delay of around 18 months to 2 years with his learning and some of his understanding. It came as quite a shock as i really didn’t think he was that delayed at all. I’ve been told though that with the right help and support he will easily reach his full potential. We are still waiting for a diagnoses of his behaviour etc and it seems to be really dragging on. ADHD, autism, and global delay, have all been mentioned but we have got nothing in concrete yet. I’m keen to hurry it along as i think once we know exactly what we’re dealing with it can be managed in the right way so that charlie is getting the help and support he needs. He was going to be at school in September but we’ve all decided it’s best for him to stay at pre school for another year whilst everything is being sorted out and all the evidence is being gathered for a statement, so that come September 2010 everything will be ready for him to start.

Olliver’s been having a hard time lately trying to deal with everything that has been going on and deal with Charlie etc so i’m hopeful that Charlie’s respite care will be sorted soon so that i can spend some one to one time with Ollie, which i really think we need. He deals with everything so well and i’m so proud of him, but i do feel he misses out sometimes as unfortanatly Charlie’s illness, behaviour etc, all have to be the main focus most of the time. It makes me feel so guilty but it’s just the way things are at the momment.

One of Charlie’s inhalers has been changed and it seems to be helping with his breathlessness so thats good. Also, he keeps getting reduced air entry in his lungs so that is the reason his physio has been increased to hopefully help prevent the blockages in his lungs that the thick mucas is causing. We had an assessment from Social Services disabled children’s team and they have advised 14 hours a month respite and 5 hours a week domestic help, but it has been passed to the complex care team panel and they hold the purse strings, so we’ll see what happens. His social worker is hopeful, so fingers crossed.
Things seem to be going smoother with his infusions now. He dosen’t seem to be vomiting every time he has the plasma now so that’s a step forward. We had quite a scare a few weeks ago as he went to school in the morning and he was fine, but then i had a phone call asking if i could go and collect him as he was crying a lot and saying he was sad. When i arrived he looked terrible, he was a grey colour, his eyes were rolling and he was vomiting, but trying to sleep as well. They were just about to phone an ambulance when i arrived. I asked to take him home and see how he went which thinking now was stupid. Anyway i got him home and he was just terrible. He was absolutely exhausted and floppy so we got him to hospital and they put a cannula in etc and it turned out he’d got another infection. His blood sugar was low and when he was vomiting violently he was unable to get enough air in his lungs, combined with the problems he already had it all made him pass out. That’s Charlie though – he never does anything by halves, bless him!

He seems well at the moment so i’m hoping it will last a while as we’re going to a Haven site at the end of June for a well deserved break for us all. Both boys are so excited as they absolutely love Haven and Charlie thinks the caravans we stay in are actually his. He’s always asking to go to his caravan!

I just wanted to say thank you for all the cards and gifts Charlie has had lately. You wouldnt believe how much they cheer him up. Thank you for the books both boys were sent and Charlie also received a parcel from a grandma in Spain, so thank you so much for that – he loved it as it was full of his favourite things. They’ve also had postcards and lovely hand made cards, so thank you to absolutely everyone who has sent them things, it is very much appreciated. I have also received some lovely letters, it is so kind of people to go out of their way and do that. It’s one thing to do it for the kids but it was so nice for me to think these people are actually thinking about all of us. So, once again, thank you very much.

Update 31st March 2009

Charlie hasn’t had a great month as he has been in hospital again with another chest infection and was again put on iv antibiotics. He had an appointment with his immunologist and they have decided to increase the immunoglobulin infusions to see if this helps as he seems to be developing an infection the week before an infusion is due.

We have had lots of meetings regarding Charlie and his problems and we finally seem to be getting some help with things. We have a social worker from the disabled children’s team coming to visit us and talk about respite care and we have lots of support from Charlie’s consultant community nurse, so fingers crossed it will be a simple process.

We are also waiting for an appointment with another doctor for Charlie’s behaviour and hopefully some help with that.

Thank you very much for the Mother’s Day wish i received this month. It was very kind and cheered me up, especially as we were in hospital for Mother’s Day due to Charlie’s infection.

Update 15th March 2009

Charlie’s not had too bad a month. He had his tonsils out in February and all seemed to be going well, until a week later when he got a nasty infection. He was admitted back into hospital and put on two different i.v antibiotics for three days which seemed to do the trick. He then had his plasma infusion a week later where they checked his throat again and said it wasn’t healing as quickly as normal, but it wasn’t totally unexpected as he does have an immune deficiency and his body obviously doesn’t heal as quickly.

Charlie’s behaviour has again gone down hill. We have an appointment with the community paed coming up as his consultant and school think it is very likely he has ADHD and that the sooner we can get some help with it the better.

He is also being assessed for respite care at the request of his consultant as well, who says he does qualify, so we are waiting to see what the social worker from the disabled children’s team. I would be a bit nervous about him having respite but think it will do Olliver and i good in the long run, as it will enable me to spend more time with him as i think he has been feeling left out lately.

Charlie is also going to be having much more support at pre school now and has been put on an individual education plan amongst other things, so fingers crossed all the support he is getting will help him.

Thanks again to everyone who sends post as the boys love it. Thank you to every one who sent the boys Valentines cards too, they were all very much appreciated.

Update 2nd February 2009

Happy New Year to everyone and sorry for the delay in the update, things have been quite hectic.

Charlie finally started his plasma infusions just before Christmas. We got there for his first infusion at the beginning of December and whilst i was talking with his consultant and signing the consent forms etc Charlie was having his observations etc done by the nurses. He had a high temperature which i initially thought was just due to the fact he’d been running around playing, but within a short time he became quite unwell with a rising temperature and was very dehydrated. This really surprised me as when we left home, apart from being a bit tired, he seemed fine and certainly didn’t seem dehydrated as he was eating and drinking normally. They put a cannula in for fluids then sent him down for a chest x-ray which showed another infection at the base of the left lung. He was started on gentamycin and cefuroxine I.V antibiotics and continued to look unwell with a temperature for a good few days, after which he seemed to improve nicely and we were home in about a week. So his plasma infusion was rebooked for 2 weeks later. He had this one fine without any hitches and not too many side effects, so that was all good. He then had his longest run of good health in 3 years and didn’t have another infection until last week when he got tonsillitis and a urine infection. He was treated with strong antibiotics for 10 days and improved nicely which i was thrilled about. He has had a few episodes of sickness and stomach upsets but we have been able to deal with these at home and he has got better quickly.

Unfortunately, his brother had pneumonia all over Christmas and was quite poorly. Olliver has lung damage caused through his lungs collapsing when he was a baby and he also has a blocked valve in his heart. These haven’t caused any problems for around 2 years, although he still takes all his meds etc. Anyway, this pneumonia has exacerbated it all and he is still not back at school. He is a lot better though and hopefully will be back at school tomorrow depending on the snow!

Charlie is due to have his tonsils out and grommets put in on Thursday, but due to his illness has to have 24 hours I.V antibiotics before hand and obviously cannot go in as a day case. That is the usual practice here but there doesn’t seem to be much communication between St Mary’s hospital and our local one where he has shared care, so I’m waiting for them to call me today and let me know what’s happening.

The other thing that’s happened is that Charlie is being assessed for a statement of special educational needs. His behaviour has become hard work and he has had a lot of time off due to all the illnesses he’s had. When I took him to nursery on Thursday she said she has informed SENCO and with my agreement they will come and assess him. She thinks he needs one to one whilst in school and that this will make things easier for them and him. So fingers crossed he will get the funding for this. I have spoken to his consultant about it and she thinks it’s a good idea. She also said a lot of names will get mentioned like autism and ADHD but to just wait and see what his final diagnosis with regards to that is. She said she can’t stop me worrying but I should see it as a good thing as there are a lot of children who need help but who can’t get it.

We have quite a busy month coming up with more infusions, his operation, assessments, and half term, so we’ll see how that all goes. Now I think it’s about time we go and build a snowman and enjoy the snow for a while!

I just want to say a massive thank you to everyone who sent the boys post, presents and everything else over Christmas, it was so much appreciated and they loved every single thing they received. Thank you very much to all the elves and reindeers, it means a lot and the smiles are priceless. Thank you also to Kate Dee who always sends the boys something and to Wendy as well. Thank you very much. As Olliver says, ‘Post Pals is way cool!!’

Update 30th November 2008

Charlie has had an up and down month, he was only back at pre school a week after being off for a month and then he became unwell again and is growing another bug in his chest (moraxella catarhalis) so has not been back since, although we are hoping he can go back tomorrow.

Things have been very confused with Charlie starting his immunoglobulin infusions as Great Ormand Street wanted to wait until February to start them but because of all the infections he has had and the state of his lungs from his most current x ray, St Mary’s are not prepared to wait and are starting them next week for definite. St Mary’s have told us that he has combined immune deficiency and they have increased his current prophylactic antibiotic and put him on another stronger one to try and build him up a bit before his first infusion. They have told us the first couple are not going to make him feel too well, as they draw out all the bugs and infection that is lurking around his body so that the antibodies he is having can fight them off, where as at the moment his body is unable to fight infection properly due to his lowered immunity. I have been told to keep him away as much as possible from people who are ill and have coughs and colds etc and also chicken pox as they can have nasty complications for him.

So we had a tour around the ward and met the nurses and his new immunologist who were all really nice. There will be a lot to do on his first infusion next week as we are going to be having a new protocol drawn up and  and i also need copies for his local community nurses and hospital. The doctors at St Mary’s also think it is possible he has some small areas of collapse in his lungs, but they will not be repeating his CT scan until they have got him as healthy as he is going to get, so that they can see the true damage to his lungs. He has been very breathless lately and has been unable to run around and do the things he normally does. He has found this very frustrating and it has made him very upset and angry and he has been lashing out a lot, although when he feels unwell his behaviour does change for the worse understandably.

Thanks again for the post he has received as it cheers him up no end. This month he has had a couple of cards and a lovely Bob the Builder annual from Kate. Thank you also Kate for the letter and stickers for Olliver, he really liked them.

If possible please keep us in your thoughts this month and hope that the first infusion goes smoothly and he doesn’t feel too ill with it. He will have them every three weeks and so his next one is scheduled for the Monday before Christmas. It would be nice for him to really enjoy Christmas as he has put up with much more than any child should this year.

Much love to all the other Post Pals families and wishing you all a happy Christmas.

Update 1st November 2008

Charlie has had another bad month and has ended up in hospital with a severe chest infection. He had to have IV antibiotics and was on oxygen and at one point needed seven nebuliser treatments one after the other then every hour thereafter. He is now confirmed to have a primary immune deficiency and will start immunoglobulin replacement therapy this month at G.O.S.H. We are hoping that this makes a big difference to Charlie as he has now got some lung damage which includes shadows and enlarged lymph glands in his left lung by his heart. He is still very wheezy and needs 10 puffs of ventolin inhaler every three hours. He was unwell yesterday and we found out he has red enlarged tonsils and an infection in both ears, with one of his ear drums bursting due to the pressure, so he is in pain from that as well.

At the moment we are feeling very sorry for Charlie and he is feeling sorry for himself. He is very tearful and clingy but the post he has been getting is really cheering him up. Olliver has also had some post this month as well so that has cheered him up, as i think he feels pushed out at times due to all the care etc that Charlie needs. He also had to miss out on a friend’s birthday party that he was looking forward to because Charlie was in hospital and although it can’t be helped, it is still disappointing for him.

Charlie has a few appointments this month, three of which are only a few days apart so we’re in for another busy month.

Thanks again for all the kind post, it really does make such a difference, especially when the going gets tough. It’s really nice to think that other people are thinking of you, so thanks again. Thank you to everyone who sent Charlie a birthday card or present, he loved it all, especially the pop party CD which he asks to have on all the time! Thank you to Post Pals for the Halloween posty as both boys really loved it and Olliver was really pleased to get some post.

Update 11th October 2008

Charlie’s not doing to well at the moment, he has a right sided lung infection and he is to start plasma infusions at Great Ormand Street to try and improve his immune system. We are not sure when this will start though as it was only decided on Thursday.

Update 29th September 2008

Charlie hasn’t had a great month. He was in hospital again suffering from another chest infection so has been on different antibiotics called cipro and prednisilone steroids. He had a couple of cough swabs taken which didn’t really show anything up apart from a heavy growth of candida in his mouth, due to all the medication he takes. He has been off his food and drink so got slightly dehydrated which meant he needed to take a special drink with extra salt and things in.

Just before he was diagnosed with another infection, his behaviour at pre school really changed. He started to become very aggressive and was crying a lot which is very unlike him and even his play leader said that. It has now improved and gone back to normal so we think it must have been because he felt poorly, which is a relief. He still has a bit of a wet cough but nothing like it was and he is much less tired now so he is definitely getting better. He has another week of cipro then back onto his normal prophylactic antibiotic augmentin. He went back to pre school today and loved it – he gave out his birthday party invites, so was very proud of himself for that! He has a busy October ahead as he is due to be seen at St. Mary’s hospital on the 9th, then the 10th is his birthday, on the 11th he and his brother have their flu jabs and on the 12th it is his birthday party! Fingers crossed he carries on improving and gets over this infection and has a long break before the next one!

Thank you very much to everyone who has sent post to Charlie, it really brightens him up. Also, thank you very much to Post Pals for the Thorpe Park tickets, we are hoping to go next week and have lots of fun. Thank you to Helen for the bob book; hope your wrist is better. To Maddy and Holly for the cards and for the Buzz Lightyear book and the sweets for Oliver – they loved them thank you.

Update 30th August 2008

Charlie was at clinic a few weeks ago and unfortunately has been referred to another London hospital as he is having a few problems with his immune system despite all the treatment he is on, so they now need to find out if there is a separate problem relating to this, or if it’s all to do with the one illness. We should hear from them soon.

He seems quite well at the moment, although the last couple of days he has been sneezing and coughing a bit, but fingers crossed it won’t come to much. We have been advised he should have his tonsils out, his nose cauterized, and grommets put in, so we have a lot of hospital visits coming up but as yet have no dates for anything.

Fingers crossed for a good month health wise in September and thanks again for all the cards letters and gifts people have sent Charlie. They are all very much appreciated and he loves receiving it – he gets so excited every time he hears the postman.

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Brooklyn

15 July 2011

Story written 2010

Brooklyn was born on the 21st of September 2007 at just 24 weeks old and weighing 970 grams. Through his extreme prematurity he suffered respiratory distress syndrome, group strep b, high infection risk, jaundice, anaemia, chronic lung disease with Bronchopulmonary dysplasia. The paediatric team that delivered Brooklyn gave him just 20% chance of survival.

Once the team had stabilised Brooklyn he was transferred from Lister Stevenage to Luton and Dunstable Hospital but still inside the plastic bag he had been put directly into at birth.

On the 24th of October 2007, due to worsening respiratory failure whilst being ventilated, a CXR was done which showed changes consistent with chronic lung disease and patchy atelectasis, which is a collapse of the lung tissue. The diagnosis for Brooklyn was that he had a PDA with left heart ventricular over load.

Brooklyn spent his first Christmas in the NICU, eventually coming home at the end of January 2008 on oxygen. Brooklyn is now aged 2 and has Cerebral Palsy – mixed ‘athetoid hypertonia’. He cannot and will not ever be able to walk or sit. He has severe stiffness of the lower motor system followed by a floppiness.

Sadly Brooklyn’s chronic lung disease still remains and he travels frequently to hospital by ambulance when his breathing deteriorates.

Brooklyn has autistic tendencies too, which causes him to have many frustrations.

Please take a look at Brooklyn’s CarePage to read more about him.

Update February 2014

Brooklyn is moving on from Post Pals. Thank you to everyone who has supported him and his sisters over the years. We wish Brooklyn and his family all the best for the future.

Update 29th September 2013

Brooklyn is still on his life support machine but they have had to now run it through the nose and not through the mouth as it is more comfortable in the long run for children who are not going to come off them yet. He has gone back onto the paralysis meds and so has no awareness that anyone is there at all so I’m going to get some sleep I hope until tomorrow. Please pray everyone and the chaplain is going to visit him tomorrow too.

Update 25th September 2013

Brooklyn is very poorly. He has been rushed into hospital and is fully ventilated and unable to breathe on his own.

Update 14th August 2013

Brooklyn is well at this present moment in time, although he is still up and down respiratory wise. His latest admission to hospital was last week where he desaturated to 85 on air and kept me quite on my toes! As everyone who reads his updates will know, he is quite unsociable with his breathing and for some reason seems to think it’s ok not to take in oxygen. However, we love him regardless and keep fighting for him.

We have been told that any forthcoming operations are not advised as the anaesthetic is sure not to agree with him and we could find ourselves without our little boy, so we are caught between a rock and a hard place between what he needs and what he can actually have. We are all keeping strong for him and using the summer holidays to attempt small adventures to places that he will perhaps relate to and enjoy.

Update 19th May 2013

Just a quick update. Brooklyn will be back in hospital on the 3rd of June for an operation as his sleep apneas have become worse and his saturations are really poor at night. He is still smiling though and as a family we try to keep normality going, although I’m personally shattered, as I’m sure all you mums can relate to. I shall let all know know what happens after the operation.

Update 15th April 2013

Over the past month Brooklyn has been quite up and down. We have not really known what each day will hold but hoping for the best each time.

Brooklyn has had several hospital admissions due to respiratory distress (the ambulance crew are getting to know him very well). It was decided by an ENT consultant that Brooklyn may benefit from having his adenoids and tonsils out which was due to happen today (15th April) but sadly the consultant anesthetist doesn’t think he is stable and strong enough with his lungs to be able to undergo the anesthetic, so we are going to re-schedule in 6 weeks and see if that will make any difference for us.

I would also like to thank the people that sent Brooklyn, Lisa and Amy, an Easter egg. It was very kind and thoughtful.

Update 30th December 2012

Firstly, I would like to say a big thank you to all the people that follow my beautiful Brooklyn and who have sent lovely Christmas cards, and to all the hard work the reindeers have put into writing to us this month and sending gifts which have been placed under the tree.

Over the last months we have had some worrying times with Brooklyn. He has been in and out of hospital and been keeping us on our toes. Breathing has not been his greatest asset of late and the paradoxal movement of his vocal chords doesn’t allow for him to saturate well. The staff in the resuscitation areas have been great and there is always a lovely team trying to keep Brooklyn as calm as possible. With the latest bout of illness, Brooklyn’s breathing has become quite bad and a very close eye is being kept at all times. His sisters have been amazing and as always are on tap to help out. He has been saturating at 85 and so we have been told he will need to be operated on (I will keep you up to date on this).

Brooklyn has had some great days though too and has finally learnt to say ‘mummy’ and his sisters names! He is able to communicate a lot better with us and make his needs much clearer.

Lisa is 14 and looking forward to turning 15 in January. She is currently working her way through her mock exams whilst being a brilliant helper to Brooklyn and myself allowing me times to rest up when needed. She still loves to dance and has recently become very interested in baking cakes and other bits. Santa is going to being her a cake pop maker.

Amy is now 13 and acts like a second mum to Brooklyn. Since December she has become actively involved at the yard and has taken on the responsibility of looking after our horse as I cannot at the moment. She rides 3 times a week and would love to become some form of vet physio when she’s older. Amy has one passion only now with pure tunnel vision and that is for horses. She came first in the last dressage competition which was a wonderful achievement for all her hard work. She helps to care for Brooklyn and every morning she shares the duty of getting Brooklyn dressed with her sister and then makes me a tea before school. She really is wonderful.

We all pray that our wonderful little fighter remains as he is and constantly proving people wrong. He made it to five in September and that was a day in itself to rejoice. Everyday is a miracle and to be thankful for.

Wishing all the Pals and everyone involved, a very merry Christmas and God bless all.

Update 16th November 2011

Brooklyn has suffered on and off quite badly since January. As you know, in January he caught Pneumonia, which to be honest has left its scar and made him so much weaker. He does however carry a smile most days and brings a massive amount of joy to us a family. We are still holding out that one day we will be told he will make an anaesthetic and then we can yet again consider the stem cell treatment.

For now, Brooklyn is back again under the ENT care, neurologists and has just received his first treatment of botox to his legs. He was cast on Monday and hasn’t really had any sleep due to being in pain every minute of the day. He exhausts himself by the evening and then by around midnight he is able to grab a small amount of sleep before the pain wakes him again. His sisters, Lisa and Amy, have been amazing and they help me everyday and without them I really don’t know how I would cope or get through the days.

Brooklyn has learnt to count to 10 and loves nursery rhymes and number counting now. He shows a real passion when counting rhymes are played or sung to him. He still loves to watch his DVDs and in fact he is at his happiest when he receives a new DVD. He calls them “D”.

Everyday is a blessing for us and I hope to one day write an update that fills me with joy rather than the sadness I feel when I update. Brooklyn is a positive fighter of a little boy and I ask everyday people keep him in their hearts.

Thank you for all our post.

Update 7th July 2011

Dear all past readers and new. Firstly I must apologise for the lack in updates but things have been a little rocky, although there have been good days too.

The last update talked about the pneumonia Brooklyn suffered in January. Since then he has been up and down. We have been waiting for a placement at a specialist hospital so that Brooklyn’s legs can be looked at but so much time is passing so very quickly. Lisa and Amy are my rocks and without sisters like he has I don’t know how I would manage.

Brooklyn seems to have at most a fortnight of happiness and activities that distract him from his everyday pain, but then the slightest illness seems to drag him down. Just a few weeks ago I took Brooklyn and the girls to the farm for some fun – they had a wonderful day full of laughter but it was so short lived. I honestly thought that it was time we interacted with friends and pets again seeing as the simple things like watching the dogs in the park and our cats run around make him laugh so very much. His breathing started to deteriorate and his skin started to swell and bleed. I tried everything to help him but by the time the paramedics arrived Brooklyn was unconscious. I cried so much, I couldn’t believe he was being offered his angel wings yet again! Not now! I sat at his bedside while the doctors did their bit and miraculously kept him alive. We never know if he will stay in this world or if he will attach his wings and leave.

Update 29th January 2011

Once again I find myself apologising for the late updates, but it had been very hard for us over the past few months. I don’t really know what to write to be honest as I look at Brooklyn sleeping peacefully and want to tell you all that everything is ok but we have had laughs and tears of late.

Christmas was lovely and Brooklyn received some lovely cards and prezzies. The reindeers were very good with their letters and he listened as I read every one to him. He enjoyed opening his post so much; it was great and kept him occupied at times of difficulty.

The week before Christmas I took the plunge and took Brooklyn to Italy for his baptism. The plane journey was really frightening for us as he had to be on a high flow of oxygen for the entire journey to make it. The ceremony was beautiful though and gave me a sense of peace.

Without going into all the details, we have just spent 11 days in hospital as Brooklyn caught pneumonia which almost took him from us. The illness has sadly exacerbated his CP and now he has no use of his legs to be able to straighten them or his arm. The spasms are pushing his hip out if its socket too. He has been dosed up on morphine for the pain and we are waiting now to go to a London hospital to see the surgeons there. It’s a little confusing as the brain damage shouldn’t really have let this happen.

I will update again but it’s very sad and difficult for us all. His sisters have been great and their friends have all offered to help and put them up to help out.

Update 23rd November 2010

Firstly I would just like to say thank you for the cards and letters we received last month as they were most thoughtful, as always.

Brooklyn is currently in hospital, we are now on week two. It has been 6 weeks since Brooklyn last ate any food and the doctors are trying to work out what could be wrong. He is breaking out into sweats in the night and this morning his pyjama top and vest and the bed sheet had a huge amount of mould growing onto it, as you can imagine this has caused huge concern (this is how much he sweats just over night). We go through one pair of Pyjamas per night.

Brooklyn is now having his bloods and urine tested for salts. Hopefully he will soon have a full assessment as his sats are not stable either, as he is suffering respiratory distress. He is still smiling though and I will update as and when I can.

Update 17th November 2010

Brooklyn is currently in hospital and it has been 6 weeks since he last ate. The doctors do not know what’s wrong but sadly the weight is dropping off him. He has Hugo Mouse as company from Sarah.

His sisters Lisa and Amy are being so good and supportive. Please all keep him in your thoughts.

Update 23rd September 2010

Thank you to the very kind people that sent Brooklyn a birthday card. He had a lovely birthday at home with us all and we decorated the dining room with lots of Toy Story bits. We bought him the pink talking cuddly bear from Toy Story 3 and he loves it. It goes everywhere with him.

Update 12th September 2010

I would like to say thank you again for all the kind cards Brooklyn has received this month and the lovely thoughtful letters. Some of you have put your address on the back and I would normally reply to you but have been rushed off my feet.

Amy has started secondary school and is having a great time. Lisa is glad to be back with her friends.

Brooklyn is in hospital at the moment with respiratory distress so I am not getting much sleep. He has formed a bond with Buzz from Toy Story and has a Buzz Lightyear in his bed to keep him company. I will keep updating as and when I can.

Update 8th August 2010

Firstly I would like to apologise for the delay in Brooklyn’s update but every time I think I have 5 minutes to sit down and write something happens!

I would like to thank all who have taken the time to email, write, and send little gifts in the post. It is true to say Post Pals is a wonderful thing. Brooklyn recognises now when a package is put in front of him that there is a little goody inside and he can’t wait to dig in! He loves listening as I read his cards so please don’t stop sending him letters.

I would like to flood this page with good news and yes Brooklyn has had some really good days where he has been so happy. He recently received his TomCat tiger trike which is amazing as it gives him a chance to be pushed around the garden and even have short trips out. Because of the design, as he is being pushed around it gives him quite intense physio to his legs which are sadly still cramping up quite severely.

We tried to get Brooklyn in again for stem cell treatment but received a letter saying NO! He cannot travel by plane due to the oxygen change and is still not strong enough to undergo a general anaesthetic as he will not wake up if he does.

As a family we still persevere everyday. Brooklyn has lost a lot of his memory at the moment, so whereas before he was talking slightly saying mum dad and animals, he cannot remember any of this now.

At this precise moment Brooklyn is quite poorly as he has caught a chill to his chest which means for him that his airways have tightened up, and the paradoxal movement of his vocal chords make it difficult for him to breathe. We’re trying to keep him out of hospital, so fingers crossed. I will update again as soon as I can.

Update 14th May 2010

Firstly I would just like to say that everyone who left me a contact address should have received a heartfelt thank you from Brooklyn. Your post and kind words meant not only a lot to us as a family, but also to little Brooklyn, who I have to say had so much fun opening his cards.

I don’t really know where to start on Brooklyn’s update as he has been so up and down. I think I have good news and then it all comes crashing down around us again.

Brooklyn’s health has been very unpredictable. He started the month quite positively and with lots of beans inside him and full of smiles. As a family we have been trying to keep our chin up and stay positive as we know that Brooklyn can become ill at the drop of a hat.

Brooklyn has started treatment at a centre called the CPPC which I was hoping would provide the miracle answer for him with regards to strengthening him up and giving him a better chance of a normal life with regards to his sitting and possibly walking. Sadly at the moment this does not seem to be the case. They are really trying their best but it is like we are just fighting the demon at the moment.

Brooklyn has mixed CP so although the treatment is good to keep him stretched, every time they try to straighten his body and weight bear, he just collapses from his weight. I was told last Friday that the outcome for him does not look good as we can’t fight the stiffness against the floppy side of him. Brooklyn is such a happy boy it just doesn’t seem fair.

He has had quite a few episodes of respiratory distress lately due to the change in the weather and will be going to hospital later today as his paradoxal movement of the vocal chords are making the oxygen intake extremely difficult. He is also running a temperature and has been unable to gain any proper sleep at the moment so we don’t really have a choice but to take him in, AGAIN! Sadly, with the amount of medication Brooklyn is on, if we are unable to keep him stable at home, we have to let him go. It is always so scary as Brooklyn is so unsociable when it comes to breathing and we end up being on tender hooks each and every time, as we always seem to receive bad news.

We have also just received in writing now that the stem cell treatment on Brooklyn’s brain cannot go ahead at the moment as Brooklyn is not strong enough to undergo a general anaesthetic and will not be able to wake. He also cannot travel to the clinic either as he would not be able to make the plane journey due to the change in the air pressure. We are all so sad as we don’t know what will happen next.

My little boy is my life and always will be. I hope everyone who reads this keeps a smile for him. Keep your post coming as it really has made a difference to know that people do care.

Update 20th April 2010

Today Brooklyn went to the CPPC in Luton and it was amazing. They are a specialist centre dedicated to Cerebral Palsy.

Brooklyn had the right hump while we were there and so having an assessment was not as easy as I hoped. When we got there they offered us a cup of tea which both Chris and I could have bitten their arm for as it is not often we get a cuppa made for us and actually get to drink it while it is still hot!

They then took Brooklyn into a treatment room which looked amazing. The physiotherapist looked so confident and it was obvious that she knew exactly what she was doing and was extremely good at her job! The Director and founder of the CPPC also stayed throughout the assessment and answered a multitude of questions. Agnes, the lovely Physiotherapist, first took Brooklyn over to the therapy table and tried to manipulate the muscles in his legs but he screamed so loudly and tears just started to pour.

The extent to which his legs scissor became apparent to me for the first time, as I have never seen him worked in this manner. Sitting was also tried and the fetal positioning with all his weight being on the backs of his calves. He has no safety movement or control in his arms either which is a problem. I wanted to cry when I realized just how bad things are – it was as if I could see how Brooklyn’s whole body would end up if action isn’t taken now.

Life is hard enough for Brooklyn but watching the pain and the tears and the severity of his handicap has broken my heart yet again.

They discovered some rounding in his spine and also pointed out that he has quadriplegic CP (which is all four limbs).

His involuntary movements are what cause him so many problems, and the fact that his brain has been damaged means that the movement that he does have is totally uncoordinated as the brain cannot differ between movements.

His hips are displaced and work almost like a ball bearing does but cannot hold the core of his body in place. We were told at the start of all this by our local doctors that if Brooklyn had not sat on his own by the age of 2 he would never sit or walk. So far this has all run true.

At the end of his assessment we all sat down and had a good chat about what Brooklyn would need if finances basically could make the stretch. They were very honest and said that Brooklyn would not manage just yet on their 5 day a week routine and it would be more beneficial to ease him into it. Ideally that means an hour a day at a cost of £41ph.

The way they spoke to me and the treatment style they have proposed for Brooklyn, has for the first time in his life opened a doorway to him having a chance at some kind of life where he can be the best that he can be, and maybe able to interact with other people on a different level that before was only ever a dream to us.

By retraining his brain and retraining his muscles to start from stage one, we may be able to get him to crawl. If this happens they are very confident of getting the core of his body to accept the seating position. All this takes time, money, expertise, and a lot of hard work from me too as I will have to set into place a whole new regimented routine with Brooklyn to help him stand a chance of achieving this.

Living away from my mum means that I do not have any help on my door step and the only person I can rely upon for help is Tammy (Brooklyn’s carer) but then she can only come for 4 hours a week. So we are in a huge pickle. It is going to be hard as Brooklyn’s dad is going to have to take a huge amount of time away from work to manage school runs and then he will be losing out on work as he cannot leave the girls as I will not be here.

This is all going to be very painful for Brooklyn as was seen today during the assessment and it is going to be very hard watching him undergo the intense work needed to give him a chance, but it is a chance! A chance we all thought would never be here.

Our local Trust is trying to set up a gift aid page for all who are able to, to donate towards the treatment for Brooklyn. Every single penny counts no matter how little. Having a child with so many special needs and a child that suffers daily from pain and not being able to help is heartbreaking. No-one realises just how exhausting and time consuming it is. Brooklyn’s sisters are affected and so is our whole world. I am totally run down and exhausted but I have to keep smiling and I have to keep going otherwise who will be here for my family.

People like to believe that because you are smiling everything is ok but never take the time to ask if this is actually the case. It saddens me as my son doesn’t deserve people to ‘keep away’ because he is disabled, or stare at him in his mobility chair. What has happened to him is not his fault and he is fighting to be here with his other problems as it is, so help him win his fight.

We cannot rely on physical help from anyone as this never seems to materialize so pleas send Brooklyn a smile and pray xxx

Update 19th April 2010

Hi everyone this is Brooklyn’s mum. I want to help others and I wanted to ask for some help. If I can get lots of people to view Brooklyn’s story (link below) and comment and give it a ‘thumbs up’ I may be able to get onto the home page and then I can really start to raise awareness for poorly children. I will be mentioning Post Pals in my future blogs but I have to wait until I am at that stage in his story.

http://blogs.gurgle.com/BlogDetails.aspx?blId=20929B0EADD17E49&did=1004&UserID=3177

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Antonia

15 July 2011

Story written 2010

Antonia was diagnosed at 6 weeks old with Cystic Fibrosis. She has to have physio twice daily and she takes up to 30 tablets a day. She has to have IV antibiotics every 4 months for 2 weeks at a time.

She is a fantastic brave child having endless chest infections and missing out with going out to play when she is poorly. She has regular liver scans as she has liver disease as well as Cystic Fibrosis.

Family life can be strained at times as Antonia has to have a lot of attention and my time. My other two children are often pushed out and have to stay with family when Antonia has to go into hospital.

Update 7th October 2013

Antonia is now moving on from Post Pals, thank you to everyone who has supported her and Maizee.

Update 5th April 2013

Antonia is going into hospital to have a new port fitted.

Update 4th January 2013

Antonia has to have an operation to replace her portacath in her chest as it has failed and no longer allows her to have her IVs through it.

Update 4th November 2012

Antonia is having tests at the moment as we have found out she has liver disease.

Update 17th May 2012

Antonia had clinic yesterday and it went really well.

Antonia recently did a fashion show with her Youth Club in aid of Cancer Research – she looked amazing and did a brilliant job of being a model.

Update 3rd February 2012

Antonia wasn’t very well over Christmas and New Year and had to go into hospital for IV antibiotics as she had a chest infection. She is home from hospital now though and doing better.

Antonia and Maizee have received some amazing gifts and post since being with Post Pals and we are very grateful to for them all.

Update 10th February 2011

Antonia has had a rough past few months. She needed IV’s in December and they finished just before Christmas, so she could enjoy the snow when her line came out.

Antonia is now a borderline diabetic so we have to check her blood sugars. Luckily Antonia isn’t worried about it and I think I was more upset than her as I think she goes through enough.

Thanks to everyone that sends Antonia, Max and Maizee post and gifts, as it really makes their day.

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Anna-Mae

15 July 2011

Story written 2005

Anna-Mae was diagnosed with CMT in December 1997. I think I had realised there was something wrong, but was living in total denial. After all, Anna was almost two years old and still couldn’t stand. We had the diagnosis one day and she embarked on her treatment plan the following day. This was very hard for us all, but within a few months she could stand.

She spent the next five years having her legs put into plaster every month for a week, but this non invasive treatment seemed to work really well.

There were lots of highs and lows. We were told that she could go blind and deaf and be in a wheelchair full time, by her teens.

She has continence problems, which are on going, and this does leave her feeling inadequate.

Then in approx 2000, out of the blue and totally unexpectedly, we were called into hospital to see a Dr. that was coming down from Bristol to meet with us. At this meeting we were told that she had a second and totally unrelated disease called Cherubism. Neither Andrew nor I had ever heard of this condition. It was explained to us that the bones in Anna-Mae’s face, were being eaten by tumours. She has many benign tumours that will grow very aggressively, and may leave her beautiful face very disfigured. She had only cut 8 teeth, and they are all misplaced in her mouth. Some are upside down while others are back to front; she even has one to erupt up into her nose cavity. Andrew and I both struggle with this condition and still find it hard to come to terms with.

The problem is the two diseases are not compatible with each other. The CMT which is a form of muscular dystrophy means her balance is very poor, and she has many falls, but the Cherubism, dictates that her face must not be injured. This is because her bones are paper thin and very fragile, and the tumours run a risk of malignancy and/ or rapid and aggressive growth if they suffer trauma.

Anna-Mae is an inspiration to us all, with her zest for life and her courage. She openly tells the general public, that may be staring or making comments about her teeth, just what her conditions are, and invites them to ask her questions, making people aware and helping people to understand. She is a very popular little girl in the town, and very special to all that know her.

Update 7th April 2015

This month has mostly been up with a couple of downs. Mollie and I went up to Leicester as we qualified for the Winter National Championships. What a fantastic weekend we had. Mollie was a real star and we won our championship class and got a 3rd in the open team test. I was competing alongside Olympic riders. I felt very privileged to be there. I think I slept for 2 solid days after our return and once the adrenaline had worn off. I have booked Para camp and also have a couple a summer qualifiers to attend, so I’m working the horses hard to improve us.

Health wise I have been good, other than needing to have some screws removed last week as they had broken through the skin. While they were working they discovered some ‘dead’ bone also had come through, which they removed. I have noticed this weekend 2 more areas where the bone has broken through, so I am a little worried that my body is rejecting the bone. It does seem a little strange, as it was my bone they used. I have to go to the hospital tomorrow for a specialised CT Scan.

I have received an appointment to go to Worcester at the end of April to see a specialist and Mum is ringing them tomorrow to find out if that is for the next operation or just an appointment. He did say in the February appointment that the next operation needed to be done ASAP.

The time has come now my 19th birthday is this week that I have to “Move on” from Post Pals, but I have been dragging my feet, as I feel I am saying “Goodbye” to part of my family, but I know it has to be done.

So with a heavy heart I am ‘moving on’ not to pastures new, but with lots of love and lots of new friends/cousins. I am on Facebook, so I am sure you will be still be able to watch what me and Mr Darcy are up to in the Dressage world. I am striving and working hard to reach Tokyo or the Olympics at some time in the future.

I would like to thank everyone for the amazing mail I have received this month. The hand made Easter cards have been amazing! I loved the Thorntons Easter Egg with my name on, it’s just too nice to eat!

Your mail really has made such a difference. Thank you so much for all the mail I have received over the years.

Love always, Anna xxxx

Update 4th March 2015

Hi everyone, thank you all for the amazing mail and gifts. I used my beautiful brow band and stock when I took Woody hunting recently. It was a beautiful sunny morning, but FREEZINGGGGGGGGGGGG cold! Woody loves to hunt, but I can only usually manage an hour as I get so tired and that’s when I fall off, but this time I managed 2 hours. I think the new brow band and stock gave me the extra strength. I also received an AMAZING drawing from Claudia in Portugal ****”””WOW”””****!!!! I absolutely love it. Thank you so much. Thank you also to everyone who had written to me, your letters kept me perky while I was unable to do very much post surgery, and I really do appreciate the time you take and the thoughts that are given to me.

I had a check up with the consultant 2 weeks ago. He was really impressed with my healing and progress. I am due to have the second surgery in May, but this time I have to travel to Birmingham, and then the last surgery is due in Oct/Nov. I can’t wait!!

I am working hard on Molly at the moment with Debbie my Para dressage coach, as I secured a place at the Winter Nationals in March. I am really excited but also nervous about going. I took Molly to a competition on Sunday, to a summer qualifier, and scored 68.75% and 70.48%. I was really thrilled with my scores and gained some valuable points towards the summer qualifiers.

All my love to you all of you xxx

Update 11th January 2015

Thank you everyone for the wonderful Christmas cards and presents. I will smell beautiful all year with the lush products I received.

I had my big surgery on the 25th November and it went incredible well. The surgeon is amazed at how well I have done and recovered.

They did a big bone graft, taking bone from my hip and rebuilding my face after removing lots of tumours. Chris (one of the surgeons) said it was like something from a different planet, as the tumours had a ‘blue ‘ look to them, were lucid and stuck to everything, having to use a nurse to remove them from his gloves. I asked to see the photos of the surgery, but they only had photos of the grafting. It was amazing to see and hard to imagine that was me!

I have also got my new chin, and I love it.

My surgeon is transferring to Worcester so the next part of the reconstruction will be done up there (hopefully) if Torbay will pay the fee. Everything is about funding! I have to have another CT scan in May and hopefully the next operation will be done in June.

I did go back to college last week, but was sent home as they need a letter from the consultant before I can go back, as it was such a major surgery.

The consultant told me on Friday that I have to stay away for another 3 weeks as the bones need to become more stable in my face, so Mum and I are going to Center Parc’s for a short break, which will be great.

I bought my new dressage horse on the Sunday before my surgery, so I am still waiting to start training/ riding him. He is very beautiful and called Mr D’arcy (or competition name Priceless). He is 17 HH chestnut gelding. I have a lot of big competitions coming up starting in early March, so I am literally chomping at the bit to get going.

Happy New Year to you all and thank you again for all the wonderful post.

Anna xx

Update 28th November 2014

Please keep Anna-Mae in your thoughts today. She is having pioneering surgery expected to take 8 – 10 hours. Her surgeon will take bone from her hips and will rebuild her face after removing some of her tumours.

Update 30th September 2014

Things are good for me at the moment. I have gone back to college and started a 3 year equine course. They are a really great student group this year and college life is very good.

Health wise, things are OK. I have had hundreds of hospital appointments over the last 8 weeks or so – well, it feels like it has been hundreds!! Mrs D from Torbay has introduced me to new a surgeon who has come over from Hong Kong and it seems he is willing to do the surgery. He is in talks with Hong Kong and GOSH to see if it is feasible to do the surgery here as opposed to London. I really hope this works out, as it will be good to be closer to home. I have to go back to hospital on 10th October when I will find out.

My dressage is going from strength to strength. I competed this weekend in a Para dressage competition and got 2 first scoring 70.23% AND 71.76%, which means I will qualify for the winter nationals. Hooray!

I would like to thank everyone for the amazing mail. It is so lovely to know that people are thinking about us. I have been really bad at writing and sending cards out over the summer, but I will get back into the mode soon.

Sending my love and thanks to you all, and great big huggles to Viks and Kim.

Update 30th April 2014

I must send MASSIVE apologies to you all. I feel really bad that I haven’t sat down and sent in an update. Mum keeps nagging me and I can’t really offer an excuse, except my motivation has been low due to tiredness etc.

Thank you so much to everyone that has taken the time to write to me and for all the lovely gifts. I really do love and appreciate every one.

I was left devastated early March when the hospital told me days before my BIG operation that it was cancelled. They said that they would look at options again when I reached 30. They were worried about the effect surgery would have on the tumours.

Mum went back to the hospital alone to speak with the surgeon. It was then decided that I will be referred to Great Ormond Street Hospital. I have had a couple of appointments and the surgery is back on and the consultant wants it to be sooner rather than later.

They will rebuild both my upper and lower jaw and eye orbits with a graft from my hips, give me a full smile and a new chin. I can’t wait. I do keep reminding myself that it has already been cancelled once.

On a massive positive side, I was assessed and approved for para dressage with both the RDA and BD. Mum took a call a few weeks ago asking if I would ride for Somerset in a big competition on the 4th – 5th May. I have been working really hard with my instructor Debbie. I am borrowing Debbie’s horse, Molly. Please send me positive thoughts. I am also doing para dressage in Cornwall on 13th and 20th May.

I took Woody to a local show last Sunday. She is such a babe. She won a 6th, three firsts and we got show reserve champion.

Update 5th December 2013

Hello and Ho Ho Ho to everyone!! This has been a good and quiet month for me. I am settling in well at college, but have had to come home a few more times as the cold weather is playing havoc with my legs. There is no one quite like your Mum when you need an extra cuddle!!

The specialist has put me onto Gabapentin to help with the muscle spasms, but after my dose upped a bit, the medication made me feel terrible, so they have lowered it again until I get used to it.

College is going really well and I passed my BHS Road Riding safety yesterday. I took Woody over to do it on her as she is so sensible and reliable. Toby is still very young and ‘green’ so he wasn’t up to the job as they say. He has settled really well at college too. People are giving him treats when they walk past him, and he has started nibbling. I was saying ‘naughty boy’ but I have now decided I should be saying ‘naughty people’!!

I have got a joint clinic appointment next Wednesday and I am hoping they will give my surgery date. Please give me lots of positive thoughts before the appointment. They really are keeping me waiting!! I was praying that it would have been sorted before I went to college.

I have made some really nice new friends at college, especially one called Meg. She seems so supportive to me and is completely non judgemental. Her brother died from CMT (I think, but don’t like to ask outright for fear of upsetting her). In fact her whole family are lovely. It feels like home from home when I visit her house.

Thank you so much to everyone for all the letters, cards and gifts, you have sent me this month. There have been fantastic Lush parcels. Mum sends all the mail to college and it is really comforting to receive the mail. I suppose it makes me less lonely, because I feel quite alone there, away from everyone sometimes… if you know what I mean. I like to put my Hot Blanket on and snuggle in to read it all. It is SOOOOOO cold at college!!

Right I will need to go now to do some work, so I want to wish every single one of you a really Happy Christmas and Peaceful New Year. Hopefully this will be my last peaceful New Year as I will be 18 next year… If you know what I mean!!

Lots of Love, Anna xxxx

Update 29th September 2013

At last I have some time to sit and update you all. I really am sorry that the updates are slow. It seems that whenever I do have some spare time, all I want to do is have a bath and go to bed.

Thank you all for the lovely letters and presents sent over the summer. The make-up was really useful, the horse biscuit was delicious and the hand cream was very welcome, especially as the weather is turning colder and I seem to have my hands in buckets of water all the time.

I have started my course at Bicton and loving life! I have made some really nice new friends but best of all is that Toby has joined me (my new horse). He is loving his stable and it is lovely to see a familiar face when I get up in the morning. Mum complains that I’m going to bankrupt her, but I know she is secretly pleased for me.

I have managed 3 weeks without my wheelchair, but I gave in this week and asked Mum to bring it over to me. I have decided it’s better to have my chair than keep falling over and looking stupid in front of people I don’t know, but more importantly, who don’t know me. Oh well.

I have had loads of hospital appointments over the summer and the prospect of my big surgery is coming close. The surgeons can’t decide what they are going to do, and every time I see them we are given a different plan. I don’t think they really know what to do because they openly tell us they have never dealt with Cherubism before. I had a CT scan a few weeks ago, as they now think there is a tumour eating away at the base of my sinus cavity, and that seems like it will cause problems for the surgery, but I’m keeping everything crossed they find a plan and just get on with it. I’m fed up being strung along. Its very disappointing and I know my confidence is taking a battering. Charlie, my older brother, is getting married in 5 weeks and I hoped I would have a nice smile for the photos, but hey ho, there we go.

There is nothing else going on in my life at the mo, but I will keep you all updated as and when it is. I have taken up dressage now and left the show jumping behind me, much to mums delight. I really enjoy dressage and am doing very well on both Woods and Toby. I went to Upton Pyne Equestrian centre last weekend and got a second on Woody and 3rd on Toby. If anyone is interested you can see photos of me on both horses doing the tests if you put in Upton Pyne equestrian centre on google. At the beginning of this month I took woody out for the first time this year to a local show and we came 1st in best hunter, 1st in best combination and 1st in best rider, then we went into the championships and we came away with Reserve Champion. That horse never lets me down.

Thank you all once again for taking the time and effort in writing and for the gifts. I love each and every one of them.

Update 3rd May 2013

I want to thank everyone for all the wonderful gifts and cards you sent when i was in hospital. I feel like i have spent a lot of time in there this year and I am hoping to spend even more time in there, as there is talk of me having surgery to rebuild my mouth and give me permanent teeth in the next few months. I am keeping my fingers crossed as we have been told this before but nothing ever came of it.

I am going to college in September and it would be ideal if i could start without being and looking different, as over the last few months it seems to be having more of an impact on the general public than ever before and consequently it is leaving me feeling rubbish about myself. I only have 4 school days left until i can leave and i can’t wait. I feel sad that the last year has been so terrible, as I was really happy at that school until joining 6th form.

My holidays will be spent with Woody, who has been lame since a fall in January, and also my new horse, TOBY!!! He’s lush! He’s a 15.2 dark bay, thoroughbred X Connemara and he was 5 yesterday. He is such a baby, he wants cuddles and is cheeky when he tries to nibble you and search for treats in my pockets. I am taking him to a show on Sunday, which I am really looking forward to as it will be my first show on him. Mum wont be there which is a bummer but she has a foster placement and she isn’t allowed to let them join in with family activities. Dad will be there though, but he’s allergic to horses!

I would like to thank everyone for all the letters, pressies and cards, that I have received. I love the lush bombs, they make my room smell delicious and then me when i have a bath. Thank you for the book about the girl who loves horses, I started reading it last night, it’s going to be one that is hard to put down. Thank you for the painting by numbers. I am slowly working my way through it. It is much harder than you think it’s going to be, as everything is so tiny. Special thanks to Kim, you really are brilliant. I always have mail from you. I feel really tight because i am taking you away from someone else.

Lots of love and hugs to you all,

Anna xxx

Update 10th January 2013

Just to say, Anna-Mae has been admitted to hospital to have her appendix out today.

Update 14th December 2012

I’m really sorry about the delay in updating. I have been encouraging Anna for weeks, but she isn’t in the best place emotionally at the moment. She feels very low and things aren’t going well for her. Physically she remains the same as usual, although the colder winter months do cause Anna some discomfort as her legs seem to work even less and she seems to fall more often. She has had a bad time at school with bullying this term, which only came to light a couple of weeks ago, plus her wheelchair has been trashed 3 times over the last couple of months, and the last episode was the icing on the cake. They have snapped her frame, arms, and cut out the seat and back, leaving the chair irreparable. This has knocked her confidence no end, but I must say the school have been brilliant in dealing with it. None the less… she is without a chair at a time she really needs it, and has had numerous falls, which have all added to her feeling of worthlessness.

She is desperate to leave school and go to college. She feels it will be a new start for her, and she doesn’t like me very much because I am making her stay to retake her GCSE’s. I keep telling her “it’s all character building” but oh dear…

Health wise she remains her usual self.

On a more positive note, she has received 3 parcels. One for definite is from an elf, as it says so on the box. She has had lots of lovely Christmas cards and they all flutter behind the door when anyone arrives. She enjoyed a cup of tea from Norway and received a lovely card and letter from Finland today. She also had a lovely long letter from Natashja. Anna dreams of going to center parcs but we have never got there. A day in a spa sounds like heaven i must admit! Oh and by the way the letter didn’t rip!

I hope everyone has a wonderful Christmas and peaceful (as peaceful as it can be) New Year.

With lots of love and thanks to you all xx

Update 13th September 2012

It feels like ages since i did an update, so thank you all for the amazing amount of postcards i have received over the summer as they have all been beautiful. I have stuck them all on my bedroom wall, so i can’t remember which ones are from who, but I don’t want to peel them back to check as i used celotape and Mum would kill me as it lifts the paper!

I have had a great summer. I went to OTW and had a totally amazing time. I also had a brilliant time at pony club camp with my beautiful Woody. I did a sponsored bareback ride and raised £102.00 for each of the above charities. My friend, Charlotte Jones, raised some of that and Beth Niel also joined us. It was a really hot day and we rode for 2 hours 40 minutes through the forests and lanes. My legs turned to jelly the following day! They are so worthy. I know it’s only a drop in the ocean but if we all did something like that it would amount to thousands.

I didn’t do very well in my exams. I missed a lot of school for operations and appointments, and I am really embarrassed about it, but I’m going to return for 6th form to do retakes and am doing photography and media studies for A levels. My chosen subject is nature.

I took Woody to a show last Sunday and go two firsts and a second. I was soooo proud of her. I’m off to another show on Sunday, so fingers crossed for us.

Thank you for the stationary items, they are fab and very useful for school.

I hope you all have a great month.

Lots of love, Anna xx

Update 11th April 2012

I just wanted to send an extra big thank you for the lush bath bomb. It smells delicious. Also, I love the books which I collected yesterday from the post office. War Horse is my favourite film and I have never read the book. I am going to start it tonight. A massive thank you to Kim for the Easter package too.

Lots of love and thanks, Anna xxx

Update 9th April 2012

Hi everyone. I want to thank you all for the lovely birthday cards and letters I have received. There are far too many of you to name personally, but they were all lovely. I also have a parcel to collect from the post office which they tried to deliver on Thursday, but we were out, so they left a red card and they don’t open until tomorrow.

I have had a lovely birthday and have been spoilt rotten. I feel very special. We had a BBQ in the rain at the stables and a Chinese tonight at my Nan’s.

I had an accident on Saturday night. I had been babysitting and when i left to come home (in the dark) i fell down some steps and broke my foot. I’m now in cast!!! I was supposed to be taking Woody to cross country schooling on Thursday, but it has had to be cancelled. Apart from that everything else is ok!

We enjoyed a trip to the theatre to see Phantom of the Opera. It was truly amazing. Mum cried all the way through. I now want to go and see Les Miserables. I love all the music to it!!

I had a lovely letter from Malaysia, thank you so much Joyce. I think your English was brilliant. I would never be able to write to you in Chinese!!! I also had a lovely long letter from Clare… thank you.

Update 1st March 2012

Hi everyone, everything is fine with me. I am getting used to my new teeth now and am wearing them more often. Everyone has been really positive about them and say i look great in them. I do forget sometimes to put them back in. I came home yesterday from school to get ready to go to the theatre and i only remembered when i was back at school that my teeth were on the draining board. Mum keeps moaning at me because i leave them everywhere!! I need to get a nice pot to put them in, but i DON’T want a pot like Granny used to use!! Too old fashioned!

I’m going to a show jumping rally on Sunday on Woody. I am really looking forward to it, but I’m also a little scared because Woody has never done one before.

Thank you to everyone who has sent me post. I loved the necklace kit, but i can’t thank anyone by name as no name or address was included. Thank you Kim for all my mail too. The cake sounds brilliant. You’re so clever!

Update 11th January 2012

Hi everyone and HAPPY NEW YEAR to you all!

Firstly I must say a huge thank you to everyone who sent cards and parcels to Anna this Christmas. She had so much mail from all over the world. My lounge smelt delicious as she had lots of Lush products which nestled beneath the christmas tree. Everyone that called in commented how lovely the lounge smelt. I apologise for not naming you all individually but Anna is at school and sadly I can’t remember.

Anna has had an up and down month. She had a new set of teeth to ‘tide’ her over until the implants, but they made her mouth sore and very self conscious. She had a period if illness which rendered her in her bed for a week, unable to support her own body weight, but she is back on top of things now and in full swing.

Thank you once again to everyone who give a little part of yourselves by taking the time and trouble to write. The difference you make is monumental.

Update 6th November 2011

Hi everyone. There has been a lot happening this month in one way or another. Firstly my Granddad died. He had been poorly all week and was very sleepy. I had just arrived at his house to join Mum and Henry. I sat on the side of his bed and he smiled at me, he held my hand tightly and just died. At the time I had a bit of a panic attack, but now I feel really blessed, and will always. It was a really sad time and I felt like my heart was breaking. I used to call him every lunch time and I miss that so much. I was away for his funeral too. It was a planned birthday trip to Aberdeen with my friend Connie, and Mum said I had to carry on and go as Granddad would have been furious if I didn’t, and it wouldn’t have been fair to Connie either.

I had my operation. They removed 6 teeth, 2 tumours and did a bone graft. I was in hospital for 5 days, so I was really pleased with that. I made a nice friend in there and the nurses were all so lovely. I still have a few stitches to come out, but I’m healing really well.

I have taken over Will’s mare Woody as he has gone to college in the Exeter Chiefs Rugby Academy and doesn’t have the time and he is too heavy really. Woody is so lovely, she is a gentle giant. We have decided to sell Lola, through no fault of her own, but I was having too many falls, as she was just too much for me. My balance seems to have deteriorated and she was very nippy. I have had a wonderful year on her and we have accomplished lots together. I will miss her.

Thank you to everyone who has written to me and especially for the lovely Lush products, I REALLY do appreciate them all. Thank you for the emails and I’m sorry I haven’t written back to anyone personally. I have loved reading all the letters and receiving postcards and letters from America.

Please all accept my love and hugs xx

Update 2nd October 2011

Hi everyone. I thought I would give you a quick update as Anna is still in hospital following her surgery last Thursday. She was far more comfortable yesterday and we’re hoping she may be home today. The bone graft was successful, so fingers crossed it takes.

Thank you to everyone who has written, I can guarantee she loves all her mail, I know there is a lovely hand drawn picture of a horse up on her bedroom wall. There are quite a lot of parcels here waiting for her return home. I don’t open her mail, but I do think one is a lush product as it smells lovely in the porch!

Update 1st September 2011

I would like to say thank you to Post Pals for the parcel that arrived today. I will have great fun making the denim bits and bobs when the weather is bad, as I do get REALLY bored when I can’t get to the stables.

Thank you Kim, Kev, and Baby Stevie for the card (and I can assure you Will’s room is MUCH worse than you think!).

I’m back to school next Wednesday BOO HOO and Will is going to be a boarder at college, as it is about an hour away. I’m dreading him going and so are Mum and Dad. It looks like Charlie is also going to be buying a house and moving out too. It’s going to seem really empty and quiet at home.

Update 23rd August 2011

Hi everyone, I’m sorry my update is late, but I have had a really busy month, and have only been home for a couple of days.

First I went to pony club camp with my horse Lola. We had a brilliant week together, but I fell off loads. I think my balance is deteriorating at the moment. The weather was really hot, too hot!!!!!! We only had one downpour.

Then the second week, because I was falling off so much, Mum arranged special lessons for me and Lola. Grandad paid half too which was brilliant. Lola went to stay at Gingerlands for the week and I stayed with Mary and Rob at the stables for the week, then Jenny took me daily leaving at 6.30-6.45am every day. We had a brilliant week together and Sue taught me so much. She was a riding for the disabled tutor and she gave me loads of tips to strengthen my core muscles and help my balance.

I came home on the Saturday night. My bed has never felt so comfortable! I packed my suitcase on Sunday, and then went off to “Over the Wall” camp on the Monday. We had such a fab time. I love it so much. It’s always heart breaking to leave everyone at the end of the week. I’m already looking forward to next year’s camp. I would recommend it 1000% to anyone who thinks about going.

Thank you to everyone who has written to me over the summer, I love getting mail. I really appreciate you taking the time to write and I do feel guilty for not replying to everyone. Thank you Margerette for the lush bathbomb. I had a really long soak on Saturday night when we got home. Mum said I was lucky it was still there as the smell had been teasing her for the last week!

Take care, lots of love Anna xxxxx

Update 7th July 2011

Please please accept my apologies for the delay in an update. Time seems to fly by.

I have been well in myself. I should have had an operation on my face last month, and they cancelled me at the last hour. I was even sat with the numbing cream on my hands. I was really disappointed and angry and they promised they would get me slotted in ASAP, but then we had a letter to say September. I’m feeling a bit fed up with it, but there’s nothing I can do about it. The max fax Doctor said he would start to consider implants, but I think they will need to do a bone graft from my ribs into my jaws. However these things always turn out to be empty promises, so watch this space.

I have had my exams at school and they were Ok… I think. We broke up on Tuesday until September. BRILLIANT.

Gemma went to a new home in Cullompton. I think she missed us loads and gave the young girl a really hard time. I offered to go and help her, but Mum wasn’t keen, as she still gets upset about selling her. She was my best friend and we had a really special relationship, but I know I will have that with Lola my new horse. She is a 16 hh Chestnut mare. She is sweet, but she can be very moody and temperamental. She has got a massive jump. Mind you, I have fallen off her 5 times in 5 days. I had to go to hospital in an ambulance a couple of Saturdays ago. I fell off while jumping at Chudleigh show. The St. Johns ambulance people were just being over cautious. Mum was going to help me back on!

We have still got our foster babies. They only came for a fortnight – ten months ago. I will be really sad when they move out, I’m dreading it. They are so lovely and I love having them around.

I’m looking forward to Pony Club camp at the end of July (30th) for 5 days. We are going to put our tent up at the weekend to test it out, as it hasn’t been unpacked for 5+ years. I hope the mice haven’t nested in it, like they did the last one. I think my friend Gabby is coming to stay for the weekend so we can try it out. Mum said weather permitting!

I feel really bad that I haven’t managed to write back to people, but I truly have been busy. I love getting my mail and I really appreciate it. I’m sorry Kim that I haven’t written, I feel really bad. We all laughed at the Tuna Pasta Bake. You have got a similar sense of humour to me and Mum.

Thank you all. Lots of love to everyone, especially Vikki. I’m glad you have an electric chair. I used to love mine. It really does make you independent.

Update 1st March 2011

Hi everyone. This is going to be short and sweet as I am supposed to be asleep now.

Thank you to everyone that has sent me mail and presents over the last month. I really enjoy reading your letters and opening the surprises. I love the ‘memory’ package from Ali and Alex. The photo frames are beautiful and arrived at the right time, as I have a new horse now (Lola) and a picture of Gemma in the other one. Thank you so much. I have also had a lovely letter from Justine in Baltimore; I think that’s in USA. Kim as always sends me the best cards ever; I really loved the ‘Welcome Lola’ card. Will thought it was a photo of Lola on the front!! Brothers huh!!

I have had an OK month health wise. Some days are good, and some bad, but it’s winter. Summer is on its way. I have to have more surgery soon, but the consultant wants a second opinion before she decides what to do. I think the Cherubism seems to stump everyone. There is something boring into my sinus cavity and they can’t decide if it is a tooth or tumour. I just know it really hurts and I’m not happy waiting while they decide what to do. I also had an extra week off school as I had tonsillitis just before half term.

I will tell you all about Gemma and Lola next time I write as I really have to go to sleep now. Lots of special hugs to you all, especially you Kim, as the baby will soon be here. Anna xx

Update 24th January 2011

I’m sorry I have taken so long to update my page, but life is incredibly busy, and I mean busy! We have two foster babies with us still, and I love playing with them before bedtime, then I crash too! They are so lovely, I think everyone should foster, it’s such a fab experience. It has helped me see my life very differently.

Thank you to everyone who sent me letters, cards and presents. I love the lush products and the make-up. I love all my mail. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

Things have been good for me. My mobility is really improving all the time. I have gone back to swimming training, and although it’s a bit of a struggle, iI can feel me improving every time.
Gemma and Woody are both fine and have managed well with the snow. Gem and I went to a Pony Club rally on Sunday. She was very good for me. I love her so much, although she was a little naughty when asked to canter on the right rein in a circle.

I will say goodnight to you all now as my dinner is ready. Grannie’s chicken soup, yummy.

Lots of love to you all xx

Update 1st November 2010

Anna has had another good month and she is continuing to improve her mobility, albeit very slowly. She is having regular physio and each day she seems stronger. She makes me smile inside as she has managed to get back on Gemma and is riding out often – getting on and off is an art form in progress though!! She has shed a few tears this month out of frustration; she wants to do so much and realizes she is very limited. Patience is not one of Anna-Mae’s fortitudes!!!!

Anna went back to school today after two weeks half term break. We went away to Alton Towers with the tickets Post Pals sent us. We spent two nights in a Travelodge and we all had a great time. It is so precious to spend time as a whole family. Anna went on some rides, but because of her mobility she couldn’t get on the BIG rides, but that didn’t dampen her spirits and she enjoyed watching her brothers get off the rides with a lovely GREEN complexion. Thank you so much POST PALS for the tickets and allowing us such wonderful memories.

Thank you everyone that has written. Anna has had lots of lovely letters and some fabulous gifts sent to her this month. She had the most beautiful brow band, with diamantes set across it in her most favorite colour (red) hand made by a lady that also has CMT. It is lovely to be in touch with someone that shares a likeness as it is so uncommon and Anna automatically felt a bond because of that. Gemma looks stunning in her new bling. Anna is the envy of the yard!! She also received a photo plaque, which is amazing. Gosh, there are some clever people out there!! Sadly Anna has lost her bag, with all her letters in from this month, so she can’t write back. We think Andrew has mistakenly thrown it away when he cleared the conservatory out. If you are reading this, please can she have your address so she can write and thank you all.

Update 5th October 2010

Thank you to everyone who has sent cards, letters and gifts to Anna. Gosh, she has had so much post this month and I couldn’t even start to list everyone. She received the most beautiful cross stitched quilt from lovequilts.co.uk, stitched by many different, very talented ladies from around the world. She cried when she opened the parcel, which made us all emotional too. It is absolutely gorgeous and you can feel the love seeping through the material and from every single stitch that has gone into making it up. She folded it up and packed it straight into her hospital bag. As soon as she came out of theatre she was asking for the quilt. Anna was very poorly following her surgery, and miraculously, the quilt survived unscathed (I was worried it would get stained and tried to take it off her, unsuccessfully). Thank you to every single one of you that sent mail/emails too (you know who you are) as it really does mean so much.

Anna is doing well following surgery and is now getting a little more mobile on her lovely red casts. She is wishing the days away though as the casts were put on too tight which in turn is causing pain, swelling and discomfort. We tried to see if they could be loosened or redone, but they couldn’t be touched until the 15th of October. She was told to stay in bed and elevate. That advice went down like a lead balloon as I’m sure you can imagine. In fact she is feeling a little like the world is stacked against her at the moment, as she asked Mary (stables owner and second Mum) at the weekend, if she could have a little ride out on Gemma and was told “Positively NO!”.

School is brilliant as per usual. Anna has a large part in the school production of “The Match Girls” and she learnt yesterday she has to sing a solo. She said she knew she had to sing one line, but never realized it was one song. I told her she had a beautiful voice and any cat in the Newton Abbot vicinity would welcome her into their choir. She looked at me with her eye brows just under her hair line!! Well I thought it was funny!!

Update 1st September 2010

Hi Everyone. Today is a very sad day as I have to go back to school tomorrow! I’m sort of looking forward to seeing my friends, but I’m really sad I won’t be able to see Gemma so often. I expect she will like the rest though.

I can’t believe the holidays are over, they have gone by so fast. I have had a fab holiday though. I had a week at Pony club camp and really enjoyed it. You can see the photos on my facebook. I had to have a few days at home though afterwards as I was exhausted and my legs just gave up on me! I think I pushed myself too hard.

Then I had a week at Over the Wall. It was such good fun. I can’t wait for next year to come! We were busy from arriving until leaving. Laughing and having great fun. Mum was mad though because I asked dad to drop me off at the stables on the way home, and Mum thought I would be desperate to see her. I was, but more desperate to see Gem haha!!

I have my operation 3 weeks today in Plymouth (tendon lengthening). I am a bit worried about it, but I am also looking forward to having straighter legs, then I will have a better riding seat. I won’t be able to ride for a while because I will have both legs in plaster for 6 weeks after. I hope they will let me choose what colour I can have, like Paul does in Torbay. Mum always says Paul spoils me too much. I always give him a hard time because I like to be different and ask for one tartan (red and black) and another like a ballet dancer (pink and white). I can see the dread spread across his face when he sees me coming. I bet I only get plain white at Plymouth though because they will do it in theatre and they don’t really know me like Paul does.

Thank you to everyone who has written and sent me presents. I love the parcel that arrived today from Alison. It will come in really handy for school, and I can’t wait to do the cross stitch. Mum said she will start it off for me so I can do it when I am home after the op. I also had a facebook message yesterday about a pillow case. I would love one if possible, but I know there are other kids on Post Pals who are really poorly, so if I get one then great, but if not, don’t worry.

Thank you to Kim for all my cards, I love your facts. I keep meaning to send you some facts about me too, but I never seem to have the time. I’m sorry. Here are some for me; I love red. I love my horse Gemma the most in the world. I hate cheese. I keep trying to straighten my hair as I am fed up with curly hair! I snore really loudly. Everyone calls me smiler. I am 5ft 6 and taller than Mum. I have 3 brothers. Talking about brothers, Will has asked me to say thank you for his card for his GCSE’s. We are all really proud of him. He has also been picked to play Rugby for Devon this year. Thank you Grace for your letter and emails, they were really interesting. I will have time soon to be able to write back.

I have to go now as we are going shopping for my last minute bits for school. The best part about going back is getting new stationary.

Lots of love to you all, Anna xxxxxxxxxxx

Update 13th August 2010

Hi everybody, I can’t believe it is only three weeks until we go back to school. I have had the best holiday ever. I have been up to so much with Gemma – I have been to so many shows and Gemma has done me proud, she has been so good at them.

Last week I went to pony club camp with Gem and she was amazing. We did show jumping, dressage and best of all, cross country. Gem was stabled for the week which I think she enjoyed, but I think she is also happy to be back in the field with all her friends. Gem had never done cross country before and at the first time lesson we had she was freaking, but after that she was amazing and jumped everything I wanted her to. In show jumping she was brilliant and she jumped all the fillers and they were scary – bless her, her nostrils were flared going up to all of them.

I also go to Over the Wall on Sunday and I cannot wait but I will miss Gem (but the good thing about it is I get away from my brothers for a week and some peace and quiet). We have so much fun at camp. I know I will laugh from arriving to leaving. We went shopping for some new clothes for me to take – I love getting new clothes. Mum was really shocked when she realized all I own is school uniform and Jodhpurs!

Thank you for all my letters and emails. I’m sorry I haven’t had time to sit and write back, but I really have been so busy. All I want to do when I come home is have a bath and go to bed. Talking about having a bath, thank you Kim for the lush bombs. My Fave, My Fave, My Fave. I loved the camping card too. Grace B also made me a really lovely card with my name on it. I will have some photos to send to you when they arrive. I have been waiting all week. Fingers crossed they come today. Lossa luv, Anna xxxx

Update 5th July 2010

I have a lot of news to tell you this month. First though I would like to thank Sarah, Samantha, Grace, Abbey, and most of all, Kim, for the wonderful cards I have received this month. Thank you so much to everyone for the stickers, the Lush bath bombs, and the cross stitch cushion – I don’t want to put my head on it because it has had so much work put into it. It’s so beautiful!!! It has pride of place on my bed!!

We have a new member of the family and she is called Woody. She is a 16hh Scottish sports horse and she is amazing! She is Will’s new horse.

I have also had a date for my operation. It is the 22nd September which it a good date as I have a lot of things on this summer.

I also did the jubilee challenge back in May and not only did I finish it in 3 hours and 30 minutes, but I also came first. I had the choice to wait for the welcoming committee to arrive or finish first – I never knew I was so competitive, I decided to carry on and come first. Mum and my teachers, Mr Brown and Miss Head, were there cheering at the finish line. I was so proud of myself; I could have burst with pride.

I have been to a couple of shows this month and Gemma has done so well. She got me second in family pony and she let me go under her belly and shake a plastic bag all over her ans she just stood there falling asleep. I came third in mountain and moorland and the judge loved her because she listened to me every step she took. I do love my pony to bits.

We had sports day last week and I was a bit lazy because I only put my name forward for relay.

Gemma has been jumping really well at home and I jumped 2″9′. Bless her, she has been so good.

I have pony club camp at the end of this month and it has come around so quickly, I cannot wait. We will be doing show jumping, cross-country and flat work, plus loads of activities in the evening. The only thing I am worrying about is everyone goes out in the night and goes onto the cross country course to mess around, but I cannot walk in the dark, my legs and brain don’t work together. I bet when I get older people who don’t know me will think I am drunk. By the way, no-one is allowed out of their tents at night.

Two weeks after I am going to OTW and I cannot wait!!!! I am going to the one at Bryanston School again this year – it will be so fun! I am also breaking up from school tomorrow.
Lots of love and thanks to everyone for all my mail, email and pressies. I do love getting mail; it makes me feel so special.

Update 5th May 2010

Hi everyone, I just wanted to write a quick thank you to everybody for all your lovely mail. I’m sorry if you didn’t get a proper reply but I am having a hectic time at the moment with lots going on. I am writing this before my swimming training and I want lots of sympathy as we have moved into the outdoor swimming pool and it’s freezing here in Devon today!

Thank you Emma for your lovely bunny card, it sounds like you are really busy with all of your animals. I love the photos Bobbi Sara, she looks really cheeky and very strong. I am going to do my first show jumping on Sunday with Gemma. I can’t wait, but Mum is dreading it. I don’t think Mum can come because we have a foster placement here at the moment and the baby is only 10 weeks old, but Dad will be there which will be funny as he is allergic to horses! Thank you for the bunny, it looks really life like. Thank you Stephanie, Dominic, Karen and family for the card and pressies. I have got my school locker key on the dolly keyring. Hello Tara Jane. Your house sounds as busy as mine. My brother Will is 15 and very annoying. We always fall out but he’s ok really, but I wouldn’t tell him that. He gets into trouble at school because he always sticks up for me, which I do like but not always and then he gives me a hard time because of it. Thank you for letter Joanne, you have really lovely writing. I wish mine was neat, as sometimes I can’t even read what I write. I can’t believe you are only 11. Hi Kim, I haven’t written to you in ages, but we do speak about you lots. I hope you are OK and Kev.

Lots of love to you all, Anna-Mae xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Update 2nd May 2010

Anna has had a fab April. Her pony Gemma wasn’t too well, so all of Anna’s time has been spent seeing to Gemma, and giving her lots and lots of love. She spent 3 weeks in the stable and lots of pampering was needed. Andrew and I giggled quietly to each other. It was like a hospital stable and instead of grapes it was carrots, and swedes and all different flavours of Lik-its. None the less Gemma thrived with Anna-Mae’s love and attention and she is now back in the field with the lovely spring grass!!

Anna-Mae had lots of lovely cards and birthday pressies. Kim you do spoil her!! I benefited too though as I get the second dip of the Lush bath!! Thank you to everyone who took the time, effort and expense. It really does mean so very much.

Update 31st March 2010

This has been another great month for Anna- Mae. She has enjoyed spending sunny days with her beloved Gemma. She has had numerous hospital appointments, but Anna-Mae always stays up beat about things.

I have been incredibly busy with work and have a Mother & Baby Placement at the moment, so my time is deflected away from Anna which she manages really well.

She learnt yesterday that she needs an operation to remove a tooth (the nasty offending one) but it has a large tumour wrapped around it and they aren’t sure how things will be. Anna remains very matter of fact about it and it’s just a case of ‘get on with it then’.

She was disappointed she couldn’t do the cross country run, but I was quietly glad as it rained and rained so would have been too muddy and slippery for her to cope with.

She has had so much post this month. Thank you for the fab Jodhpurs Kim. The flowery ones were a tad on the tight side but the green ones fitted like a glove. She thought they made her ‘Bum’ look lush. I have managed to wash them now, as they slowly turned from green to Mud colour. She was really impressed with the make up, from Natasha, and it arrived very timely as she is going to the cinema tonight with Tory. She has had her nose buried in the BIG book of horsemanship every night; she is going to be an expert!!

My goodness, everyone is so very kind, it’s so heart-warming. Thank you all. I’m sorry if I haven’t mentioned everyone by name, but my memory is shocking!! You know who you all are!

Happy Easter to everyone and bring on the sun!

Update 16th March 2010

Thank you so very much for all the posty Anna-Mae has received this month. She absolutely loved the necklace that came all the way from USA. It was her favourite colour blue and she thought the horse looked like Gemma! Her friend at the stables was green with envy. Thank you also for the stickers and the letters. Kim, you always send the loveliest cards. We can never find anything like your lovely ones, and we’re glad you are OK now. Kate D, your handmade cards are lovely. Hope your sailing is going well. The weather has been so beautiful so hope you got out! I’m sorry I can’t name people by name, but all post received gets taken away and put in Anna’s lockable memory box.

Anna has been really well this month, except for a cold/throat bug that sent her home from school, and kept her in bed for 3 days. She made a full and quick recovery and went back to school with vigour.
She is toying with taking part in the Inter house cross country on the 29th. She has a hospital appointment, but asked me yesterday if I could get her back in time. She managed to do 1 full lap last year, but this year she wants to do the full 2 laps. She likes to challenge herself.

Talking about challenging herself, she has been selected to do the Jubilee Challenge at the Ten Tors challenge. Her twin brothers Charlie and Henry did the Ten Tors twice. It is the most amazing experience and you can look it up on the net – just type in www.tentors.org.uk. We are so proud of her. She just has the biggest spirit. Her school is very proud of her too. She is only the second special needs girl the school have ever put forward.

Thank you once again to everyone who has sent mail of any kind, it is all really appreciated.

Update 31st January 2010

Hello all. January has been an incredibly fast month. We have enjoyed some beautifully pretty white stuff (snow), having extra time off school and being able to go sledging was just fab, but I was relieved to see it go. Anna and Will were so disappointed every morning when it didn’t arrive as promised, then it arrived when it was least expected. It was enjoyed for about 4 days, but when the realization came that Anna couldn’t ride Gemma for safety reasons, she in particular saw the down side of snow!!!

Anna was only back at school for 2 days, when she had raging toothache. She begged the dentist to pull it, but the dentist can’t do anything without first speaking to Anna’s team in Bristol. Thank goodness that was the case, as she was told that a large tumour was wrapped around the root of the tooth, and having it pulled was an unknown territory. She was given strong antibiotics and the plan is she will have to go into Bristol where there is a full surgical team. Thankfully the tooth has settled down, giving some time for her consultant to get advice. Long may it last!

She was at home feeling pretty sorry for herself when the postman arrived with a fabulous large parcel – talk about heaven sent. WOW, it was filled the most amazing goodies. Thank you so much Kim and Kev. You so made her week!! The T-Shirt is worn, washed and ready for the next day along with the socks- if I’m lucky!!

She also had an appointment with her Neurologist last week. Her legs are becoming very tight again and the muscles weaker, leading to her feet dropping, putting her gait wide and her balance out. He decided she needed surgery again, lengthening her tendons in her legs and sorting her ankles out. He told her she would be in plaster for approx 7-8 weeks, and asked her if there were any times to avoid. She sat there quietly thinking, and assertively told him, she had plans. She told him she would be ‘free’ from September. He giggled and jotted it down. Bless her!!

Thank you to everyone who has sent Anna mail, it really is so wonderful to receive all mail. I’m sorry I can’t list names, but Anna is in bed, so I can’t ask. She loved the bracelet and a beautiful sparkly heart necklace, and sneaks them inside her school uniform. She has a pile of letters to reply to, where addresses were included, but she hasn’t been firing on all cylinders for the past few weeks. Be patient – the letters will arrive!

Update 28th November 2009

Hello everyone, thank you for all the letters and cards. I have had loads of mail this month, especially from America and Germany. To Kim … yes yours was the first Christmas card I received and I love the zebras! I haven’t written any yet. I just don’t seem to have enough time in a day. I need 36 hours not 24. Actually I have written 1 and mum posted it today.

I have had a great month with Gemma. We are really improving together with our jumping lessons. Mind you, I fell off today in the biggest deepest puddle. My teacher couldn’t help me as she was laughing so much. I was lying like a star with water up to my chin. It was a good job I had a change of clothes. It has lashed with rain everyday for the last 10 days, so I am sure you can imagine.

I have tried to persuade Mum and Dad to put the Christmas tree up tomorrow, but they both say next weekend is soon enough. I can’t wait. I am so excited about Christmas. I have given mum and dad my list. It’s very long, but it’s all for Gem except a DVD (My Sister’s Keeper) and Lush bath bombs. Mum thinks I should choose something for me, but I love her sooooooo much. I bought her a Christmas stocking today from Red Posts, with horse treats in it.

I am hoping to go hunting again on 23rd December. Mum says she’ll think about it, which usually means yes. I don’t ask Dad, as he is never keen to let me go.

We are having a quiet Christmas at home. It will only be me, Will, mum and dad.

School is brilliant. I love my school. I have had some fall outs with some of the girls, but that’s OK, as long as my special friends are ok, I don’t mind. I break up on the 11th December.

I am going now as the X factor is on and I am missing it too much. I love Lloyd. He is very yummy.

Have a great Christmas everyone.

Update 31st October 2009

Anna has had a great month. She lives her life to its fullest and enjoys every moment. She asked if she could have a spell in plaster as she was feeling very tight and her mobility was compromised. She was pleased with the results and says she feels a good benefit.

Anna went to Bristol this week to see her consultant about new teeth. She shocked everyone in the room when she announced she has decided to forego any dentures or bridges or any cosmetic reconstruction. Her consultant asked why she had made this choice and Anna replied “because I want to be just me”. My daughter amazes me and I respect her courage and tenacity! She also complained to her consultant that she had to miss hunting on Gemma to come to Bristol, with some disgust. He assured her he would work around her for future appointments should they clash with any horsey activity!
Grandad’s Chemo started on 21st of October and he is doing great. Not as we expected at all. He hasn’t lost any hair yet, sadly not from his eyebrows. He chuckles every time I mention them! He has been extra tired, but if that’s all he has to suffer he is so lucky. Mind you he is worrying that it’s not working properly! There’s no pleasing some hey?!

Thank you so very much for all the wonderful letters, cards, and pressie Anna received. Thank you for the great DS game Anna received (a horsey one) as she has relaxed every evening playing it. She had her handbag stolen out of our car a while ago and all of her DS games were in the bag. As the bag was left in the car, we weren’t covered on insurance! Typical. It was a silly mistake I made, but as the hand bag was used for toys and make-up etc (typical teenagers’ bag) I didn’t think about it being a risk. We live and learn.

I hope you all have had a great half term and a happy Halloween. Its bonfire night next week, so all stay safe, then its full steam ahead to Christmas! Where has this year gone?!

Update 1st October 2009

I must apologise for the missed update last month. We have been so very busy with one thing or another.

Anna had the result of her scan she had back in the summer, and she has now been diagnosed with Retinitis Pigmentosa. That was a bit of a blow, but hey ho, onwards and upwards!

Then she had a riding accident and the horse’s neck came up and bashed her in the face. She had a small fracture and lost her bridge. That devastated her more than anything. She was so worried about facing people with no teeth, but I must say everyone accepted it really well, not making anything of it. She was surprised that that there were no nasty remarks and it has actually done her confidence and self esteem the world of good.

She has a Bristol appointment on the 28th of this month and hopefully they will have a new set of teeth waiting for her!

Anna has had some lovely post this month. I do apologise for not mentioning everyone by name, but my memory isn’t what it used to be. Thank you all so much for giving your time, it really does mean so much to us all.

Kim, thank you and your fiance so much for the lovely letters and cards you send so religiously. Anna really enjoys reading your happy chatty mail. She loved the monkey that Kevin sent her from USA, along with the postcards. How wonderful to travel along route 66.

Update 3rd August 2009

Hello everyone. This will be just a short note this month as I am incredibly busy and incredibly tired with a Foster child at the moment, rewarding as it is.

Anna has had a great month spending all of her time with her beloved Gemma at the stables.

She had a special brain scan last weekend regarding her eyes. We are waiting for the results, but she remains very well.

Thank you for the mail and gifts she has received this month. She has made her phone look very sparkly with the phone decorating kit she received. Kim, the books you sent were brilliant. Anna has gone to the OTW camp this week. She took one of the books with her to read on the train journeys up and back. If there is anyone who would like to see the photo’s of last years camp, go to http://www.otw.org.uk/ and look at the photo album.

Anna went to Bryanston in August. The children all have such a wonderful time, as you can tell from the photos.

I hope everyone has a great month and lets all pray for some SUN!!

Update 30th June 2009

Anna-Mae has had another great month. She did have numerous hospital appointments which went well on the whole. There does seem to be a problem with her retina. She has developed white spots on her retina that indicates it’s dying. She has to go for further tests though as the consultant had not seen this problem before. She has to have her head wired up and they will do electrical impulse tests. They think it’s connected to the CMT, but it could be the cherubism as well.

Anna-Mae took Gemma to Dawlish show where she won 2 rosettes. Then on Saturday she went to Chudleigh show and won a 4th for best family pony. That was a very long day as she had to hack there with all the other girls from the stables, but luckily she was offered a lift home in a friends horse box. She went to bed at 5.30pm on Saturday and got up at 10.40am on Sunday morning! Bless her; she must have been really tired!

Yesterday she had a swimming gala. She swam in 5 races and won 4 of them. I was really pleased that her friend Tom won the breaststroke races. Tom has Down’s Syndrome and one hand. He was so proud and he swam brilliantly!

Thank you to everyone who takes the time to send post. It really is appreciated. Kim you send really lovely cards. The strawberry card has been left in the car. It smells delicious. Thank you also for the Lush gifts. Lush is Anna’s absolute favourite treat. We try to have a special bath on a Wednesday night when Andrew takes the boys to the cinema. Then we give each other a pedicure and paint our toe nails. This week we are planning to have a face mask, but they always seem to make me erupt in massive spots that resemble Mount Etna! We both treasure quality times together. I hope you got the photos of Anna and Gemma.

I am really sorry I have to go now as Will is pushing me off the computer, he is telling me it’s for homework, but I reckon its facebook and MSN really. Take care to everyone and have a good month.

Update 1st June 2009

I have had a really good half term. I spent all my time up at the stables with Gemma. I bathed her on Friday because it was very hot. She loved it. She smells all lovely and she is so soft. She had her birthday too and I spent all my savings on buying her things. Mum was really angry with me, but I had saved up all my money. Mum never stays mad for long though and she loves Gem too.

I went back to school today, but was picked up early because I had to have my plasters put on. Paul, my nurse, supports Pompey so he has given me plasters in Pompey’s colours. We give each other a hard time and are cheeky to each other, but I love him to bits. I would never tell him that though. I’m a bit fed up that I have to be plastered this week because it has been 29 degrees here for the last 4 days and my feet really hurt in hot weather. They will be off on Friday so I can go the stables and then back on again on Monday.

I have to go to the eye hospital on Thursday. Mum’s panicking again. I had an appointment at the opticians and they took millions of photos of the inside of my eyes. Aparently my retina is turning white, wich means my retina is dying, but my eyes still feel the same to me. I’m not worried. I will let you know what they say, but I’m sure there will be nothing to tell you.

I hope we can go into Exeter on Saturday morning to the Lush shop. All the best shops always seem to be in the cities.

All my exams went well, I think. I have to wait though for my results. We keep asking the teachers, but they all say they haven’t been marked yet.

I am in the school choir and we are singing on the 12th for the town that twins with us from Germany. I am looking forward to it. I love singing, it makes you feel really happy inside.

Sending my love to everyone and thank you for all my mail. Kim always sends me fantabulous cards and I love getting mail from her. Thanks also to Viks for the beautiful handmade card.

Update 4th May 2009

We got back from holiday at 6am this morning (we have been away on a cruise). We got on the ship in Egypt and sailed all the way up the Suez Canal and ended up in Ibitha. We stopped at Alexandria, Cairo, Naples, Sicily and Barcelona. It was so lovely. Mum was worried that we would be bored, but it was fab. I went to the children’s club 3 times everyday. I really loved it. We visited Herculaneum in Naples. It was very interesting and very sad too. The whole village was burnt alive when Vesuvius erupted. It took 3 days for the burning mud and lava to reach the villagers, but there was nowhere for them to escape to. They would have seen it coming. They must have been terrified. We were doing all about volcanoes and Pompeii at school just before we went on holiday. I would have liked to go to Pompeii but there would have been too much walking for me.

Mum fell over in Barcelona and has torn all her ligaments again. I feel really sorry for her. She has been crying for days. She has got to go back to hospital tomorrow. She thinks the surgeon will be cross as he only repaired her ligaments about 7 weeks ago. Her leg is massive and she can’t walk again. Will is also going to hospital tomorrow because he snapped his collar bone just before we went away. He has got to have a plate fixed so it will mend properly.

I am looking forward to going back to school tomorrow. Gemma is doing fine. I think she was pleased to see me today.

Thank you Kim for our lovely cards, they were really funny. Will was very pleased with his rugby one too. Thank you to everyone who has sent us mail. I really love getting post.

With all my love to you all, Anna xxxxxx

Update 31st March 2009

Gosh, the postman has been incredibly busy this month bringing wonderful letters, cards and presents for Anna-Mae and Will from all over the world! Anna-Mae even had a lovely long letter from Percy the Poodle! I would like to say hello and thank you to everyone, especially Kim, for the mail. Anna-Mae has been so busy with Gemma that she hasn’t found the time to sit and write back. She has had every intention to write, but sleep always wins at the end of each fun filled and action packed day! I feel like I am always saying don’t worry tomorrow we will write, but that same old story, tomorrow never comes. Please accept our apologies!

Anna-Mae has had a brilliant month and we haven’t had a single appointment! WOW, that never happens. It’s been wonderful. I had a hospital appointment yesterday regarding my knee and the recent surgery I had, and the staff were all coming over showing concern as they hadn’t seen Anna. It felt so good saying she was doing so well.

Here is a message from Anna-Mae;

Firstly I want to apologise to everyone for not replying to my letters. I really do appreciate getting mail. We have just come in from the stables and Dad is cooking tea so I thought I would write to you all on my page before I sit down to do my prep.

I am getting on really well with Gemma. She is so beautiful, but as she is getting fitter she is getting a little bit naughty. She has decided that she doesn’t like going out on a hack, but would much rather stay at the yard and munch on her hay net. She is so cute though that when she is in trouble she gives a sweet face and looks at me as if to say “What have I done?” and I know it is going to take a long time before our partnership is 100%.

Thank you for the brown bear that I received on Saturday. He is so cute. I have named him Harvey. He is on my bed with my other bears. Thank you Kim, I will have fun making the Easter Bunny. I did have a quick go but didn’t manage it. I will take my time. I love the duck rubber. We all like collecting rubbers in my class. There is a massive collection of different ones. I had a lovely letter today from Kimberleigh. Your writing is so neat. The paper was really cute too.

I have butterflies in my tummy tonight because we have interhouse cross country races tomorrow. My teacher said I didn’t have to do it, because I know I will struggle, but I have decided that I do want to try. Mum said it doesn’t matter if I jog and walk. It’s the getting over the finishing line that matters. Mum said I could use my kay walker, but the wheals will shake too much, so I don’t think that’s a good idea. My new wheelchair is also hard for me to push myself, so I am going to go on my own legs. I will let you all know how it goes.

Lots of love to all my friends xxxx

Update 8th March 2009

Gosh where does the time go! Another month has gone and everything has been very busy down here in Devon.

First of all Anna had her heart broken when Harvey horse went back to his owner, even though she knew she was only looking after him for the winter months.

Andrew and I also had the worry that my dad, Granddad Gordon, was unwell. I took him to lots of hospital appointments, and last week he had his diagnoses of Mantle Cell Lymphoma. Dad has been staying here with us as his confidence has been knocked, but his spirits are high.

We then decided that we were going to buy Anna her own horse, so we started looking. After a long telephone conversation with a great lady called Chris, we made arrangements to stop on our way back from a Bristol Hospital appointment to try a mare out. Needless to say, after a few long tryouts, we have ended up getting Anna a very beautiful mare called Gemma.

Thank you to everyone who has written to Will and Anna. I will take more time soon and write a better update, but all the children and their friends have just arrived home and need me to sort out their meal.

Update 1st February 2009

Anna-Mae has had the most wonderful couple of months. For her Christmas present we took on a loan pony, Harvey, from 4th November 08 until 4th February 09. She has taken her responsibility very seriously and has looked after Harvey impeccably! I’m sure Harvey has also enjoyed having Anna as a foster mum for the last few months. They have a very special relationship and they have explored all areas of Haldon Forest together.

Against my better judgment, they went on a hunt together, which turned out to be the ‘best experience ever!’ and they both looked very smartly turned out. Granddad and I went to the ‘meet’ and I was filled with both pride and fear! Pride, that my little girl was absolutely devoted to going and succeeding at this massive challenge and sat on top of her trusted steed with her head held extra high, but fear of the unknown things that I could envisage happening. When the master blew the horn and the 50+ hounds ran up the farm lane crying, barking and whining, the horses all excited and trying to keep up with the hounds, my eyes pricked with tears as I caught sight of the look on Anna’s face. Granddad and I raced back to the car to try and follow the hunt, but we spent the next 3 hours traveling all over Haldon without even a sniff of them. We decided after approx 3 hours to make our way back to the stables, with panic rising in my tummy. I wanted to put my foot down and race back to the yard, but if you know Devon’s lanes, you’ll know they are exactly 1 car wide with high hedges on either side and more curves and bends than you would imagine possible. So I had to drive sensibly. The only thing that we met though was the odd pheasant, flapping for his life to get out of the way and up and over the high hedges, and the odd horse making its way back to its respective yard. We did meet with some of Anna’s fellow riders from her yard and we were told she had turned back after 2 and a half hours as she felt she had had enough. That reassured me, but also worried me as I wanted to know why she had gone back.

When we drew into the yard, Anna appeared full of smiles and glowing with pride that she had accomplished what she had wanted to. She was buzzing on adrenalin, and splattered with mud. She had decided to turn around as she felt successful, but knew she was getting very tired and knew a fall wasn’t far away if she didn’t stop then. I was immensely proud of her, for being sensible enough to listen to her body and for succeeding in something I wasn’t keen for her to do.

I must thank everyone that sent parcels for Anna and William at Christmas time. They were all very much appreciated. I’m not sure if Anna has managed to write and thank everyone (where addresses were provided) but I think she has. Time is quite difficult to find since having Harvey, but I do know she hasn’t written to Kim yet. That is my fault! Anna wanted me to pick up a get well soon present, following your accident, but I am not mobile myself at the moment and haven’t managed to get into town. I am having my operation on the 10th February, so I am sure I will be getting around soon after. Fingers and toes and anything else crossed that can be!

Right I am going to have to go now, as I have to collect Anna from the stables. I am expecting tears and a broken heart, as she has to say goodbye to Harvey tonight. Oh dear, another one of life’s horrible lessons!

Update 28th November 2008

Anna-Mae has had another fab month. Her 6 weeks in plaster seems to have done her wonders. That is the longest consecutive spell spent in plaster, but the results are worth it.

She has been riding 4 times a week and continues to improve all the time. Her loan pony ‘Harvey’ is so sweet. He is like a gentle giant. He has even started coming to meet her in the field, instead of making her wade through the mud. I’m sure he knows her struggles!

We went last night to school to watch Anna in the drama production, ‘My Fair Lady’. It was wonderful. All the children put their hearts and souls into making it breathtakingly brilliant. I was very proud, as i’m sure all the mums and dads were! Tory came along to support Anna and made her a lovely card and brought a box of chocolates. Anna felt very special. She had also received a lovely card in the morning from Kim that said drama queen on it. It arrived so perfectly. Thank you Kim. Thank you to Kim, Julie B and Viks. The cards are all lovely. The London Bus card will be placed into a photo frame for Anna’s bedroom. It was very special and really amazing and clever! Thank you to everyone and love to you all.

Update 1st November 2008

Firstly, I would like to say a massive ‘THANK YOU’ to Kim, Julie, Jenn, Viks and Post Pals, for my mail and presents. I love the Halloween cat; it’s sitting on my bed. It’s called Pepper. I love getting chatty letters. I’m glad Kim that your jumping lessons are coming on well. I have a jumping lesson every other week. I love it. Sometimes the horse just walks over the jumps and sometimes he gallops at the jump.

I am so excited as for my Christmas present this year I am loaning a horse called Harvey for 6 weeks, while his owner goes on Holiday to Australia. He is so gorgeous. He is a 14.2 bay gelding with the most amazing long mane and very long pretty eyelashes. I will ask dad to try and send a photo of us together to go onto my page.

Now onto some even more amazing news.

Viks nominated me for a Well Child award, child of bravery. I couldn’t believe it when I learnt I had WON! I didn’t know I had been nominated until Mum said Well Child had telephoned with the news.
The film crew came to school to film me with my friends. It was really good fun. I was in plaster though. I had them on for 5 weeks this time because my legs were really tight. I had them off though on the Friday before the Monday, thank goodness!

We all went up to London on Monday morning at 7am on the train. Grandad came with us too. Charlie had to go on a course for work, so Aunty Viv took his place. She drank far too much Champagne!
I said hello to a lovely lady just after we arrived at the ceremony, and it turned out to be VIKS! It was so good to meet you Viks. I felt so special walking down the pink carpet. Everyone had their party clothes on. There were so many celebrities there. I didn’t really know very many of them, but Aunty Viv knew everyone. I think she was even more excited than me.

As soon as we had been offered a drink, I was whisked off for a photo shoot, for best magazine. I felt really important, like a real celebrity.

Soon after that Henry, Viks and I went to meet Prince Harry. He is so lovely. I couldn’t stop smiling. I thought he was very handsome. He gave me kiss and a cuddle.

When we went into the awards room we all sat on posh tables. I sat next to Iain Wait from Strictly Come Dancing. He was so funny and we talked lots. I told him my Nan thinks he’s LUSH!

I was embarrassed when my video came on. I went onto the stage and was given my award from an Olympic swimmer and Michael Underwood, they were both really lovely. After I sat down at our table Michael Underwood came over and gave me another kiss and cuddle.

After the ceremony we all had to go out for some more photos. I had mine taken with Nick from Nickelodeon. I was given lots of presents. Next had sponsored the winners and gave us all the biggest goody bag. Thank you to Next for all my presents. I love them all, especially the watch and the angora socks. They are so soft.

Update 15th October 2008

Anna has had another fab month. She was so pleased to be back at school. She loves it. She has signed up for the drama production late in November of My Fair Lady. She has a few minor parts by all accounts, but she is also singing a solo and dancing. Oh the excitement! I keep telling her when she is belting out ‘All I want is a room somewhere’ that she has the voice of an angel! I normally get smacked at that point!

She has had 5 weeks in plaster, to help her mobility. She has such a lovely relationship with the nurse, Paul, who plasters her legs. He is brilliant with her. She loves him. He is rude to her and she’s as rude back. They both try and out do each other. He is bossed about unbelievably. She tells him what colour she wants and Paul just does it. Usually she wants ballet ribbons in a contrasting colour and Paul willingly does it. She is really excited as both Anna and Will are going to another ‘Over the Wall’ camp this weekend. She can’t wait. She wants to talk about camp all the time, reminiscing about her time at camp in the summer.

Update 9th September 2008

Gosh, what a busy summer we have had! The time flew by and we were getting ready to go back to school before we knew it.

Anna went away on her long awaited riding holiday, but it didn’t go as expected and she ran up a £150.00 phone bill pleading with us to go and collect her and bring her home. Her school friend had gone as well though and it wouldn’t have been fair on Beth if we had, so we bargained with her to collect her 1 day early.

She had been so excited about the “Over The Wall” camp, but after the riding experience, she was quietly very worried about going away from home again and so soon. I tried to encourage her to help me pack her suitcase, but she really didn’t want to. We were still packing half an hour before we left. She sat silently in the car on the way up to Blandford. When we arrived we were greeted by a lovely looking clown and so many smiling faces, I think Anna was surprised, pleasantly surprised. We all went in together and were shown to her dorm where she met her 2 fellow room mates, Sophie and Rhiannon. Andrew and I thought it was probably best if we made a swift exit as I felt like we were prolonging her agony.

I worried all week about whether she had settled and wondered if she was happy and enjoying her time away (no mobiles allowed, but that is such a good idea). Andrew and I were up early on the Friday to drive and collect Anna by 10 am. I was quite apprehensive about seeing her and wondered what kind of reception she would give us as we didn’t know if she had been really unhappy all week, BUT – we arrived to song and dance out on the lawns. More than that though, Anna was trying to hide in the middle of her new friends, shouting she didn’t know Anna-Mae. She had such a ball! She got so much out of her holiday, she said it was the best holiday she’d ever had – even better than Egypt! She didn’t stop telling us all about her holiday on the journey home (she is working on a long letter to tell everyone all about it, so I won’t tell you anything and her letter, which should be ready soon, will tell you all about it). We arrived home at approx 1pm and she said she needed to go to her room for a sleep for an hour, but she didn’t surface until the following morning. She was shattered!

She has planned her life out for the next umpteen years though. She wants to apply to go back to camp every year until she is 18 and then she wants to go to camp as a volunteer! I think that says a lot.

Anna-Mae, Granddad and I, were also invited along to St. Matthews Sunday School by a lovely lady called Judith, to collect a cheque that the Sunday School children had raised doing a sponsored Fun Run for Post Pals! How amazing is it that these children thought about us and raised so much money! It was such a lovely afternoon despite the rain. We all had such a warm welcome from everybody, and we enjoyed a warm cup of coffee. The local press came and took a photo to go into the Herald Express. We were away on holiday when the story was printed but I had a lovely surprise on our return – Judith had sent me the photo that was taken and the newspaper cutting.

We also went away this weekend to Northern Ireland for my nephews wedding. My goodness me, the Irish certainly know how to party! The wedding was on Friday and we left the party on Sunday to fly home. Anna looked stunning. She went with her Aunty Myra to have her nails, make up and hair done. She was almost up to us, when Andrew said “Oh my goodness is that Anna-Mae?’. He was quiet emotional at just how beautiful she was. Anna’s letter will be posted soon, but because of school, it may take a little while.

I hope you are all OK and thank you for the post this month, especially to Julie and Jenn. Both Anna and Will enjoyed doing the word searches and the facts about the giraffe’s scarf are incredible!

Update 31st July 2008

Everything for Anna-Mae is going really well. She had a great end of term, and was actually quite sad to have so long off school. She has gained so much in confidence and self esteem over her last twelve months at school.

We went up to Bristol again a couple of weeks ago to see Anna-Mae’s specialist. He had to very gently remove her bridge to do some work and we all sat silent, holding our breath, as this was a very delicate procedure. Anna-Mae asked if she could look at herself in the mirror. Mr C. asked her if she was sure she wanted to see and Anna said yes. She stared long and hard, but said nothing. When we got back into the car, she said it was quite nice to see her real self, but was so glad she could have everything put back. Bless her! I was very proud of her acceptance of herself. We managed to find a hair salon that sold Afro Caribbean hair products. Her curls are beautifully tamed now too.

She went away on her riding holiday and was a little shocked – to say the least – of other peoples perception of her. Although she had a mixed week, I think she learnt an awful lot.

On Sunday she is going to an “Over the Wall” camp at Blanford Forum. She can’t wait. It sounds wonderful. I am hoping more than anything that she comes home bubbling about it.

Anna-Mae would like to type a few words herself:

I want to say thank you to every one who has sent me post, especially to Julie for the wrist band and Haley for her hand made cards. Thank you to everyone else too, I love getting mail. I get more mail than Mum and Dad.

I can’t wait to go to the over the wall camps because I am going to be with everyone who knows what it is like to have a disability. I am going to take my camera with me, so I can take some photos. I will send them to Viks so she can put them on the web site. I took my camera on the riding holiday but we weren’t allowed to take any photos. I don’t know why?

I have got to go now, as me and mummy are going for a bath. Then she is going to paint my toenails and I will do hers.

Night night,

Anna-Mae xxxxxxxxxxxx

Update 5th June 2008

Oh my goodness me, where is the year disappearing? It’s nearly Christmas again!

Anna-Mae is growing up so fast. I can see and hear such a big difference in her. She is such a lovely young lady. She has been asking me quite difficult questions over the last week or so, about her future. I’m not sure where they are coming from, but she seems happy with my answers, which are as honest as possible.

She has had a lovely month again. Her riding is coming along lovely. She had a jumping lesson, which apparently went very well. I left the stables with my heart in my throat. She wanted me to watch, but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. I understand her hunger for achieving and acceptance, but I felt that I would hold her back by being there. My fears for her safety were too strong to allow me to be there. BUT, I do have a lovely photo of her jumping on Maddy. I take my hat off to her riding teacher, and Mary the owner of the stables, who are allowing her a say and empowering Anna to ‘have a go’. That’s what life is all about. I will go and watch her soon, but I’m frightened she will start to show off in front of me, or loose her concentration.

She has saved really hard over the last year to go away on a riding holiday on her own. We visited it last month to have a look before we decided (it’s a big step, allowing your precious and vulnerable child to step out into the world independently). She reached her goal last week, so we phoned and booked her in and paid her deposit. She is so excited about it. It sounds so lovely. There will be six girls sharing a dormitory. They will live and eat as part of the family in a beautiful thatched farm house. The girls all have to help to do small chores, such as collecting the eggs in form the chickens, and help with the other farm animals. It sort of felt quite old fashioned. I would have loved it when I was her age.  Both Will and Anna have gone back to school this week after being on holiday. What weather we had. It was lovely for the ducks, but it never stopped raining! We still managed to have a good and busy time though.

Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to e mail, or send post to both Anna and Will. They both love getting mail. Will was sent an egg that hatched a monster. Well if any of you could have seen how precious the egg was, it would have made you smile. We have decided he will become a very good dad one day! He changed the water daily and watched all the time to see his baby being born! Oh, the excitement when the lizard finally appeared. Thank you Kate and Maria for all Will’s mail.  Thank you to Kate for the lovely horsy postcard, Anna Mae really loved it. Thank you also to Jenn, your handmade cards are super, and also to Julie. I hope you enjoyed all your trips away. Anna had the funniest card from the Post Pal team; we were all in stitches with it. It was a cat with a hat and scarf on, but with googly boggly eyes. Thank you Hayley, Cara and Julie for the lovely long letters and thank you and hello to Jennifer for the e mails. Thank you to Emma, Berenice and Callum for the letter and lovely horsy sticker book, Anna-Mae was thrilled.

Thank you, thank you, thank you, to everyone who takes the time to give not just to my children, but all of the children on the Post Pals website, some of your precious time. I know I am speaking from every single heart of all the parents, grandparents and carers of all the wonderful children on the Post Pals site.

Update 6th May 2008

Anna-Mae has had another good month. She had a hospital appointment at Bristol where she saw a consultant she hasn’t seen for a while and all went well. It was a very positive meeting and she is looking forward to seeing him again in July. He is going to see what he can do cosmetically for Anna-Mae’s false teeth, as a couple of them have discoloured quite badly (turned black) and she is very aware of them.

She is going through a series of serial casting to both legs, at her own request, as she can’t get her heals down when riding the horses. She had to have a break last week as she had a crop of blisters on both legs/feet, but she will be back in plaster this week. It’s better to get it down before the summer arrives.

We have contacted Over the Wall about a place at summer camp for Anna and she is keeping everything crossed in the hope she gets a place. She has also been saving really hard to go away on a weeks live in riding holiday and she is almost at her goal, so she is putting pressure on us on a daily basis to book her in.

She has had some lovely post this month including a postcard from Julie in Perrenpoth – we hope you had a great time! We had some beautiful hand made cards from Karen, Chloe, Tina and others (she has taken all her post into school, so i’m sorry but i’m writing from memory!) and a fab riding book from Kim. The book has been read over and over, so thank you very much. Thank you to everyone else that i’ve missed, your mail is much appreciated.

Update 3rd April 2008

Anna-Mae has had another great month. The sun is shinning and all is well on the western front. She has been on school holidays for the last two weeks and has another two to go. She has been having riding lessons and is coming on so very well. I’m absolutely convinced that the riding is helping strengthen her core muscles. She hasn’t used her wheelchair once this holiday, although when we went to Castle Drogo for the Easter Egg hunt, she scrounged a lift back in the golf buggy. She said her legs were really tired, but we think she just fancied a ride in the unusual mode of transport, plus there was a hail storm and it was bitterly cold! We had to walk! Ugh!

Her cousin Lou finishes school today for her holiday and Anna is looking forward to spending time with her. They are both going for a riding lesson this eve at 7.30! Then on Sunday Anna has a sponsored swim for cancer research with a few members from her swimming squad.

On Monday we have to go up to Bristol to see a specialist that Anna hasn’t seen for some years. She adores him and is so looking forward to seeing him, although it’s an apprehensive time for Andrew and I. At least we may get some serious retail therapy time!

Thank you to everyone who has written to Anna. She really enjoys reading her mail. Thanks to Kate Dee, the Easter Bunny card was so sweet. Jenn’s card was very jazzy with the stars all over it. Pauline would have had a reply yesterday, but after Anna wrote her letter, we realized there was no address to post it to! Also to dear Elizabeth and Jack, thank you for your card. Julie Barrett sent Anna-Mae some lovely lip gloss. She loves sitting in the car applying it in the vanity mirror… very grown up!

I would like to say a special thank you to Erin F’s Grandparents. They have sent cards and messages to Charlie, Henry and William. Their words were very kind and I know Charlie and Henry especially appreciated the sentiments. It’s always nice to be acknowledged and appreciated!

Update 13th March 2008

Anna has had a lovely month. Her health is very good, and the hospital visits have been almost none, which makes such a difference to her spirit.

She continues to settle really well into school life. She has had a very large life changing episode over the last month, but it is of a personal nature, that could not be printed! She has coped extremely well with the massive hormone surge… but I haven’t!

Her riding is still the centre of life itself at the moment. Every moment of every day is filled with those girly thoughts of owning a pony. I keep telling her when my boat comes in! She had had a couple of private riding lessons and I was really impressed with her determination. She did struggle with getting her pony to move any faster than plod and this is when you can see how weak her legs are, so the next lesson she is riding the most beautiful pony called Little Blue, who jogs everywhere!

We have contacted Over the Wall project and are awaiting a form to apply for a place. She is really excited about the possibility of going and especially the fact that I can’t go with her! Bless her.
We flew over to N. Ireland on Saturday to have dinner with my brother and it was lovely. Anna loved telling everyone about the trip and the fact that she visited 3 different countries in 24 hours (Northern, Southern Ireland & UK) then we flew home on Sunday.

Anna had valentine’s cards by the bucket load last month! I was sooooo jealous! Anna has also had a couple of lovely letters this month. She loves getting letters. We really appreciate the post that arrives. Thank you to everyone who takes time out to think of our kids. The difference you all make is unimaginable.

Update 31st January 2008

We were all struck down with that awful tonsillitis bug last week, and we were getting worried that Anna-Mae’s scheduled surgery would be cancelled. Amazingly, she made a miraculous recovery (I feel sure the angels had a hand this) and Anna had her operation last Tuesday and she coped with it amazingly. All went very well. She enjoyed having girly duvet days afterwards. The only downside is that she can’t go swimming until after all the stitches have gone.

She has now found a best friend at school, thank goodness! This has been a very long time coming. She comes home everyday and tells me all the girly gossip. There are times I have to sit for hours listening. Bless her. She is so excited about it all. Today she arrived home to tell me she asked a boy out! Can you imagine the knots my tummy went into? I was very relieved when she told me he was thinking about it. It could have been a straight forward NO WAY! I wasn’t prepared for that phase of her life… not for years to come. I think that just proves her confidence is growing.

I think these delicate years, for any parent of special children are the most worrying. We want them to develop in all aspects of their precious lives, but are really frightened by the actions and reactions of their peer groups. Our children are ‘normal’, but just have ‘broken wings’. We want with all our hearts to protect them from any sort of hurt, emotional or physical, but we also realize we have to let them make risky moves, to enable them to grow.

Anna-Mae is now also into horses. She is having riding lessons and loves every minute of it. She was accepted at a local pony club, amazingly! They are brilliant with her and she is treated just like one of the girls. She arrives at the stables at 10 am and stays for 3 hours. They have to groom their ponies, tack up and hack or have a lesson. She has to muck out the stable and fill the hay net. It would be so easy for someone to take over and do her chores for her, but NO! She has to do it all. Sometimes the girls work in pairs, and if it’s her turn to carry the water bucket across the yard then so be it. She usually comes home with one very wet leg, but her self worth and sense of accomplishment is amazing. I love seeing her so happy and growing in every sense of the word.

Anna- Mae had a Christmas card on Tuesday from Nicole. I think it must have been lost in the post. Anna-Mae thought she was very early!

Update 6th January 2008

We are living away from home at the moment as Andrew had to have major surgery on 19th December. He is unable to get home for the time being and we think it may be a couple of months before he does.

Even though we had an unsettled time, we as a family had a wonderful Christmas, and everyone was thoroughly spoiled. The elves were exceptionally busy this year! Many heartfelt thanks to them all, especially the naughty elf, that sent the very naughty chocolate fountain!! A huge (in every way) hit with all 6 of us!!

Wishing you, the Post Pals team and everyone who takes 5 minutes to write to our very special children, a very warm, healthy and prosperous 2008.

Update 2nd October 2007

Anna-Mae did exceptionally well at the swimming presentation evening. She won 7 large trophies, 7 small trophies and 3 gold medals. She looked beautiful and we all thoroughly enjoyed the evening.

Anna’s mobility has deteriorated again and she is due to go into serial plasters next monday. The hospital suggested half term, but she hated the thought of it interfering with her holidays. At least she is pleased about it being in term time! School is going brilliantly. She absolutely loves it. The lady the school took on as her 1 2 1 had to leave again, which gutted Anna, but they have found a very nice lady to replace her.

We are going to York at half term, to visit the Jorvic Centre. We are all looking forward to that. It should be very interesting.

Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to send mail to Anna and Will. All mail is so gratefully received. There is a letter waiting for her today all the way from Orland Park, Il, USA.

PS. A very big and special thank you to the post pals team, for the beautiful box of chocolates. It was really appreciated.

Update 1st September 2007

Anna Mae remains totally into her swimming and continues to do really well. We have a presentation evening on September 15th and she eagerly waits to see if she has won anything.

We had a swimming gala at the beginning of our recent holiday, where Anna Mae took part in every race she was eligible for, and won in every one. The last race was a 4 x 25m individual medley and Anna Mae beat her personal best. She put her heart and soul into it and ended up hyper ventilating! Last week she put her name down for the long distance swimming gala and has put her name down for five races – the only thing is that they are all 8 lengths of the pool each. I joked to her swimming coach that we may need oxygen this time!! I take my hat off to her determination.

Unfortunately, Anna-Mae has had to give up dancing, because her legs and balance have deteriorated and it made it very difficult for her both emotionally and physically as she felt she was failing. She is now heavily into horses/ponies though and loves everything about them. Nanny recently bought her two new books, Mystic and the Midnight Ride and Blaze and the Dark Rider, which I think are part of a series of books.

We have had a great holiday this year spending 2 weeks in Brittany, where the weather wasn’t brilliant but we had a few sunny days. All the children were begging us not to look round any more forts! Then we went to Sennen Cove in Cornwall where the children spent 3 days in the sea! From there we went to a Jazz festival where we camped for 2 nights and as per most music festivals, it teemed down with rain, but a great time was had by all. From there it was off to Scotland, where the Edinburgh Tattoo had us all totally mesmerised. This week, we have Harvey, Anna Mae’s 12 month old cousin. Anna insisted on having Harvey in her room and it made me giggle when at 2 o’clock this morning I found all four of my children trying to shush a screaming baby and not wake us up!

Anna Mae has had a difficult time this summer health wise as she has cut a tooth which is pushing its way through her nose. Her Doctor has said it’s best to leave it to come through a little bit further, if she can stand the pain which will make removing it easier. Otherwise it means digging down through the tumours and causing them trauma. We are waiting to see a specialist in Plymouth regarding her legs, but I think they are becoming painful as she is growing. We have taken delivery of her new wheelchair which is very grown up with racing wheels and a low back. She is now saving hard to buy herself a pair of wheelchair gloves as she keeps burning her hands on her wheels!

Anna Mae is going to her new school next Wednesday and it just can’t come quick enough for her, she is so excited. We are going into town shortly, to get her school stationery. I’d better warn the bank manager!!

Thanks this month to Kate D and to Julie Barrett who sent me the Pinkie gift set. Thank you to Nicole D, I will be writing back shortly. Thank you also to Emilia, I loved reading your letter and will write back soon. I’ve had lots of lovely gifts this month, I especially love the beautiful teddy bear that was waiting for me when I got back from holiday, his name is Tefur which means “T” for teddy!
Hope you are well, thank you for everything.

Update 2nd July 2007

Anna-Mae spent a week at her new school in preparation for September. She really enjoyed her time there and was very sad when Friday came. She has made some new friends and now can’t wait for September to come. She looked so grown up in her new uniform.

She is waiting for a consultant’s appointment to see about her legs. They seem much weaker and more painful than they have been in a long time. I hope we can get her sorted before we go on holiday to Brittany in 3 weeks time.

Anna-Mae continues to do well, although her dancing has come to an abrupt halt, as her legs aren’t quite working as well as they have been. She has spent a month in casts to lengthen her tendons, which has been quite successful, but she still remains stiff and sore.

She has joined the Rookies life saving course and continues to flourish in the swimming department. She has entered herself into six races for next Saturday, but because she is 11 now, she has to do 50 metres. I did try telling her, but like most 11 year olds, she knows best!

Thank you for her post. Anna loved the cat poem and thank you for the dancing cat card Viks (honorary cousin).

Update 12th May 2007

I (Anna Mae’s Mum) have received a parcel in the post this morning from the Post Pal Team, a fabulous pot of iced coconut sweets. How wonderful!! I never receive anything nice… only ever bills! I feel very special! I know the rush the kids get now when the posty arrives. Even the postman made a comment!

Please accept or give my heartfelt thanks to the mystery parcel sender. It has made my week… let alone my day!!

Update 29th April 2007

We have some brilliant news! We all went along to the Langstone cliff hotel in Dawlish last Friday night for the Teignbridge Sports personality of the year awards. Anna-Mae looked beautiful in her baby blue dress, sparkly white cardigan and both legs in plaster!! Everyone was totally bowled away when Mark Tyler from ITV announced in reverse order who had won! Anna-Mae! Andrew and I both cried. She was so proud and rightly so!

Thank you to Post Pals for the beautiful lights for Anna-Mae’s bedroom. We are in the process of decorating her room at the moment and she is patiently waiting for them to be put up. Well, patient in Anna-Mae’s world!!

Update 10th March 2007

Anna has had a couple of letters and cards from Julie Barrett and Alan, with some yummy little pressies that Anna Mae treasures. She also had a delicious lollipop lip gloss and card. Kate Dee frequently sends Will a card and note, which he loves receiving.

I do feel that we should remove Charlie and Henry from the list now as they are almost men. Nearly 18!! Scary!! Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to write to them and send them gifts. They have been spoilt rotten and we all really appreciate people’s kindness.

Anna Mae has been nominated for sports person of the year for her achievements in swimming. She also passed the exam to get into her first choice of school.

Update 12th February 2007

Anna-Mae remains very well and blossoming at the moment. I am so proud to be her Mum. She really is such an inspiration to us all, with her positive outlook and attitude towards life. LONG MAY IT LAST!

Anna-Mae has been incredibly busy over the last few weeks. She was asked along a few of her friends from ‘The Dance Mill’ to dance for the opening of the X Factor show, which she did last night. It was all very exciting and she had the treat of having a photo shoot with Phillip McGee, an X factor finalist and Chenai, as well as Eaton Road. We took Tory along to support her best friend Anna. Tory thought Anna was the best dancer on stage! Bless… we could all do with best friends like Tory!

Thank you to everyone who sends Anna-Mae mail. She loves getting letters and replying to them… providing there is a forwarding address and time allowing. She really does try her best. Special thanks to Viks, she really spoilt Anna-Mae and Will. Thank you also for the delicious pressie included for Andrew and me too!! Anna-Mae also had a very special parcel from Jackie in Sandhurst (two Tracey Beaker CD’s) and she listens to them every night at bedtime. I can hear her talking along to the cd’s now. Children really amaze me at just how retentive their memories are. How I wish I could have remembered Shakespeare or Keats like that!

Update 3rd January 2007

Thank you to everyone! Anna-Mae had lots of wonderful cards from people this Christmas; she even had cards from Dasher, Dancer, Prancer and Blitzen, Comit and Cupid and Donner and Vixen. Can you ever imagine the excitement? And Rudolph sent the most amazing card with a flashing nose! It must have been a magical card as his light is becoming very weak now Christmas is over.

A secret elf sent Anna-Mae the most wonderful gifts. Her most favorite present of all she received was a lifelike chimp that asks for cuddles. I think that she needed that, and has now got a new purpose in life… to cuddle her chimp and boss us all about, trying to teach me parenting skills! Apparently my way is totally wrong!!

Anna-Mae has taken to reading lots and lots of books in her bed. She is working her way through an Edith Blighton compendium at the moment, as well as Jiggy McCue! She is also growing up and her girlie ways are forming, such as make-up, bath bombs and face packs. She loves her toe nails to be painted etc.

We had quite a stormy year last year with one thing and another, the death of my mother, good friendships separating, etc. This all knocked Anna-Mae’s confidence and so her abilities, but she is a fighter and she is now fighting back. Anna-Mae has seemed a bit better in herself over the last week or so, as have we all. We all love and miss granny like mad, but we are talking about her daily and in fun. It’s good to see her old self back, and it’s good she has dealt with life’s knocks and moved forwards in the right direction. I feel sure 2007 is going to be a great year for us all. HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU ALL!!

Update 1st December 2006

We as a family have had a very bad time this Autumn with my mums “Grannies” cancer, and her death on the twin’s birthday. It has hit us all hard, and we are all reacting in different ways. Anna-Mae has had everything wrong with her and aches and pains daily. I think she is feeling sad and empty and that she is having difficulty putting her feelings into words.

On a brighter note, she has had her new teeth fitted and she has the most wonderful cheeky smile! She is so proud of her new look! Anna-Mae and Will have taken up making cards. Anna-Mae had the most wonderful selection of cards from the card Rakers forum, that she decided she wanted to have a go. It’s lovely that they have found something they can sit and do together on equal terms!

Have a wonderful Christmas!

Update 30th August 2006

Anna-Mae keeps getting regular post, postcards, small packets etc. Even the postman knows when the mail is from Post Pals! He was very interested to hear all about it and she feels so excited when he arrives! We all crowd around her to see her open her mail. Sometimes she rips open her mail, other times she peels it open slowly and when everyone’s excitement spills over she then decides to take the package to the privacy of her bedroom, leaving us all waiting. How terrible is that! William is especially driven mad, and can get quite bolshy! She knows how to play the boys up!!

Anna-Mae has had a great summer. The time has flown by. I can’t believe that the children are all back to school next week- I don’t feel ready. Her health has been very good and everything is very upbeat. It’s great when life chugs along like that.

Her specialist is attempting to make her a special set of teeth. They will not be removable this time. They have to cast them in 24 carat gold, so the metal is soft enough to move and bend with the growing tumours. She is so excited at the thought of them. Fingers crossed.

Sleepwalking has become an issue over the last couple of weeks. She frightens me half to death as she wanders around the house, and we do have the most confusing conversations! I have never dealt with sleepwalking so this is all a little weird to me.

Take care everyone and heartfelt thanks for all the joy and laughter the project brings into our house.

Update 8th May 2006

Anna-Mae has been awarded a place at the school we wanted her to go to as a day girl from September 07. We were totally amazed that the place was granted- just like that. We compiled a full and comprehensive document about Anna-Mae’s conditions and all of her consultants/ Dr’s and anyone she has contact with wrote letters confirming the problems that she will face. We were told that it was going to be a long hard battle, but, Education was so good and understanding, and they confirmed that she can go. Hooray!!!! Anna-Mae is so over the moon, as we all are. Any parent that faces the same dilemma please don’t worry too much, as it’s not as bad as you may think (like I did, many sleepless nights and tears. All wasted!!).

I would also like to thank you all for the lovely presents and cards that you have sent to Anna-Mae for her birthday. She had a beautiful bear all the way from Florida. He has been called Itsy and he is joining us on our holiday. Lucky bear!! We have let her open them as they have come in, as we are going to Egypt for her birthday. She has got an underwater camera, so maybe… just maybe, we might see Nemo.

Everyone, with the exception of me, are so excited. I hate flying! It’s not natural! My tummy has been in knots for days now. I am looking forward to relaxing by the pool with a good book though. We are going with Anna-Mae’s best friend in the whole wide world, Tory. I am a little worried about going so far with Anna-Mae – just in case. My husband must have got me to agree at a weak moment! I usually opt for camping in Cornwall. I feel safe there, just in case we need a hospital!! BUT, Anna-Mae has been really, really well over the last few months.

Update 12th February 2006

Just to let you all know that things are all good here in Devon with us. We had such a magical Christmas and New Year. Thank you to everyone who sent fantastic letters, cards and presents. The elves were especially busy! She also had daily cards from the reindeers, telling her what was going on. You should have all been here to share in the excitement! I loved it too! She also had some cards from a school in Japan. The cards and writing was beautiful.

Anna-Mae had a period where she was really under the weather. I think the cold weather had a hard hitting effect on her mobility, which really knocked her confidence. She has also been through a period where she seemed to be bearing the brunt of others, unkind words etc.

Andrew, Karen (honorary special auntie) and I have been overwhelmed collecting information, writing letters and compiling reports for Anna-Mae’s school review, which was today. I have been dreading it, but it was in fact a very positive meeting. Not what I expected! We are trying to get her into a small independent day school (350 pupils) as opposed to our local comprehensive (1800 pupils). Mainly our reasons are for the safety and gentile ways, as well there being a nurse on site to help her with her continence needs. I will let you all know in due course. Fingers and toes crossed please!

In general news she has been moved up in her swimming class, and she is thrilled to say the least. We are also going to see her dance in a big show at the end of March and beginning of April. It’s all done very professionally!

Update 8th February 2006

I made an early trip into town today to go and get some valentines cards. Anna-Mae is worrying that she won’t get any this year again, but on our return from school, there was a beautiful card waiting for her from a lady called Elizabeth. Anna-Mae was so touched; it now has pride of place on the windowsill, facing out for all to see!

Update 17th September 2005

That is such a lovely idea, the peppers. Anna-Mae was really pleased with it. We have printed it off and she has just gone into town with Charlie to buy a frame. It is going to take pride of place above her bed.

Whilst I am writing a few lines, I would just like to take a moment to say a really huge and heartfelt “THANKS” to everyone who has written to her, and to Charlie and Henry. We are all really touched by human kindness.

On the whole Anna-Mae has a really good summer. We are all so proud of her strength, courage and determination. Although she is a little feisty at times! She recently won 4 bronze medals for swimming in her first gala, as well a very large trophy, with the inscription ” the Sunshine Trophy for the most determined swimmer”. All of our hearts swelled with pride, I can tell you. She has a remarkable outlook on life and all the obstacles that it throws at her.

She had a blue period a few weeks ago, after retuning to school. She had chosen to stay with the teacher she had last year, as she adores this teacher, and the teacher has done so much for Anna-Mae’s self esteem and confidence, as well as the classroom being adapted to accommodate equipment etc, but she hadn’t really thought about all of her class moving on. I think this dramatic change hit her full face on, but she is settling down well now. She announced at tea time through the week that she has thought about the situation and has decided that class times are for learning and playtimes are for seeing her friends. I do wonder where she gets this mature way of thinking from at times!

She did receive a parcel, through Post Pals, from ‘online angels’. It really was the most amazing gift ever. A patchwork quilt that had been hand made. Truly beautiful and so precious. She made me promise it would never go into the washing machine! (Says a lot for my laundry skills) But sadly we can’t find them on the internet to say Thank you. So… she believes that real angels have made and sent her the gifts, as if they were real people, we would be able to find them.  Anyhow, I must sign off for now, and carry on with the boring chores that Saturdays bring. Thank you ‘ALL’ once again.

Update 30th July 2005

Thank you for the e mails, Anna-Mae can’t believe peoples kindness. We have just returned from a short break to Butlins, and there were 11 messages waiting for her. She really is so excited about Post Pals.

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